Expert: Maggie - 8/3/2007

Question
QUESTION: ok me and my boyfriend decided to have sex.he wasn't a virgin and i was. i don't regret it but now him sore and it kind hurts when i pee.
is that normal??

ANSWER: Hi Christine,

Yep this can be normal to be sore a little bit after sex, although it shouldn't last long (more than a few days) given a lack of lubrication, rough sex, a lack of arousal, etc. So if it persists still after a few days, then I strongly recommend you to go see your gyn/doctor.

Feel free to follow-up,
take care,
Maggie.

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QUESTION: do i have have a parent to go with me to the clinic to get checked for stuff?

ANSWER: Hi again Christine,

Were it me, I'd call the clinic to ask them because the majority age vary depending on where you live. So why not take a few minutes to make a call to the clinic to ask them ? I know here in Canada for example once you reach the age of 14, you have a right to confidentiality and therefore, your parents don't know, unless you want them to, that you've consulted a doctor/gyn and they won't know also about what happen there unless in some rare circumstances (when we are talking for example about situations where your health is or have been in jeopardy which isn't the case here).

Feel free to follow-up,
take care,
Maggie.

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QUESTION: ok
do you know any clinics close to me?
do you know any ways to tell my mom if i really need to?

Answer
Hi Christine,

Since I don't know where you live, I cannot tell you what clinics you can go to. I'd have to know your location. But here's a place where you can enter your zip code or state and they will give you some clinics you can go to.

As for telling your mom, I'd suggest being honest with her and telling her you've been sexually active. That's better for her to learn it that way than learning it all by herself. I suggest you sit and have a talk with her..not just a one minute but a few minutes one. You can for example tell her you've been sexually active (although it could be an UTI which is unrelated to sex) and that you've noticed there are been some burning while you peed going on for some time now which you'd like to get checked to make sure it's not an UTI or something like that.

Feel free to follow-up,
take care,
Maggie.