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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Long distance relationship | 12/31/2011 |
| Q: I am currently in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for one year ... A: a few years?...you're willing to go through this that long?..the only way to get relief is to not ... | |
| Distance Killing Us | 12/6/2011 |
| Q: Hey, I'm currently involved in a relationship that has been ongoing for 2 years and 2 months. We ... A: distance, especially during college years, destroys many relationships..usually 1 person is trying ... | |
| Fallen into Routine | 12/5/2011 |
| Q: Before I ask for advice, I feel that I should give you a short background, so that you would have a ... A: this sounds more like a bad habit than a good relationship; your values, interests, ambitions, ... | |
| Relationship Anxiety | 11/4/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. I’m 18 and he’s 22. I’m not really sure what my ... A: hard to have a healthy relationship seeing someone 4 times a year--it's really more a fantasy; real ... | |
| relationship problems | 10/12/2011 |
| Q: my boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, and have been together for 4 years. About 7 months ago he ... A: in most relationships, one person is the weaker/needier--unfortunately, in this case it's you; the ... | |
| Emotional affair, mostly long distance | 9/7/2011 |
| Q: For the past couple of years I've been cultivating a mostly online relationship with a woman from ... A: "work" can have alot of definitions..considering your limitations and goals, this IS working about ... | |
| long distance relationship with a soldier | 8/30/2011 |
| Q: I have been communicating with a soldier named Ray for some time now, we are very much in love, but ... A: you've become addicted to a fantasy...healthy relationships aren't conducted on a computer, they ... | |
| Long distance Relationships | 8/22/2011 |
| Q: ..he is just perfect, romantic, special, and so sweet every thing he does is amazing and I love him ... A: unless you/he have a concrete plan to be together within 6 months, you are not only wasting your ... | |
| Waiting in LDR | 8/20/2011 |
| Q: I lived in another country for 3 years. I met my boyfriend a year before I returned to the United ... A: unless there is a concrete plan to be together within a few months, this will only get worse; tere's ... | |
| cool off period | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: im in a long distance relationship for almost 2 yrs.. i may say we were doing okay and trying to ... A: he's out living a REAL life, while you're sitting there wasting yours in fantasyland; healthy ... | |
| long distance realtionship concerns | 7/28/2011 |
| Q: So I recently started dating a friend of mine that I went of high school with. In High school I had ... A: tough situation..my suggestion would be to continue seeing her while you can, but leave open the ... | |
| LDR, Never Met, Someone New | 7/12/2011 |
| Q: I met this great guy online 2 years ago, but we live in different states. Both 23 y/o, and we ... A: what you currently have been wasting precious time on is more a fantasy than a relationship; all you ... | |
| LONG distance relationship | 7/11/2011 |
| Q: I recently moved to Japan for a 1 year job. The months leading up to the job, my girl and I fell ... A: you're not just "anyone"..you sound afraid of her--her she is showing you ZERO care/consideration, ... | |
| Not sure what to do... | 6/16/2011 |
| Q: I just came back from a group vacation to the Caribbean island of Jamaica! We were there for 10 days ... A: trying to make a fun ten days into some big thing at 4000 miles, is foolish; not to mention, you've ... | |
| will long distance relationship affect our love | 6/7/2011 |
| Q: . this is jenna! i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have been ... A: separation can be very difficult..no one can predict the future, but it will help if you both ... | |
| LDR time to move on? | 5/18/2011 |
| Q: I met my boyfriend over a year ago and we live 200 miles apart. Neither of us wanted a relationship ... A: he's basically told you it's this or nothing, and the future offers no means of improvement; i'd at ... | |
| long distance crazyness | 5/12/2011 |
| Q: i'm madly in love with this woman, she stays 370 miles from me but tries to come and stay with me on ... A: the needier person always has the harder time of it... i wouldn't get too bogged down with the ... | |
| Possible break up? | 5/4/2011 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for well over a year now and we live approximately 5 hours ... A: with her attitude, and no solution for the distance issue, i'm afraid you're chasing a dream...time ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 4/25/2011 |
| Q: my name is Kira and I've been in a long distance relationship (LDR). I've tried to find people with ... A: but you're still trying to compare someone you haven't even met with people you see; if you think ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 4/23/2011 |
| Q: my name is Kira and I've been in a long distance relationship (LDR). I've tried to find people with ... A: but keep in mind, this is someone you haven't even met; people can be alot different in person, and ... | |
| long distance abroad | 4/18/2011 |
| Q: I have been in a long distance relationship with my high school boyfriend for 2 years now since I ... A: anything is fair that 2 people agree on, but i don't believe in living in a committed relationship ... | |
| Contemplating a break: Am in a long distance, I want to settle down but she doesn't | 4/8/2011 |
| Q: I met the love of my life while studying abroad almost two years ago. It was truly love at first ... A: this is a tough one--you can't really urge her to see it your way, else you run the risk of her ... | |
| Confused in a long distance relationship | 3/30/2011 |
| Q: I am 25 years old and I am in a long distance relationship. He is in the United States and I am in ... A: unfortunately for you, you are the needier, more involved one; not good; stop initiating contact, ... | |
| Long distance.. and if a break is permanent or temporary | 3/27/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me over a text message about 5 days ago. We have been on other ... A: if you have any self-esteem, you don't wait around while he lives his life; essentially, you've been ... | |
| Long Distance Emotions | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: so me&my boyfriend met through an online game many years ago But we had just gotten together and ... A: wake up call--healthy relatonships need REAL TIME TOGETHER, seeing each other, doing things; you ... | |
| first boyfriend- long distance? | 3/16/2011 |
| Q: I'm Alicia I am 16 years old, a sophomore, live in the San Fransisco Bay Area and I've never had a ... A: hey there alicia...you sound pretty mature for 16..pursuing a relationship? depends what that means; ... | |
| Long distance, freshmen in college | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: and thank you for taking my question! This fall, I will be a freshmen in college. Which means, ... A: college changes everything, and the relationship will be severely tested, with the odds of it ... | |
| Crossroads in a relationship | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years now. The entire time he's been a member of the ... A: i think your request is more than fair--you're asking for a certain level of commitment that the ... | |
| long distance | 3/4/2011 |
| Q: My relationship with my boyfriend had been a quite complicated one. We have been friends from school ... A: wake up call---you're hanging on to a dream, and essentially wasting precious time, while he's out ... | |
| Not being open enough in a relationship | 3/3/2011 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we share a lot of trust and emotional ... A: it's ok to ASK for what you want, but you're still at her mercy as to her ability/interest/desire to ... | |
| Not being open enough in a relationship | 3/3/2011 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we share a lot of trust and emotional ... A: not sure what politely persuade means..you can tell her that the more feelings shared, the greater ... | |
| Not being open enough in a relationship | 3/3/2011 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we share a lot of trust and emotional ... A: there aren't any specific rules on such matters, it's what you both agree on; she's telling you what ... | |
| Long Distance College Relationship | 2/25/2011 |
| Q: I am currently a freshman in college. I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend ... A: listen to your family...in the long run, it's riskier to attempt to stay with 1 person all the way ... | |
| Long distance fidelity | 2/8/2011 |
| Q: My relationship with my boyfriend is quite complicated. My boyfriend and I met about 4 and half ... A: you're not in love, you're in "addiction"..you've already wasted 3 years of your life in a ... | |
| HElP to get HIm BACK | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: my bf of 3 yrs (on and off) broke up with me 3 weeks ago. We only started a LDR 7 months ago when he ... A: guys lie all the time..he can't handle the "obligation"?..nonsense..that means he doesn't want the ... | |
| distance and cheating | 1/22/2011 |
| Q: I met my boyfriend near the end of college and decided to enter a relationship even though he still ... A: you're in the unfortunate position of being the needier of the two; he's out living his life, ... | |
| Long Distance Love | 12/30/2010 |
| Q: I first met her online about a year ago, and we got on well, and I liked her, but she was young, ... A: not sure what your question is, but there's no magic answer; you appear to be on the right track, in ... | |
| Should i give him more time? | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: I met my bf online 4 years ago and we click off nicely. He is a good man, never make me sad or ... A: so, 4 years have gone by, you've hardly seen him, and you waste 4-6 hours daily on this, while ... | |
| Love found online from a distance, how to tell my parents! | 12/20/2010 |
| Q: So here's the story... My boyfriend (20 years old) and I (19, going on 20) met through an app we ... A: this is nothing more than a fantasy--unless you can see each other regularly, do things together, ... | |
| long distance relationship & possible commitment issues?? | 12/13/2010 |
| Q: .i am newly divorced (no kids) and have begun a long distance relationship w/someone I actually knew ... A: ok, ignore my other response--i see you broke it down into 2 questions; since it's only been 3 ... | |
| Girlfriend spends every night with her ex husband | 12/9/2010 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with a great girl for a couple of years now. Our relationship started ... A: her behavior is ridiculous, inconsiderate and unacceptable; the ex shouldn't be spending time there ... | |
| Unresolved Issues | 11/30/2010 |
| Q: I'm going to try to be as concise and informative as possible. My boyfriend and I are in our mid ... A: i'm not sure what his real issue is=-=-7 months isn't very long, especially if you're seeing each ... | |
| College Freshman | 11/22/2010 |
| Q: My roommate (we are freshman in college) is dating a guy from Alabama we are from Nebraska. She met ... A: i agree that such insecurities lead to co-dependent arrangements as this, and aren't very healthy; ... | |
| Distance | 11/15/2010 |
| Q: Recently myself and my significant other went out off to college as freshman. We are freshman and ... A: your original info was a tad misleading--if she's calling/saying those things, there's not alot to ... | |
| Long distance with my first love | 10/14/2010 |
| Q: this inst a thing i have ever done before so i hope i can try to get my questions across as clearly ... A: my sympathies...i know it seems like the end of the world right now, but it isn't; ironically, your ... | |
| Rough Patch | 10/12/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, 1 apart, 1 together. We started dating back ... A: let go a bit, don't force it..that is, accept the lapses in communication, don't always expect how ... | |
| Depression in Long Distance Relationship | 10/9/2010 |
| Q: I am 24 years old. I met him on a social networking site 2.5 years ago. he is in another country at ... A: you're wasting your time her in an addictive, unhealthy relationship that makes you more happy than ... | |
| He wants a break | 10/6/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a LDR for a bit more then 6 months now. Last week I got upset with my boyfriend ... A: problem 1--you're the more needy/dependent of the 2--not where you want to be...problem 2..problem 1 ... | |
| is it possible? | 10/3/2010 |
| Q: My bf and i have been very long distance for 3 years. We both just finished school and offered ... A: alot of precious time being lost if 4 months/year is the only time you actually DO things together; ... | |
| What do I do with these feelings? | 9/27/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a long distance relationship with my bf for 2 years. Recently, he went home to see ... A: hopefully you're learning that these long distance deals aren't worth it--you're right, no excuse ... | |
| im 18 and shes 16 almost 17 | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: all right, I've been wondering to myself what i should do, and i think i need some third party ... A: the military choice at least gives you a chance at a decent life; she's only in high school, so you ... | |
| Missing my girlfriend. | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend went to college two days ago. She's turning 18 and I'm 16. Her college is 10 hours ... A: no magic answer--you really have to kinda "let go", or you'll drive yourself crazy; refocus on the ... | |
| boyfriend stay together? | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i are both seniors in highschool. we started dating in january and really truly ... A: you 2 seem to go together...good looking guy, and you are gorgeous...ok, so anything can happen in a ... | |
| Long Distance Break Up | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend and I were together for three months. The relationship was great and we got on ... A: appears you have a pretty good mindset on the whole thing; obviously, anything can happen here--she ... | |
| Jealousy in a long-distance relationship | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, he lives in Europe and I am here in Australia. ... A: unfortunately, your concerns are justified---no one would be surprised if he has had, or having, a ... | |
| Long Distance vs. Local | 8/13/2010 |
| Q: I used to have a long distance boyfriend. He lives in New Jersey. I fell in love with him sooner or ... A: big mistake--you must break the addiction to the emotionally unstable guy who needs therapy ... | |
| Long distance boyfriend has a new female best friend | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and 2 years long distance. Our 5 year anniversary is this ... A: certainly possible...however no one can guarantee the relationship is strictly friends, but given ... | |
| University and long distant relationships | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: i don't really know where to start. I'm 18. In September i am going to a dance school to do a ... A: 2 hrs isn't all that bad; you have to make such decisions with on-third heart, 2/3 head; aside from ... | |
| Is there any hope still for us?? | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: I’ve decided to email you about my current relationship with my boyfriend. He's a 46 year old ... A: you're wasting precious time chasing a fantasy; you can't conduct a "real" relationship over a ... | |
| LDR | 6/23/2010 |
| Q: :) I hope you can help me, and thanks for taking the time out of your schedule to answer this. I'm ... A: at 16, you shouldn't be in ANY heavy relationship, ESPECIALLY a long distance deal where you ... | |
| Other guy... | 6/23/2010 |
| Q: So, a good year ago, I met this girl online. We immediately hit it off, and within a month or two we ... A: iknow it's hard, but resist the temptation to do desperate stuff; she could easily resent your ... | |
| How can potential "Happy ever after" grown with a long distance open relationship? | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: About 5 months ago my high school sweetheart and I re-connected on a romantic level. We have stayed ... A: go with the stated behavior, not the promises of future attractions; the guy has honestly told you ... | |
| Can we be together? | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: I had been with my partner for 6.5 years and the last 3 years of the relationship were tough times ... A: long distance for that long is tough..it becomes more an addictive fantasy/dependency than a real ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship Question | 6/13/2010 |
| Q: To start this off, I started dating a girl long distance at the beginning of the year. This girl was ... A: well, you can hurt now or hurt later, as this girl doesn't have the feelings for you that you do for ... | |
| Cheating in a Long Distance Relationship | 6/8/2010 |
| Q: My bf and I have been dating now for a year and a half, however we live two different places and I ... A: of course there's something goin on, but why would you be so surprised?..he's a guy, and with all ... | |
| Should this long distance relationship continue? | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for over about 9 months now. We lived together for the first 6. We ... A: seeing each other "every few months" isn't gonna cut it; unless you have a CONCRETE plan for being ... | |
| Confused | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: I am a 22 year old guy and I have recently started seeing the girl of my dreams, I have never fet ... A: you're too eager, trying too hard---she could easily percieve you as needy, get turned off; stop ... | |
| confused | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: I need your advice. And thank you in advance. I am in a long distance relationship (5 hours ... A: if you've already discussed with him your feelings as mentioned in this letter, and that's his ... | |
| Help!! | 5/29/2010 |
| Q: me and my gf of 1.5 years have been living away from each other for the past 2-3 months and we used ... A: you "guess"?..so basically there's no plan in place that allows you to see each other regularly, ... | |
| keeping a long distance relationship | 5/28/2010 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy on and off for two years. We live in different states, so we don't get to ... A: this arrangemnent can hardly be defined as a relationship; with no sex, differing values, and barely ... | |
| WAKE UP CALL | 5/28/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend lives 3 hours away. Just left school, it's still a lot. I have been going out with him ... A: "busy" is a lame excuse--interested people MAKE time to call; but your last sentence says it all; ... | |
| i dont know what to say! | 5/27/2010 |
| Q: my name is Arron and i am 15 yrs old. I am in a interacial LDR with a 14 year old, named Rose. We ... A: you don't have alot of good choices--perhaps you could explain your dilemma to rose's mom, in the ... | |
| vacation | 5/24/2010 |
| Q: I am 22 years old, and I've been in a somewhat complicated situation with a guy for over a year and ... A: nothing ventured, nothing gained...they're just people, not mountain lions..plus, seeing how he acts ... | |
| Turning point | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: Hey Azure, I'm in a turning point in my life and in my relationship, and I'd love some advice. My ... A: i personally wouldn't wait another day, let alone YEARS...you've been with essentially 1 guy your ... | |
| LDR help! | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for almost 4 years now. We were at the point of talking about marriage and ... A: i'm not there, nor do i know him--your friends may be right; his statement as to his career/future ... | |
| confused about the feelings my fiance have for me | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: i n my fiance had been talking to each other since 7 years and most of the times, say 95% of the ... A: you're wasting precious time in a fantasy that is going nowhere; unless you can see, touch, observe, ... | |
| LDR help! | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for almost 4 years now. We were at the point of talking about marriage and ... A: when you pair naturally non-monogamous guys with pretty, available females, and all safely FAR away ... | |
| long distance relationships | 5/18/2010 |
| Q: OK SO MY GIRLFRIEND I HAVE BEEN WITH FOR OVER A YEAR AND 5 MONTHS AND ITS A LONG DISTANCE ... A: only SHE knows..could be either..hardly seeing each other, you have more a fantasy than a real ... | |
| long distance early into a relationship | 5/15/2010 |
| Q: For the past 2 years I nannied a little girl who I absolutely adored. She lived with her ... A: no guarantees, so no way to know if he's sincere until you're able to regularly date and you can ... | |
| Please read this | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: So i am currently in a relationship that has been going for over 4 months. I am in the Marines and I ... A: both TOO YOUNG, you've hardly seen each other, and soon you'll be far away; no wonder there's ... | |
| Which way do i go with this , or do i call it a day | 5/1/2010 |
| Q: First of all i would like to apologize for the long story here Okay its like this, i have been in a ... A: there's not alot to do--she's asked for time/space, so u need to respect the request, at least for a ... | |
| Doubts | 4/22/2010 |
| Q: I have a long distance relationship of over 2 years. I have heard, from my man, all about his past ... A: just because he might go back doesn't mean he doesn't love you; we could choose to worry about ALL ... | |
| now what? | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: I've been in a situation with the same guy for a long time. I am a sophomore in college and he ... A: sounds like you've HAD a relationship for awhile--not sure about the exclusive part; you're right, ... | |
| I don't want it to be over... | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: I'd like to thank you for reading and helping me with my relationship issues. My boyfriend and I ... A: people that are interested in continuing a relationship don't move to get out of it; whatever ... | |
| long distance relationship and moving | 4/1/2010 |
| Q: I've been with my long distant boyfriend for nearly 3 years. I'm currently in college and he's ... A: neither--i don't believe people this young should be in a rush to live together, ESPECIALLY giving ... | |
| my boyfriend is travelling for two years | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: Okay so..my boyfriend of four years is travelling for 2 years to finish his education. I understand ... A: there's no way at 21 and roaming around europe, that he's gonna remain exclusive; it's something you ... | |
| HELP !! | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: First of all, let me say that normally i am so independent and i was never the one to fall ... A: this is what you'd be signing up for; he's essentially told you not to expect anything more; to put ... | |
| Mixed feelings | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: I've been in a ldr for over a year now. I haven't had any major problems with my relationship until ... A: neither of these guys may be the answer; 1st, i don't believe that healthy relationships are ... | |
| WAKE UP CALL | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: well i met this girl online about a year ago through an online multiplayer game. she comes from ... A: as i suspected---you've gotten yourself caught up in a fantasy; the girl's mom did the right ... | |
| A traveling boyfriend | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating Nick for almost a year. Our relationship moved very rapidly and Nick moved in ... A: most of it is what you "signed up" for.. he's a typical musician, and when on the road, the focus is ... | |
| Is He Interested When Far Away? | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: I'm hoping you could give me some input on a situation of mine that's not exactly a "Long Distance ... A: you have all the dots, now it's just a matter of connecting them; as you pretty much realize, you ... | |
| long distance break up - is it possible to get him back? | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have lived in the same city for the past 5 years and 3 out of those 5 we have ... A: that's too bad...when the needier party chases a dream, it can really drain self-esteem; your info ... | |
| long distance break up - is it possible to get him back? | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have lived in the same city for the past 5 years and 3 out of those 5 we have ... A: the indications are he's pretty much moved on, and so should you; usually when someone tries to hang ... | |
| I think my boyfriend only likes long distance | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a long distance relationship with my high school boyfriend for over 2 years now. We ... A: the more important question is why you're wasting precious time in an arrangement where you hardly ... | |
| Long distance confusion | 2/7/2010 |
| Q: I met my boyfriend at work 4 months ago I am 21 and he is 25 years old. We started dating 2 weeks ... A: sounds to me like this is essentially all over but the shouting; 4 months isn't very long, and ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 2/6/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I were in a very strong relationship. When we went on our first date, he was a ... A: ironically, the best thing to do is not be afraid to "let go"; you didn't say how often you see each ... | |
| Should I move to be with him? | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 5 and a half years but at the moment we live about 4 hours apart ... A: big city hustle/job opps, all have little to do with good decision-making; the main deal is making ... | |
| He is too busy for me | 1/29/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend came to my grad school as an exchange student a year ago and we started dating for fun ... A: with no real future plan, you're wasting precious time staying in this; with distance, not seeing ... | |
| Girlfriend wants a break | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: My name is Grant. I am 22 years old and I am in a long distance relationship with the woman of my ... A: at your ages, and with this distance/not seeing each other much, things like this are to be ... | |
| Travel to UK and SA | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: I often go to Uk and SA on business and stay for 2 or 3 days, and the durations is rather too short ... A: my ratings speak for themselves--as far as "barring" their most productive volunteer in the genre, ... | |
| Travel to UK and SA | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: I often go to Uk and SA on business and stay for 2 or 3 days, and the durations is rather too short ... A: what you call "outburst" is really a clarification of reality, and what you call immaturity is ... | |
| Travel to UK and SA | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: I often go to Uk and SA on business and stay for 2 or 3 days, and the durations is rather too short ... A: friendfinders.com, eharmony.com, chemistry.com, perfectmatch.com..a five for knowledge?..give me a ... | |
| Insecure in long distance relationship | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: My story starts when i was abroad studying for a year and i met this girl, we started dating and ... A: when in doubt, don't continue forward; obviously you have mixed feelings, and it wouldn't be fair to ... | |
| Having Doubt with my boyfriend | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: Actually, I've been asking a lot of people about my relationship with my bf a.k.a my lover, but I'm ... A: not sure this arrangement, based upon months apart hotel rendevous, meets the definition of ... | |
| is he insecure? | 1/15/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for over two years. i love him ... A: your choices--waste more time with this insensitive, self-centered jerk (including the giving up of ... | |
| Is this real or is it just fantasy | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I've recently re-connected with a man I knew in high school. We had a casual friendship, never ... A: all of the above are possible, and neither of us knows the future; sure,your feelings are "real", ... | |
| college | 1/9/2010 |
| Q: ... im a freshman and m boyffriend is a senior.. he goes to college next year obviously and we have ... A: next year is a long time away...no need to panic, or choose to hurt now to avoid possible hurt ... | |
| trust | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend now, hasve always had a long distance relationship well for the past year and 4 ... A: so i what exactly is the trust issue you have that isn't based on your own insecurity?..if he slept ... | |
| Whats going on? | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and i have been dating right under a year and a half now(I'm 18 she's 17). Back in ... A: guess you didn't hear a word i said--as to friends "working things out", depends on your ... | |
| Whats going on? | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and i have been dating right under a year and a half now(I'm 18 she's 17). Back in ... A: unfortunately, at your ages when someone goes off to college and you're not together much, feelings ... | |
| long distance relationship | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: I am in a long distance relationship with someone that can be emotionally withdrawn. I found out ... A: you're not unfair, just misguided; essentially you have little more than a fantasy, with a guy you ... | |
| WAKE UP | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: Am in a long distance relationship with a guy for 6months now,my worry is am i paranoid or what,am ... A: you're wasting your time on a fantasy; the REALITY is he's MILES away, you've no idea who he REALLY ... | |
| Found but gone | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: I am 19 years old. I finished school this year and as a result decided to travel around the world. ... A: good decisions are based on rational thought, not feelings; the facts are 1 month is a VERY small ... | |
| long distance because of college | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been dating officially for 3 months. we have been friends since the seventh ... A: some things to think about: 1) 3 months not a long time..obviously, especially considering his ... | |
| Long distance relationship coming to an end | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: I live so far away from my love because I'm studying in other city with an ocean separating us. As I ... A: but most of the time he's NOT by your side--if "love" was enough, you wouldn't be here asking the ... | |
| Hold on or let go? | 11/29/2009 |
| Q: I don't know whether to leave my boyfriend of six years. I'm very traditional, as is he, and would ... A: most guys will wait as long as you let them...what's the incentive to sign up for "commitment" when ... | |
| Feeling insecure | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been on and off with this guy for almost 4 years now. We are 23 and 22 years old. We met in ... A: talk isn't going to change anything--there's no words of assurance forthcoming because there's no ... | |
| Can it still work? | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: I am 18 years old, and will have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months in December. We got together ... A: i could be wrong, but it's better to be prepared for the worst; from what u told me, she's getting ... | |
| Can it still work? | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: I am 18 years old, and will have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months in December. We got together ... A: unfortunately, being away at school changes everything, especially feelings; as you inferred, people ... | |
| Very serious about a long distance relationship | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: I went to NY for the weekend and I had a wonderful time after that he came to Boston I have 2 kids ... A: i obviously can't say if it will work...i don't think you can "ask" about a serious relationship--it ... | |
| need advice | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: I was in a long distance relationship, and we were very much in love when we were together we had a ... A: i think you're foolish to even CONSIDER being wih him; have you forgotten?--he married/had a kid ... | |
| Am I wasting my time? | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: Me and my bf have been together for 1 1/2 years and we are both 23. I am currently in grad school ... A: arrangement, i.e.,the nature of the relationship; from what you said, he likes the built in freedom ... | |
| Who Should Move | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: I was hoping you might be kind enough to offer me input into my current situation. I am involved in ... A: sure, if you presented your case in front of a panel of pragmatists, they'd probably agree, but ... | |
| Who Should Move | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: I was hoping you might be kind enough to offer me input into my current situation. I am involved in ... A: no right, wrong or unfair here--you both have reasonable viewpoints, based upon your own personal ... | |
| How a womans Dads process of dying can affect a long distance relationship | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a loving long distance relationship of 450 miles with a great loving woman for a ... A: you need to elicit more from her as to how she stands as to you/the relationship; certainly given ... | |
| Too busy for a LDR | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: I live in New York for Grad school, and went back home to California for summer break. I met this ... A: you're in over your head--being the needier party isn't where you want to be; no one can predict ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with this guy for about 7months now. I live in New York he lives in ... A: unfortunately, this is 90 percent fantasy--all the texting in the world doesn't make up for seeing ... | |
| Trusting my gf in an LDR, should i be worried? | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I am a 19 year old college student in my second year at a community college. Over the summer I ... A: you need to know that being away at college changes EVERYTHING, and generally it's a good thing; she ... | |
| she wants space | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for coming up on 10 months now, but have been good friends ... A: "space" can mean different things, ranging from "i like someone else", to "my feelings have ... | |
| wake up call | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: So I have been in a relationship for 2 1/2 years now. Things were going great we traveled and moved ... A: ok, the objective view--you are in an unhealthy, addictive arrangement that's draining your emotions ... | |
| wake up call | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: So I have been with my boyfriend for quite sometime but things don't seem to improve throughout the ... A: stop wasting time, money, education, emotions, on a guy who obviously is sharing more than ... | |
| LONG distance, a planet away | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: I'm a Brazilian, that met a Korean woman in London, during some courses in the city. I'm 23 and ... A: at 23, you make your own decisions, and ask others who care about you to support them, even if they ... | |
| I have cheated on my wife | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: I writing today seeking out advice for not only the hurt that I have inflected on my wife by ... A: living in different parts of the world is no way to conduct a marriage; the cheating, etc is ... | |
| Help! | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: I am currently in a dilemma. There is this girl I really like, a lot, and she is away going to a ... A: michael, you've become the "first love" fanatic...you're right, college many times changes ... | |
| Son's LDR worrying me | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: How do handle my 16 year old son's LDR? Help! He went to summer camp for 3 weeks and came back in ... A: teen crushes are understandable, but until he's 18, and while he's still living with you, you make ... | |
| what can i do? | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: im going to try to make this as short as possible . i don't know if its fate or coincidence. I've ... A: considering you have zero dating experience with this guy, all talk of future is WAY premature; you ... | |
| girlfriend went away to college | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: so my girlfriend has just recently went off to college at central michigan. In which i am currently ... A: happens all the time--college changes everything; all you can do is respect her decision, and resist ... | |
| What should i do? | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: I ‘m 27 years old,was divorced 2 years ago and have 2 sons , since that moment I hadn't been dating. ... A: sadly, you have allowed yourself to become utterly addicted to a fantasy, becoming emotionally ... | |
| maintaining rship | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: Once I had a long distance relationship with this guy A. I left the country for study, and then we ... A: c'mon, the guy is like a kid in the candy store--you're a thousand miles away...there's no way he's ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship! | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: I met a boy this summer a few weeks ago in Chicago where i stay for 8 weeks every summer because my ... A: ithink it's foolish to begin any relationship with someone far away you can't see regularly; you ... | |
| Getting used to | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: I've never been in a long distance relationship before, but I have been dating my current boyfriend ... A: 2015??...that's 6 years of your life...well, since you wrote for an objective view, here it is; the ... | |
| Torn | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: I seem to be torn right now and need some guidance on what to do. I met this girl during the middle ... A: she's shaky, confused, you haven't even really dated, and she's leaving for college, a new life, and ... | |
| just met a new girl | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: I recently went to Vegas for a week. There I was working for an old professor of mine. He runs ... A: i think you should come to your senses--for anyone to consider giving up a job, moving to live with ... | |
| Relationship | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months now, and we have been in love for a few ... A: your distress is understandable; in deference to him, i'm assuming he was fortright/honest in ... | |
| Obsessing? | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months (He’s 20, I’m 18). We have really great physical ... A: addictive, dependent arrangements aren't healthy and have big problems; communicate less, refocus on ... | |
| Shifting from Highschoo Relationshipl to College Relationship | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for approximately 1 year. We are both Seniors in high school ... A: no expert can predict what will happen--college changes EVERYTHING, so what you both think/feel NOW ... | |
| LDR Troubles | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been in an LDR for about 8 months now. My boyfriend lives in Michigan and I'm in Colorado. We ... A: your insecurities are telling us that you have some issues to consider; first off, your "snooping" ... | |
| Transition from long distance relationship | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: In 4 months time my boyfriend is returning from a three year trip overseas. We've been friends for 6 ... A: it's mainly a matter of self-esteem, refocusing on your PERSONAL goals, staying PRESENT, and taking ... | |
| WAKE UP CALL | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I do have a long distance relationship, so we rely on talking on the phone a lot. ... A: no wonder he's falling asleep--6-7 hours a day??...life isn't supposed to be lived on a phone--why ... | |
| all sizzle no steak | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: I met a man on a dating website about 3 months ago, and he lives about 1.5 hours from me. We started ... A: as you said, where there's a will there's a way--the guy, for whatever reason, isn't that ... | |
| I'm so confused. | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and nothing could be more perfect despite the ... A: the deal is, guys will lie to cover up interest in other women, and when you're MILES away, that ... | |
| Study abroad quandry | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for approximately 15 months. Our first 5 months or so were in ... A: you're welcome---feel free to correspond---the only thing that might possibly stop the negative ... | |
| Study abroad quandry | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for approximately 15 months. Our first 5 months or so were in ... A: a) you have to find a life besides her--try friendfinders.com..b)sure your principles are valid and ... | |
| Study abroad quandry | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for approximately 15 months. Our first 5 months or so were in ... A: in these arrangements usually one party is the needier--unfortunately it appears to be you, so ... | |
| WAKE UP CALL-URGENT | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: Me and my bf have been together for over 2 years, its a long-distance relationship. We both are 18 ... A: listen--you are in a dangerously unhealthy, addictive arrangement--i doubt you've even MET this ... | |
| wake up call! | 5/10/2009 |
| Q: I have had a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months now. We have not met before, ... A: you're worryin about petty details--the guy isn't serious abou meeting because he's not who he ... | |
| wake up call! | 5/10/2009 |
| Q: I have had a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months now. We have not met before, ... A: you've been living in a fantasy, wasting precious time/energy/emotion over a guy u haven't even MET, ... | |
| LDR Relationship starting to make me feel depressed.. | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old and living in the UK. Over 3 years ago I met a guy online and ever since then we ... A: sometimes what we call "love" inhibits us from making good decisions--here you have a relationshp ... | |
| Burned out on distance. | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both 21 years old. We've been dating for over a year now and we've spent most ... A: this has nothing to do with distance; soon, you need to schedule a conversation with him where you ... | |
| "I want to try something else to be sure that you're the one for me" | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: Yesterday, my girlfriend for 1 year and 7 months split up with me. Well, its complicated because it ... A: maybe you're overestimating the worth of your oil; she's put you on the sidelines while she goes off ... | |
| Getting a read... | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: I am new to this, but figured it was worth a shot, having read some helpful answers in the past. I ... A: hard to say--your only choices are to accept what's offered, though not to your level of ... | |
| When do I give up? | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: I've been involved in a very long distance relationship for the past 10 months. I live in the US, he ... A: a couple of months together and alot of emails isn't sufficient to be considering a life changing ... | |
| unsure about long distance | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm 19 years old I'm seeing a guy i meet on holidays( we were both on holidays another state) its at ... A: stop trying---it's up to HIM to show sufficient effort in taking the lead to keep this goin--lower ... | |
| long distance girlfriend not sure about a break | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: "Hello, I'm 20, my long distance girl of 3 months is 19 and is not sure if she wants to take a break ... A: seeing each other casually for a couple of months, followed by a long separation, isn't exactly the ... | |
| If this isn't love? | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: Ok...this is going to be a long one... I recently became engaged to my college sweetheart. We have ... A: i 'd hold upon engagement plans until there's a period of time when regular weekly dating can occur; ... | |
| Break turned into Breakup | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating a great girl for about a year and a half. We live 2 states apart and have to make ... A: as the needier, more insecure of the 2, you're in the worst position; your anger, coupled with ... | |
| What do I do? | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: "I'm dealing with a very tough situation. I've been dating the same guy for 3 years and everything ... A: if you take leaving off the table, there's nothing to decide, as acceptance is the only alternative; ... | |
| dazed and confused | 2/14/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for more than two years in a long distance relationship. We are 3000 ... A: there's obviously no way for me to predict the future; if you feel he should be making different ... | |
| long-distance relationship | 2/10/2009 |
| Q: so I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months, we were together for about 5 months before we ... A: more here than meets the eye; if you're seeing each other that much, and you're planning on moving ... | |
| Long Distace CHAOS | 2/7/2009 |
| Q: my question involves a long distance relationship. I am a senior in high school right now and the ... A: it's not about right/wrong; it's more about making the best decisions; you say the relationship is ... | |
| because | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: my sister says that because she thinks that i must do something about it and i must be serious..i ... A: it's a free service for a simple question and a couple of follow-ups--most experts aren't gonna ... | |
| 10 days, no diamond ring, no calls | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: the engagement ring..also he insisted on having a marriage contract..i really dont know what to ... A: the bottom line is only HE knows those answers, so only time will tell--as for now, you can INSIST ... | |
| well.. | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: im not afraid but..i really like him so much..by the way he lives in usa with his family and i live ... A: how old are u?..10 days???....u must be kidding.. do u have a diamond ring?..your insecurities/fear ... | |
| why to find a new boyfriend??cant you give me another solutions!!!!!!! | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: i didnt expect this answer.........your answer is depressingggggggg ANSWER: okay, a)you got engaged ... A: i don't know how long u knew each other/really dated, before; if it was less than a year, it was too ... | |
| why to find a new boyfriend??cant you give me another solutions!!!!!!! | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: i didnt expect this answer.........your answer is depressingggggggg ANSWER: okay, a)you got engaged ... A: getting mad isn't the answer--so he pretends to be nice and it's forgotten; big deal; we don't know ... | |
| why to find a new boyfriend??cant you give me another solutions!!!!!!! | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: i didnt expect this answer.........your answer is depressingggggggg A: okay, a)you got engaged too soon, b) you don't hardly see each other, c) anyone who doesn't call for ... | |
| Should I move to be with the woman I love? | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: I am in love with a girl that I have known for about ten years now. We went to high school together ... A: would it be too impractical to date long distance for awhile?..major life changing moves based upon ... | |
| Long distance move | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: Long story short.. been in a long distance relationship with a man for about 5 yrs. It has been ... A: very questionable move; uprooting kids away from friends/family, still living apart with separate ... | |
| Suffocating. :( | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: So, I have been living here all my life & not once have I said "I want to live here forever" nor ... A: that's a pretty broad question, jenna...i would need to know alot more specifics about you/your ... | |
| A boyfriend feeling fear of abandonment and insecure with my girlfriend | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: I'm right now dating a girl long distance that I really like and we're close to being in love. We ... A: a) read up on increasing self-esteem...low amounts will cause such insecurities; b) stop sharing ... | |
| Did I do the right thing? | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a LD relationship for 7 months. I'm 39yo, he's 40. We've done very well so far with ... A: lowering expectations means re-adjusting your mindset based on an analysis of new information and ... | |
| Did I do the right thing? | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a LD relationship for 7 months. I'm 39yo, he's 40. We've done very well so far with ... A: the trip canceling was a fairly severe move; yet the fact remains that you've actually only have ... | |
| Que Sera, Sera | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: I have never been in a long distance relationship before and of course, the first one I ever ... A: i think you need to lower expectations--the reality is, relationships that begin with short-lived ... | |
| Long distance | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: Well even doctors do become patients sometimes! So here is the situation: The Girl - fun loving, ... A: understood, but 4 months isn't 4 years...the initial "connection", has nice as it may be, is now ... | |
| Long distance | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: Well even doctors do become patients sometimes! So here is the situation: The Girl - fun loving, ... A: there's no magical answers as to avoidance of discomfort; barely seeing each other for 2 years, with ... | |
| cohabitation | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a long distance relationship for about 2 and 1/2 years...and will be three in August. ... A: same answer--sure, he's right about the $$ savings, but a steep price is paid elsewhere; living ... | |
| cohabitation | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a long distance relationship for about 2 and 1/2 years...and will be three in August. ... A: don't do it; a long distance arrangement doesn't even do a good job preparing you for seeing each ... | |
| Relationship In Distress | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 21 year old college student. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He lives in ... A: "hung out"?..1.5 years, in what is basically a very occasional sexual arrangement with a guy you ... | |
| long distance relationship with a married man | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I am in a long distance relationship with a married man. It started over the net with e-mails and ... A: so you were looking for a stamp of approval from his wife?...as with most of these arrangements, the ... | |
| Is this meant to be, or should i give it up? | 12/14/2008 |
| Q: So my current boyfriend and I were dating for about 5 months before we split. To be honest, he was ... A: being that young and long distance--not a good mix; you're way too emotionally involved for this ... | |
| big change | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I am mostly looking for advice here. If you cannot give me any i will understand because i have not ... A: you probably haven't received any help because your question is too vague; if what you say happens, ... | |
| long term in college relatinship | 11/29/2008 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and have been dating my now 20 year old girlfriend for 2 1/2 years. She has always ... A: being the needier of the 2 is not where you want to be; your insecurity/fear of loss, is leading you ... | |
| this whole....crazy thing | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: my husband and i recently got married in november and we have known each other since i was in 9 th ... A: can't offer alot, except that since you can't change the realities, you'd have to try to alter your ... | |
| Long Distance Break-Up | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with a girl for 7 months, and we've had varying levels of distance since ... A: no, but her pronouncement should lead you to a place of lower expectation and changes in approach; ... | |
| reality | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: About 9 months ago I accidently met a wonderful man on-line. He is 33 years old, has one small ... A: i've no issue with moving away from the family, but a relationship based upon internet talk and 2 ... | |
| Confused with possible breakup? | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I, I'm 18 and he is 20, recently discussed ending our relationship. We met online ... A: emotionally, you've put yourself in the worst possible position, that being the needier, more ... | |
| is it really over? | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: So I had a long distance relationship for 2 years now, we met through the Internet of course and ... A: it's over--unless you can see, touch, hold, do things with someone, all you have is a fantasy based ... | |
| Long distance and sexual past and parents | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy for 2 mos now. I met him two years ago through a female friend and we ... A: big issues here; as to his sexual past, while i understand your feelings, however unjust, (not right ... | |
| Long Distance romance | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: about 2 months ago i started writing to a soldier that is oversea's. at first our e-mail were mainly ... A: i wouldn't have high expectations; smooth talk over email is no substitute for REAL interaction ... | |
| wake up call | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: I'm 18 and my boyfriend will be turning 20 in march. We met during a sports activity during the ... A: you're way too involved for the conditions--1st off, i don't buy the "too busy" deal--where there's ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I'm in a long distance relationship with a married man. Please don't just either of us on the ... A: i apologize in advance, but i'm sure you're looking for an objective opinion--for all successful ... | |
| Getting Past Our Differences | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I am a lesbian who recently got back together with my HS Sweetheart, approximately 5mths ago. Her ... A: i'm suggesting a "restructuring" of the relationship until such time that being together is a ... | |
| Getting Past Our Differences | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I am a lesbian who recently got back together with my HS Sweetheart, approximately 5mths ago. Her ... A: i don't think it's healthy to spend that much time on the phone with ANYONE--it's no wonder there's ... | |
| Not so sure anymore | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy I meet in the Dominican and we got engaged in April and I was really ... A: in both cases, your time of actual dating/seeing each other, is very little, and certainly not ... | |
| Long distance relationship | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: The Situtation: I am 18 years old and I am currently attending a good college, but I am miserable ... A: you won't like he answer but i'm not here to make friends, i'm here to tell you like it is; you ... | |
| LDR feeling lefted out | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: of 2 years lives in las vegas. And we do see each other alteast once a month for the weekend or ... A: being not able to see her much, there's not alot you can do, as she has a right to lead her life as ... | |
| Long Distance Temporary Break-up | 10/25/2008 |
| Q: I am new to this so im sorry if it is a reoccurring thread. My girlfriend and I recently broke up ... A: it's to be expected--she's only `17,unsure of her feelings, you're not around...the bottom line is ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship Coming to an End | 10/22/2008 |
| Q: so here's myI'm originally from Chicago and picked up on my own and left for Boston for a fantastic ... A: not something you can plan ahead for--you essentially play it by ear; keep it simple/basic..he'll ... | |
| Is he really that interested living 6 hours away? | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: I will try to be as thorough as possible. I am 34 and he (RBS) is 36. An old romantic interest back ... A: objectively, i see almost all negatives, and other than the appeal of erotic flirtation, almost ... | |
| LDR - its tearing me up | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for over 3.5 years now, and most of our time is spent apart. He goes to ... A: sounds like he's just jerking you around and you're allowing it; he obviously likes this convenient ... | |
| LDR | 10/12/2008 |
| Q: I am currently in a long distance relationship with someone I met online. We met a couple of months ... A: from the "i love you" to the cheating, and everything in between, anthing is possible, especially ... | |
| Long Distance Problems | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: I dated my boyfriend for a year. It was an amazing, strong relationship. We went to colleges that ... A: so, you still see him, have sex, talk alot, while he has the freedom all the while to see others, ... | |
| Feeling long when long distance goes the extra mile(s) | 9/29/2008 |
| Q: I am a 24-year old woman who has been in a 10-month long relationship with a 26-year male, Mike, ... A: the "lovestruck" girl needs to realize that continuing to love someone that no longer loves you is a ... | |
| how to get affection,time from a long distance lover | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: my name is tanya im 18 and i stay in palm beach fl, im dating a guy in broward fl, about 40 minutes ... A: you're not in a good position here--you're much needier, insecure than he, more into the ... | |
| I feel more for her than she does for me | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: I am really unsure about how to proceed with a long distance relationship. I should know at my age, ... A: leave it be--she's indicated, in words and actions, she's not inclined to to get involved in a ... | |
| Could he be cheating? | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my fiancee for almost three years now, and he just recently took and new job, that ... A: anything is possible, especially when a young guy is far away and being bugged by an insecure ... | |
| Argument in a long distance relationship | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: I met my boyfriend a few days ago ina chat room. he comes from essex but works in dubai. We text and ... A: the advice is to forget it; a few days on the net does not make a "boyfriend"--what you ACTUALLY ... | |
| LiveLongLove | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: I have been seeing this guy off and on for 18 years. We lived in different states and the only way ... A: because they've no reason to--your dependence on him renders it impossible for you to do anything ... | |
| Am I worrying for nothing? | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: I have been living & working in the UK and have been with my girlfriend for about 7months. Recently ... A: no, you're worrying about SOMETHING, but it's something you can't do alot to change; worry creates ... | |
| cont: on the edge of my ldr | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: Sorry Azure, I had to post another question here as there were too many follow ups for this :- ... A: "year or 2"?..that's an eternity; i don't recommend even attempting to keep deeply emotionally ... | |
| Long distance lack of communication | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: I started dating my girlfriend in February and we hit it off instantly. Shortly after the beginning ... A: the answers are in the behavior; long distance can make people lose interest quickly, especially ... | |
| strain of the distance | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: me and my girlfriend have been in a long distance relationship for about 2 1/2 months. We are both ... A: you might want to consider making it a more "open" arrangement where each person is free to ... | |
| Girlfriend not allowed to visit | 6/17/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I started dating our freshman year of college. We just graduated in May and I ... A: not sure i understand what the problem is--you're both adults, this is 2008--why do you even have to ... | |
| relationship | 6/14/2008 |
| Q: My situation is, i have been with my man for five years, I've seen him go through his ups and downs ... A: probably because the relationship is still of some partial value to him, but you should ask HIM the ... | |
| relationship | 6/14/2008 |
| Q: My situation is, i have been with my man for five years, I've seen him go through his ups and downs ... A: he's obviously lost interest, and your needs aren't being met; time to INFORM him that the current ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: I hope someone here can help me out as I'm having a pretty ruff time with this. I (26) met this ... A: unfortunately there's no happy ending in sight, just a lesson to be learned; when you allow your ... | |
| Need objective and honest opinion and advice | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: I went out on a couple of dates with this guy years ago. Nothing happened, we just went out to ... A: some points to consider; a) it sounds like you didn't date all that much prior to his leaving--not ... | |
| long distance & personal space | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. Most of the 2 years, he has lived 3 hours ... A: you INFORM him that it's really a REQUIREMENT that you have more personal time/space, and that you ... | |
| Love hurts! | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: I've been so confused lately with this long distance relationship of nine months, I've been having ... A: the key sentence, "we haven't met.." thusly, you have a tough lesson to learn, which is that REAL ... | |
| Long distance | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have lived together for a little over 2 years. ... A: time to look at the realities, within yourself, then with him; never good to be the more needy, ... | |
| LDR | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and I am going overseas to meet his family ... A: not sure how many months is "several"; i think it's entirely up to how you feel about it; certainly ... | |
| Respect | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: Do you think it's appropriate for a people involved in a relationship to be socializing one-on-one ... A: i think it's something you have to accept; you can't expect people to live in a bubble when they ... | |
| what should i do | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: There is this girl, Courtney, i have known her for the last three years, but we never talked ... A: you can't make good decisions about your life, especially at 18, based on feelings for a girl, and ... | |
| wake up call | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: I am 22yo and have been with my 23yo boyfriend for just over 4yrs. We moved in together 3yrs ago and ... A: i'm not sure how/why you even allowed yourself to get in this situation; sometimes "love", ... | |
| Is he busy, uninterested or just want to be friends? | 4/4/2008 |
| Q: There is a guy whom i know in real life for many years. He's 8 yrs older than me and now pursuing ... A: you're wasting your time..you're just a small part of his life, and the other girls in it; you might ... | |
| Long Distance...in the not so distant future | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: To Start - It’s a bit of a longer question, so if you don’t get to it right away I understand. I ... A: understood; well, choice 1 has trouble written all over it, especially with the reasons you ... | |
| Long distance relationship | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: i am 33 and met a v nice guy in august last year who lives in New york, he is 5 yrs younger than me. ... A: unless there's a possibility of being close enough to see each other weekly by year's end, this is ... | |
| How do I know if this is going to work? | 3/10/2008 |
| Q: Ok, first off, hello. My situation is pretty out of the ordinary (for me anyway). I just got out of ... A: obviously, you not only have no guarantee of this working out, but the odds are against it; first ... | |
| Help | 3/8/2008 |
| Q: Hey Azure, Im 20yrs old, im in a relationship with this guy, hes 19, hes goin away to maryland in ... A: you're not bothering me--unfortunately, there's no "don't love" button, and no "no hurt" guarantee; ... | |
| Help | 3/8/2008 |
| Q: Hey Azure, Im 20yrs old, im in a relationship with this guy, hes 19, hes goin away to maryland in ... A: stay in the middle; by that, i mean maintain a relationship, but lower future expectations, ... | |
| confused... | 3/6/2008 |
| Q: Azure... My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We're in a long distance relationship, ... A: he's into his own life, and so should YOU be in yours; when you hardly see someone, it's easy to ... | |
| Serious Trust issues in a LDR | 3/5/2008 |
| Q: I met my current partner online about a year and a half ago and we had been friends for a long time ... A: you really need to re-evaluate the situation before going any further; you are currently putting ... | |
| how do i get past a long distance break-up | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: I have this questions, its been months, last year since my ex broke up w/me.It was long distance and ... A: it's over--you need to stop using all this energy analyzing it; if/when you become completely ... | |
| LDR / Study Abroad / Sudden Breakup | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm 25 years old and my girlfriend is 21 years old and we have been together for about a year and a ... A: unfortunately, it happens..she obviously saw it differently; sometimes everything looks great "on ... | |
| frustrated with him! | 2/2/2008 |
| Q: I met a guy in Nov. and we were both instantly attracted. We started dating and everything was ... A: time for mr reality; it's only been a couple of months, he's a bit of a distance away, you don't ... | |
| Online Dating Question | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: ..I have a relationship question and I hope you can help me. I met an amazing guy online line a ... A: the sooner you meet, the better; these online arrangements, based on words, don't necessarily mean ... | |
| long distance relationship | 1/21/2008 |
| Q: im engaged to a man in the navy who i met here in england, we have been together for a year and 1/2, ... A: the best way to get his attention is to "disappear" for awhile; he's acting like a guy who's too ... | |
| In love with two girls, one west coast, one east coast. | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: I'm a nineteen year old college student who's very attracted to two different girls on opposite ... A: what's the rush"?..at 19, the "single life" is in its' infancy; once you get bogged down with 1, ... | |
| strange situation | 1/14/2008 |
| Q: This will be a bit long - but necessary to give an accurate picture: My college sweetheart and I ... A: look, you haven't had anything resembling an adult dating relationship with this guy; it's been a ... | |
| girlfriend of 3 1/2 years just cheated but is still living with me what do I do? | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 3 ½ years just told me she cheated on me while on Christmas break, what do I do ... A: forget the "win her back" idea..it leaves you as weak, insecure, needy, dependent, sufficiently ... | |
| Long Distance Break-Up | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend of almost 2 years recently broke up with me. I have known her for about 8 years, of ... A: sometimes less is more, as in this instance--i realize your instincts are to try and change her ... | |
| He's visiting me in Japan | 12/12/2007 |
| Q: I'm sorry if this gets long but I'll try my best to keep it as short as possible. I met a guy right ... A: i don't see the point of having him come if you are sure this thing is over--hence you should tell ... | |
| to stay or to go? | 12/12/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 21 year old college student. I've been dating this guy for almost four months and things ... A: you don't change your life plan after knowing someone less than 4 months, regardless of feelings; if ... | |
| Is everything ok?....far from it.. | 11/19/2007 |
| Q: I have been in a long distance relationship with the most adorable man on the planet for a bit over ... A: why would he be afraid of hurting your feelings by telling you about time with his kids??..time to ... | |
| Insecurities and worries | 11/16/2007 |
| Q: I'm 17 year old senior in high school and I have a very long distance relationship that started ... A: all you know is what he tells you--you haven't seen him, for 1 second, with you, or for 1 second, in ... | |
| Insecurities and worries | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: I'm 17 year old senior in high school and I have a very long distance relationship that started ... A: consider this your wake -up call---what you've become emotionally addicted to isn't love, isn't a ... | |
| he broke up with me abruptly due to long distance between us | 11/11/2007 |
| Q: i met this man on the dating.com site three years ago; i actually looked at one of his pictures and ... A: essentially, yes; i seriously doubt his somewhat expected anxiety that led to the erectile issue ... | |
| he broke up with me abruptly due to long distance between us | 11/11/2007 |
| Q: i met this man on the dating.com site three years ago; i actually looked at one of his pictures and ... A: "whys" should never be expected in life..to receive a TOTALLY honest response to that question is ... | |
| Is a break really a break? | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: I'm sure you hear lots of questions like this, but I feel I need a certain answer about such an ... A: gotta love this "break" manipulation that guys come up with to garner more free time; in this case, ... | |
| should i contact her? | 11/4/2007 |
| Q: I am 19, 5'8 175 pounds of muscle, she is 19 5'8 more or less and thin. went on one date with a ... A: not sure who told you girls like to do the pursuing; it's up to the guy to go after what he wants; ... | |
| long distance marriage | 10/28/2007 |
| Q: I am 43 years old. Last Dec. I married my husband after nearly two years of dating/living together ... A: yes, my idea is to consider WHY you'd want to maintain an almost non-existent arrangement; this is ... | |
| long distance, limits of fidelity | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: Ok, this may take a few seconds to explain. My boyfriend and I met a year and a half ago in Italy. ... A: probably should tell him--he'll probably chastise your deceitfulness, make excuses for his behavior; ... | |
| long distance, limits of fidelity | 10/17/2007 |
| Q: Ok, this may take a few seconds to explain. My boyfriend and I met a year and a half ago in Italy. ... A: in my opinion, neither one of you is ready to begin "forever"..the behavior says you both have some ... | |
| Have my fiance's feelings changed? | 10/16/2007 |
| Q: my fiance Laura and I have been engaged for 5 months. I'm 29 and she is 25. We've know each other ... A: you can simply state your feelings as i discussed, quite calmly and rationally; it appears your ... | |
| Have my fiance's feelings changed? | 10/15/2007 |
| Q: my fiance Laura and I have been engaged for 5 months. I'm 29 and she is 25. We've know each other ... A: this "friend" of hers is WAY out of line, and primarily is operating out of self-interest in ... | |
| i need help | 10/14/2007 |
| Q: i goggled a question that how to deal with the boyfriend who has started ignoring me, and i saw the ... A: time to wake up--see reality; if you've seen my answers, you should know i'm not here to provide ... | |
| What does he really want? | 10/10/2007 |
| Q: I started dating this guy about a year ago. Within a few months, we decided (I was the one who ... A: your insecurities and fear of loss are putting you in a bad position here; he's told you through ... | |
| My long distance relationship is getting too hard for my girlfriend | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: Ive been in a long distance relationship for just over a year now. I am thinking of asking her to ... A: "and when" meaning she can decide for herself when she feels changes in frequency of seeing each ... | |
| My long distance relationship is getting too hard for my girlfriend | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: Ive been in a long distance relationship for just over a year now. I am thinking of asking her to ... A: her feelings are reasonable, given the conditions; you might be prematurely pushing for the marriage ... | |
| Relationship; Need Help | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: Ok thanks for taking the time to read. To begin I have been going out with my girlfriend for two ... A: lesson 1--you can't control what others do, only yourself; thusly, phrases like "can't let her" make ... | |
| Not sure what to expect? | 9/3/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and he just moved 800 miles away for a better job. ... A: not really..why would he want to officially disconnect all ties when he doesn't have to?..he can ... | |
| Not sure what to expect? | 9/3/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and he just moved 800 miles away for a better job. ... A: lower expectations to zero, unless you're planning on joining him out there soon..that means, don't ... | |
| is it worth it? | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: I had a one night stand with a guy and then i moved thousands of miles away and now we are ... A: one night, then thousands of miles--i wouldn't put much faith in this goin anywhere, regardless of ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship Question | 8/27/2007 |
| Q: I recently had a conversation with my girlfriend over the phone. She was drinking lightly and had a ... A: 5 times in a year isn't really sufficient to sustain the energy/enthusiasm of a relationship; she ... | |
| What can I do? | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: She's 21, I'm 20. I've worked with her for three years, but didn't start feeling anything for her ... A: clear enough; you're already on the road to answering your own question; you've identified the 2 ... | |
| long distance | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: i met my g/f on a dating site 6 months ago, we have met several times n things seem to be going ... A: so you're planning on living with someone you've "met several times" in a 6 month period, who's ... | |
| long distance | 8/10/2007 |
| Q: i met a man off the internet in February and we got on really well, but he decided that the distance ... A: i think a), that he's essentially just jerking you around for reasons unknown; to have to "think" ... | |
| how do I know whether she cares and is loyal? | 8/9/2007 |
| Q: I was an exchange student in the US and found an amazing girlfriend. I think that I couldn´t live ... A: unfortunately there's no magic answer; it helps to stay in the PRESENT, focusing on whatever you're ... | |
| how do I know whether she cares and is loyal? | 8/9/2007 |
| Q: I was an exchange student in the US and found an amazing girlfriend. I think that I couldn´t live ... A: a) there's no way to know what she's doing, how she really feels, if she'll dump you tomorrow, but ... | |
| Transitioning into a semi-long distance relationship. | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: I guess i have a somewhat complicated (but maybe not) situation I'm dealing with here. I've been ... A: just weekends for a year shouldn't be a problem--the space in your togetherness may actually be ... | |
| Does he care or is he just greedy?? | 7/21/2007 |
| Q: I met this guy a few months ago and we really hit off. he was sweet, caring, a great listener, ... A: moving in would be a major mistake--there's ALWAYS other options--what would you do if the guy ... | |
| Advice | 6/18/2007 |
| Q: We met on a 3-week trip to Europe in April and became the best of friends with dozens of hours of ... A: i think "no contact" is a little much, and doesn't really serve any great purpose; i can understand ... | |
| long distance and don't know what to do | 5/29/2007 |
| Q: ..thank you for taking the time to read this. It will probably be somewhat long so I apologize :/ ... A: this has been over for a long while, as many of his actions, including his ending it and moving ... | |
| going on this break... | 5/16/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I for 10 months have been on a break since May 1st... I was having a hard time but ... A: he set the trap and you bit; this whole "break" deal is bogus, a poor excuse (though it apparently ... | |
| is she tired of me? | 5/16/2007 |
| Q: I've been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years and 10 months long distance. naturally, there ... A: if her dancing is your only problem, you're in good shape: you're apparently with her when she does ... | |
| keeping interested | 5/10/2007 |
| Q: i had a date with a guy last month. He has now gone back to Iraq until July, when he is home on ... A: you have to find a way to be more "centered", or be at high risk for disappointment; you're THINKING ... | |
| keeping interested | 5/9/2007 |
| Q: i had a date with a guy last month. He has now gone back to Iraq until July, when he is home on ... A: if you only had 1 date, neither of you should expect the other to stop looking; as to your question, ... | |
| online/long distance | 4/30/2007 |
| Q: I met this guy, Mike, online almost 3 years ago. I live in spokane, washington and he goes to ... A: you missed the point;the question really is, why is your self-esteem so low, and insecurity so high, ... | |
| How much time is enough to know? | 4/29/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I will be dating a year at the end of May. The first 4 months of our relationship ... A: you have uncertainty, been dating less than a year, he appears to want/need more space than ... | |
| Just found out.. Now what? | 4/18/2007 |
| Q: Here's my dilemma: My girlfriend and I have been dating long distance for the past two and a half ... A: my assumption is you won't/can't be seeing her in person before she comes--if that's the case, put ... | |
| impatience | 4/15/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship since Jan 07. He's been down here ... A: so i guess that means unless you live together, which could be WAY off or never, the arrangement ... | |
| Long Term Relationship - 2 diff continents | 4/15/2007 |
| Q: have recently reconnected with my first love. We are both from Prague. Him and I had a platonic ... A: tough situation; many times love isn't nearly enough, nor should it be the sole basis for decisions ... | |
| How do I know it's real? | 4/12/2007 |
| Q: I don't really know where to start, because the situation I'm in is especially different from the ... A: usually in a relationship, one person is more emotionally involved than the other--usually the ... | |
| Moving away | 4/11/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of two years and I have lived three hours apart for our entire relationship. This ... A: you should tell him exactly as you feel, including how you are tiring of this type of arrangement; ... | |
| Long distance and Inter-language | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: Hey, Although I think this is an unanswerable I would appreciate some advice. I was recently ... A: it's natural--some people blow you away, others don't; as to "working", that's another story..long ... | |
| Dating/Marriage | 2/28/2007 |
| Q: So, after a heartbreaking breakup with my ex-fiance I have started to connect with people again. Met ... A: neither--just live your life, and see what she means by "flow naturally.." you'll be able to tell by ... | |
| Sex: should I or shouldn't I? | 2/22/2007 |
| Q: Yes, I'm a 21 year old virgin. Raised by very religious parents, I'm trying to break away but I ... A: i'm not an advocate of waiting; many times you can love someone, get married, only to find there's ... | |
| long distance relationship | 2/14/2007 |
| Q: I met my girlfriend about three years ago, we never went out before we just hung out with some ... A: she shouldn't pick a school based on a relationship or to be close to a guy; plus, it's not healthy ... | |
| Long distance relationship | 1/7/2007 |
| Q: I am quite worried. I have been in a distant relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years and half. We ... A: you're pining over someone you hardly see, and who's obviously seeing other women; it's over, was a ... | |
| just a problem with trust? | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: I've dated this guy for 2 and a half years now and he has brought up the question of marriage and ... A: both; you're talking about someone you've hardly seen, who feels NO need to keep in touch, who may ... | |
| How to deal with it? | 12/2/2006 |
| Q: I'll try to keep it short. I have been trying to immigrate from France to the US for 3 years. ... A: you stop trying to make up for his emotional deficiencies; you can't let your neediness/fear of ... | |
| hard to give it up | 11/24/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I dated for 3 years. I was a freshmen and he was a sophomore in high school. Since ... A: you're fighting a losing battle, and losing all self-esteem in the process; it's over; stop calling, ... | |
| Not so long distance LDR | 11/14/2006 |
| Q: For 6 months, I've been involved with someone who only lives just over an hour away from me. ... A: i think your neediness/insecurities have led to a loss of self-esteem/objectivity, as this situation ... | |
| Long Distance, Not Coming Back | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: currently, i can see her about 4 or 5 times a month. then she is having exams which will last a ... A: try to stay in the present--you're needlessly worrying about something WAY into the future; alot can ... | |
| My fiancee says he needs space. | 10/24/2006 |
| Q: Well, just another aspect of the situation is that this girl he met is in New York. He will probably ... A: i gave you the answer--sometimes the right answer isn't one we like, as in this case; if you want to ... | |
| My fiancee says he needs space. | 10/24/2006 |
| Q: My fiancee and I have been together for 3 years and 3 months. We got engaged in August of 2006. ... A: the only thing to understand is that you got engaged to the wrong guy; hard to believe he actually ... | |
| Stay or Leave? | 10/23/2006 |
| Q: Hey, I'm so confused. I have been in a long distance realtionship for seven years. It was easy when ... A: seven years is too long to wait for anyone--he could have moved closer but didn't, obviously ... | |
| "redate"/LDR | 10/22/2006 |
| Q: One time, in freshman year, I liked this guy; and I told him so. So we hung out. But all that ... A: my feeling is you might be getting a litle ahead of yourself just based on some calls/emails..when ... | |
| Afraid of Long Distance Relationship?? | 10/22/2006 |
| Q: I am a 32 year old woman living in Las Vegas and have been in a phone relationship with a 43 year ... A: probably all 3; consider this your wake-up call; objectively speaking, it's hard to believe you've ... | |
| Trainwreck | 10/19/2006 |
| Q: I have never really asked anyone for relationship advice before, sub-conciously knowing that they ... A: neither one of these guys is the answer; the college guy is into a whole new life and all new ... | |
| love or lust | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: I'm 30 and have only ever had one long term boyfriend. I came out in LA and now I live in Tokyo ... A: let's call it passion instead of lust; it can disappear in an hour or last forever; the feeling of ... | |
| Long distance and cheated on | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: I'm a 21 yr old college student, and i'm dating a girl that goes to a college an hour away. We've ... A: her conflict of feelings regarding him could certainly be a factor; her kissing him, calling it ... | |
| International LDR - kids involved | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: I went to Australia for one week. We have talked on the phone every weekend for 4 - 6 hours and ... A: phone calls/emails are no substitutes for REAL interaction where you observe, touch, experience, do ... | |
| long distance relationships and cheating | 10/3/2006 |
| Q: He's moving out to be with me. I love my boyfriend but I also like this new guy and I dont want to ... A: it's obvious you're not ready to date exclusively, let alone have someone move a long way just to be ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship - College Students | 9/13/2006 |
| Q: Well thanks for you input, but it's not exactly what I was looking for. I guess there is more to ... A: still, the bottom line is you wouldn't move there because the benefits of staying outweigh those of ... | |
| Long distance relationship.. | 9/13/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend of two years will be leaving for college,we both feel strong for eachother and i feel ... A: possible, but doubtful; but consider it a good thing; love needs challenge, space, flexibility; and ... | |
| Jealous Boyfriend | 9/8/2006 |
| Q: Azure, Okay, to start off, my boyfriend and I met over four years ago and we dated then, but then ... A: why are you still calling him your boyfriend??..from what you said, sounds like an "ex" that you've ... | |
| Girlfriends in Iraq | 8/29/2006 |
| Q: I've been dating this girl for 3 months and I've never felt this way about any other girl. We're ... A: the best thing to do is to try to stay in the PRESENT moment; focus on whatever it is you're doing ... | |
| Long distance relationships - International | 8/6/2006 |
| Q: What is the best way to start the conversation considering she loves her job so much and i dont want ... A: it's nowhere near a demand, it's telling her how you see it, asking her how she see it, comparing ... | |
| High School/ College LDR | 8/6/2006 |
| Q: She is currently a junior and i'll be a freshman in college this year. We've been friends for 2 ... A: it's natural to have insecurities--after all, many relationships don't last thru college; best not ... | |
| Long distance relationships - International | 8/6/2006 |
| Q: I am a single father of three kids. I am currently involved in a relationship with an Airline ... A: you have every right to have an open, honest discussion about the future and what you essentially ... | |
| She's leaving for a year. | 8/5/2006 |
| Q: I just graduated from highschool, and University/college is on the horizon, starting in September. ... A: depends how you tell her; you don't want anything too heavy as she's leaving, and you say you ... | |
| I need college love advice :-) | 8/5/2006 |
| Q: My name is Dana. Im 18 years old and going to be a freshmen in college in the fall. My boyfriend and ... A: prepare for the grim reality; whatever happened in h.s, when apart, or this summer, and despite the ... | |
| Relocating in a LDR - Kids involved | 7/25/2006 |
| Q: I wouldn't consider leaving my children...I guess I'm trying to figure out a way to negotiate a ... A: so not even getting to the boyfriend, the idea of you moving is pretty much dead in the water, as i ... | |
| LDR Change of feeling | 7/24/2006 |
| Q: I am 27 years old. My BF and I have been dating for four years, but we have been apart for the last ... A: it's certainly possible; indeed, the freedom allowed each other previously may have been a healthy ... | |
| should i stay with her? | 7/21/2006 |
| Q: alright, my girlfriend and i have been together for 3 1/2 years now and i went into the navy about a ... A: depends; if you truly love her and want to spend your life with her, you give her a pass; be it an ... | |
| College/High School Relationships | 7/14/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for a about a year. We got together when I was a junior and ... A: it's not like you really have a choice; college changes EVERYTHING, including relationships, and ... | |
| will it work? | 7/10/2006 |
| Q: i have a boyfriend in tn, and i'm going to a boarding school in new york next year. We are both 16, ... A: i admire the "letting go" philosophy you presented; giving each the freedom to explore life without ... | |
| Long Distance Marriage | 7/4/2006 |
| Q: Had I wanted to leave the relationship, I think I am capable of doing that without any help from ... A: really?..is that why i get about 5 questions a day from people wondering if they should leave a ... | |
| Need some Help | 6/27/2006 |
| Q: About me: i am a 22 year old college student who has one semester left until graduation. I have been ... A: making great memories means little when the winds of change come calling, and one weekend means ... | |
| LDR boyfriend distant on the phone | 6/24/2006 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 months now (spent 7 months together at ... A: if your concerns only lead to his honoring your request in some obligatory fashion, they won't be ... | |
| college | 6/22/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I just graduated from high school and have been dating for a little over a year. ... A: good question; college changes everything, and is best experienced unattached..my advice; ... | |
| International LDR | 6/21/2006 |
| Q: I'm a student at a college in Arizona where I met a great guy, Roger, and we have been together for ... A: ironically, it's the strain to keep close that works against you; beyond your half hour of ... | |
| Should we go for it? | 6/19/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and are very close. However he being a ... A: hey there--nicely expressed thoughts, albeit regarding a tough situation; certainly the ultimately ... | |
| my love lives in mexico | 6/16/2006 |
| Q: so I just spent 3 months doing an internship in mexico and while down there fell in love. he is ... A: as great as the 3 months were, unless you can figure out a way to see each other at least every ... | |
| Unexpected Long Distance Problems | 6/12/2006 |
| Q: I am a recient college graduate and i am spending this summer away from my girlfriend. I am only a ... A: no choices here you'll like much; as you said, if you appear insecure, possessive, controlling, her ... | |
| Short Term LDR | 6/1/2006 |
| Q: I go to college with this girl who I have been dating for 3 months and she has been my gf for 2. ... A: consider this the slap; first of all, lower your expectations--girlfriend for only 2 months, college ... | |
| 4 year international romance | 5/31/2006 |
| Q: I first met a nice man in 2002 when I studied in his country. We only were friends, but both knew ... A: figure out what your specific requirements are for continuing, inform him, telling him also that the ... | |
| Arguing with a tit for tat mentality | 5/25/2006 |
| Q: I am dating my HS sweetheart but he is in Washington DC & I am in California. I see him about every ... A: hard to get stubborn types to change how they think; if just telling him as to why you think his ... | |
| will it last? | 5/19/2006 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend live in 2 difrent countries. we started e-mailing when a family friend gave me ... A: can't say for sure, but i doubt it; but to "wait" for someone you haven't seen, observed, done ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 5/5/2006 |
| Q: I met my boyfriend online & we chatted on the phone for 2.5 years then met up for my 18th Birthday & ... A: neither; you lower your expectations to zero, realize that at your young ages, AND with a distance ... | |
| Taking a break | 5/2/2006 |
| Q: He didn't want it before because, but this time he also agreed we should take a break; he says I'm ... A: leave it be; if you knuckle under and show weakness/neediness now, he will remember and attempt to ... | |
| i'm not sure! | 3/10/2006 |
| Q: i've been in a LDR for 2 1/2 years now and i've almost finished uni, i'm starting to have doubts ... A: eighteen to twenty-one, in terms of relationshps, doesn't carry alot of weight; only NOW are you ... | |
| What is proper etiquette in long distance romance? | 3/1/2006 |
| Q: In January I started corresponding online with a man and we seemed to be getting along quite well. ... A: the line that SHOULD have been drawn was the one between fantasy and reality; welcome to the world ... | |
| 40 days to focus on our future | 2/28/2006 |
| Q: (I have written to you before, but I have a different question. So as soon as you start recognizing ... A: not sure what's to be gained by creating an arbitrary, artificially contrived non-communication; one ... | |
| i know i am an idiot! | 2/21/2006 |
| Q: After many years I have reunited with a very close friend ( whom I have always loved but never told ... A: i didn't see much problem with her email, thusly yours was an over-reaction; she sees you as a ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 2/20/2006 |
| Q: I am writing a commentary paper for my english class, my professor said I needed an expert opinion ... A: LDR's: pros; allows for spaces in togetherness (assuming they're days/weeks, not months), thereby ... | |
| ***Long Distance Relationship***** | 2/9/2006 |
| Q: I went to Ecuador to visit family in October of 2005, when I actually met a girl in a night club. ... A: unless you somehow fall in love and you bring her here to live, i'm not sure how this is workable; ... | |
| Long Distance after break up | 1/11/2006 |
| Q: To make a long story short, I dated a girl seriously for a year (long distance) and a month, and we ... A: "mixed.."??..you may not have liked it, but i thought she was quite clear; she cares about you but ... | |
| Long Distance & Much More | 1/2/2006 |
| Q: not as of yet, but soon. do you have yahoo, msn, or aim? if so, we can talk about it there. ... A: first off, it's amazing how many young, insecure girls with emotional issues get themselves so ... | |
| advice | 12/24/2005 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been in a long distance relationship, for just under three years with 2 ... A: unfortunately not; you can't make her feel the way you'd like her to; the fact is, at your ages and ... | |
| Help | 12/19/2005 |
| Q: I have been reading a lot of the questions and your help seems great. Well, I met my ex-boyfriend a ... A: you're on the wrong path; it's not about him, it's about YOU; if you weren't so insecure/needy as to ... | |
| should i move to be with him | 12/11/2005 |
| Q: i love him and he loves me i'm sure of that the only problem is that he lives 2599 miles away he ... A: don't even THINK about going; here's someone you went out with for a MONTH (4weeks) before he split, ... | |
| worried she's cheating | 12/2/2005 |
| Q: Me and my girl have a long distance relationship(me in ny, her in texas) i have trusted her, she ... A: look, you're probably both quite young, she's FAR away, you've only known her 2 months, and probably ... | |
| Relationship help | 11/18/2005 |
| Q: First off I would like to thank you for providing a diffrent view and outlook. Sometimes it is just ... A: it's difficult for you, or I, to do much from where we are; i doubt you'll be able to affect any ... | |
| I'm 22 and he is 25. We have... | 11/13/2005 |
| Q: I'm 22 and he is 25. We have dated each other for over 3 years. For awhile we lived in the same ... A: why does HE get to make all the rules??..you have to decide what you want; the best he's offering is ... | |
| a tough one... | 9/27/2005 |
| Q: Ok here is a tough one. There is this girl that lives in my building at school. We met last year, ... A: it's in your best interest to bite the bullet, keep your pain to yourself, and make like it's no big ... | |
| Am I not demanding enough? | 9/24/2005 |
| Q: Let me give you some background (and seeing here might alleviate some of my worries anyway): I've ... A: not sure "demanding" is the answer; the only possible outcomes there are that he STILL refuses and ... | |
| long distance relationship | 9/16/2005 |
| Q: I know that you must be thinking why I still stayed in this relationship. I donot know but we kept ... A: the answer is the same; going there to "try it out" is asking for trouble; if you think THIS is ... | |
| Confused | 8/23/2005 |
| Q: I dont know how to start. I've never done this before but I figure asking someone who is use to ... A: i don't think, at 19, it's wise to make major life decisions based largely upon a relationship built ... | |
| I miss someone, | 8/8/2005 |
| Q: Awhile back I became involved online with an older woman. At first we'd been friends, then it became ... A: what you felt was real, and your fond memories are real, and valuable, but we can't live in the ... | |
| Longer distance | 7/21/2005 |
| Q: In 6th grade my best friend moved from Texas to Pennsylvania. We kept in touch and I visited him ... A: ironically, the only way is to refocus on YOUR life, staying in the present, concentrating on ... | |
| should i just forget about him? | 7/20/2005 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 7 months recently broke up with me about a week and a half ago. We started dating ... A: don't chase; it turns off the guy and depletes your self-esteem; sometimes you have to bite the ... | |
| Friends after the LDR? | 6/28/2005 |
| Q: I was in a LDR for 6 months with a guy named David from London and after his last visit here 3 ... A: i don't think the friend thing is workable just yet, as i don't think you've arrived at a neutral ... | |
| How can we make it easier? | 6/25/2005 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now. We're very much in love, and ... A: in golf, the tendency is to squeeze the club too hard, which usually results in a bad shot; in this ... | |
| How can persuade him to try? | 6/9/2005 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy that I really like. I haven't liked someone like this since my last long ... A: if anyone needs a change of heart, it's YOU: he's basically telling you it's over, and you're trying ... | |
| Please help me out...I'm having patient issues and besides that, I'm in the dark | 6/8/2005 |
| Q: Please help…I really need some advice here. My predicament is as followed: I met this beautiful ... A: i can't read her mind, but certainly you've gotten a little carried away, and if she's interpreted ... | |
| I am lost please help | 6/1/2005 |
| Q: I am 17 I been dating a girl who lives 3215 miles away for almost two months. She is my friends ... A: sounds like you haven't even SEEN this girl; i'm not sure that qualifies as "DATING..".look, she's ... | |
| obsessed with marriage | 5/9/2005 |
| Q: my name is Cindy I am 36,I have been in a LDR for almost a year,he is 39 and lives an hour away,we ... A: first, realize that it hasn't even been a year yet, and long distance at THAT; 2d, why even talk ... | |
| Long distance relationship | 5/5/2005 |
| Q: I'm a 39 year old woman living in Baltimore and met a 36 year old guy last summer at my office who ... A: you're on the right track; as you're experiencing, it's very difficult to quickly shift gears from ... | |
| Long Distance | 5/3/2005 |
| Q: It is hard for both my girl and me to strengthen our relationship. We are just two hours away but my ... A: first, i wouldn't go there if she doesn't want you to--consideration of her feelings is important if ... | |
| wants to break up for the summer. | 4/26/2005 |
| Q: ------------------------- Followup To : My boyfriend is 20 and so am I. He's leaving to go home for ... A: couples usually don't "break-up" for the summer, unless he just wants his freedom or isn't as into ... | |
| Long distance.. its pain, and now this | 4/25/2005 |
| Q: Im Twis, and I've been dating a girl for about 9 months now... its a long distance relationship for ... A: pull yourself together; you're MUCH too young to be with just 1 girl, let alone have a relationship ... | |
| Long distance relationships | 4/24/2005 |
| Q: I'm going to Berlin in August for one year to carry out a placement. My friends will carry theirs in ... A: "growing apart", meaning individual growth away from each other, is usually a GOOD thing, as "the ... | |
| confused | 4/21/2005 |
| Q: I'm currently in a 2 year long distance relationship. Well, where to start. Ummm........well, My bf ... A: there's issues with each one; you should INFORM your boyfriend of your feelings, and of your ... | |
| Long Distance relationship | 4/5/2005 |
| Q: When I said I wanted to use a people finder,Its a search site that locates people. I dont wish to ... A: a little; it's going to cost you $$ to find out, and you won't find out all that much; i don't see ... | |
| break up long distance | 3/28/2005 |
| Q: My girlfriend recently broke up with me two weeks ago, to which i had asked a question or two on ... A: neither; your approach should include an openness to hear what she has to say; after all, SHE ended ... | |
| Long Distance Break up - truely love her | 3/15/2005 |
| Q: This website seems ingenius and looks like amazing help. Up until this morning i was in a serious ... A: all you can do is what you should have done long ago; become more self-sufficient, less needy, less ... | |
| LDR's and the future. | 3/4/2005 |
| Q: Azure, Well, first off, hello. I have a conflict in my LDR that I believe will end up in a ... A: it's a simple case of one person needing/wanting their partner more than the other; unfortunately ... | |
| Long Distance/ Children | 3/3/2005 |
| Q: I just moved to NC from Kansas City (about 1500 miles) to be around family again for the first ... A: obviously with this "skeletal" information regarding a much more complex issue to work with, my ... | |
| Cheating,Long Distance | 2/25/2005 |
| Q: Inadequacy in me? even she says i had nothing to do with it and that its all her fault. She liked ... A: i don't care what she tells you; it's still possible that she wasn't TOTALLY satisfied with your ... | |
| Thinking about dating someone else... But I still love him | 2/21/2005 |
| Q: and thank you for your time! I'm having a very serious problem that has been bothering me for about ... A: i'd offer him a non-exclusive, dont ask-don't tell arrangement, where you could both date others ... | |
| Australian engaged to an Indonesian | 2/9/2005 |
| Q: G'day, im a 21 year old Australian guy who is engaged to a 22 year old Indonesian girl...my fiancee ... A: i'm not sure what "normal" is in this situation; i do know that it is very risky to plan a future ... | |
| long distance break up | 2/9/2005 |
| Q: i desperately need some advice regarding my current long distance situation. I met my boyfriend 4 ... A: you shouldn't have to take all the blame, as i doubt he was the perfect boyfriend; chances are he ... | |
| Setbacks and No Future | 2/8/2005 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for about 8 or 9 months now. He lives in TX and I live in IN. Well...at the ... A: the fear of being alone has led you be insecure and needy, which has led to these basically ... | |
| Holding hands | 2/1/2005 |
| Q: Alrighty, My boyfriend of 2 months now does not like holdings hands in public when we go out in the ... A: i'm not sure this is the subject you want to go to war over; neither one of you should be worried ... | |
| Where do I start? | 1/30/2005 |
| Q: my name is Randy and I am a 20 year old college student. Over the past year and 3 months i have ... A: for the moment, but it's just a temporary reprieve unless you use the time to lower your ... | |
| long distant relationships: can they last | 1/8/2005 |
| Q: I went up to Minnesota over Christmas break to see my family, and this boy I liked, who's been a ... A: first of all, stop calling it a "relationship"; it's a boy you met and hung out with for a short ... | |
| Is he using me? | 12/29/2004 |
| Q: I have been talking to a guy that I went to high school with for a year and 2 mos. now. We never ... A: you're reacting to "sizzle", but there's no steak with it; it's actions/behavior that count, not ... | |
| Is he using me? | 12/27/2004 |
| Q: I have been talking to a guy that I went to high school with for a year and 2 mos. now. We never ... A: neither; he's not as interested as you are, as told you same, and is just living his life, with your ... | |
| Breaking up long distance | 12/24/2004 |
| Q: I've been in a long distance relationship for almost a year now and while I still have fun with my ... A: if you can't do it in person by going to HIM, i'd write him a letter explaining how you feel, but ... | |
| Sexually Inactive relationships | 12/22/2004 |
| Q: I know this is probably not your area of expertise, but you simply seemed the most professional ... A: there are a few issues here, not the least of which is a) her total insensitivity, selfishness and ... | |
| Cheating/Long Distance Relationships | 12/17/2004 |
| Q: I have been on and off with my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now. I have known him for a very long ... A: this will only cause you more pain unless you immediately begin to change your perceptions; first, ... | |
| Long Distance | 12/13/2004 |
| Q: In August of this year I began a long distance relationship w/ someone of whom I have been dating ... A: too soon; i don't think seeing someone almost every day gives credence to relationship success; in ... | |
| Long distance relationships | 12/9/2004 |
| Q: Can you tell me some advise on how to trust each other better and deal with the separation? A: if you truly care about each other, you trust yourself to allow for personal growth, individual ... | |
| long-distance again | 12/1/2004 |
| Q: My situation began two summers ago when my bf decided to move out west to Ca. It was a hard decision ... A: i haven't run into confusion alot; certainly there are times when decisions have to be made ... | |
| How to make it right | 11/19/2004 |
| Q: We have been together for 11 years now. We have one son and one on the way. Right now we live far ... A: how's that?? usually living together DECREASES individual expenses; in any case, you have some ... | |
| help | 11/9/2004 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months. He is away at school for the past 3 of ... A: usually in relationships there is one party needier, more insecure than the other; unfortunately in ... | |
| long-distance difficulties | 11/2/2004 |
| Q: Hey! Thanks for taking the time to answer my question, first of all. I am in a long-distance ... A: being in college, far apart, and for 4 years can be a difficult challenge; you can't realistically ... | |
| When to Give up? | 11/1/2004 |
| Q: The past few weeks I have noticed a change in my boyfriend's attitude. He was distant and didn't ... A: you're right; you can't force or otherwise demand that someone follow the rules just out of fear of ... | |
| relationship | 10/25/2004 |
| Q: I am away at college and my boyfriend is a senior in high school. The college I am attending is ... A: let me get this straight; you fly cross-country once a month to see your "boyfriend", and he blows ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship help. | 10/21/2004 |
| Q: Azure~ I met my boyfriend online 5 years ago and we have been dating steadily for 2 and a ... A: you say you don't "necessarily" have to let go, but you may have to soon enough; as hard as it may ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship help. | 10/20/2004 |
| Q: Azure~ I met my boyfriend online 5 years ago and we have been dating steadily for 2 and a ... A: with your expectations so high you're really risking alot under the circumstances, as there are a ... | |
| trust | 10/17/2004 |
| Q: My name is Maggie and I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. We have met in school a year ago ... A: as you said, this kind of insecurity usually is rooted in low self-esteem; that means you need to ... | |
| High School - College Relationship | 10/14/2004 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over 2 years. We started dating when I was a ... A: you better start listening to her; you can't expect to go through all the college years, especially ... | |
| Confused | 10/12/2004 |
| Q: only thing is shes in cali and im in hawaii. The problem I have is that I dont know if shes bored ... A: you might want to consider some changes; everyday talking could easily become routine and ... | |
| What im i doing? | 10/6/2004 |
| Q: I decided to send the man i met on the internet a text message telling him that i think we should ... A: unless you make more of an effort to figure out why you are so needy and dependent on men, this ... | |
| long distance relationship...recent fight avoidance | 9/30/2004 |
| Q: He in CA i in canada. We have flown out to see each ohter throught out the year and met and got to ... A: has nothing to do with the bar exam; as you indicated, he's jealous, insecure, controlling, and ... | |
| Long Distance "Trust Issue" | 9/28/2004 |
| Q: I'm having this problem with my girl friend right now and its really a big issue for us. Recently ... A: in any relationship, especially long distance, there's no guarantees; unfortunately, you really ... | |
| Scared of long distance | 9/27/2004 |
| Q: My boyfriend, Justin and I have been going out for almost a year and a half. Everything was gonig ... A: there's no magic remedy; alot depends on how often you can see each other and when this arrangement ... | |
| Can someone get married from a long distance relationship? | 9/23/2004 |
| Q: I am in a long distance relationship for over 6 years. My partner lives overseas, he visits me ... A: nothing you said changes my view as previously laid out; if you're as independent and secure as you ... | |
| Can someone get married from a long distance relationship? | 9/22/2004 |
| Q: I am in a long distance relationship for over 6 years. My partner lives overseas, he visits me ... A: it's amazing you've stayed in it THIS long; sometimes love works against you, as in this case; what ... | |
| I lied | 9/22/2004 |
| Q: Well, recently my girlfriend visited me up at school. I was invited to a party and I told her I ... A: i don't see it as a big deal; if you can come up with the actual, honest reason you chose to lie, ... | |
| ethics of long distant relationships | 9/15/2004 |
| Q: Is it ehtical for either party to enter into a relationship knowing of an upcoming long separation? ... A: it's not a problem "entering" an interaction, but if it begins to get more involved, the departing ... | |
| Long Distance and Girl Question | 9/7/2004 |
| Q: Azure, First let me thank-you in advance for any helpful advice you might be able to give. This ... A: not being able to see each other can make every little problem worse; you can't really get on ... | |
| move on?? | 9/3/2004 |
| Q: this is not the first time am writing.....I need serious advice.....I'm with my bf for one and a ... A: sometimes love is not only not enough, but can even work against you, as in this case; be it love or ... | |
| He cheated on me | 9/2/2004 |
| Q: My "boyfriend" of 6 years cheated on me. The girl came to his house while I was there and ... A: pain is all relative; compared to dying of cancer, your fear of loss pain is nothing; it appears ... | |
| Break up | 8/30/2004 |
| Q: he will be down there for 2 years, we have been going out for about 1 1/2 years now, we would ... A: if that's the way he wants it, so be it; obviously, his level of commitment to the relationship is ... | |
| Hi!i am a 21 year old female,and... | 8/27/2004 |
| Q: i am a 21 year old female,and my boyfriend who's 31 our in a serious relationship. okay he's a good ... A: i don't really see how anything could come of it, without causing MAJOR problems; however, it should ... | |
| Long distance relationships | 8/25/2004 |
| Q: ------------------------- Okay. I feel that I should disclose a couple of things to you. Last ... A: while the sex may be noteworthy to you, it's not really that relevant as to how this will play out; ... | |
| how to work it out | 8/22/2004 |
| Q: Followup To Question - My bf and I met online. We HAPPILY dated for 5 months, everything was ... A: you basically asked the same question again; i don't think your low self-esteem. and need to stay ... | |
| Long Term Long Distance Relationship | 8/18/2004 |
| Q: Followup To Question - I am in a long term long distance relationship. What started off as just ... A: lots of times "love" isn't enough, and may even work against your better judgment, as it is in this ... | |
| Long Term Long Distance Relationship | 8/17/2004 |
| Q: I am in a long term long distance relationship. What started off as just pen pals, thru time has ... A: not sure i can prescribe pain endurance suggestions when the real question is "why?"..if you already ... | |
| how to work it out | 8/17/2004 |
| Q: My bf and I met online. We HAPPILY dated for 5 months, everything was wonderful. We talked of ... A: you don't do anything except lower your expectations, stop waiting on a dream, lessen your contact ... | |
| Trust | 8/10/2004 |
| Q: My boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for the past 5 months, which isn't going to ... A: it's really none of his business, whatever it was that you did...you're being far too patient with ... | |
| Long distance relationships | 8/2/2004 |
| Q: I have a problem. Me and my fiance have been dating for 9 months. We have been seperated by 1100 ... A: there's not alot you can do if she chooses to think in that manner; you can tell her that her ... | |
| Is he gone? | 7/27/2004 |
| Q: I hope you don't mind me emailing you this question. My boyfriend is in the U.S army and is ... A: why haven't you asked him, much earlier, why he's not writing more?..no matter how busy he is, i can ... | |
| Long distnace relationship | 7/20/2004 |
| Q: i have been with my g\f for like 2 years and still doing the long disyance thing. i asked her to ... A: why did you promise december if you couldn't do it?...december, may, ...i don't see a few months as ... | |
| Long distance college relationship | 7/16/2004 |
| Q: Ok, my girlfriend of 2 years has graduated from highschool, she will be going to a college 2 and a ... A: i'd tend to agree with her; if you go overboard in an attempt to decrease the pain of missing, it ... | |
| LDR and Kids | 7/10/2004 |
| Q: My boyfriend of just under a year were planning to move cross country for my job at the end of the ... A: ask him the same questions; obviously, if there's no change in the circumstances, you'll probably be ... | |
| Emergency advice required | 7/9/2004 |
| Q: I met a guy on the internet. He was the sweetest. After four months of chatting he travelled across ... A: the emergency advice is to wake up, think with your mind instead of your heart, and get out of this ... | |
| Long Term Relationship and Other | 7/9/2004 |
| Q: Followup To Question - Azure, My Girlfriend and I split up at the end of May 2004 after going out ... A: bottom line; she left you for another guy; even if you did go back to her (which i don't recommend), ... | |
| Long Term Relationship and Other | 7/8/2004 |
| Q: Azure, My Girlfriend and I split up at the end of May 2004 after going out for a little under 2 ... A: no one can say if it will work, but for you to be waiting on the sidelines, hoping for that ... | |
| my boyfriend | 7/6/2004 |
| Q: Ok, i am 15 years old dating a 16 year old guy who lives about a half hour drive away. we've been ... A: don't be afraid to tell him what your requirements are for continuing the relationship; if he ... | |
| oh boy... | 6/24/2004 |
| Q: i kindof know the answer to all this myself, but anyway, here goes: boy meets girl on new year's ... A: you're out of line; instead of being supportive, sensitive, understanding, strong, you're being ... | |
| I have a long question for... | 6/17/2004 |
| Q: I have a long question for you, I met this guy in england he was in the airforce and as soon as we ... A: the choice is yours, but i wouldn't consider rekindling without real specific goals/understandings ... | |
| Long distance breakup | 6/16/2004 |
| Q: I'm sitting behind my pc very confused and sad. Well, it all started this way, I met my ex in my ... A: the odds are always against LDR'S; so many things can happen; in this case, you have to accept her ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship | 6/14/2004 |
| Q: My girlfriend is leaving soon.. and we wanna stay together.. we are young.. but not too young.. you ... A: keep in touch, but don't be afraid to give each other the freedom and independence to live as ... | |
| body language | 5/31/2004 |
| Q: I'm ready to share myself (sex) w/ my boyfriend after 1 long year of waiting. Since I've never ... A: trust me; he's not going to be concerned re; "forwardness" or be "scared" by your offer of sex; as ... | |
| being in seperate colleges may mess us up | 5/29/2004 |
| Q: I'm an 18 yr old male with a big issue to deal with. Me and my girlfriend(my first one ever) are ... A: you're right about most of your concerns, but you don't break up until something happens where one ... | |
| communication problems in LDR | 5/19/2004 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three months now. However, we met online almost two ... A: you have to decide if this particular type of guy meets your requirements for the kind of person you ... | |
| thinking about going in the airforce | 5/19/2004 |
| Q: So my boyfriend tells me one day that if i go into the airforce that we probably can't be together ... A: sometimes all the caring in the world can't save unworkable situations; going into service is a big ... | |
| did i do the right thing? | 5/4/2004 |
| Q: There have been numerous conversations between my girlfriend of 2 and a half years and I about her ... A: perhaps i did misunderstand; i thought you'd been asking her to call; in any case, i don't think ... | |
| did i do the right thing? | 5/4/2004 |
| Q: There have been numerous conversations between my girlfriend of 2 and a half years and I about her ... A: "when you can be a good girlfriend, then call me??"...c'mon, she's an equal partner, not a st. ... | |
| I'm confused... | 5/3/2004 |
| Q: let me give a little background about me. I am 38 and in the process of divorcing my husband, whom ... A: there's alot of good reasons to lower your expectations here, not the least of which is the fact ... | |
| Marriage Advise | 5/1/2004 |
| Q: I have been married since October of last year. I feel like my husband takes me for granted. He is ... A: he's only getting away with it because you're allowing him to; tell him in advance you want to talk ... | |
| cheating? | 4/29/2004 |
| Q: I am dating a woman in another city. We see each other every other weekend. She has been married ... A: asking people??... you can't be serious...why are you so paranoid?..you take her word for it, and ... | |
| LDR | 4/27/2004 |
| Q: "Hi, I am a 36 year old Belgian unmarried mother who lives in Italy, three months ago I met this man ... A: you're unfortunately in a little over your head with this; if you have to "convince" someone to be ... | |
| Please enlighten me | 4/24/2004 |
| Q: I really need your point of view here. I'm a 19 year old female college student. In Sept 2003 I met ... A: i really have no way of knowing of what's going on in his mind, but i wouldn't put alot of time and ... | |
| Long distance relationship...HELP!! | 4/5/2004 |
| Q: I met my friend (I'll call him Tim age 43,I'm 37 ) online in August 2002. He lives in Florida and I ... A: be confused no longer; your wasting yours; time waits for no one, and neither should you; in your ... | |
| Tell or Not? | 4/5/2004 |
| Q: I have been involved in a long distance relationship since Aug 03. Initially we met on the ... A: share your thoughts and feelings with her as you just did with me...explain to her your desire for ... | |
| What is the answer! | 3/29/2004 |
| Q: Im a 40 yoa man, who is in a realtionship with a 38yoa woman. My problem is very complex but to hit ... A: i'd say you did the right thing; there's many women you could love, but only one set of ... | |
| hello | 3/28/2004 |
| Q: hey im in a long distance relationship we're about 3 hours drive away from each other and the last ... A: stop chasing; it plays into his hand and ruins your self-esteem; he's getting away with this don't ... | |
| tough choice | 3/22/2004 |
| Q: I was wondering if you could give me some imput on my situation. I would greatly appreciate it. ... A: it really comes down to what is more important to you; if you do go, you should know it will ... | |
| Long-Distance Relationship Woes | 3/21/2004 |
| Q: Like some quasi Fairy Tale, I ran into a former love interest about 7 months ago, just walking down ... A: you're getting way ahead of yourself; experience your feelings, but make decisions with your head; ... | |
| Is my boyfriend cheating? | 3/21/2004 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for about four years. For the first two years we went through that ... A: time to open your eyes and get out of this denial you're in; the guy's playing you like a violin and ... | |
| Old Love - New Love | 3/16/2004 |
| Q: About 4 years ago, a relationship which lasted 4.5 years broke up. The problem was that i lied to ... A: at the moment, no need to make any final decisions; keep in touch with her, offer support, ... | |
| help | 3/12/2004 |
| Q: I dated this guy briefly about 4 yrs ago (it was definetly love, i even lost my virginity to him) ... A: so don't expect alot of change..all you can do is present to him what your needs/requirements are in ... | |
| Long Distance | 3/10/2004 |
| Q: She is going to school at San Diego University and she is very excited and thrilled to be leaving. ... A: usually in relationships one party is more insecure and needier than the other; unfortunately in ... | |
| is it worth it? | 3/4/2004 |
| Q: I am in a long distance relationship with my GF of two years. she is still in college and i already ... A: it's a tough one; only you can determine if it's "worth it.."..unless you have proof of her deceit, ... | |
| passion or love | 3/4/2004 |
| Q: i returned to my home country (one month after meeting him), we talk about plans together but how do ... A: you're probably "in love", which is a feeling of passion, sexual interest, breaking down ... | |
| how can I tell whether she is cheating | 2/18/2004 |
| Q: as you already know I am worried that my fiancee might be cheating on me. I have been worried about ... A: obviously it's impossible to know if she's cheating, but it sounds like you have enough ... | |
| My long distance realtionship | 2/16/2004 |
| Q: I was supposed to move in with my boyfriend in june but something happened and i had to move in ... A: the more bothersome it is, the more it means you're too dependent on the relationship to begin with; ... | |
| help! | 2/8/2004 |
| Q: ok i met this guy online. we met a few months after we started talking to eachother. we went out and ... A: let me get this straight; he wants to drop out of school, join a gang, he gets you pregnant at 16, ... | |
| What should I do? | 1/27/2004 |
| Q: I have been with this guy, Chris, for about 8 months now and 7 1/2 months of that has been long ... A: let's recap; here's a guy you've barely seen, lives a thousand miles away, has a reputation of being ... | |
| Long-distance Breakup | 1/12/2004 |
| Q: I met my ex-boyfriend when I was studying abroad in France about 2 years ago. While in Europe we ... A: it depends on how you define real love; m scott peck, highly respected in this area, defines love as ... | |
| LD relationship: Should I move on? | 11/25/2003 |
| Q: I've met a girl through AOL and we get along great. We've been emailing/chatting/phoning each other ... A: you're way over your head here...even with no other guy around, why are you doing talking about ... | |
| 2 hour away relationship | 11/19/2003 |
| Q: I have just started dating this man that lives 2 hours away. He is in sales and is very hard ... A: there's no "luring"...some guys can be great in these "arrangements", especially when good sex is ... | |
| is a hold healthy for our relationship? | 11/8/2003 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for about a year now. Ive been away at college for about a ... A: i'm not sure how you put a hold on feelings...usually when guys start talking about "friends" in ... | |
| help please | 10/22/2003 |
| Q: .. i really need help!!! i've been in a long distant relationship for 2 months now.. you prolly's ... A: your friends are probably right...the question is, why is your self-esteem so low that you put up ... | |
| what should i do?? | 9/29/2003 |
| Q: i met a boy on holiday about 6 weeks ago.. and we started dating.. the problem is that he lives 200 ... A: you're the victim on an infatuation; just because u have a strong attraction doesn't make it ... | |
| He has 5 kids-am I NUTS? | 9/24/2003 |
| Q: I recently(about a month ago) met a very nice guy. Smart, educated, hardworking, and witty. I ... A: you go about it S-L-O-W-L-Y...one month is not very long...you're really just getting to know ... | |
| Long distant relationships | 7/26/2003 |
| Q: My boyfreind is curretly in the army is about to get ready to go to korea for a year. He says that ... A: something in the middle--chances are he's going to mess around over there, i don't care how much he ... | |
| My gf and I have been together... | 6/26/2003 |
| Q: My gf and I have been together for almost 9 months. She lives about 1 1/2 hours away from me and I ... A: there's a question men have been trying to answer for thousands of years...i'd say it depends on how ... | |
| Long Distance Relationships | 5/25/2003 |
| Q: my question is how do you trust in a long distance relationship? I am in Florida and my boyfriend ... A: there are various ways to use the word "trust", and they all have to be earned...you can trust that ... | |
| is my boyfriend cheating | 5/7/2003 |
| Q: ok so my boyfriend and i have only been together for three months. But we say I love you, and I ... A: the fact that you even have to ask indicates you're deluding yourself for fear of losing the ... | |
| long distance in the future | 4/30/2003 |
| Q: my girlfriend and i study at the same school and are gonna graduate from college at the end of this ... A: you really don't want to try to change her mind...even if she did, you run the risk of her resenting ... | |
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