Marriage/Questions Answered by Expert Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. aka
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Abuse? | 2/3/2012 |
| Q: My question is am I crazy? Why would my husband scream and call be hateful names? Why would he say ... A: Sorry you are are having difficulties and are feeling confused. It's really difficult to answer ... | |
| Getting my wife to engage | 2/2/2012 |
| Q: A little background first. My Wife of less than one year, and i were together for 16 months back in ... A: I can see you are having difficulties in your marriage, and you have my deepest empathy. The first ... | |
| Unbelievable | 1/9/2012 |
| Q: My wife refuses to iron my clothes. She washes them and piles them up on top of the dryer for ... A: John, John .... Thanks for writing me. I must say, your letter isn't really clear -- doe your ... | |
| Married | 1/2/2012 |
| Q: I'm 26 five been married to a 29 yr old for 3yrs been together for 5 yrs on and off before n after ... A: I am so sorry you are having a hard time with your reconciliation. It must be really disappointing ... | |
| Kissing | 1/1/2012 |
| Q: We've only been married 3 years.For the last 2 years he doesn't kiss me anymore.When I ask him about ... A: I understand what you're saying, but do you? You say, "We are SO happy, BUT ..." AND "He is so ... | |
| Kissing | 1/1/2012 |
| Q: We've only been married 3 years.For the last 2 years he doesn't kiss me anymore.When I ask him about ... A: I can't imagine how lonely and sad it is to be married to someone who does not want to kiss. In ... | |
| Advice please | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together 12yrs, and married for 4yrs, we have a 2yr old and another baby ... A: I feel badly for you. Your husband is showing all the signs of having an affair: 1. He has turned ... | |
| Husband flirting and 'gawking' | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: advice, wisdom...what can u help me with? My husbands gawking and flirting is more than I can take. ... A: I apologize for not responding to you earlier. I thought I was on vacation from AllExperts and was ... | |
| Money worries | 1/3/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married a year and a half and we have a two year old son. We are both ... A: and I apologize for the delay in getting back with you as I've been on a break from "all experts" ... | |
| Marriage therapy | 4/29/2010 |
| Q: My marriage is in shambles after 25 years. We have 3 children ages r24,21 and 11. We have decided to ... A: It has been so long since I studied structural therapy that I really cannot answer your question ... | |
| marriage trouble | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: A couple of months ago I came to my husband of 23 yrs. and told him I was unhappy. I married at the ... A: I am happy to respond again, but I don't know what to add to what I already wrote. Only you can make ... | |
| marriage trouble | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: A couple of months ago I came to my husband of 23 yrs. and told him I was unhappy. I married at the ... A: I am sorry for what you are going through. It is a tough thing to be unhappy in a marriage of many ... | |
| CHILD SUPPORT | 4/26/2010 |
| Q: I live in the State of Washington. I am engagged to a wonderful man who is a hardworker and loving ... A: I am happy that you have met a wonderful man who you are planning to make a life with. I am not a ... | |
| Problems with my Boyfriend | 4/21/2010 |
| Q: I know it says experts on marriage, and we are not married but its still relationship wise. my ... A: Hey Nana, Thanks for writing - you don't have to be married to write to me!! Relationship problems ... | |
| help | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I married over two years ago, first it was long distance marriage because my husband was in Atlanta ... A: I am so sorry for your difficulties in your marriage. Your problem is way too serious and ... | |
| I am always wrong! | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: My problem is when my wife and I fight she is always right. I no matter what I do or how I handle ... A: Lost, Thanks for writing. A variety of things could be going on. You don't say how old your wife ... | |
| I need help for understand. | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: I'm from Europe. I met a man on a dating site and we talked for two years. He could not come for a ... A: Ann, I don't know what to tell you about this guy or this relationship. It sounds like it had no ... | |
| Marriage Crisis | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: My husband came to me 3 weeks ago and said he didn't know if he wanted to be married anymore. That ... A: I am sorry for what you are going through. This type of situation is one of the most stressful ... | |
| Husband and Harley | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: Is it ok that my husband goes out 2 to3 times a week riding his Harley? I will never get on a ... A: I apologize for not writing sooner. When I log into the system here it shows that I have no pending ... | |
| Childish behavior | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for six years and have four stepchildren, one who still lives at ... A: Step parenting can be one of the most thankless jobs on the planet, and you have my sympathy that ... | |
| age limit for an adult to marry a minor with parental consent | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: I was wondering how old is too old to get married to a 16 yr. old if you are 24 yrs. old and you ... A: I am not really qualified to answer this question as I know nothing of legal issues, but I am a ... | |
| my husband spends no time with me | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: I am a mother of 3 boys and a good husband that works all the time what do i do. Iam a stay at home ... A: First of all I would like to apologize for taking so long to get back to you. I have had technical ... | |
| same age marriage | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: I would directly go to my story and ask my questions: I had a classmate friend in B.Sc, I asked her ... A: Sure, you can start a friendship ... but I do worry about you feeling so unsure about what to do. ... | |
| HELP! My marriage is gone | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Joe and I are separated. We have been since October 2009, almost 5 months now. No fights, no reason ... A: Whether or not it is an affair, there is something wrong with your husband. He is in crisis. How do ... | |
| HELP! My marriage is gone | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Joe and I are separated. We have been since October 2009, almost 5 months now. No fights, no reason ... A: Your poor, dear. When a spouse turns his back on his marriage it is very painful and confusing, ... | |
| Sex in marriage | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for almost five years. I am 25, so we were married very young. My husband is a ... A: At such a young age you are learning the high cost of settling into a relationship that is not right ... | |
| broken marriage | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: not sure where to start. I met my now husband 9 years ago, he is an alcoholic, at the time we met, ... A: Your marriage doesn't sound like a marriage, and no, what is going on is not "right." It'd be OK if ... | |
| Separation and kids | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: It looks like my wife and I are heading towards a separation. I do not want this and haven't done ... A: I am writing a book about how and when to separate as we speak because I have seen too many couples ... | |
| celibacy in marriage | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: does awife realise how much a husband suffers when she chooses celibacy as a choice through ... A: Life isn't easy, my friend. But I would look for someone once I am divorced, not while I am married. ... | |
| my relationship | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to a wonderful man for 29 years (this year). I am post menopausal, 53 years old ... A: I am truly sorry that you are having such a difficult time. It sounds like much of your troubles are ... | |
| celibacy in marriage | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: does awife realise how much a husband suffers when she chooses celibacy as a choice through ... A: What is your wife's spirituality? I know of no spirituality that denies a married woman to have sex ... | |
| talking | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: my husband doesn't want to talk to me. I am a stay-at-home mom and he has no interest in me at all. ... A: Something is wrong with your husband, my dear. You haven't said how long you have been together or ... | |
| celibacy in marriage | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: does awife realise how much a husband suffers when she chooses celibacy as a choice through ... A: I am afraid that the only person that could answer that question is the wife. I don't think one ... | |
| Husband's lack of interest in sex... concerning me | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 27 year old businesswoman who runs a string of beauty salons. Life's good, I have a great ... A: my, you do have problem, don't you? I am so sorry. First of all, never stay married to someone you ... | |
| advice? | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: Becky, I am 25, married 2 1/2 yrs. We don't have insurance or I'd be seeing a counselor (no ... A: One of the factors that therapists know often predicts divorce is a power imbalance between husband ... | |
| chetting couple. | 2/20/2010 |
| Q: my name is yadira, im 21 yrs old and my spause is 29. we've been together for 6 yrs. when i was 18 ... A: Your story is haunting because the behavior you describe is unconscionable and there is no excuse ... | |
| can i do anything to save my family? | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: I'll try to explain my situation as briefly as I can. My wife and I had been together for 13.5 ... A: I am so sorry for what you are going through. I deal with situations like yours everyday, ... | |
| trust issues | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: My husband lied to me one night about where he was and what he was doing. The usual thought, she'll ... A: The whole time I was reading your letter I was thinking, "What in the hell does she see in this ... | |
| partner is controlled by ex | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: I’ve been in a loving and beautiful relationship with my partner for almost 2 years now. We live ... A: Let me get this straight -- your partner is separated, but still married to someone else, and living ... | |
| Long Distance Marriage | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: I am married to a man who is younger than me. We used to live together in his country but I left ... A: My Dear Vanira, I certainly did not mean to offend you or to insinuate that you are crazy. Mental ... | |
| JEALOUS future mother-in-law!!! | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: What do you do when you can tell that your future mother-in-law is jealous of you? Not jealous of ... A: You sure do have my sympathy for the situation you find yourself in. My former husband's parents ... | |
| Hitting a brick wall ! | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: Can I begin this by saying I love my partner all the way !! She is my hope , joy and life ! We are ... A: What got me to think BPD was: 1. "she tells me constantly that she could not live without me. She ... | |
| Hitting a brick wall ! | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: Can I begin this by saying I love my partner all the way !! She is my hope , joy and life ! We are ... A: I get that you love your partner, but if you have split up 5 times in the last year than I can ... | |
| Long Distance Marriage | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: I am married to a man who is younger than me. We used to live together in his country but I left ... A: I am really sorry for what you are going through. It sounds to me like you need to stop being a ... | |
| Ending my marriage | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: I am in a really tough spot here, and could use all the advice I can get. Ok, first some background ... A: My poor dear, you are married to a drug addict and loser. I hate to break the news to you -- but I ... | |
| Marriage at a young age | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Hey Doctor Becky, my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and half now and we talk ... A: I totally understand young love and the hopefulness that comes with it. People haven't been hurt ... | |
| No Love from Husband | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: I need to figure out my husband and way to make our marriage happy for both of us. (Well, right ... A: I hear you .. every woman wants to feel cherished by her husband and treated as if she is something ... | |
| Marriage and Insecurity (used wrong email addy first time) | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: (sorry, I submitted this twice. My other email address is wrong.sorry) My husband and I have got ... A: I really don't know if you crossed the line with your husband. If I am working with a suspicious ... | |
| Marriage and Insecurity | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have got caught in a long distance marriage, which for work and financial reasons ... A: I really don't know if you crossed the line with your husband. If I am working with a suspicious ... | |
| lack of intimacy | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for a year and eight months.I feel that I am the only one that initiates sex. ... A: Wow -- your question is really, really tough. There are so many things to consider ... from ... ... | |
| Am I the one with a problem, or is it us | 1/23/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 11 years now. I have 4 wonderful children and my wife and I have ... A: You have my deepest sympathy for living with your Hitler-like wife -- not only is she Hitler but she ... | |
| Husband Crushes on Employees | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: I have struggled with a situation twice in the past 4 years with my husband of 12 years. We have 3 ... A: Boy-oh-boy, it's no wonder you are feeling blue ... your husband is immature, insecure, childish, ... | |
| PMS | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: Becky, I have been married for almost 20 years and throughout my entire marriage I have had to ... A: First of all, I am sorry for what you have been going through. It must be really tough. Secondly, I ... | |
| Porn Addiction and Privacy? | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: Since before we were married, my husband has shown some signs of having an addiction to pornography ... A: OK, it does sound like he has a problem. You ask are you wrong to be on the lookout for his ... | |
| Porn Addiction and Privacy? | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: Since before we were married, my husband has shown some signs of having an addiction to pornography ... A: It is really hard for me to answer your question accurately because you haven't given me details ... | |
| Sister's Wedding | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: My husband and my family never did get along. My family has been mad at him for us eloping, my ... A: I really feel badly for you and this predicament in which you find yourself. If I were you, I would ... | |
| My husband's Christmas present worries me | 1/7/2010 |
| Q: I'm 31, and my husband's 32. We've been together for 8 years now, married for 3 of them (2007 to ... A: My dear, you have sent me an unanswerable question -- no one can know why someone does something ... | |
| My wife is in another country | 12/30/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married a year and a half now. She is from Brasil and I am American. She ... A: I really feel for you. Your question is a tough one a you ARE in a risky situation and uncertain ... | |
| I Dont know if i love my wife | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 yrs. In total, weve been together for 11. I am 31 and we have just ... A: My dear Chris, no one can tell you why you feel this way. Only you can answer that question. I urge ... | |
| I Dont know if i love my wife | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 yrs. In total, weve been together for 11. I am 31 and we have just ... A: Let me ask you this: if your wife had written me this same letter, what do you think I would say? I ... | |
| problems with trust | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: This seems silly on the face of this most recent situation but this involves deeper issues. On ... A: Honesty is the foundation on which a healthy relationship must stand. Without it all sorts of ... | |
| help | 12/26/2009 |
| Q: I would like to seek your advice over something that is haunting me for months. I am from India. the ... A: My dear, you have my deepest sympathy for what you are going through. You are dating and in love ... | |
| fighting | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been fighting a lot and it seems like we are heading for a divorce. How can I ... A: I know you are going through a hard time in your marriage and I feel badly for you. The question you ... | |
| I need your advise | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: My husband suffered from depression about 4 years back,things have improved a lot for him since ... A: If you cannot discuss the issue with this man then that is a real problem. He makes sure you can't ... | |
| I need your advise | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: My husband suffered from depression about 4 years back,things have improved a lot for him since ... A: You can't fix your husband, you can't make him happy ... he has to fix himself and get the help he ... | |
| married husband+sex sites | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: my youngest is 5mts old. my husband works very hard long hrs leaves at 6am and isn't home till 8PM. ... A: It sounds like your husband enjoys his pron very much, and by definition it becomes a problem when ... | |
| Marriage | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: 1. I justed wanted to know that I am getting old. I am 28, I should have a wife right. What kinds ... A: Henry, Henry ... I find it hard to believe that you are absolutely clueless and need an actual ... | |
| Marriage | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: 1. I justed wanted to know that I am getting old. I am 28, I should have a wife right. What kinds ... A: Here is what I mean: 1. Presents herself honestly. She shows you who she really is. For example, ... | |
| Marriage | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: 1. I justed wanted to know that I am getting old. I am 28, I should have a wife right. What kinds ... A: I understand your question now. Thank you. First, in my opinion you are not getting old at all. You ... | |
| Husband doesn't want have sex anymore | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 5 years to my childhood crush. And the day after Thanksgiving we just quit ... A: I'm sorry you are having a difficult time. When I read your letter two things stuck out for me: The ... | |
| wife selection | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: I heard that significanct age difference between a wife and a husband (the latter being the older)is ... A: I don't know where you got your information, but what you heard is absolutely not true. I don't ... | |
| Mother in Law | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband and i have been married for 10 years. We have a wonderful son aged 2 and we like being ... A: I sure am sorry for the situation you are in -- it sounds like hell! It sounds like your ... | |
| My husband stays in contact with his exes | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: Is it normal that my husband talks with his ex girlfriend every day? They text,e-mail and send ... A: I am sorry for your frustration. You have every right to be concerned about how your husband is ... | |
| Separation | 12/4/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 12 years, have 2 kids (12,7). We have not slept together in the ... A: I am really sorry that your marriage has become so cold and unbearable. You have a right to ... | |
| My wife's odd behaviour... | 12/3/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 39-year-old man, my wife's 38, our son's 21 and in university studying information technology ... A: It sounds like your wife is a female cross dresser. I have had male clients who do this and love it ... | |
| sexless marriage | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: I GOT MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND IN FEB OF THIS YEAR.WE HAD NEVER SEEN EACH OTHER B4 BUT IN PICS.HE IS ... A: Your situation sounds like a real mess and you have my deepest sympathy. It's hard to say why your ... | |
| My husband's lack of sex drive... making me unhappy | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm 24 and my husband is 26. We've been together for 5 years now, married for a year and ... A: Let me get this straight -- your husband is a bed wetter and you didn't even know it? That is ... | |
| My husband's email affair... he's behaving oddly | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I was checking our email recently, and was surprised to receive one from another woman addressed to ... A: This is not a great way to start a marriage off, is it? You have my deepest sympathy for what you ... | |
| Marriage | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if I need professional help? I'm not sure what to do in my marriage. I feel like I'm ... A: I am sorry you are feeling so low. In answer to your question, I do think you need professional ... | |
| should i let my husband control me | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: I kept some personal debt from my husband. He makes much more then I do but we kept everything ... A: Poor dear. You have broken your husband's trust -- similar to having an affair, you did something to ... | |
| My husband | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: Doctor Becky Thank You for reading my message. Well, I am a 36 year old married woman with two ... A: Poor dear. Yes, you absolutely positively are being abused. Your son has learned how to do this from ... | |
| relations | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: we hv bn married for over 25 yrs now. 2 grownup daughters.wife is a housewife. relations with wife ... A: The reason I told you to go to the web site www.bpdcentral.com is so you could get all of your ... | |
| i need help | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: . i am married i have one son he is just 4 yrs old. my concern is this, actually my husband know ... A: What a dangerous game you have played. So dangerous that now you are considering making a ... | |
| marriage and relationship | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: ..i m in big confusion...i m in a relationship with my girlfriend since 2 yrs....let me explain what ... A: My answer this time is the same as last time. This woman will make you miserable if you marry her. ... | |
| woes | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: We're an 8 yr married couple, 3 young children, one parent works, the other stays at home raising ... A: It sure does sound like you both have the woes, and I am sympathetic to you. Many of us reach a ... | |
| relations | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: we hv bn married for over 25 yrs now. 2 grownup daughters.wife is a housewife. relations with wife ... A: BPD is both genetically and environmentally caused. I really believe the genetic piece to be very ... | |
| School | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: We're engaged at this point. He has finished his PhD and I'm finishing up my masters. He has managed ... A: Congrats on your education. I have gone that route as well, and have significant debt. If I waited ... | |
| In need of some advice | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I am in desperate need for advice on what to do in my current situation. Its a little unusual but ... A: James, Based on the story to tell, you are too immature to marry, and apparently your fiance knows ... | |
| relations | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: we hv bn married for over 25 yrs now. 2 grownup daughters.wife is a housewife. relations with wife ... A: I am sorry for your distress. There are all sorts of things that could be causing your wife's ... | |
| My husband spends too much time with a close male friend and I don't know what to do... | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm 30, my husband's 32, and recently he's been spending all his free time with a close male friend ... A: I am sorry for what you are going through. It certainly sounds like your husband is having a gay ... | |
| lack of communication? | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: I know you have a lot of other questions to answer,;) so I'll get right to the point. I have been ... A: You certainly have my sympathy for what you are going through. Yes, I guess the cousin would be ... | |
| divorce. | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married 15 yrs and have had our trouble. I'm from Mass. and she Ohio. We ... A: I can really tell that you want to find a way -- almost any way -- to save your marriage. I feel for ... | |
| My husband WANTS another man to make me pregnant!! | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: Me and my husband both want kids, but my husband does, albeit in a slightly odd way... he wants me ... A: I thought I had heard everything until I read your letter. You have my deepest sympathies for having ... | |
| Marriage | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: When I met my husband, he was going through a very bitter divorce. His wife had left him with his 3 ... A: It sounds like you're having serious problems in your marriage, and I feel badly for you. You have ... | |
| My husband's ranting about everything, no matter where we are or what we do... | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for a month now, and things have been great so far... until now. ... A: The reason I haven't written you earlier is that your question is a complicated one. The more I ... | |
| making marriage work | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: i have been married for over a yr, but have spent the last 10 yrs of my life with the same man. i ... A: Your situation is very sad and I am sorry that you are in experiencing it. I hope you don't mind ... | |
| Exhausted raising my husband | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: I am a 47 and my husband is 45. This is my second marriage and his first. We have been together ... A: I am sorry that you are so unhappy in your marriage. I do think marriage counseling is a wise idea ... | |
| I'm tired | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: We are not young nor are we old. We have been living together for almost a year. In the beginning ... A: I am sorry you are having a bad time in your relationship. You don't give me very many details. Are ... | |
| Is it silly? | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I rarely watch reality TV but the other day we were at the home of a mutual friend ... A: I have seen Wife Swap and it is fascinating how they take two families that are polar opposites and ... | |
| Young married couple | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: I am concerned about my husband. We are a young couple only in our twentys. I love my husband, I'm ... A: I am really sorry you are having relationship issues in your young marriage. This is supposed to be ... | |
| Marrying an older women | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: I am in love with a woman who is 6 yrs older to me.I am 29 and she is 35 yrs old.We have dated for ... A: Hello to you all the way to India! I am sorry you are having difficulties. The Indian culture is ... | |
| where to from here | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: My husband walked out 9mths ago.Saying he didnt love me. He has maintianed limited contact with our ... A: Greetings to you down in Australia -- all the way from San Antonio, Texas. I am sorry that you are ... | |
| Problem Marriage. | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: Let me first start by saying I am a 49 year old on my second marriage, my husband has 2 kids and I ... A: I am sorry for the distress you are feeling. Is there any reason you have not gone for counseling ... | |
| !! | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: I have felt many times that I should leave my husband. I sometimes feel that it was a mistake to ... A: Stacy, Thanks for writing. The answer to this question is an easy one: Your husband is abusive, a ... | |
| Marriage | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I'm in the military and I have decided not to reenlist. Instead, I'm going to use my G.I. Bill ... A: First, thank you for serving in our armed forces. My son is a Marine now deployed in Asia, and I ... | |
| I can't get an erection with my wife | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: I hope I found a right place on the net to ask my question and raise my concerns. I am 30yo man and ... A: I didn't write sooner as your question is not an easy one. The first thing you must do is to get a ... | |
| Saving marriage | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my wife for 3 yrs we have been together for 5 yrs. We both felt our ... A: I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is scary and I completely understand your desire to ... | |
| Loveless Marriage | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: Where do I begin... First, I have never requested help from this type of forum before. Second, I ... A: It sure does sound like your marriage is just about dead, and that's a terrible feeling. You mention ... | |
| i need advice | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: hai, i am married.this is my 6 year of marriage life.my marriage is love marriage.ILoved him very ... A: I know you tried your best, but the language barrier makes it very difficult for me to understand ... | |
| lack of intamcy | 10/1/2009 |
| Q: I am a 54 year old American man, a teacher and long time ex-pat. I am currently teaching in Asia. ... A: What I know about people is that the only thing we can change is ourselves. What I am hearing you ... | |
| Lost in Texas/Afghanistan | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for nearly 4 years. We fell in love quickly and got pregnant ... A: I am so sorry for your pain ... and with your husband gone to Afghanistan it must add a sense of ... | |
| marriage problems | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: here is my problem, I have been married for about a year and a half now but have been with my wife ... A: I feel really badly for you -- you're doing the best that you can and nothing seems to work. All ... | |
| SEXLESS MARRIAGE | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: I've been married almost 25 years and for the last 10 it has been pretty much loveless. My husband ... A: I'm sorry you are feeling so alone in your maariage. When a husband has no sex drive and a wife ... | |
| adultry in the marine corps | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are currrently separated (not living in the same house) we will be legally ... A: Kelly, I am sorry for your troubles -- but I am not qualified to answer this question as I am a ... | |
| A Fibbing Husband | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: But i have a weight on my shoulders. I will catch my husband in little white lies here and there. He ... A: I don't really grasp your question, and I couldn't make sense of the details -- I am sure it is my ... | |
| what's happening to me..... | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: I met my husband online. We both said that we wanted to have children and that we wanted to leave a ... A: In answer to your question, I guess you find the strength from the same place you find the will to ... | |
| Move on? | 9/5/2009 |
| Q: I recently snooped on my husband's e-mail and found that he had placed a personal ad online saying ... A: I am really sorry that your relationship is in such turmoil right now -- I wish I could remove it ... | |
| Can my marriage be saved? | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 and a half years. He hasn't been in love with me for the ... A: I really feel for you as you go through this roller coaster with your husband. I can only imagine ... | |
| Will I ever get there | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: I really hope you can help me here. My bf and I have been dating for ALMOST 2 years. We talked about ... A: You are right to question whether or not you want to marry a pothead. I cannot tell you the many ... | |
| re-marriage. Dealing with death | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: I am 23 and have fallen in love with a beautiful man. He is older 34, Our age difference is not an ... A: What a way to start off a marriage. But it sounds like your future husband is not throwing his ... | |
| need help! | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: My wife and i have been together for over 10 years. We've been married for 8 1/2. We have 2 ... A: I am sorry you are feeling so badly, but at least you accept your responsibility about where you ... | |
| Husband moved out | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: I still love my husband very much... We got married 2 years ago and met about 3.5 years ago... My ... A: I am sorry for what you are going through. Combining families is very hard, indeed. I tell my ... | |
| Marriage issue | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: "I have been with my husband for three years, he has two girls age 12 and 10, their mother, his ... A: Your life sounds like it is a living hell -- I hate for you that it has worked out this way. I am ... | |
| Marriage issue | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: I need advice about my situation, please. I am 23 and he is 25. We met at 11, dated on and off then ... A: You have my sympathies. From what you describe, it sounds to me like you married a boy, not a man. ... | |
| Trial Sepration | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: My Husband of 7 years wants a trial separation because he feels he needs some time to himself to ... A: In my opinion, one year is too long for a separation. I would say if a person doesn't want to work ... | |
| comunication help | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: Your question was Good day, over the past few months I have found that my wife has become distant ... A: it sounds like your wife is a very cruel woman. I would say she is verbally and emotionally abusive ... | |
| Trial Sepration | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: My Husband of 7 years wants a trial separation because he feels he needs some time to himself to ... A: I am sorry for what you are going through. I assure you it is not all your fault -- it takes two to ... | |
| Remarriage, Blending Families | 8/14/2009 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with an Aries male born April 10, 1971. I am a Sagittarius female born ... A: First of all, I know very little about zodiac signs, but what I do know is that I would not choose a ... | |
| he doesn't want me now that I'm pregnant | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: I haven't really discussed it with him because I don't want him to do it just to make me happy or ... A: You have my sympathy, my dear. It is interesting ... some women become non-sexual during pregnancy, ... | |
| loveless marriage | 8/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 38 years. I may have loved him, but I was not "in love" with him when we got ... A: I can tell by your letter that several things are going on, but it all boils down to one thing: you ... | |
| My husbands Jekyll/Hide personality | 8/9/2009 |
| Q: Becky, In short: My husband disrespects me whenever he is around his family. His family hates me, I ... A: You poor dear. What you describe is abusive behavior -- period. You must, must, MUST go to a family ... | |
| Help...referal | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: Could you recommend a great marriage counselor near Alpharetta, GA. My friend is having difficulty ... A: I don't know anyone personally in that area, but I would do one of two things ... go to the AAMFT ... | |
| Previous question | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: I posted a question to you a few days ago and you reply saying, rather bluntly, "i have already ... A: I am sorry if I was mistaken. The question I received was an exact replica -- word-for-word -- of ... | |
| Fear of technology | 8/1/2009 |
| Q: I am happily married to a really great guy. We both have been married before. My first marriage ... A: Wow -- this is a real problem, and it is rare that someone with such a problem is so honest and in ... | |
| what is appropriate | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: My husband left the house at 8 in the morning to go do work on a car. I was home sick from work. He ... A: Peg, Sounds like your family life isn't going very well. And now, the stress and frustration is ... | |
| Trust | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: My husband admitted six months ago that he had several sexual encounters with other women over the ... A: I really feel for you, and I don't blame you at all for having difficulties finding trust for your ... | |
| How can I help my marriage before it's to late? | 7/25/2009 |
| Q: I have a question that i'm hoping you will be able to help me out on. I have been married for 2 ... A: Wow, I really feel for you -- you're a good woman, a good wife who would not cheat, and yet your ... | |
| Help, we are getting a legal separation | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: We have been married for 12 wonderful years and have a 12 year old daughter. During the last 5 ... A: I feel for you as I know how scary it is when someone changes so much in such a short time -- you ... | |
| confuse how to bring back the trust | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: i have been involved with my husband for four before we get married in 2001. i knew as a jelous man ... A: I am shocked after reading your letter. I don't see any way you can bring back the trust in your ... | |
| Wife loves someone else behind my back. | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: Been together for 5 years, married 2. First year great but we got a PS3 and all was fine this year. ... A: I wish I could answer your question about whether your marriage is salvageable, but without spending ... | |
| Wife loves someone else behind my back. | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: Been together for 5 years, married 2. First year great but we got a PS3 and all was fine this year. ... A: I'm sorry you are having so many troubles in your marriage. I am not familiar with military lingo, ... | |
| marriage and relationship | 7/18/2009 |
| Q: ..i m in big confusion...i m in a relationship with my girlfriend since 2 yrs....let me explain what ... A: My, my ... your situation sounds pretty complicated and frustrating. I feel for you ... but I must ... | |
| Communication problems. Follow Up | 7/16/2009 |
| Q: I actually just wanted to thank you for your answer and I cant seem to figure out how to post a ... A: Even though there are people like me who don't accept insurance, there are still plenty of ... | |
| Marriage | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 16 yrs and about 3 months ago I found out that my husband had an affair with ... A: What a sad tale you tell ... I can't imagine the pain you must feel. This is actually not the first ... | |
| Communication problems. | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been trying to deal with his emotional abuse for some time now. I was on the ... A: What a stressful situation you describe -- I really feel for you. Sounds like after years of ... | |
| desperate- considering separation | 7/11/2009 |
| Q: I try to be to the point. I feel like I am on a roller coaster ride in my marriage for 20 years. I ... A: I once lived in Australia for six months, and was surprised when there to notice how different the ... | |
| Husband won't work | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: I am a 38 yr old mother of a 19 yr old daughter. I am married for the 2nd time and he is 41 and his ... A: What a terrible situation you find yourself in, and I hate to tell you, but I hear this sort of ... | |
| Lying and deceipt | 7/7/2009 |
| Q: When is enough, enough? For 2 years I have been accused of being insecure and controlling. But for 2 ... A: Wow -- it sounds like you are married to a mess of a man, and you have my deepest sympathies. I was ... | |
| can love come back? | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: i need urgent help, about5 days ago my husband told me he's not sure if he loves me anymore, we've ... A: I am so sorry for your pain. Obviously, your marriage is in severe crisis. Sometimes couples who ... | |
| secretly videotaped | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: I have benn married for 12 years. I am 31 and a mother of 3. The other nite after I got out of the ... A: Your story is horrifying, and quite frankly, I do not what to tell you. I would certainly confront ... | |
| Husband asked for a separation | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: Let me apologize now if this gets too long. I'll start with a little background information. ... A: I am sorry it has taken me days to get back with you, but when I see a long email such as yours I ... | |
| newlyweds in trouble | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband (30) and I (26) were married in November, so we are still very new to this ... and we are ... A: I really feel for you and the situation you are in. And with your husband gone so much, it IS ... | |
| infidelity, lies | 6/28/2009 |
| Q: My marriage is in trouble: I caught my husband of 13 years sending emails back and forth to a woman ... A: I am really sorry to hear what you've been dealing with, but you know what you're dealing with, ... | |
| Husband has cheated 3 times | 6/27/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 10 years married to him for 9 1/2 yrs out of those 9 1/2 yrs he has ... A: Sounds to me like you are married to a liar and a cheat, and maybe even a sex addict. I feel for ... | |
| My Marriage | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm actually seeing a therapist with my husband, but could use someone to maybe just tell me what I ... A: Wow, you must feel that your world is coming apart. You ask, are all men like this? No, but many ... | |
| He Cheated | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I am at a total loss here. I have been married for 13 1/2 years to my college sweetheart. We have ... A: I feel sad for you -- I see this sort of thing daily and it is a very complicated and painful ... | |
| is my husband givingup or is it my fault- drugs/depression | 6/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm sorry if this is long and I probably will leave a lot out. I have been married for less than 3 ... A: I read most, but not all of your letter. I am sorry, but it is just too long, and I think I get the ... | |
| My controlling wife? | 6/18/2009 |
| Q: My wife and i have been married for 4yrs, before we were married we enjoyed a full and satisfying ... A: I really appreciate that you accept some responsibility for the situation in which you find ... | |
| is my husband givingup or is it my fault- drugs/depression | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: I'm sorry if this is long and I probably will leave a lot out. I have been married for less than 3 ... A: I guess you are learning the very sad that lesson that love isn't always enough for a marriage to ... | |
| husband is depressed | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: I know my husband is depressed and our situation is alot like many of the others. How do you get ... A: Nothing is more frustrating and sad than having a spouse who has depression who is not getting it ... | |
| separation | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been separated for almost four months now and he says he is unsure if he wants ... A: If I were you I would take charge of the situation rather than wait to see what he is going to do. I ... | |
| Need an Impartial Point of View | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: BF and I have been together for 11 years. We have 2 small children. The last 2 years have been a ... A: This sounds like a real mess, and I feel badly for you. I wish I could help, but there are so many ... | |
| separation | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been separated for almost four months now and he says he is unsure if he wants ... A: What a distressing and confusing time for you -- I am so sorry. I don't recommend that couples ... | |
| adultry | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: my husband of 25 years had another affair, the last one was 15 years ago. He is working real hard at ... A: I feel so badly for you. This is a tough, tough situation, it feels terrible, and unfortunately I ... | |
| Intimacy concerns | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: Becky, My husband and I have been married about a year and have been together for six years. We ... A: How about asking your husband what you should do? Tell him you have some issues to discuss, and need ... | |
| Intimacy concerns | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: Becky, My husband and I have been married about a year and have been together for six years. We ... A: When I was in graduate school in my 40's I regained a whole new respect for how tiring and stressful ... | |
| Husband cannot leave his mother | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: Me and my husband has been staying on his parents property for more than 20 years. Reason for this ... A: Sounds like you are at the end of your rope. You have money, and you have options,and you want to be ... | |
| Is he lying? | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We have always had this mutual agreement that we ... A: I feel really sad for you. Whether or not your husband is lying, at the very least he is immature ... | |
| Husband cannot leave his mother | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: Me and my husband has been staying on his parents property for more than 20 years. Reason for this ... A: I am sorry you are so distressed. I wish I could have met you 20 years ago so I could have warned ... | |
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