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QUESTION: I am 23 years old I have been masterbating for 12 years. I began to masterbate 3 or 4 times a day. In the begging it took long time to ejaculation after a while I've been having early ejaculation and a little sore started in my pennis I thought it's common. But recently I had sex with my girlfriend I ejaculated sperm with little penetration and no stronger erection. It happened within seconds. It was my first time I thought early sperm ejaculation caused by tension. Yesterday same scene was repeated I had no stronger erection and sperm was ejaculated within seconds. it worries me. I want to die with the shame. Is there any good results with natural ways? please help me
         Thank you,

ANSWER: If you've only recently become sexually active, then I think you're learning and just need more practice.  If you're still masturbating 3 or 4 times a day, that is an extreme frequency that will probably interfere with your ability to have intercourse.  I would suggest cutting back to no more than once per day on the days that you masturbate and then taking a couple of days off from masturbation altogether before you have intercourse.

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QUESTION: Yesterday I had intercourse again, with a little penetration I had ejaculation. Than surfed the internet and found that my penis head too sensitive and I never tried to touch it when I was masturbating. Now its causing the real problem is there any techniques to solve this problem and is there any use with sex toys?
         thank you

ANSWER: If you're ejaculating prematurely, you could try using a condom during intercourse.  In addition, there's something called delay cream or delay spray (an anesthetic) that you could apply to your glans.  I don't know about using a sex toy to work on this.  I think the problem is still that you need more practice.

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QUESTION: Actually I used condom.But I had PE. When I masturbate I visualize like real at that movement I ejaculate early when I dont visualize properly it will take even 30 min to ejaculate. Is this anxiety? Is it causing PE? how to avoid this problem?

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You ought not be concerned about PE when you've only had sex a few times.  Take time to get used to intercourse before you decide you have a sexual dysfunction.  Practice makes perfect.  Many males are very rapid to reach ejaculation their first few times having intercourse.  It doesn't mean there's a long-term dysfunction in store for you if you're one of them.

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