AboutDr. Joseph Abraham Expertise Skills to build and maintain relationships; how to handle marriage crisis; dealing with abusive or unhealthy marriage life
Experience Since 1978 has practiced as a personal and family counseling psychologist. From the 90' has been involved in developing and practicing online counseling processes.
Publications see articles at www.dr-joseph.com
Education/Credentials M.A, Psychology, California State University, Fresno, CA, USA
PhD, Behavioral Science, The Technion Inst., Haifa, Israel
Licensed as a Psychologist and as a 'Specialist' in Psychology - Ministry of Health, Israel
Question My husband I have been married for just over a year. I went through a spell in our 3-year relationship where I was physically abusive to him. I would slap his face mostly. I also, on a few occasions hit and kicked him wherever my hand or foot landed. I finally realized that this behavior was uncalled for and I stopped doing it. Now, the tables have turned and he is abusive to me. (alot worse than I was, I might add) Whenever he gets angry with me, he usually starts by backhanding the side of my head. He will do this repeatedly. He has also dragged me through our apartment by my hair and once, he chocked me so hard that I nearly fainted. I dont know what to do about this. I feel that it is my fault because Jeffery never would hit me before. I feel that because I was abusive to him first, he is giving me what I deserve. But I also want this to stop and I do not want a divorce. In spite of this all, I love my husband very much. On top of all of this, Jeffery recently has been using drugs. He has stolen money out of my purse and has wrote almost $1500 in bad checks. I am almost certain that he will have a felony charge and possibly go to prison. I need help figuring all of this out. Please help me I dont know what to do!
Answer Your description of your marital mental and emotional state allows me to advice that the two of you, individually as well as a couple, would immediately start a counseling process.
A good professional assessment should be based on the family history, the options regarding future communication and intimacy building and other psychological and family procedural factors. The counseling process that would follow should be focused on your personal, emotional and cognitive assets that you both had brought and may bring to your marriage.
