About Courtney Floyd Expertise Every girl at some point in her life has the desire to "Lose her virginity". My wish is that I can answer any questions they might have about the experience. I can answer any question I am given, but how much advice I can put into that question will depend on the question itself.
Experience I am a woman who went through a very unique "loss of virginity" and I have advised three of my younger siblings on their virginity loss and what to expect, what is okay, and what they probably should avoid.
Education/Credentials I am a high school graduate. I also have some college credits and too much free time.
Question im 17, 18 in may and ive always felt very strongly about keeping my virginity till i meet the "right guy." i am the only virgin out of all my friends so its been difficult to relate but ive never let it bother me. well anyways, theres this guy ive had the biggest crush on for a while and were good friends, well one day we hung out at my house not even thinking anything would happen but one thing lead to another and i ended up losing my virginity to him. it was a great experience and after it happened i felt like a new person! i didnt regret it at all surprisingly. but after a week or so he stopped talking to me completely and tired to make me made by flirting with my best friend! he turned out not being the guy i thought he was, and now i feel like ive given up a large part of me and i just dont know how to handle it. ive told my mom about it and she was upset that i gave it up to someone i didnt love, even though she still supported my decision. and to top it all off word got around and some of his friends asked me about it and ive been denying it for a month now. PLEASE HELP ME!
Answer Dear Jess,
I'm not exactly sure what your question is so I will offer up some advice. Generally if a guy is acting the way you describe, he knows what he's doing but he probably doesn't realize the impact it's having on you. I would suggest you confront him in person, and simply tell him that things are getting around and you'd rather something that personal be kept private. Also denying it is your choice but in two or three years none of those people will matter, and most likely they are all going through something similar. I personally would flat out tell them it's none of their buisness and leave it at that. If you'd like to exact revenge on the jerk trying to pick up your best friend, after you try to reason with him of course, tell him your pregnant! Be sure not to let this prank last more than a minute or two, long enough for him to be shocked, then simply say HAHA just kidding. Of course this is only what I would do. Now. I lost my virginity two weeks before I turned 18 and it turned out to be the wrong guy too, but believe it or not 90% of women lose their virginity to someone other than "the one" so don't sweat it so much! Just make sure next time you're a little more cautious about the situation and who your with. Also if your best friend is flirting back, she's not a good friend, and he's wrong for doing that. But hey, I'm still young, not too old anyway and I'm going to give you some advice. You probably know you've been changing over the past few years, but what you don't know is the amount you still will change from now until your 21 and then on. College? Job? Your life is going to become COMPLETELY different once your out of highschool and you won't even notice until it hits. So don't sweat the small stuff too much! Take a deep breath! And hey! Congradulations on taking the final step to becoming a woman! Remember to use a condom! And let me know if there's anything else I can help you with!
