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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Long Distance Relationship | 1/16/2012 |
| Q: So my best friend and I started a relationship in October of last year. He is now my boyfriend, a ... A: I was in your shoes just a few years ago. Frank and I were both in school and couldn't be together ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 6/9/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 7 months now, I'm from Australia and he's from Canada. ... A: Although you've been together for over 2 years, you're both also young - so you're both going to be ... | |
| will long distance relationship affect out love | 6/5/2011 |
| Q: . this is jenna! i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have been ... A: Long distance relationships can and do work but they aren't for everyone and they aren't easy. You ... | |
| help! | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for over 2 years. he is now currently attending a ... A: It is totally normal! Considering he's at a military academy, which is very stressful, I think it ... | |
| Lots a baggage | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: I am 22 years old and about to graduate college. I have been dating a guy for about 2 months now. It ... A: That is a lot of baggage, and it takes a very understanding person, who is your age, to be in a ... | |
| Help please. LDR close to ending. | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: I met a guy online last July, we talked basically non stop for about nine months; we would stay up ... A: Visits are crucial in a long distance relationship. If a couple has the ability to visit each other ... | |
| LDR about to move to her, she cheated | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: so, the DAY before she's supposed to fly here and accompany me on our drive of all my stuff from NC ... A: I admire the way you are handling this. A lot of people would not be able to forgive their partner ... | |
| Confused | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been going out for just over a year we met through a friend online an ... A: I think your reasons for not wanting to get engaged right now are valid. You want to wait to give ... | |
| lovebirds at different colleges, now a fight about the past | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: My long time boyfriend and I have recently been engaged and we are currently attending different ... A: I don't think you should wait to apologize. Do that as soon as possible, and if he won't talk to ... | |
| ill parent | 2/6/2010 |
| Q: I've been in a long distance relationship for the past 3 years. Everything is actually going very ... A: I think if you want to be there for him, you should be there. Because no matter what he says, he ... | |
| Torn | 2/4/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We met in college, both 24 now. In September, he ... A: You don't have to wait for things to "blow up" (which I assume is cheating) to make a decision. I ... | |
| How to tell Parents? | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: well I met my gf online and we have been dating for 4 months now. At first we talked on the phone ... A: Well first, if you have siblings tell them first and see what their reaction is. They will more ... | |
| How to tell Parents? | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: well I met my gf online and we have been dating for 4 months now. At first we talked on the phone ... A: I think your parents will react a lot better than they did 4 years ago when you were only 13. They ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: I went to Australia to get over a six year relationship (which ended two years ago now) and ended up ... A: Hey, hey now... don't beat yourself up over this. It was a mistake, and you don't even remember it ... | |
| Long distance relationship. | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: my situation is a little complicated. I am a contractor and i work overseas. About 6 months ago i ... A: Well really, the most you can do is wait for her. I realize how tough this is and you were hoping ... | |
| distance dilemma | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm a sophomore in college, 20 years old. At the beginning of my freshman year, I met a boy who I ... A: Who says it is too late? He's still single right? From the sounds of it, you two pretty much ... | |
| long-distance relationship | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: my boyfriend and have been together for a year , but we were friends first for 2 years ,i ... A: I'd listen to your gut instinct on this one. Maybe you're getting that vibe for a reason. Every ... | |
| college and i dont no | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: ok.. so im a senoir this year and i live in colorado ... my boyfriend lives in Illinois... i really ... A: I would go with your gut feeling on this. If you "know" he isn't the right guy for you, and you ... | |
| long distance relationship | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: i'm currently doing my second and final year for my diploma in college and im leaving in a few ... A: It depends on what you think will hurt more: 1. Ending things now and always wondering what could ... | |
| long distance relationship | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: i'm currently doing my second and final year for my diploma in college and im leaving in a few ... A: I think you should give a long distance relationship a shot. I believe it may actually be good for ... | |
| I am going crazy | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I have been in an LDR for the last six months. I met my boyfriend on the internet, took us 3 weeks ... A: Well it sounds like you both are getting lots of time to communication. And that is great. But ... | |
| What to do? | 8/8/2009 |
| Q: Ok. So I should start with some background information. My boyfriend and I have been together for ... A: If I were you, I would back off or else you are going to push him away. The way things are now, he ... | |
| boyfriend moved away and i dont now if he cheating | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: ok it started about a month ago he moved we talked every and then he stopped calling and i think he ... A: The only way to find out if he is cheating is to ask him. Tell him that you're afraid that he is ... | |
| Long distance relationship...need help :\ | 7/23/2009 |
| Q: Good evening, In February 2008 I made a trip to mexico with my family and hooked up with some ... A: It doesn't sound like she is at the maturity level she needs to be at to maintain a strong, ... | |
| didn't see it coming | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I had been going out for seven months. We were on LDR for summer break from ... A: You're right, whenever someone calls for a "break" it usually means "break-up." He doesn't sound ... | |
| Online chat | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old man and I am falling in love with a girl which I met in the internet. The ... A: Nas, So you have two options, you can either tell her now or wait till she gets back. Either way ... | |
| she dont love mr anymore what i do | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: 1st i want to tell you that this question i ask 2,3 experts but i get only one time answer and i am ... A: I will try to look on the bright side... If you have been in a loving relationship for 2 years, and ... | |
| Big questions with little detail. | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: I was thinking either I could write a novella or just boil it down to the basics and I am going to ... A: Here are my thoughts on your situation. I was also wondering, though I am sure you have reason ... | |
| Stuck on what to do. | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: So here it is. I met this girl a few months back and we started chatting. It was online but I guess ... A: Eric, First of all, don't let her ex girlfriend get between the two of you. Don't let her hurt ... | |
| Long Distance Hurts | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: Before I get to my question, I think I'd have to expand a bit on the history of my relationship. ... A: Noemie, Now I understand how hard this must be for you. But don't give up! He's not going to be ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship, is she cheating on me? | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: Long Distance Relationship, is she cheating on me? A: Well you didn't give many details. How about being a member on our site and asking our other ... | |
| LDR with med school bf. | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: My bf and i have been together for more than year. We've been in a LDR for a yr now. The distance ... A: I don't know about you, but I usually always have my instant messenger logged on, even if I'm not ... | |
| Long Distance Love | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: I am 14 and am in a long distance relationship. It is so hard because I miss him all the time but I ... A: Well it depends on the reasons why you think sometimes it is not worth it. But if you really want ... | |
| Dealing with a breakup | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: I was in a long-distance relationship with a girl for about three years, but there were some ... A: You have a really tough situation and it seems that you are open to getting back with her since you ... | |
| long distance | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a long distance r/s with my bf since oct 2007. I live in US and he lives in UK, and ... A: Your gut sounds right. There is definitely a reason he is acting the way he is all of a sudden. ... | |
| heyy.. | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: do you think if i sent him msg tomorrow to call me it would be like im going after him? ANSWER: I ... A: If you have the control to limit your phone calls to once per day, then I don't think bothering him ... | |
| heyy.. | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: do you think if i sent him msg tomorrow to call me it would be like im going after him? ANSWER: I ... A: I have talked to people that might talk once a week or once every couple weeks. Not once per month. ... | |
| hello.. | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: i just wanna know if my emailsss bother youuu..:) ANSWER: Allexperts allows me to limit my number ... A: Yeah, your friends are wrong and that would be very immature to do. I guess just try to distract ... | |
| hello.. | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: i just wanna know if my emailsss bother youuu..:) A: Allexperts allows me to limit my number of questions per day, so I set how many I get. So no they ... | |
| heyyy.. | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: i cant wait untill he calls..i miss him so much..i really wanna improve this relationship..i really ... A: Be patient, and wait for him to call you. I think if you just relax you'll be okay. I know that ... | |
| heyyy.. | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: i cant wait untill he calls..i miss him so much..i really wanna improve this relationship..i really ... A: Well, I guess you could email him, or send him a message on facebook and ask him to give you a call. ... | |
| Long Distance Break | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1 year and 6 months. Just recently she decided she needed a ... A: I don't know. It doesn't seem to make sense. There is a reason this has come up all of a sudden. ... | |
| hey,,welcome back | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: i didnt send him the msg to apologize..we kept ignoring each other untill monday he talked to me on ... A: No more ignoring him. No more cold shoulder. No more abruptly ending a conversation on facebook. ... | |
| hey,,welcome back | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: i didnt send him the msg to apologize..we kept ignoring each other untill monday he talked to me on ... A: If you had done what I suggested I don't think this would have happened in the first place. You ... | |
| also.. | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: im afraid if i apologized he will get used to this and he will feel that im the wrong one not ... A: You know, I think that if he didn't care about you he wouldn't be in a relationship. He wouldn't ... | |
| also.. | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: im afraid if i apologized he will get used to this and he will feel that im the wrong one not ... A: When you apologize, please don't think about an ulterior motive. Your only motive is to move on ... | |
| something happened.. | 2/7/2009 |
| Q: "i wrote this nickname: No Man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT ... A: Okay, I've pretty much been in this situation before. Where I felt that I wasn't cared about and I ... | |
| something happened.. | 2/7/2009 |
| Q: "i wrote this nickname: No Man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT ... A: You said it's a nickname, but I'm going to guess you meant quote. Anyway, to me this doesn't sound ... | |
| well.... | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: i cant postpone the wedding..i cant hold more and more long distance betweeen us..it is so much ... A: I think you should do it. Tell him you want him to call 2 times a week. If he cares, he'll do it, ... | |
| how can i be sure if my fiance cares about me or likes me or not? | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: we knew each other for a short period of time(10 days) and then we got engaged with the engagement ... A: I think things have moved really fast in your relationship. Is it possible to push the date of the ... | |
| how can i be sure if my fiance cares about me or likes me or not? | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: we knew each other for a short period of time(10 days) and then we got engaged with the engagement ... A: If he absolutely does not care about how you feel, then I don't know how you can possibly save this ... | |
| how can i be sure if my fiance cares about me or likes me or not? | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: we knew each other for a short period of time(10 days) and then we got engaged with the engagement ... A: Well, I personally don't think you had enough time to get to know one another before you became ... | |
| Making Up with her | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: Well . I have been in a LDR for almost a year now and we used to see each other before this time , ... A: I honestly would have been upset if Frank did the same thing to me as you did to her. I don't think ... | |
| Long distance relationship | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a LDR for the past 6 months with a girl in another country and it had gotten very ... A: Okay this is my very honest, very personal opinion. I love Frank with all my heart... and despite ... | |
| Question on long distance relationship | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: I just recently signed up to an asian onling dating site because I am very much attracted to asian ... A: Personally I would wait for her to give it to you herself, instead of asking. You don't want to ... | |
| Dating | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: Okay... Ive been dating this guy for almost 2 months now. We're not an item but we're dating. We ... A: Trust is very important in any relationship, but especially long distance relationships. If you are ... | |
| I don't know if I am being crazy.... | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: So last night my boyfriend said he was going to the movies by himself at 8:45 pm. Something didn't ... A: When you say he went to the movies at 8:45, was that when the movie started? Or was that when he ... | |
| What does this really mean? | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: Okay listen, you can't tell me that you love him and want to be with him the rest of your life and ... | |
| passions fading.. | 1/17/2009 |
| Q: there this guy named jake, hes 15 and lives only a couple of towns away from me. hes my best friends ... A: I think you need to break up with him and do it officially by telling him. It would be wrong to ... | |
| Break Up troubles | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: Well i have been in a Long Distance relationship with a girl for a year and 4 months now . and i ... A: I think it is time to move on. It's been two months since the break up. Your persistence and ... | |
| I don't understand | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with a particular man for a little over a year. Our relationship was a ... A: This is a very difficult situation. Since you can't speak to him on the phone and won't reply to ... | |
| Boyfriend is going away to college.... | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: Alright so I am nineteen years old and my boyfriend is as well. We've known each other for almost 10 ... A: I think you need to decide what you feel will be best for you in the long run. Take a piece of ... | |
| He Wants to Move | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: I’ve been seeing this guy for almost two months and things could not be more perfect. The other ... A: Your relationship is relatively new, so it is understandable that you'd be worried about what this ... | |
| is he thinking about marriage? | 12/26/2008 |
| Q: i have been going out with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. we both are in college but ... A: No, I don't think he's joking around. It sounds like there is some truth behind what he is saying. ... | |
| Help Please.... | 12/25/2008 |
| Q: I really need someones input on this or maybe i think it will just make me feel better to talk about ... A: I understand how much her past may hurt you and how threatened you may feel by her past sex life. ... | |
| long distance dating | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: im 13 and so is my guy. he live in texas and i live in california. nvr seen each other. we met in ... A: Lisa, Hi, I'm not as young as you so I have not been in your shoes. However there are other teens ... | |
| q | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: I came to the United States when I was 17 years old with my family from overseas. Now I am 31. ... A: You seem to have this all thought out. But just one thing. I'm a nursing student, and I can tell ... | |
| Study abroad dilemma | 8/13/2008 |
| Q: I find myself in a fairly difficult and complicated situation, and I was hoping to get some advice ... A: I noticed your question in the question pool. I actually have answered a similar question. Here is ... | |
| Ldr .... | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: hey , me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year now (18 august is our year ... A: Compromise is very important in relationships. Your girlfriend seems to be very stubborn and I ... | |
| long distance cheating | 8/6/2008 |
| Q: ok so heres the deal we use to live together for a couple of years one year apart recently he ... A: could you submit your question to our website? ... | |
| Long Distance Relationships- How to deal with them? | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I met online and we have been doing the long distant thing for about 9 months now. ... A: If you want Frank's advice too, he only answers questions submitted to the website because it's too ... | |
| LDRelationship w partner & cancer | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: I've been in a long distance relationship with my partner since September 2006. I met my girlfriend ... A: What a tough situation. I will spend some time thinking about it so I can give you the best advice ... | |
| Is there a chance for us? | 7/21/2008 |
| Q: i was with my ex for two years before he left to work on an overseas contract. The lead up to his ... A: Could you submit it here as well? http://www.lovingfromadistance.com/longdistanceadvice.htm ... | |
| My ldr boyfriend | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: I live in md and my boyfriend lives in new york. He says he loves me and he would cheat on me ... A: Could you give me more details about your question? What are the reasons you believe he might be ... | |
| Best friend's ex | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: Well my best friend broke up with her boyfriend like, a month or two ago, but they are like, still ... A: For starters, it's really not wise to be with someone who is "still in love" with your best friend, ... | |
| Best friend's ex | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: Well my best friend broke up with her boyfriend like, a month or two ago, but they are like, still ... A: Frank only answers questions if they are submitted to the website (www.lovingfromadistance.com). I ... | |
| do i move my girlfrnd here to live together? | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: Should i move in w/ my gfrend after 4 yrs of dating and 2 years long distance. i have doubts. ... A: I think it's normal for long distance couples to get anxious about making the move to finally be ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: Me: 10/01/1984 Female Brown Hair/brown eyes/Caucasian Him: 01/21/85 Male Brown Hair/gray ... A: Could you please go to www.lovingfromadistance.com and click "Have Questions?" and copy & paste your ... | |
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Michelle and Frank have been in a long distance relationship since 2006. For additional resources and advice on long distance relationships visit their website:
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Michelle and Frank started their long distance relationship in 2006. After 5+ years they will close the distance in July 2011. Their relationship has not been easy and has been one roller coaster of a journey. Together, they have experienced a lot and with their experience, they offer their advice to you.
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