Marriage/Questions Answered by Expert Dr Tim Gladu
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Husband and his computer | 12/7/2011 |
| Q: I love my husband and we have alot in common, except I'm much more cleaner than him. He works 2nd ... A: Lisa, This sounds like he is addicted to porn and you would like it to stop. This has become a very ... | |
| marrying a women doctor | 10/28/2011 |
| Q: Am a S/w professional got a proposal to marry a women doctor and the age gap between me and her is ... A: I sure that you are aware that most doctors are very busy. You would most likely not have children ... | |
| Can he change | 10/25/2011 |
| Q: I met a man 15 months ago and fell deeply in love with him. He was everything i have ever wanted in ... A: Donna, I believe that your first impulse was correct. This is a man that cannot commit to one ... | |
| My boyfriend hits me but i can't leave him | 9/14/2011 |
| Q: I am in desperate need of help. I wish you can read my story and give me some advice because I am ... A: Sarah, You are not a doormat to be walked on and have other wipe their feet on you. You are a ... | |
| marriage help | 9/6/2010 |
| Q: I am so worried that my marriage is in its final days, and need some unbiased advice. My husband ... A: Melissa, I can understand how you feel. I was in the Air Force for 21 years and I spent a lot of ... | |
| Emotional Texting Relationship? | 8/29/2010 |
| Q: My wife of 18 years texts her former personal trainer almost every day. She's really got into ... A: Kenny, What you are doing here is showing her that you do not trust her with other men around. She ... | |
| Fiancee's past | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: I am in a dire situation. I had been dating my fiancee for the past 6 months. Please note that she ... A: VJ, Honesty in marriage is I believe one of the most important parts. If she has lied so much at ... | |
| getting married only in front of God | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: Gladu. My question is can me and my girlfriend get married without anyone knowing, as in we dont ... A: Brandon, The idea of marriage is that you leave you parents and become one with your spouse. If you ... | |
| my husband | 4/23/2010 |
| Q: I am married to a guy that cant satisfy me sexually, he is done before I can get started,its not ... A: Mardi, You did not mention if you have been in some kind of counseling for this problem. There are ... | |
| he is having second thoughts | 4/15/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my fiance for 6 months yes I know it is a very short period of ... A: I am not so naïve to believe that a couple will move in together to help their finances. I also do ... | |
| Commitment | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: I have a problem with my boyfriend. I am 13 and he is 16, we have been together for a year and ... A: Shay, I have to say that you are to young to be having sex. The emotions that come with sex are ... | |
| marital seperation | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: I had returned from Iraq in 2008 upon returning things in my marriage seemed to have been going ... A: James, I totally understand your disconnect with your wife and her feelings about it also. She does ... | |
| no trust | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: I am writing to learn ways to help my partner build trust in me again. I am a single mother and i ... A: Kristen, What you have done with your ex is completely normal. You are still emotionally connected ... | |
| Pre-wedding issue | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: I need some advice. Me and my fiance have been together for 6 years, getting married next year and ... A: Stacy, These issues are very normal so don't think that what is happening is just you. Most guys ... | |
| Proposing/Ring Buying. | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: I've been with my girlfriend for several years, we're both students and go to college in different ... A: Alan, I'm sure with this much thought you really want to make the right decision. If she is putting ... | |
| Why not marriage | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years- we met in college. About six months into our ... A: Reka, At this point he has become easy with the situation. He most likely feels that you are living ... | |
| Husband is Confused | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 2 yrs now and my husband and I were having problems before we got married ... A: If the counselor is worth anything she will make him realize his responsibility. You will have to ... | |
| Husband is Confused | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 2 yrs now and my husband and I were having problems before we got married ... A: Alicia, You are going to have to get him to make a decision. I am sure that you are not thinking he ... | |
| marriage | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: Hi my name is Sherry my husband left me for a teenager she was dating my nephew she said she loved ... A: Sherry, I am not sure what you mean by teenager. Is she at least 18 because if not you husband ... | |
| getting over it. | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: 'll keep it short. I m 21 and I met a 28 year old guy last year during a vacation. We're the kind of ... A: madhu, I want you to be clear before I answer. I do not understand your culture so I can only ... | |
| pre- marriage counselling- needed. | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: am getting married soon. am 28 he is 34. my fiance and i hail from a conservative household. ... A: I am going to give you a list of question you can both answer seperate then compare. This will help ... | |
| Marriage.... | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for about 2 years. I have been with my husband for 7 years. We have been through ... A: Krystal, I believe that at this point you are doing the right thing. You both need to step back and ... | |
| stay or go! | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years. I have not been able to get him to met or even want ... A: Ayisa, My advice would always be to try to make the marriage work. You sound like you have already ... | |
| its me again | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: hey dr. tim gladu, i been married for 5 years i have one son with my husband . my husband is in the ... A: This sounds very strange to me. I can't imagine why he would want to divorce you then have you move ... | |
| Legally? | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: If a 22 year old guy and a 17 year old girl are in a relationship and the girls mother approves of ... A: Britt, This sounds like a legal question and I can't answer for sure. In most states the age of ... | |
| tinakeen86@yahoo.com | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 23 year old divorced mother of two... One daughter from my previous marriage and my youngest ... A: Tina, I am sure that you realize that you did this a little backwards. If he was going to marry you ... | |
| my husband dont know what he wants | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: ok here it goes i have been married 6 years and togather 8 we have a 5 year old daugher about 6mths ... A: Jen, You sound like you have been very tolerant with this relationship. You husband needs to ... | |
| Is there such thing as a healthy seperation | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Tim, My husband and I have recently separated. I left the home due to many many issues such as ... A: Jo, I think that what you are doing is very brave. So many people neglect themselves when it comes ... | |
| My Soul Mate | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: I am 27, indian female. I am really confused regarding getting married. I think i love him and he ... A: Chandani, What I was trying to say and did not do very well is this. If he can move close to you ... | |
| Ready to commit? | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: First of all I really appreciate any help. This had been the most difficult 2 years of my life. ... A: Sarah, I can see that you would hesitate to get married. I would also caution not to enter into ... | |
| Regarding my marriage life | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: I have a serious problem .My marriage is a love marriage we get to know each other since 5 years , ... A: Amit, The first thing to do is to let your wife know what you are going to tolerate. If she is not ... | |
| Mariage in Mexico | 3/19/2009 |
| Q: I undestand... So in GOD'S eyes where do I stand. What do I do with my life, how do I Fix this? ... A: Maria, That is a different question and I think I can help here. If there were not married in a ... | |
| convenincing the parents for the love marriage. | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: I love a girl who is not that good looking as I am and that she also a bit fatty. Our relation ... A: Amit, What you have to do is to show how much you love this girl. You do not care what she looks ... | |
| divorce | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 25 yrs. For the third time with in this 25yrs my husband has fell to ... A: Donna, The first thing you have to ask is what my wedding vows mean to me. If you can say that your ... | |
| too young? | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: and thankyou for taking the time to respond to my message! I am 19 years old, and a full time ... A: Victoria, I do think that even 20 is a bit young to get married. If you believe that this is the ... | |
| What does this really mean? | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: You gave me a nice long book to read thanks. This sounds like a case of what if. It was a very long ... | |
| dealing with a violent stepson | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I am 24 with no biological kids and married to a 32 year old man with two kids. I have been in his ... A: Jessica, The first thing you have to do is to make your husband realize what is happening. If the ... | |
| video games affecting marriage | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: David, My husband and I have been married for 5 years. We have two children, 5 and 2. He played ... A: Angela, I would have suggested that you seek some marriage counseling for the abuse of the games. ... | |
| Do i divorce my husband or not | 12/12/2008 |
| Q: I have faced my problems while i am with with my husband. We have poor communication between each ... A: I am not really sure what you are looking for here. You have already seperated from your husband and ... | |
| dose 21 year matter for marriage/ | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: I have been friend with this man that I am falling in love with and I know that he feel the same ... A: Chelsea, The only issue that I can think of is children. If you think you may want children the 21 ... | |
| dose age really matter in marriage? | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: I am 25 and south asian and fall in love with an arab girl who is one year older then me. She is ... A: Ali, I am not really sure that 1 year matters that much. She may be a little more mature but as far ... | |
| Stop Having Sex 'Till Marriage? | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 29 yr old male, I've been living with my fiance for a yr and a half, I proposed to her on VDay ... A: al, I have to agree with your pastor on this one. I also have to say that when it comes to religion ... | |
| This is a marriage question. | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: This is all I want to know-Would you actually divorce a person like this?- Call me sick or whatever ... A: Corrina, Thank you for coming clean and letting me know who you really are. You really need to not ... | |
| This is a marriage question. | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: This is all I want to know-Would you actually divorce a person like this?- Call me sick or whatever ... A: You are over concerned with the issue. You need to speak to someone about the suicide thoughts. This ... | |
| This is a marriage question. | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: This is all I want to know-Would you actually divorce a person like this?- Call me sick or whatever ... A: Corrina, I want to you get the thoughts about suicide right away. If you are really this close then ... | |
| This is a marriage question. | 10/24/2008 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: Corrina, Just from what you have told me I would not think he would ever want to let you go. You ... | |
| My Paranoid Husband | 9/5/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 45 year old woman and my husband's 48 years old. Me and my husband have been married for many ... A: Cathy, The first mistake was to tell him about all the guys in the bathroom. Guys want to know but ... | |
| Help please! Pregnant and parents forcing me into marriage! | 8/30/2008 |
| Q: I am 26 and have been living with my boyfriend for a couple months, but we've been together for ... A: Maureen, With your age in mind then I do not see how your parents can dictate what you have to do. ... | |
| 3 Eager Fiance's = 1 Big Problem | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: Let me start off by saying that it wasn't my intention for this quandry to happen. I've gone from a ... A: allison, You are going to have to pick one and soon. If they find out about each other then you may ... | |
| He's not ready for marriage... | 8/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been living with my boyfriend for close to 3 years. I have a 9-yr old son. We have been ... A: Maria, He is just living like you have given him the permission to live. He thinks that you have ... | |
| save my marriage after separation | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: i have been married for a little over 2 years now and do not have any kids. i love my wife and i ... A: Danny, The best thing you can do at this point is to give her space. She is in a way testing that ... | |
| PRE~MARRIAGE | 8/14/2008 |
| Q: Gladu, Thank you for making yourself available. Which Bible verse(s) advises a future spouse ... A: Peter, I am going to give you all the verses I can find on marriage and husbands and wifes. This ... | |
| husband still in contact with ex mistress | 7/25/2008 |
| Q: My husband had an affair with a family friend about 10 yrs ago. He broke it off and decided to work ... A: The only thing you really have is trust. Your husband may not have had a good track record. We have ... | |
| husband still in contact with ex mistress | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: My husband had an affair with a family friend about 10 yrs ago. He broke it off and decided to work ... A: Stella, I do not think you should turn a blind eye and pretend it doesn't happen. You are right to ... | |
| Marriage | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: We were high school sweethearts and have been married for 18 years this month. We have 3 great kids. ... A: Tod Hall, Just to make you feel better I think we have all felt this way at times. I have always ... | |
| Marriage Enrichment Vacation | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I are seeking counseling currently. He is battling a severe pornography and ... A: Allyson, I am not real sure where you will be able to find a marriage retreat. I would recommend ... | |
| choosing the comforter with my boyfriend | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: Tim, I met my boyfriend from my friend about one month ago. He really likes me and respects me.He ... A: Ivy, This may not be a signal guys realize that they are not so good at this kind of stuff and want ... | |
| Why won't he propose? | 5/11/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu, My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, and have lived together for one and a ... A: Teresa, You do need to really sit down and discuss the spending. In the world we live in today that ... | |
| I messed up | 5/7/2008 |
| Q: Gladu, I really hope you can help me on this one. First some backround. Back in 2004 I was going ... A: Karen, You have to realize that there may be more to the situation that he is not telling you. ... | |
| marriage | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: I am a 50 year old man and divorced from my first wife about 17 years ago and i have been living ... A: Alireza, You sound like you are lonely. I know what it is like to feel alone and it is not the best ... | |
| Body Parts! | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: why do girls have to get pregnant and why do they have to have periods? why cant boys have them? why ... A: Ashely, God made us this way and we should embrace the differences that we all have. I am sure that ... | |
| Dealing with my fiance's ex wife who calls all the time | 3/10/2008 |
| Q: My fiance's (Scott) ex-wife calls all the time. Even when he is at work to talk about things I ... A: Lisa, This situation sounds like she was not ready to be divorced. She has not been made aware that ... | |
| my boyfriend told me that when he gets married and a house his mother is coming to live with us. | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years we have talked about getting married when ... A: Jasmine, If you truly do not want her to move in with you then this is what you can do. Tell him ... | |
| proper age of marriage | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: what would be the proper age to get married. I am going to a 5 year college to get a degree in ... A: Kara, I do not really think that there is an exact age that should be considered as the age to get ... | |
| cheating husband | 1/27/2008 |
| Q: I have been married 33 years and my husband cheated pretty much all the time but i just recently ... A: Debbie, You will take some time to get over something of this size. If you are Christian then spend ... | |
| engagement on the rocks | 1/27/2008 |
| Q: i and my fiance got engaged last year in april and we are in the midst of preparing for our wedding ... A: Anna, If you have not started pre marriage counseling then start. You both need to begin to see if ... | |
| cheating bf | 12/13/2007 |
| Q: i have been with my bf for 2 1/2 years we recently got engaged and than found out he cheated on me ... A: Amanda, This may seem simple, but think about this. If he is cheating on you before marriage then ... | |
| should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: I have a question. I'm helping a female friend of mine to find an answer. Should her boy friend ... A: If she is marring this guy just because of the money then I would say no. If she truly loves him and ... | |
| Define questions a little better. | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: re: I'm sorry, but I don't understand the question.. Your Question was: I am so hurt and angry. ... A: Pat, The plan that you have is most likely exactly what I would tell you to do. You are right to ... | |
| jealous, insecure doesnt trust | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: Can you give me an answer on a couple who were married for 5 years, divorced for 2 years but have ... A: Andrea, If you are divorced, but continue to see each other then maybe you just wanted to fill you ... | |
| My Husband made me leave | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: My husband grew up in very bad atmosphere, we have been together for 6 years and will have been ... A: Amber, He is most likely concerned for your safety. The instances of violence against spouses has ... | |
| why am I still here?..... | 9/28/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu: How to explain 23 years of marriage. I stopped working after I had my children. My ... A: Sara, You sound like you have been a real trooper. He sounds like he needs a lot of work. You have ... | |
| marriage | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: Respected fellow, my name is Yasir, a male, currently a studenet of medicine. i got married 5 ... A: Yasir, I do not have to much experience with arranged marriage. My suggestion is for you to get to ... | |
| how long do I wait? | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: my husband and I are separated. he moved out 6 weeks ago. He got his own apt and now is pushing me ... A: Nikki, Your husband is trying to have the best of both worlds. He is keeping you on the hook just ... | |
| Is it really just a piece of paper? | 8/15/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have a set of beautiful 10 month old twins ... A: Bre, You have made your decision, and you just need someone to confirm it for you. I have been ... | |
| alone in a relationship | 7/5/2007 |
| Q: I met him when I was 23 and coming out of an 8 year relationship. For the first few months, we ... A: Brooklyn, I feel that you should try to find a balance between family unity and your happiness. The ... | |
| Wife Claims I'm not sacrificial enough | 7/3/2007 |
| Q: I just gotton married 7 months ago. My wife was already 3 months pregnant when we got married but we ... A: Lionel, If you chose me to answer you question you must be looking for spiritual advice. I do not ... | |
| Wed night | 6/23/2007 |
| Q: I've found the woman God has for me and we're getting married in 51 days. We've discussed so much ... A: Daniel, I want to make it clear that I am not an MD. I am a Dr of Theology so some of your ... | |
| What do I do? | 6/3/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for almost three years now and we are both trying to better our ... A: Patrick, Sex before marriage is wrong. You know that though. Stopping until you get married would ... | |
| What should I do? | 5/31/2007 |
| Q: I am 35, last Aug I am rush in getting marry because everyone said people over 35 have difficult ... A: Angel, I have to say that guys do show love and affection in different ways. Guys are not always ... | |
| What should I do? | 5/29/2007 |
| Q: I am 35, last Aug I am rush in getting marry because everyone said people over 35 have difficult ... A: You need the intimacy and it really isn't normal for him not to want to also. I would give it about ... | |
| What should I do? | 5/28/2007 |
| Q: I am 35, last Aug I am rush in getting marry because everyone said people over 35 have difficult ... A: Angel, You face some tough time ahead. he can change and the way is through the power of the Holy ... | |
| seperation | 5/25/2007 |
| Q: We have had great times but, we did argue&could never find compromise after the fight,it was usually ... A: Camille, If you are already separated and have been to counseling then there is not much else to ... | |
| Should I marry him? | 5/17/2007 |
| Q: I ask my bf did he ever go strip club, he said 5 times because of depress and curiosity. One last ... A: Confused, I have to say that you should be very cautious about this man. He has lied several times ... | |
| reconciliation | 5/16/2007 |
| Q: I was engaged to a man which i had been dating for 3 years. I was very excited about getting married ... A: Audra, The most important thing that you have to think about is can you be happy with him. The Lord ... | |
| confused and scared | 5/16/2007 |
| Q: I'm 23 years old, and I'm about to get married to my gf. we been together for about a year and half. ... A: Steve, Noticing other girls is normal. The important thing is you do not act on it. I know how it ... | |
| Ex issues | 5/13/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I split up almost a year ago. He has told others that he made a mistake "but it is ... A: Sara, I am not sure what the situation is. It appears to me that you are divorced and your ex is ... | |
| Seperation | 5/12/2007 |
| Q: I dont know which way to turn! My wife left me December 22nd because she said she needed space and ... A: Peter, It looks like you may need to give her some space. She needs to find where she is and come ... | |
| is the living situation causing problems? | 5/6/2007 |
| Q: i am home for a few weeks over x-mas & for 2-3mo over the summers. i am in my 3rd year right now. ... A: Van, It sounds to me that you may need to just have a talk with your parents before I can really ... | |
| is it disrespectful to my boyfriend to remain friends with an ex? | 5/4/2007 |
| Q: I always thought that it was the mature thing to do to remain friends with people you have dated, ... A: Betty, I have to say that I would have a hard time if my wife to be was still really close to her ... | |
| Dealing With His Ex-Wife - HELP :( | 5/2/2007 |
| Q: I met my Fiancé in college about seven months ago. When I met him he was separated of his soon to be ... A: Alejandra, I would have suggested that until he is divorced and the ex-wife is gone then you can ... | |
| marriage | 4/23/2007 |
| Q: i am 20 years old.i love a girl(age 20) who is a not a muslim. she is a hindu. A: Razaak, I have to say that religion is the number one reason that most marriages end. There is ... | |
| Engaged and 16 | 4/17/2007 |
| Q: I am 16 and my BF of 5 months asked me to marry him..i was soo happy. but my mom doesn't know yet..i ... A: Nessa, I know how you feel . I have to tell you that I met my wife when we were 16 and we have been ... | |
| Continue or not? | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend for 3 and half years. We both love each other dearly and plan to got ... A: Ziyaad, Marriage is something not to be entered into lightly. I am glad that you have found the ... | |
| Should I get married? | 4/3/2007 |
| Q: I am engaged to a man who is wonderful for the most part, but he lied to me at the beginning of our ... A: I had to really think about what you should do in the case. There seems to be a series of lies that ... | |
| Breakup or not | 3/27/2007 |
| Q: I have a really serious problem; I have been into love with a girl a year ago and lately we got ... A: Max, These are very significant issues that if you can not resolve then you should not be together. ... | |
| second time marriage | 3/25/2007 |
| Q: How long after my divorce is finalized do I have to wait to remarry? A: I do not know that there is anything legal that tells you how long. I would suggest from a Ministers ... | |
Marriage
Answers by Expert:
Dr Tim Gladu
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I will answer questions in regard to pre-marriage counseling. I will also answer questions on how to find that spouse that God has for you. I also want to make it clear I am not a MD.
Experience
I have 14 Years in Ministry. I also have been in Youth Ministry for most of those 14 years.
I have also been happily married for 21 years and have raised 3 Children
Organizations
The Sarasota Academy of Christian Counselors
National Christian Counselors Associtaion
Education/Credentials
Bachelor’s degree in Ministry, a Masters in Pastoral Counseling and a Doctorate in Theology, and Christian Counseling.
Licensed Clinical Christian Counselor
Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor Advanced Certification
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