AboutDr. Joseph Abraham Expertise Skills to build and maintain relationships; how to handle marriage crisis; dealing with abusive or unhealthy marriage life
Experience Since 1978 has practiced as a personal and family counseling psychologist. From the 90' has been involved in developing and practicing online counseling processes.
Publications see articles at www.dr-joseph.com
Education/Credentials M.A, Psychology, California State University, Fresno, CA, USA
PhD, Behavioral Science, The Technion Inst., Haifa, Israel
Licensed as a Psychologist and as a 'Specialist' in Psychology - Ministry of Health, Israel
Question hello
well lets start off with that i am a young gay proffesional, i had traveled to massachusetts with now my husband and got maried , we will be going 2 years married on december 20. we had our ups and downs in our relationsip and again i feel like i am stuck at the end of the road. the issue here is he never puts his part in on our relationship, i ahve left the house for a few days ,yelled cried and even had a few physical fights over this dillemma , ii would ask him to do something for me and he would wait hours or even it has taken up too 4 days for certain things to get done, sy=uch as dishes,moping,laundry etc, i can keep the list on, even when it comes to the 4 dogs we own he will make them wait 6 hours before he feeds them. i am very frustrated that i have given up in v=even bothering in asking him about it. i dont know what to do, i think to my self almost everyday that i give up and i want to moe on , but then he has a very caring side of m=him and i began to feel bad. please help me. now here goes the root of this problems he spends to much time on the internet talking to his past friends and it goes on for atleast 8 hours a day or so. i am up to my head with this and i dont know what to do. i can ask him to take out the trash for me or ill be sitting behind him waiting for him because i have to be somewhere and he will tell me im being impatient after waiting for 1 hour or so, an example of that was done today. We were suppose to meet his sister at the park at around 5 30 pm to take the dogs for a walk , we did not leave this house till 6 30 after yeling at him and yet he blamed it on me that im impatient and i have to stop nagging him. please help me im on my last stand with this bullshit.
Answer There are two alarming statements in your letter:
...even had a few physical fights...
and ...now here goes the root of this problems: he spends to much time on the internet talking to his past friends…
Your overall situation is complex. There is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A type of a response to your current question(s).
I do not see good chances of success without involving a professional help.
Obviously, I recommend opening the line of communication between all of you, but it is easy said than done.
Faded love and conflicts are, upon my experience, symptoms, not caouses. You therefore would benefit a lot from a structural method that would open the line of communication between the two of you. Thereafter you would be able to focus on your mutual emotional and cognitive assets that each of you had brought and may bring to your marriage.
The overall process may take about 3-4 months.
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