Marriage/Questions Answered by Expert Donald Bosch
| Subject | Date Asked |
| outburst | 9/17/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for only 3.5 months now. we both have issues. we both suffer from ... A: You both need to sit with a professional and have them explain exactly what the problem is with ... | |
| Help | 9/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been marriage for 10 years. One day i was looking at craighlist and i decided to put an ad to ... A: Mary, Tell him what you just told me. That you need to fix things, because this is not a marriage. ... | |
| Help | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: I have been marriage for 10 years. One day i was looking at craighlist and i decided to put an ad to ... A: In all honesty, I'm wondering whether you really understand what being married is supposed to be. ... | |
| Should you date a lot before you get married? | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: Should you date a lot before you get married? I’ve been thinking about this a lot because of my ... A: Sorry for the delay in answering. Life sometimes doesn't allow for as much time as we wish it could. ... | |
| Marriage Problems | 8/9/2010 |
| Q: Background: I have been married 9 years and with my husband for 12 years total. We have three ... A: Ruth, I'm very sad to see what you have to go through on a daily basis. this is not in my opinion a ... | |
| emotional neglect | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: i don't even know where to start. ok we have beem married only a year and i feel so duped. i have ... A: I understand your predicament completely. Your mother in law knows him best and I think she summed ... | |
| Unhappy Marriage | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: We have been married 20 years with the first 10 years being fairly happy.He has 2 children and I ... A: If you have talked to the children and they refuse to be involved with helping their father, then it ... | |
| married for 6 months and not able to work out things | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 6 months to a guy I knew only for 4 months. We have a 6 yrs age difference ... A: You state that your husband has high expectations for you. How about your expectations that he be a ... | |
| Unhappy Marriage | 7/4/2010 |
| Q: We have been married 20 years with the first 10 years being fairly happy.He has 2 children and I ... A: I understand that you are unhappy, but your message does not give me a lot to work with. Would you ... | |
| Relationship problems | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: Donald,Iam from India,24 years old female.Iam in love with a guy for past 5 years,he is 25 years ... A: I see that you are "in love" and wish to get married, but you have a problem with some of his ... | |
| alcoholic husband | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my childhood sweetheart for 30 years. We have two beautiful daughters and two ... A: Unfortunately, alcohol addiction is something that can only be cured if the person wishes to ... | |
| My Marriage - NOT! | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: I am at a crossroads in my marriage. I was married 25 years in March. I can honestly say that for ... A: "I am so torn because of my faith that says divorce is bad". Well Jaz, unfortunately, living with a ... | |
| get married with brazilian men | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: I would like to ask You if You can answer me and help me,i am from Macedonia.That is a country near ... A: I'm sorry, but I won't be able to help you with this one. This is a question for someone who ... | |
| sex problem | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: ASSALAM-O-ALAIKUM I AM 2 YRS OLD AND MY HUSBAND IS 35YRS.WE R MARRIED FROM 4YRS HE IS DOCTOR.. ... A: You will have to take the time to sit with him at some point and express your desires to him. It has ... | |
| Not sure what to think | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: Mr Bosch, I'm shocked by my husband's behaviour lately and not sure what to do. We've only been ... A: I'm appalled at what you are telling me. This fellow is using you and you need to put a stop to it. ... | |
| Feeling unloved | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Well, basically, its between me n my husband.. We have a baby, so adorable. but my problem is i ... A: Let me see now...........Did he change all of a sudden or is this the same man that you decided ... | |
| Deciding on Prospective Groom! | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: I am going through the process of Arranged Marriage. Brought up in a metropolitan city in India by ... A: I'm sorry you are being subjected to this, and I say this simply because I am not a proponent of ... | |
| Giving notice of marriage | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: I am now with someone else and we are getting married. The problem is I havent got round to ... A: I'll make it simple for you. Do you really want to marry a woman and leave something of this nature ... | |
| My dad wants me to have a sex-change and I don't want one! | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: I'm 16, and recently my dad has been pressurising me to have a sex-change. He's been ranting on and ... A: I think your father needs professional help. He has no right whatsoever to be asking you to do ... | |
| Negative husband | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I've been married to a man who is a good provider for the past 9 years. We have two little boys (7 ... A: I know what you are talking about, and unfortunately, there are many people like your husband, who ... | |
| Ex-Wife emais | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: I am having a problem with my husband of 12 years recently, after 15 years receiving e-mails from ... A: I appreciate your point, and you are correct to a degree. If she is contacting him with regards to ... | |
| marriage at 17 | 1/7/2010 |
| Q: I am 17 and I am sort of being forced to get married in order to be emancipated. My mother doesn't ... A: I am unable to tell you what will happen, because I do not know where you live and what the laws are ... | |
| Please Help | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: Please help my husband and I have both been diagnosed with pretty sever diseases in the last year ... A: Cheryl, Your husband is in denial and is experiencing a crisis. You have to get professional help ... | |
| Advice regarding my relationship | 12/26/2009 |
| Q: I would like to seek your advice over something that is haunting me for months. I am from India. the ... A: Any relationship based on a lie is not worth the time that you will spend on it. He is not worth ... | |
| marriage | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: the 1st no i have in my mind is 24. i have an relationship with a boy since last six years. we both ... A: I'm sorry but I am not sufficiently knowledgeable about your customs or traditions when it comes to ... | |
| Family and Distance Between... | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 13 years. We grew up in the midwest (about 2 hours away) she ... A: I reread your note a few times over to get a better idea of exactly what the situation is. I took ... | |
| Loveless Marriage. | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: .. I am 25 and I have been married 7 years and we have a six year old son. I know I got married ... A: I read your message over a few times, and I believe that there is only one thing for you to do, and ... | |
| wife selection | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: I heard that significanct age difference between a wife and a husband is essential for a good ... A: I don't know that the age difference is necessary as essential as one may think, unless sex is the ... | |
| Is there hope here ? | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been married a little over a year. My marriage has been mostly rough. My husband has a ... A: If you read your own message to me, you will find a lot of answers in there. Read it like it was ... | |
| Husband's lack of sex drive... worrying me | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm 24 and my husband is 26. We've been together for 5 years now, married for a year and ... A: I'm a bit perplexed as I cannot see the connection between the enuresis and the sex drive. One does ... | |
| My husband's email affair... odd behaviour | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I was checking our email recently, and was surprised to receive one from another woman addressed to ... A: Six weeks is all it took, eh? Your husband is correct in that he can do whatever he wants. So, ... | |
| marriage | 11/27/2009 |
| Q: 57 a.m place: delhi. i would like to know that i love a girl her name is geeta and her date of birth ... A: I'm sorry but I am not a fortune teller. Only you can know when the time is suitable for your ... | |
| marriage | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: i have a question on my new marriage. i just married a girl that has changed my life. she is ... A: I think that you are going about it the right way. I would simply ease into it and see how she ... | |
| In need of some advice | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I am in desperate need for advice on what to do in my current situation. Its a little unusual but ... A: I'm afraid you screwed up with great distinction. If you hadn't mentioned your age, I would have ... | |
| My husband spends too much time with a close male friend... | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm 30, my husband's 32, and recently he's been spending all his free time with a close male friend ... A: Invite Jeremy for dinner and ask him to bring his girlfriend (if he has one, but I doubt it), and ... | |
| newlyweds living in with her brother | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: here is my story.My fiance' and I met in germany when she worked at a military base.I'm french and ... A: NOW HERE IS MY---is it healthy for our new married life together having to share our place with her ... | |
| My wife wants a sex-change... | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: Yesterday my wife told me she wants a sex change. I was completely shocked by the revelation. I ... A: I'm also not quite sure how to deal with this type of situation. I do sense that your wife seems ... | |
| getting over it | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: 'll keep it short. I m 21 and I met a 28 year old guy last year during a vacation. We're the kind of ... A: Pretty simple really. Just reading you message to me would be enough to get you over it. The last ... | |
| I'm lost, can you please help me? | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: I've never "asked an expert" before. I have been to counseling but not in a long time. Please ... A: I read the information over a few times before deciding that I would make a strong effort at giving ... | |
| Kindly advice | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: i want to ask u tht is physical attraction very important in marriage or not.iam nt able to ... A: My beautiful younger sister who left home at 18 to go to London England to be a fashion model met a ... | |
| short tempered husband | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: my husband is very short tempered.i am a doctor and he is an engineer postgraduate.he decides ... A: I'm not quite sure what the customs are in your side of the world, but here in Canada, I am not able ... | |
| trust issues | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We are supposed to get married in may. He was in a long ... A: I read your message twice. My suggestion will be simple and clear and my reasoning as well. He ... | |
| Confusion | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: I am 24 and working as an Engineer in Bangalore. I had my schoolmate in 5th aand 6th whom I liked ... A: It is difficult for me to help you as this is a simple decision that you need to make. If you are ... | |
| marriage, girlfriend, court | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: Good Morning, My question is; generally speaking how do you think it would look to the court if ... A: I think that it would look strange that someone could not wait to at least to get all the divorce ... | |
| marriage | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: So i have been with my boyfriend a little over 2 years, and i really want to get married. We have ... A: If you love him, and he loves you and you are happy with him, then don't even consider moving on ... | |
| follow up | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: I really appreciate it! You really do care about people and want to help, so kind of you. I was ... A: I don't think you will be able to change him, for only he can change himself. It is up to you to ... | |
| How can I marry her!! | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: Mr Bosch, As I stated in my previous message, i will be sending you clips of my issues with my ... A: I read your message and I sense something is amiss. Although you may wish to find yourself in a ... | |
| Communication! | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: Mr Bosch, first let me say that i have been searching the web vigorously to find much needed answers ... A: I read your message and am hap[y that you took the time to elaborate on the issue. You are correct ... | |
| should I leave now or later? | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a common law relationship for over 5 yrs now, and am very unhappy with my current ... A: I took some time to digest your information, and hope you will appreciate that answering this type ... | |
| remarriage, blending families | 8/14/2009 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with an Aries male born April 10, 1971. I am a Sagittarius female born ... A: There is no book written that I know of, that can allow for the knowledge of the next step. Each ... | |
| Is my sister in law trying to "take over" my Child? | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 months now. I have 2 children (ages 4 and 8) from a ... A: It's time to have a heart to heart with your husband and after that have one with his family. You ... | |
| remarriage, blending families | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with an Aries male born April 10, 1971. I am a Sagittarius female born ... A: You ask:"I want to know if we will move in together soon, and if we will end up marrying and if we ... | |
| Sister-In-Law | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: I am in dire need of some help. I am 23, my wife is 22 and her younger sister is 18. She is living ... A: Do you really need me to tell you what to do in a case like this? I'm a little surprised, but hey, ... | |
| Am I ready to get married? | 6/13/2009 |
| Q: When I am single, I always want to be with someone. I base my joy off of sex and going out and ... A: At first glance, I have to say that you are far from ready to be married. The first paragraph of ... | |
| Marriage/Separation | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 14 years, however separated for the last 2 years. Over the course of ... A: I think that there is little more you can do to show that you have made all the necessary efforts to ... | |
| Marriage | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: Is there anywhere in Canada, Mexico or the United States that a minor and an adult can get married ... A: You may wish to read the info at this link: http://www.coolnurse.com/marriage_laws.htm Check the ... | |
| My husband's decision | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: My husband has made a decision without considering my profession and future. He is set in his ... A: I'm a bit flabbergasted at your husband's action. He is totally out of order with this decision if ... | |
| My husband's decision | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: My husband has made a decision without considering my profession and future. He is set in his ... A: Although at first glance your situation seems an easy one to discuss, I am missing some details, as ... | |
| I am confused | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: I am Gnomta, a young girl (24yo) from Laos. 3 years ago, I met a man (French, who he is living in ... A: I think that your feelings are not warranted, because you have to bear the responsibility of your ... | |
| marriage law | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: About a year ago, myself and my boyfriend eloped to Florida and got married. None of the families ... A: There is absolutely something you can do, Paula. Perhaps consider the fundamental benefit of ... | |
| gift | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband has a nephew who he hasn’t spoken to or seen in MANY years. The reason is because of his ... A: Your sense of logic is very intact and I have to agree with you 100%. If your husband had wanted to ... | |
| screwd up | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: I am Anjana, This is the second time I am contacting you.......You may not be remembering my tale ... A: I do remember you. You did not bother me, as this is what I am here for. I see that you have ... | |
| When will i get married | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: DOB 04.08.1983 POB Delhi, India TOB 19: 45 A: In all honesty, I have no idea. Perhaps you should redirect the question to someone who can see ... | |
| Moving away from his family | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: When my boyfriend and I discuss the future, he cannot imagine moving away from the Northeast, where ... A: You are asking someone who has lived in a cold climate for 28 years and is ready to move to warmer ... | |
| PLEASE EXPLAIN | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering would you please explain to me: what is a soul mate? Thanks A: That is a daunting task, yet also an easy one. There may be definitions that have been published, ... | |
| When is enough...enough? Husband addicted to porn | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: ..I am 30 yrs old and have been married for almost 2yrs (in june) I have a 4yr old son from a ... A: I read your message carefully, and will not make this a very long answer. your choice is clear and ... | |
| Scared of changes and meeting challenges | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend is a foreigner. I am getting married soon and we decided that i'll move abroad. First ... A: Before I give you a final answer, could you tell me the following, please? What nationality is he, ... | |
| scared to get hurt again and again | 4/29/2009 |
| Q: I been married to my husband for ten years, we've been friends for five years before we got married. ... A: I read your message a few times over and noticed something that jumped out at me. I understand your ... | |
| In Laws | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: I am so sorry , it was just a mistake. I did ask this question to somebody but he did not reply. ... A: If I correctly understood your message, it would seem that he has understood the problem and is ... | |
| pre-marrital problem | 4/22/2009 |
| Q: my fiance and I are getting married within 10 days. We are in the process of confirming the ... A: Well well.........the things we find out when it comes down to it, eh? Reconsidering is not such a ... | |
| In Laws | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: I am so sorry , it was just a mistake. I did ask this question to somebody but he did not reply. ... A: I believe that you need to make sure your husband understands the damage his sister is doing, and ... | |
| marriage | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: name lata, dob 16 april 1980, time 7:15pm place delhi, india.... please tell me when will i get ... A: I'm sorry but I am not a fortune teller. There is no way that I can know when you will get married, ... | |
| In Laws | 4/9/2009 |
| Q: I am so sorry , it was just a mistake. I did ask this question to somebody but he did not reply. ... A: When you start getting family too closely involved, a lot of your couple is lost, in many cases. ... | |
| Marriage separation | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: my wife and I have been together for 8 years,and have been married for 5 years. For the most part, ... A: I'm happy that you gave me more information, as this makes it a whole lot easier to understand the ... | |
| Marriage separation | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: my wife and I have been together for 8 years,and have been married for 5 years. For the most part, ... A: Well, right now you are a "guest in her house", even though you may be contributing to helping her ... | |
| need help | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: I'm orginally from australia, i have been married to a man from overseas for over two years. I only ... A: I'm afraid you went into this marriage a tad too fast. you were "in love", and you and I both know ... | |
| Marriage/Separation | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 14 years, however separated for the last 2 years. Over the course of ... A: "Over the years, I have felt as if I was wrong to express what I needed from him as a husband ... | |
| Marriage/Separation | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 14 years, however separated for the last 2 years. Over the course of ... A: I think you've made a valiant effort. I also think that you are not making the right move. Let's ... | |
| When you know there is no hope | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: I think my marriage is over and I think my husband is playing mental and emotional games with me. ... A: When was the last time you two went away for a week or a weekend? I strongly suggest you do ... | |
| 3 yrs married !!...Andrea | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: ..your words were soo true and yet a little funny at the same time because of how you put it but i ... A: I'm happy I could be of some assistance and hope that you will both find a way to make your marriage ... | |
| When you know there is no hope | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: I think my marriage is over and I think my husband is playing mental and emotional games with me. ... A: The best way to deal with the day to day is to look at it as an exchange of information to be able ... | |
| When you know there is no hope | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: I think my marriage is over and I think my husband is playing mental and emotional games with me. ... A: This is the second message I read from you, and I have not yet answered the first, so please ... | |
| first time marriage: going on 3 yrs | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: ok...im 25 yrs old n ive been married almost 3 yrs i hav 2 kids.my husband is very to himself n laid ... A: I will let you in on something important and hope you did do what was necessary before you got ... | |
| My husband asked me for time for himself. However we dont know if is what we need | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: Good Afternoon, This is a very distress Edith. I'd like to explain as much as I can so that you ... A: I do have a few questions if I may before I move into the next step of understanding fully all the ... | |
| marriage | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I am 22yrs old and in love with a guy who is 9 months younger to me.we both are of same caste.His ... A: I would have trouble telling you if there are problem with that type of marriage, because you have ... | |
| thoughts of marriage | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: ok i have a question.. me and my bestfriend have been friends for a year and some months now and the ... A: Give her time. The best thing that you can do now, is simply and calmly express your love to her, ... | |
| Ex and another relationship | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: I was with my ex for over 10 years. There were red flags along the way but everything fell apart ... A: Let's first put to bed the main issue. This is not a race to replace, yes? You should in no way ... | |
| Underaged marriage | 3/7/2009 |
| Q: I am currently 15 years old. My boyfriend is 19 years old. I am pregnant and I'm afraid to tell my ... A: I'll simply say that at 15, you are a child yourself, and you are with child. That's definitely ... | |
| Am I unfair? | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for nearly 24 years. We are quite happy, but I am jealous and mostly feel that ... A: What to say? Let me attempt to show you the truth by using myself as an example. My wife and I ... | |
| First time marriage | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: As a 47 year male never married, living alone for many years, and now considering marriage, what is ... A: Beat advice I can give to is to expect that things will change drastically. Having aid that, I do ... | |
| Can u pls advise | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: Iam in a confused state of mind right now. SInce the past 3 yrs iam involved with a guy. My parents ... A: You give me little information to work with to familiarize myself with what the customs or ... | |
| my husbands past is haunting me | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I am 25, and my husband is 31. We have been together for 4 years,and married for 2.5. We have a ... A: I am happy that you have chosen this course of action. Your evolution as a person looking for ... | |
| my husbands past is haunting me | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I am 25, and my husband is 31. We have been together for 4 years,and married for 2.5. We have a ... A: I'll let you in on something people often forget. It is most often men that forget this very ... | |
| 2ND MARRIAGE COMPETITION | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: We have been married 4 yrs, Christians for 5. My husband has three children (20 and twins 15), my ... A: Well, I have to admit that this is a problem indeed. I am all for people evolving in a good way and ... | |
| my husbands past is haunting me | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: I am 25, and my husband is 31. We have been together for 4 years,and married for 2.5. We have a ... A: I apologize for the delay, but we had friends over for a few days, and I had to tend to that. I ... | |
| Underage Marriage | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: Is there any place in the U.S., Canada, or Mexico that me and my future wife can get married ... A: That's more of a question pertaining to legal issues than a marriage question, in my view. It's not ... | |
| Marriage. | 2/2/2009 |
| Q: Well is it possible to marry someone for both good and bad reasons? If the marriage gets boring,is ... A: I enjoy your questions, but you do have to consider that I need time to answer questions from other ... | |
| Sorry!!!!! | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: No I do not know you,I wish that I did,but I do not know you.I am 13 and I am a girl and I made this ... A: Young lady, Your apology is readily accepted. Although it may not have been the kindest thing to do ... | |
| Marriage. | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: Wel I am always worried if I will love him the next day or if he will love me the next day because ... A: I won't get mad at all. You have to understand that I do this as a service to try to help people if ... | |
| Marriage. | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: Well is it possible to marry someone for both good and bad reasons? If the marriage gets boring,is ... A: Yes, it is possible to marry someone for both good and bad reasons. Whether things can work out is ... | |
| Marriage. | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: Wel I am always worried if I will love him the next day or if he will love me the next day because ... A: Yes, of course it is normal. They are caused by questioning our decisions. They are caused by our ... | |
| Marriage. | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: Wel I am always worried if I will love him the next day or if he will love me the next day because ... A: Cgllr, It sounds more like insecurity on your part from here I am looking. If it is true that you ... | |
| Marriage? | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: Well in new relationships is it normal to doubt your feelings? ANSWER: Hi there, Yes, that ... A: I sure hope that this is helping you at some point because at this point, you are my most ... | |
| Marriage? | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: Well in new relationships is it normal to doubt your feelings? ANSWER: Hi there, Yes, that ... A: I don't mind you asking at all. Love was not initially the reason I decided to enter a relationship ... | |
| Marriage. | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: Well me and my husband have been distant lately and it's not that I don't love him but my love is ... A: Do things that make you both happy.........one day something for him, the other day something for ... | |
| Immature wife | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for about a year now. As I get to know my wife better who turned 28 recently, ... A: Oh boy......this is a toughie. Your message made me smile, because I can only imagine the ... | |
| My partner does not want to get married against her parents wishes to me | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: I'm an indian and I love this girl from another country. We met through chat and very soon we became ... A: I'm afraid I can't be of much help here, as my knowledge pertains more to the marriage itself and ... | |
| Marriage? | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: Well in new relationships is it normal to doubt your feelings? A: Yes, that happens once and again to some people and as your relationship grows, it often changes. ... | |
| Marriage. | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: So you are saying that our marriage isn't going anywhere and that I should leave? ANSWER: Hi, No, ... A: I have pasted my past answer for you to read again as per your request. Yes, I have doubted ... | |
| Marriage. | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: Well me and my husband have been distant lately and it's not that I don't love him but my love is ... A: Yes, this can occur on occasion. The fact that you are married to someone does not take away all ... | |
| Marriage. | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: So you are saying that our marriage isn't going anywhere and that I should leave? A: No, not at all. That is not what I am saying. I am saying that you should try to figure out how ... | |
| Question. | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: Well I asked someone else this same question and they told me that all of this meant that I didn't ... A: I am beginning to wonder whether you are playing a trick on me. I think we have been over the ... | |
| Question. | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: Well I asked someone else this same question and they told me that all of this meant that I didn't ... A: Yes, I have doubted my love for my wife once and again in the beginning, when I was not sure about ... | |
| Question. | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: Well I asked someone else this same question and they told me that all of this meant that I didn't ... A: Some people are too rapid in their analysis and I believe that you would be best served to indeed ... | |
| Running his own business with lots of revolving debt | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 14 years and have 5 children. I have been a stay at home mom, my own desire as ... A: I feel very saddened by what I read. Your husband claims that you know nothing about running a ... | |
| What does this truly mean? | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: Well, I would probably read it over again and tell you that you are being somewhat insecure and ... | |
| What does this truly mean? | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: Wow......you gave your keyboard a good workout. I read it all, and have the following to say: It ... | |
| Marriage / Reconciliation | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: I am seriously considering reconciling with my husband whom I have been seperated from for almost 4 ... A: Continue to find what you need before you commit. There are ways of finding out from a person what ... | |
| Marriage / Reconciliation | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: I am seriously considering reconciling with my husband whom I have been seperated from for almost 4 ... A: I'll make this a filled with questions of my own, because things jump out at me when I read your ... | |
| advice | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: My husband and i have been together 4.5 years and have a 2 year old daughter. A month ago my hubby, ... A: If you have expressed to your husband that this is bothering you, then it is his duty as your ... | |
| Jealous | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: Don, I have been married to a wonderful man for 26 years (in Feb.). We have 4 sons 3 which are ... A: I think that perhaps your husband has been affected by the issues he may have had to deal with last ... | |
| Problems with my Fiancee. | 12/30/2008 |
| Q: So bascially, my problem is that my fiancee lives in Utah while I live in California. We only really ... A: I'm more versed in areas of marriage, but I can tell you that a long distance relationship is very ... | |
| Women's Sexuality after 50 | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 35 years. We are both in our early 50's. I would rate our ... A: You are not alone in this. There are clear indications that this is an issue many women share with ... | |
| unhappy wife | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: I am 28 yrs married with 2 kids....we are living together with my husband's parents... my husband ... A: I'm amazed that your husband is not yet mature enough to understand that you are totally and ... | |
| relationship like marriage with inlaw | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: My significant other (age 61) and I (age 62) live on a small ranch that his mother (age 84) decided ... A: Your long note explains to me a lot of the situation. You will not change him or the way he thinks. ... | |
| Flirtatious Husband?? | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: I need help! My husband participated in a gift exchange at work. He bought a bottle of wine for the ... A: I can see his point. I also see your point. I do see some humor in it. In a public exchange, which ... | |
| Not sure what to do? | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 6 months, we have a almost 2 year old daughter. on Friday ... A: He is lying to you and is acting in a very inappropriate manner. No way he puts a phone number ... | |
| Wits End | 12/12/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 5 yrs and just a few weeks ago I found out I am pregnent with our ... A: It will do you no good to get upset and lose your cool with him. You need to sit and talk with him, ... | |
| Marriage | 12/11/2008 |
| Q: 3 Years ago I decided to go to Guyana to marry a man. After getting married I returned to the US and ... A: I am sorry for your bad experience in this matter. I do not however have the ability to answer your ... | |
| How to convince parents for inter-religion marriage | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: I am an Indian Hindu and have been in a relationship with a Pakistani Muslim girl for the past 3 ... A: I'm really sorry to hear that you both have become the victims of something I find simply totally ... | |
| jealous and passive aggressive husband | 12/1/2008 |
| Q: Bosch, I've read some of your answers on this webapge and thought you could help me return my ... A: I read your heartfelt note with great care and was moved by your candor and your ability to express ... | |
| Marriage | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: Donald, I am a 42 yr old male and have been married (Only Tme) for 3.5 yrs (Neither of us has ... A: Remember that people only do to us what we allow them to. It seems rather clear that your wife is ... | |
| marriage | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: Me and my wife have been together for 10 years i always thought we were strong that we could handle ... A: Basically, you screwed up and good. First thing you need to figure out is that you hurt your wife ... | |
| What Do I do with my cheating wife | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: Ihave just discovered that my wife has been cheating on me for more than 2 months. It all started ... A: First off, let me tell you that I am not a religious man. Having said that, I am amazed that your ... | |
| mother in law or wife | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 4 years I have four small children all under the age of 4. My mother in law ... A: Although it is commendable for a person to take care of his parents, your husband has forgotten a ... | |
| Divorced still in contact with ex | 10/21/2008 |
| Q: what to do, stay or go? i have been divorced for over 1 yr and moved back in with my exhusban, we ... A: I think you are kidding yourself in believing that this is a good and convenient thing. Do what ... | |
| lack of sexual relations | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: Mr.Bosch, I am a 25 year old female who has been with the, recently turned, 29 year old man of her ... A: Let's just say that you have realized that the importance of intimacy is indeed a very necessary ... | |
| Problems with my fiancée | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: I have a huge problem with my fiancée and I hope someone can shed some light into what sort of ... A: I'm afraid you may not like what I am going to tell you. Integrity and honesty are virtues reserved ... | |
| need help communicating with fiance | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: My fiance and I have been together about 2.5 years and we are getting married next year. We are ... A: Well, what can I say? you state that you are loving with each other, yet you both have such limited ... | |
| Manic spouse lost any common sense | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: i am married over 26 years to someone who has had several bouts of deppression and manic highs, he ... A: Your husband is clearly affected by these disorders. He has to continue taking medication or you ... | |
| Making a Marriage Work | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 20 years. We have 2 daughters, 14 and 16. My husband's ... A: You are more than welcome. I enjoy complete bliss in my marriage and have figured out the reasons ... | |
| Making a Marriage Work | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 20 years. We have 2 daughters, 14 and 16. My husband's ... A: You said it yourself. she does not have the experience or the knowledge to appreciate that a 20 ... | |
| Hi, | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: I am Sri from India.I am in love with a gal for the past one year. In which for the same had ... A: I'm sorry that I can't be of much help on this one. Arranged marriages are not something I am very ... | |
| Making a Marriage Work | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 20 years. We have 2 daughters, 14 and 16. My husband's ... A: It is normal to experience some anxiety at this point. The ball is in his court right now. Allow ... | |
| my husband shows not interest in me | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 14 years and we married 4 years ago.We have lived together for 12 ... A: I read your whole note, and was amazed that you actually still be with him? what are you waiting ... | |
| Abusive Husband | 10/4/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my husband for 14 years and the way i see it..I'm not allowed to do anything without ... A: I have to admit that if your husband is actually cheating on you, then it would be difficult to ... | |
| Confused! | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: I am sending this question to 2 female and 2 experts as this decision I need to make is very ... A: This is not a very difficult problem. I believe you were initially correct in putting aside the ... | |
| Love\ marriage | 9/11/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend is in the army and he can be stationed to Iraq when he get back in december. Or he will ... A: Bryanna, It is different for everyone, but I believe that if you have had the time to experience a ... | |
| Love\ marriage | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend is in the army and he can be stationed to Iraq when he get back in december. Or he will ... A: I honestly think you should wait. Life is short, but not so short that you need to get married at ... | |
| Interracial Marriage- And a lack of Intimicy | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for a year now, and have a young baby. Prior to the baby's birth ... A: Things change after a baby, no doubt about it. Some men have less gusto after such an event. He ... | |
| a new old romance | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: I started to date this man 9 years ago a it was great at first. He has two kids that loved me and I ... A: I think you are moving way fast. The man has been married twice already. There are a lot of ... | |
| separated, please help | 9/7/2008 |
| Q: my wife moved out june 20th after finding out i drank a beer post-stroke. it doesn't matter the ... A: Well done. If she is attending, then it shows that she very much cares. Don't take anything for ... | |
| separated, please help | 9/7/2008 |
| Q: my wife moved out june 20th after finding out i drank a beer post-stroke. it doesn't matter the ... A: Well, this is an easy one. the best thing you can do to win her trust is to show her that you are ... | |
| should I stay? | 9/7/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my partner about 5 years. When we met, he was almost a year sober (he was 22, I ... A: I gathered that you were engaged from your first note. I suggest you tread carefully before you ... | |
| My Paranoid Husband | 9/5/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 45 year old woman and my husband's 48 years old. Me and my husband have been married for many ... A: Simple solution is to both get checked for STDs. It doesn't take long to get the results. Your ... | |
| should I stay? | 8/31/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my partner about 5 years. When we met, he was almost a year sober (he was 22, I ... A: I read your message over a few times and took some time to think it over as well. I honestly think ... | |
| Help please! Pregnant and parents forcing me into marriage! | 8/30/2008 |
| Q: I am 26 and have been living with my boyfriend for a couple months, but we've been together for ... A: You state that you are both not ready for marriage.....I am a bit confused. What is it about ... | |
| Marriage | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years we are both 28 years old. Just before we got ... A: I am a bit on the fence with this. I'm leaning towards thinking that your husband is having an issue ... | |
| no intamacy | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: My wife says she does not know how to be sexy, or wants to be intimate with me i am not eve able to ... A: There are many reason a woman may not like intimacy and most are very delicate issues. How was this ... | |
| Doing the right thing | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: I'll give a little bit of background first about me before I continue on with my current situation. ... A: Your long explanation was necessary and I understand what the situation is. I'll keep my answer to ... | |
| Relationship and children .. | 8/12/2008 |
| Q: I am 32m successful Hispanic and I have been in a relationship with a Asian female 24 who still ... A: You have the right idea. The kids are the first priority. If your companion has a mind of her own, ... | |
| separation-how long???? | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have separated for 2 weeks now. When I walked out with the kids, I did not know ... A: There is no prescribed time frame for things like this. You will have to trust your instincts. If ... | |
| What should I do? | 7/17/2008 |
| Q: Just to give a summary of what happened, I had a 2 mo. relationship outside of my 10 year marriage ... A: Sorry for the delay. I forgot to set up my vacation period. I'm sorry to hear that you are having ... | |
| The ex | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I split 2 years ago this summer. What sparked the problems was I lost my mother and ... A: His words were not backed by truth, and you have stated that in your own message. When you love ... | |
| The ex | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I split 2 years ago this summer. What sparked the problems was I lost my mother and ... A: Let's assume you were sitting on the sidelines and heard a story similar to the one you are telling ... | |
| arranged marriages vs love marriages | 7/11/2008 |
| Q: i am hoping to find a statistic which shows the different success rates between arranged marriages ... A: Arranged marriages tend to have a better success rate then the U.S. love marriages so. Arranged ... | |
| Heading into a separation | 7/11/2008 |
| Q: I don’t really know where to start but here goes. My wife and I have only been married for a year; ... A: I'm happy that you see that you need to step back and allow her to find out what she wants. ... | |
| Heading into a separation | 7/11/2008 |
| Q: I don’t really know where to start but here goes. My wife and I have only been married for a year; ... A: I hope that you will be open minded and that you will fully understand what my opinion is on this ... | |
| help save my marriage! | 5/23/2008 |
| Q: My marriage is in deep trouble, perhaps beyond repair. I am a 38 year old father of a seven year ... A: I hope my thoughts will have helped you both find the happiness you deserve. Life is too short to be ... | |
| help save my marriage! | 5/23/2008 |
| Q: My marriage is in deep trouble, perhaps beyond repair. I am a 38 year old father of a seven year ... A: I bet you already feel a huge weight lifted from your shoulders. Now that you have shown her your ... | |
| family issues | 5/14/2008 |
| Q: my general question is how important is it to women that they meet and get along with their ... A: At this point, I'm afraid you are going to do yourself more harm than good trying to over-analyze ... | |
| family issues | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: my general question is how important is it to women that they meet and get along with their ... A: I read your note twice, and I think you are overanalyzing the issue. You did nothing wrong. ... | |
| family issues | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: my general question is how important is it to women that they meet and get along with their ... A: I understand more now that you have put some extra details on paper for me to think about. Yes, she ... | |
| family issues | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: my general question is how important is it to women that they meet and get along with their ... A: Let me make it short. If in the 6 months, you went to see your family often and didn't take her ... | |
| Please help | 5/10/2008 |
| Q: I am a sixteen year old male living in the state of utah. I turn seventeen in august of 08. My ... A: I'm not here to tell you what to do, but more so to try to assist you. You must be at least 15 ... | |
| I really messed up | 5/8/2008 |
| Q: Bosch, I really hope you can help me on this one. First some backround. Back in 2004 I was ... A: Let me first apologize for taking longer than I usually do to answer. I am currently experiencing ... | |
| separation solutions | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: My spouse and I have been married for 21 years. Last January, he told me he felt our marriage was a ... A: It seems you have grown apart. I can spend a lot of time trying to tell you that you have to save ... | |
| marriage problems | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 yrs. My 18 yr old step daughter treats me very badly and goes out of her ... A: I have to say that you are one of a kind. I know of no man who would accept this kind of treatment ... | |
| Help me how to let go his past? | 3/7/2008 |
| Q: When I cleaned home, I found an old receipt of $68000 Tiffany ring. I asked husband why he bought ... A: I read your note and couldn't believe what I was reading. I'll not spend too much time on this, but ... | |
| Do I still love him? | 3/5/2008 |
| Q: Short story: I have been married for two years, altogether with him for little over five years, in ... A: I meant that the current situation lends itself very poorly to a rapid solution. It becomes a trap ... | |
| Just to say thanks | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: I hope you are well. It¡¦s not even been two months since I last emailed you, nor three months since ... A: I'm sure that it will suffice if I tell you that I am sporting a smile from earlobe to earlobe. ... | |
| Engaged and 18 | 3/1/2008 |
| Q: This is a delicate question, but I’ll lay it all out. I am 18 and engaged. This is not a question ... A: This is indeed a delicate question, and I fear you may not like my answer, but I am also someone who ... | |
| I want to get married, he doesnt | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: I am a 23 year old woman. Me and my partner have been together for 5 years. We have been engaged for ... A: I understand your predicament. You need to take a look at what your priorities are with regards to ... | |
| HOW TO LEAVE | 2/12/2008 |
| Q: I am married to a good man just that we have NOTHING in common anymore. All he does when he is not ... A: I read your note over and over again to see if there was anything that we could consider worth ... | |
| Questions | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: My husband is very close-mouthed and sometimes it is a real pulling effort to pry information from ... A: Seems you husband is a bit selfish and has to realize that he is indeed in a relationship with ... | |
| do you still love me | 2/6/2008 |
| Q: Anytime we have a disagreement and I am terribly angry my husband will ask do you still love me and ... A: do the following: "Of course I still love you, but do not appreciate your behavior at the moment. ... | |
| Sex before marraige | 2/2/2008 |
| Q: I need to ask a question for my friend. He is 33 years old, Muslim, lives in Pakistan. He fell in ... A: I'm not familiar with Islam but I do know that sex before marriage is absolutely forbidden. Which ... | |
| divorce? | 1/29/2008 |
| Q: In mearlir post I forgott add tha I've been married abot 4 1/2 yrs) My husband must have been in ... A: I see that you are much affected by the world surrounding you. I understand that there may be people ... | |
| divorce? | 1/27/2008 |
| Q: In mearlir post I forgott add tha I've been married abot 4 1/2 yrs) My husband must have been in ... A: I read your letter with great care and re-read it. I need you to read the following very carefully. ... | |
| 2nd thoughts about divorce | 1/27/2008 |
| Q: I forgot to mention in my earler question that we have been married about 4 1/2 years. I am 60, he ... A: I'm sorry but I did not receive the initial question. It may not have been addressed to me. I did ... | |
| younger wife | 1/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm 27 and am very interested in sharing rest of my life with a girl who is 31 (she is 4 years older ... A: Have a wonderful wedding and a wonderful marriage. 4 years is nothing. There is no problem ... | |
| How to build a good relationship with spouse | 1/18/2008 |
| Q: My name is Felix. I'm 30 years old. I just married last year. During this married life, i can not ... A: You have answered your own question if you read exactly what you write to me in your message. Let's ... | |
| love | 12/23/2007 |
| Q: i dint bother much about it because i ve had enough with him and his tortures . now i ve fallen in ... A: This gets more complicated by the minute. I am beginning to feel that there are too many people ... | |
| my husband loves me but does not like to be with me. | 12/23/2007 |
| Q: I know i have a wiered kind of question,But ultimately after getting frustrated i searched that i ... A: Let me guess.........He likes you to cater to him though, right? I think that you perhaps are being ... | |
| love | 12/22/2007 |
| Q: i dint bother much about it because i ve had enough with him and his tortures . now i ve fallen in ... A: It is simple enough. If it bothers them they will mention it. Until then, there is no need to ... | |
| Very frustrated with husband | 12/21/2007 |
| Q: Well my husband and I have been having some problems lately. We have been arguing about Christmas ... A: I imagine he is good at that. It is a common trait of people who like to exert control. No need to ... | |
| past | 12/21/2007 |
| Q: I have been happily married for over a year now. we got married only after 6 months. but there is ... A: I love your question, and I will tell you why. You have answered it yourself. You have been married ... | |
| Help | 12/20/2007 |
| Q: My husband had an affair. Was caught and now it is over. The problem is he isn't interested in sex ... A: What worries me is the fact that you have been married for only 8 months and this has happened. The ... | |
| Help | 12/16/2007 |
| Q: My husband had an affair. Was caught and now it is over. The problem is he isn't interested in sex ... A: You give me very little to work with........it helps immensely if I can get some insight into your ... | |
| Cheating wife | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: after trawling through the internet, I am unable to find anywhere that gives advice to MEN. It seems ... A: I wanted to add something to what I had said after I read your response. I just need you to know ... | |
| How to convince my parents | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: I am Silpa from India.I am loving one guy since one year.But my parents are not accepting because we ... A: You may have some difficulty finding answers to your question because in North America, we do not ... | |
| should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: I have a question. I'm helping a female friend of mine to find an answer. Should her boy friend ... A: I have to admit that your message is a bit unclear. If I understand correctly, this fellow wants to ... | |
| Trust Issue in marriage | 12/5/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 1.5 yrs now. I had previous relation with girl which I didnt want to share ... A: What ever made you think that you would lose her by being truthful? In my life, I have yet to see ... | |
| uk law | 12/2/2007 |
| Q: i have been married for four years,my husband recently used violence against me,but the police did ... A: I don't know if it is lawful in the U.K., but I am wondering what you are still doing in that ... | |
| trust | 11/13/2007 |
| Q: Last week I told my wife something and asked her not to repeat it to anyone. She gave me her word ... A: Don, Often people will get defensive for reasons that we cannot understand. If you felt bad about ... | |
| trust | 11/12/2007 |
| Q: Last week I told my wife something and asked her not to repeat it to anyone. She gave me her word ... A: You are absolutely correct in your thought that your wife has been less than respectful with regards ... | |
| Moving on | 10/24/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I split last summer-after my mother and grandmother passed suddenly things went ... A: It seems quite clear to me that he is seemingly moving on or has moved on. His need to be alone may ... | |
| Long Term Marriage and loneliness | 10/17/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to a wonderful man for 22 years, he is 57 and I am 47. During our marriage I ... A: I must admit that I am somewhat confused. Let me explain why. I get a lot of questions from people ... | |
| self respect | 10/16/2007 |
| Q: An old saying states, " Respect your wife without sacrificing your self respect ". The one who wrote ... A: You seem to be an extremist indeed! The fact that you get very polite is not a bad thing. That is ... | |
| moving away from family | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: My husband wants to take a job in colorado. we currently live in British Columbia. We have 2 kids 5 ... A: This is a difficult question to ask of anyone. Family is important to all of us, and sometimes there ... | |
| separation and getting back together | 10/5/2007 |
| Q: i want him to move back in we have been separated for 2 months and he says he wants to come back ... A: I can see from your message that you are somewhat perturbed by this issue. It isn't all that clear ... | |
| Family problems | 9/25/2007 |
| Q: i have been with my partner for all most 2years and few month,sex was very good and we were in love ... A: I found this question in the question pool and decided to give you my opinion in the hope that it ... | |
| marriage | 9/19/2007 |
| Q: Being 26 years old male, I have got married with my first maternal cousin who is 8 months elder than ... A: The more you expose your thoughts and feelings, the more I can understand your current despair. I ... | |
| marriage | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: Being 26 years old male, I have got married with my first maternal cousin who is 8 months elder than ... A: To begin, I will assume that you are living in North America. I live in Canada myself. I fully ... | |
| Marriage | 9/16/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I are about to celebrate our 10 year anniversary. We have two Children. One of six ... A: I think that your husband believes he has a mother in you and not a lifes' partner. As a man who ... | |
| marriage | 9/15/2007 |
| Q: is marriage a bother or a relief? A: Efua, One needs to be able to define bother as well as relief to answer the question with any type ... | |
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Donald Bosch
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I attempt to answer most questions concerning marriage, commitment to a spouse, and what it takes to make a marriage an excellent and enriching experience for both partners.
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I have been married for 23 years to a wonderful treasure of a woman. We are now young retirees living on a small private island without road access to the mainland. This is not necessarily because I wish to keep my wife in a safe place, but more so because we enjoy each others company so much that we decided to move away from the mainstream hustle-bustle of society. We sold our business to change our lifestyle to allow for more time together. This allows me to spend 24 hours per day with my wife who also happens to be my best buddy, 7 days per week, 12 months per year. As we evolve together, we find more and more happiness in our marriage. We have raised a child and have lived, worked and loved together with harmony and happiness for a long time and will continue to do so. I can speak from my own experience and perhaps help others understand what is necessary to find happiness with your spouse. Married life is a challenge for many, but should not be at all. It is a commitment that needs to be nurtured and consistently maintained, and there are ways to make this quite easy to do.
I can answer questions in English and French.
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Adequate Passing Grades from The School of Life for the last 50 years.
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