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i am 18 yrs old now .. from age of 15 i have been masturbating. i did not knew lots about that in those periods i did nearly 3 times a day.later around 17 i tried to stop it. but my efforts were in vain. but still i controlled my self to twice 2 week . for past one week i hav stopped.now for past one year i had buzzing in my ears . now (for few months)a slight head ache. then i came to know that these side effects are due to over masturbation. now i have decided to stop. will my activities for past 3 years affect my sex life in my 30s and above. wil my buzzing in ears stop if i stop masturbating . is there i have to fear about these buzzing in ears . the slight head ache is also occurring a very few times only. i hav decided to stop masturbating for atlest one month . so that it would become a practice later that i masturbate less . very very less. is this adviceable . please give me a solution for my confussed mind.
Hello Sir, thank you for your question. It is not so bad that you masturbated 3 times per day from age 15 to 17. I think you must have found a great deal of satisfaction. For younger males and females I usually recommend they masturbte once each day if they feel the need. Some reach orgasm as many as 5 times on some days, and others once a week or not at all.
Masturbating is a personal preference and a very personal act. Some sites are now advising that complete privacy is not needed for every act of masturbation. Intense pleasure can be almost overwhelming when it is shared with another person or persons, whether male or female.
Since you feel the masturbation is causing difficulties for you, I believe your decision to stimulate your genitals less frequently is a wise one. However, my belief is that what you have done(masturbating excessively) in your teens will not cause you sexual problems later in life. It may help you to know what you personally need to be satisfied sexually. My advice is that you masturbate when you feel the need, but learn to control your ejaculation. Learn to masturbate slowly for the pleasure you get while holding your testicles and squeezing and stroking your erect sensitive penis. Make it feel good, but dont ejaculate every time. It is an achievable goal.
I hope this helps you.
David
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Answers by Expert:
David Carney
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I can answer a variety of questions about masturbation. When an individual is beginning to masturbate(especially females), there can be so many questions and some just need a few tips to get started. I also address special interest topics such as 'how can I make it feel better when I masturbate?', body movement and sounds that happen during masturbation, prolonged masturbation, extending the plateau phase, multiple orgasm, and improving intensity of orgasm. Dont be apprehensive about asking what you need to know. Recent statistics show that 75% of women and almost 100% of men masturbate by their 18th birthday. Masturbating is a normal part of growing and the experiences can be stimulating , refreshing, and satisfying for both males and females. You will find a link below to a video that explains and illustrates female masturbation. It is tastefully done and each action and feeling is explained in detail. Since it is illustrated, of course there is nudity. It is, however, presented in a professional manner and the demonstration is actual masturbation, not poronographic exaggerations or profanity. I am pleased with the presentation and hope you will view it if you choose to learn more, and if you are not offended by the nude female body. http://www.xvideos.com/video683837/female_masturbation_instruction
Experience
10+ years teaching individuals and answering questions specific to anatomy, masturbation and orgasm.
Please be as clear and detailed as you can with your question.
Education/Credentials
Instruction in Alternative medicine and extensive research in specialized sex therapy, orgasm enhacement, and masturbation tecniques that lead to intense sexual release with emphasis on satisfaction for females.
Past/Present Clients
I have been privileged to help many women and a few men via email and instant messaging
Masturbating is beneficial. Females have more to gain from it than males. During masturbation females learn what it takes to satisfy their urges and cravings and find the sexual release their body needs.
I have helped many young ladies achieve their first orgasm.
One middle-age woman who was not sure she had ever experienced an orgasm, began to masturbate to orgasm 2 to 4 times a week after we worked together for a while.
In several cases, a woman experienced her first episode of multiple orgasms while experimenting with the exercises and assignments given her. Recently, 2 women were able to release more completly as they found the body-wracking pleasure and excitement of gspot orgasm.
Some have been helped to build up to more intensely satisfying orgasms, or simply to make it feel better, to learn to get extreme sexual pleasure during their time of relaxing and personal enjoyment, even if there is no orgasm; its OK. Maybe I can help you get more sexual pleasure and satisfaction.
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