Marriage/Questions Answered by Expert Samantha
| Subject | Date Asked |
| child support | 2/6/2012 |
| Q: I know this is going to sound like a silly question, and I feel like I already know the answer. But ... A: He's sadly mistaken. No, CS does not stop when one of the parties gets married. He'll still have ... | |
| Insecurity | 1/28/2012 |
| Q: I have been married for 9 years, and it has had its ups and downs. I have gone through 2 abortions ... A: What is it that you want out of this marriage? She's taken advantage of you for long enough. As ... | |
| Marriage, Family and Moving | 1/22/2012 |
| Q: I am hoping you can help me sort things out. I am newly married to a man I have been with for 8 ... A: You should sit down with your husband and see what his suggestion would be on this issue. Go ... | |
| Broken first marriage | 1/10/2012 |
| Q: My problem is simple. We married young. The first time we married. She got in the trunk of a small ... A: Sometimes finding forgiveness is not that easy. And there are some that can forgive easily than ... | |
| Ironed out | 1/9/2012 |
| Q: My wife refuses to iron my clothes. She washes them and piles them up on top of the dryer for ... A: That might make it a little chilly or awkward going to work in your boxer shorts. If you don't like ... | |
| Court Ordered Insurance | 1/5/2012 |
| Q: My fiance has been ordered by the State of AZ to pay Insurance on a child that is not his, and the ... A: You first have the burden of proving he is not the father. And the only way you can do that is ... | |
| Short Tempered hunsband | 12/29/2011 |
| Q: We are married from 5 years and have a 2 years old boy. Its all going good except my husbands very ... A: He has an anger management problem. He's being irrational by expecting you to smile and take all ... | |
| Not a Good Start | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: I'm a newlywed of only three weeks and already my husband makes me feel that he loves his computer ... A: His addiction to gaming is truly an addiction just like gambling is to a gambler and drinking is to ... | |
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: That is a very strange fantasy for you to have, it's definitely not typical either. It's more taboo ... | |
| Any advice..? | 12/12/2011 |
| Q: So my husband (22yrs old) and I (24yrs old) have been together for 5 years married for 2 of them, He ... A: There is probably nothing you can say or do at this point to get him to listen to you and take you ... | |
| marriage | 12/2/2011 |
| Q: I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 3 AND HALF YEARS.EVER SINCE WE GOT MARRIED WE HAVE LIVED WITH OUR ... A: You are very stressed out right now and have a lot of responsibilities and things that are expected ... | |
| Marital issues | 11/30/2011 |
| Q: I am a mother of an 8 year old. Mine was an arranged marriage like most of them in India. I am city ... A: No, you're definitely not at fault for this relationship/marriage going awry. He's the one that's ... | |
| Can this marriage work? | 11/30/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 4 years. For the past 2 years I feel like our relationship has been going ... A: At the rate this marriage is going, no, it's not going to last if you allow this to keep happening. ... | |
| Marital issues | 11/28/2011 |
| Q: I am a mother of an 8 year old. Mine was an arranged marriage like most of them in India. I am city ... A: The most obvious choice would be to not go back to your husband b/c he's abusive to you in many ... | |
| No Inimacy for a year | 11/23/2011 |
| Q: I have lived with my domestic partner for just over a year now. Before we moved in together he was ... A: Something is just not adding up here. I would think that something is up somewhere and that he's ... | |
| intimacy | 11/16/2011 |
| Q: My partner initially was quite intimate with me however, after marriage he does not kiss me; on the ... A: Anything that's not marked private (in asking questions) is public. That means it'll show the ... | |
| Should I stay or go? | 11/16/2011 |
| Q: This is a long story so bear with me. My ex-husband and I have been together 15 years. In the ... A: Just b/c you love him and have been with him for 15 yrs is not a reason to stay with him. And it's ... | |
| intimacy | 11/16/2011 |
| Q: My partner initially was quite intimate with me however, after marriage he does not kiss me; on the ... A: That's definitely not normal behavior in a marriage or in any relationship for that matter. He's ... | |
| Relationships | 11/6/2011 |
| Q: So I have had realtionships with guys in the past and they were long lasting and good. They all ... A: What is it that YOU want? If this other woman turns out to be the love of your life, and you let ... | |
| is my husband a baby or just controlling? | 11/3/2011 |
| Q: My husband is a big baby and mamas boy.We live three hours away from our parents and see them often, ... A: Maybe he's being a bit of both. It's unfair that he's acting the way he is. He's being immature ... | |
| wife unfaithful and now wants out of the relationship | 11/2/2011 |
| Q: I recently found out that my wife was having an affair with a co-worker. This had been going on for ... A: That's just it you can't control how she acts, you can only control how you react to her. I know ... | |
| husband too tired for intimacy/sex | 11/1/2011 |
| Q: Any suggestions on how to get more sex into an 18 yr marriage? (We're 50.)My husband works long, ... A: He's taking on too much and not giving enough time for you that you so desperately want from him. ... | |
| wife unfaithful and now wants out of the relationship | 11/1/2011 |
| Q: I recently found out that my wife was having an affair with a co-worker. This had been going on for ... A: First let me say that I'm sorry that you have to endure all this, but it can and will get better as ... | |
| IL issues and Hubby believes them... | 10/31/2011 |
| Q: I am having some problems in my married life. To give u a little background to my scene, I have been ... A: I'm sorry that you're having to go through all of this stress between your mom and now your husband ... | |
| Wait for him or leave him? | 10/27/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost six years, started when I was 20 and he was 23. Our ... A: You have quite the ordeal going on with this relationship and especially his parents don't you? Wow, ... | |
| Help | 10/24/2011 |
| Q: I met a man 15 months ago and fell deeply in love with him. He was everything i have ever wanted in ... A: He's a professional cheater and a womanizer. Run, run, run for the hills and do NOT look back. ... | |
| Long distance | 10/24/2011 |
| Q: my situation is a bit complex. I'm married with a foreign woman, we have a 16 months baby and she ... A: I'm sorry that she's putting you in such a predicament. That's a tough situation for you to be in. ... | |
| trust lost... | 10/22/2011 |
| Q: I was married the first time at 16 yrs old. it turned quickly to me being cheated on, and ... A: No one likes being lied to, it's a betrayal of trust and respect. So I can definitely understand ... | |
| Moved overseas | 10/20/2011 |
| Q: I am living in Australia for 3 yrs now with my husband who is Australian and I am American. I didn't ... A: I think if by now you haven't settled in, then you're not going to do so after 3 yrs (or however ... | |
| Moved overseas | 10/18/2011 |
| Q: I am living in Australia for 3 yrs now with my husband who is Australian and I am American. I didn't ... A: You need to go with your heart and do what's right for you and what ultimately makes you happy. And ... | |
| My fiancee and our 6 children | 10/14/2011 |
| Q: I don't really know where to start but here goes. I have known my fiancee for 14 years, we have been ... A: Your children should come first and if he's going to act childish and immature then perhaps it is ... | |
| how to move on | 10/11/2011 |
| Q: Samantha, My boyfriend an I have been together for over 5 yrs. He is 38 and I am nearly 32. We ... A: Okay, calm down and you must think this through. No one is saying you should just up and quit your ... | |
| Husband wants to separate | 10/9/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 11 years to a good man. We have four kids ages 9,7,6 and 2. We lead very ... A: You have hurt him with your words, words can scar internally and do more damage than physical abuse ... | |
| broken marriage | 10/6/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 38 yrs. I am 58. My husband has always had anger issues which he took out on ... A: You have to explore that for yourself, if you are willing to take the chance. You must stop making ... | |
| Confusion Of Getting Marriage | 10/6/2011 |
| Q: i want to know that from where i should start i can't understand but i have to say that actually i ... A: If you're not courting or in a relationship right now, then you should focus on your sexual problem ... | |
| broken marriage | 10/4/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 38 yrs. I am 58. My husband has always had anger issues which he took out on ... A: Why are you letting him control you? Why are you putting up with this from him? He's an abuser and ... | |
| Marriage | 10/2/2011 |
| Q: I don't feel the same about my wife. I wish this wasn't happening since she is a good wife, but we ... A: What do you want to do with this marriage? Do you want to try to make things work with her? And to ... | |
| Unhappily married | 9/29/2011 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 19 years and together for 22. Since the very beginning, it ... A: What do you want in life? Your hopes, thoughts, feelings and dreams DO matter. And don't you think ... | |
| Major Insecurity Issues | 9/9/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 2.5 years (but together for 3.5 yrs total) and we both have infidelity on ... A: You obviously have trust issues. I think that you both need to look into some marriage counseling ... | |
| Marriage, Yes or No | 9/8/2011 |
| Q: Samantha, My boyfriend an I have been together for over 5 yrs. He is 38 and I am nearly 32. We ... A: Are you sure he's officially divorced from his first wife? And if so have you seen the papers to ... | |
| Don't want to give up on marriage. | 9/5/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 2 years, together in total for 5. In April of this year I ... A: You need to continue to move on with your life w/o him in it. He's the one that told you how he ... | |
| marriage to a woman with another nationality other than US | 8/22/2011 |
| Q: My fiance and I are living in Brazil. I moved here 6 years ago for work. I am a US citizen and she ... A: I did a Google search by typing in what type of ID do you need to marry in Tx and this is what I ... | |
| Kissed a friend - did I mistake the sign? | 8/18/2011 |
| Q: Sticky situation now...here's the story: We are both married and our kids play together. One night ... A: He must've figured you crossed the line. And as uncomfortable and awkward as the situation is, you ... | |
| engagement pressure | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: my name is Stacee and I am 22 years old living in New York City. I am a senior at my last year in ... A: If he's going to act this way around you and treat you with such disrespect what do you really think ... | |
| Should i marry? | 8/16/2011 |
| Q: I have a very important question for you. I am 28 yr old male never married or never was in ... A: I think you need to ponder and think long and hard why you feel this very way, meaning having ... | |
| Marriage | 8/15/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 19 years. We have two daughters. One is 18 and leaving for college ... A: The old "I love you but I don't know if I'm IN love with you" saying. That often means that while a ... | |
| Should i marry? | 8/14/2011 |
| Q: I have a very important question for you. I am 28 yr old male never married or never was in ... A: I think you need to do what's right for you and what makes you happy. You're the one that has to ... | |
| Marriage in Crisis | 7/25/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 10 years, and married for 4 of them. Recently we have been having ... A: Sure, it absolutely can work. The catch here is though that he has to be a willing participant in ... | |
| Iam married to a person who's sister is married to my brother | 7/24/2011 |
| Q: Salaamz.. I have been married to my husbands since 6 years mashAllah we have two son's 1-3 n we were ... A: You're right to not to take anyone's side in their fights, etc. It sounds like their relationship ... | |
| How to make my wife be more of a wife? | 7/21/2011 |
| Q: So I married my 4 year sweetheart who was brought up in a good home with two siblings and her mother ... A: She may have agreed to it at the time, but she clearly isn't the type of woman who dotes over her ... | |
| Do I stay in this marriage? | 7/21/2011 |
| Q: I really don't know what to do! I have been married for 5 1/3 years. My husband and I have 3 ... A: You need to ask yourself some tough questions before you decide anything. Such as: Do you want ... | |
| Wife(facebooking to man she cheated with) | 7/14/2011 |
| Q: My wife recently told me our marriage has come to a point where she loves me like a friend roommate. ... A: That's got to be really hard to you to accept and to hear that from your wife. She mislead you into ... | |
| Help with cranky husband. | 7/14/2011 |
| Q: I've been married for about three years and have noticed that every night about thirty minutes ... A: If this has become a habit and a ritual for him, then you'll just have to become accustomed to his ... | |
| Marriage | 6/29/2011 |
| Q: At present my age is 30yrs i am doing a small job in my country and i am happy with it.There are ... A: The answer might be more simple than you realize. You should treat a person (including a potential ... | |
| Marriage and drugs | 6/26/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 9 years, 4 out of which have been unhappy for both of us and ... A: What in all these 9 yrs you've been together makes it okay for you to somehow convince yourself that ... | |
| Rushed Reconciliation.....Please help | 6/25/2011 |
| Q: First of all thank you for taking your time to respond to all my previous messages in the past ... A: You have to do what you have to do, if that means you have to do another separation then do it. ... | |
| He is engaged now | 6/22/2011 |
| Q: I have been with a guy for 5 years we can't live without each other. About 2 years after we met he ... A: They can't force him to marry someone else. He has to refuse to marry this other girl, otherwise ... | |
| A Newlywed Incident | 6/21/2011 |
| Q: I have a question regarding an incident that took place over the weekend between a couple. They are ... A: I concur with you that, yes, it very well could be an invitation for a man to fight with another man ... | |
| A Newlywed Incident | 6/21/2011 |
| Q: I have a question regarding an incident that took place over the weekend between a couple. They are ... A: You have some good points. But I have to agree and disagree with you many few levels here. The ... | |
| Separation | 6/18/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have now been separated for a month. My husband turned 50 in January. He first ... A: It's hard to say really. He could be experiencing anxiety or he could be going through, as you ... | |
| Married w/ children, but want to pursue my goals too! | 6/13/2011 |
| Q: I've been with the same man for 7 years now, we just married a few months ago. We have 2 children ... A: Do what you need to do in order for you to be happy. Whatever that may be. And that's not being ... | |
| immature 41 year old husband | 6/8/2011 |
| Q: Having a very difficult time controlling my anger. I am not an angry person by nature but my ... A: You need to make a choice as to whether you're going to stay and keep accepting his abusive ways ... | |
| concerns about cheating | 6/5/2011 |
| Q: I am writing in hopes of finding some answers for my mother. I appreciate any advice you may have ... A: It's hard to say if he is indeed cheating. I wouldn't be focusing on the cheating so much as his ... | |
| Marriage, cheating, laziness | 6/4/2011 |
| Q: I am having some real issues in my broken marriage, we have been married for 5 years, known each ... A: Are you saying she doesn't even do the bare minimal around the house, like trying to at least keep ... | |
| Manipulating,Hypocrite Mother in law, LOSS PRIDE & ENERGY | 6/1/2011 |
| Q: My mother in law has been manipulating my relationship since the beginning. I will give you a ... A: You need to stop trying to hard with his family, including his mother and doing things for her. ... | |
| marriage on the rocks | 5/31/2011 |
| Q: my husband and i have been married now for 21/2 years. before we were married we lived together but ... A: You must put an end to his using, and if he refuses to stop using (and there is always the risk that ... | |
| married and seperated | 5/31/2011 |
| Q: my question is what are the percentages of people who get seperated end up in divorce. what is the ... A: There's usually a 50-50 chance that this could happen, by either going your separate ways or getting ... | |
| My boyfriend is a child | 5/18/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and he is already acting like a child! I know most men are ... A: RUN! No, I'm just kidding, but seriously, his childish and immature actions/reactions to things are ... | |
| lazy husband | 5/15/2011 |
| Q: This is a second marriage of 14 years. I have been trying to better the quality of our lives over ... A: Shame on him for acting this way, but you've let him treat you in this manner for a long time, and ... | |
| How do I know if its right to leave my husband | 5/2/2011 |
| Q: I have been with the same man for almost twenty years and I have three children with him. We have ... A: That's really a hard call to make for someone in your situation. But you're feelings for him have ... | |
| marriage law | 4/22/2011 |
| Q: I know you are based in the US, but are you able to tell me whether it is legal or not to marry your ... A: I don't know about the Phillippines, but I do know that you can legally marry a cousin in New ... | |
| Child Support | 4/17/2011 |
| Q: I am the father of boy and a girl twin children whom I have raised on my own I have a child support ... A: If the court order was never modified, then you'll only be able to collect on what was originally ... | |
| Child Support | 4/17/2011 |
| Q: I am the father of boy and a girl twin children whom I have raised on my own I have a child support ... A: As long as the children are in college then you can still collect child support, so long as it's ... | |
| Internet Addiction / Seperation | 4/15/2011 |
| Q: This is a long drawn out issue. I cheated on my wife right after the birth of our first of 2 ... A: Well, I can understand her position on this and wanting some space with a trial separation. A ... | |
| no confidence,low esteem. | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: i have a friend who works with me.she has been through a rough marriage.her husband has cheated on ... A: All you can do for her is try to be as supportive to her as you can. Keep giving her the ... | |
| Pls Help Me With My Marriage!!! | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: I am frantic about what my next step is, please help if you can! My husband and I have been married ... A: You need to take care of yourself first and foremost. It seems as though everything that you've ... | |
| Unhealthy Relationship | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: I have been in an unhealthy relationship for years now. To the outside world, it looks like a ... A: You divorced him for good reason the first time. And you've done it once and you're strong enough ... | |
| Want to win my wife back | 4/12/2011 |
| Q: What do I do to make my wife fall in love with me again? I'm still in love with her. We are ... A: Maybe she loves you but she's not IN love with you. There's a huge difference between the two ... | |
| Is my spouse cheating | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: my question is simple. How do I tell if my spouse is cheating? My spouse and I have only been ... A: It sure isn't looking good. He may not be actually physically cheating with her, yet. But he's got ... | |
| My son is wearing bikinis, this is an issue for me. | 4/4/2011 |
| Q: I am a 43 year old mother of two, been married to my husband for over 20 years now. It's not my ... A: I agree with you that you have to set some ground rules for him. And after all he is only 16 and ... | |
| Pre Marital Sex | 3/31/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and we started having sex rather early in ... A: I commend you for having decided to do this with your BF. In this day and age where everything ... | |
| Local war hero stealing - causing me concern | 3/30/2011 |
| Q: [logged in on public terminal, so keeping it short] I'm 32, and been with my partner for 7 years ... A: I would be just as upset and disturbed by the local police refusing to do anything b/c he's a "war ... | |
| Do i still love my Husband ? | 3/29/2011 |
| Q: on my Birthday 2 weeks ago i met an old holiday romance on facebook ( we were kids when we met ... A: You're treading on thin ice when you're taking an interest in a man that you've not been with in ... | |
| confused | 3/28/2011 |
| Q: my fiance is 44 years old,his been married has two kids, his wife left the marriage and took the ... A: If you're dead set on having children and being married, then you have to tell him that marriage and ... | |
| dealing with an impatient hot headed fiance | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: i am in a 6 yr relationship and were planning to get married this yr. my problem is that whenever i ... A: It's hard to admit when you have a character flaw in yourself, but you took a huge step in doing ... | |
| My husband is saying he going to lock me out | 3/25/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I moved into this home 11 years ago as boyfriend and girlfriend - a lease to buy deal ... A: Since you're legally married he can NOT kick you out of the home or to lock you out. You have legal ... | |
| marriage and back child support | 3/25/2011 |
| Q: my fiance and i will be getting married in less than a year. He owes a lot of back child support ... A: His CS has absolutely nothing to do with you or your income. They can not garnish your wages, ... | |
| lack of comprehensive communication | 3/25/2011 |
| Q: forgive my writing style. i have an issue that is beginning to become extremely depressing to me ... A: It sounds like you have a few things going on here in your marriage. The stresses at work, home and ... | |
| Family with step children | 3/25/2011 |
| Q: Samantha- I have been married to my husband for four years this June and we have been together for ... A: I agree with you that you need to take care of your children and leave, it shouldn't have to come to ... | |
| Unhappy marriage | 3/25/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for over 6 years and have two young children (4 years and 10 months). I met my ... A: If you are so unhappy and trapped in an unhappy, unhealthy and unfulfilling marriage why do you ... | |
| dealing with an impatient hot headed fiance | 3/24/2011 |
| Q: i am in a 6 yr relationship and were planning to get married this yr. my problem is that whenever i ... A: I'd advise against marrying him if he's got that bad of a temper and if you have conflict with him ... | |
| to stay or move on? | 3/12/2011 |
| Q: My husband left his ex girl friend of 7 years back at his home country to pursue me. After 3 months ... A: The most important thing here is you and the baby. Yes, it will take some time for you to ... | |
| to stay or move on? | 3/9/2011 |
| Q: My husband left his ex girl friend of 7 years back at his home country to pursue me. After 3 months ... A: He's insulting your very intelligence by playing mind games with you. He's a cheater and he's ... | |
| Husband Emotionally Attached to Friend "Girl" | 3/8/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 18 years. We married in our early 20's. After we married he ... A: He could very well be emotionally involved with her, which is way worse than him having a physical ... | |
| marriage trouble | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together 16 years. We have 3 kids, age 13,8,6. I am a stay home Mom. My ... A: He's disrespecting you and teaching the children that it's okay for them to do the same, hence why ... | |
| inter religious marriage reg- | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: Respected Mam I am an Indian Hindu and i am a divorcee. my ex-husband was demanding dowry from my ... A: It can be very difficult and trying given what you've been through in the past, in convincing your ... | |
| marriage disagreement | 3/5/2011 |
| Q: could my husband take me to court to stop me taking our two children aged 9 and 1 to south africa ... A: I don't know what UK laws are but here in the US, he could take you to court, but he'd have to pay ... | |
| Marriage | 3/5/2011 |
| Q: I am a 28yrs old Christian boy who is in love with a 28yrs old Mulim girl My problem is that I want ... A: If you love her and love and accept her religion as your own, then you must be prepared to do ... | |
| wants to get married | 2/28/2011 |
| Q: i have been with my fiance for 4 yrs. we have been engaged for almost 2 yrs. he told me bout a week ... A: Maybe he's overwhelmed with everything and setting a date a year in advance is too much for him to ... | |
| Marriage Troubles | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: I find myself in a daze as I write this....I love my husband very much, however, I am not so sure of ... A: He's carousing dating web sites when he's a married man, he's lying about his marital ... | |
| marrg prblm | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: IT HAS BEEN 2 YEARS SINCE WE ARE MARRIED.AND WE HAVE A 1 YEAR BABY.WE STAY SEPARATELY FROM MY ... A: Maybe after the marriage he just gave up and got used to being married so he's comfortable and now ... | |
| Underage Marriage | 2/19/2011 |
| Q: We have been dating for 4 years and are trying to get married. I'm 16, born on June 20, 1993 ... A: This should suffice and you shouldn't have any problems. If you have any questions though you need ... | |
| help!young couple's problem | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: I am recently married but I am experiencing problem with my husband that makes me very unhappy in my ... A: What he's doing to you is abusive, and when he degrades you and talks down to you that is NOT okay ... | |
| Wife in misery | 2/11/2011 |
| Q: My wife is miserable, consequently so am I. We are in our mid-50s and live in the Midwest. All of ... A: I think you're certainly going about it the right way. She's just missing the kids and the ... | |
| To move or not to move | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I are in our mid 20's and we moved from our home province to another for him to get a ... A: I can understand you being depressed about not making new friends so quickly being in a new place ... | |
| Wife wanna study/work abroad | 2/5/2011 |
| Q: I was browsing about similar dilemma I got, and found this site. I really need your advice... Im ... A: I can understand you being upset and even getting depressed about her leaving in a few months. ... | |
| child support and re-marriage in north carolina | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: I live in North Carolina and was wondering how child support and re-marriage works. I have two ... A: The only incomes the state goes by are yours and your ex-husbands. The state does not and can NOT ... | |
| Marriage | 1/30/2011 |
| Q: Sir, i am indian living in west Bengal . I have fallen in love 2 years ago. We love each other very ... A: It seems like that their family and her father as you said are just totally against anything but an ... | |
| Marriage | 1/29/2011 |
| Q: Sir, i am indian living in west Bengal . I have fallen in love 2 years ago. We love each other very ... A: You have to do what's right for you and her. This isn't about what her parents or others think, b/c ... | |
| He refuses to propose | 1/28/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 2yrs, the first year he was in the army stationed in TX. The last yr ... A: Yeah, I think that's perfectly fine. You have to do what's right for you and what makes you happy. ... | |
| He refuses to propose | 1/28/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 2yrs, the first year he was in the army stationed in TX. The last yr ... A: The question is though does he really want to marry you? And based on his actions I'd have to say ... | |
| Masturbation - we don't agree on it | 1/25/2011 |
| Q: We've been together over 5 years, and have been married 1 year. When we started dating my husband ... A: Masturbation is healthy for humans to do. And it's certainly not for everyone, as it's a matter of ... | |
| argue | 1/25/2011 |
| Q: I am engaged to a man who is genuinely a very gentleman: responsible and kind. He is a dream of ... A: I can understand to a certain extent that he's uncomfortable with you being a female having a male ... | |
| Paternity | 1/24/2011 |
| Q: My fiance has a son with his previous wife who he thinks is not his child. This child is 10 years ... A: He needs to do the DNA test first and figure out if the child is indeed his or not. Then when he ... | |
| Sister's affair with a married man, she's brazen about it. | 1/22/2011 |
| Q: I'm 26, been with my partner, who's 28, for 4 years now. Our relationship is excellent, has its ups ... A: You need to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to know ... | |
| separate or divorce | 1/22/2011 |
| Q: I have been married 36 years, I am 55 years old. My husband is an functioning alcoholic. Meaning he ... A: You're very right you most certainly can't keep living this way, given the circumstances and just ... | |
| not legally divorced/taxes | 1/20/2011 |
| Q: Me and husband have been separated for two years. I'm in process of divorce. Can I file my taxes ... A: Legally, no. You must claim married but filing joint, you can tell them you're going through the ... | |
| Pre-marriage doubts | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: I'm due to get married in the summer this year. I have been with my partner for 5 years and have ... A: If you've never lived on your own or even with him since you've been together, this could be causing ... | |
| Possible child support exceptions, state of PA. | 1/12/2011 |
| Q: I'm a mother sharing 50/50 joint custody of my children with their father, with whom I separated ... A: Someone is mistaken or he's BS'ing you and trying to give you wrong information on purpose to make ... | |
| Does my husband have Alzheimer's/mental problems? | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: I'm 28, and my husband's 31, we've been together for 8 years now, married for 2 years. I came home ... A: It could be a form of depression, Alzheimer's is genetic and doesn't set in until much older like in ... | |
| Money issues | 1/3/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married a year and a half and we have a two year old son. We are both ... A: I know just how frustrating finances can be when you struggle and live pay check to pay check. It ... | |
| Troubled in Pennsylvania | 12/31/2010 |
| Q: I am 31 year old single mother with a 12 year old daughter. I am recently engaged to a wonderful man ... A: Whatever you do DO NOT LET HER REMAIN AND LIVE WITH HER FATHER! If you did that your condoning his ... | |
| Concern over husband and values taught to children | 12/29/2010 |
| Q: I'm 43, and have been married to my husband, who's 45, for over 20 years now. For Christmas he ... A: No one likes a person that's self-centered and gives pretentious gifts to others to show off and ... | |
| Marriage in Crisis | 12/28/2010 |
| Q: I've been with my husband for approx. 12 years and married to him for 9 years. We have three ... A: You need to try and talk to him yet again. And if he yells and has a fit, oh well, let him. He ... | |
| Younger man with Older woman | 12/24/2010 |
| Q: I congratulate you for your outstanding insights and compassion to people. I wanted to ask you for ... A: If he's committed to her and he's given her no reason to distrust him, then him leaving her for a ... | |
| Christmas is a bad time of the year for me... | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: This Christmas is a bad time of the year for me. I've just heard my 16-year-old daughter is in a ... A: Yes, this is considered incest. Incest is when a sexual relationship or anything of a sexual nature ... | |
| need for my wife to fall in love with me again | 12/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 18 years now; dated 4 more, 22 total. We have live a very difficult ... A: This is actually very common to happen to couples that have been together for many years like you ... | |
| Wife and daughter being pompous and this upsets me | 12/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm 45, and my wife's 37, we have a 14-year old daughter. She's popular, and getting good grades in ... A: I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. The best way to deal with them is not to not even ... | |
| Seperated and Child Support | 12/6/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been separated for a year. We simply have not divorced yet. Our child lives ... A: No, you don't have to be divorced in order to receive the benefit of child support. You're ... | |
| Little suggestion on Marriage | 11/22/2010 |
| Q: I am Venu and am 27 years old. I am in love with a girl who is 32 and have decided to marry her. I ... A: Five years in your age difference really is nothing. Age is just a number as long as you are ... | |
| is he cheating? | 11/17/2010 |
| Q: we have been married for 2 years and i knew when we were married he had a son now he doesn't want me ... A: He very well could be given his recent behavior. You need to sit down and have a serious heart to ... | |
| is he becoming attached? | 11/12/2010 |
| Q: She is a work colleague. Her boyfriend left her and she and my husband have become very good ... A: What he's doing is exactly how affairs get started (intentional or not) and he's continuing to do ... | |
| Marriage Questions | 10/30/2010 |
| Q: hi samantha how r u i hope u will be fine my name is surojit i am from New Delhi(India)i want to ask ... A: I'm sure that you do realize that it's not very rational at all to think you hate all women in the ... | |
| my love for him is getting into an end | 10/26/2010 |
| Q: My husband is an alcoholic, he drinks every other day, besides that he doesnt work. but some ... A: He can't just kick you out of the house. Since you're married and if you owe the house together, he ... | |
| Relationship, medical condition and marriage | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: I have been struggling with this problem since last several months trying to think of a way to find ... A: I get that Indian culture is very traditional for certain reasons. HOWEVER, your family and her ... | |
| doormat | 10/9/2010 |
| Q: I am 35. I have been married for 16 yrs now and we have a 15 yr old and a 8 yr old both boys. ... A: It sounds like he's making excuses to stay busy or to work longer. That could be b/c he's not ... | |
| Husbands depression | 10/6/2010 |
| Q: My husband has depression and is taking tablets for it, problem is he has only been taking one ... A: I'm sorry that you're having to go through all of this, I can't imagine how difficult and trying ... | |
| marriage problem: cheating wife | 9/29/2010 |
| Q: i am behrooz (28 years old)from turkey and my wife (24). really my marriage is in a very bad crisis. ... A: Do you think that's why she married you to begin with b/c she knew that in your country you would ... | |
| Getting Engaged | 9/29/2010 |
| Q: I really hope you could help. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 5 years now. We were 19 ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| Husband keeps disappearing off to Wisconsin, unexplained reasons... | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: I'm 44, my husband's 46, and we have a 22-year-old daughter and a 19-year-old son. I work in ... A: You did the right thing and how were you to know what he was doing, since obviously he didn't lead ... | |
| My husband cannot bond with our son | 9/27/2010 |
| Q: This problem has been going on for years but it is gradually breaking up the family. Basically I am ... A: I'm very sorry that you're having to go through this, a separation is a tough thing to think about ... | |
| Trust/Happiness | 9/27/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together 12 years. I am 50, she is 40. We have a 10 year old son, who means ... A: That's just the thing why wait and waste all those years in an unhappy, unhealthy and unfulfilling ... | |
| Trust/Happiness | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together 12 years. I am 50, she is 40. We have a 10 year old son, who means ... A: It is possible to live this way for another 8+ yr but the question is do you really want to. And is ... | |
| my relationship | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: For the past 8 months Ive faught with my fiance over and over about one particular girl that I ... A: What kind of relationship is this when you have to constantly check up on the man? Isn't that so ... | |
| My husband cannot bond with our son | 9/23/2010 |
| Q: This problem has been going on for years but it is gradually breaking up the family. Basically I am ... A: Having a teenager is NOT easy as you probably already know. They change due to getting older, peer ... | |
| too late? | 9/20/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to a wonderful person for almost ten years. Lately, my wife has been complaining ... A: It's never too late for change, especially a change for the better. You need to sit down with her ... | |
| Wife wants a sex-change - purely for employment reasons... | 9/15/2010 |
| Q: I'm 33, my wife's 29, we are from the United States of America (as you can tell by my email I sent ... A: Your wife is being very irrational and as you stated, her thinking obviously is not clear and she's ... | |
| spouse kissing | 9/12/2010 |
| Q: I've found out after 16 years of what I thought was a very good marriage, my wife doesn't like the ... A: What about searching for suggestions on the internet? On how to become a better kisser. Be careful ... | |
| Husband walked out on me after 3 weeks of marriage... | 9/11/2010 |
| Q: I'm 28, my partner's 30 and we've just got married after 4 years together. I'm from Minnesota, and ... A: If he's going to behave like that then you do not need him as a husband, a partner or in your life ... | |
| spouse kissing | 9/11/2010 |
| Q: I've found out after 16 years of what I thought was a very good marriage, my wife doesn't like the ... A: Kissing can sometimes be the most intimate part of sex, and the bonding with your spouse, as it can ... | |
| I'm thinking about cheating on my husband | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for the past five years, together for the past eight. We are high ... A: Since you mentioned it, I'll say it then, WHAT IN THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING?! Adultery is the ... | |
| my husband doesn't want to move | 8/5/2010 |
| Q: I am married with a three year old son. I'm a fulltime working mom and the primary money earner for ... A: Picking up and moving is never really an easy decision to make. You want to move for various and ... | |
| divorce or not? help! | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 10 years. I am a stay at home mom to our 3 kids. Basically, he ... A: If he's making the effort by going to counseling and he's never gone to therapy before, then I'd say ... | |
| marriage- listen to your parents? | 7/25/2010 |
| Q: I am an Indian living with my parents. in our culture we believe a lot in arrange marriages where ... A: I'm very familiar with the Indian culture and those cultures that still use the arranged marriage ... | |
| Wife's affair... trusted friend told me this. | 7/23/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 48-year-old man, my wife Teresa is 46, and we've been married for 21 years. Yesterday I found ... A: If what this friend's saying is true, then it's time to confront your wife and come right out and ... | |
| Husband ruined romantic anniversary treat for me | 7/16/2010 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for 13 years now, and last week it was our anniversary. A few ... A: I can totally understand you being very put off by his behavior, and how you found it as a shock ... | |
| why do I resent my fiance? | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: I really hope to find some answers from you. I am a 23-year-old young woman from the middle east! I ... A: Yes, it very well could be that you like him better over the phone than in person. When someone is ... | |
| Proposal with Antique Wedding Ring | 7/11/2010 |
| Q: I am deeply in love with my girlfriend whom I have known for eight years. We plan on spending the ... A: Be very, very sure that she's the one for you and that you have a good, healthy, happy and ... | |
| Emotional Affair | 7/10/2010 |
| Q: my name is Natosha. My husband and I will be married 11 years this November. For the past few years ... A: The words "I love you but I'm not IN love with you" aren't ever a good thing to hear. There is a ... | |
| Marriage/Work | 6/27/2010 |
| Q: My husband has been out of work for 7 months. He is trying, but there is nothing out there. Our ... A: I can imagine how frustrating this must be for you. But as you know he's never going to find a job ... | |
| Fiences job | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: I need some advice. My fiance and myself have been together for about 8 years. My fiance had been ... A: I'm sorry that you're having to go through this stressful period of time, and dealing with the ... | |
| Fiences job | 6/13/2010 |
| Q: I need some advice. My fiance and myself have been together for about 8 years. My fiance had been ... A: As you said it's not really fees-able at her current rate of pay and for the few hours she gets each ... | |
| LOOKING FOR FAVOURITE HUZBAND | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: i m forogh.38 years old.living in iran.i am divorced i dont have baby.i want to marry again.also i ... A: What about internet dating? Is that an option for you at all? I mean I know it's not the ideal way ... | |
| husband doesn't respect me much | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for about 18 months and we have a 14 month old baby boy. We got ... A: No, it's definitely not you. It's him. He's got a serious problem with respect for women, period. ... | |
| LOOKING FOR FAVOURITE HUZBAND | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: i m forogh.38 years old.living in iran.i am divorced i dont have baby.i want to marry again.also i ... A: You are a beautiful and lovely lady. You should be able to find a good, caring and respectable man ... | |
| Marriage and Weight Loss | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: About two or three years ago my husband and I began to have problems that sent me into a bewildered ... A: I'm going to be forward and honest with you here. So please don't take offence at what I say, I'm ... | |
| Should I stay | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: A few months back my husband cheated on me, and then continued in a separate emotional affair. I am ... A: An emotional affair, as you already know, is way worse than a full blown physical affair. When once ... | |
| Is Counseling An Option? | 5/15/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 18 months. I am 33, he is 35 and we don’t have any children. ... A: You could certainly bring up the idea of counseling to him and see if he responds to either, he'll ... | |
| Help for a Troubled Marriage | 5/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm 27 and have been married for 18 months to my husband who is 31. My husband works overseas (by ... A: It's true we do teach a person how to treat us. And if he's been used to you tolerating his bad ... | |
| Q&A Site | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: There's a new Q&A site called Ask Us Web, and they're looking for Experts to join their site. If ... A: I hope you know that this is email spamming and it's very unprofessional to try to recruit other ... | |
| marriage trouble | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: A couple of months ago I came to my husband of 23 yrs. and told him I was unhappy. I married at the ... A: What is it you want out of this marriage and out of life in general and what are your goals for ... | |
| my ex | 4/27/2010 |
| Q: well i need advice... i was once engaged, young (16) and in love with an older man(25). well he was ... A: Proceed cautiously, and in all honestly I think it would be a bad idea to get involved with him ... | |
| SPOSAL SUPPORT | 4/18/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend divorced his wife 2 years ago and was ordered to pay spousal support even though she ... A: Yes, same for CS even if they have no children. The state can NOT come after you, period. You have ... | |
| SPOSAL SUPPORT | 4/16/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend divorced his wife 2 years ago and was ordered to pay spousal support even though she ... A: No, they can NOT take money from you period. You are not legally responsible for those children at ... | |
| my parents say no to marriage | 4/15/2010 |
| Q: I'm 24 and in love with a guy who is 30.. we have been loving eachother for the last 2 years, and ... A: Who are you trying to please your parents are yourself. And I don't mean this in a selfish way ... | |
| Proposals? | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: Me and My boyfriend have a really strong relationship, it is my birthday in a week and he had gotten ... A: It sure sounds like it with all the hints he's been dropping like mad. Just to be on the safe side ... | |
| What to do..... | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: I am 25, My problem is I am unable to get over a past relationship(I had lost my love 4 months back ... A: It might be good to talk with the friends that you share in common. Maybe they can talk to him or ... | |
| Confused, Depressed and Don't know if I should stay or go | 4/7/2010 |
| Q: To make a long story short I married at age of 19 years. To get ahead in life my husband worked at ... A: It's very important to have that connection with your spouse and to get along if you can. If you ... | |
| husband not working | 4/5/2010 |
| Q: My husband hasn't worked in 4 years. He's had a couple of PT jobs that lasted less than a month, but ... A: He's been out of work for so long, it's probably taking a huge toll on him, maybe he feels ... | |
| 20 year relationship/resentment | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: I'm 36 and have been with my boyfriend since I was 16 (20 years). From the beginning, he was ... A: You've got to stop making excuses and to stop enabling each other. Just b/c you love him doesn't ... | |
| Childhood crush | 3/13/2010 |
| Q: Let's just imagine that i am gonna get married to a wonderful, caring woman within the next few ... A: I would have to advise against marrying her if she's still carrying a torch for her ex-love, ... | |
| Separation | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 10years. We were young when we met, had baby first, then married, ... A: Of course, he knows what it is that's bothering him or making him feel that he "needs a break or ... | |
| love and sex | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: why cant my wife who is celibate accept me having sex elsewhere and accept i still love her for ... A: I don't know your whole situation, but coming from a woman's perspective (mine). I think that most ... | |
| Husband wants me to use abusive language on him in public... is he a masochist? | 2/13/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 34-year-old council employee, my husband's 36, and our son's 11 years old and in High school. ... A: Some people are just turned on by strange fetishes, and his is one of these such oddities. If I ... | |
| Dealing with a moody and short trempered partner | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with this girl for over 2 years. In these 2 years we have broken up at ... A: She's been this way for 2 yrs now, so it's very unlikely she's ever going to change. And, as she ... | |
| Son's worries over anatomy... what help to get | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: I am a 45-year-old woman with a 16-year-old son and 19-year-old daughter, I've been married for 22 ... A: You're son is correct, it's not his personal doctor that he needs to see, he needs to see a ... | |
| Wife Cheated on me | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: Tonight, my wife of 13 years told me that last month (january) she went to a coworkers house and ... A: Do you want to make this marriage work? If so, then in order to do this you both need to be willing ... | |
| Husband's intense paranoia... | 2/7/2010 |
| Q: SINCE he took up body- building, my husband has changed out of all recognition. Not only is his ... A: From all that you've described to his aggressiveness to his shrunken private parts, this all points ... | |
| Husband is in total denial over divorce | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: Samantha, I told my husband last year I wanted a divorce. We have been married for 19 years. ... A: You are right! He's very much in denial here and at this point there's likely nothing that can be ... | |
| verbal agrresivity | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: I am in a relationship which began 6 years ago, but we have had our ups and downs in that time as my ... A: This tends to happen when you get involved with a person that has children (especially young ... | |
| Son told me about husband's devious behaviour | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: Our 21-year-old son told me he had something important to tell me last night. My husband was out at ... A: Even if your son did agree to write those emails and ask to meet these young women for a date, ... | |
| an engineer guy marrying with doctor girl | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: i am a 27 years old s/w engineer.i have seen one girl to marry,she is 25 years old and a doctor.i ... A: As long as you have a good relationship with each other and you have good lines of communication ... | |
| Can I be happy in this marriage? | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: This is a second marriage for both of us. We have been married almost 5 years. I didn't learn until ... A: At this point, no, you can't be happy in this marriage. He's lied to you about things from the ... | |
| I Dont know if i love my wife | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 yrs. In total, weve been together for 11. I am 31 and we have just ... A: No, you don't have to stay in a relationship or marriage b/c it's the right thing to do. Actually ... | |
| Marriage | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my girl for one year and three months.We love each other and intend to marry. ... A: If you're doing it for all the right reasons (meaning deciding to marry each other) as opposed to ... | |
| Hello | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are newlyweds; We've been married since August. I love my husband to death; but ... A: It's not realistic to say that you won't ever hurt each other at some point in the marriage. As ... | |
| should i stay? baby on the way. | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: I've been married almost a year now and am pregnant with my first. My husband is very quick tempered ... A: You need to leave him NOW and FOR GOOD! Trust me, I know that it's like to be in an abusive ... | |
| Responsibilites | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: I have a question about responsibilities and the role in a relationship. My partner had 3 cats when ... A: No, I don't think you're really being that unreasonable at all. She didn't communicate with you ... | |
| I think i want to leave my marriage | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: i am so unhappy in my marriage and have been for years, we have a 16 yr daughter and a 14 yr old ... A: You're doing your children a great disservice the longer you stay with their father. This shows them ... | |
| depressed wife/little intimacy | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: let me start off by stating that my wife is on bupropion for depression so I have been gentle and ... A: Depression medication can affect a persons sex drive and make it low or even non-existent. She can ... | |
| Emotional and financial abuse | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: Is it worth saving? I have been married for 14 years and have 2 daughters(13&9 ys). I have a ... A: I know traditionally the Indian culture is very against divorce. However, I think in this situation ... | |
| My husband cheated on me with my son's father... | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm 30 and have been married to my husband for 3 years now. I've got a son who's 14 years old and ... A: I agree with you I don't think it's appropriate to tell your son about what his father and your ... | |
| My son's cheerleading hobby... follow-up to it. | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: I asked my original question here: ... A: I don't know what kind of university that they are running, but it is not acceptable for them to ... | |
| Wife cheated 5 years ago. | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 12 years and have 3 young children together (oldest is 4). I ... A: Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a marriage, and it doesn't matter if it happened recently or in ... | |
| My husband's had his third heart attack this year... | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: I'm 25, my husband's 27 and we've been married for 4 months, together for 5 years prior to marriage, ... A: If you've ever watched programs that have to do with health. I watch them a lot. And one of the ... | |
| Marriage and Infidelity | 12/4/2009 |
| Q: I am a 40 year old married woman with 2 beautiful kids. My husband and I have been having problems ... A: I can't condone cheating of any form in a marriage at all. This is coming from a person that's been ... | |
| relationship/children | 12/4/2009 |
| Q: I guess I am only asking for an opinion here since I have already made my choice. I am 38 he is 49. ... A: You did the right thing to let him go and to move on with your life w/o him in it. I can respect ... | |
| My son's taken up cheerleading... | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: I know this technically isn't a marriage question, but I see you've got good feedback, so I'll ask ... A: That's great that he's joined the cheerleading team! It can be good for self confidence, ... | |
| My husband claims a picture of him on a dating site is a set-up... | 11/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm 25 and my husband's 27. We've been together since we were 18. Today I heard that he'd posted a ... A: I'm a little bit skeptical on his excuse that he knows nothing about this and he's not the one who's ... | |
| Husband wants out for no apparent reason... | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: I'm 26, my husband's 28, I'm originally from Ontario, he's from Michigan. I met him when I was ... A: Wow! I can see you have a huge dilemma here on your hands. That's just awful that any counselor ... | |
| What do I do about my wife's dad and his sexual attitude towards me? | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: I'm 26, my wife's 25. We've been married for just over 4 months now, and everything's great. ... A: You really must tell your wife what's going on here, even if you don't think she'll believe you, ... | |
| pedophilia | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: 4 days ago I discovered that my husband had a secret email address/website where he kept pictures of ... A: What he's doing it illegal and he will likely go to jail for. Porn that has minor children in it, ... | |
| My husband does not want sex... | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: I'm a newlywed, been married for 3 weeks now, we've got our honeymoon in 3 weeks, all's been good, ... A: That's horrible that your husband had to endure something so traumatic with his father. I'm sure ... | |
| diferent age | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: I dating my coworker for 5 months, he is 36 italo-americano i am 45 latin lady,we see each other in ... A: You left your old BF for a very good reason. He's been dishonest with you and lying to you about ... | |
| marriage ending | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: whew, where do I start. Well I have things on my mind and I have no one to talk to except my 16 year ... A: Sometimes the hardest part is taking the first step and then actually going through with it. And ... | |
| marriage | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: i have a question on my new marriage. i just married a girl that has changed my life. she is ... A: That's very noble and respectable of you, not many men could do this and be as patient as you ... | |
| joint residential custody | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: will a judge grant joint residential custody if both parties agree before the finalization of the ... A: Typically the judge makes a decision in the divorce if the parties can't decide for themselves and ... | |
| Question | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: What do you thing about underage marriages? Do you think it should be illegal or legal? The reason ... A: I totally agree with you for many reasons. Most of the reasons being that when a person gets ... | |
| i don't know what to do... | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for two years now. I have no kids and, unfortunately, no job since i got laid off ... A: Sometimes a person marries for the wrong reasons and it can end up coming back to haunt them. Me, ... | |
| We are doing well but now my husband decided we would move to Los Angeles and "make it big". How can I convince him that we should stay where we are now? | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm 25 and my husband's 26. I've got a 5-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter. from a previous ... A: He's living a pipe dream, very, very few people that go out to LA actually make it to show business ... | |
| My husband suddenly decided to become a down-and-out and I don't know why... | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm 32, and my husband's 34, we have two children aged 5 and 8. I came home from work, just before ... A: Wow! He just up and suddenly w/o warning decided to leave everything behind and go live like a ... | |
| what going on here | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: mike and I have been living together for 6 years a seperations hear and there for a few days.we just ... A: Why is he constantly on your case about every little thing?! His behavior is really unnecessary and ... | |
| My husband and son are in this cult and it's worrying me... | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: I came home from work one night and found my husband and 17-year-old son with a group of five other ... A: Wow! I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through right now. This certainly isn't a ... | |
| My husband spends too much time with a male friend who I've never met and he claims is a very close friend... and I'm not sure what to do. | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm 30, my husband's 32, and recently he's been spending all his free time with a close male friend ... A: If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, then it's a duck. If his behavior is odd and ... | |
| My husband thinks he has erectile dysfunction... | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: I'm 25, my husband's 27, and recently our sex life has dried up completely and I don't understand ... A: It seems that he has a very distorted view of his penis size. For most men the size of their penis ... | |
| Very confused about the state of my marriage | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for just over a year now. No kids. We had a disagreement that blew ... A: I'm a firm believer in doing everything within your power to make a marriage work. So that's what ... | |
| I think my marriage is over | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: Although living in the same house my husband has ignored me for two weeks, he communicates through ... A: If the UK is anything like the US (where I'm from) you probably can't kick him out of the marital ... | |
| My wife wants a sex-change... | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: Yesterday my wife told me she wants a sex change. I was completely shocked by the revelation. I ... A: Well, I can understand what a shock this was to you when she broke this news to you, and rightfully ... | |
| My daughter is having an affair with her grandfather... and I don't know how to cope with this. | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: I'm writing in, not about my own marriage, but my parents. I'm 43 years old, my husband's 44, and ... A: What they are doing is called "incest" and yes it's illegal. I don't know what the legal age of ... | |
| which girl will be suitable for my marriage | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: I am 27 year old male . working in IT. I would like to know what qualities I should look in a girl ... A: You should look for someone that has similar qualities like you. Someone who can relate to you and ... | |
| divorce | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married 15 yrs and have had our trouble. I'm from Mass. and she Ohio. We ... A: If she's already made up her mind, you can't necessarily make her change it if she's determined to ... | |
| getting over it. | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: 'll keep it short. I m 21 and I met a 28 year old guy last year during a vacation. We're the kind of ... A: If you have to wait until you get married for another 3 yrs anyway, why bother waiting on him. ... | |
| My husband has become judgmental, and our son has too... | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: My husband has recently started becoming judgmental about everything, and it's now started to spread ... A: That's truly awful that his attitude is crappy and disrespectful like that, not to mention it's very ... | |
| My husband WANTS another man to make me pregnant!! | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: Me and my husband both want kids, but my husband does, albeit in a slightly odd way... he wants me ... A: Well, I can definitely see why you would have a huge problem with this very scenario! For one this ... | |
| not in love | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: presently I am with a great guy with whom I have been friends for many years, but nothing more. I ... A: Maybe you're idea of love isn't really love with these so called bad boys, maybe it's just lust, and ... | |
| My daughter ran off with her husband's father and is now trying for a baby with him. | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: Last week our daughter (she's 25, with a 4-year-old son, and her husband's 26) came down to see us, ... A: She made it your business when she invited you into the conversation to begin with. You're right ... | |
| Husband ranting about everything... no matter where we are or what we do! | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for a month now, and things have been great so far... until now. ... A: A person changes after they get married, don't ask me why that happens, but it's so true! It can be ... | |
| My husband's odd behaviour with our son-in-law... | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: I was checking our email last week (me and my husband have a shared email address, e.g. ) after I'd ... A: My goodness, you have every right to be stressed out and very concerned. You need to print out that ... | |
| marriage ending | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: whew, where do I start. Well I have things on my mind and I have no one to talk to except my 16 year ... A: You know that this has absolutely nothing to do with your daughter or her moving out, right? He's ... | |
| Do all guys do that..??? | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: I really hope you can help me to decode my man. I know, you might think its pretty clear,but its not ... A: I have to say that baby talk and all the compliments he's been giving you are a good sign. However, ... | |
| marriage | 10/31/2009 |
| Q: I have a bit of an odd problem and yet I think it is common. I am a muslim girl living in a muslim ... A: I'm from a completely different culture than where you are. It's hard to not really get to know ... | |
| wifes affair | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: Where to start, well my wife and I have been at odds for awhile now, and it came to a head about 2 ... A: I don't know about Canadian laws, but in the US (which is where I'm from, and I'd assume Canadian ... | |
| Marriage | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: .i have been looking everywhere for the order of the Marine Corps on marriage and i cant find ... A: There are some states (but very few) that actually permit a 16 yo to marry. In other states you ... | |
| ending my marriage | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: i have been with my husband for nine years been married close to 4 and have 2 children 6 1/2 and 4 ... A: You need to be up front and brutally honest with him. You don't have to be mean and disrespectful ... | |
| seperation | 10/17/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for 5 years and have two young children with my husband. I feel as if we've had ... A: All of these thoughts and feelings that you're going through are normal and to be expected. You, of ... | |
| marrige | 10/11/2009 |
| Q: Me and my wifes been married for 12 years now and she has a complaint that im not a man i dont ... A: Do not listen to her and take what she says personally. Any woman would be envious of what you do ... | |
| What should i do about the woman i want to be with? | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: Ok, I met a woman last yr in work who is 8yrs older than me and i was just 21. I began to like her, ... A: It seems that she does not return the feelings you have for her. She sees you as more of a friend ... | |
| marriage torn by ciggrettes | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have only one real problem. My husbands addiction to ciggrettes is comparable to ... A: He's putting poison in his body and exposing you and your unborn baby to it too. He's not only ... | |
| Marriage | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if i get married to my fiance and we happen to get a divorce will he be in titled to ... A: That information from your friends is incorrect. Generally speaking anything that you enter into ... | |
| Husband Says He Doesn't Know What He Wants | 10/1/2009 |
| Q: Samantha, I am at a complete loss on what to do. My husband and I have been married for 3 yrs and 1 ... A: The drop dead deal breaker that would seal the deal for me would be him not having contact or ... | |
| Approaching 10 years and concerned | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: Ok so if anyone was to look at our relationship they would think it was great, and for the most part ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| Remarrying w/ child...can ex go after new husbands income | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: I live in Wisconsin and have been divorced for 3.5 years. I have a 6 y/o that I have primary ... A: Do you mean will they (meaning the law) take into consideration what you're husband income would be ... | |
| Remarrying w/ child...can ex go after new husbands income | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: I live in Wisconsin and have been divorced for 3.5 years. I have a 6 y/o that I have primary ... A: NO, absolutely he can NOT come after your fiancee's income. He isn't responsible for your child, ... | |
| married with children | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: i am the father. i live in Florida. i am still married to my wife and living in the same house. can ... A: Yes, you can legally take them out of state while you're still married and there's nothing she can ... | |
| Huge waste | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: This is my story, as catastrophic as it seems : I am a 40 years old divorced, and so he is. We met ... A: He can't keep running away from his problems when he feels he can't cope with them or if something ... | |
| Huge waste | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: This is my story, as catastrophic as it seems : I am a 40 years old divorced, and so he is. We met ... A: What do you want to do? Why do you want to keep wasting your life with a man that keeps running ... | |
| should I go or stay | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years. I have not been able to get him to met or even want ... A: Because, Ayisa, it's hard to hear something like this when it's someone you love and you really and ... | |
| should I go or stay | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years. I have not been able to get him to met or even want ... A: If you feel that you must leave then by all means do it. You've made no progress with him in the ... | |
| girl loosing hymen | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: i want to explain more for u,i musterbated by rubbing my clitoris and vaginal oppening from outside ... A: The hymen is a piece of skin that goes over the cervix. And the only way to break the hymen is to ... | |
| Sister's Marriage | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: I am stuck in the middle of my sister's marriage. My brother in-law is asking me for advice and I ... A: He needs to know that she's cheating on him. Of course, it'll crush him when he hears this, but he ... | |
| married, but in love with someone else | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: Hey. I really need some advice. Please try not to judge me, I know this is a horrible situation, and ... A: This is what I suggest you do. 1--You must come clean to your husband of what you've been doing, ... | |
| Will I ever get there? | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: I really hope you can help me here. My bf and I have been dating for ALMOST 2 years. We talked about ... A: I wouldn't agree to marry someone that smokes weed, a drug is a drug, is a drug, weed or not, ... | |
| relationship/children | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: I guess I am only asking for an opinion here since I have already made my choice. I am 38 he is 49. ... A: You know you are absolutely right, if you see yourself with a child at some point in your life and ... | |
| Problem | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: Hey !! I don't know how to start but I've got this serious and biggest problem in my life, I am into ... A: I assume this would be a love marriage. I'm very familiar with India cultures and the marriage and ... | |
| ex wife drama | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend and his ex wife have been divorced for 3 years and she remarried soon after. i am his ... A: If you want to you could tell her to put up or shut up, by giving you absolute proof that he's ... | |
| Cousin Marriage : Pros and Cons | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: .. what are the pros and cons of cousin marriage? I am 23 years old and might be marrying next year. ... A: Do you love her and want to marry her b/c you love her? If so, and you do love her that would be a ... | |
| ex wife drama | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend and his ex wife have been divorced for 3 years and she remarried soon after. i am his ... A: He probably already know how she is and that she's only doing this to cause drama for you and her ... | |
| Legally? | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: If a 22 year old guy and a 17 year old girl are in a relationship and the girls mother approves of ... A: In most states 17 is considered of legal and consensual age for sex. Not sure about marriage, as ... | |
| Eloping | 7/26/2009 |
| Q: Hey! I have a lot of dumb questions but I just can’t seem to find any answers anywhere else. Maybe ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your questions with my answers put directly below them, this is out of ... | |
| Jealousy | 7/25/2009 |
| Q: and I thank you so much for your time, Obviously, the title of my message here is jealousy. I am ... A: It's a bad habit that you've gotten into. You have to change your way of thinking of things, this ... | |
| Jealousy | 7/25/2009 |
| Q: and I thank you so much for your time, Obviously, the title of my message here is jealousy. I am ... A: But, of course, you ARE feeling this way for a reason. You just don't know that reason. Typically ... | |
| Discontent Wife | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 10 years. Two years ago, she was feeling discontent and was ... A: There's really nothing you can do for her to help her decide what she wants in life. She's the one ... | |
| my husband thinks im cheating | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: can you help me im very upset with my husband, 6 mths ago i started a new job with two male bosses, ... A: He's likely saying this out of jealously and he could be a little bit depressed that he's not been ... | |
| child support | 7/18/2009 |
| Q: My question is can my paychecks be garnished? My fiance owes back child support and we have been ... A: No, they can NOT take your wages at all. There are laws in place in every state that protect ppl ... | |
| marrage | 7/7/2009 |
| Q: I AM A UK CITIZEN MY HUSBAND DIVORCED ME ON THE GROUNDS OF ADULTERY,MY NEW PARTNER IS AMERICAN AND ... A: Who told you this?! That is untrue, and false information they are giving you. Adultery is NOT ... | |
| marriage help | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: Can a court order you to seek marriage counceling eventhough you do not have any children together ... A: Yes, there is a slight chance that can happen, but if your wife doesn't want to stay married, you ... | |
| marrage | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: I AM A UK CITIZEN MY HUSBAND DIVORCED ME ON THE GROUNDS OF ADULTERY,MY NEW PARTNER IS AMERICAN AND ... A: Nope, not at all. The courts, states and laws do not care about adultery here. It's hard to prove ... | |
| Not sure what is wrong with me or what to do | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: Kessler, Thanks in advance for your help. I am very confused about a problem in my life and ... A: The two problems that I can clearly see here are on both sides. Her's is some form of depression ... | |
| marriage help | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: Can a court order you to seek marriage counceling eventhough you do not have any children together ... A: Yes, every divorce has to go through a court or at least in front of a judge that can make the ... | |
| marriage help | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: Can a court order you to seek marriage counceling eventhough you do not have any children together ... A: Yes, so long as you can convince a judge that the marriage has a fighting chance. You can plead ... | |
| Not sure what is wrong with me or what to do | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: Kessler, Thanks in advance for your help. I am very confused about a problem in my life and ... A: I'm a Mrs, but that's okay. I find it ironic that you're a human rights advocate by profession. I ... | |
| Marriage | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: Sir please help me in the matter. The matter is that now a days young boys are looking financial ... A: Ideally love is the biggest reason you would marry someone. If you can't or don't love someone in a ... | |
| husbands child support | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: when i married my husband, his exwife immediately requested a show cause hearing on his child ... A: You are NOT, I repeat NOT responsible for paying his child support. They can NOT consider your ... | |
| husband wants a divorce all of the sudden | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: i have been married to my husband for 10 yrs. i have a history of depression, bipolar. he has helped ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| child support | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: If my wife remarries, can I get my child support lowered? I live in NYS A: Not likely. The only way that a judge will lower your child support payments are if you have a ... | |
| I'm gay, but want a life and marriage with a woman | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: I'm sure this sounds strange, but I would like to say that it is not because I want to seem normal, ... A: I think that my brother knew all along that he was gay. We suspected he was gay, but never said ... | |
| I'm gay, but want a life and marriage with a woman | 6/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm sure this sounds strange, but I would like to say that it is not because I want to seem normal, ... A: **I just wanted to let you know that I got your rating and I sincerely appreciate it and thank you. ... | |
| Pre-Marital Flirtation | 6/20/2009 |
| Q: My fiancee works at Waffle House as a waitress. Like most small restaurants, there are regulars and ... A: She definitely needs to go to her boss about this. His advances like this are not only making her ... | |
| Marriage, money and tax advice | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: I am currently 5 months pregnant with my boyfriend's baby. We are happy together and would like to ... A: No, none of the 50 states can go by a partner, boy/girlfriend, fiancee, spouse's, etc income. He ... | |
| This cant be normal | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: Me and my husband has been staying on his parents property for more than 20 years. Reason for this ... A: Of course this situation isn't normal, in fact far from it. She's using you and your husband to pay ... | |
| ex wife | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: My husband was married, with no kids between them, for a few months. He filed for divorce because ... A: He needs to cut all ties and contact with her period. If she discovered something in the divorce ... | |
| Caught husband twice cheating | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: I am 9 months pregnant and totally devastated with my husbands insensitive attitude towards ... A: With his being a cyber sex addict it's a horrible and huge addiction and it's something that he's ... | |
| Concerns about penis size | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm not sure if this the right section to ask this, but I couldn't find anything that this could ... A: Sorry it's taken me so long to get back with you. It took me a while to figure out how to respond ... | |
| Marriage | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: I am a male and now that I am married other married and single women occasionally proposition me and ... A: There are various reasons for this that I've heard in talking to women in this situation. Most of ... | |
| my jealous live in partner | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: I've been living with my boyfriend for 5 years now. We've been through good times and bad times. But ... A: No, whatever you do do NOT go back to this abusive man! He's a controlling abuser and if you keep ... | |
| Having Kids | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: My fiancée and I are scheduled to be married next week, but we are thinking of postponing it because ... A: Having children can be a scary thing for any person to think about. Some ppl were meant to be ... | |
| Rules for Separation | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: I recently discovered that my husband has been pursuing a "friendship" with a girl from his work for ... A: A separation doesn't always necessarily mean "no contact" at all with your spouse while separated. ... | |
| Marrying some one with 11 years of difference | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: I am in love with a girl who is 35 and I am 24. She has a baby boy of 8 years from her previous ... A: It's a shame that your parents are acting this way and being stubborn when it comes to your ... | |
| my problem | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: my name is doaa , well i have a problem , i have a guy who wants to marry me , he loves me to the ... A: It's much better to be with someone you love and that returns the feelings, than to be with someone ... | |
| separation | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: again. Well, I'm trying to move along here, but I'm having a tough time. First off, UGH!! I didn't ... A: It's very hard to come to terms with a marriage failing (for whatever reason), as you said it's ... | |
| separation | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: again. Well, I'm trying to move along here, but I'm having a tough time. First off, UGH!! I didn't ... A: It can be different for a few reasons when a person confides in the opposite sex friend or not. The ... | |
| 10 Year Itch? | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I recently celebrated my 10-year anniversary. Leading up to it I was bombarded with ... A: I can certainly understand how a big age gap can affect your closeness or bond to him. I'm 8 yrs ... | |
| separation | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 25 years. As most marriages, we have had our ups and ... A: No, I don't think you're nuts at all. This is a trying time for you and the entire family. You ... | |
| Is marriage always this hard? | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for about 3 1/2 years. Literally, from day 1 it's been a struggle for me. Im only ... A: There is only hope if you want there to be hope, and to try if you want to try. It's not going to ... | |
| Ex boyfriend married | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: I dated this guy for about a year and a half. He is from India and I am American. When we started ... A: That's the way most of the Indian culture is, is through arranged marriages. They do that to ... | |
| Marriage separation possible | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: I have a question, and I need some advice. My wife and I have known each other 8 years, and have ... A: I do know exactly what it feels like to live with parents, I had to do this with my first husband, ... | |
| emotional infidelity | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: active and in good health. I consider myself a happy person with many blessings. I have been married ... A: The lying is a big time trust breaker b/c he not only betrayed you by going to a strip club, but ... | |
| marriage different country | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for a year and nine months but have known my husband for 3years prior to that. I ... A: Have you sat him down and tried to explain all this to him and to figure out why he's not being ... | |
| Gambling ultimatum | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 12 years, together for 17. We have 3 young children. He has ... A: If you had/have a zero tolerance of the gambling, then you need to stick to your word. After all ... | |
| fights in marriage | 3/21/2009 |
| Q: I am newly married but i have a very big problem with my hubby,we fight almost everyday and that ... A: Being newly married can be a trying time for both parties. After all it's getting to know someone ... | |
| He talks about her all the time!!! | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: My husband is in construction and I have learned with that comes travel. Well he works several towns ... A: This can be a very tricky and delicate situation that you're in. On one hand he feels confident ... | |
| Husband Problems | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: He has talked to an ex girlfriend of his that he dated in high school and when he chats with her ... A: You must confront him about what you've found. He's saying one thing to you and doing another ... | |
| am ttred, and out but cant get my mind out of the rut | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: ave been married for just 2 years with a cute 1year old son. MY husband feels uttterly dissapointed ... A: He's an abuser! And this this shouldn't be taken lightly at all. You have to stop making excuses ... | |
| Husband is Still Texting Other Woman | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for over 18 years. He started drinking about ten years ago after ... A: You are very right to think this way and to be skeptical of his intentions. As you already ... | |
| my marriage is getting rocky | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 11 1/2 years, and it has been good for the most part. About 8 ... A: It's never easy to live with parents or in-laws. Trust me, been there and done that. It puts a ... | |
| How to make my marriage work again? | 2/10/2009 |
| Q: Good morning I have been married for seven years and have lovely twin girls of 5 years old. I have ... A: A person cheats for several reasons, the main one in general being that they are seeking some sort ... | |
| Leaving Mentally abusive Husband | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: Kessler, I'm writing because I don't know what else to do. My husband treats me like I'm 3. The ... A: You already know that you have to leave him and this time for good. He's an abuser and that's ... | |
| Divorce | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: My friend has stage 4 cancer and is trying to obtain a divorce. She has been told that in the state ... A: I did all kinds of research on the internet pertaining to what you've asked, and I can find any ... | |
| Unable to compromise | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: I just don't know what to do. I'm 32, my boyfriend is 34. We were "highschool sweethearts". He went ... A: With two failed marriages that can certainly be enough to not want to go through all that again, so ... | |
| Confused | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: I am so confused at the moment. I separated from my husband of 2 and a half years back in August. ... A: Maybe he's just not marriage material. He clearly had his priorities all wrong back then. And, ... | |
| can there be happiness after the nuptials | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: I am a very skeptical about love because everywhere around me I see loving failing. My parents had ... A: I think to a certain extent what you're feeling, thinking and experiencing are pretty normal and ... | |
| Can my wife ever overcome the turmoil I caused? | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: My wife just told me last night that she was thinking about separating or getting a divorce. Up ... A: There is a 50-50 chance that it could go either way from here on out. It might be good to give her ... | |
| supporting efforts | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: We (husband and I) have one child who has become violent with me. My husband doesn't back me up and ... A: It's very crucial that your husband gets on board with you and you both agree to some sort of ... | |
| Marriage and parental consent | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: I have read up on marriage that needs parental consent. Although it hasn't specified whether it ... A: I believe that as long as one parent is willing to give his/her consent to marry, then that's all ... | |
| Marriage (Cheating - or NOT, Money/Control Issues, Lack of Teamwork) | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: We have been married almost 13 years. A couple years into the marriage, my husband made comments ... A: It's very obvious and apparent that he's having major trust issues with you. Thus his accusations ... | |
| husband's ex-wife suing, demanding my financial info | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: Since his income isn't very much, she is suing for my financial records. I live in Illinois - is ... A: She can try to sue for your financial records all she wants. She's legally not entitled to view ... | |
| Help, my husband wants to move out | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, I noticed my husband of 12 years (together for 15 years as a couple) was just not himself ... A: Try to convince him not to move out so swiftly and abruptly or he might come to regret it. It's a ... | |
| Child Support when I remarry | 12/28/2008 |
| Q: I live in Indiana and I recently got engaged and am planning to get married this summer. I have a 16 ... A: No, the amount will not change. The state can't and doesn't go by your spouses income (no matter ... | |
| Divorce-Adultery-Hurting | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: I recently filed for divorce because I found out my wife of 4 years had been cheating on me for the ... A: First off, you shouldn't even think of contemplating dating at this point. For one you're still ... | |
| Overly jealous husband | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for about 4 years. He is overly jealous. He does not want me ... A: You are doing the right thing. He's the one that has the self-esteem problem and has some serious ... | |
| My husband doesn't have physical intimacy | 12/12/2008 |
| Q: I have read the artical on what was written and what you've answered about the husband not being ... A: Instead of telling him, why don't you try showing him what you'd like and need in the bedroom. Just ... | |
| Reconcile??? | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: Help! I am lost and confused. I was married to my husband for just a little over two years. We ... A: It seems that he's a little too late. Perhaps he's just jealous b/c you've moved on with your life, ... | |
| Child Support | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: I am about to marry a man with 2 kids and high child support. In any way can they take money from ... A: No, the state can not take any money from you. And they do NOT go by your income in the marriage. ... | |
| Married for the wrong reason | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 and I've been married to my husband for 1 1/2 years. We've known each other since middle ... A: In a sense you've lost who you are when you became his wife and a mother to your daughter. You ... | |
| Saving my marriage | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my wife for 3 years now and we have a 10 month old daughter. The relationship ... A: Do you feel that you have a porn addiction or is it just an occasional viewing of the porn? If you ... | |
| Marriage, i want out, he doesnt | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: ok here is the situation, i got married 11 years ago, i was 18 and pregnant, i married my best ... A: You can't help him unless he helps himself. He's just not ready to let go and move on. He's in ... | |
| Trust and Insecurities | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for 11 years and the relationship has been absolutely amazing. Our ... A: You're not wrong in feeling this way. And, no, you're not overreacting at all. You have a very ... | |
| She said No? | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: So my girlfriend have been together for 2 years. we are both 28y/o, live together, have a dog ... A: Bless your heart, I can imagine how this hurt your feelings by her rejecting your proposal. After ... | |
| infidelity | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 9 years, 3 small children under 6. My husband cheated twice in the past ... A: There are two types of cheaters in my opinion. The first type of cheater does it once and is sorry ... | |
| His mom or me? | 10/26/2008 |
| Q: I just wanted to say Thanks in advance for taking the time to read my situation. First of all I'm ... A: You have every right to feel upset and overwhelmed by the way they're behaving. The thing is he's ... | |
| marriage | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: Im 29 years old and have been married for 9 years. I married a man that I met when I was 16. My ... A: When you're young and you've only been with one person, it can make you feel like you've missed out ... | |
| When is enough enough? | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: About 7 weeks ago I emailed you regarding my marriage and how to know whether it was time to call it ... A: Divorces suck when you have to go through them. And you are right to be concerned about how he's ... | |
| who comes first | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: me and my wife have been married for three years,,she has a grown daughter with 2 children and a ... A: You're absolutely right here in this instance. Now, if her daughter were younger, I would say ... | |
| Divorce and reconciliation | 10/22/2008 |
| Q: My ex-wife and I were married when I was 27 and she was 24. She admitted 4 months into the marriage ... A: It's not easy to cope and deal with when a spouse (even an ex-spouse) says they don't love you ... | |
| husband wont budge on divorce | 10/17/2008 |
| Q: I have asked my husband of 10 years, for a divorce, I believe you helped me at one time on ... A: Sorry, it's taken me a couple of days to answer your question. I wasn't feeling well for the last ... | |
| My husband, porn, and trust | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: It seems off an on during our 6 year marriage I keep finding porn movies hidden. Once I find them ... A: You are right he probably is addicted to porn. He hides it, is ashamed of it, etc. The thing is ... | |
| Marriage In Crisis After Alcohol | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: I'm 42 and have been married for a little over 13years. We have 3 great boys, 14, 11 and 11. When ... A: I'm a firm believer in that a couple should never stay together for the sake of the children. There ... | |
| Marriage | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: (The website won’t allow me to continue on the initial question) Thanks for your message and time. ... A: Sometimes the web site does that, it won't allow someone to keep posting follow up questions, not ... | |
| Hard time in marriage | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: Please have a look at my story and tell me your thoughts. My wife and I are both 36. Married for 10 ... A: Yes, I'm a woman, and I'm not a professional counselor or anything of the sort. I volunteer my time ... | |
| remarriage | 10/11/2008 |
| Q: Can they count my income for his child support if my boyfriend and I get married in New York? I make ... A: No, they can't and don't count your income when it comes to your partners child support. You have ... | |
| Child support reduction | 10/11/2008 |
| Q: 1. Can my ex-husband reduce his child support because of my re-marriage? 2. Can he reduce his child ... A: It's pretty rare and uncommon for a judge to "forgive" back child support that is owed. So I'd say ... | |
| Child support reduction | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: 1. Can my ex-husband reduce his child support because of my re-marriage? 2. Can he reduce his child ... A: No and no. Your husband's income has absolutely no bearing on how much child support your ex pays ... | |
| Hard time in marriage | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: Please have a look at my story and tell me your thoughts. My wife and I are both 36. Married for 10 ... A: Great name by the way! Very cool! Anyway, it's very unfortunate that ppl can be very judgemental. ... | |
| Marriage falling apart | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for a little over a year, been together for two. We each have ... A: I can imagine how this is making you feel overwhelmed, frustrated, etc. First issue is that he has ... | |
| Back taxes, prenuptial, and alimony | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: 1. If my fiance owes back taxes, will I be responsible for those back taxes if I marry him? God ... A: They can only come after you if your name is on stuff that you own together. You aren't responsible ... | |
| Depressed Husband | 9/25/2008 |
| Q: First let me say thank you for taking the time to read this and possibly answering. My husband and I ... A: Depression can be a very ugly thing to cope and deal with. Especially when a loved one is battling ... | |
| name calling as if in preschool | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: About ten minutes ago, my 3 year old daughter walks in and sas to me, "you asshole". Shocked ... A: Name calling is never okay, especially when it's an "adult" that's putting a child up to it. That's ... | |
| Lost Intemacy | 9/21/2008 |
| Q: I need help despirately. My wife and I have been married for 8 years. We have two lovey daughters ... A: You need to sit down with her and have a very serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to ... | |
| Marriage, i want out, he doesnt | 9/19/2008 |
| Q: ok here is the situation, i got married 11 years ago, i was 18 and pregnant, i married my best ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| marriage in the marine corps | 9/16/2008 |
| Q: i have recently gotten divorced and want to remarry. My ex husband and i was well separated for as ... A: In most state you have to wait 30 days until the divorce is finalized to remarry again. This law ... | |
| marriage... | 9/14/2008 |
| Q: Ok. My husband and i have had problems for a while now. We have 4 kids. 2 are from his previous ... A: It's unacceptable and totally inappropriate for him to be cheating on you, let alone not being ... | |
| Relationship with Co-worker | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: A co-worker of my husband's has recently separated and she has started calling him a lot outside of ... A: He may not agree with your sentiments or feelings, but he should at least respect where you're ... | |
| do I stay or leave | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: I have read many of your responses to the questions people have asked and I am in the same boat as ... A: I'm a firm believer in doing all that you can do to make a marriage work. However, at the same ... | |
| Relationship with Co-worker | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: A co-worker of my husband's has recently separated and she has started calling him a lot outside of ... A: No, I don't think you're over reacting or being too sensitive at all. I also agree with you that ... | |
| new old romance | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: I started to date this man 9 years ago a it was great at first. He has two kids that loved me and I ... A: Maybe he thinks he made a mistake and he's unsure if this relationship will end like it did the last ... | |
| Help please! Pregnant and parents forcing me into marriage! | 8/30/2008 |
| Q: I am 26 and have been living with my boyfriend for a couple months, but we've been together for ... A: It's very easy for parents to be very critical of their children. And to try and tell them what to ... | |
| My husband's problem is stressing me out a lot... | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: Tthis problem is hard for me to solve and embarrassing too, but i really need your help. i'm 28 and ... A: Honestly, for once in all the times that I've been answering questions for allexperts.com I'm ... | |
| 3 Eager Fiance's = 1 Big Problem | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: Let me start off by saying that it wasn't my intention for this quandry to happen. I've gone from a ... A: I just can't even begin to fathom that you can have literally 3 fiancees at once!!!!! That's nuts in ... | |
| my husband is living two personalities | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 8 years now.My husband used to be my lover and friend.we used to have this ... A: He's playing mind games with you, and trying to play you for a fool. He's insulting your ... | |
| doubting marriage | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: Let me begin by first thanking you for reading this. I'm going to do my best to keep it as breif as ... A: He could possibly be depressed. Or he's truly unhappy with certain situations in the marriage, but ... | |
| Divorce in progress | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together 5.5 years, married for 3. We have a 1 year old and he recently ... A: You can wait until the papers are served, if you wish. But if you have something else to respond to ... | |
| marriage | 8/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 3yrs,together for 9yrs. I have been unhappy for about 1yr now. I don't know ... A: There's no easy way to break the news to him. You've been unhappy for quite some time now. You ... | |
| Divorce in progress | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together 5.5 years, married for 3. We have a 1 year old and he recently ... A: He should never put his hands on you in anger or in any case, it's wrong and totally unacceptable. ... | |
| Why doesn't she want the marriage to work | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: I have never in my life written to or ever through I would even consider writing to an advice column ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your questions here, and then put my answers/opinions to them ... | |
| Divorce in progress | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together 5.5 years, married for 3. We have a 1 year old and he recently ... A: Are you sure that he's not still involved with someone else and you just don't know about it yet? ... | |
| marriage in constant turmoil | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: To start I love God with all my heart, strength and soul and very active in my church through ... A: You sound like you both have a lot on your plate, with the children, you being dedicated to the ... | |
| I believe my husband is a bit controlling? | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: Well, I don't know how to begin... This is just one of the many set of circumstances we've ... A: You should listen to your friend's mother, mothers are often very smart and full of wisdom and ... | |
| Marriage and how to leave for the 3rd time? | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: I am at the point where I think it is time to end my marriage. This will be the 3rd time I have ... A: You have to make the third time the charm and break this ugly vicious cycle of abuse once and for ... | |
| zero intimacy in marriage | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: Although my husband has no sexual desire for me, he wants me to go bra-less and over-exposed in ... A: Beware of all that he's wanting and suggesting that you do (or that you and him do together). There ... | |
| I NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: I have fallen head over heels for another man. I've dated a lot of men before and I have never ... A: This man is all that you want that your husband is not. However, the grass isn't always greener on ... | |
| I believe my husband is a bit controlling? | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: Well, I don't know how to begin... This is just one of the many set of circumstances we've ... A: Then, yes, with you giving me more info about this, I would tend to agree that his behavior is about ... | |
| Divorce and New Child | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: I am divorced and have been for 3 years. My new girlfriend is 5 months pregnant. Is it possible ... A: No, the only reason she'd be able to take you back to court and raise your child support would be if ... | |
| I believe my husband is a bit controlling? | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: Well, I don't know how to begin... This is just one of the many set of circumstances we've ... A: He's obviously insecure when it comes to you dressing the way you do and drinking too. But why does ... | |
| Hateful, jealous, angry, manipulative mother-in-law | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, I have been having difficulties with my mother-in-law for close to two years now, and ... A: Boy, she's a selfish, sad, pathetic, unhappy little person isn't she?! That's really convenient ... | |
| Self Confidence | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: I am a 29 year old man and have been married for 8 years. I have two children and I have a very ... A: Since you're wanting to work on your self-esteem and image. I would strongly suggest that you check ... | |
| New to Marriage | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I just got married and we just moved about five hours away from family. At first it ... A: He's not being very sensitive to your thoughts, feelings and needs right now. And when you try to ... | |
| I need advice about my husband | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 4 years and my husband doesn't pay much attention to me or our girls they ... A: He very well could be being unfaithful to you. Or he could be just preoccupied with things going on ... | |
| The ex | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I split 2 years ago this summer. What sparked the problems was I lost my mother and ... A: You have to stop letting your ego get in the way of things. You can't control how he acts (or ... | |
| The ex | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I split 2 years ago this summer. What sparked the problems was I lost my mother and ... A: I think it's normal for you to wonder about him from time to time. After all you did have a fair ... | |
| Big Age Gap, I am talking HUGE, WOW? | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: Searching the WWW and finding many many sites on the subject I am compelled to ask anyone with ... A: I'd say you have over a 50-50 chance for everything going in your favor with her staying with you ... | |
| under age marriage | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: can my mother have my marriage annulled? I am 17 and my husband is 18. She took us to get our ... A: The answer to this is most likely no. In most states the age of consent is 17, with 18 being ... | |
| Big Age Gap, I am talking HUGE, WOW? | 7/11/2008 |
| Q: Searching the WWW and finding many many sites on the subject I am compelled to ask anyone with ... A: If you truly love her and she loves you, then what is stopping you from marrying the love of your ... | |
| Marriage | 7/9/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 22 years now.We have been together for 22 years total.This is my first ... A: It's not uncommon for a couple that's been married for many years or as long as you have to have ... | |
| engagement | 7/3/2008 |
| Q: I am living with my boyfriend and we are planning marriage. M question is... is it OK for me to wear ... A: It's whatever you're comfortable doing. Since he's going through a divorce, it's probably okay to ... | |
| Separation involving children | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: I was to separate from my husband. We have been married for 10 years now and I have had enough. We ... A: He has to learn to stop being so critical of you. Otherwise, he's only going to end up driving you ... | |
| Separation involving children | 7/1/2008 |
| Q: I was to separate from my husband. We have been married for 10 years now and I have had enough. We ... A: The problem is that he doesn't respect you as his wife, and he has a major drinking problem. You ... | |
| Filing child support after a new marriage | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: my name is Beth and my two friends are planning on getting married. One of my friends had a baby ... A: No, it doesn't effect her chances at all, whether she's married or not, she needs to file for child ... | |
| annulment | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: why is is that when im in an argument with my wife that she always thinks about the end...I dont ... A: She could be doing this b/c she regrets getting married (for whatever her personal reasons might ... | |
| goes away for weekend once a month | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: This is a difficult issue. First my husband and I have fought about going out too much over the ... A: This is a huge issue for you to deal with. You need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart ... | |
| Child Support in Illinois | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: I have a few questions: 1) I pay child support for my daughter from a previous marriage. My new ... A: You would have to take this back to court and try to have the divorce decree amended to lower your ... | |
| Trust, marriage and infidelity. | 5/30/2008 |
| Q: I am in a very seriously unstable state of mind about both my marriage, and a long distance ... A: Of course your wife is hurt, shocked and even devastated that you're being emotionally unfaithful to ... | |
| Marriage is at crossroads | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: S. Kessler: I am contacting you due to concerns with my marriage. I am a 34 year old husband with a ... A: I'm sure you would love to move even half a world away from them. But asking that of your wife, ... | |
| Adultery | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: I am a firm beleiver if you want to learn how to do anything be it related to sex murder drugs etc ... A: The problem here is that the world and society has become desensitized to nudity, porn, anything ... | |
| I want to leave my marriage and take my kids out of state | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: can I do this? He is squatting and I am not leaving either. I want to go back home to florida and I ... A: As long as you are legally married you can move with the children anywhere and he can't do anything ... | |
| Opinon's needed | 5/23/2008 |
| Q: My wife started going home to columbus, ohio with just our 2 children to visit her family. I was ... A: I definitely say that you have every right to be concerned and to think that there is something ... | |
| should i get out | 5/20/2008 |
| Q: I am writting because i have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. we both were in long term ... A: He's had plenty of time to decide whether he wants to marry you or not. If he loves you then why ... | |
| we have been married for 7yrs and now his confuse | 5/20/2008 |
| Q: my husband told me that he is not sure if he loves me or not because he still thinks in his ex-wife ... A: How long has he realized that he might still be in love with his ex-wife? Is this just something ... | |
| STAY OR GO? | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 8 years and have three children. I have left and came back to many times ... A: I say that you should try to work it out with your wife if at all possible. In order to do this ... | |
| my marriage | 5/14/2008 |
| Q: my husband and i have been together for nine years and married for 5 of those years.he has left me ... A: If he refuses to work with you and help you fix this marriage, and you certainly can't do this on ... | |
| young marriage | 4/19/2008 |
| Q: hey. i am 17 and i am engaged to my boyfriend who is almost 20. we love each other alot and want to ... A: It's my personal opinion that anyone in their teens is really too young to get married. However, ... | |
| child support & taxes | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: I am getting married soon & the man Im with had gotten behind on child support from his first ... A: You can file married but filing separately due to this. Otherwise, they can take the whole tax ... | |
| marriage and child support | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: I am in a relationship and prepping for marriage but have a child from a previous relationship. My ... A: No, it will not. If you have a child with your soon to be wife, they'll have to leave you enough to ... | |
| My husband is having doubts about us | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We got married young, I was 19 and he was 22. We ... A: That leaves you in between a rock and a hard spot to be put in a position like that! I think ... | |
| I don't love my husband anymore. | 3/22/2008 |
| Q: I want out of my marriage so bad that I can't stand it. I can't even stand the sound of his voice ... A: There's not going to be any easy way to tell him why and that your leaving him. It doesn't have to ... | |
| I am 32 years old this year and has bf who is not ready | 3/21/2008 |
| Q: I am 32 years old this year and I want to have kids soon. Is it too late for me? My bf for a year ... A: Getting married, buying a house and having children are huge and life changing decisions for anyone ... | |
| Marriage | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: Iam in a marriage in which I just don't respect him as a husband or father, he curses in front of my ... A: It really sounds like it is time to divorce. Unless you both want to work this marriage out. ... | |
| ending my marriage | 3/10/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 20+ years. I have decided to end it after trying everything,including ... A: I've done a search on the internet for preparing to leave your husband/spouse and I too, didn't find ... | |
| separation | 3/7/2008 |
| Q: I've been married 15 years and recently my husband opted to separate. His financial problems and ... A: He can't tell you that you can't wear your wedding rings. That's for you to decide not him. If he ... | |
| ending my marriage | 3/5/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 20+ years. I have decided to end it after trying everything,including ... A: You have the right idea in making sure that you're prepared mentally and financially to plan out ... | |
| I don't know if i love my wife anymore! | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 2 years now.We have been together for 7 years total.This is my second ... A: Maybe you've become disconnected from her during those years with her. It's not uncommon for a ... | |
| Cheating Father-in-Law | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband's father has been cheating on his wife for about two years now. I normally would not get ... A: If you do tell your MIL you risk causing problems within your own marriage. The reason is this will ... | |
| How to best handle myself during the separation HE wants | 2/25/2008 |
| Q: My husband of 7 years asked for a separation last night and went to stay with his brother. He said ... A: He very well could be going through a mid-life crisis. However, I'm in total agreement with you in ... | |
| Keeping trying or is it time to let go? | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: I have been married & divorced , now re-married. I have been married for 2 years now. We have also ... A: You've already expressed to him how this makes you feel (what he's doing), and yet he's still ... | |
| forgery | 2/17/2008 |
| Q: i am separated from my husband and we have a car in both our names .he has an order from the courts ... A: He can't do that! You'll have to take him back to court and get him in contempt of a court order. ... | |
| Do i love? | 2/13/2008 |
| Q: i have a true situation. I met this girl couple years back and i was physically attracted to her. ... A: Maybe you love her but your not IN love with her. And the other problem is that you rushed into ... | |
| Is there any hope ? | 2/13/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 6 yrs and my husband is 3 yrs younger to me. For the first three and half ... A: I can understand that this is angry and very frustrating for you. But there has to come a time when ... | |
| Drowning in Porn | 2/10/2008 |
| Q: My husband of 6 years has an addiction to porn. Several times I have found books, videos etc in his ... A: Porn is an addiction just like gambling and alcoholism are addictions. I can't honestly tell you ... | |
| moving | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: I moved here a little over 8 years ago from a family I am very close with. I was only to be here ... A: At this point there is probably nothing you can say or do to make it easier and to not have conflict ... | |
| Is it time to go? | 2/6/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years. I was previously married and have 3 older ... A: He's an abuser. He may not abuse you physically, but mental abuse can often be much worse. While ... | |
| What can I do | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: I am male married many years and I have two wonderful kids and a lovely wife. I love them all so ... A: It seems as though she's somehow forgotten about you and your wants and needs in life too. Let's ... | |
| Husband works as little as possible | 2/1/2008 |
| Q: My husband used to be a Buyer in the Pharmaceutical industry. I also work in pharmaceutical ... A: Maybe he's got some form of depression and he's discouraged by being laid off from his job, and now ... | |
| Finanical Problems | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have a beautiful 18 mo old daughter and are currently having issues over a number ... A: You may not like to hear what I'm going to tell you, but I'm going to say it anyway. He has to ... | |
| Wills and divorce | 1/29/2008 |
| Q: MY husband is paying child support for 2 girls till the age of 19. If my husband dies will the ex ... A: No, she's not entitled to anything of his if he dies. You, as his wife, you would get everything he ... | |
| porn | 1/29/2008 |
| Q: My name is diana. I have a husband who keeps on getting caught with porn. We had agreed that he ... A: He could be addicted to porn. Porn addiction is just as addictive and serious as gambling and ... | |
| Separation...need a break... | 1/24/2008 |
| Q: So. I've been married almost two years, with my husband for a a total of three. I love him, but I ... A: No, a separation doesn't always have to be a bad thing for a couple. It does one of two things ... | |
| can i leave | 1/23/2008 |
| Q: I am wanting to know how to leave my marriage. I am wanting to know my right and how I can leave ... A: Yes, you are free to leave the marriage and the house anytime you wish (and vice versa for him). ... | |
| re-kindle? | 1/19/2008 |
| Q: "I am 37 and live in AZ, my ex-husband is 44 and now lives in Australia. We were together for 6 ... A: I would actually discourage someone from rekindling a relationship with an ex. After all he's your ... | |
| wife | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: when me and the wife have sex she will not utter 1 word.before during or after. weve been married ... A: Has she always been like this during sexual intimacy? Meaning that she's always been quiet and not ... | |
| Im miserable and want out is this right? | 1/10/2008 |
| Q: my husband and i have been having problems since we got married we have only been married a year. I ... A: He's an abuser, but you already know that. For your own sake and the sake of your precious baby you ... | |
| new marriage to some one who is alreasy paying child support | 1/9/2008 |
| Q: If I get married to a man who is already court orderd to pay child support, when we get married will ... A: No, she's not entitled to any of your income, period (no matter how much you make). The child(ren) ... | |
| Husband and I separated after he says he "doesn't know what he wants" | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: First of all, my husband and I married young at 19. We have always had our problems, but went on. ... A: You can't allow him to treat you like crap and degrade you a moment longer. If you continue to put ... | |
| Caught wife cheating with coworker. We are now seperated because she wants time to think miss me? | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: Wife has been unhappy for a few months. there were signals given, but none that rang the emergency ... A: It sounds like you really did good for a while there. But then you let her sucker you back into ... | |
| Wandering eyes... | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: While perusing through our email I stumbled upon a note that my wife of 18 years sent to our ... A: Good luck to you and hopefully your wife will come around and see to the light, and that what she's ... | |
| Fairness and Open Marriage? | 1/1/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 6 years. My husband and I are close and intimate, but our sexual activity ... A: I want to be honest and frank with you up front. I don't condone nor do I agree with the concept of ... | |
| marriage in trouble | 1/1/2008 |
| Q: Where do i start. My husband and I have been together for nearly 15 years. We have three children. ... A: Your husband is in denial about your feelings. You just need to keep being honest with him. After ... | |
| Should I say ....I Do? | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years (but have taken a few breaks in between,) we also ... A: With all the problems that you've had in the past, the cheating and now currently his drinking ... | |
| back child support | 12/23/2007 |
| Q: I am not sure if i should marry this guy considering he owes a lot of money in back child support, ... A: Maybe marrying him really isn't such a good idea. If he's not able to pay child support, then what ... | |
| STATE OF PENNSYLVANIA | 12/22/2007 |
| Q: My husband got a girl pregnant earlier this year. She now lives in PA, we live in TN. She says ... A: The state still can't take into consideration your income, even if your supporting the household and ... | |
| STATE OF PENNSYLVANIA | 12/21/2007 |
| Q: My husband got a girl pregnant earlier this year. She now lives in PA, we live in TN. She says ... A: No, she's sadly mistaken. Your income has absolutely nothing to do with your husband and/or child ... | |
| wife before marriage | 12/14/2007 |
| Q: me and my wife love each other a lot we are married 6 years and i just found out that before when ... A: It seems as though your jealous b/c of this. And really why should you be. What your wife did when ... | |
| should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: Kessler, I have a question. I'm helping a female friend of mine to find an answer. Should her boy ... A: She probably shouldn't marry him, as it might be a huge mistake later. The reason I say this is he ... | |
| Trial separation? | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: I'm exhausted of receiving complains and orders from my wife for years. I've tried many different ... A: She doesn't respect you, and that's a huge problem. You need to sit down with her and have a ... | |
| Caught wife cheating with coworker. We are now seperated because she wants time to think miss me? | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: Wife has been unhappy for a few months. there were signals given, but none that rang the emergency ... A: I'm a female. My first husband cheated on me with several women, at least 5 that I know of for ... | |
| Caught wife cheating with coworker. We are now seperated because she wants time to think miss me? | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: Wife has been unhappy for a few months. there were signals given, but none that rang the emergency ... A: Since the separation is now official, and you're not calling her all the time, wanting to know where ... | |
| Caught wife cheating with coworker. We are now seperated because she wants time to think miss me? | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: Wife has been unhappy for a few months. there were signals given, but none that rang the emergency ... A: It might be a good time to give her her space for now. However, you can't let this drag on for too ... | |
| Husband's moods | 11/27/2007 |
| Q: My husband is horrible; moody, negative and anti-social. He tells lies about silly things, and ... A: Absolutely under no circumstances should you move back to where you once were. If he's not happy ... | |
| Seperation | 11/27/2007 |
| Q: Hey, My husband left 5 weeks ago stating I didnt know how to treat him like a man. He has his own ... A: This isn't an uncommon response from one of the parties through the separation process. It's a ... | |
| adultery | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: My husband of 20years had an adulterous affair with someone half our age(we are in our late 40s)He ... A: He's giving you mixed signals and this is why it's so confusing to you. He says one thing one ... | |
| saving my marriage | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: My wife recently took her ring off in a fight. There is no issue with money, adultery, or abuse, ... A: I would strongly suggest that you seek some marriage counseling. This way you can figure out what ... | |
| worried | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: going wrong.It seems to me like my wife want me to be someone im not and we go back and forth she ... A: With your wife being pregnant this is going to make her even more emotional due to the raging ... | |
| Harrassing Ex | 11/25/2007 |
| Q: I need help please. I have been in this relationship on/off for a few years. I have a infant with ... A: She's probably extremely jealous of you and that he's now moved on to make a life with you and your ... | |
| Underage Divorce | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: I ave been married for about 6 months now, and things between me and my husband just are not working ... A: In some states 17 is old enough to be emancipated and to make adult decisions on your own. And now ... | |
| marriage | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: I am at the end of my tether. Again. Why again? Around 3 yrs. ago, I felt very neglected by my ... A: I can totally understand and even respect that you live in a very conservative place in society ... | |
| cheating | 11/20/2007 |
| Q: i just fund out that my husband is cheating on me, second time /that i know, with different person, ... A: You have two options here. A) You can put up with it and continue to stay with him. Or B) You ... | |
| marriage | 11/19/2007 |
| Q: I am at the end of my tether. Again. Why again? Around 3 yrs. ago, I felt very neglected by my ... A: So he says one thing and yet does another. I can see how this is confusing to you. It doesn't seem ... | |
| newly wed and looking at divorce | 11/17/2007 |
| Q: I am 23 and have been married about 8 months, and two months prior to that we had bought a house ... A: The hardest part is taking the first step and breaking the news to him. Once you do that it gets a ... | |
| my wife's sister | 11/17/2007 |
| Q: My wife's sister (ex heroin addict) has been living with us for the last 5 years and has not done ... A: It's high time that her sister got out and started living on her own and being a responsible adult ... | |
| my relationship with my husband | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: I feel like I am dying. I love my husband. i BELEIVE he cares about me. He says he is not ... A: I can totally understand how this is taking a huge toll on you and making you feel. Everyone needs ... | |
| marriage and child support | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: He has other children from previous relationships. He owes for back and current child support. If we ... A: No, you're not responsible for any children that he's had with any other women. The children are ... | |
| why I do I feel so along? | 11/13/2007 |
| Q: I been married for 13 years. We married at age 18. We have 3 great boys.. I love my husband but ... A: His behavior certainly isn't normal and he's not acting like a married man. He's basically out ... | |
| Desperate ex-wife | 11/13/2007 |
| Q: Kessler, This is my first marriage, I have no dependents. This will be my fiancé’s second, he has 2 ... A: A prenup agreement would be a good thing to seriously consider, since you have a lot to lose ... | |
| space | 11/12/2007 |
| Q: my wife recently asked for space, she is 48 yrs old and we have been having a lot of issues with ou ... A: I know it's going to be tough but you really should respect her request for some space and time ... | |
| Please Help Me! | 11/9/2007 |
| Q: I Have been married for a year and 5 months and 11 weeks ago gave birth to a beautiful daughter. My ... A: You need to confront him on his lying. Tell him you know for a fact that he's not being very honest ... | |
| Is he too friendly... again? | 11/9/2007 |
| Q: Kessler, I've used this site before, I'm not positive which expert I posed a question to. It was ... A: I think he's being overly friendly with this family for a reason. What that real reason is remains ... | |
| child support and re-marrying | 11/1/2007 |
| Q: My ex wife is getting married, when this happens will the court require her to include her new ... A: No, her new husband's wages have absolutely nothing to do with your children. He's not legally ... | |
| moving away from family | 10/28/2007 |
| Q: My wife wants me to move away from my family to live near her family who are 750 miles away. She ... A: I can't even begin to imagine how this is making you feel right now, to be torn between two ppl you ... | |
| moving away from family | 10/28/2007 |
| Q: My wife wants me to move away from my family to live near her family who are 750 miles away. She ... A: Have you and your wife discussed this fully and does she know what a huge decision this is for you ... | |
| Can I save my marriage? | 10/27/2007 |
| Q: my husband and I cannot not talk about anything personal. We can talk about anything else not ... A: Sure, it's certainly possible to save this marriage. But you both have to be willing to make things ... | |
| drinking, divorce | 10/26/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have a 6 yr old boy. Before we were married, ... A: He's an alcoholic, there's no doubt about it. He can't control his drinking, and when he drinks he ... | |
| Adultry | 10/24/2007 |
| Q: I dated my husband in high school and we got married 5 years ago. We have always had a pretty close ... A: I assume that she's pregnant with your husband's child. Please correct me if I'm wrong here. I ... | |
| grown children | 10/24/2007 |
| Q: My two daughters have been coming to our house every two months or so,bringing five kids(it's a ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| Too Many Issues to list! | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: I'm currently engaged, but the relationship is so messy, that I'm not sure it will survive. My, ... A: I think your fiancee has a lot of unresolved issues. And those need to get taken care of before you ... | |
| husband still not working | 10/12/2007 |
| Q: I've been with my husband for 10 years; 5 married. I'll try to keep this somewhat to the point. He ... A: I think you're most certainly right in seriously considering divorcing him. He's got a very bad ... | |
| Marrying a man who owes child support | 10/11/2007 |
| Q: My fiance owes back and current child support and i was wondering will i be responsible as well to ... A: No are NOT responsible for anything having to do with HIS child including child support. That's ... | |
| Should I try and save my marriage for the sake of our Children. | 10/11/2007 |
| Q: about 6 weeks ago my wife told me she was seeing someone else and asked for a seperation. Our ... A: I'm a firm believer in never staying together for the sake of the children. In the end it just ... | |
| steps to take when leaving husband | 10/10/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 9 yrs. with a son we had before marriage which is why i felt i needed to ... A: You just need to tell him that you're leaving him and that you're filing for a divorce. He can't ... | |
| how do I leave my marriage | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: I had a relative pass away recently and I felt my life pass before my eyes. Like up until that ... A: I've found, in my experience, that it's better to do it immediately and to get the separation part ... | |
| how do I leave my marriage | 10/5/2007 |
| Q: I had a relative pass away recently and I felt my life pass before my eyes. Like up until that ... A: You have to make that decision and finally decide that you're going to go through with it and just ... | |
| community property | 10/3/2007 |
| Q: I built my house 6 years before marrying. We have been married for 10 years and want a divorce. ... A: Divorce laws will vary from state to state. If you had the home prior to marriage he's not entitled ... | |
| How to leave my marriage | 10/3/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 years, but even before we got married I have always had thoughts of ... A: It sounds like you've had your mind made up a long, long time ago that this marriage is over. You ... | |
| 2nd marriage | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: okay, i hope this isn't long-winded, but it might end up being that way. i hope not. anyway, i was ... A: He had his own home prior to the marriage you're not entitled to that. And the home not being in ... | |
| Separation | 10/1/2007 |
| Q: my marriage is pretty much over. It certainly is not physical abuse, but more mental than anything. ... A: There's probably nothing you can do about him being on disability. Unless you can prove with ... | |
| Why? | 9/30/2007 |
| Q: We have been married for 5 years in about 8 days. We basically have separate lives. we only have ... A: If he's being short-tempered and unloving, then there is something wrong with him. He's ... | |
| Separated, back together, mourning other relationship | 9/27/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I were separated for 4 mos. We had paid for a divorce but just had not agreed on ... A: It's going to take some time for you to get over this other man. You just have to make yourself ... | |
| MYWIFE AND I | 9/27/2007 |
| Q: My wife and i are having problem on the time we support to make love.This is so because of my work ... A: You need to come up with a compromise to work this issue out. Marriage is sometimes about given and ... | |
| Separated | 9/25/2007 |
| Q: After 3 weeks of separation and months of thinking from back starting in March my husband said he ... A: Well, sure, there is always that slight chance that he could possibly change his mind. His actions ... | |
| I hate my husband | 9/21/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I just passed 25 years of marriage. I won't say "celebrated" because I can think of ... A: You have two options here. You can A-stay in this unhappy, unhealthy and unfulfilling marriage or ... | |
| am i overreacting? | 9/19/2007 |
| Q: I've been married going on 9 years. this is my 2nd and my wife's 1st. my previous marriage ended due ... A: No, I don't think you're overreacting at all. You've been cheated on in the past and it's obviously ... | |
| marriage age difference suitability | 9/15/2007 |
| Q: S.Kessler. firstly thank you for your great help to us for our quests. my girl friend is 19 years ... A: No, your age difference is not that big at all. A 12 yr age difference is fine. You can marry at ... | |
| marriage age difference suitability | 9/14/2007 |
| Q: S.Kessler. firstly thank you for your great help to us for our quests. my girl friend is 19 years ... A: If you are both compatible in every way together. Then yes, why not marry her?! Age is nothing but ... | |
| Separated | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: After 3 weeks of separation and months of thinking from back starting in March my husband said he ... A: That is correct. He's the one that said he's 100% done. You have to no reason to not believe him. ... | |
| Separated | 9/12/2007 |
| Q: After 3 weeks of separation and months of thinking from back starting in March my husband said he ... A: He refuses to say the word divorce, yet he's said it's done and he's already separated and in the ... | |
| marriage issues | 9/11/2007 |
| Q: i have been married for almost 7 yrs. we have a 2 yr old son together. He has 3 child. from ... A: Then it is now up to you to take matters into your own hands. And do what you think is right for ... | |
| two ex wives and kids in between! | 9/11/2007 |
| Q: i met my husband while he was on leave from the military and we immediately fell in love and i moved ... A: Maybe he doesn't like to hear what you have to say when you have heart to heart discussions. Most ... | |
| marital problem | 9/10/2007 |
| Q: Last night my wife told me that she wanted me to move out for a while. She needed to get over some ... A: I don't think you should move out of your home. If she wants to leave (tell her not to move out), ... | |
| marriage issues | 9/10/2007 |
| Q: i have been married for almost 7 yrs. we have a 2 yr old son together. He has 3 child. from ... A: There is obviously something wrong with your husband. He could have some form of depression to be ... | |
| relationship help | 9/7/2007 |
| Q: I am 46 yrs. old and have raised my children on my own. My boyfriend of 6 yrs. has half custody of ... A: If he hasn't married you in the 6 yrs you've been together, by now. Then chances are he's not ever ... | |
| two ex wives and kids in between! | 9/7/2007 |
| Q: i met my husband while he was on leave from the military and we immediately fell in love and i moved ... A: It's not uncommon for a woman in your position to be jealous of the previous wives. I think that's ... | |
| Child Support Issues | 9/6/2007 |
| Q: Good afternoon, I have been divorced for about three years now and my ex-wife & I are starting ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your questions here and put my answers to them directly underneath them, ... | |
| marriage advice - life changing decision | 9/5/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 17 years, and we have a daughter 15, and a son 13. We have ... A: I don't think you're crazy for wanting this, and you're not selfish for wanting to move and be ... | |
| marriage | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: Respected fellow, my name is Yasir, a male, currently a studenet of medicine. i got married 5 ... A: Does she know how this is truly affecting you and the marriage? Perhaps she doesn't fully get how ... | |
| Husband thinks I am cheating | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: I am in the military and I am at a school x 6 weeks. THis is the first time in 6 yrs I have been ... A: He's thinking this for a reason. It's one of two things probably. He's cheating on you (speaking ... | |
| Infidelity Pattern - Husband cheated twice | 9/3/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 years and have a 2 year old. My husband cheated on me 2 years into our ... A: He's a serial cheater. He's done is to you twice in the marriage, and once while you were dating. ... | |
| My husband wants to separate | 9/2/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for a yr and a half. On Day 2 of our marriage i found that my husband hwas ... A: Well, I'm a Mrs, but that's okay. I've been called worse before (just kidding). You're only ... | |
| ReMarriage & Child Support | 8/31/2007 |
| Q: For the State of Pennsylvania I am with a man that wants to marry me. We have a 3 yr old little ... A: The answer is very simple, it's no. You're not responsible for his children, nor paying HIS child ... | |
| separation | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I separated for 5 days back in April (his doing because he said he didn't like how I ... A: Yes, I was referring to your relationship. If you feel you can talk to him about the relationship ... | |
| separation | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I separated for 5 days back in April (his doing because he said he didn't like how I ... A: It's probably the best to give him his space for now. That doesn't mean that you can't talk to him ... | |
| separation | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I separated for 5 days back in April (his doing because he said he didn't like how I ... A: That's hard to answer b/c again it depends on his actions and what he does. If he's even interested ... | |
| separation | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I separated for 5 days back in April (his doing because he said he didn't like how I ... A: I have no statistics for when ppl separate. However, there is a 50% chance they'll divorce and a ... | |
| separation | 8/28/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I separated for 5 days back in April (his doing because he said he didn't like how I ... A: Divorce is a serious and hard matter to go through. So take your time and don't rush into it. In ... | |
| separation | 8/27/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I separated for 5 days back in April (his doing because he said he didn't like how I ... A: The mixed signals he's giving you right now are actually quite normal. He may honestly not know ... | |
| I lied about going to bachelor/strip club | 8/27/2007 |
| Q: Two months ago I had a business trip with co-workers to Indianapolis and one night after drinking a ... A: There's probably nothing you can say or do to convince her of anything. If she's made up her mind ... | |
| second marriage for cheaters | 8/24/2007 |
| Q: I would like to know your thoughts on what do you think in your experiences that a man/woman who ... A: Affairs born out of adultery usually do not last, that's true. However, that doesn't mean that your ... | |
| Separation | 8/24/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I separated a few days ago. How do I know when our marriage is really over and that ... A: It depends really. Sometimes a person just knows when their marriage is over or is in dire straits. ... | |
| seperation | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: my wife has recently decided that she needed more space and time alone to think without any ... A: Her age probably has a lot to do with her wanting to take a "break" from the marriage. Maybe she ... | |
| seperation | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: my wife has recently decided that she needed more space and time alone to think without any ... A: Typically when a person uses the phrase "It's not you, it's me." That means it's you. She's just ... | |
| The In-Laws | 8/21/2007 |
| Q: I’m a 59 year old DIL who is at the end of her tether and having no clue where to turn ... A: Honestly, I have no more suggestions for you. As you've done everything within your power to fix ... | |
| breaking up | 8/16/2007 |
| Q: After an arguement 9 days ago my husband said it was over and left. For one week he would sleep at ... A: That's great to hear, when someone writes be back with a success. I'm happy to hear that your life ... | |
| Sexless marriage, then affair | 8/15/2007 |
| Q: My wife & I have been married for 15 years, have 3 kids, youngest is 5. Our last sex was the ... A: Relationships born out of adultery usually don't last. Chances of them actually working are are ... | |
| Sexless marriage, then affair | 8/15/2007 |
| Q: My wife & I have been married for 15 years, have 3 kids, youngest is 5. Our last sex was the ... A: I think you already truly know what you want here. You want out of this marriage. You haven't been ... | |
| breaking up | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: After an arguement 9 days ago my husband said it was over and left. For one week he would sleep at ... A: It's good to hear from you and that you're well. Yes, it's perfectly fine and acceptable for you to ... | |
| Mother-in-Law | 8/10/2007 |
| Q: This is a bit of a different subject but it involves my daughter and her meddling mother-in-law. In ... A: He has to be the one to put his mother in her place. He should have limited to no contact with her, ... | |
| seperation | 8/10/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 20 years and we have 4 children. There ages are 19,15,12,10. We have had ... A: You should stay in regular to frequent contact with her, for the sake of the children. Such as to ... | |
| my marriage is falling apart | 8/7/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 3 years this October and have a son that is almost 2. From just ... A: You shouldn't stay with your husband just b/c you feel obligated too. And so far that's what you've ... | |
| baby on the way and sooo distant | 8/5/2007 |
| Q: I am 29 years old and been married about a year and a half, have been with my husband for about 3.5 ... A: It could be that he's put up walls so that he doesn't get hurt again since you lost 3 pregnancies ... | |
| marriage | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: what do i do when everything seems to turn into a fight with my wife. i think of her all the time , ... A: I would strongly urge you to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She ... | |
| Am I killing her? | 7/30/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 4 years now. Recently she has had a very frustating experience, ... A: Your wife has issues that go way beyond you. She's claiming that her life is over (or was almost ... | |
| My partner does not want children | 7/29/2007 |
| Q: I am in a difficult situation. I am 39 and have no children. Half a year ago I met a wonderful man ... A: Isn't it better that you find this out now than later down the road after your married. It sounds ... | |
| My husband is accusing me of affiars I havent had | 7/26/2007 |
| Q: I was looking for advice on the net when I found this, my husband is doing the EXACTLY the same to ... A: If he's cheated on the mother of his children. Then what's to say he won't do it again to you. And ... | |
| emails | 7/24/2007 |
| Q: Ok--here is my story, any advice is greatly needed and appreciated. I met my husband when we were ... A: You can claims ground for divorce for just about any reason. The most common is irreconcilable ... | |
| Jealous & Insecure Husband | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: My name is Mariah, I'm 26 years old and I've been married for almost 4 years to my husband but we ... A: He definitely has big issues here. Sometimes when a man accuses a woman of cheating on him. It's ... | |
| Sex in marriage | 7/22/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for a bit more than a year. I am 30 years old and my husband is ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your questions here, so that they are easier to answer. My answers will ... | |
| husband issue | 7/19/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 6 months. Both of us have been married before. We each have ... A: He's insulting you by asking you this. And now it's taking a toll on your self-esteem. It's all ... | |
| My husband has no interest in intimacy | 7/16/2007 |
| Q: I hope that you can help me. Any advice that you could give would be greatly appreciated. I am at ... A: He might have some form of sexual dysfunction and he's too embarrassed to tell you or bring it up in ... | |
| husband playing role play games | 7/15/2007 |
| Q: my husband is wonderful in a lot of ways. he recently gets involved in the role play game which he ... A: Of course it's not too much to ask him to stay at home with you on the weekends. If this game and ... | |
| Lost respect since he slapped me | 7/14/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 5 years,married for just over 4.We have had some issues for the ... A: His putting his hands on you should've been the deal breaker. No man (or anyone for that matter) ... | |
| married in france: seeking divorce in US | 7/13/2007 |
| Q: I got married in France while I was on a business trip in august 2006. I have been residing in ... A: You can still get a divorce in the US, even though you married in France. You first have to have ... | |
| "sharing" my wife | 7/12/2007 |
| Q: After careful consideration, I am sure that I would like my wife to have intercourse with another ... A: While I think it's noble and very thoughtful of you to want your wife to have sexual satisfaction ... | |
| Staying in an unhappy marriage because of an ill spouse | 7/11/2007 |
| Q: I have a very good friend who has been married to a lovely lady for close to 13 years and they share ... A: He's doing this child a great disservice by staying with the mother. It's never a good idea to stay ... | |
| sexual problems | 7/11/2007 |
| Q: am 23years and my girlfriend is 19yrs,we have a son who is now 2 years and a half.we've had this ... A: This all could be due to the birth of your son. A woman's sex drive can drastically change once ... | |
| Should i get married to her? | 7/7/2007 |
| Q: I've been going out with my girlfriend technically for about a year and a half, but in reality it's ... A: You're the only one that knows for sure if she's the absolute one for you. In your heart of hearts ... | |
| marriage | 7/7/2007 |
| Q: a friend mentioned this to me and i had never heard it so i was just curious... if you get legally ... A: This will vary on what the individual casinos rules and regulations are (which have laws that also ... | |
| this is a long one | 7/6/2007 |
| Q: S.Kessler. We come from Hebrew background, from Russia. I have known this girl for about 17 – 19 ... A: I don't want to seem rude here. But I feel compelled to tell you the truth, she's a whore. She ... | |
| stay or go? | 7/6/2007 |
| Q: My 46 year old husband was caught looking in the bathroom window of a 17 year old daughter of a ... A: There is some underlying reasons for his disturbing behavior. What they are exactly remains to yet ... | |
| dating after seperation | 7/5/2007 |
| Q: My friend is now legally separated..can he and she both free to date or do they have to wait until ... A: From the time of separation it's considered moving on with their lives. So they are free to date ... | |
| stepchildren | 7/5/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married just one year. I have a great relationship with my youngest ... A: There is only so much you can do as a step-mother. The only thing I can suggest is that you talk to ... | |
| about marriage | 7/5/2007 |
| Q: If I am 20 when i get married an my husband is 23 does that give me the right to purchase beer? A: No, you must be 21 to purchase and consume beer legally. Let's hypothetically say he buys beer for ... | |
| stay or go? | 7/3/2007 |
| Q: My 46 year old husband was caught looking in the bathroom window of a 17 year old daughter of a ... A: Not to be the bearer of more bad news, but chances of him actually recovering from being a molester, ... | |
| Im afraid to leave because i have a problem to. | 7/3/2007 |
| Q: I've been with my husband for 6 years we've had a pretty stressfull marriage we have 3 small ... A: If you don't mind my asking, what is your addiction? The first step is to first acknowledge that ... | |
| marriage | 7/3/2007 |
| Q: first can I say allexperts.com is really great. now my question; I have dual nationality British ... A: Not all, but some countries want a divorce decree/papers or some proof that a divorce was done, in ... | |
| stay or go? | 7/3/2007 |
| Q: I've been married for 10 years. My husband and I are very respectful to one another but have turned ... A: You've tried everything that you could possibly do in the marriage. What more is there for you to ... | |
| stay or go? | 7/2/2007 |
| Q: My 46 year old husband was caught looking in the bathroom window of a 17 year old daughter of a ... A: I think you should kick him out ASAP. And no, the problem definitely isn't you! That's for sure, ... | |
| husband debt | 7/2/2007 |
| Q: I'm from Spain an I've married my husband in 2004. We live in Phoenix Az.We received a letter from a ... A: This this debt was prior to your meeting him. It's solely his debt and not yours. They would have ... | |
| my husband drinks too much | 7/1/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 3 years, and dated for one year before that. He is 40 and I'm ... A: Wow. But this is your problem too, b/c it's affecting the marriage. So you either have to work ... | |
| marriage at 17 | 7/1/2007 |
| Q: My mom has passed away from cancer and my father has disowned me; i am 17 and pregnant and the ... A: Most states and providences allow you to be of legal age at 17 to make those decision on your own. ... | |
| What should I do? | 6/30/2007 |
| Q: I married a good man. Together we have a son. I am having difficulty admitting what my feelings are ... A: Your husband is dealing with something that is taking a huge toll on his self-esteem. See, when a ... | |
| Marriage Troubles | 6/29/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for just over a year, and we live in a flat where I could not ... A: He did that to get back at you b/c he was mad and upset that you gave your mom money for the dogs. ... | |
| Why am I so afraid to leave? | 6/26/2007 |
| Q: I have been married 7 years now, together for 10. I am 35 he is 43. We had a rocky relationship ... A: It's hard to leave b/c you love him. And taking the first step and actually going through with it, ... | |
| getting married befor your divorce is finalized | 6/19/2007 |
| Q: Ive already been served with divorce papers,id like to know if i can some how get married befor our ... A: No, you can't get remarried until the divorce is finalized. Even after it is, there is a mandatory ... | |
| Is separation a good way to save a marriage | 6/14/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I, both in our 30's, have been married for just over two years. Its been good for most ... A: The problem is pretty well cut and dry--she misses her family (even though they are over-bearing), ... | |
| Dealing w/ ex-wife | 6/14/2007 |
| Q: I'll make this short and sweet. I have been w/ my fiance for 4 years his ex-wife was trying to ... A: I totally agree with you on this. She's completely out of line, by doing this. She's no longer ... | |
| wedding is in 26 days | 6/14/2007 |
| Q: I am very confused... My fiancee and I have been together for almost two years now. We started out ... A: If she's bad now, then she'll only get worse after the marriage. She will then think that she has a ... | |
| Trapped by a number | 6/13/2007 |
| Q: I started seeing a man a few months back and he has proven to be everything I have ever wanted ... A: Wow! My head is swimming just trying to wrap my head around all that you've just said. Sooo...I'll ... | |
| wedding is in 26 days | 6/12/2007 |
| Q: I am very confused... My fiancee and I have been together for almost two years now. We started out ... A: She has a control issue, and that's the main problem in the relationship. I would strongly advise ... | |
| Trapped by a number | 6/12/2007 |
| Q: I started seeing a man a few months back and he has proven to be everything I have ever wanted ... A: You know this isn't about you or really even your age. It's about his ex-wife being back in the ... | |
| Casual Porn Use? | 6/11/2007 |
| Q: Is it possible for man to be a "casual" user of porn and not an addict? I'm trying to figure out if ... A: I think it's certainly possible for a man to have casual porn usage. As long as he's not obsessed ... | |
| Ex issues | 6/10/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I split up almost a year ago. He has told others that he made a mistake "but it is ... A: He's your ex for a reason. He can tell you anything he likes to; but that doesn't mean he's indeed ... | |
| Marrying a non-muslim girl | 6/10/2007 |
| Q: Asalam u alikum ...hello my name is Asif and i am 23 years old..i really need ur help i am so glad ... A: I'm speaking as a Christian woman here to you about your dilemma. As a Christian, we believe that ... | |
| My marriage may end any day... | 6/5/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 9 months come this June. In the beginning we were amazing. ... A: HA! Classic case of a man losing control and then using lies and threats to get exactly what he want ... | |
| Husband wants to lock me out. | 6/3/2007 |
| Q: I live in New York. Everytime ,my husband and I argue he threaten to throw me out and change the ... A: Since you've not been married that long, a judge isn't going to give you a settlement or alimony. ... | |
| Birthday Party | 6/1/2007 |
| Q: My wife is 40 this year and has talked all year about a party. My wife has several friends but they ... A: I think you need to be somewhere in between both of these. Let me elaborate what I mean exactly. ... | |
| mexico marriage | 6/1/2007 |
| Q: I am hoping that you will be able to assist me in finding my answer, because I don't have the funds ... A: Yes, your marriage is legal in the US (and anywhere around the world). As long as it was done in ... | |
| My marriage may end any day... | 5/31/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 9 months come this June. In the beginning we were amazing. ... A: He is insulting your intelligence. He's a jerk! Can't you see what he's doing here? He's treating ... | |
| Marriage | 5/30/2007 |
| Q: If a girl is 14 and wants to get married to a guy who is 18 but also illegally here can they get ... A: This varies from state to state. I think there are only 1-2 states (if that), that do allow a minor ... | |
| breaking up | 5/29/2007 |
| Q: After an arguement 9 days ago my husband said it was over and left. For one week he would sleep at ... A: Wow, that's very surprising that he returned what a took. Perhaps he realized what he'd done. At ... | |
| breaking up | 5/29/2007 |
| Q: After an arguement 9 days ago my husband said it was over and left. For one week he would sleep at ... A: He's going in and taking your stuff b/c he can. He knows that this is one way he can get back at ... | |
| breaking up | 5/28/2007 |
| Q: After an arguement 9 days ago my husband said it was over and left. For one week he would sleep at ... A: Beware when he says this. He could be buttering you up in order to get the stuff from the house ... | |
| breaking up | 5/28/2007 |
| Q: After an arguement 9 days ago my husband said it was over and left. For one week he would sleep at ... A: He's entitled to 50% of the things incurred during the marriage, b/c this is considered marital ... | |
| Husband's Selfishness | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: I am a 30-year-old mother of one daughter, my husband and I have been married for 5 years. My ... A: It's better to do a divorce now and get it over with. The longer you wait and the older the child ... | |
| Forged Signature | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: My husband forged my signature on a $25k refund check and placed it in his private account. Is this ... A: Even if you weren't on the account, the taxes were done together with him, with you filing as ... | |
| Marriage problems and a child | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: I am writing because I have been wanting and wishing there was some phone number I could call to get ... A: Wow, you are in a predicament aren't you?! Just know that you're absolutely doing the right thing. ... | |
| Forged Signature | 5/21/2007 |
| Q: My husband forged my signature on a $25k refund check and placed it in his private account. Is this ... A: Yes, of course, this is illegal. He can't sign your name w/o your permission. It's called forgery ... | |
| Unhappy Marriage | 5/18/2007 |
| Q: We have been married for 3 years and have a beatiful baby daughter. I was born and raised in the ... A: Yes, she probably does realize that she needs an adult and needs to contribute to helping out around ... | |
| Mexicam marriage law | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: I am 31 year old English citizen. I got married in Mexico 6 years ago. Woman is an English citizen ... A: Even though you married in Mexico, your marriage is still legal and binding in all countries. So, ... | |
| Should I marry him? | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: I ask my bf did he ever go strip club, he said 5 times because of depress and curiosity. One last ... A: You did the right thing by breaking it off with him. He not only lied to you, but he went out with ... | |
| Unhappy Marriage | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: We have been married for 3 years and have a beatiful baby daughter. I was born and raised in the ... A: Have you sat down and actually talked to your wife about this (the issue of her being lazy)? If ... | |
| marriage | 5/15/2007 |
| Q: We have two children. All we have done is fight ever since, the first three years were aweful, he ... A: If you want him out of the home (and really mean it). You can go to court and legally evict him ... | |
| Morality/Marraige | 5/11/2007 |
| Q: I have just discovered that my husband whom I have been with for almost 12 years has been looking at ... A: Porn is porn it's wrong and disgusting (I totally agree with the moral thing, so I'm right there ... | |
| Anger | 5/10/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance almost 6 years, last year we moved in together, and built a new home. All ... A: He obviously has an anger issue. The only thing I can suggest to you is that he get some form of ... | |
| trust issues | 5/8/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 12 years with two children 9 & 7. I would have to say that our marriage has ... A: He shouldn't be lying to you, there's no excuse for him doing that. He should be man enough to be ... | |
| mixed emotions | 5/7/2007 |
| Q: Me and my fiance have been dating for 9months now, and my fiance is leaving for Iraq in September. ... A: You should never do something you're not 100% committed to and/or comfortable with. This is ... | |
| how do i tell him? | 5/6/2007 |
| Q: i dont hate my husband by any means...he an i have been together for about 10 years abott 5 years of ... A: No one wants to go through a divorce. And there's no nice way to tell him you want a divorce. It's ... | |
| Is there any way to fix this problem? | 5/4/2007 |
| Q: About a year ago I found out that my husband of 15 years was in constant (daily) email contact with ... A: I can see your issues with this. However, I have a couple of questions. What type of relationship ... | |
| Back Child Support | 5/4/2007 |
| Q: My fiancée was arrested about a month ago for back child support. He does owe it but we just can’t ... A: You should talk to the judge and see if you can make payment arrangements for the $2,000 that's ... | |
| Pornography | 5/1/2007 |
| Q: I've been married now for 10 years. The past 4 to 5 years things have really been rough. we've lost ... A: I did a search on Google.com, I just typed in "help for porn addiction." And I got a huge list of ... | |
| re: confused abt which guy | 4/29/2007 |
| Q: i have been madly in love with a guy who is obsessed with being a movie director.i was very close to ... A: You have to go with your heart and do what's right for you. Do what makes you happy and what your ... | |
| the ex-wife | 4/28/2007 |
| Q: How should i deal with my boyfriends ex, I care for the children after school- go to all the school ... A: Have your BF take care of this, it's not your place to argue with her and fight over what's going on ... | |
| Marriage Trouble | 4/26/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 19 years and have 2 girls. One of my daughters got pregnant at 17 and had ... A: You should talk to your wife about marriage counseling. All of this is taking a huge toll on the ... | |
| My Marriage | 4/26/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 8 months. we are currently living apart. She is in law school in Michigan ... A: I know you're avoiding this b/c you don't want to face it and tell her. But you really must do ... | |
| marriage lisencse | 4/23/2007 |
| Q: I wanted to know if you can be prevented from getting a marriage lisencse if you owe back child ... A: The answer, to my knowledge is no. They can't deny you a marriage license based on if your in ... | |
| My husband | 4/21/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have what I call a really happy marriage. A few little communication issues, but ... A: It has to do a lot with communication (with his leaving). Even though you may think everything is ... | |
| Underage Marriage | 4/20/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we have a baby together. He's 18 and I'm 16. ... A: No, that doesn't change just b/c you have a child together. You would still need parental consent ... | |
| drugs here too | 4/19/2007 |
| Q: When I came across the question from “Exhausted” I was amazed. Somehow just realizing that I am not ... A: You've said that you have known he's been like this all along. Did you really think you could save ... | |
| She want's a seperation | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for just a year. She has been asking me to leave now for three ... A: If you truly love her and really want to make the marriage work. Then you could want it out just a ... | |
| drugs and other problems | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: I've read a lot of your advice on here, and it has been worthwhile, so I thought I'd see if you ... A: Your wife is a drug addict. It's the drugs talking when she's high and even when she's not. Drugs ... | |
| Mojo..? | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: While historically I've always been able to attract multiple boysfriends, right now I feel as though ... A: Your "mojo" comes from within. It's all about how you feel about yourself. If you love yourself ... | |
| should i leave or stay | 4/8/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 12yrs married 8 he has cheated on in the past.And know i just found ... A: She's saying she loves him?! Hmm...that's definitely not a good thing. And if he's cheated on you ... | |
| She want's a seperation | 4/7/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for just a year. She has been asking me to leave now for three ... A: Chances of actually saving this marriage right now are pretty slim to none. She's basically told ... | |
| is it right? | 4/3/2007 |
| Q: i found on my phone bill while i was out of town on business that my husband called another woman ... A: The first steps are the hardest to take in making a decision about what to do (such as ending a ... | |
| Child Support | 4/2/2007 |
| Q: I am marrying a man that owes back child support plus current child support. When we marry, can his ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your questions here. And I'll put my answers underneath them, this way ... | |
| I think my marriage is doomed | 3/29/2007 |
| Q: I love my wife of 11 years..almost 3 years ago we had a son that we were trying for years to have. ... A: If she absolutely refuses to get help for her anger issues or depression (which to me is sounds ... | |
| Prep for long term relationship | 3/15/2007 |
| Q: I've been dating a girl for a while now and we both openly talk about long term plans, marriage, ... A: I would definitely suggest the pre-marriage counseling option, for sure. This way you can make sure ... | |
| separation and divorce | 3/15/2007 |
| Q: The thing is...I have tried several times to have a heart to heart conversation...he wants no part ... A: He's being very selfish right now, and doesn't seem to care about how all this is affecting you ... | |
| separation and divorce | 3/14/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost nine years. We are both on our second marriage and ... A: You should sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him when he gets back from ... | |
| Marriage anullment | 3/10/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old soldier. I got married about 2 years after meeting what i thought was the woman of ... A: You can file for divorce one of two ways. You can file through the military and get a military ... | |
| Marriage Waiver | 3/5/2007 |
| Q: My fiance received his final divorce decree notice on February 22nd 2007, we were planning on ... A: Generally in a divorce, you must wait the alotted 30 days before legally being allowed to remarry. ... | |
| Husband Troubles | 3/5/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 9 monthes and have had a disagreement about watching porn. He ... A: For him to call disgusting is total BS!! You're the mother of his child. His behavior is just ... | |
| what is permissible in islam | 3/4/2007 |
| Q: asalaamualaikum. I wanted to know is it permissible in islam to have oral sex AKA 69 as the term ... A: I'm unfamiliar with the laws of Islam. As I'm a Christian, so I really don't have any accurate ... | |
| When To Leave | 2/25/2007 |
| Q: I have been married 18 years. My husband and I have divorced and remarried each other. We are both ... A: I would urge you to seek some marriage counseling before you decided to separate and ultimately ... | |
| Should I leave him now or give him a chance | 2/24/2007 |
| Q: I'm so confused with my husband's habits and his beliefs.We have been together 1 year and 5 months ... A: It seems as though he's very selfish and self-absorbed, and he doesn't take your thoughts or ... | |
| separated 11+ years | 2/10/2007 |
| Q: Is it a legal separation?Have been separated over 11 yrs. We live in completely different areas, not ... A: It's not a legal separation unless you've gone to court to make it a legal separation. It's just ... | |
| separated 11+ years | 2/8/2007 |
| Q: Have been separated over 11 yrs. We live in completely different areas, not even the same state. I ... A: No, even in CA it's not an automatic divorce (no states do this). You still must obtain a legal ... | |
| QUALITIES | 2/8/2007 |
| Q: I've this simpleWHAT ARE THE QUALITIES A MARRYING WOMAN SEEKS IN HER MAN? A: Well, the qualities of what a woman wants or expects in a marriage or relationship, will vary from ... | |
| common law marrige | 2/7/2007 |
| Q: I HAVE BEEN WITH THIS GUY FOR 2 YEARS. ITS BEEN A VERY ABUSIVE REALATIONSHIP. IM THINKING OF LEAVIN. ... A: Common law marriage isn't a legal and binding marriage. In fact, currently only 11 states even ... | |
| Dating after separation | 2/6/2007 |
| Q: Sir, My quandary begins about four years ago. My high school (and beyond) sweetheart was forced to ... A: Since she's separated from him now. She's moving on with her life, and she can date whomever she ... | |
| I was so lonely | 2/1/2007 |
| Q: I work full time and my wife who just finished college is having a hard time getting a job. Her ... A: At this point all you can do is to be straight up honest with her. Tell her you're sorry for not ... | |
| Sexual behavior within a marriage relationship | 1/28/2007 |
| Q: My question is this: do you have any feelings, positive or negative, about a husband who adamantly ... A: Hmm...well. If that's what he likes to get him in the mood, then whatever floats his boat, I guess. ... | |
| adultery | 1/27/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 7 years and I just found out to my surprise he has been ... A: It's very frustrating for both of you to go through right now. And it's going to take some time to ... | |
| Cheating spouse | 1/26/2007 |
| Q: how do you learn to forgive your husband for cheating on you with his step-child? And is it possible ... A: A spouse cheating with a step-child?! That is just unacceptable for a step-parent to do, not to ... | |
| overwhelmed with emotion.. | 1/25/2007 |
| Q: hereit is. I am a 31 year old, never married. I met a wonderful, 34 yr old single mother 3 months ... A: It's never a good idea to rush into a marriage, unless you feel you're absolutely ready. The same ... | |
| how to get over our stubborn ways | 1/21/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been fighting for about a year now. Our problem is we are stubborn. No one ... A: Someone must be willing to give in, otherwise, it's going to cost you the marriage over time. And ... | |
| husband having affair | 1/19/2007 |
| Q: he says he wasn't happy he said it was because he felt he was doing everything. well i work full ... A: It was his choice and decision to leave and move 4 hours away. If he's already cheating on you with ... | |
| Living together before marriage | 1/18/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years, and are both sure that we are the ones ... A: As long as you're both captable, you get along good, and can work out your differences. The ... | |
| My husband's | 1/16/2007 |
| Q: We spoke last night about how I was feeling. He said that he didn't lie to me. He didn't think the ... A: Oh, but you do have a right to know when/if he sends her gifts and money. He should automatically ... | |
| to stay married or get a divorce | 1/15/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for about 4 years. I had a two year old son. My husband and I are 4 years old. ... A: Before you decide to leave him--talk to him again. You should sit down and have a serious heart to ... | |
| Closure/moving on | 1/15/2007 |
| Q: My 10 1/2 yr marriage ended in the summer after my husband realized " he needs to be on his own" ... A: It could be a bit of both. Whatever you do do not take him back. He's the one that made the ... | |
| another questuin | 1/14/2007 |
| Q: we just went on vacation and it was the most wonderful time we have ever had but I think the ... A: You could be suffering from a low self esteem issue. And that's why you constantly need to be ... | |
| separation | 1/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for about 5 years and separated for one year. I have a 2 years old son. The ... A: If he's already made up his mind to proceed with the divorce. Then there's probably nothing you can ... | |
| Jealousy | 1/7/2007 |
| Q: what should i do my name is bryon i am 19 and im jealous of my wife who i have been married to for ... A: You have to stop with the jealousy. Otherwise, it's going to ruin your marriage, and it'll end up ... | |
| us solider wanting to get married | 1/7/2007 |
| Q: I am currently serving overseas in germany and my fiance is back home in cocoa beach, Fl. We want to ... A: I'm not sure about the notarized part. She'd have to check into that. But I'm pretty sure that you ... | |
| age difference | 1/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 25 years old girl and I'm with a 49 years old man. He has 2 kids, almost my age and I'd need ... A: I think you're over-reacting. If the only problem you have in the relationship, was that he didn't ... | |
| help me | 1/5/2007 |
| Q: He will be home in a month-and-a-half. I decided last night when I couldn't sleep that I should ... A: Easier said than done. This counselor is not the one that has to bear the load of what you're going ... | |
| Marriage Resentment | 1/3/2007 |
| Q: I have been harboring a huge resentment against my husband for the entire 8 years we've been ... A: Does he know how you truly feel about his insensitive comment? If not, then you should sit him down ... | |
| questions | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: Okay... I'm beginning to fill like I'm just in denial. My husband is affectionate, makes time for ... A: Anyone can be a very good liar, if they've done it long enough. He/She can even sound very ... | |
| questions | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: I'm confused,worried, and insecure. What a combination. I need someone to talk to and I need ... A: I think that you have every right to be worried and suspicous of his behavior. If he had nothing to ... | |
| Hurt, lonely and abandoned | 12/29/2006 |
| Q: "My fiance broke up with me a few days ago and I am left to feel very sad, angry, resentful, ... A: First off, know that all of these feelings you're experiencing are completely normal. Perhaps she ... | |
| i dont know what to do anymore. | 12/29/2006 |
| Q: i hope its ok that this is more of a relationship question. I'm not married but I've found the girl ... A: Perhaps it's the distance in the relationship that's causing the problems for her. Even though you ... | |
| Help save my marriage!! | 12/29/2006 |
| Q: We have been together for about 15 years, married for 8 this past year. We have one biological ... A: The very first thing you should recommend to him, when you speak to him on Monday, is marriage ... | |
| wrong marriage | 12/28/2006 |
| Q: How could I overcome the sympathy for him when I'm separating from him? I'm afraid I will be touched ... A: I'm sure you'll always care for him in some aspect. But it can't be helped that you feel sympathy ... | |
| divorce | 12/28/2006 |
| Q: I have been with a guy for almost 3 yrs. He is still married and I am recently divorced. We have ... A: I think it's a very BAD idea to get involved with a married man to begin with. Especially when he ... | |
| Husband wants a divorce | 12/27/2006 |
| Q: "I've been married for almost 3 years and have known my husband for 6. I have rejected my husband, ... A: Unfortunately, that very well may just be the case, and it could be too late for the marriage to be ... | |
| my husband doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore | 12/25/2006 |
| Q: ..I am looking for advice. My husband told me a week ago that he isn't happy and doesn't know if he ... A: You could do a trial separation for a bit. This way you can see if you really want to be apart or ... | |
| 21 years and not very happy | 12/21/2006 |
| Q: I've been married for 21 years. I have 3 children, I successfully completed nearly 25 years of ... A: Of course, you have every right to be upset about what she's just told you. It's devastating and ... | |
| Find Trust in my relationship, | 12/16/2006 |
| Q: I am having trust issue with my boyfriend that I desperately want to get rid of. I have known my ... A: In a sense he's contributed to your jealousy and not trusting him (by talking to other girls, ... | |
| Husband doesn't want kids | 12/15/2006 |
| Q: I recently got married, actually a little over 2 months. i quit my job to relocate to join my ... A: If I were in your situation. I would tell the husband that having abortions aren't to be used as a ... | |
| I want to marry...he isn't ready | 12/13/2006 |
| Q: Kessler- Thank you for looking at my question. My boyfriend of two years wants me to move n with ... A: Maybe he wants to see if you're both compatible once living together. You truly don't know a person ... | |
| Wife's contact with ex lover | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: Just last night, she brought up the subject of her past relationships. Once again, she told the ... A: If deep down inside it's bothering you this much, then yes, perhaps it is something you should be ... | |
| Wife's contact with ex lover | 12/11/2006 |
| Q: Before we met, while on a cruise, my wife (of 1 year) met a man from Indianapolis ("Adam") and ... A: Has she ever given you any reason to suspect she might be being unfaithful to you? If not, then ... | |
| my husbands drinking | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: Through years of watching my husband go from a "drinker" to a "heavier drinker" and now a " Daily ... A: I know how you feel. My father's side of the family (almost entire family) are alcoholics. My ... | |
| broken heart | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for 2.5 years. I am a doctoral student in chemistry and am married to a ... A: I would strongly urge you to seek some marriage counseling. This way you can deal with any issues ... | |
| PLEASE HELP ME!!!!! | 12/2/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 1/2 months and eveything was going great up until about a month ago. It ... A: It sure seems that something isn't quite right with him. He shouldn't be treating you with such ... | |
| Is it over? | 11/30/2006 |
| Q: Married with children for 15 years. Over the past two years, my wife has morphed into an extremely ... A: It's over if she refuses to see the error of her ways, and will not change. A person can only take ... | |
| Telling the truth | 11/27/2006 |
| Q: I and this gentlemen have been communicating via online for 3 months now... He has expressed his ... A: Yes, you owe it to him to be honest with him. And if he's either unable or unwilling to be ... | |
| i think i wan to marry her | 11/23/2006 |
| Q: well i think you are right, but i am not marrying her now may be when she turns 18. i will be 28 ... A: It's b/c she's 16 and immature. A 16 yo girl is only into chasing guys. They're into dating, ... | |
| HOW TO GET A MARRIAGE ANULLED | 11/22/2006 |
| Q: MY BROTHER JUST GOT MARRIED LAST MONTH TO A WOMAN WHO PRESSURED HIM INTO IT. COME TO FIND OUT, SHE ... A: Yes, he can file for an annulment and end the marriage. He can probably file something with INS. ... | |
| My wife does not love me | 11/21/2006 |
| Q: First off thankyou for trying to help me find some answers. My wife of almost 28 years, 3 years ago ... A: I don't have any wonderful advice for you. But I do think she's just as hesitant as you to end the ... | |
| my tricky relationship | 11/21/2006 |
| Q: ive been with my partner for a little over six years, from i was 15 and him 17. We had our first ... A: Be very careful and wary of love on the rebound. What I mean by this is, if you ultimately decide ... | |
| ex is very successful | 11/19/2006 |
| Q: I am married happily(at least for a year) to my husband. Me and my husband are both doctoral ... A: It's not uncommon to retain feelings for an old flame. It's okay to reflect back upon the good ... | |
| Affair with a married man | 11/19/2006 |
| Q: I am sorry to bring out a topic that may not be appropriate for this site. I am puzzled and need an ... A: I don't appreciate being rated a 1 in 3 different catagories. In fact I think that's rather rude of ... | |
| hopeless | 11/18/2006 |
| Q: "My husband says mean things like the only reason I’m still with him is because I know that I am 2 ... A: He probably has a low self-esteem and that's why he treats you with disrespect. Sometimes a person ... | |
| In love with two different women | 11/15/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for seven years to a wonderful woman (no kids). She's smart, driven attractive ... A: You need to make a decision on whom you want to be with. Whether it's your wife or this other ... | |
| Leave or work it out? | 11/15/2006 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for a little over a year. We have 5 children between us. I have 1 ... A: Since he was abusing drugs (and hasn't stayed in rehab), it's unlikely he's stopped--or it's just a ... | |
| help | 11/15/2006 |
| Q: I don't know where to start , my story started 7 years ago I met this guy and things went ok and now ... A: If you are having any doubts about marrying your fiancee then don't marry him. What if it turns out ... | |
| Is this marriage over? | 11/14/2006 |
| Q: "Good Morning, My wife and I have been married about 3 1/2 years. I am 60 and she is 55. We have ... A: I'm going to give you my perspective on this issue from both sides (yours and your wife's). ... | |
| maybe we should seperate | 11/11/2006 |
| Q: .my husband and I have been fighting latley and I have know idea why..he throws fits all the time ... A: You should suggest to your husband that you get some marriage counseling. If he'll agree to it. ... | |
| my marriage | 11/8/2006 |
| Q: I Have been married for almost 3yrs we have been together for 7yrs. When we first met I had just ... A: Perhaps a trial separation is in order for you at this time. I know a separation is a hard thing to ... | |
| 2nd marriage & not happy | 11/7/2006 |
| Q: grateful for your advice. I recently got married (few months ago) to a girl from Pakistan. It's my ... A: If you even remotely doubt about being with your wife. Do not have children with her. That will ... | |
| forge signatures | 11/7/2006 |
| Q: . Sorry I forgot to tell you that I'm having problems with my husband now and I want to use the ... A: Do not tolerate him abusing you. You do not deserve to be treated like this. The marriage is still ... | |
| TRYING AFTER SEPARATION | 11/6/2006 |
| Q: I HAVE BEEN SEPARATED FOR 2 YEARS, BUT HAVE KEPT IN TOUCH AND MY HUSBAND AND I TALK ALL THE TIME ON ... A: I would advise holding off for a bit still on the moving back in together idea. Just in case that ... | |
| forge signatures | 11/6/2006 |
| Q: I was married for more than a year now.. During our wedding ceremony, we never realize that my our ... A: No, this shouldn't be a problem--considering your circumstances. Besides, in order for it to be ... | |
| lies | 11/1/2006 |
| Q: My husband is getting a habit of lying to me about everything just because he doesn't want me to say ... A: You stop letting him treat you in this manner. He has no right to be rude and inconsiderate to you, ... | |
| do I stay or go? | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: My husband of 13years has told me of his feeling for another woman. He has not done anything ... A: He's playing games with you. You can't truly love two ppl at the same time. He's testing the ... | |
| It was my fault but I want her back | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for seven months. Recently my wife found out that I had been lying about our ... A: This all comes down to communication. Communication is key in any relationship. If you don't have ... | |
| marrage | 10/27/2006 |
| Q: Re: only time will tell------- He wants to just let the relationship happen petty much- and just ... A: I'm copying and pasting your questions here, so that I can answer them easier. **My question is, ... | |
| Spending the Night | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: My wife is going to visit her friend who lives an hour away from us, she recently (2 years) got ... A: It'll probably be a long day of shopping and having fun with her friend. So naturally she'll be ... | |
| marrage | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: my boyfriend is 24 years old. He is starting his undergrad work at UCLA and will finish in two to ... A: He could be too preoccupied with college, to even entertain the idea of marriage. Or maybe he's not ... | |
| why does my husband think touching me sexually and inappropriate times is romantic? | 10/25/2006 |
| Q: my husband and I met when we were 17, I we are 56. I had a hysterectomy about 8 years ago and had a ... A: What he's doing isn't flattering at all to a woman! It's an insult and degrading to you. His ... | |
| seperated and headed for divorce | 10/23/2006 |
| Q: My wife and I have been seperated for 2.5 months. She is simply done. There is no trying, although ... A: If she's unwilling to work out the marriage, refuses counseling and has plain given up on the ... | |
| 10 years and HE wants a divorce! | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: My husband left me about a month ago. He already move in into his own place. I still live at our ... A: It sounds as though he's made up his mind and he's not willing to work on the marriage. All you can ... | |
| marriage and debt | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been marriage for 5 years, I have really good credit and prior to getting married I own my ... A: You're only responsible for it if your name is on a title, deed or loan on things such as credit ... | |
| Marrying a man younger than me | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: I am a married woman, I am not satisfied with my husband emotionally and sexually, although he is in ... A: It sounds as though you haven't been happy with your marriage for quite some time. And you met ... | |
| jealousy | 10/19/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years and have 3 kids. He has always been a very jealous ... A: It seems as though he has a very low self-esteem and an insecurity issue. He has to right to ... | |
| marriage and alcohol | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: , I am a 46 year old woman married to a 31 year old man. We have been together for 5 years, but ... A: My father was an alcoholic his entire life. He came from a family of alcoholics (brothers, parents, ... | |
| Is it time to call it a day? | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: I am 34 married for 15 years and have 2 kids aged 14 & 11. Things have not been right in my marriage ... A: It sounds like you've just slowly drifted apart over the years. And that you really just lack that ... | |
| Can he take my last name? | 10/14/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend wants to take my last name when we get married. Can we do that? A: He sure can! It's pretty simple, just a matter of a legal name change. You can ask the ppl at the ... | |
| Dealing with an Ex-wife. | 10/13/2006 |
| Q: My fiancés first wife is the bio-mom of his three daughters. Their ages are 24, 32, & 35. My ... A: They do have children in common. And unfortunately they'll be bonded b/c of that forever. There's ... | |
| bitch or abuse | 10/13/2006 |
| Q: I admittedly have become intolerant of my husband and all of the things that have happened in our ... A: Boy, what you've described to me in your question, sounds like my former marriage to an exact T! And ... | |
| Age Difference in marrage | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: I am 25 and completely in love with my 42 year old boyfriend. He has been married and divorced ... A: Age difference doesn't usually matter in a marriage (or even relationship). It's how compatible you ... | |
| kissing co-workers | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: Should wife ask male co-workers to respect me when we're at a function, they always greet her with a ... A: If it absolutely bothers you, then yes, you should say something. It's perfectly fine and ... | |
| Husband says one thing & means another | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: I am so totally confused with my husband's antics at this moment. We have been married almost 5 ... A: You need to get through to your husband that marriage is about compromise. When he gives a little, ... | |
| please help i think he hates me!!!!! | 10/7/2006 |
| Q: ok i will try and make this short i have been married to my husband for 15 yrs we got married when i ... A: All I can really suggest to you is some marriage counseling. If your husband will agree to it. It ... | |
| He's making plans that don't include me | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 19 years. I will try to be brief, but a lot has happened in all ... A: You should go with your heart and do what's right for you. You deserve to be happy in life. He ... | |
| Husband's parents live with us | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: I moved in with my boyfriend 3 years ago, after dating for almost a year. We got married a little ... A: It never works out when you live with in-laws or family of any kind. Even if the intentions were ... | |
| issues with my husbands new secretary | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: i am having serious problems accepting my husbands new secretary. She is alot younger than him and ... A: I can see your cause for concern, especially hearing bad things about her through other ppl. And on ... | |
| Do i leave my husband? | 10/3/2006 |
| Q: Please help me. My husband has always had what he calls a high sex drive. He wants sex everyday ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your answers here, with my answers underneath them, for convenience ... | |
| Married and so Confused | 10/2/2006 |
| Q: I am 31 and been married for 2 years. Yet, I feel so confused. My wife is overall a good girl, ... A: When you first have doubt at the beginning of a marriage, that can work against you later. You feel ... | |
| Struggling with moving on | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: I have written before but I am still needing some help. My husband decided 2 months ago that he ... A: When he's treated you wrong, cheated on you, is cocky and arrogant in his attitude. Why would you ... | |
| getting married | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: ..is this possable please let me know or should i go to russia and marry her there and then can i ... A: I'm not sure which is the best way to go about this. You need to find out what UK laws are on ... | |
| marriage | 9/30/2006 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 8.5 years now and we have 3 wonderful children.We have had our ... A: Nothing really, if he's already made up his mind that he's moving out and wants a divorce. All you ... | |
| married on paper that's all | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: My wife has had enough of the marriage after nine years...I am a stay at home dad with five kids..I ... A: I think that's horrible that you would abandon you mentally and emotionally after all these years of ... | |
| Am i a bitch? | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: My wonderful husband and i have been married for 2 years now but we have been together for a total ... A: No, that doesn't make you a bitch. He should hear you out as to why you don't want him to go. If ... | |
| Can a marriage die after Retirement & Empty nest | 9/26/2006 |
| Q: We've been married for 33 years. He retired 2 years ago and went trucking,at first it was ok,then it ... A: I think that over the years that a couple can become distant from one another. Sometimes over time ... | |
| Second Wife Second Best | 9/26/2006 |
| Q: I am a single, childless woman in my mid 30s in a relationship with a divorced man with one child. ... A: First off, he should never compare you with his child. You're not competing for his love and ... | |
| Affair Thrown in My Face | 9/26/2006 |
| Q: My husband cheated on me 11 years ago. We are now married 14 years. I know that I won't trust him ... A: Wasn't sure which name you really go by, since there are two listed here for your question. He's ... | |
| pls help...need urgent guidence on marriage | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: I am 23 year old girl working ina s/w company and i have been having an affair with a guy for last 4 ... A: You are the one that has to live your life, not your parents or your boyfriends parents. It's your ... | |
| Am I reading his signs right??? | 9/17/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 11 years, together 14. This is a second marriage for both of ... A: It sure seems like he's up to no good. A dating site?! Come on! How dumb does he really think you ... | |
| Remarriage before divorce.. | 9/14/2006 |
| Q: Hai, Thanks for the clarification and iam sure i'd inform my friend to safeguard her life..My ... A: If and that's a big IF, he's serious about pursuing a divorce he can still get one whether his wife ... | |
| She says she is burned out | 9/13/2006 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married now for 10years and have three wonderful children. She is German ... A: Yes, I most definitely think that you're on the right track. You're doing everything right. ... | |
| Commitment to the Future | 9/13/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship, I suffer a mental illness and we have been through ... A: Maybe he's just not the marrying kind. Some ppl are afraid of marriage for some reason. You could ... | |
| SEPERATED | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: MY WIFE AND I HAVE BEEN SEPERATED FOR A MONTH. WAS RESENTFUL IN NOT HELPING OUT ENOUGH WITH THE 2 ... A: It sounds as though your wife has just lost herself; and doesn't really know what she wants to do. ... | |
| Moving on | 9/10/2006 |
| Q: I found out this weekend that he has slept with someone. How can he do this-in my house, in OUR bed ... A: It always hurts when a spouse cheats. It's one of the most devastating things that can happen in a ... | |
| Should I be concerned -- Paranoia ???? | 9/7/2006 |
| Q: First I wish to give you a few details about my Spouse's Family: She has an Older brother who has ... A: Yes, you really ought to be concerned by her strange behavior. It's a very serious matter when a ... | |
| dealing with an ex wife | 9/6/2006 |
| Q: My husband, of one month, talks to his ex frequently on the phone. They have 2 children 19 and 12. I ... A: Some ppl, even if they are divorced, remain close to each other. I can totally understand why this ... | |
| Should I stay or should I go? | 9/1/2006 |
| Q: I am 30 years old, have been married for over seven years, and together we have 3 young children (4, ... A: She could have a hormonal or chemical imbalance. A woman's sex drive can literally change after ... | |
| Husband Won't Leave | 8/29/2006 |
| Q: We have been married 15 years, I am 55 my husband is 37. I thought we had a wonderful life this is ... A: He keeps coming back b/c you'll take him back each time. And he knows this, therefore he comes back ... | |
| problems with stepdaughters | 8/25/2006 |
| Q: I have been married in a second marriage gro 1 and half year, before we were dating for the same ... A: How is it supposed to get better in 5-6 years from now, if it's already bad now?! Does he expect ... | |
| Popping the question | 8/24/2006 |
| Q: I may sound somewhat insecure, but could not help being curious about what my boyfriend had said ... A: He could've brought it up to see what your reaction was going to be. Perhaps he's shy to ask you, ... | |
| Moving on | 8/23/2006 |
| Q: After 10 1/2 years of marriage my hsuband wants to be on his own. I have hd a horrible 10 months ... A: I'm sure he means well, by trying to help you move, etc. Just be honest with him. Tell him that ... | |
| 10 years of Marriage, thinking of separation | 8/23/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for over 10 years. We married young, 23 & 20. He was my "first" ... A: I can see why you're getting fed up with his crap. That's pretty bad when a grown man has to bully ... | |
| remarring after divorce | 8/16/2006 |
| Q: i would like to find out the problems i may face by remarrying after divorce ? I am a catholic and ... A: This can be tricky when it comes to religion. And I'm not very familiar with some churches issues ... | |
| Marriage has gone down the drain HELP! | 8/16/2006 |
| Q: "I would like to know how I can save my marriage? I am 26 yrs old, I have a lovely 6yr old daughter, ... A: Those diet pills could be altering her moods and actually be the cause of why she's acting strange. ... | |
| Marriage problems | 8/15/2006 |
| Q: I'm 27 year old female living with a 43 yr old female. I hava a problem of fisical attraction to my ... A: You should do whatever's right for you. If you feel that she'd be better off with someone else, ... | |
| ex wife | 8/14/2006 |
| Q: My question is in relation to the information my husband seems to feel free to tell me about his ... A: You just need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know that ... | |
| Sexless Marriage | 8/9/2006 |
| Q: this questions has to do with living in a sexless, compassionless marriage. I am 38 years old and ... A: You could suggest going to marriage counseling, if he'll agree to go with you. This way you can ... | |
| Not being informed of important decisions | 8/2/2006 |
| Q: We are going on a family vacation. Twice my husband has told families they can go with us without ... A: Have they actually came both times that he's invited them to go along on your vacations?! I think ... | |
| jealous husband | 8/1/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 years. I think my husband has a problem with jealousy and insecurity. It ... A: He's very resentful at this point of your going places. Since he has to usually stay and work at ... | |
| On the brink of leaving | 7/28/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for 24 years. I adopted her son by a former marriage long ago, we've not had a ... A: Have you considered marriage counseling? If not, then I would seriously urge you to seek it. This ... | |
| Adultry | 7/26/2006 |
| Q: I just found out my husband has been cheating on me for over a year now. He says he wants me and he ... A: It takes time and effort. When a person cheats on you, it makes you lose all the respect and trust ... | |
| Lonely. | 7/25/2006 |
| Q: I have only been married to my husband for about 8 months now and already things have gone sour. ... A: Sometimes a relationship changes after marriage, and not necessarily for the best either. A couple ... | |
| Is it time to let go | 7/25/2006 |
| Q: I have been in touch before and need some further advice. My husband and I have been on a break ... A: What is two more weeks, really? If it can mean saving your marriage and being able to work it out. ... | |
| Should I just leave? | 7/22/2006 |
| Q: My marriage is complicated. I married my wife about almost a year ago. Yes we loved each other at ... A: Have you considered marriage counseling for both of you? If not, then you should seriously consider ... | |
| Where is the common ground, on the decision about another child? | 7/22/2006 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married 9 1/2 years. We have two beautiful childre (girl)7 and (boy)6. A ... A: Maybe you could compromise with a certain time period. To say where you can get the family finances ... | |
| HELP ME!!!! | 7/21/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for a month and 10 days and in that time we have had sex a total ... A: It sounds as though he's just exhausted from work. Or it could be a health issue. You should ... | |
| Don't think he wants a baby | 7/21/2006 |
| Q: I am 31 years old, and have been married for 13 months now. My husband is 37 and we have custody of ... A: If you want a child, then he needs to know what this really means to you. If you want one in the ... | |
| Absentee Husband | 7/21/2006 |
| Q: this is difficult for me to do, its my first time. My husband and I have been together for 7 years ... A: Is there any possible way that he could find another job, that doesn't require him to travel so ... | |
| Newlyweds living with in-laws | 7/15/2006 |
| Q: I would like some of your expert advice on this topic. My fiance wants me to live with him and his ... A: I would strongly advise against living with an in-law. It can cause way too many problems. Listen ... | |
| Ready for marriage? | 7/9/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now. Before we were dating we were the best of ... A: If everyone waited for the perfect time to get married and to have children; then a lot of ppl ... | |
| I am ready for the next step, he's not... | 7/8/2006 |
| Q: Kessler, I have been dating this guy from Australia for about 11 months( I am 32 and he is 30). He ... A: Are you sure he's not misleading you, and he could already be married? Something about his excuse ... | |
| Attention Deficit | 7/5/2006 |
| Q: When my husband and I were married a year ago, I was 6 months pregnant with our daughter. Things ... A: Something definitely sounds fishy to me. What's he really up to?! If he's openly flirting and ... | |
| Marriage, Steparenting and baby... | 7/5/2006 |
| Q: I am really going through a hard time right now. Previously to getting married, I was single, dated ... A: Wow, what a dilemma you're in. I can see why you're so very angry and upset with him. He really ... | |
| hi | 7/5/2006 |
| Q: sir, i and my husband were in us after we married. we faced problems there. he is a very lonely type ... A: Beatings are never acceptable, period. That's abuse. Whether it's in the USA or in India. It's ... | |
| Ex in the picture | 7/4/2006 |
| Q: Good Afternoon, My fiancé & father of my child has a rather particular relation with his ex-fiancé ... A: Perhaps it would be better if you were to leave him. It doesn't seem as if he has any respect for ... | |
| marriage | 7/4/2006 |
| Q: I get married in 4 days, the problem is i dont love her any more. we got engaged 3 years ago and ... A: If you feel any doubt at all in your heart of hearts, please, please do NOT go through with the ... | |
| should I be mad at him? | 7/3/2006 |
| Q: My husbands aunt is very ill. He took a plane to say good bye to her with his mother. We are in ... A: I don't think you're being selfish. Perhaps this was just very bad timing for all this to happen at ... | |
| How to handle a break | 7/3/2006 |
| Q: As of last week my husband wants a "temproary break" for a month so try and sort himself out and ... A: You need to communicate with him better. He needs to know what you expect from him (whatever your ... | |
| Marriage Question | 7/2/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost four years. He loves going out with the guys, one ... A: You're not over reacting at all. You have every right to be hurt and upset over this. Perhaps he ... | |
| underage marrige | 6/29/2006 |
| Q: i am 14 and my boyfriend is 17 and we have been dating for 3 years and i am pregnet now!! and we ... A: If your father is in your life, then you can see if he'll sign the consent papers so that you may ... | |
| Letting go | 6/28/2006 |
| Q: As of lastnight he officially wants "a break" for a month or two so he does not have to deal with ... A: It's a little challenging to take a break from one another when you're still living under the same ... | |
| Letting go | 6/27/2006 |
| Q: I have written in a few times about my current situation with my husband and it keeps changing. His ... A: You should do whatever is right for you. If that means that you have a trial separation and then ... | |
| adultry | 6/23/2006 |
| Q: oh yes the answer that you gave me help me out alot. Im gonna see to it that he does some counseling ... A: Yes, encourage him to go to individual therapy for himself. He should be able to get it for cheap ... | |
| adultry | 6/23/2006 |
| Q: And thats what im gonna do. I need to put myself first for once and get the therapy that I need. As ... A: I think at this point you both need individual counseling. Then when he comes back to the states ... | |
| Communication problems | 6/23/2006 |
| Q: Me and my husband are going through a lot of financial stress so we are both a little on edge but ... A: Just b/c he's having a bad day at work, or whatever doesn't give him the right to take it out on ... | |
| adultry | 6/23/2006 |
| Q: Ok the other day I decided to go on my space and set up an account as one of the girls he slept with ... A: No one's marriage is perfect, no matter how great it looks like from the outside. Everyone has ... | |
| adultry | 6/23/2006 |
| Q: Ok the other day I decided to go on my space and set up an account as one of the girls he slept with ... A: Perhaps he is being truthful with you for now. And hopefully he won't be tempted to cheat when you ... | |
| adultry | 6/19/2006 |
| Q: How do I know if my husband is telling me the truth this time.cause when I go back to the states Im ... A: If you feel that he'll be unfaithful to you while you're gone, then perhaps you shouldn't go back to ... | |
| adultry | 6/19/2006 |
| Q: And just 2yrs ago my husband confess and told me that he cheated on me with 3 other women while he ... A: Typically once a man cheats, he'll continue to cheat. If your gut instinct tells you not to believe ... | |
| Marriage- I'm ready- he's not | 6/18/2006 |
| Q: I met a wonderful guy 2 years ago. We met 2 months before he deployed to Iraq (he's a marine corps ... A: Each man is different when it comes to knowing if they are ready for marriage or not. Some men just ... | |
| Marriage | 6/18/2006 |
| Q: I wanted to know that are Russian Girls are sencere to maintain marriage relationship ... A: Well, I suppose that some of them could be. It just all depends on the type of woman she is, and ... | |
| lazy husband | 6/17/2006 |
| Q: I am a 28 yo mother of 2. I must first say that my husband is a wonderful father and dedicated ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk with him. Do this in a ... | |
| Marriage breakers | 6/17/2006 |
| Q: How would I fire him my husband does not know that I know also I can not say thing because the lady ... A: Just tell your husband you let him go b/c of something you didn't like about him. If you have to ... | |
| Want to marry my widow aunty | 6/15/2006 |
| Q: I am unmarried and 26 years old. I love my aunty very much. My uncle got expired. They had 2 kids. I ... A: It's not unusual for this type of relationship to come about. In some states it's illegal for ... | |
| Husband isn't interested in sex with me. | 6/14/2006 |
| Q: I have started to pay attention to the men who seem interested in me at this point. I am feeling ... A: I would urge you to consider not sleeping with another man or looking for affection from another ... | |
| Wedding Night Sex/Scared | 6/13/2006 |
| Q: I have been through counseling and now I even help others. I am considered a peer advocate. I work ... A: It sometimes can take years to get over the molestation through counseling. Don't give up totally ... | |
| arguing getting worse | 6/12/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married about a year and half. I wouldn't say that our marriage has ... A: I would suggest that you try some counseling for the issues in the marriage. A counselor can give ... | |
| Trial separation-a good idea? | 6/11/2006 |
| Q: I have written a few times about the problems my husband and I have been having. It is not just ... A: A trial separation, even under the same roof, might indeed be just what you need. He's having ... | |
| My husband is depressed and wants to leave | 6/10/2006 |
| Q: -------------------------I have been married for almost a year. Husband has been depressed for ... A: I think that the counselor is crazy! He/She should be neutral and not bias towards either one of ... | |
| marriage | 6/10/2006 |
| Q: my husband and I have been together for 5 years and dated for 2 years for a total of 7 years. ... A: I can see his point somewhat, they most holidays really are too overrated commercially. However, I ... | |
| Wedding Night Sex/Scared | 6/9/2006 |
| Q: I am getting married on August 17. Seven years ago I was molested. I didn't deal with it until I was ... A: If you haven't already. I would urge you to seek counseling for the molestation, because if you ... | |
| My husband is depressed and wants to leave | 6/9/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for almost a year. Husband has been depressed for over 7 years. It seems as if ... A: It might take the Prozac a while to get into his system, before you notice some changes. It can take ... | |
| My husband is depressed and wants to leave | 6/9/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for almost a year. Husband has been depressed for over 7 years. It seems as if ... A: It sounds as though what he needs is some medication for his depression. He can't keep taking out ... | |
| stripclubs | 6/8/2006 |
| Q: my husband went on vacation and my father took him to a strip club and bought him a lap dance. i ... A: If I'm understanding the whole conception of this, then perhaps you overreacted a bit by kicking him ... | |
| marriage | 6/8/2006 |
| Q: Iwas just married 6/3/06. If I do not turn in my marriage liscense am i legally married. I'm ... A: That's a very good question. I would say that you are probably legally married, if the certificate ... | |
| is this a deal breaker? | 5/30/2006 |
| Q: I was a widow w/ 2 small children when I maried Michael. Since then he has put me 290,000$$ more in ... A: It sounds as though he has alterior motives. Since he changed the beneficiary, why should you trust ... | |
| Court ordered anger management | 5/30/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have had a rock marriage for almost 19 years. Both of us were trying to stay in the ... A: It's VERY important that you don't back down and drop the charges. Do NOT do that! If you do then ... | |
| infidelity? | 5/29/2006 |
| Q: I have been happily married for the past 13 months. Recently I borrowed my husbands computer and ... A: If he's not given you any reason to not trust him, then give him the benefit of doubt here. I know ... | |
| i want married russian woman | 5/26/2006 |
| Q: am 30 years old muslim have very good life job salary , my dream to married russian woman but she ... A: So are you wanting to find a Russian bride? A Russian woman to marry from Russia, right? They have ... | |
| when to get married | 5/25/2006 |
| Q: i am 23 years old and my family push me to get married but at the moment i think i am not ready. ... A: There's not a perfect age or time to get married. Only you will truly know when/if you're ready. ... | |
| newlywed problems!!!!!!HELP | 5/23/2006 |
| Q: I recently got married about 2 months AGO. My husband is 20 and I am 22. I dropped my classes We ... A: Why would any NORMAL man/husband joke about having sex and cheating with a friend?! Not to mention ... | |
| Remarrying and money | 5/18/2006 |
| Q: I just read a responce you gave a reader about getting remarried and whether or not his new wifes ... A: Yes, it's very true, in all states. The ex-wife can NOT include your income for child support, ... | |
| married at a young age | 5/13/2006 |
| Q: Kessler, I hope you are having a wonderful weekend! If it's not too much trouble for you, I would ... A: They probably got married so that she can become a US citizen, since she wasn't before. The odds ... | |
| Mother In Law | 4/20/2006 |
| Q: My mother in law watches everything we do. If my husband or I walk into a room she immediately ... A: What you have here is a MIL who is not only a busy-body, but also a Nosey Nancy. Who thinks it's ... | |
| Marriage Law | 2/22/2006 |
| Q: I have two questions. One, when you get married do you have to consimate the marriage before it ... A: No, you don't have to consumate the marriage before it becomes legal. When you are married by law, ... | |
| Loan Fiancee Money? | 2/8/2006 |
| Q: I'm engaged to be married in 6 months. My Fiancee has $30,000 in credit card debt she incurred ... A: If she's in debt for $30,000 in credit cards, then what makes you think she'll actually pay back a ... | |
| having children | 2/6/2006 |
| Q: I'm a young married woman who is thinking about the next step of having kids. I've been married for ... A: Some ppl just don't want children, and that's perfectly fine. But for me I just couldn't see my ... | |
| 9 years down the drain? | 2/6/2006 |
| Q: Im having a baby in 2 mos. and i have a two year old. My boyfriend and i have been together for 9 ... A: Don't waste one more moment in this relationship. As tough as it may be, you really need to get out ... | |
| Should I go on and into marriage | 1/21/2006 |
| Q: I am 40 and single. I have been dating R for 8 months now. When we first met, 3 years ago, we became ... A: If you aren't really attracted to her, then perhaps it's not the best thing to marry her after all. ... | |
| Whom to marry | 1/14/2006 |
| Q: I am Viral, a 21 year old engineering student from India. There is one question that I constantly ... A: Always being a high-achiever can have it's down side too. I would think that you shouldn't worry ... | |
| Wife's email relationship with ex-lover | 12/28/2005 |
| Q: I'm 61 and my wife is 56. We met in November, 1998 -- my wife of 27 years had died of cancer ... A: Yes, I knew that he contacted her first. And yes she's being deceptive by not letting you know that ... | |
| Wife's email relationship with ex-lover | 12/26/2005 |
| Q: I'm 61 and my wife is 56. We met in November, 1998 -- my wife of 27 years had died of cancer ... A: If your gut insticts tells you that she's about to cheat or seriously thinking of cheating, then you ... | |
| big problems... | 12/17/2005 |
| Q: .. Please bare with me this is long but i want you to know all so you can understand and help ... A: It doesn't sound like she missed you very much, to find comfort in another man. It sounds like she ... | |
| How to stay sane and married | 12/6/2005 |
| Q: I was married at 19 to the same person who'd controlled my life since 16; we were both very ... A: I would suggest marriage counseling to you. This way a therapist can give you examples on how to ... | |
| separation? | 11/10/2005 |
| Q: I have been married 12 years. My wife and I have a 5-year old boy together. We have been arguing, ... A: She must first acknowledge that she indeed has a problem. If she can't or refuses to do that then ... | |
| Hi S, My husband and I disagree... | 10/20/2005 |
| Q: My husband and I disagree on an issue that has come up. We have a married couple as friends and they ... A: Perhaps they are just trying to be polite b/c you are friends with them. If you both don't really ... | |
| marriage license | 10/6/2005 |
| Q: What is the purpose of the waiting period for a marriage license? I live in MN and the wait is 5 ... A: I'm not sure the whole reasoning behind it. Not all states do this. I do know that Miami, Oklahoma ... | |
| drinking problem, or alcoholic? | 9/30/2005 |
| Q: That's a sad story about your Dad. Reminds me of another real sad story involving my friend's Dad. ... A: I can relate to the accident story. My father was also once involved in an accident (not the first ... | |
| i hope you can help me | 9/29/2005 |
| Q: i was wondering how you obtain a marrige license in the state of indaina or how you obtained yours A: You can get a marriage license anywhere really. It's most simple to do it in the county of the ... | |
| drinking problem, or alcoholic? | 9/28/2005 |
| Q: I have more questions -sorry! :-) Anyway,how can I tell if my wife is an alcoholic, or has "only" a ... A: An alcoholic is one that drinks every day, way beyond social drinking (say like once a week with ... | |
| issues | 9/26/2005 |
| Q: I'd like to carry-on this conversation if possible. My wife has admitted that she has a drinking ... A: She needs help. There's no ifs, ands or butts about it. She can't kick the alcoholism on her own, ... | |
| "for better or for worse" | 9/22/2005 |
| Q: I could use some advice. I've been married 12 years now, and am starting to question one wedding vow ... A: She has to first acknowledge that she has a drinking problem before anything else can happen. ... | |
| im gay and wanna fall in love with a woman | 9/16/2005 |
| Q: this is gonna sound really crazy but i want to fall in love with a women and get married. The thing ... A: What are your reasons behind wanting to fall in love with a woman? Not trying to judge or get ... | |
| I dont know what to do about my mother in law anymore | 8/29/2005 |
| Q: You have got her personality down. She is very condescending, the know it all type.. And she is very ... A: I think it's just a good idea to not even communicate with her, or give her the satisfaction of ... | |
| I dont know what to do about my mother in law anymore | 8/29/2005 |
| Q: . I hope you remember me.. We emailed back and forth quite a few times talking about my mother in ... A: Yes, I remember you! She sure makes it sound like the problem is you in her emails, doesn't she?! ... | |
| marriage | 8/25/2005 |
| Q: This is my 2nd marriage and my husbands first. We have been married almost 3 years. I yell alot at ... A: You are most definitely right! One of the major factors of divorce are money issues. Maybe you ... | |
| problem? | 8/25/2005 |
| Q: I have a question. for the past several months, my wife employer (she works part-time) does not ... A: Maybe she's heard everything you've said, but she's being stubborn b/c she didn't want to listen to ... | |
| Husband and his mother.. | 8/23/2005 |
| Q: I have revised it some and just need to send it now! Im sure if she emails back it wont be too ... A: Good! I'm glad to hear that you finally wrote out your email to her. I'll bet that lifts a big ... | |
| communication issue | 8/23/2005 |
| Q: I am 25 years old. I have been married to a wonderful man for 6 years and we have 2 children. My ... A: Wow! I bet that was very shocking, yet very flattering all at the same time! How did you respond ... | |
| Husband and his mother.. | 8/22/2005 |
| Q: I have written up an email and I have revised it quite a few times, but havent sent it yet. I really ... A: You'll probably upset her to begin with, by the type of person you've described her to be. Would it ... | |
| Husband and his mother.. | 8/19/2005 |
| Q: I dont think I deserve to put up with the way she treats me. I have written an email that I am still ... A: How did the email go? Did you send it? Although it may cause her to get even more angry at you. ... | |
| Husband and his mother.. | 8/18/2005 |
| Q: This question involves my husband, but it also involves his mother. Actually I have a few topics to ... A: It seems as though your mother in-law is simply jealous of you, and that you are a stay at home mom. ... | |
| Need Reassurance | 8/17/2005 |
| Q: I'm 27 and my husband is 28. We've been together 5 years and married 2 of those years. We split ... A: Some ppl just weren't meant to be married, as they aren't the marrying type. And it sounds as ... | |
| is there anything left in our marriage | 8/5/2005 |
| Q: Let me first say that I am menopausal have been married for 18 years, and have 3 children ranging 15 ... A: There is a saying "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink." In a sense that is ... | |
| Which one do I choose? | 7/30/2005 |
| Q: I have come out of an abusive relationship and I am ready to find that special someone. Now I"m in a ... A: If you feel like you are being pressured too much, then perhaps you should take a break from both of ... | |
| Relation with first lover after marriage | 7/23/2005 |
| Q: I would like have your advice regarding some event in my life described below: My first-love broke ... A: Answers to your questions: 1/ Can we not continue to be good friends and share our thoughts from ... | |
| unhappy spouse | 6/30/2005 |
| Q: My husband and I have known each other for ten years and been married for almost 4. We have 2 kids ... A: It seems that you really need to sit down and just have a good heart to heart talk with him. When ... | |
| I need help | 6/29/2005 |
| Q: I am very bored from my life with my husband he is a very nice man but he is more a friend than my ... A: Are you attracted to your husband at all? I mean you must've seen something in him that you like or ... | |
| any advise | 6/11/2005 |
| Q: My wife and i have been married for 7 years now. I still am having problem dealing with her past ... A: I don't think you are nuts. You probably shoud've never agreed for her to meet an ex-boyfriend in ... | |
| Wedding night | 5/2/2005 |
| Q: I hope that you can help me. I am planning my wedding night and I want it to be special. I was ... A: It sounds like you've got everything covered! And it'll make for some wonderful memories on your ... | |
| marriage | 4/26/2005 |
| Q: I am 23 andis working in a reputed firm. recently i met a girl of 24; she is divorced due to some ... A: It doesn't sound like there's much you can do. Unless you can convince her that you're parents ... | |
| In-laws | 4/22/2005 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 years now, and I have one son who is 21 months old. Ever since we got ... A: It sounds like your in-laws are the ones that have the problem. They seem like very nosey and ... | |
| Marrying a forienger | 3/17/2005 |
| Q: I was just curious to find out....my ex cheated on me, and then he married her only 3 months after ... A: I'm not sure on how long a couple has to stay married (when on a visa in the US). I think it's at ... | |
| marriage | 3/13/2005 |
| Q: I am 23; working in a reputed firm (some distance from hy home city). I am looking for a girl to ... A: I think you should first get to know her, before you determine if she's marriage material for you. ... | |
| Need your advice | 2/23/2005 |
| Q: I am currently engaged to a young lady. Recently her mother asked me specifically to sit down with ... A: I don't suppose you want my honest opinion on this matter. So I'll refrain from telling you exactly ... | |
| help a marriage | 2/2/2005 |
| Q: how can i help a couple (with a 3 yr. old) that have been apart for about 8 months now. we were ... A: You are doing a nice thing for your friends. The whole point is to make sure they want to remain ... | |
| marriage problems | 1/29/2005 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 months. I am having marriage problems already. The first problem is ... A: If you honestly want to get a divorce. Then you could consider an anullment instead. This way ... | |
| Marriage in trouble | 1/18/2005 |
| Q: So what should I do if he is refusing to go to counseling? He wants to move out, but we don't even ... A: You can't make him go to counseling or do anything. He has to want to change himself. He has to be ... | |
| Marriage in trouble | 1/15/2005 |
| Q: My husband and I got engaged at age 18 and 19. Before the wedding, I got pregnant and our first son ... A: He has lied to you in the past about the affair. That's unacceptable,especially when he continues ... | |
| why cant i love him? | 12/29/2004 |
| Q: i have been with my husband for about 4.5 yrs now. i was 19 when i first got married andmy husband ... A: You are two totally different ppl to begin with. If you weren't that attracted to him or in love ... | |
| Emotional Infidelity | 12/27/2004 |
| Q: I have learned that while my husband and I were dating there was always some woman that he kept in ... A: Emotional infidelity is just as bad as physical infidelity. It's the ultimate betrayal of trust in ... | |
| marriage | 12/1/2004 |
| Q: I told him that I wanted totry 110% to work it out with him last night. After a while, he said," ... A: Men's egos are very sensitive. Of course they will not tell a woman that. Most men will not open ... | |
| marriage | 11/6/2004 |
| Q: can you please tell me, if i get married in Israel to an Israeli guy and then come back to America ... A: If you are an American citizen then yes,it doesn't matter where you get married in the world. The ... | |
| marriage relationship | 11/2/2004 |
| Q: are there any good or bad impacts on my relationship with my wife if i am dating escort girls while ... A: Sure there could be consquences. She could find out about it. And I'm sure if she did she'd just ... | |
| a year ago in oct I found... | 9/16/2004 |
| Q: a year ago in oct I found out my husband met this lady on the internet and started seeing her but ... A: If he gives you absolutely no money and doesn't support you,then what good is he to you? This is ... | |
| step son | 8/30/2004 |
| Q: I have a sweet lovely lady i hope to get married to soon and every thing is moving smoothly between ... A: I would sit her down as soon as you could and tell her the truth,as she has a right to know. Just ... | |
| Marriage problems | 8/14/2004 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for only 2 months and our relationship is horrible. We dated for ... A: We can all get stressed out in a marriage. It happens to the best of us. There is some reason that ... | |
| STRESSED OUT | 8/8/2004 |
| Q: S. Kessler, My husband is six years older than I am, but it seems that I am "too mature" for our ... A: Maybe he's just doing it b/c he feels it's important enough to share with you. How often does he ... | |
| age difference & sexual needs | 8/1/2004 |
| Q: hey im in love wz a guy & by the time we get married hopefully ... i'll be in my early 20s & he'll ... A: Typically males reach their sexual peak in their late teens and through their 20's. For women it's ... | |
| depression | 7/25/2004 |
| Q: I'm a 41 yr old Male. With all immediate family living, shy one sister who was killed in an ... A: I think ppl are a product of their environment. So for you that means you grew up in a very ... | |
| Prenuptial Agreement | 7/20/2004 |
| Q: The man that I'm marrying has children and the mother is a sucker for money (she's never satisfied), ... A: The ex-wife is not entitled to anything you have or own. That mean any income that you make,any ... | |
| Remarrying and child support | 7/20/2004 |
| Q: I am from Muncie, IN and I want to get remarried. Last evening my fiance told me that she thinks ... A: No,they can't raise your child support at all. In fact the courts can't touch any money made by ... | |
| Wedding ring. | 6/25/2004 |
| Q: I've been married for 11 mos. and my worst nightmare may have come true. I think I lost my wedding ... A: You should retrace every possible step where you think you could've lost it (around the house,or ... | |
| MARRIAGE STATISTICS? | 5/26/2004 |
| Q: My name is Sheridan - I'm writing a report on the phenomenon of marriage and I'm trying to find out ... A: I don't know of any website to back it up on the statistics part. But the answers are the 50% of ... | |
| marriage | 5/14/2004 |
| Q: I AM 25 YRS OF AGE.I HAV A PROPOSAL OF A 40 YEAR OLD MAN AND ALSO HE HAS DIVORCED HIS WIFE.THEY LIV ... A: I would say go with your heart. But do NOT marry a man that is abusive. No woman deserves to be ... | |
| Problem in Family due to love | 4/20/2004 |
| Q: I am Sridhar from India and currently 18yrs. I am here to request help from you. Right now I am ... A: Your parents might be onto something. Perhaps they see what you can't or won't see about this girl ... | |
| pornography | 4/16/2004 |
| Q: Several times over the past few years I have discovered that my husband has stored masses of ... A: It's not unusual for you to be experiencing these feelings toward him. Some women don't like their ... | |
| Debt | 4/13/2004 |
| Q: If my husband owes child support (a debt) can liens be placed on my property for it? Thanks. A: No,they can't. What will happen though more than likely is that when you file income taxes. They ... | |
| Kids and Second Marriage | 4/7/2004 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married next year. This is a second marriage for both of ... A: First let me apologize for taking so long to answer your question. My computer was messed up and I ... | |
| about married? | 2/14/2004 |
| Q: i am student and my family is leaving the country that i stay....and now i need to married a women ... A: Most ppl marry for love,and that takes awhile. You shouldn't feel that you have to marry because ... | |
| preparation to marriage | 1/3/2004 |
| Q: Right now we are the lucky couple. So we are together for three weeks. And how is possible to get to ... A: You will just know it in your heart and soul. When you just feel that you can't live life w/o each ... | |
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