About Courtney Floyd Expertise Every girl at some point in her life has the desire to "Lose her virginity". My wish is that I can answer any questions they might have about the experience. I can answer any question I am given, but how much advice I can put into that question will depend on the question itself.
Experience I am a woman who went through a very unique "loss of virginity" and I have advised three of my younger siblings on their virginity loss and what to expect, what is okay, and what they probably should avoid.
Education/Credentials I am a high school graduate. I also have some college credits and too much free time.
Question QUESTION: I am an older virgin, meaning I am no longer 14,15 or even a teenager and still a virgin.
My insecurity in getting into a relationship with men is since I am still a virgin I fear that they may run or not have the patience to deal with someone who is sensitive, emotionally and physically.
What advice do you have?
ANSWER: Emma,
Believe it or not, most guys will welcome the idea of your virginity. Especially if they are a nice guy willing to take it slow for your first time. To a guy, taking a woman's virginity, is a very special occation because it will only feel that way a few times. Which is not to say after that sex won't be good, but it's much like the first time you experience anything. It's more special than all the other times. I praise you for being a virgin. It's easy to give into the temptation of sex. Trust me, sex is really no good until you're with someone you consider a serious possible life-partner. So many of my friends have slept with girls whom they've had no intention of spending their life with. One has a kid, others are so screwed up they drink to forget, others just continue to find other women to sleep with. It's not a good lifestyle. But I'm getting off topic. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there in being open and honest about your virginity, but rather than worrying men will run, I want you to be extra cautious, because there are jerks out there who would only wish to take it from you to add to their score. There will come along a man who makes love to your mind before ever lusting for your body and he will be senstive, understanding, and patient with you, until you are ready. I wish I would've stayed a virgin, and waiting until I had met my husband. It means something, and he would have been patient and gentle and loving with me, versus the man who just wanted a peice of me. trust me. Don't worry, a few might be immature and run, a few might try to lie, but one will be right and you will know when you know. :)
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QUESTION: How bad does it hurt the first time?
Answer It varies from person to person. Even guys have been known to have discomfort. It really all depends on how relaxed you are, how comfortable, and if you are ready or not. Unfortunatley there is no real answer for that question. I can however tell you most women experience a slight to mild ache/discomfort. Also, sex might be uncomfortable a few times after.
