About Courtney Floyd Expertise Every girl at some point in her life has the desire to "Lose her virginity". My wish is that I can answer any questions they might have about the experience. I can answer any question I am given, but how much advice I can put into that question will depend on the question itself.
Experience I am a woman who went through a very unique "loss of virginity" and I have advised three of my younger siblings on their virginity loss and what to expect, what is okay, and what they probably should avoid.
Education/Credentials I am a high school graduate. I also have some college credits and too much free time.
Question Hey I have a couple of questions to ask........im 17 years and im always masturbating..........im a virgin....so its this normal.....sometimes I get this feeling in my body that I need to have sex....but I just control it.....I even thought about buying a dildo cause Im just not going to have sex with anyone....but will I loose my virginity with dildo or no ?.........I don't have a boyfriend and I don't want to have sex with any stranger....but I just get this feeling that I need to have.....please help me im really worried and I don't know what to do.....thankx
Answer Dear Ana,
First off, this feeling you are experiencing is totally normal. Unfortunatly it will not go away even after you've lost your virginity. The feeling is your body letting you know that your hormone level is high and needs to be relieved. I respect your decision to not just randomly have sex, or lose your virginity as it is something very special. Technically if you were to use a vibrator or dildo you would lose your virginity in the hymen sense. However you could easily explain to whomever you choose to first have sex with that you've never slept with anyone before. Virginity is the state of being a virgin. It is derived from the Latin virgo, which means "sexually inexperienced woman", used typically of adolescents, but also of older women, and even goddesses. So in essence of the words meaning you are sexually experienced in masterbating but your inexperienced in intercourse. Virginity is a very vague term and there are many forms of its meaning. The feeling is normal. The urge to act on that is normal. You will technically still be a virgin if you use a dildo, and yet from a medical aspect you won't be. But I believe it is the experience with the first person you are ever with that you care about keeping sacrid. Oh and try the vibrator or dildo. Maybe mix in some erotic images or pornography. Don't worry, millions of people across the world do this everyday. :) But seriously, keep waiting for the right person to share your first intercourse experience with. It's well worth the wait.
