| Subject | Date Asked |
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| relations | 11/24/2009 |
Q: we hv bn married for over 25 yrs now. 2 grownup daughters.wife is a housewife. relations with wife ...
A: The reason I told you to go to the web site www.bpdcentral.com is so you could get all of your ...
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| i need help | 11/23/2009 |
Q: . i am married i have one son he is just 4 yrs old. my concern is this, actually my husband know ...
A: What a dangerous game you have played. So dangerous that now you are considering making a ...
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| marriage and relationship | 11/21/2009 |
Q: ..i m in big confusion...i m in a relationship with my girlfriend since 2 yrs....let me explain what ...
A: My answer this time is the same as last time. This woman will make you miserable if you marry her. ...
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| woes | 11/20/2009 |
Q: We're an 8 yr married couple, 3 young children, one parent works, the other stays at home raising ...
A: It sure does sound like you both have the woes, and I am sympathetic to you. Many of us reach a ...
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| relations | 11/20/2009 |
Q: we hv bn married for over 25 yrs now. 2 grownup daughters.wife is a housewife. relations with wife ...
A: BPD is both genetically and environmentally caused. I really believe the genetic piece to be very ...
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| School | 11/19/2009 |
Q: We're engaged at this point. He has finished his PhD and I'm finishing up my masters. He has managed ...
A: Congrats on your education. I have gone that route as well, and have significant debt. If I waited ...
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| In need of some advice | 11/19/2009 |
Q: I am in desperate need for advice on what to do in my current situation. Its a little unusual but ...
A: James, Based on the story to tell, you are too immature to marry, and apparently your fiance knows ...
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| relations | 11/18/2009 |
Q: we hv bn married for over 25 yrs now. 2 grownup daughters.wife is a housewife. relations with wife ...
A: I am sorry for your distress. There are all sorts of things that could be causing your wife's ...
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| My husband spends too much time with a close male friend and I don't know what to do... | 11/18/2009 |
Q: I'm 30, my husband's 32, and recently he's been spending all his free time with a close male friend ...
A: I am sorry for what you are going through. It certainly sounds like your husband is having a gay ...
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| lack of communication? | 11/17/2009 |
Q: I know you have a lot of other questions to answer,;) so I'll get right to the point. I have been ...
A: You certainly have my sympathy for what you are going through. Yes, I guess the cousin would be ...
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| divorce. | 11/16/2009 |
Q: My wife and I have been married 15 yrs and have had our trouble. I'm from Mass. and she Ohio. We ...
A: I can really tell that you want to find a way -- almost any way -- to save your marriage. I feel for ...
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| My husband WANTS another man to make me pregnant!! | 11/12/2009 |
Q: Me and my husband both want kids, but my husband does, albeit in a slightly odd way... he wants me ...
A: I thought I had heard everything until I read your letter. You have my deepest sympathies for having ...
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| Marriage | 11/7/2009 |
Q: When I met my husband, he was going through a very bitter divorce. His wife had left him with his 3 ...
A: It sounds like you're having serious problems in your marriage, and I feel badly for you. You have ...
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| My husband's ranting about everything, no matter where we are or what we do... | 11/5/2009 |
Q: I've been married to my husband for a month now, and things have been great so far... until now. ...
A: The reason I haven't written you earlier is that your question is a complicated one. The more I ...
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| making marriage work | 11/4/2009 |
Q: i have been married for over a yr, but have spent the last 10 yrs of my life with the same man. i ...
A: Your situation is very sad and I am sorry that you are in experiencing it. I hope you don't mind ...
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| Exhausted raising my husband | 11/1/2009 |
Q: I am a 47 and my husband is 45. This is my second marriage and his first. We have been together ...
A: I am sorry that you are so unhappy in your marriage. I do think marriage counseling is a wise idea ...
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| I'm tired | 10/30/2009 |
Q: We are not young nor are we old. We have been living together for almost a year. In the beginning ...
A: I am sorry you are having a bad time in your relationship. You don't give me very many details. Are ...
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| Is it silly? | 10/30/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I rarely watch reality TV but the other day we were at the home of a mutual friend ...
A: I have seen Wife Swap and it is fascinating how they take two families that are polar opposites and ...
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| Young married couple | 10/29/2009 |
Q: I am concerned about my husband. We are a young couple only in our twentys. I love my husband, I'm ...
A: I am really sorry you are having relationship issues in your young marriage. This is supposed to be ...
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| Marrying an older women | 10/26/2009 |
Q: I am in love with a woman who is 6 yrs older to me.I am 29 and she is 35 yrs old.We have dated for ...
A: Hello to you all the way to India! I am sorry you are having difficulties. The Indian culture is ...
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| where to from here | 10/26/2009 |
Q: My husband walked out 9mths ago.Saying he didnt love me. He has maintianed limited contact with our ...
A: Greetings to you down in Australia -- all the way from San Antonio, Texas. I am sorry that you are ...
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| Problem Marriage. | 10/20/2009 |
Q: Let me first start by saying I am a 49 year old on my second marriage, my husband has 2 kids and I ...
A: I am sorry for the distress you are feeling. Is there any reason you have not gone for counseling ...
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| !! | 10/18/2009 |
Q: I have felt many times that I should leave my husband. I sometimes feel that it was a mistake to ...
A: Stacy, Thanks for writing. The answer to this question is an easy one: Your husband is abusive, a ...
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| Marriage | 10/13/2009 |
Q: I'm in the military and I have decided not to reenlist. Instead, I'm going to use my G.I. Bill ...
A: First, thank you for serving in our armed forces. My son is a Marine now deployed in Asia, and I ...
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| I can't get an erection with my wife | 10/10/2009 |
Q: I hope I found a right place on the net to ask my question and raise my concerns. I am 30yo man and ...
A: I didn't write sooner as your question is not an easy one. The first thing you must do is to get a ...
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| Saving marriage | 10/9/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my wife for 3 yrs we have been together for 5 yrs. We both felt our ...
A: I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is scary and I completely understand your desire to ...
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| Loveless Marriage | 10/5/2009 |
Q: Where do I begin... First, I have never requested help from this type of forum before. Second, I ...
A: It sure does sound like your marriage is just about dead, and that's a terrible feeling. You mention ...
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| i need advice | 10/3/2009 |
Q: hai, i am married.this is my 6 year of marriage life.my marriage is love marriage.ILoved him very ...
A: I know you tried your best, but the language barrier makes it very difficult for me to understand ...
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| lack of intamcy | 10/1/2009 |
Q: I am a 54 year old American man, a teacher and long time ex-pat. I am currently teaching in Asia. ...
A: What I know about people is that the only thing we can change is ourselves. What I am hearing you ...
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| Lost in Texas/Afghanistan | 9/30/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for nearly 4 years. We fell in love quickly and got pregnant ...
A: I am so sorry for your pain ... and with your husband gone to Afghanistan it must add a sense of ...
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| marriage problems | 9/26/2009 |
Q: here is my problem, I have been married for about a year and a half now but have been with my wife ...
A: I feel really badly for you -- you're doing the best that you can and nothing seems to work. All ...
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| SEXLESS MARRIAGE | 9/23/2009 |
Q: I've been married almost 25 years and for the last 10 it has been pretty much loveless. My husband ...
A: I'm sorry you are feeling so alone in your maariage. When a husband has no sex drive and a wife ...
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| adultry in the marine corps | 9/19/2009 |
Q: My husband and I are currrently separated (not living in the same house) we will be legally ...
A: Kelly, I am sorry for your troubles -- but I am not qualified to answer this question as I am a ...
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| A Fibbing Husband | 9/19/2009 |
Q: But i have a weight on my shoulders. I will catch my husband in little white lies here and there. He ...
A: I don't really grasp your question, and I couldn't make sense of the details -- I am sure it is my ...
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| what's happening to me..... | 9/15/2009 |
Q: I met my husband online. We both said that we wanted to have children and that we wanted to leave a ...
A: In answer to your question, I guess you find the strength from the same place you find the will to ...
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| Move on? | 9/5/2009 |
Q: I recently snooped on my husband's e-mail and found that he had placed a personal ad online saying ...
A: I am really sorry that your relationship is in such turmoil right now -- I wish I could remove it ...
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| Can my marriage be saved? | 9/4/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 and a half years. He hasn't been in love with me for the ...
A: I really feel for you as you go through this roller coaster with your husband. I can only imagine ...
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| Will I ever get there | 9/3/2009 |
Q: I really hope you can help me here. My bf and I have been dating for ALMOST 2 years. We talked about ...
A: You are right to question whether or not you want to marry a pothead. I cannot tell you the many ...
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| re-marriage. Dealing with death | 8/31/2009 |
Q: I am 23 and have fallen in love with a beautiful man. He is older 34, Our age difference is not an ...
A: What a way to start off a marriage. But it sounds like your future husband is not throwing his ...
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| need help! | 8/24/2009 |
Q: My wife and i have been together for over 10 years. We've been married for 8 1/2. We have 2 ...
A: I am sorry you are feeling so badly, but at least you accept your responsibility about where you ...
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| Husband moved out | 8/23/2009 |
Q: I still love my husband very much... We got married 2 years ago and met about 3.5 years ago... My ...
A: I am sorry for what you are going through. Combining families is very hard, indeed. I tell my ...
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| Marriage issue | 8/21/2009 |
Q: "I have been with my husband for three years, he has two girls age 12 and 10, their mother, his ...
A: Your life sounds like it is a living hell -- I hate for you that it has worked out this way. I am ...
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| Marriage issue | 8/21/2009 |
Q: I need advice about my situation, please. I am 23 and he is 25. We met at 11, dated on and off then ...
A: You have my sympathies. From what you describe, it sounds to me like you married a boy, not a man. ...
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| Trial Sepration | 8/18/2009 |
Q: My Husband of 7 years wants a trial separation because he feels he needs some time to himself to ...
A: In my opinion, one year is too long for a separation. I would say if a person doesn't want to work ...
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| comunication help | 8/18/2009 |
Q: Your question was Good day, over the past few months I have found that my wife has become distant ...
A: it sounds like your wife is a very cruel woman. I would say she is verbally and emotionally abusive ...
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| Trial Sepration | 8/18/2009 |
Q: My Husband of 7 years wants a trial separation because he feels he needs some time to himself to ...
A: I am sorry for what you are going through. I assure you it is not all your fault -- it takes two to ...
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| Remarriage, Blending Families | 8/14/2009 |
Q: I am in a relationship with an Aries male born April 10, 1971. I am a Sagittarius female born ...
A: First of all, I know very little about zodiac signs, but what I do know is that I would not choose a ...
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| he doesn't want me now that I'm pregnant | 8/11/2009 |
Q: I haven't really discussed it with him because I don't want him to do it just to make me happy or ...
A: You have my sympathy, my dear. It is interesting ... some women become non-sexual during pregnancy, ...
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| loveless marriage | 8/9/2009 |
Q: I have been married 38 years. I may have loved him, but I was not "in love" with him when we got ...
A: I can tell by your letter that several things are going on, but it all boils down to one thing: you ...
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| My husbands Jekyll/Hide personality | 8/9/2009 |
Q: Becky, In short: My husband disrespects me whenever he is around his family. His family hates me, I ...
A: You poor dear. What you describe is abusive behavior -- period. You must, must, MUST go to a family ...
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| Help...referal | 8/7/2009 |
Q: Could you recommend a great marriage counselor near Alpharetta, GA. My friend is having difficulty ...
A: I don't know anyone personally in that area, but I would do one of two things ... go to the AAMFT ...
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| Previous question | 8/6/2009 |
Q: I posted a question to you a few days ago and you reply saying, rather bluntly, "i have already ...
A: I am sorry if I was mistaken. The question I received was an exact replica -- word-for-word -- of ...
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| Fear of technology | 8/1/2009 |
Q: I am happily married to a really great guy. We both have been married before. My first marriage ...
A: Wow -- this is a real problem, and it is rare that someone with such a problem is so honest and in ...
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| what is appropriate | 7/31/2009 |
Q: My husband left the house at 8 in the morning to go do work on a car. I was home sick from work. He ...
A: Peg, Sounds like your family life isn't going very well. And now, the stress and frustration is ...
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| Trust | 7/28/2009 |
Q: My husband admitted six months ago that he had several sexual encounters with other women over the ...
A: I really feel for you, and I don't blame you at all for having difficulties finding trust for your ...
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| How can I help my marriage before it's to late? | 7/25/2009 |
Q: I have a question that i'm hoping you will be able to help me out on. I have been married for 2 ...
A: Wow, I really feel for you -- you're a good woman, a good wife who would not cheat, and yet your ...
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| Help, we are getting a legal separation | 7/22/2009 |
Q: We have been married for 12 wonderful years and have a 12 year old daughter. During the last 5 ...
A: I feel for you as I know how scary it is when someone changes so much in such a short time -- you ...
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| confuse how to bring back the trust | 7/21/2009 |
Q: i have been involved with my husband for four before we get married in 2001. i knew as a jelous man ...
A: I am shocked after reading your letter. I don't see any way you can bring back the trust in your ...
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| Wife loves someone else behind my back. | 7/20/2009 |
Q: Been together for 5 years, married 2. First year great but we got a PS3 and all was fine this year. ...
A: I wish I could answer your question about whether your marriage is salvageable, but without spending ...
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| Wife loves someone else behind my back. | 7/20/2009 |
Q: Been together for 5 years, married 2. First year great but we got a PS3 and all was fine this year. ...
A: I'm sorry you are having so many troubles in your marriage. I am not familiar with military lingo, ...
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| marriage and relationship | 7/18/2009 |
Q: ..i m in big confusion...i m in a relationship with my girlfriend since 2 yrs....let me explain what ...
A: My, my ... your situation sounds pretty complicated and frustrating. I feel for you ... but I must ...
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| Communication problems. Follow Up | 7/16/2009 |
Q: I actually just wanted to thank you for your answer and I cant seem to figure out how to post a ...
A: Even though there are people like me who don't accept insurance, there are still plenty of ...
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| Marriage | 7/15/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 16 yrs and about 3 months ago I found out that my husband had an affair with ...
A: What a sad tale you tell ... I can't imagine the pain you must feel. This is actually not the first ...
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| Communication problems. | 7/14/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been trying to deal with his emotional abuse for some time now. I was on the ...
A: What a stressful situation you describe -- I really feel for you. Sounds like after years of ...
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| desperate- considering separation | 7/11/2009 |
Q: I try to be to the point. I feel like I am on a roller coaster ride in my marriage for 20 years. I ...
A: I once lived in Australia for six months, and was surprised when there to notice how different the ...
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| Husband won't work | 7/8/2009 |
Q: I am a 38 yr old mother of a 19 yr old daughter. I am married for the 2nd time and he is 41 and his ...
A: What a terrible situation you find yourself in, and I hate to tell you, but I hear this sort of ...
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| Lying and deceipt | 7/7/2009 |
Q: When is enough, enough? For 2 years I have been accused of being insecure and controlling. But for 2 ...
A: Wow -- it sounds like you are married to a mess of a man, and you have my deepest sympathies. I was ...
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| can love come back? | 7/2/2009 |
Q: i need urgent help, about5 days ago my husband told me he's not sure if he loves me anymore, we've ...
A: I am so sorry for your pain. Obviously, your marriage is in severe crisis. Sometimes couples who ...
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| secretly videotaped | 6/30/2009 |
Q: I have benn married for 12 years. I am 31 and a mother of 3. The other nite after I got out of the ...
A: Your story is horrifying, and quite frankly, I do not what to tell you. I would certainly confront ...
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| Husband asked for a separation | 6/29/2009 |
Q: Let me apologize now if this gets too long. I'll start with a little background information. ...
A: I am sorry it has taken me days to get back with you, but when I see a long email such as yours I ...
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| newlyweds in trouble | 6/29/2009 |
Q: My husband (30) and I (26) were married in November, so we are still very new to this ... and we are ...
A: I really feel for you and the situation you are in. And with your husband gone so much, it IS ...
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| infidelity, lies | 6/28/2009 |
Q: My marriage is in trouble: I caught my husband of 13 years sending emails back and forth to a woman ...
A: I am really sorry to hear what you've been dealing with, but you know what you're dealing with, ...
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| Husband has cheated 3 times | 6/27/2009 |
Q: I have been with my husband for 10 years married to him for 9 1/2 yrs out of those 9 1/2 yrs he has ...
A: Sounds to me like you are married to a liar and a cheat, and maybe even a sex addict. I feel for ...
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| My Marriage | 6/25/2009 |
Q: I'm actually seeing a therapist with my husband, but could use someone to maybe just tell me what I ...
A: Wow, you must feel that your world is coming apart. You ask, are all men like this? No, but many ...
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| He Cheated | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I am at a total loss here. I have been married for 13 1/2 years to my college sweetheart. We have ...
A: I feel sad for you -- I see this sort of thing daily and it is a very complicated and painful ...
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| is my husband givingup or is it my fault- drugs/depression | 6/18/2009 |
Q: I'm sorry if this is long and I probably will leave a lot out. I have been married for less than 3 ...
A: I read most, but not all of your letter. I am sorry, but it is just too long, and I think I get the ...
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| My controlling wife? | 6/18/2009 |
Q: My wife and i have been married for 4yrs, before we were married we enjoyed a full and satisfying ...
A: I really appreciate that you accept some responsibility for the situation in which you find ...
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| is my husband givingup or is it my fault- drugs/depression | 6/17/2009 |
Q: I'm sorry if this is long and I probably will leave a lot out. I have been married for less than 3 ...
A: I guess you are learning the very sad that lesson that love isn't always enough for a marriage to ...
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| husband is depressed | 6/17/2009 |
Q: I know my husband is depressed and our situation is alot like many of the others. How do you get ...
A: Nothing is more frustrating and sad than having a spouse who has depression who is not getting it ...
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| separation | 6/16/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been separated for almost four months now and he says he is unsure if he wants ...
A: If I were you I would take charge of the situation rather than wait to see what he is going to do. I ...
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| Need an Impartial Point of View | 6/15/2009 |
Q: BF and I have been together for 11 years. We have 2 small children. The last 2 years have been a ...
A: This sounds like a real mess, and I feel badly for you. I wish I could help, but there are so many ...
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| separation | 6/15/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been separated for almost four months now and he says he is unsure if he wants ...
A: What a distressing and confusing time for you -- I am so sorry. I don't recommend that couples ...
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| adultry | 6/10/2009 |
Q: my husband of 25 years had another affair, the last one was 15 years ago. He is working real hard at ...
A: I feel so badly for you. This is a tough, tough situation, it feels terrible, and unfortunately I ...
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| Intimacy concerns | 6/10/2009 |
Q: Becky, My husband and I have been married about a year and have been together for six years. We ...
A: How about asking your husband what you should do? Tell him you have some issues to discuss, and need ...
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| Intimacy concerns | 6/9/2009 |
Q: Becky, My husband and I have been married about a year and have been together for six years. We ...
A: When I was in graduate school in my 40's I regained a whole new respect for how tiring and stressful ...
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| Husband cannot leave his mother | 6/9/2009 |
Q: Me and my husband has been staying on his parents property for more than 20 years. Reason for this ...
A: Sounds like you are at the end of your rope. You have money, and you have options,and you want to be ...
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| Is he lying? | 6/8/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We have always had this mutual agreement that we ...
A: I feel really sad for you. Whether or not your husband is lying, at the very least he is immature ...
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| Husband cannot leave his mother | 6/6/2009 |
Q: Me and my husband has been staying on his parents property for more than 20 years. Reason for this ...
A: I am sorry you are so distressed. I wish I could have met you 20 years ago so I could have warned ...
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