About Maggie Expertise I can answer whatever question you may have about losing your virginity and all that comes with it. I've been helping different people when it comes to sex matters since a few years.
Experience I've been answering as a volunteer since a few years questions people have about sex. I know quite a lot on the subject and I'm really up to date with it.
Question Hi, Im Thirteen And Ive Been With My Boyfriend For About 5 Months Now. Hes
A Year Older Than Me & Weve Had Allot Of Problems Which I Probablly Need
To Consider Before I Think Of Having Sex With Him, He Cheated On Me About
4 Weeks Ago At This Party ( A One Night Stand ) And We Been Working On
Our Relationship Allot. Ive Been Thinking About Sleeping With Him But I Just A
Little Scared, I Belive I Am Ready But Hes Done It Before - And I Havent And
Im Scared If He Think Im Rubbish Or If We Dont Use Protection, Because He
Didnt Before. Im Just A Little Bit Doubt Full About The Whole Thing. Its Not
Like Hes Presured Me Into Anything So I Know He Will Wait, I Just Love Him
Allot And I Think Hes the Right Guy But At The Same Time I Want To Be
Careful And Safe......Do You Have Any Advice ? x
Answer Hi Vickie,
You know you said it yourself..your partner cheated on you at a party..so that's a shock per trust you have for your partner....were it me I would suggest waiting a little bit before having sex with him even more so when you are saying you are doubtful about your decision to have sex or not with him.You know there really is no rush and as you said if your partner really cares about you, he should wait for you and not pressure you. You're only 13 honey..you'll have plenty of time to do it later on.
And I suggest whatever your decision is, to have a big talk with him..really..talk abnout safer sex (such as using a condom and both getting tested twice 6 months apart to make sure you are STIs free). I suggest having this conversation with him since that's important and you seem to fear his reaction when it comes to using a condom. And really, if you want to use condoms and he doesn't want to (he doesn't want your and his safety), then seriously he's simply NOT a great partner to be sexual with, period. Also, I'd talk with him about your fear of not being as experienced as him.
