Marriage/Questions Answered by Expert Pastor Kimberly Lemler
| Subject | Date Asked |
| alchahol | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: About ten years ago I quit Drinking. My wife still does. I quit because I didn't want my 4 kids to ... A: Mike, I don't think you have a control problem. You are concerned about your wife and rightfully ... | |
| divorce | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: So my husband and I have only been married for a year and 9 months before I found out he was ... A: He wants both...he wants his flings with other women and he also wants a home life with his family. ... | |
| What can I do to help my marriage after my affairs? | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for seven years and have lovely twin girls of 5 years old. I have known my wife ... A: I don't know that you fully understand how devastated your wife is. Betrayal wounds so deeply that ... | |
| Please Help | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: I was rasied Catholic, my husnad-Lutheran. I pray every day and night, but havent been to church in ... A: I do recommend counseling for you both, but not secular and especially not from a lesbian. You need ... | |
| Cancer and Adultery | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: I had cancer 7 years ago and was severely burnt (front and back private areas). It took me 5 years ... A: I am so sorry about the cancer and all the trouble you have had. This has been a hard trial for ... | |
| soulmate..... | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: "Maybe i grew up from an abused family, maybe i saw too many crazy things and myself did some,too, ... A: I really don't believe too much in the term "soulmates". God would prefer for us to remain with one ... | |
| too young? | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: and thankyou for taking the time to respond to my message! I am 19 years old, and a full time ... A: Is this man a good man? Does he treat you with love and respect? Has he ever verbally or physically ... | |
| confused! | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: I know I need to strenghten my relationship with God, but my faith is very strong. I am so confused ... A: People certainly can change. The biggest changes come when the person allows God to work in their ... | |
| i want out, he doesnt, i do not love him like a wife should love her husband. | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: i have been married for going on 8 years, together for 10 with my husband. How do I explain to him ... A: You have seen a therapist for two years and are still going? I'd say it's time to switch counselors! ... | |
| IS THERE A WAY TO STAY OR SHOULD I LEAVE | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: I AM 56, MARRIED 39 YEARS IN FEBRUARY. I MARRIED BECAUSE I WAS PREGNANT AND MY PARENT'S MADE ME, AND ... A: I honestly don't know how you have stayed this long. I am so sorry that this marriage wasn't all it ... | |
| MARRIAGE | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: MY HUSBAND AND I ARE 45 AND HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 7 MONTHS. I WAS WORKING OVER THE WEEKEND AND HE ... A: Yes, poor judgment on his part, most definitely! And I think you are a little angry and jealous or ... | |
| Marriage | 8/29/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my man for almost 15 years, we are not legally married but have made vows between us ... A: I'm sorry this is late, but I answered this last Friday but somehow it didn't go through. I'll ... | |
| my marriage is ending and i don't no if i want to save it | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: i am 25, a mother of 2 boys in a wife, i have been married for 5 years in i feel in my heart that my ... A: It is possible that he is having an affair. That is something you need to investigate further, if ... | |
| Annoyed newlywed | 7/21/2008 |
| Q: My question is: I feel like my husband doesn't understand me. He says things that hurt my feelings: ... A: .. Welcome to the world of marriage!! You will find all kinds of things that are going to annoy ... | |
| 2 1/2 yr of marriage | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for 2yrs and have struggled. We filed for divorce after 1yr but ... A: Is he still cheating on you and lying, etc? Or has this all been forgiven and put behind? Is he ... | |
| how to not feel resentful towards future spouse | 7/9/2008 |
| Q: I recently moved in with my fiance as well as my 2 children. I've known him for 8 years. I feel like ... A: I am getting HUGE RED FLAGS as I read your letter. I don't think you are ready to get married to ... | |
| Wondering if it's the beginning of the end for our marriage? | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: I found this website online and I'm not sure where else to turn. My husband and I have been married ... A: You can belong to God without going to church. I hope you know this. But it is a good idea to go and ... | |
| marriage | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: I am married to a wonderful husband and have 2 precious kids. We are both Christians. We have a good ... A: Natasha, I have not heard back from you and I want to help you. Please contact me through my ... | |
| I have tried everything!!!!! | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 2yrs 2mths and have been together 11 yrs total.Well first we ... A: Sometimes you just have to throw in the towel. He doesn't want to work, has been abusive to you, ... | |
| Husband Not Working | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: We've been married for three years, second marriages for both of us. Out of the three years, my ... A: I am concerned that he is not willing to hold a job in order to support his wife. This doesn't show ... | |
| Moving away from my family | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: This is really a long story but I am going to summarize it as much as possible. I moved to the east ... A: When they show up at the school and then say you are refusing them visitation, this is going too ... | |
| Moving away from my family | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: This is really a long story but I am going to summarize it as much as possible. I moved to the east ... A: I don't think you were wrong. It sounds like your dad needs to grow up and your mother is probably ... | |
| This is a long followup...... I hope you dont mind. If it is meant to only help others .... | 4/15/2008 |
| Q: ... my name is Shannon. I previously wrote to you on April 1 with a question concerning me and the ... A: The impression I get about her when I read her letter is that she is superficial and sassy, has a ... | |
| divorce/alcholic husband/out of love | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: i am no longer in love with my husband. he is an alcholoic and pot smoker. i have asked him to ... A: If you have already separated once, asked for changes, and he has not changed, then unless he gets a ... | |
| How to make someone feel good | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: What are some things I can do or say to make my husband feel loved again? Our relationship is ... A: Since I don't know your husband, I can't say what his needs are or what love language he speaks. I ... | |
| Fading love | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: Although we are not technically married, we've been together three years, and living together for ... A: You didn't say whether or not you are a Christian. You are asking a Pastor this question, so I will ... | |
| the name calling ex... | 4/2/2008 |
| Q: My soon to be husband and I have been together for 3.5 years. He was married once before and has a ... A: I have no respect for a woman like that who chooses to leave her baby to follow a man. Is the court ... | |
| In long distance relationship, wanting to get married but feeling scared about some things | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: I wanted to write to you and ask you about something concerning the relationship that I have with ... A: I think you are right on target. You have been praying about this and I believe what is happening is ... | |
| Christian Women asked to Marry Muslim Man | 3/31/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend asked me to marry him - a Mut'ah marriage - but I wont really be his wife will I? He ... A: The Christian answer to this is clear. Christians are not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever, ... | |
| Marraige: help, advice needed, please help!? | 3/27/2008 |
| Q: i desprately need your help. i am a student on a bsc computing course in first year. got married in ... A: The first thing I will tell you is that you need to find a church TODAY, and go in and talk to the ... | |
| my boyfriend moved out | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: My boy friend had moved out today. He told me that I always scold and complain him a lot. Actually, ... A: If you don't have the money to move away or a place to go, then your only choice is to get a job and ... | |
| marriage | 3/6/2008 |
| Q: Good morning Kimberly. My question for you is simple yet very hard for me to decide. I hope you can ... A: It sounds as though you have a really great relationship with this man! You are blessed!! There ... | |
| my boyfriend moved out | 3/5/2008 |
| Q: My boy friend had moved out today. He told me that I always scold and complain him a lot. Actually, ... A: I am still giving the same advice that I gave you before. I will add that I think it would be good ... | |
| my boyfriend moved out | 3/5/2008 |
| Q: My boy friend had moved out today. He told me that I always scold and complain him a lot. Actually, ... A: My advice is to move back to the city where you were once happy. This is just a boyfriend, not a ... | |
| my boyfriend told me that when he gets married and a house his mother is coming to live with us. | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years we have talked about getting married when ... A: Joanne, You are not being unreasonable. He is. I would tell him absolutely not. He might agree ... | |
| Long distance marriage | 2/16/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been friends for over 11 years. We decided to start dating about 2 years ago. ... A: I am can almost guarantee that there is another woman if he has made just an about face with his ... | |
| time | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: gooday pastor, i am 27 year old male who has big dreams, i reclaimed my virginity 2 years & have ... A: You need to understand that this is in God's timing and that you must practice patience and ... | |
| Arranged Marraige | 12/19/2007 |
| Q: I have a question about arranged marriages. If someones parents promise them to someone else for ... A: K, Again, it's my opinion that you should not have to marry someone against your wishes. It can be ... | |
| my husband drinking im hurt | 12/18/2007 |
| Q: I been married to my husband 4 year almost two of those year he was using methaphane got into ... A: I had a hard time understanding your letter. Please use punctuation marks next time, okay? If you ... | |
| expecting a child and kicked out | 12/16/2007 |
| Q: I had been living with my boyfriend when I became pregnant. We had plans to get married but problems ... A: Your questions are legal in nature and I really can't give you an answer. You must speak with an ... | |
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Pastor Kimberly Lemler
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Expertise
I am an Ordained Minister, Bible Teacher, Life Coach and Pastoral Counselor. I have a radio program called God's Healing Power where I teach on various topics, and I also write for 2 columns. Self Help CD's are available on our website. Counseling services are also available.
Outside of AllExperts I can be reached at: www.GodsHealingPower.org
Experience
At least 1/4 of people who ask me for help on this site actually look at the answers. We volunteers spend MANY HOURS answering mail and our time is valuable. I will be on hiatus from All Experts and can be reached through our website, GodsHealingPower.org.
Publications
I have a column in several newspapers.
Education/Credentials
Indiana University, BS, 1984
Victory Christian Center
Currently working on a PhD
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