i am twelve years old and am smitten with many guys in my class.
my only problem is that nobody likes me AND I MEAN NOBODY. i just feel all alone. do you think you can help me.

Hi Nicole!
I'm sorry to hear abut what you are going through, but I hope you'll believe me that most people got through this, I sure did!
Be yourself! It sounds cheesy and stupid but it's absolutely important! If you change who you are, what you like, how you look or anything else to try and be attractive to someone, they will not be attracted to you, they will only be attracted to the show you are putting on. It is worth it to find someone who truly likes you!
Be confident! Again, cheesy, but it works. Hols your head up high, be proud of who you are, and the quirks of your personality. Don't worry about the little stuff. We all think we are weird and no one else does the things we do and they judge us for it, and as we get older we find that's not true. Everyone has quirks and things they're not proud of, and good people won't care about yours at all!
You're not alone sweetie. if you want to chat I'd love that. I'm not online a lot but maybe you can catch me. Find me on yahoo at
-Heather :)


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I can answer most questions about male and female masturbation including physical, mental and ethical aspects. I've helped many girls and women, and some men, with issues like not enough pleasure, too much or too little masturbation, mutual masturbation and teaching others, and using it to improve your sex life or life in general. If I do not already know the answer to your question, I will gladly find it or refer you to someone who does.


I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

Volunteered for one year at a local soup kitchen which also counseled clients. Worked one-on-one with clients as a Volunteer Life Counselor there, finding solutions to financial, shelter and clothing needs.

Bachelor's Degree in Psychology from a Central Oklahoma University.

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I have helped many friends, my own sisters, college roommates, my friend's brother, a few men and women online.

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