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I can answer whatever question you may have about losing your virginity and all that comes with it. I've been helping different people when it comes to sex matters since a few years.

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I've been answering as a volunteer since a few years questions people have about sex. I know quite a lot on the subject and I'm really up to date with it.

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Losing Your Virginity - loosing your virginity

Expert: Maggie - 7/30/2007

Question
hi me and my girlfriend have decided to have sex. and she hasn't really done anything with a guy like being fingered etc. we tried having sex and it was really painful for her and wouldn't penetrate. is this a serious problem? what can help?

thanks in advance Marco

Answer
Hi Marco,

This doesn't seem like a serious problem, no. A lot of other people are in the same boat as you. Were you both fully ready at 100 % to have sex, was she in the mood for it, was she fully relaxed, did you do lots of foreplay in order to make her really aroused before attempting intercourse, did you use lube ? Those are all the thing you have to rule out. Also, has your partner ever gone to a gyn before to make sure everything was okay with her ?

I'll let you some articles for you to read. It might really help to take a look at those :
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/from_ow_to_wow_demystifying_painful_inter... (This one among all the others might be really useful !)
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfriend/ready_or_not_the_scarleteen_sex_read...
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/first_intercourse_101

Feel free to follow-up,
take care,
Maggie.

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