AboutDonald Bosch Expertise I can answer most questions concerning marriage, commitment to a spouse, and what it takes to make a marriage an excellent and enriching experience for both partners.
Experience I have been married for 23 years to a wonderful treasure of a woman. We are now young retirees living on a small private island without road access to the mainland. This is not necessarily because I wish to keep my wife in a safe place, but more so because we enjoy each others company so much that we decided to move away from the mainstream hustle-bustle of society. We sold our business to change our lifestyle to allow for more time together. This allows me to spend 24 hours per day with my wife who also happens to be my best buddy, 7 days per week, 12 months per year. As we evolve together, we find more and more happiness in our marriage. We have raised a child and have lived, worked and loved together with harmony and happiness for a long time and will continue to do so. I can speak from my own experience and perhaps help others understand what is necessary to find happiness with your spouse. Married life is a challenge for many, but should not be at all. It is a commitment that needs to be nurtured and consistently maintained, and there are ways to make this quite easy to do.
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Expert: Donald Bosch Date: 7/13/2008 Subject: The ex
Question My husband and I split 2 years ago this summer. What sparked the problems was I lost my mother and grandmother (my core family) within 3 months of each other and all of a sudden he came to me saying "he felt he needed to be on his own", confessed to cheating over the years etc. He said he felt that way for about a year but ofcourse how and when he sprang it upon me was pretty brutal. We are now living in the same city again and every 3-4 months I hear from him-I think he wants to keep tabs. I guess is it normal that I still think of him now and again and wonder how he is, even after 2 years. I was with him for 10 1/2 years. Part of me feels I should not even be caring about him especially with what he put me through-any advice here?
Answer Hi Sarah,
Let's assume you were sitting on the sidelines and heard a story similar to the one you are telling me. Would you be inclined to tell the person involved anything else than "Cut the ties"?
I think that you have suffered enough at the hands of this fellow, don't you?
It is normal perhaps that you think about him once and again, but never forget that he showed his true character by way of his actions, which were rather detrimental to say the least. At he chose to do this at the worst possible time. Pretty telling of how he values integrity and respect.
Retain the memories of what was good, but stay away would be my advice.
You should be looking for nothing else than what YOU believe to be the perfect man for you at this point in life. You have earned it.
He had his chance and blew it. You are worth more and he showed that he just didn't have what was needed to be with you.
He has no reason to keep tabs other than his own ego, in my view. Don't cater to it.
