Hi, I am 20 years old female and a virgin. I've never had sex because I've always wanted to wait for someone special but honestly I can be very aroused a lot of times.
I have been masturbating for quite a while, since I am 13 years. old. At first I used to be able to orgasm by stimulating my clit and it felt great, but since a couple of years I haven't been able to orgasm at all. I do the same things and I have even tried to used things that vibrate to achieve and it feels good but just when I am about to orgasm it all goes away. I don't know what is wrong but it frustrates me. I don't know if I will ever be able to orgasm again.

Hi Laura.  Masturbating doesn't necessarily feel the same way every time, and there are days when a person just can't have an orgasm.  But if you haven't been able to orgasm at all in years, you might have a problem that a doctor should check out.  It is also important to have your mind clear and focused and be in a relaxed state when you masturbate.  Try to put your worries aside, and don't be anxious about having or not having an orgasm.


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