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Hello,

One of my issues is that I, for some strange reason, keep coming back to certain irritating scenes in my past and reliving them differently with me being more aggressive in those scenes than in the real past. Or I imagine possible future scenarios where I am very aggressive towards certain rather hostile people. Say, about 10 scenes or so, in all. How do I get out of frequently thinking about such matters and returning to the present? Thanks, Geoff.

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Hi Geoff

I think you're very smart to take this action to manage your thoughts and imagery. I think what your mind is trying to do is correct what has happened in the past, and protect you in possible future scenarios. Your mind is always working to heal and keep you safe, even when it's very hard to understand what it's doing.

I have worked a lot with individuals, using imagery to address both past and future threatening situations, without aggression--but with significant power and strength. You will find those guidelines, along with several others that are also highly effective in this anger management process. These tools include three journaling exercises and three imagery processes.

Use all of these tools in a very focused and consistent manner, Geoff, and you will definitely receive benefit. Once your anger has begun to subside, emphasize the positive journaling and positive mental rehearsal exercises for pre-paving the future you choose for yourself.

By the way, every one of those 10 scenes or so may have significance for you. I encourage you to journal about each of them, if it feels right to you. You could do this by 1) Describing the scene 2) Describing the scene from the viewpoint of the other characters that appear in your imagined scenario, and 3) Re-writing the scene with the outcome you would prefer. This is all happening in your own mind, Geoff, and you can take charge of these processes by using the tools I have recommended.

Trust your mind. Believe in the goodness and integrity of your heart and soul. You can do this.

My best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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William DeFoore, Ph.D.

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I can answer questions about: * How to deal with your own anger * How to deal with somebody else's anger * How to help an angry spouse * How to help an angry child or adolescent * How to let go of resentment and forgive * How to keep anger from ruining your life and your relationships * How to let go and get out of abusive relationships

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I have been in practice as a counselor for over 38 years. I have published two books on anger and 10 audio CD programs on anger, health and building healthy relationships. I have helped thousands of people overcome their anger by healing the cause instead of just treating the symptoms. I have a positive approach, and believe in the basic goodness of each person. Anger is basically healthy, but when it is expressed in unhealthy ways it is very destructive, and that's why most people think anger is bad. Learning to understand and accept yourself for who you are is the first step to healing and recovery from anger issues.

Publications
I am the author of: Anger: Deal With It, Heal With It, Stop It From Killing You. Health Communications, Inc. 2004. Anger Among Angels: Shedding Light On The Darkness Of The Human Soul. Health Communications, Inc. 2000. Serai: Bringing The Children Home. Wingspan Press, 2007.

Education/Credentials
B.A. Sociology; M.A. Clinical Psychology; Ph.D. Counselor Education; Licensed Professional Counselor. You can view my full resume here.

Awards and Honors
Adjunct Faculty with the Cooper Wellness Program, of the Cooper Aerobics Center in Dallas Texas.

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