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My boyfriend and I have pretty much been together for a year and 3 months and I recently started college in August. We've been trying to adjust but it's hard. When I'm home, we get along very well, but when I'm here were arguing or being upset. I'd hate the thought of us breaking up, but where are we headed? I want to be with him, but it's hard and he's kind of clingy. I don't feel like I can do what normal college people do? Ae we going to make it?

college changes everything; as you're learning, this emotional drama will ruin the college experience you are paying for, and need to grow; it's difficult, but for now, you really need to let this relationship go, as it will only continue to create distress and eventually die a slow death; at this point in your life, you need to interact with many others you're with, without having to be distracted by issues with him; and if you follow my advice and let this go, don't try and be "friends" until BOTH of you have let go of all romantic feelings and are completely "neutral", otherwise nothing except the label on this arrangement will change..

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