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Hi!

I don't quite know how to go about this so I'll just get right into it: I'm a nineteen year old woman and I've been masturbating since I was sixteen. The first time I masturbated, I had my first full-blown orgasm; I continued to masturbate and have orgasms, but never again with the same intensity. In fact, they started to peter out over the past three years, to the point that now, in spite of a situation where I am sexually aroused, to get to the point of an orgasm is incredibly hard work and usually not worth the pay off because it is such a "blah/meh" experience now. I don't know why this has happened. I'm bisexual and recognise that I am so it's not that.

I have a boyfriend and although we haven't had sex yet, I am worried that it won't be good for me because of these aforementioned continuous masturbation experiences. The problem started before he and I began a relationship. Again, sexual arousal is not usually the issue but it sometimes can be. I don't know what to think. Could you please provide some insight so I know how to better go about this?

Thanks!

-Sonia

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Have you tried using toys? Vibrators?

I will say that having sex with a man it's hard to orgasm. I mean while being penetrated. Most women cannot have an orgasm that way, so don't feel bad. But I would buy a vibrator. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, try you shower head if you can. If you can't what techniques have you tired, and get back to me.

Angie :)

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I can answer any questions related to female and male masturbation. I have had a psychology practice in the state of Florida for the past ten years. I deal with, but not exclusively, females who have or are dealing with many types of sexual changes. There are NO questions that are wrong to ask about masturbation. I take every questions seriously, and will help you in anyway I can. Please feel free to ask anything, and know you will get my best advice and judgment. I have included a photo of myself on my profile. This is so you can see who you are talking to. :)

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As previous stated, I have practiced over ten year in helping teen and adults overcome numerous sexual anxiety, questions about masturbation, and sexual desires --- all of which were done on a clinic level.

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I have a Maser's Degree in Human Sexuality from the University of Miami. I also have a Master's Degree in Psychology from the Florida State University.

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Because of the sensitivity of the issue, I would never release names of pasts clients.

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