Expert: Courtney Floyd - 3/27/2009

Question
3 years ago I had a sexual relation with my boyfriend.I was virgin and i didn't want to lose my virginity.During the sexual relation a very little penetration of his penis happened and i directly stopped him since i noticed a tiny red dot(not totally red,somehow light pink dot)on my underwear.I was feeling a bit of pain that day.does that mean i lost my virginity? I didn't have any relation after that

Answer
Virginity is generally considered to be lost when the hymen is broken via penitration. If there was slight to moderate blood it is possible you lost your virginity however I would bet it will feel the same to losing your virginity when you experience full intercourse. When I had my first sexual encounter I too experience a similar situation and found that when I had full intercourse I bled and felt like I would have thought losing my virginity would feel. When you lose your virginity your hymen tears slightly, hense the blood, but it's not something you can really notice yourself. The hymen is a fold of mucous membrane which surrounds or partially covers the external vaginal opening. It forms part of the vulva, or external genitalia, and it is not possible to determin weither or not someone is a virgin through any physical exam. A slang term for hymen is "cherry", as in "losing one's cherry" to mean losing one's virginity. I learned many girls break their hymens doing gymnastics which would technically make them not virgins. So in your case I would say it's all how you percieve it. From what you have told me I wouldn't expect whom ever you are with for your first full intercourse to feel anything different than they would from a virgin. I can almost 100% assure you will be just as tight. If you would like to still claim you have your virginity I would say your safe. Just make sure the first time you have intercourse it is with someone special and protected.