Marriage/Questions Answered by Expert Dr. Joseph Abraham
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Husband hiding money | 2/25/2011 |
| Q: I recently found out that my husband is hiding money, cashing business checks, and when asked he ... A: Do not split issues between counselors. Take your question to the counseling session. Regards, ... | |
| Unsure | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: Ok. I'm having issues in my marriage right now, and I believe it is breaking us apart. I seriously ... A: Your situation is too complicated for a short e-mail reply; 1-2 sessions are needed. See my website ... | |
| pOST-NUPTIAL AGREEMENT | 2/14/2011 |
| Q: i am married with no children and i'm young very young 24 years old. Well my question is can i write ... A: This is a legal, not a psychological question. Plz consult a legal expert. Regards, Dr. Joseph ... | |
| MARRIAGE | 2/12/2011 |
| Q: WHY DOES MY HUSBAND INSIST WE USE THE BED HE AND HIS DECEASED WIFE SHARED? WHEN I TALK TO HIM ABOUT ... A: The issue is complex; involves your sex life. I cannot address the proper way to solve it without ... | |
| abt love marriage | 2/5/2011 |
| Q: I am 23 yr old ,i love my girlfriend too much and want to marry with her,as her father and mother ... A: The issue is complex; I cannot address the proper way to solve it without 1-2 hours of listening and ... | |
| constantly irritated | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for the last 3 1/2 years and have 2 children lately I find ... A: From his point of view - it seems indeed that you reject him. There are reasons for that, but ... | |
| arguing | 1/25/2011 |
| Q: I am engaged to a man who is genuinely a very gentleman: responsible and kind. He is a dream of ... A: This control and jealousy is not "a silly problem". You may find yourself in a deep problem with ... | |
| When is it best to get married? | 1/22/2011 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for little over a year now. We met back in senior year of high ... A: It seems that it is too early; this is not the age factor, but the financial ability to handle ... | |
| past of my husband | 1/15/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 years, I am happy but I have had to work very hard for this marriage. Many ... A: Regarding your first question (Am I all wrong distrusting him over a thing he did while single): my ... | |
| 12 year marriage, step child | 1/4/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have 4 children ages 9 to 1. He has a daughter ... A: The issue is complex; cannot be addressed based on your e-mail alone. Solving it require several ... | |
| Marriage in Crisis | 12/28/2010 |
| Q: I've been with my husband for approx. 12 years and married to him for 9 years. We have three ... A: The issue is complex; never understood only by listening to one side. Most likely - involves your ... | |
| Marriage/Commitment | 12/27/2010 |
| Q: I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 34; we've been dating for 4 years now, and I feel like it ... A: The only thing that is needed is to convince the guy to cunsult a professional. He is blocked ... | |
| need for my wife to fall in love with me again | 12/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 18 years now; dated 4 more, 22 total. We have live a very difficult ... A: Your issue is too complesx for a short reply. You need counseling. Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham, ... | |
| Lost trust due to hidden information | 12/9/2010 |
| Q: My husband kept the following information from me. He tracked an old school friend and talked to her ... A: I suspect you may not like my answer, Lea… Intimacy means that private thoughts and feelings are ... | |
| Lost and Unhappy | 12/6/2010 |
| Q: About 5 years ago my wife and I adopted 2 children ages 3 and 6. It was an adjustment for us both ... A: Find cponseling that help. No other way. You should not expect for any 'quick-fix' advice. Onlu ... | |
| Should I Get Married? | 10/4/2010 |
| Q: I am engaged to what I think is a wonderful person.I know he can be kind and loving, but there are a ... A: Either 1. run, quickly as possible, and start a better life or 2. immediately start counseling. ... | |
| affection, sex, communication | 9/25/2010 |
| Q: I am quite young, early twenties, I have married a woman I love more than anything. I am willing to ... A: Indeed a very painful situation. Psychologically speaking, there is no such a thing as 'she / he ... | |
| spouse kissing | 9/11/2010 |
| Q: I have found out after 16 years of what I thought was a very good marriage, I'm not a good kisser ... A: There is no magic short e-mail reply that would transform your life. Bbut relatively speaking, it is ... | |
| how to choose a husband for me | 9/7/2010 |
| Q: I am a muslim girl who lives in a country that is still relates to the old thoughts and all what ... A: I know your situation since I had many students from your social background. This is not a simple ... | |
| Husband is going through a crisis | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: Last weekend, my husband decided that he "can't do this anymore." He feels he was too young to get ... A: Usually people do not leave for something (pulled to) unless they are unhappy with something (pushed ... | |
| one woman guy | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: So I have been with my husband since high school, we were together for 5 years before we got ... A: It is my opinion that the attraction to a potential 'other lady' is caused by your mutual poor sex ... | |
| marriage | 7/27/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I are in our 50's,have been married for 25 years and have raised two children. We have a ... A: I cannot provide a professional opinion since too many factors are unknown to me. Nevertheless, ... | |
| How to rebuild my marriage n keeping my husband from falling in love with someone else | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: a couple of moths ago my husband n i got into an arguement n he is now in cotact with a woman that ... A: I think that your husband's behavior could not be efficiently changed without dealing and healing ... | |
| is it time? | 7/16/2010 |
| Q: How do you know when its time to end a marriage? How do you know that the broken pieces just wont ... A: No short e-mail reply is sufficient here. Without much more info about many other factors that are ... | |
| Advice | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: MARRIED 9/30/03 Separated 1/25/08 My wife(41) and i(39) have been apart for 2 1/2 years, ... A: Her reasons are reasonable. The waiting period should allow you to re-connect and re-establish a ... | |
| my wife | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: my wife and i got married on may 5th 2010 and 4 days after i got tasked to come to iraq i left 15 ... A: Your wife needs counseling. It is impossible for me or any professional to know what to do or to ... | |
| un happy married life and arguements | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: ""I have been married for 6 months to a guy I knew only for 4 months. We have a 6 yrs age difference ... A: No short e-mail reply is sufficient here. Without much more info about you both and your marriage ... | |
| Relationship problems | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: Joseph,Iam from India,24 years old female.Iam in love with a guy for past 5 years,he is 25 years ... A: Too complicated to explain why, but my answer is: move on. You don't want the old fasion male ... | |
| taking a break in a relationship | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a passionate, hot and cold relationship for 2 years. Its either really good or at ... A: The info is not enough; a professional answer must be based on many factors. It takes 1-2 sessions ... | |
| marriage of 29 years | 5/1/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 29 years to a sweet man that seems to have multiple problems. Our marriage ... A: Too complicated; don't expect a short 'free e-mail advice' to solve so serious marriage issues. No ... | |
| 20 years of marriage..can it be saved? | 4/27/2010 |
| Q: I have been married 20years and over the years I have realized that I am in a very abusive ... A: Too complex for a short e-mail reply. No eazy quick-fix solution is there for you without a serious ... | |
| 20 years of marriage..can it be saved? | 4/27/2010 |
| Q: I have been married 20years and over the years I have realized that I am in a very abusive ... A: It is about time Tina! Never too late; better now then never. No, you are not wrong at all. Many ... | |
| I do not want to divorce from my husband | 4/22/2010 |
| Q: I have been known my husband since 2003. We broke up in 2005 and I moved away to another state. ... A: Kybele, Your issue and overall situation is complex; cannot be addressed with a short 'free ... | |
| my emotionally abusive mate | 4/22/2010 |
| Q: My husband never sticks u for me when someone is either attacking me verbally, or, threatening ... A: Such a communication style usually indicates severe marital problems and lack of satisfaction from ... | |
| help | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I married over two years ago, first it was long distance marriage because my husband was in Atlanta ... A: I have to admit that I do'nt know how to help at this stage; no cookbooks recipes are around for a ... | |
| Negotiating Changes | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have only been together for 1 year and our arguments are getting out of hand. I am ... A: No cookbooks recipes are around for a situation like yours... I therefore cannot give any valuable ... | |
| confused & separated | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Joe and I have been married 3 years in February, but we spent our 3rd annerversary separated. We had ... A: No cookbooks recipes are around for a situation like yours... I therefore cannot give any valuable ... | |
| sex in marriage | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for almost five years. I am 25, so we were married very young. My husband is a ... A: Do you think there is something worth saving in my marriage? Do you think its possible for this ... | |
| broken marriage | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: not sure where to start. I met my now husband 9 years ago, he is an alcoholic, at the time we met, ... A: Very complex life story. No cookbooks recipes are around for a situation like yours... I wish I ... | |
| sad and confused | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I separated 4 months ago after several years of difficulties. We had attended ... A: I cannot have a good idea what to say or to tell you to do without asking you (and if possible him) ... | |
| The disire of getting married | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: Abraham, I am a 25 year old woman and my fiancé is 26.we live in Sweden. We have been together for ... A: Early age (since you both were 17-18) and one single relationship tend to create the sense of ... | |
| marital seperation | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: I had returned from Iraq in 2008 upon returning things in my marriage seemed to have been going ... A: Most likely, the military service did not create issues but just intensified them. Once you (both) ... | |
| no trust | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: I am writing to learn ways to help my partner build trust in me again. I am a single mother and i ... A: I assume that a short period of counseling would assit you to re-develop and re-focus around your ... | |
| Fiance Troubles | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: I need some advice. Me and my fiance have been having some issue. We've been together for 6 years ... A: I cannot have a good idea what to say or to tell you to do without asking you (and if possible - ... | |
| Does my wife care about me or our relationship? | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: My Marriage is strained to the max. We Fight constantly. She suffers from Bipolar 2 disorder. She ... A: I have to admit that I do'nt know how to help at this stage with a short 'smart' reply; no cookbooks ... | |
| Lost interest in me... | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: I am lost in my marriage. My husband has lost complete interest in me. We have done counseling and ... A: No cookbooks recipes are around for a situation like yours... I therefore cannot give any valuable ... | |
| Am I wrong | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I were looking for a place in the country. She found one and I went and looked at it, ... A: The cost of moving is, let us say is $3K and paying the fee for breaking the lease may add $2K, so ... | |
| Seperation/divorce | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 20 years. My husband has brought up divorce at least once a year for 10 ... A: Do you think leaving and separating is a good idea? No. Not at this point. It would not solve ... | |
| My wife feels more like a friend | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: I've been married for 2 years now.We have been together for 7 years total.This is my fist marriage ... A: I sense that your (you and your wife) issue falls into the 'Communication / Relationship / ... | |
| Sister's Wedding | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: My husband and my family never did get along. My family has been mad at him for us eloping, my ... A: Based on other people similar life stories I have a feeling that the husband-in-laws family is not ... | |
| Is marriage salvagable? | 12/30/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 5 years, we have a 2 year old and I am 5 months pregnant. This week, ... A: I sense that your issue falls into the 'relationship' and 'sexuality' and not 'attractiveness'. I ... | |
| I Dont know if i love my wife | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 yrs. In total, weve been together for 11. I am 31 and we have just ... A: Chris, Hi, There is no generic 'do' or 'don't' advice for you, which means that you need a good ... | |
| Wanting different things in a marriage. | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 5 months and have a 3 1/2 month old baby. We were engaged ... A: Alison, I sense that your issue falls into the 'power struggle' or 'appropriate status' between ... | |
| How to move back in | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been separated for 4 months. She asked me to leave after an adverse reaction to a ... A: Doug, Since anger and violent behavior issues are not only yours it indicates that your prescribed ... | |
| Marriage | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: 1. Who should I choose as a boyfriend or girlfriend? I am Asian Age 28 A: Henry, The issue is determinded by the interaction effect of your personality and your lifestyle. ... | |
| Seperation | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 4 years, married for only 13 months. We are both only 21 but ... A: Ashley, Your situation is complicated; does not suitable for an one time e-mail advice reply. ... | |
| Husband's lack of sex drive... worrying me | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm 24 and my husband is 26. We've been together for 5 years now, married for a year and ... A: Laura, 1. Go yourself (or with him) to the urologist and get the info about the medical problem, ... | |
| Husband's behavior change - does it mean he's on his way out the door? | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 years; we've been together for 9. We have one child - a ... A: Rachel, Your description is too general and describes the end result but not the root causes; ... | |
| not sure what to do | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: I have found a galley of women on my husbands phone, this isn't the first time we have discussed ... A: ... should I not care or keep addressing it... keep addressing it. I assume that the 'do it ... | |
| Marriage | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: Joseph. i have a question on my new marriage. i just married a girl that has changed my life. she is ... A: Chris, ...im in no rush. like i said i didnt marry her for the sex... You are very wrong; the issue ... | |
| Wife does not want me joining any clubs / orgs | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have different backgrounds and grew up differently. I'm white and she is African ... A: Pat, There is no generic and simple / one time remedy answer for your issue(s). Generally ... | |
| In need of some advice | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I am in desperate need for advice on what to do in my current situation. Its a little unusual but ... A: James, This issue is too complicated to be solved by a few lines. There is no generic and simple / ... | |
| My wife wants a sex-change... | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: Yesterday my wife told me she wants a sex change. I was completely shocked by the revelation. I ... A: First Greg, please do not expect that this e-mail would provide a simple and quick remedy for your ... | |
| marriage lost | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: Our 10 year childless marriage has come to the crossroads. stay together or part? we love each other ... A: I hope Max that you would accept that there is no generic and simple / one time remedy answer for ... | |
| How to save my marriage | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 15yrs.We seperated 2 yrs ago for issues that have affected our ... A: Jason, There is no generic and simple / one time remedy answer that will either do a miracle ... | |
| Dealing with an insecure husband | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 months to a man I dated for approximately 18 months prior to our wedding. ... A: Kimberly, There is no generic and simple / one time answer for your issue(s). The entire situation ... | |
| young married couple | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for one year and five months. My husband and I used to be super super, head over ... A: Gizela, Indeed very painful! Unfortunately, I have no generic and simple answer for your ... | |
| equality in marraige | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: I was married at 23 had three children for 22 years with a controlling husband, when I was younger ... A: Every relationship is the creation of the two. His dominance is also a result of your on-going ... | |
| Husband and wife fights | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: hai its going to be 4 yrs since we got married and we have a 2 years old daughter. i'm doing full ... A: Preethy, First, please do not expect that this e-mail or any one time e-mail would provide a simple ... | |
| confused | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: I've only been married three months and in the last months. He has managed to have an several ... A: There is no generic and simple / one time remedy answer for your issue(s). Every marriage is ... | |
| Should I ask? | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I have found out my girlfriend of 3 years was having an affair with her coworker? After forwarding ... A: Depart. Move on. If you feel lost, search for a local counseling service or take a look at my site ... | |
| Mate | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: I am a 68 yr old widow, am in a relationship, he does not want to marry and we fight all the time, I ... A: Many times a third party, especially professional, can view alternatives and suggest breakthrough ... | |
| I can't get an erection with my wife | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: I hope I found a right place on the net to ask my question and raise my concerns. I am 30yo man and ... A: Indeed it seems that the issue is of psychological, not physiological nature. There is however no ... | |
| what can i do | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband and i have been married 4 years and together alittle over 5.5 years. 2 months before his ... A: There is no simple / one time remedy answers. A professional 'what to do' advice depends on the ... | |
| Confused about future | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: I am married and I have a wife who still loves to go out and party and drink until early hours in ... A: Your situation is 'too complex'; it would be professionally wrong to provide you with any concrete ... | |
| hi | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: I'm 19 I'm a teenage parent and i married the babies father and he has allot of anger issues and it ... A: In order to save yourself and your baby and opening new opportunities as well, you should end this ... | |
| Marriage | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: Okay, I met my wife in 2007 when she transferred to the Walgreens I was working at. We dated for ... A: Joshua, Your issues relate to your marital life as well as to your own ways of dealing with the ... | |
| Husband and drug use | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 17 years. My husband runs his own business and is under constant high stress. ... A: You can save your son, yourself and your husband; but you must be fearless. Take whatever you ... | |
| pain in private part? | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: i am male and my age is 33 i got problem about pain, my penis ball is paining lot. after passing ... A: I have no simple and generic answer for your question at this time. Your issue / question is not ... | |
| Dominating Husband | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: My husband is very dominating . I have twin daughters and a son. He is very strict and disciplined ... A: Marriage is a long term reciprocal relationship and therefore once you will decide to change, your ... | |
| Mentally unstable and lazy husband | 8/15/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for over ten years to a man who has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, among ... A: Jenna, Your situation is painful indeed. You had high hopes but you were left with a second grade ... | |
| Jealousy | 7/25/2009 |
| Q: and I thank you so much for your time, Obviously, the title of my message here is jealousy. I am ... A: Victoria, A specific professional answer regarding a specific person could not be based on ... | |
| Help, we are getting a legal separation | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: "We have been married for 12 wonderful years and have a 12 year old daughter. During the last 5 ... A: Javier, I'm not sure that my answer fits your expectation... A specific professional answer could ... | |
| Wife of nearly 10 years hitting very rough patch | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: My wife & I have been slowly growing apart since our children were born (nearly 7 years old and just ... A: John, A short answer: You need counseling; until you change your 19th century attitude, I see no ... | |
| the end of a relationship? | 7/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my sweetheart for eight years. I love her intensely and up until a few weeks ago I ... A: A specific professional answer could not be based on speculation or some impression; I need ... | |
| unhappy marriage | 7/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 20 years, we have no children. i cannot say that our marriage has ... A: I strongly recommend assessing the feasibility of changing you marital lifestyle prior to leaving. ... | |
| Separation | 7/3/2009 |
| Q: When do I stop holding on to "HOPE" My husband moved out almost 2yrs ago to find himself,and stated ... A: Based on my general knowledge about human behavior and male preferences I may speculate that ... | |
| can love come back? | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: i need urgent help, about5 days ago my husband told me he's not sure if he loves me anymore, we've ... A: Psychology is not about mind reading; without a lot of info I have no way to help. Past experience ... | |
| Stressed married life | 6/20/2009 |
| Q: I am married but irritated by someone else! How can I refocus? I am 32 years old and married for 6 ... A: Tracey, It seems that you both should take a basic course in ‘my spouse’s psychology’ and this is ... | |
| Marriage advice | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for about 5 years. We both come from a family where alcohol was an ... A: In order to save yourself and your boy you have to run. Do it ASAP and fast. File for a divorce; ... | |
| marriage | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 years we were appart for 2 .Due to mistakes I have made in our ... A: Start the counseling process without him. Relationship is influenced by reciprocal behaviors. ... | |
| Wife puts Husband on Restriction | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: My Husband is a golfer. 2 years ago he called and told me he had worked on rental property all day ... A: I provide only one free reply. For continues counseling please refer to my site. Regards, Dr. ... | |
| fiance's personality changing | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: I'm having a problem,please help if you can! My fiance was diagnosed with low testosterone and is ... A: There is no ready made 'cook book' solution here. He needs counseling. You need to support him. ... | |
| Wife puts Husband on Restriction | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: My Husband is a golfer. 2 years ago he called and told me he had worked on rental property all day ... A: Say that it is a free country around here; he can marry whoever agrees with him. Be strong. Do ... | |
| moving from family after marriage | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: I forgot to mention that I would be willing to make something work or move half way in between or ... A: Plz re-write, limiting your question to 10 lines. Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham ... | |
| Where do I go from here? | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: My husband of 8 yrs walked out on myself and 2 kids (age 4 and 20mths( saying that he no longer ... A: Theoretically speaking, the Push-Pull theory holds that most deviations from a relationship is not ... | |
| How do I overcome my trust issues? | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: I recently got married just over 2 months ago.My husband and I dated for 5 years.However during the ... A: There is no 'cook-book' generic guidance for your case, since the psychological roots for such a ... | |
| How to cope with an over achieving spouse | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I love each other after 10 years of marriage. We get along 99% of the time and have very ... A: If your relationship is being damaged due to your wife’s work-co-holism, you both should seek ... | |
| I want to leave my husband | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: Let me give you a beginning between my husband and I. Twenty-five years ago we were party buddies. I ... A: Plz Re-write; 10 lines max. Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham http://www.dr-joseph.com | |
| Marriage | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: I am recently got married and since then I have noticed other married women and single women ... A: If the marriage is O.K and satisfactory, I have no idea what to say; ask somebody else or just ... | |
| Complicated and confusing marriage | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for nine and a half years and we have been married for almost 5 years. ... A: Please consider a theoretical ground and potential explanation: the Push-Pull theory. Generally ... | |
| Misunderstanding in Marriage | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: This is regarding my parents who have been married for 35 yrs now. All the way until 2007 everything ... A: This issue should be resolved between your parents; do not get involved. Your mother should consult ... | |
| privacy in a relationship | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: I am a wife and mother I work hard and stay at home with my kids 90% of the time. My husband doesn't ... A: A lot of information regarding your personal ackgrounds, marriage history and current marital ... | |
| EMDR | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I are currently working on "rebuilding" our relationship...she had some personal family ... A: I see no connection to HER difficulties and past issues, with or without the EMDR therapeutic ... | |
| EMDR | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I are currently working on "rebuilding" our relationship...she had some personal family ... A: EMDR may help some people to better or faster open themselves to discuss 'unconscious' material. ... | |
| Marriage -repairing and starting to regroup. | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I are both in our late 30's and have known each other since we were 8 yrs. old. We went ... A: The free reply service is limited to question letters up to 10 lines. Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham ... | |
| Marrying some one with 11 years of difference | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: I am in love with a girl who is 35 and I am 24. She has a baby boy of 8 years from her previous ... A: This free service is not suitable for a complete family counseling. http://www.dr-joseph.com | |
| Husband Spends too much time on computer | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: I have read some recent articles about husbands that spend too much time at the computer. Most ... A: Read about 'marriage burnout' syndrome and ways to overcome it; the topic is too complex to ... | |
| my husband wants to leave me. | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: my 21 year old husband and i have been married for 2 years known each other for seven years. all of ... A: Based on your letter, the best advice to you is not to do anything, but to find a local support and ... | |
| gift | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband has a nephew who he hasn’t spoken to or seen in MANY years. The reason is because of his ... A: My opinion is that this $100 is a very low price to bridge the 10 years gap. Enjoy the family chain ... | |
| Should I have married | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: I was widowed at 40 after 20 years of marriage and 2 great kids. My marriage was good...warm, ... A: I cannot answer; there is no point of speculating. This question needs a deep journey into your ... | |
| When do you say "I don't" | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for over 10 years. the last five have not been that great and are ... A: Ten years???!!! You need to set a time on your colander; either you start marriage counseling within ... | |
| PLEASE EXPLAIN | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering would you please explain to me: what is a soul mate? Thanks A: See some resources Soulmate - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia soulmate, the one and only other ... | |
| Marriage and sacrifices | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend is a foreigner. I am getting married soon and we decided that i'll move abroad. First ... A: There is no way that someone who does not know your background, personality, traits, abilities, ... | |
| Problemetic marital relationship | 4/29/2009 |
| Q: Joseph, I have been married since 10 years. I am 35 now and my husband is 47. We have serious ... A: No e-mail "cook book" manual is available to re-structure marriage relationship. The expectation to ... | |
| Husband's sexual addiction | 4/28/2009 |
| Q: .I was in what I thought was a great marriage for several years. During those years my husband spent ... A: You should let HIM do the effort of trying. Either intensive and serious counseling participation - ... | |
| Confusion..... | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: Joseph, I have posed this to a couple other people on this site but I thought I'd like to get a ... A: Marriage is a reciprocal chain of behaviors; something within one spouse’s actions triggers the ... | |
| Lazy Husband | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: My husband thinks because he has a job and provides money that when he gets home from work he ... A: I do know you and details about you, so I can only comment from a theoretical point of view: ... | |
| Husband & midlife crisis | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to a wonderful, loving caring man for 14 1/2 yrs. He is in the military and ... A: Midlife crisis is not a cause, but an effect; since marriage is a reciprocal chain of behaviors, it ... | |
| premarital debt | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: My soon to be ex-husband wanted a lavish wedding and requested that I refinance my home to do the ... A: You sould consult with a lawyer. Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham http://www.dr-joseph.com | |
| To tell or not to tell? | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: Abraham. First of all thank you for your help. So first I'll give you a little background ... A: Tell him, in person! Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham http://www.dr-joseph.com | |
| emotionally abusive | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: "I think my husband is highly dysfunctional. He had an extramarital affair on the third month of ... A: You should continue the counseling process; inquire about divorce. Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham ... | |
| possessive sister-in-law | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: my husbands sister treats him like he walks on water. Says things like he is the best man she knows. ... A: Mary, In order to do something I need more info; so let me guide you, and you will do the job... ... | |
| BORED IN MARRIAGE | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: I feel exhausted with my life and marriage. I do work quite hard, but have an extremely low self ... A: Lisa, I do not see how you can be bored, but I do see how sick it is… There is nothing that I can ... | |
| ex-girlfriend | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: I am 26 and my husband is 28 and we have been married nearly a year. We have a great relationship ... A: Cindy, My question to you is: do you think this is going to continue for the rest of my life and I ... | |
| marriage....is this normal?? | 4/9/2009 |
| Q: I am a 35 yo wife and mother to a 2 yo girl. I have been married for 3 years, and am a busy medical ... A: Angie, Most people are not born lazy, but are influenced by their surroundings when motivation is ... | |
| Husband won't work | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for several years, have two kids. My husband hasn't worked but a few of those ... A: It seems to me that both vocational (to your husband) as well as marital counseling (you both need ... | |
| A thing of privacy | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: I have a GREAT relationship with my husband of two years and he's very sweet and caring BUT I feel ... A: Psychologically, something is not kosher there. Marriage life permits many acquaintances, but not ... | |
| I don't know how to love my husband anymore | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for nearly 10 years. This is my second marriage and his first. We ... A: Jenny, I do not have a good ‘quick fix’ reply for you since there is no simple solution to a very ... | |
| Hurt by affair | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: My problem is two-fold. My husband is having an affair w/a friend (she & her husband were our ... A: I have neither easy answer nor simple. Generally speaking about men: the “Push –Pull” theory holds ... | |
| Husband sexuality | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: I hope I have entered my question in the right category, I am trying to save my marriage, but I ... A: Yes, your marriage can be saved. No, I cannot give a definite prediction. Yes, people change, and a ... | |
| speratation and arguing | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: Joseph, I just just got married in Dec of last year and my husband and I already fight. He has ... A: A professional opinion is first based on a systematic assessment of initial interview(s) and ... | |
| Help | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I need help. I feel I am going to go crazy. I have not been in love with my husband for years now. ... A: You are not going to by God. Just talk to your husband as you are 'talking' to me now. It is ... | |
| Will he ever ask me to marry him? | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: I have been with this man for going on four years now. He has been married once before, but has no ... A: We live in a modern world. Do not wait for him to ask. Talk with him about the issue. Regards, ... | |
| Stay-at-home mom vs husband | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: Joseph This is my third year staying home with my kids (ages 4 and 2). My husband and I made the ... A: Whoever still holds traditional 19th century view of parental roles -Mama does the job at home since ... | |
| marriage counseling | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if you have a license in marriage counseling. I currently have my B.A. in ... A: My academic and professional background are from another country; to answer your question go to the ... | |
| Insecurities | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 7 months and his insecurities are driving me away. Recently ... A: 1. A male’s strong libido and his continuous urge for frequent sex with his spouse does not ... | |
| drowning in depression | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: My husband is not a emotional, touchy feeling person. I thought I was okay with that but lately ... A: You both need counseling; start NOW. Do not wait for him. There is no magic word that would ... | |
| seperation | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: Me and my wife seperated after me and her daughter had some hurtful words in a fight. What can I do ... A: I need to have much more info in order to say something meaningful; but generally speaking, I'm not ... | |
| marriage | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: ok, my question may seem kinda strange or obvious but I think that someone from the ... A: Run. The sooner, the better. The faster, the better. Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham ... | |
| Separation | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been with a girl for 4 years now. We got married in July of last year. She now wants a ... A: As a counselor I tend not to provide direct answers, but facilitate the process of empowering my ... | |
| Husband Admits to "fooling around" | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: My question is simple. My husband admitted to "fooling around" with a family friend, the wife of ... A: If you want to do it, Just Do It. Do not talk or mention the issue for at least 6 months. Even if ... | |
| Can I learn to love my husband? | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: I want to learn to love my husband. The biggest problem is that I'm not sure I loved him to begin ... A: Before you turn your attention, desire or love to someone around you, you should tune to the one who ... | |
| hubby is a bully | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: I had a recent episode with my in-laws which was completely my fault and for which I immediately ... A: Loyalty shift towards parents or lack of loyalty towards the spouse is most likely a result of ... | |
| My relationship | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: My spouse and I have been together for 4 years. We are both of the same age. We started our ... A: Your situation needs a professional evaluation process and probably counseling time. A month or ... | |
| First time marriage | 2/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm considering marriage for the first time. I was always insecure of marriage because of the ... A: Al, Your situation / question needs a short counseling process (4-6 sessions), based on specific ... | |
| marriage separation | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been having trouble now for a couple weeks and after many late nite arguments ... A: Stacy, The other lady is not "THE" problem; your relationship is. Your situation needs a ... | |
| Hurt during initial yrs of marriage | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: Mine is a love marriage.I dated my husband for 1.5yrs before I married him. However my inlaws were ... A: Your situation needs a counseling process. 2-3 months would do it (8-10 sessions). Find a local ... | |
| Marriage | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 3.5 years. THings were going well in our marriage until family interference ... A: Kim, Much more info is needed; this is the professional assessment process (takes 1-3 sessions). ... | |
| How to solve the trouble in my relationship | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: i have one month old baby..i have become so frustrated after the birth. I expected my husband to ... A: Nabs, Yes, you should talk to your husband. And also 'yes', you should find a local marriage ... | |
| escort service women | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: good day! Hi Dr. joseph! I am shine granda a mass communication student from Far Eastern University ... A: 1. as a practitioner of psychology are you aware of Escort service? Yes 2. how do you find Escort ... | |
| Anger Management. | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: What should I do about my marriage when my husband says constant insults and does alot of name ... A: Ann, There is no ‘Cook Book’ answer or Quick Fix type of a respond to your current question. ... | |
| Unhappy marriage | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: Abraham, I understand I can't solve my marriage problems through a single email or two, but I'm ... A: Yes James, you are right. Psychology has nothing to do with guessing. Gathering information is the ... | |
| so confused | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I am so confused at the moment. I seperated from my husband of 2 and a half years back in August. ... A: I cannot provide professional opinion based on 1/2 a page. A "good discussion" is needed; it may ... | |
| Pre-marital Lies Revealed | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: First I would like to thank you for your time and I hope that you will be able to provide some ... A: Jim, Yes, a counselor and therapy can help you. Your situation needs a counseling process. Find a ... | |
| Abusive Spouse? Raging? Drinking? | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: My name is Dennis and I am 55 years old, married for 25 years to the same woman and we have one 18 ... A: Dennis, I do understand your pessimistic mood; depression, however, is not the only choice. Any ... | |
| Help me understand please | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: Like all problems this has taken a while to build. I am in a profession that requires me to be in ... A: Larry, Any "affairs" of married people is a situation that has many explanations, theories and ... | |
| advice | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: My husband and i have been together 4.5 years and have a 2 year old daughter. A month ago my hubby, ... A: Lee, Any "affairs" of married people is a situation that has many explanations, theories and ... | |
| Mother-In-Law! | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: I am at the end of my rope, PLEASE help me. I am married to a wonderful man but his mother is ... A: Sandy, The responsibility to solve "the issue" belongs first to your husband and only thereafter to ... | |
| sexless marriage | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: For 7 years now my wife does nothing to provoke having sex. I have tried everything but it still ... A: There are issues that are best resolved by a peaceful and friendly divorce. Every end road is a ... | |
| Menopause | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: Abraham My wife & I have been married for 28 years and she is now going through symptoms of ... A: John, I would not tie everything to symptoms of menopause. It is my impresion that you both need a ... | |
| No sex in 8 years | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years and it is my 2nd marriage and his 3rd. He's ... A: There are so many options to attack the problem... A good interview is needed. I therefore cannot ... | |
| Age | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: I 26 year old Bangladeshi male. I am deeply in love with a girl who is as the same age as me. Can ... A: There are so many issues that are involved in your question... You need 1-2 sessions to solve your ... | |
| Sex drive lacking because of partner's height | 12/26/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend, (who left me to pursue a relationship with a short woman earlier this year, but came ... A: No, I do not think that hypnosis would do the magic. A professional 1-3 session(s) with your ... | |
| affection | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: I have noticed in the past year that since our finances have lowered that my wife's affection, sex ... A: Ben, You both need a professional help here, since the 'relationship issues' are complex and not ... | |
| internet porn/escort services | 12/10/2008 |
| Q: I recently went into my husband's e-mails, and found he has many porno site accounts,and has been ... A: Marianne, There is an underlying basic problem, regarding your marriage relationship and sexuality. ... | |
| husband is not attracted to me and wants to move out | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: i still look the same way and fit into the same clothing size as when we met. my husband stinks at ... A: Endy, You both need a professional help here, since the 'relationship and sexuality issues' are ... | |
| separation | 12/6/2008 |
| Q: my wife initiated separation on june 20th of this year. her breaking point was when i drank a beer ... A: Chris, I think you are a very lucky man. Bless your wife for the strength she has having to deal ... | |
| Loveless Relationship? | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years now and living with him for the past year. ... A: Cassie, There are too many unknown factors (to me) in your situation; relationship issues are ... | |
| jealous and passive aggressive husband | 12/1/2008 |
| Q: Abraham, Please help me return back my sanity. I cannot believe it is happening to me. Feel like I ... A: Antonia, Both jealousy and anger are problems that have many explanations, theories and treatment ... | |
| I got married in September 2008 and I am afraid my marriage is ending! | 11/27/2008 |
| Q: I met my husband in July 2008 and were married in September 2008. I felt like I had met my match and ... A: Danice, Any addiction or 'bad habit' is a problem that has many explanations, theories and ... | |
| marriage and intimacy | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: I'm 29 and have been married to my husband for 3 years. We have a 2 year old and one on the way. I ... A: Your situation needs a counseling process. Find a local therapist or use the phone counseling (see ... | |
| What to do? | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: I am a 45 yr old male and have been married (First and only time being married - her & I) for 3.5 ... A: Your situation needs a counseling process. Do not get discouraged fom past experiences. Find a ... | |
| many issues | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been marrried for 3 1/2 years and we are on the verge of divorce. He has 2 ... A: Shonta, Your situation needs a counseling process. Find a community resource, a support group or ... | |
| This is a marriage question. | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: I love my husband.But I asked myself would I had married him if he was poor.If we had to live in a ... A: Corrina, I do not have a good answer for you since there is no "cook book" style answer or solution ... | |
| marriage problems | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: I am writing because my marriage is on the rocks. I am Indian, and grew up in the USA, my husband ... A: Sally, Yes, You can workon your marriage via thephone / internet. See some examples at my site. ... | |
| marriage | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 21 years and for the past 6 years have been having an affair. I am at a ... A: Sandy, I do not have a good answer for you since there is no "cook book" style answer or solution ... | |
| Pre-marriage money issues | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: I am a very successful young woman with a good job, several real estate properties, a good education ... A: Are you being naive Jessica? Well, Your willingness to rely on anonymous person to answer such an ... | |
| I am unsure.. | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: Abraham, I have a problem in my marriage. I am unsure if I still love my husband and I feel like ... A: Raven, The best is to try counseling before divorcing. See my site for very encouraging results. ... | |
| Non-verbal cues | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm a pastor of a small church in a large metropolitan area. I have recently counseled three women ... A: Mica, This is not a question for a "one line answer'; you need personl counseling. Find a mentor ... | |
| partner wants to move abroad | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: My partner and I have been together four years, and sfter 2 and half yrs of living together he ... A: Sara, Do not pinpoint on your husband. Ask yourself, only, why your voice was not spoken well ... | |
| Insecurity or Lies? | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: I am a 27 year old female with a 6 month old son and a 46 year old fiancee. We have been together ... A: Necole, I do not have a good answer for you since there is no "cook book" style answer or solution ... | |
| Fiance keeps changing her mind about getting married | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: I wonder if you can give me some advice about what to do in my situation. I am a lesbian, but this ... A: Shiobhan, Yes, this is a relationship issue. As a counselor I tend not to provide direct answers, ... | |
| marriage/trust | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: I have been living with my boyfriend off and on for nearly two years now. I am a widow (4yrs) and ... A: Donna, I do not have a good answer for you since there is no "cook book" style answer or solution ... | |
| Marriage may be over | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for eight years. My wife and I have six kids (two are mine, four are hers) all ... A: Kurt, I do not have a good answer for you since there is no "cook book" style answer or solution for ... | |
| my husband's anger | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 30 years. During our marriage my husband & I have both been faithful. My ... A: Maria, I do not have a good answer for you since there is no "cook book" style answer or solution ... | |
| She is so close to her ex and I don't understand why | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my fiancee for 4 months. We're more like high school sweethearts. The only problem I ... A: Alex, I cannot advice, based on your letter. The issue needs a few counseling sessions. Regards, ... | |
| Am I too sensitive? | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I celebrated our one year anniversary on Halloween this year. At the moment we are ... A: Tricia, I cannot advice you; I feel that the issue needs a few counseling sessions. Regards, Dr. ... | |
| alcohol issues | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: I'm currently living with the love of my life. We have similar views on finances, raising children ... A: Christy, You are wrong with your 'democratic' (permissive) attitude. You must protect yourself and ... | |
| Marriage is not based on love | 10/26/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for no more than 2 years. We met at a club, everything was perfect from ... A: Larissa, Your situation cannot be solved by an answer from an outsider; you both need a continuos ... | |
| Marriage? | 10/22/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 9 years. 6 months ago I found out that she was having an affair ... A: Jim, Change the counselor; but coose one only. Read a few cse summaries in my sie, to see what can ... | |
| Marriage? | 10/22/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 9 years. 6 months ago I found out that she was having an affair ... A: Jim, You would do better with one counceling process. This is the "place" for your questions. If ... | |
| New marriage - grown step-children | 10/17/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I just married in April. We moved into his home in June. His son (21) and fiance (20) ... A: Susan, It is my opinion that neither your husband’s behavior nor his son's is not the problem. It ... | |
| should we end it | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I fight all of the time. We fight over stupid stuff that turns into a huge disaster ... A: Holly, Actually, your situation requires marriage therapy, not Q-A response style. Start alone. ... | |
| rejection and fear | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: Abraham~ I'm a strong and powerful woman , age 38. I have a 4 year old daughter and possibly another ... A: Jennifer, You ask a clear cut question but life is not so easy: there is no ‘cook book’ answer or a ... | |
| I dont know what to do | 10/12/2008 |
| Q: It seems like ever since we got married my husband doesn't want to spend any time with me. I always ... A: Holly, You ask a clear cut question but life is not so easy: there is no ‘cook book’ answer or a ... | |
| Newly wed question | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Abraham: Thank you for taking my question. I am wondering if I have reason to be concerned. I ... A: Heather, No, I do not see the Thyroid as a playing factor here. There is no 'cook book' answer to ... | |
| Marriage falling apart | 10/9/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for a little over a year, been together for two. We each have ... A: Reply You are asking for an "help me" advice, but life is not so easy: there is no ‘cook book’ ... | |
| Confused | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for about 3 years now. He is 24 and I am 22. We got engaged about a year ... A: Rachael, Run. Run quickly and fast. Pack and leave. Get out of this relationship and save yourself. ... | |
| jelousy in the marriage | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: i love and adore my wife and have put her through hell in the past, but the reason i am writing to ... A: James, The issue of jealousy cannot be resolved by a ‘cook book’ answer or a ‘to do list’; I have ... | |
| Husband problems | 10/4/2008 |
| Q: My husband and i have been married for a little over three years and together more than ten. We ... A: ChaMetra, It is my impression that your husband’s behavior is not the problem. It is yours. You ... | |
| run of long marriage | 10/2/2008 |
| Q: I was married quite young(17)to a man 4 years my senior. He pursued me, even after I tried to break ... A: Liz, The best for you at this point is continue counseling, on an individual basis, and start an ... | |
| Another child in not too good marriage? | 10/2/2008 |
| Q: my marriage is not very healthy. My husband have a bad temper, he often curse and slamming things ... A: Nadezda, I cannot comment on someone’s medical issues. Generally speaking, depression is treated ... | |
| Totally Frustrated. | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: Abraham, I am very frustrated in my marriage. My wife and I were virtually sexless for about 10 ... A: Tom, There is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A to your marriage situation; ... | |
| Another child in not too good marriage? | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: my marriage is not very healthy. My husband have a bad temper, he often curse and slamming things ... A: Nadezda, My advice is: "NO". Your son has no dead line. Your health and his need for a 'clean' ... | |
| dillema | 9/29/2008 |
| Q: I got married to my love after 9 years(since i was 15) of strong affair. Now we are 5 years married ... A: Anchal, I assume that your issue is not about your husband’s porno habit (this is just a painful ... | |
| Marriage Trust / Snooping | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: I cheated on my wife a year and half ago. It was a drunken night, one night only, I never even had ... A: Smiley, You ask clear cut questions but life is not so easy: there is no ‘cook book’ answer or a ... | |
| Husband doesn't love me anymore | 9/24/2008 |
| Q: After 23 years of marriage, a grown daughter and two 18-year-olds, my husband suddenly asks for a ... A: Vicki, There is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A type of response to your ... | |
| Marriage Trust / Snooping | 9/19/2008 |
| Q: I cheated on my wife a year and half ago. It was a drunken night, one night only, I never even had ... A: Smiley, Your value system (regarding sexuality, privacy, things that are allowed for men but not ... | |
| My Marriage is Falling Apart | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: My 5 year Anniversary is tomorrow (Sept 18) and last Monday night my husband left me over the phone. ... A: Dawne, Do your best with your current counseling. It is not a good idea to have a dual effort. ... | |
| a new old romance | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: I started to date this man 9 years ago a it was great at first. He has two kids that loved me and I ... A: kelly, You ask a clear cut question but life is not so easy, and there is no "quick fix" to you ... | |
| Immature needy wife | 9/7/2008 |
| Q: Sir, I apologize in advance for a very long winded situation. I have been married for a little over ... A: Jeremy, You ask a clear cut question but life is not so easy: there is no ‘cook book’ answer or a ... | |
| he's not happy | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: my husband is angry with me the issue is not that he is angry but he is holding on to this anger and ... A: Roz, I’m sorry for your pain and fear, but I’m encouraged from your determination. The real ... | |
| Friendship | 9/5/2008 |
| Q: Ok well here is the thing,my wife and i started out married,and by that i mean we never built a ... A: Dan, There is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A type of a respond to your ... | |
| My Paranoid Husband | 9/5/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 45 year old woman and my husband's 48 years old. Me and my husband have been married for many ... A: Cathy, I assume that your husband is not paranoid; it is probably a pride issue. There are men ... | |
| my husband hates my family | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married almost 2 years and have a 11 month old little girl. Since we ... A: Erica, Do not pinpoint on your husband. Ask yourself, only, why your voice was not spoken well ... | |
| my husband hates my family | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married almost 2 years and have a 11 month old little girl. Since we ... A: Erica, You should talk to your husband. A counselor's wisdom cannot replace the couple's ... | |
| when is enough enough | 9/3/2008 |
| Q: I am married to a man 11 years younger than me for 8 years and out of the 8 years he might have held ... A: No Angie, He loves you very much, because you have constantly treated him like a spoiled kid for so ... | |
| Toil & Trouble! | 9/2/2008 |
| Q: Good afternoon, I feel like our marriage has reached its end yet I still have hope. We have three ... A: Sara, Marriage is a long term reciprocal relationship and therefore any one’s 'Mood' or drinking ... | |
| Toil & Trouble | 9/2/2008 |
| Q: Good afternoon, I feel like our marriage has reached its end yet I still have hope. We have three ... A: Sara, Marriage is a long term reciprocal relationship and therefore any one’s 'Mood' or drinking ... | |
| What is the point | 9/1/2008 |
| Q: Here is my siuation. I have a boyfriend and he can never see how his friends or relatives treat me. ... A: Is the answer spending less time with his people? Yes!. Develop a new social circle which both you ... | |
| Husband's obsession is worrying me... | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: this problem is hard for me to solve and embarrassing too, but i really need help. I'm 28 and my ... A: Michelle, I’m not familiar with the phenomena of masturbating around food or food pictures; ... | |
| tired | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 14yrs and my wifes behaviour is starting to get to me,She never keeps time ... A: Haji, Since 'good relationship' and 'love' are complex things, there is no simple ‘cook book’ ... | |
| Husband says doesn't love me - time to give up? | 8/24/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Abraham - My husband and I have been married 15 years and we have 4 children ages 12, 8 and ... A: Meg, Use this ‘event’ with the lady as a good opportunity to re-assess your marriage relationship. ... | |
| marriage problem | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: I hope you can help me for I am at a loss right now with my current situation....my husband left ... A: Regina, Anger, temper and upset mood are problems that have many explanations, theories and ... | |
| husband filing for divorce | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for three years. The past year has been hell. To avoid giving ... A: Heidi, The situation that you described is not hopeless. A professional counseling process can ... | |
| Separation / Depression | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: Recently my wife of 11 years told me that she was unhappy. That she didn't know why. She said that ... A: Michael, Marriage is a long term reciprocal relationship and therefore any one’s ‘Mood Change’, ... | |
| help | 8/16/2008 |
| Q: what can i do when i feel sad all the time about our relationship and i just need him to pay ... A: Jennifer, Since there is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A type of response ... | |
| Menopause | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: I am 58 and my wife is 46, we have been married for 25 years. Up till now we had both assumed that ... A: Paul, I assume that there is an interaction effect: each factor could be handled, but the joint ... | |
| We lost everything and now my husband of 5 yrs wants to leave me & our children | 8/9/2008 |
| Q: My husband is my best friend. We've known each other for almost ten years & been married 5. We've ... A: I just told you, a few hours ago, about the ways men are building their status. Please re-read. Now ... | |
| We lost everything and now my husband of 5 yrs wants to leave me & our children | 8/9/2008 |
| Q: My husband is my best friend. We've known each other for almost ten years & been married 5. We've ... A: Men are simple creatures due to their single minded circuit that can hold STATUS as the only ... | |
| marriage/jealousy | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: My husband has problems with jealousy and I'm tired of it. I feel unhappy, unappreciated, and ... A: Mayra, Wait. Consider your steps, plan your 1-2 years, come to a divorce agreement, and only ... | |
| Is it abuse? | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: I am not sure where to begin. My husband and I were married a little over one month ago. He has ... A: Lindsey, No, it is not abuse. But Yes, it is a very complex stress reaction, probably induced by ... | |
| Divorced yet dating each other again. | 8/6/2008 |
| Q: I am in a unique situation. My husband and I were married for 4 years, it was a hard marriage ... A: 1. Is it common? 5-10% of divorcees, according to my personal experience (which is not scientific ... | |
| Divorced yet dating each other again. | 8/6/2008 |
| Q: I am in a unique situation. My husband and I were married for 4 years, it was a hard marriage ... A: I'm not sure what is your question (s). Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham http://www.dr-joseph.com | |
| new mariage | 8/2/2008 |
| Q: A friend of mine is 30 year old. He wants to marry an 18 year old girl. They would like to have ... A: We have seen this episode in Woody Allen's life story and his adopted daughter that he finally ... | |
| sexless marraige | 7/31/2008 |
| Q: Can a sexless marriage lead to other problems? my wife told me at one point sex is like a chore that ... A: Sexless marriage is very unhealthy, for both partners. Sex is not for men only. The joy of sex is a ... | |
| disagreeing | 7/30/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Abraham, What do you make of a couple who has never raised their voices in 18 years of marriage? ... A: Are you good roommates? If so, it is time to say good-bye, or call a professional counselor. Do you ... | |
| Wife is using the internet to meet men for chat. | 7/25/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 17 years (Me 44 and her 41 yrs old) and up till my son was born and his ... A: I do not see good chances of success without involving a professional help. Obviously, I recommend ... | |
| My husband is smothering me | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for about a year and a half now. However, we have only been ... A: Let us go first to the more common sense explanation: I assume that from your husband’s point of ... | |
| Remarried With Children | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: We have been married a year and a half. I have a 9 year old daughter and he has a 7 year old ... A: I’m not sure however that my reply is according to your expectation… I do not have a “real” answer ... | |
| jealousy | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: I have several problems but I think they may all be related. I have been with my husband for 4 ... A: I’m not sure that my reply is according to your expectation… I do not have a “real” answer for you. ... | |
| his change of heart | 7/21/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years now. We have been together for 8 years. We share the ... A: … I love him, but there has never been any passion between us… his body language is very closed off. ... | |
| Jealousy | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: My wife has a very strong jealous of her cousin who is living with us in the same house (but ... A: Jealousy may be dysfunctional, once it origins from a paranoid personality. Usually, however, it is ... | |
| Husband wants to be a rock star | 7/18/2008 |
| Q: We've been married 3 years, and have been together ten. After returning home from a business trip ... A: You both do need a professional help. Do not use the 'do it yourself' method. Offer my online phone ... | |
| What should I do? | 7/17/2008 |
| Q: Just to give a summary of what happened, I had a 2 mo. relationship outside of my 10 year marriage ... A: I think that the main issue is not her attitude, but yours: ...I'm having trust issues with her ... | |
| lazy husband | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: well lets start off with that i am a young gay proffesional, i had traveled to massachusetts with ... A: There are two alarming statements in your letter: ...even had a few physical fights... and ...now ... | |
| The ex | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I split 2 years ago this summer. What sparked the problems was I lost my mother and ... A: It is usually most advisable not to look backward, but to step forward. Concentrate on your social ... | |
| What The Heck Is Going ON??? | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: My wife of 19 1/2 years suddenly and without warning decided to separate from our marriage. She ... A: There is no ‘cook book’ answer, ‘to do list’ or a ready made Q-A type of a respond to your current ... | |
| abuse and drugs | 6/27/2008 |
| Q: My husband I have been married for just over a year. I went through a spell in our 3-year ... A: Your description of your marital mental and emotional state allows me to advice that the two of you, ... | |
| Marriage in trouble, help! | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 26 years. My husband has always had trouble sticking with a job. He's had 17 ... A: The marriage problem is secondary. The primary problem could be solved by a vocational counseling ... | |
| marriage troubles | 6/16/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I separated for eight months, I threw him out after ten months of marriage and a ... A: First, please go to: http://dr-joseph.blogspot.com/2008/06/low-chance-to-save-this-marriage.html ... | |
| Communication, respect, & compromise | 6/15/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 2 years, together for 10. Lately we're just not getting ... A: First, any addiction, including work-coholism / "freinds" + fighting and arguing is a problem that ... | |
| Husband is impulsive | 6/12/2008 |
| Q: I don't know if you can assist here with this one and it is a big one for you. Background We have ... A: Anger, temper and upset mood are problems that have many explanations, theories and treatment ... | |
| Relationship on the Brink of Explosion | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: At this point in time I do not know what say except help. My husband and I are on the brink of ... A: Anger, temper and upset mood are problems that have many explanations, theories and treatment ... | |
| mariage consling | 6/6/2008 |
| Q: "hi, i'm married college student .my problem started when i give my number to 2 male classmates ... A: Your situation is not easy: you are married to whom you love, but you have realized that he is ... | |
| 2nd Marriages | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: It's hard to sum up everything I question. At this point I am very close to giving up. Everything ... A: Your situation is painful indeed. You had high hopes but you were left with a second grade respect. ... | |
| Husband won't talk to me about our marriage problems. | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 2 years and together for 10. We have 2 children, aged 3.5 and ... A: Since the family is a system, each component has the capacity to influence the others. You are ... | |
| troubled marriage | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: i am in an unhappy marriage, i am thinking about divorcing him. he is abusive (verbally), and we are ... A: Marriage is something that you should try to keep and heal. The emotional, social and financial ... | |
| Partners drinking | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: My partner who I have been together with since I was 17 were are now 40 insists that he wishes to ... A: I'm fully aware about your concerns, fears and frustrations. You both definitely need professional ... | |
| Am I too suspicious | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: My wife started going home to columbus, ohio with just our 2 children to visit her family. I was ... A: Many times a particular behavior may serve as a symptom that indicates that a serious issue is ... | |
| Ethical question | 5/18/2008 |
| Q: Dr Abraham, I was seeing a counselor to address some personal issues. My fiance started seeing her ... A: It is definitely better to have only one counselor that both partners feel good and confident with. ... | |
| My husband is wants to leave | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: 3 months ago my husband told me that he doesnt feel attracted to me and no longer feels love for me. ... A: My best advice to you was to strengthen yourself, and actually ignore (at this point of your ... | |
| I really messed up | 5/7/2008 |
| Q: Abraham, I really hope you can help me on this one. First some backround. Back in 2004 I was ... A: I was taking the time to think and reflect regarding your ‘miss’ story. My ‘other ear’ could not ... | |
| break up | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: do you offer professional advice? A: Yes. Please go to http://www.dr-joseph.com Once you submit payment you call to se up the phone ... | |
| break up | 4/30/2008 |
| Q: this may not be for this category, but you look like the most qualified. i dated my girlfriend for ... A: It would not be professionally serious to assess things so quickly and get into such a specific ... | |
| can my marriage survive? | 4/30/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been a couple for 20 years and married 11.5 years.We separated September ... A: Your loss of the child is indeed a terrible tragedy. Once such unfortunate things happened, it is ... | |
| break up | 4/29/2008 |
| Q: this may not be for this category, but you look like the most qualified. i dated my girlfriend for ... A: I do not see the advantage of trying to understand her. You should concentrate on your behavior, ... | |
| break up | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: this may not be for this category, but you look like the most qualified. i dated my girlfriend for ... A: I’ll start with general remarks about dating and relationship building, and thereafter will give you ... | |
| verbally and emotionally abusive spouse | 4/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been in my relationship for going on 8 years now, 4 of the 8 years married. I have 2 children ... A: You are puzzled - - I just don't understand why he has to be so hateful - - - - but you know that ... | |
| verbally and emotionally abusive spouse | 4/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been in my relationship for going on 8 years now, 4 of the 8 years married. I have 2 children ... A: I'm trying to be supportive and provide my professional opinion in a friendly way... but my sympathy ... | |
| we're not getting along.. | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: I'm mad cause I think he drinks too much and is not prioritizing his responsibilities and leaves ... A: Drinking is a problem that has many explanations, theories and treatment approaches. Mine is that ... | |
| Looking at women | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: Joseph I am from India and Just newly married about 18 months. 8-12 months down the marriage, my ... A: Marriage issues are always the two persons' issues. However, it is better to start as soon as ... | |
| Looking at women | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: Joseph I am from India and Just newly married about 18 months. 8-12 months down the marriage, my ... A: The underlying psychological surface of such a behavior is, in many cases, telling something about ... | |
| How to make someone feel good | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: What are some things I can do or say to make my husband feel loved again? Our relationship is ... A: The three factors 'true and long-lasting relationship" theory calls for activities that promote: 1. ... | |
| Fading love | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: Although we are not technically married, we've been together three years, and living together for ... A: It could be that your feelings signal the reality: that this relationship has no good future. This ... | |
| Help | 4/7/2008 |
| Q: I am a first grade teacher and was married to my husband (an airline pilot). We have a four year ... A: There are two different relationships here, which require two different attitudes: First is the ... | |
| insecure husband | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: I'm 27, my husband is 30. We've been married for about 3 years and dated for about 3 years prior ... A: The tendency to "fight or flight" at times of crisis brings many to be both aggressive and passive / ... | |
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