Long Distance Relationships/Long Distance
Hi my name is Aidan and I need some advice for my long distance relationship. So me and my girlfriend were together most of last year, mainly during the summer. We decided to break up because we were going to different colleges. Once the flow started going I was constantly thinking about her every day, and regretted not trying to continue the relationship because I knew it could have worked out. So over Christmas break I told her how I felt about the situation and we decided to talk. I told her that I really wanted to get back together with her because I still liked her and she liked me, and that I would much rather do it now that later when we don't have that likeability for each other. Her only reasons as to why she thought it was a bad idea was that she kept on thinking about the future and what that holds as well as breaking up again if we do because the first time she took it really hard. I don't know what I should do because as much as I want to give up on it, something is telling me to keep pursuing it. I don't know what to tell her to try and sway her back to trying and being together again.
best not to "sway" her thinking; she has been better able to get into her present life than you have; long distance thru 4 years of college is almost impossible; "convincing" her of how to feel never works; she would need to come to the conclusion of becoming a couple on her own; the best thing for you to do is stay in contact, but get more involved in the college life, and those you meet there; hopefully you can get to where SHE is, then it will be an equality of feelings; ironically this approach may be your best chance of one day winding up with her, as she may realize that after being with others, she misses and wants YOU, but even if that doesn't happen, you will at least have lowered your expectations and saved yourself from emotional disaster...the cypress and the oak grow not in each other's shadow...