| Subject | Date Asked |
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| jelousy in the marriage | 10/6/2008 |
Q: i love and adore my wife and have put her through hell in the past, but the reason i am writing to ...
A: James, The issue of jealousy cannot be resolved by a ‘cook book’ answer or a ‘to do list’; I have ...
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| Husband problems | 10/4/2008 |
Q: My husband and i have been married for a little over three years and together more than ten. We ...
A: ChaMetra, It is my impression that your husband’s behavior is not the problem. It is yours. You ...
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| Another child in not too good marriage? | 10/2/2008 |
Q: my marriage is not very healthy. My husband have a bad temper, he often curse and slamming things ...
A: Nadezda, I cannot comment on someone’s medical issues. Generally speaking, depression is treated ...
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| Totally Frustrated. | 10/1/2008 |
Q: Abraham, I am very frustrated in my marriage. My wife and I were virtually sexless for about 10 ...
A: Tom, There is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A to your marriage situation; ...
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| Another child in not too good marriage? | 9/30/2008 |
Q: my marriage is not very healthy. My husband have a bad temper, he often curse and slamming things ...
A: Nadezda, My advice is: "NO". Your son has no dead line. Your health and his need for a 'clean' ...
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| dillema | 9/29/2008 |
Q: I got married to my love after 9 years(since i was 15) of strong affair. Now we are 5 years married ...
A: Anchal, I assume that your issue is not about your husband’s porno habit (this is just a painful ...
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| Marriage Trust / Snooping | 9/28/2008 |
Q: I cheated on my wife a year and half ago. It was a drunken night, one night only, I never even had ...
A: Smiley, You ask clear cut questions but life is not so easy: there is no ‘cook book’ answer or a ...
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| Husband doesn't love me anymore | 9/24/2008 |
Q: After 23 years of marriage, a grown daughter and two 18-year-olds, my husband suddenly asks for a ...
A: Vicki, There is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A type of response to your ...
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| Marriage Trust / Snooping | 9/19/2008 |
Q: I cheated on my wife a year and half ago. It was a drunken night, one night only, I never even had ...
A: Smiley, Your value system (regarding sexuality, privacy, things that are allowed for men but not ...
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| a new old romance | 9/8/2008 |
Q: I started to date this man 9 years ago a it was great at first. He has two kids that loved me and I ...
A: kelly, You ask a clear cut question but life is not so easy, and there is no "quick fix" to you ...
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| Immature needy wife | 9/7/2008 |
Q: Sir, I apologize in advance for a very long winded situation. I have been married for a little over ...
A: Jeremy, You ask a clear cut question but life is not so easy: there is no ‘cook book’ answer or a ...
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| he's not happy | 9/6/2008 |
Q: my husband is angry with me the issue is not that he is angry but he is holding on to this anger and ...
A: Roz, I’m sorry for your pain and fear, but I’m encouraged from your determination. The real ...
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| Friendship | 9/5/2008 |
Q: Ok well here is the thing,my wife and i started out married,and by that i mean we never built a ...
A: Dan, There is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A type of a respond to your ...
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| My Paranoid Husband | 9/5/2008 |
Q: I'm a 45 year old woman and my husband's 48 years old. Me and my husband have been married for many ...
A: Cathy, I assume that your husband is not paranoid; it is probably a pride issue. There are men ...
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| my husband hates my family | 9/4/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married almost 2 years and have a 11 month old little girl. Since we ...
A: Erica, Do not pinpoint on your husband. Ask yourself, only, why your voice was not spoken well ...
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| when is enough enough | 9/3/2008 |
Q: I am married to a man 11 years younger than me for 8 years and out of the 8 years he might have held ...
A: No Angie, He loves you very much, because you have constantly treated him like a spoiled kid for so ...
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| Toil & Trouble! | 9/2/2008 |
Q: Good afternoon, I feel like our marriage has reached its end yet I still have hope. We have three ...
A: Sara, Marriage is a long term reciprocal relationship and therefore any one’s 'Mood' or drinking ...
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| Toil & Trouble | 9/2/2008 |
Q: Good afternoon, I feel like our marriage has reached its end yet I still have hope. We have three ...
A: Sara, Marriage is a long term reciprocal relationship and therefore any one’s 'Mood' or drinking ...
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| Husband's obsession is worrying me... | 8/27/2008 |
Q: this problem is hard for me to solve and embarrassing too, but i really need help. I'm 28 and my ...
A: Michelle, I’m not familiar with the phenomena of masturbating around food or food pictures; ...
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| tired | 8/26/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 14yrs and my wifes behaviour is starting to get to me,She never keeps time ...
A: Haji, Since 'good relationship' and 'love' are complex things, there is no simple ‘cook book’ ...
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| Husband says doesn't love me - time to give up? | 8/24/2008 |
Q: Dr. Abraham - My husband and I have been married 15 years and we have 4 children ages 12, 8 and ...
A: Meg, Use this ‘event’ with the lady as a good opportunity to re-assess your marriage relationship. ...
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| marriage problem | 8/23/2008 |
Q: I hope you can help me for I am at a loss right now with my current situation....my husband left ...
A: Regina, Anger, temper and upset mood are problems that have many explanations, theories and ...
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| husband filing for divorce | 8/22/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for three years. The past year has been hell. To avoid giving ...
A: Heidi, The situation that you described is not hopeless. A professional counseling process can ...
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| Separation / Depression | 8/20/2008 |
Q: Recently my wife of 11 years told me that she was unhappy. That she didn't know why. She said that ...
A: Michael, Marriage is a long term reciprocal relationship and therefore any one’s ‘Mood Change’, ...
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| help | 8/16/2008 |
Q: what can i do when i feel sad all the time about our relationship and i just need him to pay ...
A: Jennifer, Since there is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A type of response ...
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| Menopause | 8/11/2008 |
Q: I am 58 and my wife is 46, we have been married for 25 years. Up till now we had both assumed that ...
A: Paul, I assume that there is an interaction effect: each factor could be handled, but the joint ...
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| We lost everything and now my husband of 5 yrs wants to leave me & our children | 8/9/2008 |
Q: My husband is my best friend. We've known each other for almost ten years & been married 5. We've ...
A: I just told you, a few hours ago, about the ways men are building their status. Please re-read. Now ...
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| We lost everything and now my husband of 5 yrs wants to leave me & our children | 8/9/2008 |
Q: My husband is my best friend. We've known each other for almost ten years & been married 5. We've ...
A: Men are simple creatures due to their single minded circuit that can hold STATUS as the only ...
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| marriage/jealousy | 8/8/2008 |
Q: My husband has problems with jealousy and I'm tired of it. I feel unhappy, unappreciated, and ...
A: Mayra, Wait. Consider your steps, plan your 1-2 years, come to a divorce agreement, and only ...
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| Is it abuse? | 8/7/2008 |
Q: I am not sure where to begin. My husband and I were married a little over one month ago. He has ...
A: Lindsey, No, it is not abuse. But Yes, it is a very complex stress reaction, probably induced by ...
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| Divorced yet dating each other again. | 8/6/2008 |
Q: I am in a unique situation. My husband and I were married for 4 years, it was a hard marriage ...
A: 1. Is it common? 5-10% of divorcees, according to my personal experience (which is not scientific ...
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| new mariage | 8/2/2008 |
Q: A friend of mine is 30 year old. He wants to marry an 18 year old girl. They would like to have ...
A: We have seen this episode in Woody Allen's life story and his adopted daughter that he finally ...
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| sexless marraige | 7/31/2008 |
Q: Can a sexless marriage lead to other problems? my wife told me at one point sex is like a chore that ...
A: Sexless marriage is very unhealthy, for both partners. Sex is not for men only. The joy of sex is a ...
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| disagreeing | 7/30/2008 |
Q: Dr. Abraham, What do you make of a couple who has never raised their voices in 18 years of marriage? ...
A: Are you good roommates? If so, it is time to say good-bye, or call a professional counselor. Do you ...
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| Wife is using the internet to meet men for chat. | 7/25/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 17 years (Me 44 and her 41 yrs old) and up till my son was born and his ...
A: I do not see good chances of success without involving a professional help. Obviously, I recommend ...
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| My husband is smothering me | 7/22/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for about a year and a half now. However, we have only been ...
A: Let us go first to the more common sense explanation: I assume that from your husband’s point of ...
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| Remarried With Children | 7/22/2008 |
Q: We have been married a year and a half. I have a 9 year old daughter and he has a 7 year old ...
A: I’m not sure however that my reply is according to your expectation… I do not have a “real” answer ...
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| jealousy | 7/22/2008 |
Q: I have several problems but I think they may all be related. I have been with my husband for 4 ...
A: I’m not sure that my reply is according to your expectation… I do not have a “real” answer for you. ...
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| his change of heart | 7/21/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years now. We have been together for 8 years. We share the ...
A: … I love him, but there has never been any passion between us… his body language is very closed off. ...
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| Jealousy | 7/19/2008 |
Q: My wife has a very strong jealous of her cousin who is living with us in the same house (but ...
A: Jealousy may be dysfunctional, once it origins from a paranoid personality. Usually, however, it is ...
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| Husband wants to be a rock star | 7/18/2008 |
Q: We've been married 3 years, and have been together ten. After returning home from a business trip ...
A: You both do need a professional help. Do not use the 'do it yourself' method. Offer my online phone ...
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| What should I do? | 7/17/2008 |
Q: Just to give a summary of what happened, I had a 2 mo. relationship outside of my 10 year marriage ...
A: I think that the main issue is not her attitude, but yours: ...I'm having trust issues with her ...
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| lazy husband | 7/14/2008 |
Q: well lets start off with that i am a young gay proffesional, i had traveled to massachusetts with ...
A: There are two alarming statements in your letter: ...even had a few physical fights... and ...now ...
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| The ex | 7/13/2008 |
Q: My husband and I split 2 years ago this summer. What sparked the problems was I lost my mother and ...
A: It is usually most advisable not to look backward, but to step forward. Concentrate on your social ...
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| What The Heck Is Going ON??? | 6/28/2008 |
Q: My wife of 19 1/2 years suddenly and without warning decided to separate from our marriage. She ...
A: There is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A type of a respond to your current ...
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| abuse and drugs | 6/27/2008 |
Q: My husband I have been married for just over a year. I went through a spell in our 3-year ...
A: Your description of your marital mental and emotional state allows me to advice that the two of you, ...
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| Marriage in trouble, help! | 6/19/2008 |
Q: I've been married for 26 years. My husband has always had trouble sticking with a job. He's had 17 ...
A: The marriage problem is secondary. The primary problem could be solved by a vocational counseling ...
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| marriage troubles | 6/16/2008 |
Q: My husband and I separated for eight months, I threw him out after ten months of marriage and a ...
A: First, please go to: http://dr-joseph.blogspot.com/2008/06/low-chance-to-save-this-marriage.html ...
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| Communication, respect, & compromise | 6/15/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 2 years, together for 10. Lately we're just not getting ...
A: First, any addiction, including work-coholism / "freinds" + fighting and arguing is a problem that ...
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| Husband is impulsive | 6/12/2008 |
Q: I don't know if you can assist here with this one and it is a big one for you. Background We have ...
A: Anger, temper and upset mood are problems that have many explanations, theories and treatment ...
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| Relationship on the Brink of Explosion | 6/9/2008 |
Q: At this point in time I do not know what say except help. My husband and I are on the brink of ...
A: Anger, temper and upset mood are problems that have many explanations, theories and treatment ...
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| mariage consling | 6/6/2008 |
Q: "hi, i'm married college student .my problem started when i give my number to 2 male classmates ...
A: Your situation is not easy: you are married to whom you love, but you have realized that he is ...
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| 2nd Marriages | 6/5/2008 |
Q: It's hard to sum up everything I question. At this point I am very close to giving up. Everything ...
A: Your situation is painful indeed. You had high hopes but you were left with a second grade respect. ...
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| Husband won't talk to me about our marriage problems. | 6/4/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 2 years and together for 10. We have 2 children, aged 3.5 and ...
A: Since the family is a system, each component has the capacity to influence the others. You are ...
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| troubled marriage | 6/3/2008 |
Q: i am in an unhappy marriage, i am thinking about divorcing him. he is abusive (verbally), and we are ...
A: Marriage is something that you should try to keep and heal. The emotional, social and financial ...
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| Partners drinking | 5/28/2008 |
Q: My partner who I have been together with since I was 17 were are now 40 insists that he wishes to ...
A: I'm fully aware about your concerns, fears and frustrations. You both definitely need professional ...
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| Am I too suspicious | 5/25/2008 |
Q: My wife started going home to columbus, ohio with just our 2 children to visit her family. I was ...
A: Many times a particular behavior may serve as a symptom that indicates that a serious issue is ...
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| Ethical question | 5/18/2008 |
Q: Dr Abraham, I was seeing a counselor to address some personal issues. My fiance started seeing her ...
A: It is definitely better to have only one counselor that both partners feel good and confident with. ...
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| My husband is wants to leave | 5/12/2008 |
Q: 3 months ago my husband told me that he doesnt feel attracted to me and no longer feels love for me. ...
A: My best advice to you was to strengthen yourself, and actually ignore (at this point of your ...
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| I really messed up | 5/7/2008 |
Q: Abraham, I really hope you can help me on this one. First some backround. Back in 2004 I was ...
A: I was taking the time to think and reflect regarding your ‘miss’ story. My ‘other ear’ could not ...
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| break up | 4/30/2008 |
Q: this may not be for this category, but you look like the most qualified. i dated my girlfriend for ...
A: It would not be professionally serious to assess things so quickly and get into such a specific ...
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| can my marriage survive? | 4/30/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been a couple for 20 years and married 11.5 years.We separated September ...
A: Your loss of the child is indeed a terrible tragedy. Once such unfortunate things happened, it is ...
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| break up | 4/29/2008 |
Q: this may not be for this category, but you look like the most qualified. i dated my girlfriend for ...
A: I do not see the advantage of trying to understand her. You should concentrate on your behavior, ...
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| break up | 4/28/2008 |
Q: this may not be for this category, but you look like the most qualified. i dated my girlfriend for ...
A: I’ll start with general remarks about dating and relationship building, and thereafter will give you ...
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| verbally and emotionally abusive spouse | 4/24/2008 |
Q: I have been in my relationship for going on 8 years now, 4 of the 8 years married. I have 2 children ...
A: You are puzzled - - I just don't understand why he has to be so hateful - - - - but you know that ...
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| verbally and emotionally abusive spouse | 4/24/2008 |
Q: I have been in my relationship for going on 8 years now, 4 of the 8 years married. I have 2 children ...
A: I'm trying to be supportive and provide my professional opinion in a friendly way... but my sympathy ...
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| we're not getting along.. | 4/14/2008 |
Q: I'm mad cause I think he drinks too much and is not prioritizing his responsibilities and leaves ...
A: Drinking is a problem that has many explanations, theories and treatment approaches. Mine is that ...
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| Looking at women | 4/14/2008 |
Q: Joseph I am from India and Just newly married about 18 months. 8-12 months down the marriage, my ...
A: Marriage issues are always the two persons' issues. However, it is better to start as soon as ...
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| Looking at women | 4/14/2008 |
Q: Joseph I am from India and Just newly married about 18 months. 8-12 months down the marriage, my ...
A: The underlying psychological surface of such a behavior is, in many cases, telling something about ...
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| How to make someone feel good | 4/11/2008 |
Q: What are some things I can do or say to make my husband feel loved again? Our relationship is ...
A: The three factors 'true and long-lasting relationship" theory calls for activities that promote: 1. ...
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| Fading love | 4/11/2008 |
Q: Although we are not technically married, we've been together three years, and living together for ...
A: It could be that your feelings signal the reality: that this relationship has no good future. This ...
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| Help | 4/7/2008 |
Q: I am a first grade teacher and was married to my husband (an airline pilot). We have a four year ...
A: There are two different relationships here, which require two different attitudes: First is the ...
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| insecure husband | 4/3/2008 |
Q: I'm 27, my husband is 30. We've been married for about 3 years and dated for about 3 years prior ...
A: The tendency to "fight or flight" at times of crisis brings many to be both aggressive and passive / ...
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