Long Distance Relationships/Am I not demanding enough?


LOVE! wrote at 2013-06-05 23:55:09
6 months ins't the longest time.

From my relationship experience, relationships seem to either make it or break it at 3 months, 6 months, 1 year, and 2 years. And I haven't been lucky enough to have anything over 1.5 but I am in my longest one at the moment!

I am in a make it or break it stage at the moment. All I can say is that you seem quite secure and independent... what your man seems to need from his schedule. However, see how things go and stick to your guns (family always has a say in your life, they just want what's best for you..). If you are still unsatisfied with the situation maybe 3 months from now... reassess! I am reassessing at the moment. You can't have a "daily" relationship. Meaning that you will decide to want to break up with him if he didn't please you that day, or weekend. But if he keeps putting you off for your work, then he will probably do that 5 years down the line too. People don't change. He will make the effort if he wants to. If you bring it up in a non angry way and he's defensive... RED FLAG.  GOod luck!!  

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