AboutPastor Kimberly Lemler Expertise As an ordained minister, life coach, and counselor, I can help you answer questions related to marriage based on the Bible. I have been through a divorce due to adultery and know the pain of losing a marriage and having to rebuild my life. I have been happily remarried for 16 years.
Outside of AllExperts I can be reached at:
Walk By Faith Counseling Center
www.GodsHealingPower.org
Experience
Experience in the area I have been happily married for 16 years. I do street ministry, phone ministry, e-mail ministry, in-office and home ministry and have ministered on a worldwide prayerline. I am a life coach as well and I have a weekly radio broadcast.
Publications I have a Healing CD ready which is available on our website, along with our other CD's.I also have a weekly radio teaching broadcast.
Education/Credentials I am a former school teacher, a graduate of Indiana University,1984. I have received biblical instruction at Victory Bible Institute and am currently working on a PhD in healing through Christian Leadership Seminary. I have also completed studies under Art Mathias of Wellspring Ministries in How TO Minister To Others. In addition I have taken classes through CHarles and Frances Hunter on How To Heal The Sick
Past/Present Clients I have ministered to many, many clients over a 15 year period.
Education/Credentials
I am a former school teacher, a graduate of Indiana University,1984. I have received biblical instruction at Victory Bible Institute and am currently working on a PhD in ministry. Past/Present Clients I have ministered to many, many clients over a 15 year period.
Expert: Pastor Kimberly Lemler Date: 7/9/2008 Subject: how to not feel resentful towards future spouse
Question I recently moved in with my fiance as well as my 2 children. I've known him for 8 years. I feel like I given up everything and its not making me happy. I have to meet all his friends who ride motorcyles occasionally which im not into. I feel stressed as his friend drove up from Arizona to meet us in Holester just to meet me and we are going this Friday. I'm sad to leave my 6 and 5 year old, even though there with my dad. He wants me to be best friends with his other friends who are girls and im feeling pressure with that and to give up my kids school which im not happy about as his commute to work is 3 to 5 minutes where we are now. How do I make this work and not feel resentful? We'll be married next May. I dont know how to talk to him and not be depressed.
Answer Hi Angela,
I am getting HUGE RED FLAGS as I read your letter. I don't think you are ready to get married to this man. You really shouldn't be living with him, along with your children, before you are married. God is clear on this in His Word...
You are expressing resentment and depression and there is something seriously wrong with feeling that way in looking forward to your wedding. You know, God speaks to us in a still, small voice and we need to listen. We need to heed the warnings that He gives us because He is the only one who can look ahead to see what our future will be like with that person. He is the only One who can saves us from disaster...
Do you have a relationship with the Lord? If not, I suggest that you receive Him as Lord and Savior and allow Him to give you the wisdom and guidance you need.
My opinion is that you rethink this whole thing and start looking UP for your answers. You will find them... Right now you are having too many doubts to move forward with this marriage.
