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Male Masturbation/masturbation within long term relationships


Hi there,
How much masturbation is too much? Is 2-3 times per day ok?

Also, I am about to move in with my girlfriend. What is the deal when it comes to masturbating within a long term relationship? Obviously, we'll be sharing a bed and having more sex than we ever have before, so may not feel such a desire to masturbate. However, when I work away for instance or if I'm home alone, I may want to pleasure myself. Is this acceptable in a long term relationship and is it any different when it comes to marriage?

Some people who are actively having sex with a partner don't masturbate at all, or only infrequently.  Some masturbate on the days they don't have sex with their partner.  2-3 times a day is a very high frequency.  If you're having sex 3-4 times a week, then you'll probably only want to masturbate once or twice a week, and maybe not even that much.

Yes, it is OK to masturbate if you're separated from your lover.

Feel free to ask me more questions!

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