AboutDavid Carney Expertise This information is intended for adults. Please do not submit a question if you are under age 18. I can answer a variety of questions about masturbation for both males and females: When an individual is beginning to masturbate(especially females), there can be so many questions and some just need a few tips to get started. I also address special interest topics such as 'how can I make it feel better when I masturbate?', body movement and sounds that happen during masturbation, prolonged masturbation, extending the plateau phase, multiple orgasm, and improving intensity of orgasm. Dont be apprehensive about asking what you need to know. Recent statistics show that 75% of women and almost 100% of men masturbate by their 18th birthday. Masturbating is a normal part of growing and the experiences can be stimulating , refreshing, and satisfying for both males and females.
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Masturbating is beneficial for both sexes. Females have more to gain from it than males. During masturbation females learn what it takes to satisfy their urges and cravings and find the sexual release their body needs.
I have helped many young ladies achieve their first orgasm.
One middle-age woman who was not sure she had ever experienced an orgasm, began to masturbate to orgasm 2 to 4 times a week after we worked together for about 2 months.
Another woman experienced her first episode of multiple orgasm as she experimented with the exercises and assignments given her.
Some have been helped to build up to more intensely satisfying orgasms, or simply to make it feel better, to learn to get extreme sexual pleasure during their time of relaxing and personal enjoyment, even if there is no orgasm; its OK. Maybe I can help you make it feel good. Let me try.
I am a 35 yr old male with no health issues.
But i do have a concern that is bothering me now.
I started masturbating when i was about 15,i never really kept track of how often,i did it whenever i felt i needed to,maybe a few times a week at first and after awhile it was everyday,but my masturbating has increased since the late 90's when i got the internet and i discovered porn sites i started masturbating about 2-5 times a day,and in the last year i have kinda gotten addicted to masturbating on cam with others and find myself masturbating sometimes when i really dont want or need to but out of lack of self control and addiction to it.
Now in 2002 i was with a girl that i really liked and desired to have sex with and it got to the point where we were naked and having oral sex but i could not get my penis hard enough,it was semi hard but not enough to penetrate...i figured it was because i was a bit nervous about the situation and i was married and have never cheated before and had a guilty feeling about it even though the girl i was with that day felt like my true soulmate.
Well since then i have had sex with my wife many times and sometimes if i am really in the mood i am able to perform as expected but some other times i have that same problem of not being able to get hard enough to penetrate and everytime now that we have sex it worries me before we even get started that i will have that problem.
Now growing up i have read a few times where it was said that masturbation is not bad for you so i thought all of this was due to me getting older or having some kinda problem that will require me to take drugs like viagra to be able to have good sex..until yesterday when i looked on the internet about masturbation and found lots of things on how over masturbation can effect many things in the body and i found out i have a couple of the other problems listed such as being tired all the time and thinning of hair.
For the past few years i have felt tired all the time,sometimes within hours of waking.
So after i read all that stuff on masturbation yesterday i am a bit relieved to know that my penis not getting hard,excessive tiredness,and thinning hair is most likely due to over masturbation...but now i am a bit afraid to masturbate anymore now that i realize this and even more worried that i have damaged my body beyond repair.
So my questions to you are:
Is my sex life ruined now beyond repair or will i be able to get the life back in my penis i once had?
Can i be cured from these over masturbation effects naturally without taking the drugs that are suggested on other websites and what is best to help my body regain its lost fluids and repair itself?
If i stop masturbating completly or a couple times a week will this help my body get back to normal?
Please if you have any knowledge of this get back to me.
Thanks,
Chad
Answer Hey Chad. Relax Bud, its going to be OK. I know this is a serious matter and you are feeling frustrated and worried about not getting hard enough to get into a waman you want and need. Who wouldnt be frustarated over that? But you are doing the right thing and yes, do slow down to twice a week or none at all.
How often does your wife want sex, and how often would she have sex with you if you were able and ready every time? If she will let you into her 3 or 4 times a week , then why would you want to masturbate? Please answer that carefully, it is not a loaded question but deserves an honest answer from you.
Get some licorice root capsules if you dont have high blood pressure or other illnesses. Take the licorice as recommended on the label and get some longjax capsules from Swanson Vitamins if you can. Yohimbe is easy to get and will give help with your erection hardness, but take small doses at first, it is potent, increases the heart rate and raises the blood pressure as well. Maca and damiania will help you feel like having sex but they dont do a whole lot for your erection. These are all natural herbal supplements. Yohimbe is great for getting your penis hard if you can take it. Be careful; and take it if it does not bother you in any way.
To decrease the number of times you ejaculate your semen will in itself help most of the problems you mentioned. Can you stop masturbating? You have a wife who wants sex with you. Listen to me. I know what Im talking about. Give her your sex, your body and appreciate her buddy. We are not all so fortunate. Some (many) wives are cold and have no sexual needs, or will not admit their sexual needs and desires. I am not lecturing you. There is time to save your intimacy with your wife. Please do it.
The payment I receive from providing this service is the response I get form people who are helped. Please, if you will, let me know if this helps you and whether or not you can stop masturbating or what level you are willing to drop back to. I know as well as anyone how difficult it is to stop masturbating. I finally am able to control my masturbation, but it took hard work and determination. But your situation is different. I hope you can talk to your wife about this and I hope you will be open with me about what you and she decide and how it works out for you.
If you want to keep this matter private between you and her I respect that; but if you are comfortable with sharing with me, I appreciate it and I dont take it lightly.
I think you will do well because you are sincere with your plea for help.
David
