AboutMelissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I have been in plenty of long distance relationships before and I know for a fact that they do take lots of hard work and dedication. I can help with making a relationship strong enough to last even through distance, breaking up long distance, not knowing what to do when things get hard, dealing with heart break, starting to like someone else even though you are in a relationship long distance, etc. If you need advice I`m here to help and if you just need someone to talk to then I`ll be glad to listen.
Experience I have been in long distance relationships before and some have worked and some
have not. I know plenty of people who are in the same type of relationships as these.
I came across your webpage on long distance relationships when I was looking for "support/advice". Its comforting to know there are other people in the same boat as me...and more importantly have been sucessfull!!!
I have been with my boyfriend for three years and it recently became long distance when he decided to go back to school. School being four hours away, didnt seem like a lot. But it is, and in the last six months I realise how much I miss him. Not wanting to sound needy, I try to keep myself busy and distract myself on lonely days...but Im sure you know how it feels, when the other person is always on your mind!
I have always considered myself an independent woman and on several occassions recently I have been surprised at my feelings of anxiety or even jealousy. But I dont know how to explain them to my partner or even myself!! My boyfriend invited me to go to a ball with him in his university city and I declined as I couldnt take time off work. He expressed disappointment and has decided to go without me. I cant for the life of me understand why I am upset about this!!
I feel really silly and petty and cant bring myself to talk about this with anyone I know. Perhaps I shall gain some strength in writing this email!
Answer Hey Betty anne
Well jealousy for any couple, long distance or not is normal. It would be very strange if the partner did not get jealous at least once and just for a little bit. Jealousy can be a bad thing but in your case it seems ok. You sound like you are not constantly getting jealous or anything. But it's understandable why you got upset over your boyfriend going to the ball without you. I;m sure you would have wanted to be the one he went with, and the one he danced with, and had fun with and you just wanted to share that experience with him. That's normal and not a big deal at all. And like I said before it's easy t get jealous. I'm sure you get jealous that his friends or other girls get to see him more than you do, how you guys can't do a lot of things together, and of the physical closeness of others. It's normal and like I said before nothing to worry over. just don't let it get out of control where you are jealous almost everyday and really ruining the relationship over it. Anyways have a very nice day and good luck with your relationship! God bless you!
Melissa
