Masturbation/can't orgasm...

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"Hi im 18 tomorrow and I have been masterbating for 1.5 years now
I rub the clit back and forth, usualy with the shower head but latley
with fingers too, I have also started to put a finger in and have succseded
in 2 acuple of days ago. But I have not been able to orgasam..I think.
Also I bought a vibrator yesterday....its very small.
Here are my questions:
1) when I put a finger inside it feels very bummpy and weird also I feel
a weird thing inside there that I can push back but it always moves back to the
front of the hole, is that normal and what is it?
2) I dont feel any pleasure when I put a finger in....am I supposed to?
3) And finally....how do I cum and how can I know it happend?
Thank you so much!!!"

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What you describe is normal.  I don't think you have a problem with your anatomy.  Most females start by masturbating externally (clitorally) and only start masturbating internally (vaginally) later.  You might have an easier time reaching orgasm if you masturbated by touching your clitoris or the area around it.  You will know when you have an orgasm.  It is a total-body response that involves heavy breathing, throbbing or pulsing in the genital region, and usually an urge to cry out.

You might read http://www.healthystrokes.com/female.html for more ideas.

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