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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Annoyances over repitions | 12/27/2011 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: My name is Alex, and I've noticed that I get anooyed, and then extremley upset over things which ... A: Alex, Yes, I'd say it matters that it's your step-dad and that your father passed away a year ago. ... | ||
| How do I curve my ever hotter temper? | 11/1/2011 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I've noticed a problem with myself that is quite unacceptable: a hot temper that has reached the ... A: Jewel, Good work to recognize this as a problem and seek help in working it out! Our earth can be ... | ||
| Anger - 2nd posting | 7/17/2011 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I am a white (English) male aged 60. I have `unpredictable` instant anger but I get over it very ... A: Andrew, This has been the week from Hell for me--and I'm not sure why! People staying with us (one ... | ||
| Anger | 7/14/2011 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I am a white (English) male aged 60. I have `unpredictable` instant anger but I get over it very ... A: Andrew, Please forgive my delay in responding to your question. I was out of town the first day; ... | ||
| Not your everyday anger. | 3/3/2011 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I've been battling with my anger since I was 7 or 8 years old and have been to anger management ... A: Chris, I'm impressed that you are still searching for answers. You are right to do so. Thank you ... | ||
| anger | 2/26/2011 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: Are there any seizure disorders where the seizure itself is a bout of anger? I sometimes have bouts ... A: Pat, In my experience, there are NO seizure disorders as you describe. There are some seizure ... | ||
| emotional problems | 11/27/2010 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: it started quite recently and i don't know whether i should seek help for that or not. I'm having ... A: Tamar, Thanks for writing. Sorry I didn’t get back to you sooner. It’s my birthday, and I have ... | ||
| Losing it | 11/25/2010 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: Ilene I am a transit bus driver in a busy growing Canadian city. I can deal with the stressful ... A: Bud. This is a very difficult situation. I appreciate that you want to be open and helpful to your ... | ||
| Life Source | 8/10/2010 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: Anger feels like it's my life source. It fuels me, stimulates me. Most days it's like I'm just a ... A: Sean, I'm sorry to hear that asking for an appointment with the clinic head is not possible for ... | ||
| Life Source | 8/9/2010 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: Anger feels like it's my life source. It fuels me, stimulates me. Most days it's like I'm just a ... A: Sean, Thanks for giving me such a full description of what is happening with you inside! What you ... | ||
| Bottled up | 5/19/2010 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I need help determining a constructive way to express and shed my anger. I have a very cranky 2 ... A: Jon, What a difficult time this is for you! I'm so glad you wrote to ask this question. You are ... | ||
| angry person | 2/1/2010 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: Why didn't you put the brakes on your development into becoming an angry person earlier than you ... A: Lou, First of all, let me apologize for not answering your question sooner. I didn't know it had ... | ||
| I can't get angry | 12/31/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I can't get angry. Even if I do (very rare), it stays only about seconds. Then, somehow, I just let ... A: I appreciate you sharing yourself with me. I have behaved abusively (in the past) myself, so I am ... | ||
| I can't get angry | 12/31/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I can't get angry. Even if I do (very rare), it stays only about seconds. Then, somehow, I just let ... A: Shaq, Thanks for sending in your question. It's difficult for me to give you a "yes" or "no" ... | ||
| help | 12/28/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: i am a 46 years old man with plenty of stress due to my job, and since 4 months ago I have had 3 ... A: The key to this communication from you, Auripol, is this statement: "Sometimes I would like to be ... | ||
| help | 12/28/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: i am a 46 years old man with plenty of stress due to my job, and since 4 months ago I have had 3 ... A: Auripol, Thank you for asking this question. I'm sure you are concerned about how things go for ... | ||
| Anger issues | 11/10/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I'm 14 years old and i think i have anger problems! i don't think there seriously bad but I've ... A: Sinea, No, there's nothing wrong with you! But there are some things you need to change in order to ... | ||
| Anger, Guilt and Depression from Rape | 11/3/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I've always had quite a temper although most times I am able to keep it under control unless I'm ... A: Fantastic that you have some appointments! When you do meet with the people, select the one you ... | ||
| Anger, Guilt and Depression from Rape | 11/2/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I've always had quite a temper although most times I am able to keep it under control unless I'm ... A: Kitty, Anyone who has experienced 5 rapes, with no apparent psychological help for those ... | ||
| I don't want to lose control | 9/30/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: sorry I couldn't do the same. I caught the swine flu and it had me down and out for a little while. ... A: Sarah, Good work on identifying your "shoulds". It is clear that your father, in your experience, ... | ||
| I think I'm a danger to socity. | 9/15/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I need mental help, but am afraid I'll be subjected to a mental facility. Being confined in that ... A: I'm saddened when I read your question. It tells me you are in a lot of pain. I am so glad you ... | ||
| I don't want to lose control | 9/13/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I'm a fifteen year old girl, with a hidden anger problem. I've never told anyone about it except for ... A: Sarah, Thanks for your trust in sharing this issue with me. Let's see what we can do to get to the ... | ||
| self harm due to anger | 8/28/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: ..i also am afraid of letting goof my anger i keep it in and im angry as i have been pysically and ... A: efa, Thank you for writing. You have a very difficult problem. The good news is that it CAN be ... | ||
| Becoming Angry Again | 8/21/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: This time last year I became very angry after an incident with a male friend, where I hoped for more ... A: Jess, It sounds like you are in bumpy times again. BTW, when the same type of situation repeats ... | ||
| HELP!! Husband is outta control with anger lately and its ruining us!! | 7/24/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: My husband has a history of anger, verbal abuse and past physcial, which has never reoccured since 1 ... A: Sara, This is a BIG, BIG problem. You need professional help immediately! If your husband will ... | ||
| HOW to feel anger? | 7/8/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I have recently discovered that the childhood experiences that have caused me great upset, sadness, ... A: Felicity, I'm glad to hear you're making such progress! Thank you for following up on some of my ... | ||
| HOW to feel anger? | 6/29/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I have recently discovered that the childhood experiences that have caused me great upset, sadness, ... A: You've given me another clue with this question, Felicity. If your mother told you many times that ... | ||
| HOW to feel anger? | 6/28/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I have recently discovered that the childhood experiences that have caused me great upset, sadness, ... A: Felicity, Sorry it's taken me a bit to get back to you. I went on a family vacation, from which I ... | ||
| Anger | 4/18/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I am a 36 years old married female and a mother of two sons aged 6 and a half and 3 and a half ... A: Shumaysa, Thank you for writing. I am happy for you that you recognize this problem and want to do ... | ||
| husband's anger/FASD? | 4/10/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I wanted to ask for an expert's thoughts on my husband's anger problems. He is Native American and ... A: Jan, It sounds like you have your hands full with this one. I can appreciate your desire to ... | ||
| controling anger. | 4/5/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I really feel I need to do something about it right now before it starts to ruin mine or people ... A: Steve, Your situation certainly sounds critical. It also sounds like anger is already ruining ... | ||
| anger | 3/7/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: oh please help me Doctor... i have a very bad teen temper now,& it is affecting me & my parents ... A: Good for you, to ask for help in this kind of a situation. That's the first step, really, to ... | ||
| Contained anger | 2/11/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I st get pissed off so incredibly easily, my friends poke fun at each other and laugh about it but ... A: Have you been a perfectionist all your life? Usually, about your age the need to be perfect is ... | ||
| Contained anger | 2/11/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I st get pissed off so incredibly easily, my friends poke fun at each other and laugh about it but ... A: Briana, I am so impressed that you are so aware that you need help with this situation, and are ... | ||
| Anger tearing me apart | 2/10/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I really appreciate any help you can give me. I am a mother of an 8 year old and 1 1/2 year old. I ... A: Bennie, It sounds like you are in a lot of pain over this issue. This is good, because pain is our ... | ||
| My anger and my kids.... | 1/12/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I am a 28 year old father of 2 boys (10 and 3.) I love my boys and wife whole-heartedly. I'm ... A: Nick, You sound like such a loving and caring father. Your boys are fortunate to have you as a ... | ||
| Anger issues | 1/7/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I am hoping that you can help me. I believe that I have some major anger issues. First of all, I am ... A: Jennifer. I'm glad it is helpful. I'm glad to know you do get a break during the day. Perhaps you ... | ||
| Anger issues | 1/7/2009 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I am hoping that you can help me. I believe that I have some major anger issues. First of all, I am ... A: Jennifer, It certainly sounds like you have a frustrating and unhappy situation! I'm hoping I can ... | ||
| Do you work with DID? I can't get angry, I'm numb | 12/28/2008 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: I understand that there are programs for people who can't control their anger. What about for people ... A: Dee, No, I do not work with Dissociative Identity Disorder, per se. I may, however, have a few ... | ||
| young widow sabotaging new love | 11/26/2008 | Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W. |
| Q: 2 yrs ago, I became a widow from a sudden/tragic death of the love of my life. 6 mos ago, I met a ... A: The bottom line is that you are afraid of losing this second man. When you turn on him angrily, you ... | ||
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Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W.
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
As a "Recovering Angry Person" and psychotherapist, I have thoroughly explored Anger and its related emotions, hurt, fear, depression and guilt. I'll give a free half-hour of coaching to anyone who can ask me a question I cannot address!
Experience
36 years as a family, individual and group psychotherapist. 15 years of teaching for California Probation Officers and Psychotherapists. Author of "Exploring Anger with Your Child" (now "The ABCs of Anger in its updated version). Personal, clinical and group work with anger, including in the parenting arena.
Organizations
C.A.M.F.T. (California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists)
N.S.A. (National Speakers Association) Professional Member since 1984
Publications
Magazines: Woman's Day, Personal Excellence, Care Notes
Newspapers: Marin Independent Journal, The FAX, San Francisco
Chronicle, in-house publications for therapy organizations
Books and CDs: Total of 17 published works (www.emotionalpro.com/)
Education/Credentials
M.S.W. from University of California in Berkeley
Two California Licenses: Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Social Worker
Lifetime Jr. College Instructor License in California
Host of Internet radio program (since 2004)Full Power Living, focused on "awakening the world to the power and importance of human emotions"
http://www.emotionalpro.com/
Past/Present Clients
Write me for a partial list; or look on my web site, www.emotionalpro.com/
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