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I can't think of why I feel this way but since I obviously know about masturbation like everybody else, I've been feeling guilty, depressed, and even scared about the extremely powerful masturbatory joy I experienced in my childhood and teenage years as well as a few noteworthy experiences in recent years. It doesn't make any since to me whatsoever why I'm now feeling this bad about masturbation because while I was growing up I was never told that masturbation was wrong or sinful and never made to feel bad about it in any other way in fact during my childhood, I literally thought I was the only person in the entire world who was stimulating my genitals, and since I didn't yet have the word 'masturbation' in my vocabulary at the time I called it "Naa Naa" especially because I was already fantasizing about other guys at such a young age(starting at age four and five for me). Since I was never taught to feel bad about masturbating but now do so in my adulthood(age 30 by now), could this maybe be some kind of sexual anxiety that perhaps I'm not aware of? Also, I now find myself hesitant to enjoy masturbation, and I'm wondering if this means that maybe, for whatever reason, I might be scared of the psychological and spiritual pleasure that I feel also comes w/ extremely intense masturbation sessions. Of course I also know that masturbation is an important part of growing up and learning about one's sexuality but now that I'm older and feeling strange and upset about my childhood and teenage masturbatory joy, as an adult, it's caused me to feel like a shell of my former childhood and teenage self and made me feel as if I'm some kind of community that has never fully recovered from a catastrophic natural disaster

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Hello again David,
I'm sorry but I'm not a trained counselor or therapist. We are all just volunteers. My expertise deals with helping people masturbate, I'm afraid I just don't know much about sexual disorders or anxieties. It certainly sounds to me like you have way too much time to think about all of this stuff. If you don't have a full time job or active social life I would encourage you to work at that, because this amount of self-analysis over this sort of this is a bit unhealthy. It's likely the more you think about it/analyze it the worse it will get, sort of a self-fulfilling prophecy if you will.
For more in-depth advice about why you may be dealing with this anxiety I would recommend seeing a licensed counselor.
Good luck!
-Heather

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I can answer most questions about male and female masturbation including physical, mental and ethical aspects. I've helped many girls and women, and some men, with issues like not enough pleasure, too much or too little masturbation, mutual masturbation and teaching others, and using it to improve your sex life or life in general. If I do not already know the answer to your question, I will gladly find it or refer you to someone who does.

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I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

Organizations
Volunteered for one year at a local soup kitchen which also counseled clients. Worked one-on-one with clients as a Volunteer Life Counselor there, finding solutions to financial, shelter and clothing needs.

Education/Credentials
Bachelor's Degree in Psychology from a Central Oklahoma University.

Past/Present Clients
I have helped many friends, my own sisters, college roommates, my friend's brother, a few men and women online.

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