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This information is intended for adults. Please do not submit a question if you are under age 18. I can answer a variety of questions about masturbation for both males and females: When an individual is beginning to masturbate(especially females), there can be so many questions and some just need a few tips to get started. I also address special interest topics such as 'how can I make it feel better when I masturbate?', body movement and sounds that happen during masturbation, prolonged masturbation, extending the plateau phase, multiple orgasm, and improving intensity of orgasm. Dont be apprehensive about asking what you need to know. Recent statistics show that 75% of women and almost 100% of men masturbate by their 18th birthday. Masturbating is a normal part of growing and the experiences can be stimulating , refreshing, and satisfying for both males and females.

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I have been privileged to help both women and men via email and instant messaging
Masturbating is beneficial for both sexes. Females have more to gain from it than males. During masturbation females learn what it takes to satisfy their urges and cravings and find the sexual release their body needs. I have helped many young ladies achieve their first orgasm. One middle-age woman who was not sure she had ever experienced an orgasm, began to masturbate to orgasm 2 to 4 times a week after we worked together for about 2 months. Another woman experienced her first episode of multiple orgasm as she experimented with the exercises and assignments given her. Some have been helped to build up to more intensely satisfying orgasms, or simply to make it feel better, to learn to get extreme sexual pleasure during their time of relaxing and personal enjoyment, even if there is no orgasm; its OK. Maybe I can help you make it feel good. Let me try.

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Masturbation - Problems with orgasms

Expert: David Carney - 11/2/2009

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Hey David, ok I've been masturbating since I was about 8 (give or take a year or so). The problem is I can never get myself to orgasm by fingering. Ever since I've been masturbating, it's really only been done by rubbing my finger over my clit with my wetness until I reach my orgasm (which annoyingly comes pretty quickly). When I insert a finger, it just feels like all my vaginal muscles tense up and if I start moving the finger in and out, it starts hurting a bit or I feel like I need to pee. I just can't seem to get pleasure by inserting something. Ive come pretty close to having sex, but embarrassing as it was, I couldn't go ahead with it because it hurt to much when the guy was trying to insert his penis. I've also been fingered a few times but have never orgasmed by that either (one time it even hurt for the guy to insert his finger). However I have orgasmed from oral sex, but only a couple of times, and nothing too satisfying, even though the guy seemed exceptionally good at the job of licking my pussy. How do I achieve an orgasm by fingering myself? Is it possible for a vagina to be too tight? And how do I make my standard (now boring) orgasms from just rubbing my clit last longer? I get very aroused at the slightest things, too; The most basic dirty talking, my panties rubbing against me if i sit a particular way, the slightest touch to my inner thighs, or even a basic passionate sex scene in a movie. How do I make my masturbating experiences more erotic and satisfying and long lasting? I hope my questions were explained clearly enough, and I appreciate you taking the time to help people with similar difficulties. I love that you seem to spend a considerate amount of time on each person's questions, like you geniuenly care. Thanks :)

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Thank you for your comments. I do care sweetheart. These are very serious matters that usually go overlooked. You can tell me anything; you wont shock me. You need to get it out on the table so we can deal with it and you can have the help you need and desire to have.

I do understand your concern over your too-quick orgasm. Many girls reading this would love to have that problem, but when you have it, then it becoomes an obstacle to complete sexual release and I know you are craving that. I need you to talk to me more about the feeeling of needing to pee while you are moving your finger in and out of your vaginal opening. How deep do you put your finger in and do you think your finger is going toward the front of your body , pointing to a spot below your belly button? This is important , please try to to it again and notice for me the direction of your finger that is probing inside you.

To get th etype of orgasm you want, one that fulfills your seexual needs, you will probably require a combination of clitoral rubbing(rubbing near your clit and beside it, not directly on it, and some fignering and other body stimulation. I will discuss it in detail with you. Please send a message to my direct email: d2d299@yahoo.com
Your arousal at the slightest things is bringing you to orgasm too quickly, but I want to show you how to use that very personal trait to your advantage. I need to ask you more questions. You should take heart. You will do fine Im sure.

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