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nice to have been in love again. wrote at 2006-09-27 17:51:00
Its sad but true.  I love a mexican man and I am African-American.  At first it was refreshing to have someone who insisted on paying, helped me around the house with manual labor and other things.  I enjoyed our gender roles.  However i am slowly but surely sliding into relationship hell.  The jealousy is unbelievable.  If you cook a couple of meals and then stop abruptly because your schedule doesn't permit, you are in for trouble.  Any type of attention given to another man is a big problem and I mean just saying hello to a neighbor or friend of many years.  If I talk on the phone he listens like a spy even though he know its one of my girlfriends (that he has already met).  The house is expected to be clean, the meal prepared, the laundry done but don't take too long doing those things because then one is "too busy".Your life is supposed to revolve around him and his needs.  The sad thing about it is so many of his friends I have met are the same way.  A few are not and have advised him not to blow this relationship as he has done so in the past.  I fear i am becoming one of those nagging complaining women men always mention because I am trying to resolve his unreasonable approach to relationship via communicating but nothing seems to register so as of this week I am starting to distance myself.  Saying I need some time alone is another argument because they don't understand that.  So in order to alleviate the breakup drama I have started to gradually pull away.  I love him so of course I am hoping for a miracle, that he would somehow come around but I know that is highly unlikely.


2 More Cents... wrote at 2006-10-29 01:50:03
Your thoughts and input are very insightful and help to make sense of all the frustration I myself have realized recently as well.  Entering into the third year of my relationship with a Mexican-American man, I too have realized things that weren't so apparent when I was initially falling in love.  I was wearing blinders. I am now deliberating on how to proceed at this point.



I am a 26 year old female and almost through with a masters degreee.  I work full time and have a long commute.  I am gone from the home usually 12 - 12 1/2 hours a day working and with my commute.  I am expected to clean, cook, take care of the pets (dog and cats) do all the laundry, sewing, etc. while also completing my homework in the evenings.  I am often not getting more than 6 hours of sleep a night which makes me sick mentally and physically.  Sadly enough, when I ask for help, even with taking the trash out which is traditionally a "man's" job, I am told I am weak and not able to do the work.  It is seen as a serious flaw with me, and not seen as something that can be shared to help me and make life a little better for me.  Regardles, I try relentlessly every day to tell him I love him and send him emails and calls.  I don't usually get a response in return.  



When we first started dating, it was great.  He was extremely sweet and caring.  He went out of his way to make me happy.  He wined and dined me and was very polite, friendly, and supportive.  However, after the dating phase, our relationship became strained.  I am a strong woman who speaks her mind.  I was taught that women can do anything that they put their mind to. I wouldn't go as far to say I am a feminist, but I believe women should have equal rights, and I look for equality in marriage.  Both people should help make each other better.  When one is down, the other should be helping to bring them up again.  This thinking as well as my esteem and energy has slowly been drained out of me. I feel my self-confidence has suffered.  I am not supposed to complain or show weakness.  I had not experienced physical violence before, but he has hit me when my "mouth" gets me into trouble. I've never used physical force on him.  Usually, I am just reacting to him verbally - he's done something to provoke me into what I consider to be simply defending myself against verbal insults.  In the past, I've said something as simple in defense as "don't talk to me that way" or "don't tell me what to do" and this evokes a 2 week period of passive agressive silence along with insults and put downs on me.  This includes turning his back on me when I desparately need his help (such as when I had a pretty frightening car accident).  This is punishment for standing up to him and challenging him and his authority.  



Needless to say, there are many good things that accompany the Mexican-American culture that I've observed such as loyalty to family, hardwork and dedication. However, PLEASE seriously consider what your responsibilities will be if marrying a Mexican man.  You will be treated accordingly to how you "serve your man", this is very true.  You will have to conform to the ideals of a good wife from the Mexican perspective, or despite your attempts or best intentions, you will most likely experience opposition and frustration.  I am not, for example, a great cook and therefore I feel his whole family looks down on me.  I was taught education, etc. was very important that is what I've concentrated on.  I wish his family could value this; however, I seriously think they look down on me because I don't get up at 4 am and cook. I have tried, don't get me wrong, but it wasn't good enough. I try to make up for the fact I don't cook by taking him out to eat all the time and buying all his favorite foods and stocking the house, but it's apparently not good enough.



We all have our strengths and weaknesses, but just consider the whole picture. And, please remember, love is bliss but also blind.





Best wishes!  


Rach B wrote at 2007-03-07 20:49:10
Hello my name is Rachael. I too am dating a full blown Mexican. He is 25 and I am 22. I am a feminist. Hardcore. Thats why most of my friends laugh at me for dating a mexican cause they know how I am with gender differences and roles. My boyfriend knows this as well. When we first started dating I couldnt stand the fact of the whole cooking and cleaning thing he would tell me about the girls in mexico did. But the fact is is I will never do those things for my boyfriend if he doesnt do them for me. My boyfriend knows that I dont really like to cook and I only know how to cook for what I like. And because he loves me he accepts that and cooks for himself or we'll cook together. Very hot by the way. lol ;) Another thing is is if he really loves you he'll listen to you and try to work it out so that your both happy. It sounds like you guys see the cultural differences and go his way without saying much. By you doing that though they dont see any harm in you doing everything and dont give it much a thought. So my addvice would be do what you want to do. I tell my boyfriend all the time that just because your girl that doesnt mean you should be doing all the cleaning and cooking. So he knows. And if he didnt understand that and didnt listen then I would simply dump him because if you really love someone you try to make them happy and sacrafice for each other not just one person doing all the sacraficeing. Keep in mind though at the same time many men will try to make it seem they cook and clean but once you get married it changes. So you have to stand your ground. Who is telling you guys you have to cook and clean for these guys anyway. Theres no law. Yes I know you love him but if he loves you too then he will try to adapt to your liking and cultural as well. It sounds like to me their just trying to control you guys. And dont do all of that stuff for them if your just dating too. Theyll look at that and no appriciate it. trust me. And for the whole hiting thing shouldnt that be a sign right there to end it. Remember too that sometimes guys especially mexican tend to take their wives or grild freiend for granted when if comes to cooking and cleaning so dont do it unless they say thank you. Dont ever do anything that goes unrecognized or if they dont do the same thing. Hope this helps.  


rasa wrote at 2007-05-03 13:02:10
I too am dating a Mexican man...  Just returned from a trip to Mexico that, in the abstract, was supposed to be about the two of us having a wonderful romantic time together and minimally about a work event he was going to attend.  Instead, it became an occasion for him to berate me for my lack of 'support' and, the first evening of our arrival - he broke up with me.  2 days later he announced that he had changed his mind.  And has behaved as though I should feel blessed (and otherwise keep my opinions on the matter to myself).  He is HIGHLY controlling and very very jealous.  The moments that he spins off into jealous angry rants are impossible to predict.  At the same time, when he's in good spirits things are terrifically romantic and warm and wonderful.  Ultimately, this is merely confusing in most respects.   I am very independent and yet find myself increasingly insecure and trying to anticipate the 'more traditional' roles/behaviours he expects...  It's all for not.  I am not Mexican and in his mind Mexican women have some sort of endless compassion and understanding.  So, my behaviour necessarily falls short of his 'ideal'.  I'm confused about it in my own right - but I think the lack of support and infinite expectations/demands/controlling behaviours and jealousy are a trend in these e-mails.  It's sad of course - and yet, I can't help but wonder how anyone could live in this dynamic.  The question I asked myself yesterday is "would I wish this on a friend' and the answer is a definitive 'no'.  Maybe that should be the guiding light in the decision as to whether to stay or to go?


TRUTH HURTS wrote at 2007-07-27 04:12:01
Hi Rasa,

You are not alone.  I was dating a Mexican man for several years.  In the beginning, it was beautiful, he was very kind, thoughtful and considerate. I really thought he was my best friend in the beginning and we did so much together. He loved to pay for everything and help me with manual labor around the house. He was very helpful and happy to be with me.  He worked hard to "woo" me.  WE had a lot of fun together in the beginning.  Then after we lived together for a couple of years, I saw how things really changed. Perhaps this is true with any man, but still.  He was no longer the loving sweet, kind man I had once thought he was.  He became a controlling, jealous, angry (if not served to his liking) different & difficult person.  I am not a cook by nature, but have tried many, many times to learn and try new recipes and gotten many good cooking books and even took lessons/notes from his Mom when she visited.  Yet, I felt I never measured up. When I tried to ask for help around the house with chores, he looked down on me as if I coudln't handle it. He said no women in his life have ever complained about the work. He does the yard work and dumps the trash, but that's about it.  I also do the yardwork about 65% of the time. I do "women's" and "men's" work to get done what needs to be done. I know exactly what you mean about anticipating the 'more traditional roles/behaviors' he expects. I too was pretty confidant, outgoing and fun loving before this relationship.  I hold an advanced degree and a good job.  I work long hours and have a long drive home, but I always met him at home with a smile and kiss the moment I walk in the door.  Sometimes he is in a good mood, sometimes he is bad mood and takes it out on me emotionally, mentally, etc.  I do not do this to him, honestly - I've cherished him.  I look forward to the times when he is happy with me that I do little to try to upset him.  When I have opinions other than him he doesn't like it and it causes problems for us.  It is true he expects to be the sole decision maker on life decisions. This always bothered me and caused upset and many problems for us.  I didn't grow up this way and it was hard to accept, and I still haven't.  I was taught girls were just as good as boys and could do anyting males could.  What a contrast!  Well, maybe it's true opposites attract as they say...



Anyway, I made him number one as he wanted, and in time it was taken for granted.  In addition to my studies, I would do the housework and stay up until 1:30 am or so just finishing laundry during the work week.  This was never met with a thank you, or I appreciate you - it is expected time and time again.  I remember thinking when we first lived together that serving him was like taking care of a young child. Everything that went wrong was my fault and I had to fix it, etc.  Everything was my fault, no responsibility was taken - for the organization of the house, his own happiness, etc. I took the blame for everything time and time again. It was very frustrating, but I kept trying time and time again - but it still wasn't good enough or lived up to how his mother did it.  After time, my sense of self-worth was eroded.  I was never so low in my life. I felt I didn't measure up to Mexican culture and felt I was an outsider because of my lack of perfect domestic skills, even though I had always been proud of my education and other talents.  Seriously - not to be dramatic, but I know exactly what you mean and I just had to post.  Take it from someone who's been there - if you are questioning this now I just recommend that you really consider your situation and ask yourself if you will be happy in the long run, no matter how much you may love him now.  There are many beautiful things about Mexican culture from what I've experienced thus far, but equality in marriage is not one of the most common traits from what I've observed.


Stephanie wrote at 2007-10-14 05:43:04
I'm a Californian dating a younger man originally from Mexico.  What I have found was this.  In the beginning, he was so happy to be with me and everything was great.  As time passed, and I was outside of his normal experience or expectation of a female, the tension and the power struggles increased.  When I say power struggle, I mean something very suttle.  It took me awhile to recognize that this was the dynamic.  I just thought it was normal for me to express and assert myself...little did I know!



I can sum this up by saying that I found him to be a wonderfully generous, very insecure man...probably more insecure based on the differences in my social economic status and his.  I found that he would manipulate the relationship or try to control it by not communicating, devaluing or ignoring my feelings - particularly in situations of conflict.  Basically, if I felt we needed to work on something about the relationship, it was my problem and my bigger problem for bringing it up!  After awhile, I felt like Margaret Mead observing some kind of cultural anthropology assignment.  This guy was so far out compared to what I felt was adult behavior in relationships that it became comical.  Ultimately, I was very disappointed because he has a lot of great qualities, but like I told him, you need to get out of your own way.


Leticia Lopez Fuentes wrote at 2007-10-24 02:14:19
Mexican men suck. Take it from a Mexican woman. They are set millions upon millions of years back on the modern level of men and what is to be expected of their role as men.

These men cheat as if they were still single. In a Mexican mans life, he will always be single regardless of marriage. He is the "Macho". They are jealous, lie every chance they get, but are oh sooo proud. They make their wives stand in the food stamp line because they are to macho to take a hand out yet impregnate every chance they get. Trust me, run like hell out of that relationship.

The young one's don't seem to fair any better, what with gangs and all.


Real Mexican wrote at 2007-11-24 03:55:27
Hi:



I am Mexican woman and it called my attention that foreign women whom had married Mexican men struggled so much in the relationship.  



It is well known that Mexican men have a "macho" mentality , but it is no sol well known that more and more Mexican women are choosing to do NOT put off with that behavior.



We know, that Mexican men are wonderful boyfriends ,they are gentlemen who will do all king of nice things to pleasure and "show" that they are great guys. But we, Mexican women of new generations do not fall for that facade that easy anymore.  You would be surprised how many women, like myself, who have economic independence, a network of friends, personal goals and just a pure instict can detect a lier.



As a Mexican I would say , that the worst thing is to fall for the niceties of a Mexican boyfried , they guy MUST be tested through several stages before marrying him.



examples would , how does he react when you are with your males friends?,  does he expect you to leave your work or career to take care of him (please , read Mama's boy, he's not looking a partner but a servant)...does he respect your finances or he wants to be the one who say the last word on money (I smell trouble there)?



We Mexican women, I believe , are rainsing new generations of Mexicans, with more equaliy between boy and girls , but it is still a slow process and it has not spread all over the country , rural areas are still very old fashioned. We are still far behind many other countries. But trust me, most Mexican women 40 and under, would not tolerate a guy as you have described him.



Mexican women are mistankenly protrayed as being happy and willing to be maids of their husband, to accept mistreatment and inequalities, authority as little girls...that's not so true nowadays.  


Mexican wrote at 2008-01-28 01:40:52
In addition to all the above, it really doesn't matter what race the man is, because I am with an American who acts that way too!!


la otra mujer wrote at 2008-03-11 01:19:52
I have been dating a Mexican man from Mexico for more than four years now and he has been wonderful to me.  We both cook and he does the dishes most of the time, I do the laundry.  He buys and I buy when we go out.  I have no problems or power struggles with him, as of thus far.  He has a great sense of humor too.


JENNIFER SOTO wrote at 2008-06-12 20:14:04
MEXICAN MEN AFTER MARRIAGE DON'T WANT TO CONTINUE TO TREAT THE WOMAN SPECIAL THEY THINK WHY SHE IS ALREADY MINE AND ISN'T GOING ANYWHERE BUT HERE ALSO DON'T WANT TO GO OUT ANYWHERE WITH THE WIFE ANYMORE PREFERS TO GO OUT WITH FRIENDS AND BY HIM SELVES WHILE THE WIFE IS AT HOME OR SOMEWHERE HE KNOWS SHE IS AT. THEY ALSO DON'T LIKE TO COMMUNICATE THE SAME WOMAN SHOULD DO WHAT THERE TOLD AND SPEAK ONLY WHEN SPOKEN TO AND CLEAN UP AFTER HIM AND WHO EVER HE INVITES TO THE HOUSE WHEN YOUR NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE FRIENDS OVER JUST DO WHAT HE WANTS AND WHAT HE NEEDS AND ALL IS WELL  AND THIS IS SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE


lucky wrote at 2008-07-15 16:06:53
I am dating a Mexican man who opens doors, cooks for me (then cleans the kitchen), and constantly tells me how cute i am.  On our first date he paid for dinner and the movie and when we went out for a glass of wine after i asked if i could pay as i took out my credit card and he looked very surprised and let me pay for it and didn't have a problem with it, and i think kind of liked it.  He tells me how cool it is that i had a successful career (which i gave up in order to start a family with my white American (now ex-)husband), that i'm confident, and that now i am such a great single mom.  He grew up in the U.S. and i think i'm getting the best of both worlds in him.  Each person is different.


whitecastle wrote at 2008-12-02 16:42:42
I am an American woman who has been living with a Mexican man for four years now and I have experienced all of the things described here - on my man's worst days.  He is no more to blame for the expectations he was raised with - that he would have a woman dedicated to taking care of him and worried about nothing else - than I am for those I was raised with - that I would have a career and be able to pursue whatever life path I chose.  There have been and I am sure will continue to be cultural clashes and issues based on the differences between his expectations and mine.  But one of the things I value most about my man is his ability to see those expectations for what they are - what we were taught to expect - and to realize that our reality can be what we choose, whether it matches those expectations or not.  My man is what I have come to believe is very rare - a "true" macho.  Yes he expects all the privileges - but he takes all the responsibility as well.  He is a hard worker and has very high integrity, and uses his intelligence to do his best to try to make the best decisions he can for our family, whether or not they're counter to what he grew up believing.  But of course, who doesn't like having a live-in "servant." <sigh - grin>  My man is the strongest man I've ever known, and I trust him to be what he says he is.  That's the bottom line for me, and why I choose to deal with the issues our cultural differences present.  In the end, they are all individuals, and while it is important to be aware of the influence of cultural expectations, it is equally important to be receptive to the individual man, and make an informed assessment of your fit with him based on your knowledge of him personally and of yourself.  Best wishes - M


silverptcruiser wrote at 2008-12-11 05:15:44
i love mexican men like crazy i was with this mexican guy named antonio he and i were truley in love. then an x friend stole my cell phone and messed everything up. i want him back so badly it hurts any tips on getting him back


WASP wrote at 2009-02-19 23:39:35
Mexicans bumrushed the country. In 1931 they were about 1.15% of the country. Today entire states like California are sinking under their weight. There is so much false information about them out there it's ridiculous. They killed 70% of the Indians in California during the spanish-mexican invasion of the Southwest before Europeans even got here. Then they abandoned it except for about 5,000 before California became a state.


TIFFANY wrote at 2009-07-25 06:07:40
I have all the

same probloms

but worse i get

beat on almost

everyday im not

shur how to leave

with out being

scared? We have

a baby together

hes been deported

be 4 is in jail

currently he has

be littled me so

bad i dont know

who i am as a

independent

women any more

im scared 4 my

self because he

swears hel

change and i fear

wen he gos back

2 mexico il just go

there again like

last time i keep

telling my self if

mexican women

are strong enough

to put up with it

why cant i mabie

if i meet up 2 his

high standards i

wount get hurt

and every thing

will be ok for are

daughter.  


christina guerra wrote at 2009-10-28 17:39:58
OK this is my answer to any of the questions that are here on this message board..I am 28 yrs old now and i have dated nothing but mexicans since i was old enough to date. My first husband was mexican. We have 2 beautiful children together. He was very caring loving and treated me as he would treat his mother. I went with him to Mexico and his family welcomed me with open arms we are still very close to this day. But he was here for 5 yrs before i met him. We divorced because of small things that had happend with our 7 yrs of marriage as most marriages split and differences happen. He was not a machismo and showed his feelings for me. OK now i met a guy 4 yrs ago named Carlos me and him were friends nothing more. We hung out and everything he wanted to be with me but i didnt want to be with him. I only seen him as a friend up until 2 yrs ago. I moved in with him because of finacial hard times and i had children to think about. when i moved in with him things changed and i quickly began to have feelings for him. we had the best relationship until he thought i was his servant and it was my job to do everything for him. I told him how i felt about him behaving that way. we ended up spliting up for a few hours and he came looking for me. He did not grow up with his mother because she passed away when he was little. he did however have a step mother but his father only married this woman to take care of his children after his first wife had died. she dealt with his cheating and drinking and still does to this day. So carlos has grown up believing this type of behavior is right. 2 months ago carlos went back to mexico to see his other 2 small children. his ex now has her own family with another child . she cheated on him when he was making his way across the border to make a better life for them. so in a week i am going to be with him there in mexico with our child. i have told him that i will not be his servant but if he loves me that he will realize im leaving my life here in the usa to be with him . he told me he understands and that he loves me and cant live without me. i can only hope he lives up to this and doesnt change how he is. i love him with all my heart and want nothing more than a normal life with him. and i can only hope his macho ways dont interfere with our relationship i guess i better keep my guard up. so my answer to questions are.. it depends on how the man was raised and what he seen growing up.


Lydia wrote at 2010-02-06 04:19:58
My name is Lydia. I am also dating a full-blooded Mexican. I'm African American. He wants be to do everything for him like a baby. We broke up and got back together. He begged me to get back with him and I decided to give him another shot, but now i not sure if it's going to work. I was raised on education first and family and the partner helping out too, but he wants me to do the women job of cleaning and everything else. that's not me!!


jp wrote at 2010-02-25 07:42:48
Hi there! I am from Mexico and I am male. I want to say that the above answer was completly true. I would just like to add something else. Probably your ex-boyfriend still had the Old-style. Right now I am in a relationship with a Canadian and to be honest I don't have that kind of attitude. But I can see all the behaviours that you mentioned bacause I am living outside of Mexico. From my experiences I can say that our cultures can work well together for ever as a couple or a friendly relationship.



Cheers  


Happily Married wrote at 2010-03-01 17:25:51
Hi there, I am a white woman that has been married to a Mexican man for about 3 years now. Not all of them are the same, I have been really happy.  Yes, its true that at first they put out all the stops but most men are like that to begin with. He is really responsible and takes very good care of his family here and his parents in Mexico.  I do do most of the cleaning and cooking but if I cant he will take over and he still makes sure that I am okay.  I agree with the Mexican lady that said that most of them test the Mexican men, I told mine what I expected and what I wanted up front and he has more repect for me for doing that. So try not to think that they are all the same they are not.  And good luck.


iliili wrote at 2010-04-09 02:01:19
I am a young Mexican woman. When I was 18, I started dating a very handsome white man who at the time was 26. At the beginning, just like most men, he was incredibly wonderful. After about 6 months of being together he became obssesive, controlling, and didn't let me wear most of the clothes I used to wear when he met me! Even though, i've never been with a Mexican man, which i also dont plan too (ive seen many of my aunts still get beat by their mexican husbands!! Hello women!! its 2010,, if he beats u,, he's not worth sh*t!!!), i think their culture has nothing to do with it. All men are different and mixing different cultures is very complicated!


Anna wrote at 2010-04-16 06:22:49
I've read every single message put here, and I've experienced a lot of trouble with men throughout my life... I don't think the culture matters I have to agree with the one message that said 'depends on how they were raised' If you don't like how the relationship is going change it!!! it is 2010 and we as women have equal rights and if they don't like that they can go back and suckle on mommies titties...


TIFFANY K wrote at 2010-05-13 03:24:41
I googled the same question and found this.  I am only 20 but have been around Mexicans.  As in full illegal Mexicans.  My dad is hispanic but american.  But i have been with my fiance for three years.  we have a child together two next month. I know I seem young I am but he is 30. So i get the full mexican treatment.  At first I did not act like the mexican girl.  I was 17 and into sports when we got together, moved in with a girl he lived there too.  that is how we met.  got together with me always saying i dont act like those girls men dont tell me what to do.  that was cool with him the first month.  after that he complained about cooking but not so bad cause roomates did, oh yes and so did his ex girlfriend.  together with child at the time i did not know she is 25.  but he was over a lot. he had 2 homes really.  after the first month he was 27 i was 17 and being beat on. he was into drugs behind my back.  he was a drunk as well.  he became controlling, i got hit for not making bed.  i got hit for talking back.  i got hit for not going to the room cause his friend looked at me wrong at a party at the house.  i hid the bruises, my roomates knew.  it was me my guy a girl and three other mex men living together.  i was not use to that life.  i went to private school and was very lucky that i had the options in life growing up.  i gave that up for freedom, not knowing it would all change.  after 7 months togther i found out i was 5 weeks preg.  it was 2 weeks after my 18 bday and having a baby with someone 28 that was on drugs and beats me.  we moved out and lived with new friends then rented a room from one of my parents place.  we paid full bills my mom was not supporting us 500 a month.  but things started to change.  his baby mom still did not even know about me even though they broke up 2 months after i was with him for sure.  he still lied about me though.  i made sure she knew, being back in the security as if i was at home again i stood up for myself.  i called her and told her.  something that would had put me in hospital.  the last time he hit me i was in er and kept for 3 days.  cops came out cause i was a minor 2 weeks before 18.  i gave them a false name and said he was gone and he was sitting right there.  biggest mistake ever.  i had my child and we moved out with a friend of his.  my daughter was a month and he started being around his drug friends getting drunk every week i was only 18 but knew i would not let her live like that.  i started beign pushed around and controlled and hit now that it was his place i was at.  my baby seen it.  i moved out and got my own place.  i let him move in after 1 month.  we fought all the time.  i was not happy, i still got hit, found out he was doing meth and coke again.  told him one more time he woiuld leave for good.  he did not believe me i know he did it but tried to hide it. he got to where he expected me to go to school then work and take care of her cause he did not change 1 diaper until she was 6 months and would not keep her alone even when sleeping until after a year old. almost 2.  i was expected to cook and clean everyday and not use phone and be a slave.  i love him so much and i know he cares about me.  he just cant show it.  i hate my life.  he now is off drugs for a while.  and loves his child now.  gets other one every weekend too.  he is good with them i guess, he was never showed how to be a good parent.  his dad never told his mom he loved her.  he is the same.  it is the way he is.  mexican, old brought up mexican.  im in jail.  and im only 20.


wendy wrote at 2010-06-21 01:45:18
I really could relate to these earlier posts about Mexican men.I have been married for 6 years to one and been together for ten years and we

were separated last week.Please American women run as far as you can from these guys.

My husband first of all is very good

looking and what a great lover.Wow,I have never seen anyone so loving in intimate situations.however,he is controlling,

and I am not allowed to have my own views.He is verbally abusive,

expects me to do all the housework,even the

hard jobs like mowing and garbage etc.he mows rarely.

He has to be king.

I am never praised for my cooking or cleaning etc,it is just expected of me.I stay at home with my kids and he is always insulting me that i do not work outside of the home.

he wants me to do both.He expects me to take care of all the bills,his personal phone calls to lawyers etc.and if i don't do everything he wants he throws a fit.

He has been aggressive and breaks things around the house to intimidate me by fear.

He is a great Father but gives more attention to the kids than me.

Doesn't seem to have compassion for me or empathy %26

I am here for his personal use only.

If you marry or date a Mexican guy from Mexico(not born in the USA)beware!Most of them are cheaters but thankfully this was one area that my husband was not bad about.

please think twice

before being with a Mexican male.They will have a hold on you and drive you nuts.

I still long to have him but I know the abuse is too much.


buriedalive wrote at 2010-07-07 08:30:57
I too am facing the terrible realities of being married to a mexican man.  Please American women run fast away from this.  I started to date him and things were fine, then he became crazy jeaolous, i couldn't look up, had to look down coming out on the porch because of the neighbors, then physical, verbal abuse.  I broke up with him, then saw him one night and low and behold became pregnant and ended up married to him, i thought anger management had changed him, not even!  It is expected of me to cook gourmet meals, usually 2 or 3 times a day.  I am expected to fix his plate.  His son moved in with us at age 17 and is now 19 and has a baby on the way, and i will be expected to accept his lazy lazy girlfriend in my home and wait on her hand and foot.  I wait on his 19 year old like him.  I have to younger sons also to take care of.  When I say something or complain I am yelled at like a dog and, a hand is raised.  I want out terribly, but am afraid of sharing visitation with my toddler.  I haven't been able to work since the last part of my pregnancy also.  He doesn't want our boy in daycare, but wants me to help make a living for him. I told him if i go to work i will still have to do everything and i can't get it done now.  My step-son works, but don't help out at all, don't scrape his plates, doesn't clean his bathroom and expects me to accept his lazier girlfriend with open arms.  I am at my wit's end and ready to do about anything to get out, but fear losing my other two boys.  My older boy i could easily loose if i can't keep him in the same school, because of a shared custody thing.  Run girls, i want to follow!


ben wrote at 2010-07-10 12:59:58
OK! So I have been dating a Mexican man from " Jalpa " for about 6 mths now and I have experienced some of the most frustrating fights I have ever had with a boyfriend. He does expect me to treat him as if he were king. He is careless with my feelings and makes me feel like I am like a crazy person for having emotions. I voice my opinion only to be shot down. HE admitted to me recently he was going to cheat on me and changed his mind because he didn't want our relationship to end like that. I have already cheated on him more than a few times and now I just know that I need to leave him. He is very handsome. Men and women of all ages are attracted to him and he knows it. I fell for him during the winter months and so we had a lot of romantic time together in the beginning. I keep thinking of just packing up my car and leaving him a note but I don't want to hurt anyone. I have suspected he has cheated on me already but just know that he is going to do it soon or already has is just too much. I am leaving him before it gets worse.  


Heart broken... wrote at 2010-08-12 18:36:06
Hey ladies/mujres, I am also in a relationship with a mexican man. I honestly started to cry as I read some of these post. Because I am going through the same thing. Of course when we first started to date things were wonderful. Going out, dinners, walks in the park and dancing all night at latin clubs. And he would tell me daily how much he liked me and I was so pretty. But then later I started to catch him in lies, he would say he's always working. And was not working, he would say he goes to work and then home and that's it. Later found out he's always in bars with womenm Also the cell phone became a big deal. He always wanted to know who's calling me and I couldn't talk to any of my male friends. But when his female friends would call, he would go outside or in his car to talk in "private".  Also when I call his cell he rarely picks up "claiming" that he's working or busy. But when he's with me he picks up his cell. Or he'll look at the number and smile and again go outside to talk.Also when I wanted to express my feelings or talk back. He would break up with me. And the only way he would forgive would be with sex. Then came the verbal abuse... Later the physcial abuse. And more lies. I'm just so fed up and hurt and mad at myself. Because I allowed this to happen.  I just don't know what to do. I know that all mexican men can't be bad... But this is my 2nd and its went from sweet to sour real quick. So mexican or any race ladies. Try to pick up on the"machismo" early. And leave before its too late. Its bad going to bed each night with a broken heart and crying yourself to sleep.


Sarina wrote at 2010-09-18 00:01:02
I am with a Mexican man, straight from Mexico. When we first met, he adored me. He called me beautiful, always made me feel amazing, bought me things, wined and dined me, and did everything he could to make me feel happy and comfortable. He introduced me to his brother, his daughter, his relatives in the USA, and had me "talk" to his mother on the phone. He was so excited to meet my mother. Then slowly things started falling apart. The arguements became full blown fights. The fights turned from verbal to physical, and to this day we're both walking around with bruises, cuts, scratches, and scars. I'm in love with him, and he is with me. There's still hope for our relationship. He doesn't expect anything crazy of me, although he is somewhat lazy (which seems to be the trend for men in general). I have nothing bad to say about my boyfriend other than he is sometimes insecure, jealous, and accuses me wrongfully of things I'm not partaking in... however, I do the same to him. I love him, regardless.


Angie wrote at 2010-10-19 19:45:44
I think these are all just broad generalizations. I am dating a Mexican man and he 100% loving and caring, hard working and kind. He isn't jealous because I do nothing to elicit that response from him. And if you are having problems with your boyfriend/husband, it has more to do with the fact that you chose the wrong man and has nothing whatsoever to do with him being Mexican.


nomoremacho wrote at 2010-10-20 07:45:31
I was married to a Mexican-American man for 3 years.  He was ok at first but after we got married he got really controlling and expected me to do all the chores.  Even though I was attending medical school full-time.  This guy had two children and I took care of them like they were my own.  He never thanked me for anything I did unless he was drunk.  If I cooked the same thing twice in one month, he would say, "we just had that".  I still tried to work it out with him, but then he kept blaming me for all our disagreements (which were mostly due to his issues from past relationships).  Then he started emotionally abusing me, and that was the end of that.  I put my foot down and he moved out with the kids.  I said, be back here in two months or I am getting a divorce.  He didn't come back.  Oh well, i don't have time for b.s.  He left right when I was about to take my final exams for medical school..so let's see, do I fail my courses and try to work it out with my husband (who is acting like a big insecure jerk), or do I leave him so I can focus?  Hmmm, I didn't have to think too long about that one.  So I filed on him.  Two months later he impregnanted another girl....ummm I don't get it but I'm glad I got the hell out of that mess.  And then he sent me a picture of the ultrasound for me to guess the gender, I suppose I was supposed to apply my medical training to the picture?  LOL



Stay away from the machismo, ladies, it will only bring pain and trouble. Oh, and I am African-American.  I was openminded and I thought I could marry outside of my race in 2010, but now I am traumatized for life.  Better the devil that you DO know than the one that you DON'T.


hott hands 22 wrote at 2010-11-14 18:22:01
Hello my name is danielle and am about to turn 26 black

(A.A.) I am dating a 23 year old full blooded mexician he does not belittle me n any way we both cook we both clean we both work he does not hit me are beat on me I put my foot down with him from the start I let him no if u goneing to drink fine cuz I will b drink 2 u have friends so do I u have a family so do I from the start we both let each other no what we wanted and what we need and wants was inportant to us both and we dont ,we wount have any problems and long as we keep it real with each other and keep jesus in our lives. That's the key ladies out of all those stores. I read none of them sayd a word about the one above man will treat u how u let them keep god first and ever thing else will go in to place  


Cosita wrote at 2010-11-22 07:39:11
I've been dating Mexican Men for a few years, and I'm here to tell you that they not that much different from men from any other race.(Besides the fact that they had wives in Mexico...but that's neither here nor there.) Men are Men are Men, and if you allow them to treat you like crap, then they will continue to do so. We as women hold the power, and have to demand respect!!! You CAN NOT be afraid to leave a man because if you are, and he knows that, you're DONE!!! So pray about it, get a back bone, and leave your unsatisfactory relationship. That being said, I love my Mexican man. I love the culture and I love learning Spanish...I can't wait to visit the country.


TINA wrote at 2011-01-02 05:10:31
I AM MARRIED TO A MEXICAN AND IT IS VERY DIFFERENT IT TOOK TWO YEARS FOR HIM TO FINALLY SWITCH OVER TO THE CANADIAN WAY. HE WAS BROUGHT UP WITH A HARSH FATHER AND WAS TAUGHT IN HIS LITTLE VILLAGE THAT WOMEN WERE NOTHING . WE HAD MAJOR PROBLEMS IN THE BEGINNING I THANK GOD HE WAS WILLING TO CHANGE  


heartbroken2 wrote at 2011-01-29 07:40:06
I am over 40 and dating a Mexican (American) man for the first time. I decided to research the culture of a mexican man (his parents were born and raised in Mexico) because of his, different than I'm use to, behaviour. I am so glad I read all of this. He has almost all of theses traits, excluding the physical violence. But, it did not start out like that but over a period of just less than a year, it has evolved to him making me feel inadequate. He has high expectations of me towards the relationship but none from himself. He is a great lover and so handsome. I love him, but I am starting to think I should run. I am so thankful for all the ladies comments on here.


anonymiss79 wrote at 2011-02-21 04:45:01
I have a slightly more optimistic story. I met a Mexican man while on vacation (I'm Canadian). From a chance meeting to deep love in a week.  And I'm not 21 I'm 32.  We left each other at that airport in tears. I contacted him as soon as I was back. We talk daily for hours on MSN.  He sends me flowers on Valentines day.  Tourists in Mex commented on how much in love we seem.  We plan our future.  He is willing to move here with me.  I am willing to move with him. We talk of our children.  We talk of the beauty of life and fate in our meeting.  This is love when I didn't believe in love anymore. Half way across the world, we do the same things at the same time not knowing until we talk later (sleep. run, walk, shop, etc).  While together we laughed about the old fashioned ideas of machismo and the silliness of traditional Mexican girls.   I'll post again after our children and grand children.


Gabacha wrote at 2011-03-13 04:16:55
Hello ladies and thanks for sharing your experiences, good bad and ugly!  When I first found this forum and read all your posts, I was a mix of grateful, depressed, shocked yet validated.  I am married to a Mexican man who is much younger than I. We’ve been together for 3 years now.  We rushed into things in the beginning and, Hello! I was pregnant with our son who just turned 2.  Our son is the best thing that ever happened to me.  I can also say, sometimes, that my husband is one of the best things that ever happened to me, but it’s been no bed of roses.  I was searching online for other North American women’s experiences with Mexican guys probably for similar reasons that you are.  Not because I stereotype people or because I believe that “they are all the same,” but because there are striking similarities in all of the examples of Mexican–American relationships that I have seen personally.  By similarities I mean mostly culture clashes and conflicts.  Usually these relationships are pretty passionate and romantic by nature, at least in the beginning.  You know it’s funny, you can say kind things about a culture and it makes people feel proud (“Mexicans are very family-oriented,”) even though this stereo-type is certainly not true for all.  But if you say something critical, you are a racist, generalizing, etc.  That said in defense of some of the posters who are simply trying to have an honest discussion about very real cultural issues they are dealing with, I should mention that there is nothing I hate more than racism, except sexism.  I wondered how other women were dealing with some of the problems I’m having with my husband.  I also hoped to find more positive examples of Mexican-American relationships.  One of the things I notice again and again in your posts, in my friends relationships, and in my own far-from-perfect love story is the controlling behavior.  Before anyone gets offended, I am fully aware of the fact this kind of behavior is common right here in the states as well.  The irrational jealousy is another source of great frustration, especially for those of us faithful-by-nature women.  In my husbands case, the jealousy is mostly directed at exes with whom I have zero contact with.  Their mere existence makes him crazy, and I suppose the fact that I was not exactly the Virgin of Guadalupe before I met my husband. (Did I mention that I’m ten years older than him?)  To give him credit, I’ve seen some progress with his jealousy.  Being the type of person that I am, I understand that feelings are not always rational.  I don’t expect them to be, or life would be no fun at all.  However, the thing that really kills me more than the jealousy or the need to control me is the way in which he deals with these feelings.  Actually trying to communicate or have a mature discussion in order to work out our differences is like a notion of the past.  I wonder, do normal people really do that? Did I ever do that in other relationships?  Or did I just imagine this type of communication?  It is easy to get lost in ones own crazy world.  And then there is the temper and the verbal abuse that comes along with it.  I never EVER in my life have been spoken to by a partner like this, and I also never could have imagined when I first met this sweet, lovable, loving, adoring corazoncito that is now my spouse turning into such a nasty thing on a regular basis.  He is such a baby, I feel like I have two but gave birth to only one.  Thank goodness he does help out in some ways and I could write a list of things I appreciate about him (and sometimes I do write lists), but I’m here to complain and report only the bad news, my friends, assuming you don’t need to know about why I’m still with him and the many reasons why he is the love of my life.  At the end of the day, I am responsible for everything in our lives, our son, keeping food on the table (and it has to be good food, he’s picky), a good share of the housework, and supporting us financially (because unless your Mexican man is here legally and has been established in the U.S. for some time, he is probably not making enough to support you and your kids, unless you want to share a bedroom in an apartment in the ghetto with at least 3 other Mexican families, and so on.)  He seriously needs more attention than my son.  It’s exhausting.  And then he wants sex all the time and if he doesn’t get it, he pouts, gets angry, and basically does everything he possibly could do to turn me off.  He is a very good, loving father, and sometimes a good husband too.  He’s loyal, funny, affectionate, and can be just adorable.  I think before I became an overworked parent I thought he was really sexy too, but now I tend to mostly look at sex as a bargaining tool for housework and other things I need help with.    

If anyone actually made it this far in my post, I guess the main piece of advice I’d like to give if you are newly involved with a Mexican man, is get to know him.  Don’t fall for his ardent marriage proposal the first week, as exciting as it may be, let him wait for you.  Please use birth control, like a double dose because all that romance and that sexy accent may just get you a little careless, a little lazy, and he may not mind if, Oops! you’re suddenly carrying his baby.  If you are an independent woman like I am, and even if you don’t think you are independent you may be shocked to realize how independent you are in the eyes of another culture, take time to gage how your Mexican sweetheart deals with this aspect of you.  He mostly admires it (who wouldn’t?) but can he and will he really support the true you and want you to flourish? Or will insecurity and his own expectations of women and their roles cause him to try to tame your independence?  Will he put his own needs (usually food, sex and washing his socks) before yours always, or only sometimes?  Will he be able to overcome his suspicion of everything foreign about you, and you about him?  Is his citizenship an issue, because if so you better believe that in this day and age it is a bigger issue than you probably realize, and if you are serious about him you had better get some education on these matters before making any decisions about your future (and ps. just because you married him does not necessarily mean he can get his papers any time soon!)  Is his family here or in Mexico? How would you feel if you were never, ever able to see your family?  Think about that for his poor soul’s sake and for yours if you are forced to move to his country while waiting for his Visa, for like ten years.   

I have to also point out one more observation after reading all these posts… notice that all the women on here saying how great their Mexican guys are and how they are respectful and not controlling etc. are the women who are “dating” or aren’t in serious relationships.  Do us a favor, ladies, and post again after you’ve been together a few years or have gotten hitched.  Not sarcasm!  I really would love to hear your stories.  I believe there are good guys everywhere and exceptions to all stereotypes and I want you to help me keep believing. Hubby and I are often on the brink of separation, but then some force keeps us together.  I am torn between feeling that we'd both be better off apart, and feeling that we were truly meant for each other.  


Marie wrote at 2011-03-14 11:19:51
Mexican relationships equal domestic abuse, both child abuse and spousal abuse.  The Mexican parenting style creates sociopathy because of the dissonance of the Mexican child's emotional life verses the parent's rigidity.  It doesn't really matter in the end why they are the way they are, these men as adults.  What matters is it often leads to homicide, especially when the abused spouse tries to leave.


Chipzter wrote at 2011-06-20 05:57:37
I've read this answers and the last one is the worst "Mexican relationships equal child and spousal abuse... and that leads to homicide when spouse tries to leave" I am mexican from a mexican family, we are catholics, my parents are not married (we believe religion, but not practice it very much) and my father has never ever cheated on my mother, his is dominant but he is good at his job and responsible and straight, my mother loves his children very much, she is the wat to go when my father gets angry and all my brothers are now grown ups and responsible people and our family is the most important thing in our lives, first our couple then our parents and brothers and then the extended family. We support each other, we help and get help whenever we need it and we are very independent because we have a good foundation. That's what you can get from a real mexican it's not easy but it will pay at the end and we don't even have access to guns to become "homicides" when our wife runs away, specially because we are so macho that we cannot touch a woman because we don't want our sisters, mothers and cousins to be touched by anyone, and we have all the family to cover any of our daughters in any place they are. So, stop complaining about mexicans, if you don't like them, just leave them alone, you don't deserve each other, otherwise you'll see everything with different eye.  


happily married to a mexican wrote at 2011-07-23 15:06:29
I am happily married to a Mexican and have been for 2 years. I told him when we first got together that I don't believe nor will tolerate any kind of abuse. If you have a problem - you need to calmly talk it out - shouting, name-calling, cussing, physical abuse - not happening. I also tell him that he fell in love with me as I am (a very strong independent woman) so he had best expect me to stay the same. If you wanted a traditional mexican women you should have married one.



There has been once or twice when he got insane jealous like when he was trying to tell me that we need sugar at the grocery store and I had no idea what he was saying and some man who worked there walked by and told me in English - he wants sugar. He got bent all out of shape but I told him that he was being ridiculous. I explained to him that there is no need to be jealous – if I wanted to be with another man I would just tell you to get out first. I don’t believe in cheating. If you are that unhappy – get out of the relationship.



So the few times he starts acting ridiculous I just tell him stop being ridiculous.  I also calmly point out if he is being incorrect. That things have to be fair especially around the house like cleaning and cooking. I personally really like cooking but hate cleaning. We have both agreed that we’d love to have a house cleaner but we don’t so we share those responsibilities.  I tend to get much better results when I calmly discuss why something is incorrect then yelling and screaming or nagging. When I do that he digs in his heels and is as stubborn as a donkey. (perhaps the macho coming out).



Relationships need a strong dose of respect that goes both ways. If you feel like you are not getting the respect you deserve – perhaps you should reevaluate. I have also found that other will treat you how you let them (both men and women).



Please stand up for yourself. If you are being abused – get out. There are lots of organizations that will help you. You deserve better. But you can’t keep running back to the crap – do want to get the scraps of life or do you want to eat at the buffet.  I know that you deserve better for yourself and your children.




Sofia wrote at 2011-08-24 20:09:17
This is a Mexican girl who is NOT a mexican macho guy Fan and I thin  


mamaoftwo wrote at 2011-08-24 23:43:07
Thank you, Gabacha, for your March '11 post.  This captured the essence of my 5-year relationship with my husband.  I was warned, but I was so very much in love with the most wonderfully charming, loving, romantic and compassionate man I'd ever met.  I searched for topics on the mexican-american romantic experience to help explain to me why we're having so many strange and seemingly culturally based problems.  He's actually born in the states, to mexican national parents.  His father is a real typified character, complete with the girlfriend and extra family somewhere.  His mother is a DEVOTED wife, who constantly nags at my husband to take on more of the family responsibility.  By this she doesn't mean responsibility to me or our two sons.  She means to their family of origin.  I'm just a weta sidekick, in her view. My sons are special little ninos, so I should be grateful that I was blessed with them instead of daughters, as I suspect this bought me some leniency in the eyes of the family.



Anyway, thank you for all for your posts.  I'm not crazy after all, and yes, my husband is a teensy bit macho, very jealous of my former life, very insecure that I can take care of myself, very uneasy about my independence, sometimes controlling, emotionally stunted and unable to express any feelings except anger, and especially babyish when it comes to toeing the line on the home front.  He works hard, but only when it earns him a real paycheck.  All the other work is women's work.



And I love him, and he loves me.  It's complicated, isn't it?  Would an American man be so much different?  Maybe, who knows?



Culturally, the differences are VAST.  I agree with Gabacha, ladies, please give us an update after you've been married (or get knocked up) and after a couple family christmases go by (tamales are yummy, but guess who gets to make them, standing on your feet for 14 hours).  Then let us know how you're faring.  I hope it's still going strong for you.  Don't be surprised if things slowly begin to change...


wedda wrote at 2011-09-12 14:34:08
hi i have been dating Mexican men for 5 years i am currently with a man 13 years older than me whence we first met he was wonderful bought me groceries gave me money did not care i was 6 months pregnant with another Mexican mans baby. he finally after months ask me to move in with him NY friend also moved in with his friend we all lived in the same house for two months.he then started to buy us a house we didn't really start to fight till we lived alone i love him very much he takes good care of my 2 daughters one of which is his the bills are paid but he has a wife a 8 grown children in Mexico and the money that should go for extras always goes there sent a 36 inch flat screen TV to Mexico last Christmas and i got a digital camera. not only that but he cheats with his ex girlfriend i found out cause she tested his phone call me baby she would never talk to me just text but she was local and told me that he loves her and will come back and that they will be together he denied the sex said hewer friends but he continues to associate with her family even takes the woman nephew to work with him. i know they report on our relationship to her he also talks to other women i am expected to keep the baby spotlessly clean the dishes washed the laundry done the trash taken out the animals fed and everything around the house he helps sometimes but his work is most important then his Mexican family leaving us third my heart breaks whence i see auras number on his cell phone his ex but i just go on i am trying to tuff this out till our house is paid for and i am assured a permanent home for my beautiful daughters but i hope that i will have the strength to do what i have to do whence the time comes i have left twice but came back i went to domestic violence shelters but he says i went to be with my boyfriends he verbally abuses me daily and i am never as good as his Mexican wife she is a wonderful lady that never gets angry ...please ladys think twice before getting into one of these always abusive relathionships you may loose your heart and your life


enchanted wrote at 2011-09-17 01:40:49
Oh ladies! I have been through it all the last three years. Been told I was the most beautiful girl,dined,made love to all night...felt soo special! Then I found out he was sleeping with at least one other woman too - the whole time! He didn't give an explanation. He would just go silent for days or weeks if you asked him something he didn't want to answer.He was a cheater..liar and chauvinist pig... he would get mad if a man LOOKED at me..would always think I was seeing other people. I was faithful...and he cheated and didnt care! He wanted a wife to take care of him, do laundry,clean and help with his kids...and then cheat on her. THEY WANT A MAID...NOT A RELATIONSHIP! I feel sorry for his ex wife..after we broke up, I found out he cheated on her when she was pregnant! His name is Marco Rodriguez...lives in Greenwwod SC. WATCH OUT FOR THIS LOSER~


Disillusioned wrote at 2011-09-22 19:10:19
I am an American man married to a Mexican Princess.  Not only is she a Sociopath, but I think her entire family is too; the worst being my mother-in-law.  What makes it worse is they grew up with money and had servants do everything for them. They are arrogant. I have never met a group of habitual liars and hypocrites in my life as bad as they are. They constantly interfere in my marriage, which my wife allows.  They never give up trying and crossing boundaries-there are none.  I have had to stop them on several occasions trying to give my young children alcohol.  Alcohol is so ingrained in their culture.  Even birthday parties for young children are an excuse to have a drinking party.  What?  It can't be enjoyable without alcohol?  I get criticized because my wife works a part time job, but the Mexican wife of my brother-in-law is criticized for not working.  Momma is the ringleader.  She pits everyone against each other.  Whoever is her enemy at the moment is the families enemies.  If you stand up to momma then "you're it".  They all hide behind momma like cowards. People talk about the men hitting;  my wife use to think she could hit me whenever she got annoyed or angry.  Our marriage counselor told her that I was to call the police when she ever did it again; She did. I called the police and she was arrested.  Still to this day I'm ridiculed by her and her family because I didn't take it like a man.  The man I should have been would have knocked the hell out of her by now.  I say they must be sociopaths because they never admit wrong, nada.  They just keep it up and up.  The closest they come to admitting to anything is by blaming someone else.  Now, let's go to the catholic thing.  Oh, they are catholics but my 5 and 6 year olds know more about the bible and christian behaviour than any of them.  Manipulation, deceit, threats and control are the virtues they value most.  When I met them I owned multiple properties and made a very ggod living.  Oh, they were nice then.  When my wife and I got married I was manipulated into letting momma move in; who then tried to forbis my dogs from going into the house.  THEN had her oldest son get their dog in Mexico and bring it to my brand new custom home.  The oldest brother stayed for 2 months until I finally had to put my foot down and tell them the dog and brother had to leave.  After 2 years of having mothr-in-law I finally made her leave to.  My wife threatens divorce multiple times a month and takes off to her mothers constantly.  I'm demonized for not allowing her to drag the kids with her each time she wants to separate the family.  My wifes entire family lives in the same area as we do, and they think the highest attainment in life for my kids should be to become Mexicans.  They have a communistic view point; all mexicans should think the same thing, believe the same thing , drink the same way.  No wonder their dysfuntion continues generation after generation.  My mother-in-law receives income and health coverage for free from the U.S. and she has never paid a dime in taxes; all the while badmouthing my country in front of me every chance she gets; especialy when they are in a group together.  they get brave when they are together, but won't say anything by themselves, very cowardly.  All of my in-laws speak English; my wife was sent to the U.S. as a teenager to learn.  But, they can't speak English in my presence.  I am supposed to learn Spanish through osmosis.  I have never met a more dysfuntional, arrogant, ignorant, cold hearted, narcissistic family in my life.  When I first met my wife I was very excited to learn Spanish and be a part of another culture; but since I have learned to despise it.  It's sad really.  Not all Mexicans are like my in-laws, and I'm sure there are some very fine people in Mexico; but my wife and her family has destroyed any good opinion I once had.  The deep level of dysfunction is so ingrained in them I have no hope that they'll ever see it.  I'm not perfect by any means but their personalities are so set in stone, they've become sociopathic.  Many of the female respondants stated how great they were treated at the beginning; that's just tactics to get what they want from you.  They manuever, manipulate, deceive....whatever it takes to get what they want.  Emotional, psychological and physial abuse is the norm.  Lot of this behaviour must be cultural....same as some of the behaviours of Americans I guess.  There are sociopaths all over.  Read up on it, you can't ever change them.  There hearts are solid rock, except for themselves.  


Mexican American wrote at 2011-10-15 09:09:20
Sad to see that most of you are in this situation. Race might have a certain percentage toward cultural characteristics, but in the end we make our own choices, that definitely come with consequences. According to what I have read here all of you chose weak men who abuse you because they are weak minded, not entirely your fault. These type of personalities are very deceptive. Every race has them. I have dated many races, one thing I can say for sure is that most people today are selfish and shallow. The divorce rate in western culture is over 50% according to my research. Yes it is difficult to find someone with a good heart, but they are out there. Try learning about the next person you meet before you get too involved, especially physically. Good Luck.


I USED TO BE wrote at 2011-10-16 03:43:32
Wow, I have just read every single post and my life for the past 12 years is in these posts. No physical abuse but mental and emotional ....all the time. I examine myself and feel the real me is a life-time away. 'Disillusioned', you have described my husband's family to the letter!! It's incredible and sad to say that manipulative, deceitful, drunk, unethical, abusive are the EXACT words to describe them, including my husband. Thank you to everyone for sharing, I AM NOT ALONE and I think that's the first time I have felt sane in YEARS.....I encourage everyone to keep up the posts, let's keep sharing, because knowing your not alone gives you the courage to take the necessary steps to recovery and healing.  


jjjjkkka wrote at 2011-11-15 22:46:52
I was married to a Mexican man for 6 years. He was from Mexico but his mother moved him to the United States, when his father was incarcerated here for drug trafficing. His father was in prison/jail off and on for about 15 years. During this time, my (now ex) husband, moved back and forth from the US to border mexican cities.  

I was 100% unaware of his families background history when I married him. For the 1st 2 years, we lived on our own. We were not near his or my family. It was FUN! We were like best friends. Once, I became pregnant with our first child EVERYTHING changed.



We moved to Mexico to be near his family. I was supposed to give up everything. I gave up my friends, my family, my life.  He would go with his father and brothers to party in strip clubs and leave myself and our son in the house. I would find messages from him - looking for hookers. =( And this was something that was overlooked by his family. I spoke with his mother about this behavior that was incredibly disturbing to the well-being of him, myself and ultimatly our son, her response, there are people who are worse off. Be gratefull.



During this time, I was the only one working. He went to jail for a month for drugs. Other than that he partied and slept.



He was verbally and physically abusive. My son (3 years old) would always run to my rescue telling his father - dont yell at mommy. Or he would try to hold on to me.  



Instead of facing his issues, he was encouraged by his family to "drink away his problems." I finally left when he didn't come home. He left the at 9am and when he didn't come home the next day, I left him. He didn't know for a couple of days that his son and I weren't at the house. I came back to the US. Since then he has called and spoke with his son only twice....



It makes me more sad for my son than myself. I know one day I will have to answer my sons' questions about his father... I dread that day =(


Micay27 wrote at 2011-11-19 01:14:00
Hello and thank you all for your posts. I am an American woman married to a born and raised Mexican man who is 19 years my senior (yes!) It's obvious I was very naive when we met- me being only 17 and him 36!! However, I was not too naive to recognize real love at that time- and we really did have it then. We were inseparable for the first year. I got pregnant after just a few months together. He was very supportive and was the primary financial support in the relationship until I got some schooling and full- time work.



There were some very real differences that caused major issues in our relationship from the start. As many of you have said you are very independent women, as am I. I also had no knowledge of the Mexican culture or macho but sure got some quick and the hard way. My husband was a bachelor for so long it was hard for him to settle down. His drinking and all night/day binges were the biggest issue early on. He was a very loving father and boyfriend but there were definite expectations of me to do it all and I called him out on it.



It was a very back and forth relationship but ultimately I wanted to do right by our son and he did to. We got married after 2 years of dating. Now, 8 years later we are really struggling. I am trying very hard to understand him and believe I actually do for some of the same reasons already mentioned by some of your posts. We are struggling with his immigration status and he hasn't seen his family since before we met. He admitted the most hurtful thing ever to me this summer- that he blames me for his situation! Nothing he could have said in the whole world could have been more hurtful to me than that! It really changed the dynamic of our relationship.



Over the years he has continued to be a loving father and primary caretaker of our home. I just finished nursing school last year which was full- time and I worked full- time. Though it was very difficult he was supportive and took care of the house and got our son to and from school every day. He cooks and cleans ladies!! I admire and appreciate him so much for what he has done for me and what he has overcome in life. However, his emotional distance and lack of communication and affection has really caused our relationship to deteriorate. Also, I am miserable at my job and cannot find suitable work in my field where we live. I want to move and he doesn't. I have family here but my family has fallen apart over the years.His family is all in Mexico. We really have nothing tying us here. He won't even consider travelling to other cities to check them out.



I don't feel we are stereotypes and certainly want to avoid becoming one. I went into this marriage for life and would be devastated if it failed. My husband overcame so many problems early in our relationship: his volatile temper, not wanting to help around the house or with our son, his bachelor mentality, his drinking problem. He overcame it all so he wouldn't lose me and our son. I know he loves me. He will always love me. I love him and will always love him. But we are truly at a crossroads in our relationship. I am struggling so hard to understand his actions or lack there of. He refuses to talk about it. It is killing me and he knows it.



I came to this site looking for advice and hoping I was not alone. My friends keep telling me that I should not let anything- even my husband- stand in the way of my professional success. I don't want to let him, but how do you walk away from 10 years??!! They have advised me that if he really loves me he will follow me. I am so very torn! I have given so much to our relationship and feel like the longer we are together the more he pulls away! Please advise- any would be appreciated!!


Flo3o wrote at 2011-11-26 04:35:08
Hi Ladies

I m a very strong,independent,educated,hard working woman.I m originally from eastern Europe,but I m perfectly integrated in the American society.Three years ago I met a Mexican man at work,I knew he was living with somebody and had a son and I never really wanted to date him...but after a few months I found myself very alone, very vulnerable and he was always sweet,complimenting me all the time,and we started talking ,he said that doesn't love the woman that he lives with and they live together just because of their son.He confessed he fell in love with me,that he dreams about me ,he was bringing me flowers,love notes,saying that he ll leave his ''pareja'' for me..needless to say we started having sex (he s a very good pasionate lover)I was very rapidly falling in love.He was spending a lot of time with me ,treating me like a queen..but he soon became jealous of my friends ,with my costumers at work ..he wanted my full attention..very insecure..after a few months ,the mexican lady that he was living with, moved to Mexico with their son..and then I found out that she was actually his WIFE...he lied to me for almost a year..He  lied to me before but not anything that important.I forgave him after he promised he ll get a divorce..we moved together,I started learning Spanish just to communicate better(his English was pretty bad)..he started not having money to pay the rent ,he was sending almost all his money to Mexico to his wife,his parents,his brothers..so we were fighting a lot..he end up moving in with a relative and her family but we were still together..he is a sweet guy..a good heart,very attractive,very hard working ..he wasn't violent but he was very quiet..no communication skills,very moody..he wasn t drinking that much..and I dont think he cheated on me..at least not when we were living together.

 The main problems that I had with him were that he was too dedicated to his other family ..calling them several times a day and talking for hours,sending them almost all his money to mexico..expensive presents ..he was as easy liar,very proud,very macho like,a lot of drama with him..anyway..i wouldn t recommend dating a Mexican..especially one that already has a family..and now 2 years later into the relationship..after so much drama and fighting and breaking up and getting back together (pretty much like teenagers -he's 33 and I m 30)he still lives with his aunt and her husband and another uncle and her kids!!!..he still sends all his money to Mexico..he's still not divorced ..his wife doesnt even know he wants to get a divorce!!..and so on..

So after 2 years of headache and incredible drama I decided to stop seeing him..just to keep the sanity that I have left!


mechanichix wrote at 2011-12-06 05:08:45
I dated an American born Mexican, being Filipino I cooked,did his laundry, ironed his clothes and all the other domestic things which I do not really do but I thought I should do to keep the relationship. My mother warned me and very expressive about her displeasure about him but I kept going until I found out that he was also dating the sister of her daughter's mother. I was hurt and I felt sorry that I did not listen to my mother. The worst part is that I clean his house while he cleans the other woman's house, takes her kids shopping, and drives 4 hours to Vegas to take other women out. It was just too much for me but still I was hoping it would work out. I asked him if he would marry me but then he asked my family to pay him first before we got married. This was where I finally gave up!


mechanichix wrote at 2011-12-06 05:41:10
i read all the posts here and i am glad i ended my relationship with my Mexican boyfriend early. i was hurt but upon reading these posts if i held on much longer i would probably experience the same. lesson learned, always listen to your mother because she knows best. although i did not listen to her at first i slowly began to see where the relationship was going


ld wrote at 2011-12-15 01:12:27
I have to agree with a lot of these answers. I am with an illegal Mexican guy now for about 2-3 years now. I had jsut moved in with him over the summer. BIG MISTAKE. Everything was fine in the beginning, but he cannot control his liquor and he had hit me one time and felt a little bad about it but then continually started to hit me. Mostly just little things but I would be really scared of his temper. It woudl be for no reason. I woudl try to talk to him but he woudl ignore me or belittle me. I tried to leave a few times, especially one time when he beat me up pretty bad. He found me at work, he called me a million times, he sweet talked me into coming back. I should have stayed away. I keep thinking about leaving him ebcause I do everything for him, yet get nothing in return. I pay for EVERYTHING. i mean literally EVERYTHING. gas, cable, groceries, everytime we eat out, parts for his car, his glasses, everything, his xbox. I do not get thank yous in return. Everytime he treats me bad and i think abotu leaving he always does something by the end of the night that makes me feel sorry for him and makes me want to stay with him.


elizabeth wrote at 2012-02-13 03:53:12
Pull yourself up and get out of this abusive relationship now!  Go back to school, get an education, but get out.  I have two Mexican brothers who are crazy--they beat up on my sister and me when we were little and constantly berated us.  I couldn't wait to leave home and get my degree in Seattle.  Thank God I left.  My mother was just as bad--she would not let me date at all and was crazy most of the time--probably because of our poverty.  Brother one drank, smoked pot, and abused my sister until she left home.  Brother two ended up in a shady porn business and spent time in jail.  Neither are married.  Both have terrible tempers and I can barely stand to be around them.  Get out now, please.  


Carla wrote at 2012-02-15 05:46:43
Really? This is dumb, it is not only Mexicans who do these kinds of things! ANY man could do this to a woman, you just have to learn to read the signs.


forbetterlife wrote at 2012-02-16 22:41:15
Well I have been with my partner for almost 2 years. I a 23 and from down under. He is from Guadalajara and he is a very hard working, honest, wonderful and sensitve gentlemen. Our relationship was very rushed. We meet, silly me did not use contraception and then BANG pregnant. Moved in with each other, stressed a lot with his visa, finances, pregnancy. At first when I got pregnant I was already a recovering party goer. Getting off drugs and alcohol and actually I was the one who turned a bit verbal and physical at first. I am really thankful that my partner 30 at the time put up with it. Because majority of men would not take that rubbish. He is a very educated man and never in my life have I meet such a wonderful gentlemen. He always opens the door for me, helps me when i am struggling. But he can never get over my past which is the main issue. I keep telling him that you are with a girl with an unpleasant past and there is nothing we can do about it to change it besides move on to the future. But he is worried about me. I am grateful that he cares about me and sticks by me.  Then we had a huge argument and broke up when his mother came for a holiday to my country to see our daughter. We were separated for about 5 months with a lot of verbal abuse to each other. I didnt really trust his mother. She would be very nice to me when he was around or when others around. When others were around she would say nice things about me. But when my partner was there she would just be two face and say how lazy i am. Anyways, he ended up moving to australia as he got offered a job for a big company and i stayed in new zealand when we separated. In december we started talking again and he paid for me and our daughter to visit him in australia. As the time went by I finally had the courage to tell him that we were already 6 months pregnant again. He slowly started spoiling me and my daughter again. Things have been very good between us. I never thought the issues were cultural at first. I use to think they were to do with star sign personalities. But when I read the previous post. Some of his habits are pretty macho. Like he is very jealous and I dont blame him. I am jealous to. He is controlling but then again i am controlling as well. We do set out the boundaries all the time thorughout the relationship. But in the last few days he has been insecure as we live opposite a house with a muscley man. I keep telling my fiance not to worry as that gentlemen is married and I see them very happy with each other. I tell my fiance to go speak with our neigbours so he can stop being insecure. I always have to reassure my fiance and boost his ego. He does in return. He tells me every day how beautiful I am. How he loves and appreciates my body. Even though i am almost due to give birth and look huge as a house. I always have to make sure that he is eating healthy food and no westerner rubbish. Which i am happy to do so.It has been hard and a lot effort. I do like to complain and in return he tells me its because i have never put effort into anything i have done before. when i think about it, he is right. I am use to getting what i want and when i want. So it has been a great learning experience as women in my polynesian culture are use to serve the men. I am grateful to not have married a man from my culture as they are very lazy, drunks, drug addicts, really physical abusive, and make you sit on the floor like a dog. Meeting my fiance from jalisco has been a great experience. However, I do need to be a little bit more obediant and argue less. Because I do see the results when I am more obediant. Like tonight he is taking our family out for dinner. When we go out for dinner he spoils me like a queen. Also he does wash his plate after eating dinner. I never tell him to clean. He does it because he wants to.  


suzy wrote at 2012-03-21 04:24:53
I am a 28 year old white girl that has been dating a Mexican man for a year. We started off as me walking into the Mexican restaurant to apply for a job. Now how many white girls do you know of that works at a mex. restaurant? As I walked in I saw this dirty looking Mexican man with paint all over him. I asked for an application and he immediately gave me his munber. I called and he told me to come back to talk to the other managers. When i went back and walked in I saw this man that was tall, dark and so handsome i could hardly breathe. come to find out it was that dirty man i met the first day. working together we developed a friendship. then a month later it became more. It has been a worldwind relationship, we have had our ups and downs. But that man has never lied to me, never hit me, never cheated on me, never called me a bad name, he don't fight with me. He is the most wonderful man in the entire world. He takes me out. He treats me like a queen. He has put up with my crazy family. that right there tells me he's a good man. So it is just what type of man it is I have dated all races of men and this one is the far most wonderful. The only problem is I can't get him to marry me. :(


Deekov wrote at 2012-03-26 19:35:07
I think that all of you should be ashamed of yourselves for making such a generalization about Mexicans. I am Croatian and I have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for several years and  he does none of the above. He has always paid for dates or adventures, aside from the times i have insisted on paying. He allows me to see any of my friends and has even put forth effort to befriend them himself. (Not that I ask him permission to see my friends) He is very protective, but not over bearing. He is nurturing and tends to me at all times.Everyone I have introduced him to sees him as a genuine soul, he is thoughtful and a gentleman. He does not expect me to do anything for him, but you know what, I think thats because you gotta act like a strong woman to be treated like one. In a relationship you must have a set balance from the very start of who does what and who says what.  If you show any man that you are vulnerable and easily manipulated, they will take advantage of it whether they are mexican, black white asian polka dotted. Doesnt matter. How you are treated in a relationship is your own fault, because you should not even allow it to happen in the first place(if your being mistreated). A strong man will accept the challenge of being with a strong woman (unless your dating a man-child), and the mans ethnicity has nothing to do with that. It is 2012 people, I think its time we moved past using the racial card.  


Tigressa7 wrote at 2012-03-26 22:29:07
I am 39 yrs old and have been dating a Hispanic man, myself, for almost five years. How it all started is when I began working at a local restaurant. When I first started working there, I was intimidated by the kitchen workers because they were all Hispanic and I could not speak Spanish. There was one man, Leo, that over a six month period constantly chased after me. The way he would take his time to teach me to speak his language, fix me something to eat, bring me roses, sing out loud to me (which no one else knew that was what he was doing), and making me feel safe and secure was something I had never felt before or for that matter never had anyone show me that kind of attention. It took him almost 6 months before he got his first kiss from me and the first time we were intimate. After that, things began to come together for us. I got my own apartment, had my own money, car, and my life seemed to be like a dream come true. After about a year to a year and a half he moved in with me. Things were okay at first. He held me tight at night, kissed me gently on the cheek as I would fall asleep, cook, clean, make me laugh, wipe away my tears when I cried, and done what any woman would or could want out of a true loving man. The sexual part was great also. As time went on and I began to develop some medical problems, Fibromyalgia and sever migraines, he could not understand whey I was not acting the same way as in the beginning. My mother, sister, daughter, and g-friend tried to tell him that between the pain and medication that my body had gone through something and it would take time to heal and hopefully return to my normal self. That did not sit well with him. If I did not act a certain way towards him or have sexual retaliations on a 5-6 days a week basis, oh I was giving it to someone else. I tried to explain to him that I just could not be the same that I use to be 5yrs ago (then 35) and that I in my mind have settled down with him. He expects it to be like it was when we first met. His mind is so thick even the "Jaws of Life" couldn't even cut through to him. Between his accusations of me giving it to another man, staying behind closed doors unless I am going to work, and not being able to be me anymore, I have become this isolated person that feels numb and cries all the time. He never wipes away my tears or says that he is sorry for hurting my feelings. I don't get it! How can he be so narrow minded and all I do it come home to him, call him where ever I am, have receipts of where I have been, and only go to places with him, unless I am going to work. I mean I can't even sit in our bed in the mornings to watch TV and drink coffee without him thinking that while he is at work I have another man in our bed that we made.

If my mother, which is a Christian, can't get through to him, who or what can? I just don't understand it anymore, what did I do?

I have gotten to a point that I don't care anymore. I have helped take care of his four sons by his ex-wife, changed so much about me I don't even know who I am anymore. I feel like I am sitting in a movie theater watching a movie that never ends. It getting to a point either he realizes what he has and starts to change his way to help or I will eventually disappear without a trace like I did from my ex-husband.  


ILOVEAMANTHAT JUST SOHAPPENSTOBEMEXICAN wrote at 2012-04-28 09:50:19
I have been married to a Mexican man for 11years and we have had many cultural differences, he is not macho by any means ,and has taken up a lot of American culture. Our relationship has been rocky recently,he cheated but not because it is "culturally acceptable" but because we were having issues in our marriage with communication. We are seeking counselling together. He is educated and a very hard worker, he loves his children and also took on the responsibility of being a father to my son from a previous relationship. He cooks, cleans...not laundry..he hates laundry..lol..He works a full time job and so do I , so we split a lot of responsibilty up. He wants the best for our children, he wants them all to continue education,  he insists that we keep them involved in sports.We do a lot of family things. The only thing that he doesn't agree on is me going out without him, to night clubs, bars, etc. So we do those things together..He likes my friends .  He is from a small village in Oaxaca Mexico, he came here when he was 17 to make money and build his house in Mexico. He did not have legal documentation..He now has a visa..  Not all men are equal, treat them as individuals. There are so many men out there why would anyone choose to be hit regularly, and degraded..Women Please take care of yourselves, get help from shelters for woman, counselling, support groups..but don't continue that life.  


nobody wrote at 2012-04-28 19:27:51
Mexican fathers are just as bad to their daughters.


Going crazy wrote at 2012-04-29 06:35:19
Well I want to take my answer back. I am girl from down

Under dating a man from Jalisco. Jesus he has gone back to his emotional and mental abuse. Then gives me this silly saying "Jalisco no te rajesh" something like that. I had to ask my Chilean guy friend wtf it means. He tells me that I have signed up to a relationship that is my partners way or no way. I have to handle the rubbish. I cannot even have my Facebook but he can have his Facebook!? It's crazy. Then he is like a leach when I want to talk on the phone. plus I am not allowed to speak with any guys,,, not even family. It's crazy. I think it's cultural now. Plus he brings up the past all the time and my past relationships. It's crazy. It's pretty psycho. He makes out that I am the crazy one. And that mexican people are just happy and don't complain or argue. Etc


katie wrote at 2012-05-02 04:53:25
Im dating a mexican man and sounds like a lot of u r abusive controling relationship my bf treats me like a queen rubs my feet. Cooks clean laundry so much but its a relationship I put my half too never once controling or jealous or anything. If ur man is like that u need to find someone else


bluerayvn wrote at 2012-05-03 22:49:05
Oh ladies! The terrible behavior of your men has nothing to do with being Mexican. It's called being a sexist, insensitive bastard & you ladies need to strengthen up & leave because they'll never change. At least not for you.



I've dated all races & jerks are jerks no matter the color. No one's ever pulled a swith & bait on me. They have all been sweet through & through. Take a hard look at yourselves & realize that you are attracting a jerk. The signs are always there & if you know how to find them, you'll avoid repeating the same lame phrase: he changed after we married.



I divorced my Mexican husband because he wanted kids & didn't. I never cleaned, he hired a maid, I hardly cooked & we went out to eat all the time. I treated him like a king & he treated me like a queen.



I have a Mexican BF now who treats me like a queen. He's the perfect mix of Mexican-American. Then again, we have God in our lives & God set down rules on how wives should be treated, with respect, tenderness, understanding & support. All types of support. I haven't thrown out the trash in 12 yeara. That's man's work & he agrees that there is Man's work but there's no such thing as woman's work.



Those jerks sound like Godless fools.



That's what happens when you marry without consulting God. It's going to keep happening until you turn to to Him.



You'd be wise to take heed & take a hard look at the man who fooled you into thinking he was good...yes, you were fooled & the sooner you accept it, the faster you can begin the search for a REAL man who is willing to bend over backwards for you.



I thank the Lord that he spared me a life like yours. If anything, I was always the jerk in the relationship...& there's always at least one!



Do you really want to die unhappy? You deserve what you get. You're old enough to know when something is bad for you.



God help you, ladies.



I apologize if I sound harsh but there's no time to waste. Once the beatings start, they usually escalate to MURDER.



If you don't defend yourself. You don't deserve to live. It's your God-given right to protect yourself from harm.



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brokendreams wrote at 2012-05-06 16:38:24
I would like to thank everyone that is posting on here. It's nice to know other people are going through similar things. I have been married for nearly four years to a Mexican man. We met and it was as if Cupid shot us with an arrow. We were married and pregnant within 6 weeks! He was so good to me. But as most of you know, that was temporary and things have been a real struggle for all the reasons posted here...jealousy, controlling, mental abuse, financial abuse, angry, silent treatment instead of talking about problems.



I am thinking about getting out because neither one of us are happy anymore. I have been a stay at home mom for three years so I am nervous about getting out into the work world again. I am a very educated woman but I have been broken down and have little confidence and self worth left.



I would like to hear more stories on what happened when you guys left. I would also like to hear if people are choosing to continue to stay with their spouses or if they have been able to move on.  


katsirisheyes wrote at 2012-05-20 23:08:05
I have been married to a mexican man for nearly three years but we have been together for nearly five years.  Six months into our relationship he moved into my apartment. Things went from heavenly to a nightmare that I have been unable to wake up from.  It seemed to happen all at once. I was so blinded that I didn't even see it coming.  He was and still is controlling, manipulative, verbally and emontionally abusive. He told me what to wear, where I could go. He watched my every move.  He didn't like any of my friends. So I had to stop talking to them. I was only allowed to visit my mother.  His money was his. If I needed money he only gave me five dollars. He would eavesdrop on my telephone calls. He hated when I tried to go back to school. I was taking time away from him. But he really never spent time with me. He was always out with his friends till all hours of the morning.  There was never any birthday , christmas, or anniversary gifts. Not even a happy birthday.  He has threathen me with a gun. Saying if he ever finds out I cheated on him he will kill me and the guy. But he is the one that is cheating. I have confronted him when I found a cell phone hidden under the bathroom sink. He told the reason he hid it was because he wasn't sure if he was going to keepit.  Then I asked him why he was talking and texting another women. He said he wasn't that they were from someone else. Then I asked him why after he dropped me off at work did he call her.  He said he didn't that his friend that he took work would call her everyday to make sure there buddy was going to work.  He said if he was going to cheat he would just leave.  I don't buy that for a minute.  He has thrown things at me as well as break my things. And when I started to stand up for myself he went to not talking to me. But that doesn't work either. And now he is completely fustrated because I have changed and longer care about what he needs and wants. After all when I hurt my back he was no where around. His freinds and family were always more important. When I needed to go the hospital because I hurt my back to the point I couldn't stand. He said he couldn't leave work. But the next while I was on best rest for three days. He called me to say that he was leaving early to help his friend.  I am now in the process of leaving and filing for a divorce. I feel like on my way to having a happy life once again.


Wendy wrote at 2012-06-18 19:15:51
hey,for all the ladies that wrote that all men are the same...I dont believe it is true.Just look at all the similar stories on this website.I know that abuse can be in all cultures but I think Mexican men have a low respect for women and they have a twisted value system.My Mexican husband is full of expectations for me and he works me so hard.I used to be married to an American and it was like heaven compared to being with a Mexican.They are temperish,angry,jealous,and selfish to the core.Everything revolves around them.period.Run away!


Red wrote at 2012-07-24 22:12:10
Ladies, if you know what is good for you you will run whenever a Mexican guy even looks at you. I have been married to a Mexican man for 11 years. Straight from Mexico. The story is the same as a lot of the others here. At first he was great but now it is very different. We are actually separated. He lives in another county which is fine with me. He was great at first but all that changed after about 4 years and please ladies, do not think that they do not cheat. That is their main objective in life To get as many women as they can in the bed.  


Kim wrote at 2012-08-01 15:39:13
I was married to a Mexican man from America for 10 years we have a daughter together.We have been divorced now for 3 years.  Everything with our marriage feel apart and he started cheating on me with his high school sweet heart. We lost everything we had due to his behavior. He was never controlling or the jealous type. He did expect me to wait on him hand and foot. I started dating another Mexican man 1st part of February. I feel in love with him quickly. He told me that he was him and his wife was separated. In June I found out that they were not separated the first part of February.  He left her mid February. Since then he has went back and forth between us. Right now I just want to give up, but my love for him his very strong. He is constantly going through my phone at all my text messages from anyone and everyone. Questioning me if I don't have the numbers stored who they are and why they are texting me. Then I broke up with him a couple of weeks ago he posted all kinds of hurtful things on yahoo referring to me. Thinking he would get a response out of me since I was ignoring him. I finally did respond when he told me he would have his wife pickup some of his stuff from my house. Then we decided we would try again to make this relationship work. He still has joint bank account with her. He says he is done with her, and then she will start texting him talking about why their marriage didn't work. What was wrong with it. I am at a total loss on what to do.


cire wrote at 2012-08-22 21:04:52
Hello, I am a "Mexican-American" male. I married a white woman about 5 years ago. I think it is important for me to say that not all Mexican men are as controlling or jealous.



I think that many first generation Mexican-Americans and recent immigrants are this way. My family has lived in Texas since it was Mexican territory. Needless to say I consider myself American. That being said I do not treat my wife badly in my opinion and it may be due to this.



My wife does not cook, she knows how to make an amazing steak and she likes to bake cookies and cakes and things. She just doesn't like or can't cook meals on a regular basis. I have no problem with this. Then again, MY MOM doesn't cook very well either! What I am saying is, just get a feel for how "Americanized" he is.



Now, I do get jealous a lot. It doesn't get as bad as to monitor her behavior or ask her demanding questions about her free time. I do get upset when she is flirty with other men though. I would say more then the average person. It may be due to my brownness but I am unsure.



In short, just get to know the person and please don't measure all Mexican men with the same ruler.  


Jessica wrote at 2012-10-23 14:23:16
I have been through similar relationships as you woman have, but this time I have found a winner...I got married in July and my husband is mexican, he is very supportive of me and my kids, I hope that everyone of you has a chance in life to meet the right man no matter what race.


Leo wrote at 2012-11-19 17:24:28
It is curious, I lived for two years with an American girl, I did everything I could to make the relationship was excellent, but it was impossible. She complained about everything, and never did anything. We split the housework, but she never did anything, I always cooked, washed clothes and  I had to do every housework. She just slept. When my contract ended I decided to return to Mexico and termiar the relationship, because he was unwilling to continue.  


ninie wrote at 2012-11-27 17:32:00
hey..So, this is the site I found when I googled about 'mexican guys'.

I'm only 20, and I'm currently dating a Mexican guy. I'm not sure whether he is still a bachelor or not and I'm quite worried about all the posts I've read in here. I'm an Asian and from what I've read and see around me, I just want to say that there is nothing to do with race when it comes to giving commitment on something like a relationship. It depends more on how we communicate to each other and our personalities.  


AlmostBroken wrote at 2013-01-04 15:43:56
I am so relieved to find this forum!  I married a Mexican man whose parents were born here as well as he and his siblings, so in my eyes, completely American.  In the beginning it was the most wonderful romantic time of my life. I've never felt so loved or cherished. We married within four months, got pregnant in another five months and since then life has been awful!  He has absolutely no interest in me sexually, refuses to talk with me about anything but our baby and is so completely obsessed with the baby that I feel invisible. She is 16 months old now and has never had a babysitter because my husband won't allow it. Yep, that means I haven't been out with my husband of 2 1/2 years for almost a year and a half.  

If I tell him I'm lonely, he says no you're not. If I say I'm unhappy, he says either no I'm not or that it's my own fault. Yesterday I asked him what it was that I had done to make him so different now than he was in the beginning. His answer was that I had said some really bad things before.  He's talking about two years ago when I first got pregnant and had to stop taking anxiety medication. I was not myself, I was mean and a little crazy. But I warned him ahead of time because I knew Paxil withdrawal is torture and he said he understood. Apparently I have not been forgiven for this time and that is why he will not treat me lovingly, but he still loves me and wants to stay together.   I'm closer to 40 than I would like, have already spent over a decade married to my first husband because divorce in my family is unheard of ... While he cheated on me and was an all-around jerk.  I really dont believe i am being cheated on now, despite the complete lack of sex in our relationship, I still wonder all the time if I can really spend the rest of my life with a man who I truly believe will never show me the wonderful, romantic, crazy in love side of him again.

He wont go to counseling, says everything is fine. When i try to talk to him about our relationship, he says i am having one of my episodes. If I show any type of emotion that is not positive he looks down on me. Considers my anxiety a weakness and criticizes the way I've raised my 13 year old rather than helping me.  I just wish I could break through the walls he's put up, make him remember that he married ME and that we have a baby whom we both love, not that I am simply the vessel that provided his little angel.

I feel broken and like I will never feel loved again if I do the "right" thing and stay with him, but am terrified of another divorce.  


broken and running wrote at 2013-01-09 02:33:44
wow, I am saddened to know there are so many of us strong independant loving people that have allowed ourselves to be manipulated/and so abused. people tell me that all the time...no one can ruin your life-only you can let them. why would a husband treat his wife so wrongly-I did think it was all cultural finaly, and yet(does not the very nature of love) show him it is wrong to emotionally or physically hurt this woman who has bore your children and does nothing but try to love you even with a christlike love? My story is very much the same as the rest of these tattered stories. I am a mother of two precious children and the wife of a mexican for almost six yrs-I AM RUNNING as hard as it is, this is my 5th attempt at getting away from him-moving on. He has threaghtened to kill himself,or take our children and run to mexico. and many other threaghts that have scared me into staying with him in the past-always following are his sweet kisses and I Love you.what? I hope i was an example of christ's love to him, and that he comes to know christ someday. I believe divorce is wrong and yet I must believe our God is a loving God that would not want us to suffer and be beaten down so harshly. So I have taken shelter somwhere safe with my children. At this point I have been so mentally abused and exhausted I need help to just get thru the next day. I thank God there are still a few people in my life that care after the way he made me seclude myself from everyone. I have to believe God forgives us for our mistakes(even marriage sometimes#. And believe there is a brighter future for myself and my children. I believe in the case of my husband he is a victom of his circumstances. Mexico can be a harsh place#I lived there "lonely" for two months with him# while he got his "paperwork" or Visa. As sad and lonely as I feel i have Love in my life and always will"Christs Love". why did he let this happen to me? I dont know- but i know he chose to love me so I pass that love on in return. We have been beaten down, cheated on, hit,verbaly and mentaly abused, seen things people dont want to see in their worst nightmares or feel from some one they supposedly Love. I have SCREAMED out WHY? this is not what love is supposed to feel like, is it? But we will rise out of this-I WILL,#maybe not without help) And show my children there is a meaningful life waiting to be lived. I choose not to allow myself or my children to be abused. I am sorry that life has turned these men into Monsters, but I will not allow myself to go down with them.          My love and support to the rest of my sisters out there-you are not weak because of this life you chose-if we knew this is what it was going to be like we wouldnt have chosen it!  


Juanito Zambrano wrote at 2013-01-09 09:26:21
Oye all I'm a proud Mexican americano but I know when to take racism serious and to let you all know not all of us Mexicans are like this, we are hard headed and short tempered and all cultures and races have them same problems so don't point fingers at us.most of us Mexicans clean and cook is cause its in our blood from god and we Mexicans just do work with low pay or no pay we don't need big pay to show we care in my familia 5 dollars is a million but today I see people complain on 400 dollars is not enough and we Mexicans would laugh at you,don't forget mujeres are just as bad as men ok I cook and I clean and work and my girl does some things but not really.in my culture I was raised to only date inside my culture a lot of races and cultures are way different .so you and your partner need to suck it up and work it out don't blame it on the other


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Azucar wrote at 2013-01-28 15:50:56
I believe all races have issues.All people too! I am currently in a relationship with a Mexican guy i am 26 her 28

and yes there are some cultural differences but he is a wonderful man! I have noticed that it seems something are true about Mexican men...yes they can be very proud and a bit hot headed but its not easy...Mexicans are always stereotyped and the men are always seen in the u.s. as negative....they are type cared as short angry men who are either doing yard work or in a gang and want to be little women and have sex all the time with a lady whose got a big butt.If you knew people thought of you that way all your life no matter what then you might have some issues too...some of the men eventually think well you see me this way so ill become that and see how you like it....As for non Mexican women...from the very beginning you do like you would with any guy just wanted let him know how it is ...your deal breakers your expectations your wants needs likes and dislikes and then ask him to tell you his....its all about communication and if theres none then you should be together! any man no matter race can be messed up its not just Mexican men.and if your having issues in your relationship with a Mexican man that can not be resolved then leave or make him leave.if the relationship doesnt  end even when you know its not working when its your fault for not doing something about it when you know you should.I am Irish and I find that being with my Mexican man is more interesting than difficult and its full of love and laughs .He does say that he sees alto of Mexican men acting in what he calls a disrespectful way twords women and he thinks its awful because its wrong and gives other Mexican men a bad wrap.white men and African American and Asian men all do this stuff too but they do not get the same kind of reputation for some reason.I say anyone is capable of being this way no matter race or gender.Think before getting into a relationship.If it goes sour end it and move on! because truth is if its bad then and you love him your staying because your too comfortable to move on and he does really love you if he treats you like trash and wont leave cause he thinks you will put up with his junk.Prove him wrong!


Just Some Guy wrote at 2013-01-31 09:56:55
This is fascinating. There must be something visual going on that drew many of you to these men (not just physical attraction, something more subtle; body language maybe?). Most guys who pull the nice act don't get anywhere, but for some reason, ALL of these Mexican men were able to get away with it?


Piper wrote at 2013-02-03 07:42:52
I found all of this interesting.



I was married to an Arab from Egypt for 18 years. He was physically emotionally and mentally mean to me and my kids. I have been in a relationship with a Mexican man for two and a half years.



It started out well...but he quickly went into control mode and it became a disater. Both men wanted me to believe it was me. I had my part but I am a good woman who is faithful, kind, hard working and generous with my love.



Truly, though Mexican culture teaches their men to be more macho than not, it is a woman's choice to stay. Once you break the co dependency based on the need to be loved...you realize you have everything you need to be happy inside yourself.



I am in a new relationship with an American and he is Jewish. Not that that matters either, but he is loving and kind and so open...try reading the Five Love Languages....it helps....



Don Miguel Ruiz who wrote the Mastery of Love says it best....if you want a dog....don't get a cat and say to it...MEOW for me!! Get a dog....you'll be happier...and work on yourself ladies...you have the power to change only yourself...not your Man...be he Mexican, American, or Arab...



Bless u on your journey in life.....


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Pachuca wrote at 2013-02-19 16:01:09
I am glad I found this site. I would first like to say I am a 34 year old American woman with 3 teenage children (not his). He is a 41 year old Mexican, from a village in deep Mexico (about an hour from Metepec). We have been together a year and a half. Now, I may agree with many of the posts. However, in the end it really is up to us what we feel we can 'put up with', understand, and work out. There are cultural differences I have to understand about him, as well as he knows he needs to understand my culture.

When we met and exchanged phone numbers, he called all night, all the next day, and for several days after: over and over until I responded. He texted all the time. Almost stalker style. I honestly didn't like him at first because he was overly romantic and latched on too quickly, I thought it was a red flag that he was too handsome, too charming, too attentive. He believed in love at first sight, I must admit I felt it! The energy, the infatuation, the love. I agreed to start dating him.

To this day (18 months later), he continues to text and call several times a day, is very attentive, romantic, compliments me, isn't afraid to share sentiments and express affection/love. He INSISTS on paying for everything, from dinners out, to gas for my car, to gifts for me and my children. He works long hours. I too, at one point thought he couldn't possibly be working from 6am to 8pm six days a week! When I confronted him about this he took it upon himself to 'prove' it. He would call me from his worksite, on his lunch break, when he was leaving his work site. Send me photos of the house they were building (time stamped), his boss, roommate would ensure they were all together working. I thought it was weird that he would go out of his way to prove himself to me. His explanation of this? He loves me, wants me to trust him, and understands many men are not honest and women automatically think bad.

We have fun, we talk about anything, sometimes when I'm down he would encourage me to chin up, a realist who believes that all things happen for a reason, we are all strong and resilient so life goes on. Now this might seem heartless to us Americans but for him it's a cultural thing. I have met his friends, boss, talked to his family back home in Mexico. When he is in my home he helps with home stuff, makes the bed, takes trash out, talks with my children. A few times my teens have tested their limits and he calmly slipped into a father mode to talk to them. He tells me my family is his family and my children are like his - he DOES treat them like his own.

Before I describe the "bad", or the red flags....

Let me jump to describing myself as a woman/mother. I'm a single mother of three teens. I have dated White, Native American, Arab man, Mexican-American (Chicano-there is a difference between American mexis and Mexicans from Mexico), and Mexicans straight from the mother land. I must say I prefer a Mexican over any other. I must also add the traits described in this forum is found in other races/cultures as well and in some are WORSE!

I don't like messes so I'm always cleaning (even if I'm not dating a Mexican haha), I like to cook (however Mexican cuisine/recipes are my weakness - I am learning). I work a full time and part time job for my children (He admires my independence - if anything it turns him on). I am naturally a quiet, positive, humble person. I don't like crowds, too much excitement, and don't do drama. I have few friends (1 or 2 great friends is enough for me). I got my partying, clubbing, bar hopping days out of my system as a teenager so at 34 I've settled down into home-mode. I'm pretty predictable in that I'm either at work, home, or doing something with my children.

My Mexi loves that I work hard, loves that I clean, do laundry, cook, pay bills, stay up late, wake up early (it's in me because I've been a single mom for so long!). He appreciates how I'm very affectionate with him (I must agree he seems to require more attention than my kids). He wants sex allllll the time but we compliment each other because I think he's hot, and I don't mind the three or more times a day EVERY day romp in the sack. He see says I'm a good mom, I'm responsible, successful, and feels I offer him the stability he is looking for at his 41 years. He wants a family away from his own family in Mexico. It thrills me to hear him say he wants a woman that is similar to his own mother, because he loves his mom so much. He is turned off to women who are selfish, loud, needy, materialistic, sneaky, dress for attention, flirty, unpredictable.

Now the bad things and potential red flags:

1) He does seem territorial and possessive. I am his and my children are his. This can be seen in two ways though, bad orrrr he is taking on the role of husband and father in my home?

2) There is a spark of jealousy. Who's calling, that man is looking at you, do you work with many men? I curb that with assuring he's the only one, he has access to my phone whenever he wants to look, I encourage him to answer my phone as I have nothing to hide, his photos are in picture frames in our living room and in my room. I believe jealousy may derive from an insecurity and fear that I may leave or find someone better. I learned his insecurities come from being here in a foreign country, away from family, being alone...he's found someone he's come to adore and that fear of losing me trips him into jealousy or possessiveness. I DO understand this. I am starting to notice hickeys (tacky) popping up on my neck. I'm not a tree I told him recently. Let's see if this stops.

3) This one still bugs...He does not like me 'dressing up' or wearing make up "for others". He feels like I am beautiful and it bothers him when I look "beautiful and hot" while he is at work. He isn't at the point where he's telling me how to dress but I feel if I don't keep reassuring him he's the only one that he WILL eventually try to.

4) He wants sex allll the time and wants oral and anal. I don't mind the 3 or 4 sometimes more times EVERY day, but I'm annoyed with his obsession with oral (I happen to not like to do this all the time), and his liking for anal (I tell him it hurts so he cut down to wanting it once or twice a week - I try to compromise). He does not like to pleasure ME orally. What gives? Grr.. lol

5) He works waaaay too much. Though, he proves he works when he says he works - its just too much! 6am to 7 or 8pm, six days a week, even holidays, rain or shine. I love that he works hard but I'd love more time with him too. You know? I tell him his money doesn't matter but IT does to his mother...

6) Half his money goes to Mexico to his mother, father, brother, sister. LITERALLY. The moment he gets paid it's down to the La Tienda we go to wire money home. This is why he works so much, to send money home as well as have money for us here.

7) I am in a relationship with him AND his room mate, his friends, his boss, his mom, dad, brothers, sisters, nieces...I HAVE to talk to each of them several times a week! Almost annoys me sometimes to have sooo many people involved in our life.

8) He texts, calls, send pictures, several times a day. Now this seems romantic and ideal for some women but for 18 months straight? Then the expectation that I would do the same. Where are you? Oh, send me a photo. Why didn't you text me before work? When do you get off work? Wow! Put a GPS device on me!

9) Yes it is true, they value a woman who cleans, cooks, does laundry, make him feel like a king - to my advantage I already had those traits so this doesn't really bother me.

10) Major for me: He won't move in with us. He says it is because his room mate needs him and he is obligated to him because they moved in together before we met. They help each other out, work together, split their bills. His other reason? He lives near his boss and his people (like a little Mexi commune, seriously, they all live near each other). He insists he loves us, but won't move in with us.....yet. He says maybe this summer, we will see. He also won't marry men. Although, I don't think I want to get married again anyway. He says his parents did not marry and in his area of Mexico people don't really get married (rings, license, ceremony). He calls me his wife already to anyone he knows but we don't live like it.

11) He wants a baby. I refuse. He continuously asks for a baby. Why? Grr!

Now I want to say I am thankful he is not abusive physically or verbally. He is the sweetest man I have ever met! He says he will never hurt me and never cheat. He has not behaved in a way to make me believe he will.

I think as long as we explain ourselves, express our boundaries/limits/expectations...we will be okay in our relationships. Be open to cultural differences and try to compromise. Try to please him but in return he too must reciprocate. I'll post again after a couple more years, in hopes that he doesn't change.


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Tammy wrote at 2013-02-25 21:54:45
I am a Canadian woman age 47 that is now married to Mexican man age 40.  He was born in Mexico City, lived in San Diego, California, has lived in Cabo San Lucas, BCS for last 6 years.  We met 5 years ago when I was on vacation in Cabo, I already new many people living down there, mostly Canadians and Americans.  



We really hit it off, went out every night I was there.  During our fairly long periods of separation he would text, call or facebook me every day.  After many miles traveled to be together, including him traveling to Canada (in the summer of course hahaha) we are now married and living in Cabo San Lucas together.



I can say that my husband is the most gentle loving guy you could ever meet.  He is very affectionate, gracious and polite and romantic.  Hard working and definitely a modern thinking guy.  We have a loving relationship and a partnership.  When I met him on vacation I had to return home to Canada of course after 2 weeks, then we went 67 days apart, nothing changed for him or I.  The longest apart was 127 days!  Our relationship survived it.



I don't think it is that Mexican men are generally bad or whatever, my husband certainly is not and he is 100% Mexican.  I think it has to do with the man himself not his nationality.   You can't say all these men of this particular nationality are no good based on some bad experiences.  Rediculous.  These type of things can happen to anyone from any nationality.



Every day I know am the luckiest woman in the world to have met Roberto.  A smart, loving, gentle, fun, caring guy that is great looking on top of it.  A romantic partner that is unselfish and giving.  I don't think a woman could as for more in a husband.



My experience is very positive and wouldn't change my life with Roberto for the world!


Ciara wrote at 2013-02-27 02:20:42
I left my husband, took the children and filed for divorce when I found out how far his on-line romances



were going. There were many times I was tired, bored, frustrated, angry and downright lonely through



our 25 years together, but I tried to keep it together because we had something of value: our family. I was



never the perfect woman, wife or mother, but then who is perfect? So many men and women are cheating



via the internet. So many homes and families are being broken apart. So many children are suffering. It



makes me wonder if there is a bond strong enough to stop a person from destroying a life and a history



built over many years. We are all searching for the same thing: love and acceptance for the person we



are. I find it highly suspect that we would be able to find that from a stranger through the internet rather



than in our own homes; from the people we have lived with and loved, suffered with, endured tragedies



together and laughed and made lasting memories with. But it must be so because it is happening all over



the world. In my situation not only my children and myself suffered, i met ihumudumupriest@gmail.com,



on the internet and he told me what to do to make him love me more than any other thing so i did after



that my husband called me and started to delete pictures from his Email i was so surprise that day and he



promise not to cheat on me again i am so happy for the work of  ihumudumupriest@gmail.com and i will



never stop to share his testimony. Ciara Poland


Roxanne wrote at 2013-02-28 00:52:26
helping her to get her job back and others you have helped in one way or the other. What more can i say,



please keep up the good work and thanks a million times for bringing my partner back to me, and for the



sake of those that will love to contact him, you can contact him via email ihumudumupriest@gmail.com. Roxanne  


Jasmine wrote at 2013-02-28 02:33:10
Thanks to Ihumudumu Priest, after reading the post of Laura,Dave and Constance,about how

Ihumudumu Priest help them get back their jobs and Lovers, I quickly wrote him and explained how Scott

abandoned me on May 14th for another lady and wanted him back, Ihumudumu Priest said I should not

worry anymore and he assure me he's gonna be back to me in 48hrs if he could get some items in the

market to cast the spell, I wait patiently and he got back to me after he got the items and went to the

mountain, the Next day at 7pm Scott came to my door step and knelt down, I open the door and I was

shocked so I let him in and he said he will never ignore me again, we had sex that night, I was so happy

and tried telling Ihumudumu Priest about this success but he said all he wanted was for me to share the

testimony and let people know how real this is, People all over the world Ihumudumu Priest is someone I

can recommend and testify am a living witness of this. You can contact him via email for any kind of spell.

Ihumudumupriest@gmail.com. Jasmine


Waden wrote at 2013-03-21 23:29:20
I have been a single mother of my 8 year old son for 4yrs now. My husband chose to leave me for another woman because she is wealthy and ready to have my husband at all cost. My husband forgot we both say "FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE" to each other as man and wife. I love him too mucg but there was no way i could stop him and he was even filling for a divorce. Since then i have been taking care of our son single handedly until i saw much talk about this spell lady (priestessifaa@yahoo.com) who have helped marriages come together and relationship. I contacted her and she promised me 2days that i will have my husband back and at the actual days which this priestess told me, my husband came back begging with his knees. I have never seen my husband beg me for any reason, but that day he did.

To cut this long sweet story short, priestessifaa@yahoo.com has helped me reunite my family and am happy with my husband. This spell lady is great i am a sure witness.


Keasha wrote at 2013-04-02 09:35:26
Hi everyone, I'm 32 and have always wanted kids. I met what I thought of, an amazing man and after 2 months I got pregnant. I found out that this man was seeing another woman. This so much hurt me becos he has become every part of me, And i just cant lose him to another woman. So i went in search of every possible solution, Then a coworker knew i was passing through emotional stress because i cry at every corner. My coworker advice me to meet a spell lady who once helped her bring her lover back. the spell lady's name and email was Priestess Ifaa, and priestessifaa@yahoo.com respectively, I contacted her and she told me everything would be fine, I was so desperate to have the father of my child back and  i gave every request she needed to cast the spell, And in just 2 days later, My lover confessed his deeds and apologize never to any of such. The spell lady did the spell that makes my lover and they other woman hate each other. I am so grateful for assuring me of my marriage, because now am confident that me and only have my man..


Keasha wrote at 2013-04-02 10:19:17
Hi everyone, I'm 32 and have always wanted kids. I met what I thought of, an amazing man and after 2 months I got pregnant. I found out that this man was seeing another woman. This so much hurt me becos he has become every part of me, And i just cant lose him to another woman. So i went in search of every possible solution, Then a coworker knew i was passing through emotional stress because i cry at every corner. My coworker advice me to meet a spell lady wh once helped her bring her lover back. the spell lady's name and email was Priestess Ifaa, and priestessifaa@yahoo.com respectively, I contacted her and she told me everything would be fine, I was so desperate to have the father of my child back and  i gave every request she needed to cast the spell, And in just 2 days later, My lover confessed his deeds and apologize never to any of such. The spell lady did the spell that makes my lover and they other woman hate each other. I am so grateful for assuring me of my marriage, because now am confident that me and only have my man..


Tanya 2013 wrote at 2013-07-16 11:26:04
I have dated a Mexican for three years now. At First it was wonderful, but now he is the worst i am a stay at home mom. I get up every morning at 6:00 to cook breakfast for him an the kids. I do all the cleaning an I don't mind. That its usually good this time of the day. At night I get accused of i been cheating while he is at work, when i get up to go to the bathroom at night I'm going outside and cheating. Everything seems to revolve around I'm cheating. When in fact I'm a really good woman. My kids are not his but he treats them like they are his their 8 an 10. They see everything with their dad being in prison an the fact i lost my job because he would show up an accuse me of cheating on the job i have no finaual stability. I am suppose to start school; but he uses my truck to work so I postponed at. I'm not allowed outside, my family don't visit because they say they don't wanna start a fight. We go to a baptist Spanish ministry were he is very active in the church. I just don't get it why he thinks i cheat every little move i make. I feel I'm going crazy. Reading all the post last night helped me to calm down from him accusing me of going swimming because i let my daughter go with her friend. He is so insecure about him self i think. Other than the jealousy this man is perfect.  


hello wrote at 2013-07-24 19:55:59
I'm Chinese American Age 22. I'm not afraid to speak my words, but mexican men have been way too far off from dating one another to another. I even have a friend who is 22 and is a latino men. He has dated all my friends, before and none of them had work out .I rejected him cause I know he is a player. Then their's this other player that I meet at school at the age of 26 he should be married by now. But brave enough to say he isn't married and lied to me saying hes single.

At first :

I thought he liked me , but he didn't cause he was constantly touching me. His mother in law posted on her Facebook or grandma saying a mans right rejection. WELL A WOMAN'S RIGHT TO NOT WORK FOR THEIR HUSBAND. True its your soon or in law son, but its not his right to do what ever he likes to do hes hurting peoples feelings out there geez self fish brats. After 5month of giving him chances he continues to say friends with benefits. Till I left him he sent me a sorry note blahblahblah in my mind i said shhh, and i wrote dear romeo i moved on. I'm sick and tired of his dumb complainants. If he comes near me again in school , Ill tell the dean on him and kick him out of school for sexual harassment. I'm not mad cause he rejected me, cause i found someone else who is better than him.

My friend married a mexican men on and off marriage:

Shes in her 20's so, my good friend has taught me something ahead of time. If your Chinese don't date mexicans, they always change their mind way too much. After your marriage they still go out and hook up and play with other girls. She gave him sex two times, and still no reward from her husband. My ex crush mother in law's mouth was rude mans right to reject. Well Womans youth right to speak up for themselves.  


TammyT wrote at 2013-07-24 22:06:21
I was married to a man born and raised in Mexico until the age of 12.  The passion was amazing, and he complained about all the things his father did that hurt his mother and their entire family.  However, the apple does not fall far from the tree.



To be fair, he is really working hard on changing the bad habits that he cannot be okay with about his father.  For instance, his father is a total womanizer.  My ex would say how horrible that was but about 6 months into our dating, he was flirting with other women in front of me and providing a 101 excuses for his behavior.  



He also hated it when I would call him jealous.  I finally realized that the reason he was jealous is because he is a cheater and cheaters think that any man that talks to you or works with you is a cheater like them.  Worse, it's all I hear about people around their family.  It's like staying in crappy marriages, breaking up, cheating, etc., is a package deal and they keep getting back together for no good reason other than it is some sort of cultural deal to stay with the one you had kids with, if you can.



Also, I just love when a man wants a woman to fit a gender role of keeping house and taking care of the kids, but HE doesn't fulfill the gender role of supporting the family.  Take care that if you want to marry a man or even date a man who believes strongly that the household chores are woman's work, size him up to make sure he can financially support you and your future kids without you working and in the lifestyle you want to have.  If women can work outside the home to provide a decent life for the family, men should help at home, but of course they do not always think that way.  I personally have a great career and like working, and I saw how hard it was for my mom to support us when she and my father divorced, so I am not cut out for relying on someone else to take care of me.  


Bruno wrote at 2013-07-25 05:55:18
Hi My name is 'Bruno Rico' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn't want to loose her but everything just didn't work out... she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce... I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out... I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice... He did special prayers and used roots and herbs... Within 7 days she called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child. I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news... Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need's it... You can email him via akhidenorlovespell@gmail.com Don't give up just yet, the different between 'Ordinary' & 'Extra-Ordinary' is the 'Extra' so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it's truly worth it.


yur wrote at 2013-07-28 08:59:36
i want to say a very big thanks and appreciation to Therapist Oniha for bringing back my wife who left me and the kids for almost two months. i am very much grateful to Therapist Oniha. I pray God almighty give you the strength and wisdom to help more people having similar problem like mine. He can always be of help to you and you can reach him on his email address winexbackspell@gmail.com if you have similar problems.


Doreen wrote at 2013-07-30 23:04:12
it was very terrible when i started with my relationship 3 year back when Donald called me on phone from Minnesota and said bye to me,i could not understand him well because its very funny. In June i want to see him Donald and he said to my face it is over.i was so sown and never know what to do,when i was on Google i saw Doctor Zaza contact where everyone was testifying on his spiritual power and i mailed and called him and explained my problems to him and all he said was don't worry because i will help you with your case and truly after all was done, he settle problem for me and 7days later Donald came back to me and apologize,its like a dream i started counting days but Donald nevered thought of left me. Do you have problems and need a solution then contact Doctor Zaza now for help via email: indiaspellcaster@hotmail.com


Katerina wrote at 2013-07-31 18:17:08




I am out here to speak this good news to the entire world on how I got my husband back through this man called Prophet.Galala.I was going crazy when my husband left me for another woman last month, But when I meet a friend that introduce me to Prophet.Galala the great messenger to the oracle that he serve, I narrated my problem to Prophet.Galala about how my husband left me.He only said to me that I have come to the right place were I will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what I need to do, After it was been done, In the next 3 days, My husband who have not called my over past one month called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness, I am so happy and overwhelmed that I have to tell this to the entire world to contact Prophet.Galala at the following email address spiritualspelcaster@gmail.com and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on his email spiritualspelcaster@gmail.com now and get your problem solve by him.  


garj wrote at 2013-08-02 18:33:20


Woaaahhhh everybody listen the spell casting worked for me,It worked!!! You are the best on earth! she called me few days ago, apologized, begged for pardon and she asked me if she could move again with me!!! Now she is sleeping again by my side, we made love again (and it was really great!), she is loving, caring and everything! Woaaahhhh I'm so happy thank you thank you thank you!!! I was so happy that I forgot to write you immediately (sorry about that but I think you will understand!). For sure I will come back to you for other things. If you need help in any area of your life contact Therapist Oniha and he will help you out via  winexbackspell@gmail.com


sarah wrote at 2013-09-04 21:19:47
I want to say thanks once again to this great man called Dr Samura and his spiritual way of helping people am Sarah Jude from Japan i lives in USA with my husband we love each other and also he care about me always look forward to make things easy for both of us 9 years after our wedding, we both work harder to make a family greatest surprise, we have a kid after some times again, we have another one so with this, we live in peace and he was so honest to me shortly, he started misbehaving that i don't know what is going on then i asked him. Darling what is going on? you are so strange to me this few days hope i have not offended you? he said no. Not knowing he have and affair with one lady out side who promised him a car an apartment in one estate were i cannot see him also when he cannot see me i manage to stay with him pleading him he should forgive me if have wrong to him he started complaining he has no money that he has lost all his money in his business that he needs some money then i asked him how much is this money you are looking for? he did not know i can afford it. Then, he said $14,000USD i promised him i we give it to him just for him to care about his family. My greatest surprise, the next day, i went to work and our two kids were in school not knowing his going to leave the house before i come's back i met some of his things outside i was waiting for him to come back he never come back i cried i miss him so much and he have taking all my money away i was only left with $800USD. One day, as i was ready a blog i saw a testifier made by someone in Australia called Julie telling people about how this man call Dr Samura helped her and the man's contact email was there and his mobile number  then i contacted him for a help and really, he brought  back my husband now am so happy my brothers and sister if you are in such relationship problem kindly via Email samuratellerspell100@yahoo.com or call +2347030410643 he we help you solve all your problems Sarah  


Fernandez wrote at 2013-10-21 02:03:48
I am a white woman recently married to a Mexican man. We are expecting a baby in April. In about two years after that, we will be getting a house. What is everyone's opinion about his mom living with us in our first home with our first child? Would you agree? If not, how would you express this thought safely?


samantha wrote at 2013-10-26 18:43:46


SAMANTHA. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my husband after three(3) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address  okuntemple@gmail.com, have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a woman had a spell on my husband and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my husband back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband. Thanks to Dr. OKUN. His email: okuntemple@gmail.com  


Head over heels in love with my Mexican Man wrote at 2013-11-02 22:01:41
I'm not even sure how I came across this board, but I am dating a Full Blooded Mexican man and have been for 2 years. I am a white woman. He has always treated me with the upmost respect and takes excellent care of me. He always makes sure I have money in my pocket, in fact he takes $100 for himself from his pay and gives me his debit card so I never have to be without. I also work, and he has never ever tried to stop me. He has never put his hands on me or been aggressive. We go shopping together every week, we clean the house together, we both cook and clean up. We go out together all the time. He doesn't push me about marriage, and even if he did, its not like as soon as you marry, they become legal. There's quite a process to go through. He would probably never become legal in this country anyways because he has felonies from his teen years. We are happy, he is affectionate, tells me how much he loves me everyday, how beautiful I am. He always says I am so happy here, I am loving my life, I love you. I also want to add, that we have many many friends that are mexican men and women, and out of all the people I know, not a one of them displays Machismo. All of their relationships are very normal, healthy and happy. I also want to note, I come from an all white family, and I have noticed comments on here about women doing all the cleaning. When I grew up, my mother always did the inside cleaning and my father the outside. My mother made dinner every night and made my fathers lunch for work everyday. She even cleaned us kids bedrooms until we moved out lol. And my father was white and NEVER macho or abusive or controlling towards my mom. My mom did those things because she wanted to. I also believe, if you are in a relationship and your not working, then you should be cooking, cleaning ect, especially when the other half is working and working hard. I agree with the majority here, there are good and bad in every race. My gut feeling told me my Mexican would be a keeper, and I havnt been sorry yet, not even for a second. So just listen to your gut and your heart, and you will be sure to make the right choice, no matter what race!


Javier wrote at 2013-11-03 16:30:20
I am a Mexican man and I was married to a white women and I was ready for the difference in culture right from the start... I have aunts that would treat me in the traditional ways and I felt like my wife could have learned a few things or two from them but I was not pushing the issue...I worked very hard and provided for my family my wife and four kids... my wife did not work and although I encouraged her to go out and find something to do, go to college, night classes... anything, but to no avail... I, myself graduated for college and received my electrical engineering degree and I knew I was going to get married and provided for a family one day so that is the reason I prepared myself.  As our relationship started to get a little rocky I was warned from everybody I knew that marriage with a blond hair blue eyed goddess would not last, she would get tired and cheat on me one day and I refused to fall in that dogma BS that everybody subscribed to because I had gone through it from all my Mexican friends... "your are the man, she should service you, she should be there to take care of you and do everything for you because you are the MAN..." I was NOT going to fall into that persona, I fought my jealous tendencies and gave my wife all the trust a couple should have because I was raised by foster parents and despite my Mexican heritage I was bound and determined to live my life with basic dignity...I got divorced because my wife had an affair and I was not able to move past it.  I am dating another women now and what I went through with my wife ex-wife dose NOT carry over to my current relationship because basically you get what you put into it... weather or not you what to admit it or not... communication seems to be the key in any relationship ... just make sure know what you are getting into is my advise.  


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Daphne wrote at 2013-12-13 07:29:03
Run!  Don't ever marry a Mexican man.  Controlling, never satisfied, complainng, rude, creepy, not god in the sack after marriage, cheats, lies, lazy, bisexual, disrespectful and just an all around creeper. You won't have any fun being married to a Mexican man.  Yuck!


Daphne wrote at 2013-12-13 07:29:58
Run!  Don't ever marry a Mexican man.  Controlling, never satisfied, complainng, rude, creepy, not god in the sack after marriage, cheats, lies, lazy, bisexual, disrespectful and just an all around creeper. You won't have any fun being married to a Mexican man.  Yuck!


la segunda wrote at 2013-12-27 16:48:29
Haha Daphne is right. As are most of you. I love my Mexican husband. He tries so hard to make this relationship/marriage work. But he can't stop supporting the mother of his 2 children or paying 100% of his grown children's bills even though they work and are in college. My children pay their own and go to college. His first family is always first. I feel like I am just a great opportunity that came his way. I take care of his kids like they are mine. If I give to mine then I give equal to his. He only gives to his. I considered all the Christmas gifts to be from us. He considered them to be from me. Then he gave his kids cash. I gave mine the same amount to be fair. His kids cash is the only thing I didn't pay for all out of my pocket. But I still considered it to be from 'us'. They were given the cash to hit the after Christmas sales which is the highlight of Christmas for them. They spent it all on a computer for their mom. I feel so hurt and rejected. How can they feel good about turning our gift to them into a gift for their mom instead? To me its the most disrespectful thing they can do. Then when my husband didn't consider the gift to be from me as well... I realized then that he hadn't given my children one gift. Not one. He never thought about my children for Christmas. He wants to fight when I bring that up saying Christmas is not about gifts. And he is right. It is about kindness and thoughtfulness. He only showed thoughtfulness to his first family. Going on 6 years now. We have 3 homes together... I believe I am ready, as much as I love him, to stop being his opportunity. I just can't continue to be 2nd and my children not to even show up on his priority list. We have a young daughter together and the only thing hat keeps me from divorcing is knowing that when she is with him he will be raising her with his other kids mom.


max wrote at 2014-01-20 23:00:24
My name is Mr Max Silver,I live in Mexico,and I'm happily married with a lovely wife and three children. I had a very big problem with my wife few months ago,to the extent that she even packed her things away from me and my kids for almost 5 months,and i tried all my possible best and effort to bring her back,but all to no avail.I discussed it with a very good friend of mine,and he gave me an advice concerning a spell caster,and i quote.“There's someone who can handle your situation,he's always ready and able to do anything related to spell casting,i will like you to contact him with his email,which is as follows.”Dr Eromosale Great Oracle Temple Solution”. I never believed in spell casting,but he convinced me and i had no choice than to follow his advice,because i never dreamt of loosing my lovely wife.And that's how i contacted him with his email address,and i discussed with him and so surprisingly,he told me that I'll get my wife back a day after.so i never believed,until when i got home,the next day,my wife called me to inform me that she was coming back…..So amazing!! That's how i got my wife back through spell casting and our relationship was now stronger than how it was before.One of the price i was asked to pay was to tell it to people around me that problems like this,can always be solved by “Dr Eromosale Great Oracle Temple Solution”. So! my advice for you out there is to visit this same website,and tell him your problems too,if you are in any condition related to love issue or getting your ex back,to have a happy family.THANKS.... HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS :eromosalelovespell@outlook.com.. CONTACT HIM TODAY VIA THIS EMAIL ADDRESS: eromosalelovespell@outlook.com AS HIS POWERS ARE SO STRONG AND VERY EFFECTIVE AND HAS NO BAD EFFECT INSTEAD IT HAVE A VERY GOOD  RESULT AFTER CASTING THE SPELL.  


Juanita wrote at 2014-01-22 00:14:34
Hola Mujeres&Hombres, I'm native american from the Reservation. But, I have become Americanized or Assimilated as some may put it. I had a wonderful relationship with Salvador from Aguacalientes, Mexico. He was a good cook, I loved to keep a clean house, did the laundry cause i loved the smell of clean laundry. We both liked to be physical fit, by taking walks, bike riding and he love fishing on weekends. That was our time alone. I think we got along beautifully because we have similar cultures. Therefore we had an understanding and love for each other and respect. I think for american white women it is quite difficult to be with a mexican man. Unless you know what you really want in a relationship. I strongly suggest american women think before you act. Because mexican men will always be flirteous. And yet be jealous. They remind of the native american men in which I grew up with, so ladies beware. If you can't handle the culture stay away.


Rose wrote at 2014-04-30 22:53:13
I NEVER BELIEVE ONE DAY I WILL GIVE TESTIMONIES ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP. IT ALL HAPPEN THIS WAY FIVE YEARS AGO, MY HUSBAND STARTED

CHEATING ON ME HE STOP  CALLING ME, AND FIND PLEASURES IN GOING OUT WITH OTHER GIRLS, ANY TIME I CALL HIM THE TWO OPTIONS IS TO BOUNCE MY CALLS OR INSULT ME AND MY FAMILY. I WAS SO WORRIED BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND WE ALREADY HAVE TWO KINDS. THINGS WAS GETTING FROM BAD TO WORST, I WAS GETTING SICK EVERY DAY, EATEN WAS ALSO A PROBLEM TO ME, BECAUSE I LOST MY APPETITE COMPLETELY, ONE DAY I MEET A FRIEND AND DISCUSS IT WITH HER, SHE TOLD  ME TO CONTACT (DR ODALO(, THAT HIS PROBLEM WAS WORST THEN MY BEFORE, THAT ONLY (DR ODALO) CAN HELP ME IN THIS SITUATION, AND I WAS A WOMAN WHO DOSE NOT BELIEVE IN SPELL, SO THE LAST TIME I CALLED MY MAN HE PICKED MY CALL, ALL I COULD HEAR FROM HIM IS TO TELL ME THAT HE HAS GOTTEN ANOTHER GIRL TO MARRY, AND THEY ARE  IN SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP. I WAS SO CONFUSE AND I CALLED MY FRIEND (MARY) AND TOLD HER WHAT I JUST HAD FROM MY MAN. SHE  STILL REMIND ME OF (DR ODALO) THAT HE IS THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN HELP ME SOLVED MY PROBLEM BY BRINGING MY MAN BACK TO ME. SO THERE WAS NO OPTION FOR ME I TOLD HER TO SEND ME THE EMAIL OF DR DOVE. THAT WAS  HOW I CONTACT (DR ODALO) FOR HELP. DR ODALO ONLY TOLD ME THAT  IT WILL ONLY TAKE HIM   48HOURS TO BRING MY HUSBAND BACK, I WAS SO SURPRISE IN 48HOURS TIME MY HUSBAND CAME BACK  TO ME AND START BEGGING FOR FORGIVENESS, AND I ACCEPTED ALL HIS APOLOGIES BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH, WE ARE NOW HAPPY FAMILY AND OUR KIDS ARE HAPPY WITH US. THANK YOU DR ODALO FOR YOUR GOOD WORK, I WILL CONTINUE TESTIFYING FOR YOUR GOOD WORK, CONTACT HIM IF YOU NEED HIS HELP IN ANYTHING BOTH RELATION AND OUTSIDE RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS EMAIL ADDRESS.  drodalolovespell@outlook.com   once again thanks. drodalolovespell@outlook.com



1. He can help you cast a spell to get pregnant.

2. He can help you cast a Death Spell.

3. He can help you  cast a Promotion spell.

4. He can help you cast Lottery spell.

5. Spell of luck.

6. Spell of Finance, and lot more.


Lexi wrote at 2014-07-10 13:07:49
i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady who en charm him with her beauty, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I complained to my friend and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Saibaba. who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 2days. she ask me to contact Dr Saibaba. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by two days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After two days my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness and that he never knew what came upon him that he will never leave me again or the kids. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr Saibaba on any problem, he is very nice, here is his contact templesaibaba@yahoo.com




lydia wrote at 2014-08-04 02:05:02
My name is lydia and I’m here to let you know that with what people say, it may seem impossible, but with what you believe…..NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE, I made a promise to Dr abacha and to myself that WHEN he restored my marriage, I would testify and tell the world…I would share EVERY single detail no matter how shameful and embarrassing it would be, in the hope and knowledge that I would someday be able to bring some kind of hope for a hurting wife or husband who would’ve been going through what I once was. I’ll try to be as brief as possible but I really don’t want to leave any detail out…no matter how small, because it may be the very thing the abacha wants to use to inspire and encourage a stander or prodigal spouse. I don’t want to apportion blame too much here but suffice it to say we had some in-law issues which contributed greatly to our demise…but that is another story and I want to concentrate on how dr abcha showed up and showed off in the mist of my situation. Today. My husband of 2 year and 4 months left me on may 30th, 2012.But all thanks and all praise be to God who give power to dr abacha, he is now back home and we are rebuilding a marriage that from all counts and to the naked eye in the natural realm was dead. As far as I could see we were the perfect couple went out together.stayed home together,laughed, joked,we were like two peas in a pod of course we had our regular marital problems.no marriage is perfect.in addition to the above we also. argued and sometimes told each other some harsh words.LIKE EVERY OTHER COUPLE,it isn’t right but it happens. In spite of all this , I believed he loved me just as much as I loved him.you could imagine my surprise and heart break when one day after a short disagreement and I mean short.lasting no more that a few minutes.my beloved husband packed his clothes and walked out of my life. All this happened on Nov 30th 2012.I held off from calling him because I was still upset and I figured I didn’t do him any harm.he was the one that stepped out in our marriage and on our marriage.ours wasn’t a physical stepping as in outside sex.it was an on-going 6 month relationship on the internet, with someone he had been previously involved with. The days went by and he didn’t call so on December 7th 2012.I called him.he refused to take my calls so I texted him only to be told that he wasn’t interested in me and I should go on with my life.that I should never call or text him again.that was like a dagger through my heart,I felt as though someone had literally ran a knife straight through my stomach and was twisting it repeatedly.but that isn’t the worse yet. I persisted in calling him that same day and eventually he picked up the phone…he was as cold as ice,I felt frightened even listening to him,he told me.I NEVER LOVED YOU,I AM SORRY WE GOT MARRIED,I FELT TRAPPED IN THIS MARRIAGE,I DON’T LOVE YOU LIKE A MAN SHOULD LOVE A WOMAN,THE FEELINGS I HAVE FOR YOU IS THAT OF A “GOOD” FRIEND,I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND YOU SHOULD GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. I’M NOT COMING BACK. I have never felt pain like I did then in my entire life.it is amazing when you are down on luck how quickly you remember looking for all mean to get back you happiness. I cried DAILY AND HOURLY,I felt all hope was gone,I mean how do you get someone to love you again when that person is saying I never loved you at all,YOU CANT.BUT when i contacted this great man, he told me no problem without solution. i have no choice but to give him a chance and see what happen after then, I had built my life around my husband and now he was gone,I felt like I lost the better part of me.I couldn’t eat,I didn’t want to socialize and I forced myself to go to work,but i strongly believe this man, even though all seemed lost, this man was turning my situation around even as I was hurting for the few days he work on me. I knew I wasn’t strong in my spirit and my faith was way less than even that of a mustard seed. I still cried every day but I also engaged in some radical and spiritual warfare for my husband.I use all the stuff dr abacha send to me for 7days quoting what he wrote on the paper as he instructed me to over my marriage everyday. i was just at the sitting room alone thinking of when all this will be over then someone ring my doorbell, when i open the door, it was a DHL agent with some package. i sign and i took the package inside. when i open the parcel, it was my husband that sent me a gift. and a letter. what he wrote on the paper was I'm really sorry for all that have happen. the next day he was proud to just walk back and admit that he was wrong but he wanted to so much….. He wanted to give our marriage a chance and he loved me and wanted to be with ME.

I give all the thanks dr abacha for what he did……it doesn’t matter what your situation looks like.it doesn’t matter how impossible and dead it seems……it doesn’t matter what your husband or wife is planning, just do what you have to do to keep your marriage alive.



if you have any case, please you are very much free to contact him on his email. abachasolutiontemple367@gmail.com




Nate Maclean wrote at 2014-09-07 00:21:40
My advice to any one who might be thinking of contacting a spell caster,is to contact Metodo i know he the only real spell caster i think still leaves his methods will speak and make you believe. All it take is to find the real and right spell caster. Am that kind of person that have always thought that marrying a rich man will set me free in financially as a matter of fact i have been married to to four different men all for money i guess after every divorce with every one of them i didn't as much as i expected even when there was no prenuptial agreement signed. But When i met my firth to be husband,i never expected i will fall for him so much i mean he was so charming cute and for the first time he made me feel safe like he will always be here for me not matter what happens. For the first time i was in love. Maybe i don't know what love is cos i never felt it for any one my ex husband the only detail i can give is that my heart literally beats fast when he was around me, anytime he ran his finger through my hair. I always knew my past will come to hurt me no matter what i do but i never gave it to much thought cos i never thought i will meet this kind of man. He was gentle with me always i mean my life was a fairy tale for a moment. But then again my past life that was to be left in the closet got out. I was so much in love to not tell him about my pasted life i just wanted to left him know like this was the person i use to be but cos of him i changed .He brought me to the light. I guess that was not the case he grew mad at me and  thought i was going to do the same thing to him just like my exes. I don't know if it was that in the last 4 years i have been married four time to four different men cos of their bank statement that made him mad of was that i didn't tell him all this while. All the same after a while of not speaking with me he moved out. I thought he was going to call i just wanted to give him space i mean my friends suggested i did that but time few by with no call no text the only time he came back to our house was to pick his remaining things. The first man i have ever loved was walking out of my life just like a mist that comes and go i wanted him back to show him that he changed me to show him with him am a different person,He kept saying he would not want the same thing to happen to him just like my exes i believed he still loved he though he never said but that thought made me contact Metodo the spell caster for help. I saw positive comments about him and someone said she has actually seen, that is come in contact with him during the time he helped her. Was not really sure what to believe i just thought i was desperate i need help right away or i was going to lose my dream man for life. Like honestly i was not going to travel for over thirteen hours or so  to look for metodo in were he leaves cos one i din't know anybody there and two my run my private spa so i had little all not time and it will be an expensive thing to do. I could not also get the materials he needed to cast the spell so i had to ask him to get them for me so i can give him the money to pay for them. Within the first seven week he sent me a some candle with some hand written don't really know what to call it but will say words to recite at night at the right hour. At that time within the seven days, Stephen started coming around all the time i mean i don't think it was coincidental cos really it wasn't. I believed what Metodo was doing was working. Just after those seven day i received a parcel with something he gave me instruction on how to use. This is no lie in anyway Stephen. Not everybody will believe this more over its just something on the internet but my heart knows every of this word that formed this entire comment is true. Living Metodo contact for those who believes me and needs help metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com


nomomacho4me2 wrote at 2014-09-20 05:17:59
I just want to ask everyone here was your mexican man/boy named Jarvin Felix Reyes???


tony maldonado wrote at 2014-12-13 19:43:54
Not all mexicans are not like that,I for example don't get jealous if my other is talking to a man,I don't like for my lady to do everything,if I get off work before her. I will have dinner ready or ask if she wants to go out and I enjoy pleasing and making her happy. I am not above her,she walks by my side not behind,she is the woman I love and to hurt the person you love and than act like nothing happened is the act of a low self esteem man. Im proud to be Mexican and a real man will love and respect his lady to the fullest... so I quess I will be a small percentage that has to make up for the rest of these so called men...and on behalf of us real men and gentlemen and men of respect...I apologize ladies from the bottom of my heart...


tony maldonado wrote at 2014-12-13 19:44:07
Not all mexicans are not like that,I for example don't get jealous if my other is talking to a man,I don't like for my lady to do everything,if I get off work before her. I will have dinner ready or ask if she wants to go out and I enjoy pleasing and making her happy. I am not above her,she walks by my side not behind,she is the woman I love and to hurt the person you love and than act like nothing happened is the act of a low self esteem man. Im proud to be Mexican and a real man will love and respect his lady to the fullest... so I quess I will be a small percentage that has to make up for the rest of these so called men...and on behalf of us real men and gentlemen and men of respect...I apologize ladies from the bottom of my heart...


Carol Thomas1 wrote at 2015-01-10 11:40:49
Read my testimony about how A spell Caster called Metodo Acamu help me get back together with my Husband after a nasty break on  http://justbaustralia.com.au/be-healthy/why-do-i-still-look-pregnant-9250/  .Every word you read is basically true and based on what happened i could only find help in the presence of Metodo Acamu. I will his email contact here for mailing purpose { metodoacamufortressx@yahoo.com }


Amelie Roseline wrote at 2015-01-18 03:21:32
My name is Amelie Roseline. A little over 15 years ago, I went through a divorce which left me living in fear. I was afraid that my heart would never heal. I was afraid that each day would be more meaningless than the next. I was afraid that I would never love again. After several months, I hit rock bottom. It was then I saw a friend comment on net on her she was helped by a love doctor, so I had to make a choice between fear and hope.  i made up my mind by contacting the great love doctor via mail on how i could get my husband back to love me again because i love him so much. he replied and gave me some little advice and assured me that he will bring back my happiness . which actually in that actual time i had a knock on my door surprising for me to see that it was my husband whom has abandon me for 15 years ago pleading to me that i should forgive him for his attitude over me, i accepted him back for the sake of love and for the children that has been lacking the  love of there father and today we are one family again with our kids together living a lovely life  While the last 15 years have been a challenge, today has mark the  beginning of the best days of my life. I was able to rebuild my life and find more love for him again by the love spell  from the love doctor. For all of you out there suffering from heartbreak or facing adversity, I want you to know that life can hold meaning again. A better, brighter path lies ahead. And love, in many forms, awaits you. Choose hope. In this, you will always find love.contact him via his website: priestazibasolutioncenter.webs.com.  mail: priestazibasolutioncenter@yahoo.com  mobile:+2348100368288 THANKS....




Baldwin Willard wrote at 2015-01-18 03:45:59
From my observation i noticed most people think spell casting is all and only Spam. Yes you can say that almost everything on the Internet is more or less Spam this days. I could have with no two thought said just that last year but Metodo Acamu a spell caster made me see there are still few good spell caster out there. Before now, i wasn't a good father or a husband. I  almost lost everything i had. As a matter of fact i lost everything i had. I lost my two kids and my wife and my job because i am an alcoholic. I was mostly always drunk throughout the entire day i pushed everybody away that really wanted to help me my wife my friends  my mom i was just all about the alcohol. For two years i  lived just being a drunk who had no one and who had nothing to live for, i was totally useless.When i realized myself it was rather to later even after i became sober and started fixing my life. She was remarried and living happily and wanted nothing to do with me. I wanted my wife back and wanted to be a part of my children life. Me wanting back my family was not only a step to get my life back together it was also a step to prove to my wife though i am an alcoholic, i can stay sober and be responsible for her and my children. Heaven knows i tried all i can to prove to her that i have changed and i am ready to love her with my life just like how it was before i  ruined it. I got her back even with the help of Metodo Aamu a spell caster i  was referred to on the Internet. Whatever he did for me made my wife  and my kids come back to me. All that was required from me were materials needed for the spell casting. I wish i can write in detail about how all this happened to make those who need help believe that spell casting can yield good result  but it really about the heart if you think Metodo Acamu can help you with your problem contact him here metodoacamufortressx@yahoo.com and i promise you, he can take all your troubles away, As his spell casting is harmless and don't have any effect in ones life.


marvica mercy wrote at 2015-01-29 23:35:40
I want to use this medium to tell the world about Doctor Jatto who helped me in getting my lover back with his powerful spell, my ex and I where having misunderstanding which led to our breakup though I went to beg her several times to please forgive and accept me back because I know I offended her but each time I went I always feel more deeply in pain and agony because she always walk out on me and would not want to listen to what I have to tell but on I faithful day as I was browsing I came arose a testimony of a woman whose problem was more than mine and yet Doctor Jatto helped her with his spell so I was happy and also contacted Doctor Jatto for help via email and then told him my story but the only thing he said was that I will wipe you tear with my spell so lucky for me everything want well just as he promised and right now I have got my fiance back and we are both living happily. there is nothing Doctor Jatto can not do with is spell and just as promise my self I will keep testifying on the internet of how Doctor Jatto helped me.Are your problem greater that mine or less I give you 100% guarantee that Doctor Jatto will put an end to it with his powerful spell, contact Doctor Jatto for help Via email drjattosplltemple@gmail.com or call him on his phone +2349035512062.


patrica wrote at 2015-02-11 12:14:53
BE CAREFUL HERE NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORE.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY HUSBAND BACK AFTER HE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2 YEARS WITH MY 7 YEARS OLD DAUGHTER JANE,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM WEST AFRICA UNTIL I SAW A POST ABOUT DR GOODLUCK SPELL AND I DECIDED TO GAVE HIM MY LAST TRAIL.SHE ASK ME FOUR THINGS MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND $180 AND SAID MY EX WILL COME BACK IN 24HOURS, I HAVE PAID OVER $3000 ON SPELL CASTING AND COURIER AND NOTHING HAVE WORK FOR ME AFTER 3 DAYS I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I HAVE LOST SO FAR SO I SAID LET ME GIVE HIM A TRY SO I CALLED HIM AGAIN AND SEND MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND THE $180 BECAUSE I SWEAR IT WAS MY LAST TRY SO I WAS WAITING AS HE TOLD ME TO WAIT TILL NEXT DAY AND I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE MY HUSBAND AND WANT HIM BACK AT 9PM THAT DAY I SAW MY HUSBAND ON LINE ON FACE BOOK AND HE SAID HI AT FIRST I WAS SHOCK BECAUSE HE NEVER TALK WITH ME FOR THE PAST A YEAR AND 9 MONTH NOW I DID NOT REPLY AGAIN HE SAID ARE YOU THERE? I QUICKLY REPLY YES AND HE SAID CAN WE SEE TOMORROW I SAID YES AND HE WENT OFF-LINE I WAS CONFUSED I TRY TO CHAT HER AGAIN BUT HE WAS NO MORE ON LINE I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT AS I WAS WONDERING WHAT HE IS GOING TO SAY, BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING HE GAVE ME A MISS CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK AGAIN HE CALL AND I PICK HE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO HE END THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK HE CALL ME AND WE MEET AND NOW WE ARE BACK AGAIN I CALL DR GOODLUCK THE NEXT DAY THANKING HIM FOR WHAT HE DID FOR ME IN FACT I STILL CALL HIM AND THANK HIM AS MY LIFE WAS NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT MY HUSBAND PLEASE BE CAREFUL HERE I HAVE BEEN SCAM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS IF YOU WANT A TRUE LOVE SPELL THEN CONTACT Dr Goodluck (Drextrapowerghost@gmail.com)




Hakan Parmaksiz wrote at 2015-02-16 12:31:27
Hello everyone, am Hakan Parmaksiz by name. I am proud to testify this testimony. I saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try the spell caster that helped her because my relationship was crashing. although i never believed in spell work i reluctantly tried him because i was desperate but to my greatest surprise the spell caster Dr Ebakor helped me get my Girl friend back after 5 month of break up and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my Girl friend now treats me like a Prince even when she had told me before she doesn't love me anymore. well, i cannot say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship contact him on his email: (Doctorebakorspelltemple@hotmail.com) he is the only answer to relationship problems once again his email is (Doctorebakorspelltemple@hotmail.com)


john Wales wrote at 2015-02-16 13:26:36


john Wales

Getting my Ex back was something that i couldn't imagine will be so easy am John Wales. I've known Sophia for years, When we finally got together,things were so weird so we broke up in February 2013.In June 2014, she and I recently got back together and we were together until march of 2014 of which she told me she was not interested in the relationship again During that time my mind completely changed, I wasn't eating, neither was i sleeping,talking to anyone was even more difficult, I cried,I was so depressed and stressed out that I was scared and was even planning to end it all but a friend of mine named Lucas Scott who passed through the same situation advice me to contact Dr.ehizojlespiritual through his email Dr.ehizojlespiritualhome@gmail.com because I Love & care about her deeply and just want us to be together again i did with no assurance, i never used to believe in spell casting but i gave it a try and it was a positive result. Today we are happily married and blessed with two wonderful kids. To you all out there faced with the same problem or similar to this, you can contact Dr. ehizojlespiritual via his email address Dr.ehizojlespiritualhome@gmail.com ...once again thank you Dr. ehizojlespiritual for bringing back my love


Tessy Cole wrote at 2015-02-21 07:27:22
My name is Tessy Cole  from Finland, My boyfriend left me a month ago and he was leaving with another woman who is 5 years older than him, i felt like my life is completely over so one day as i was browsing searching on the internet for help I read over the internet how a spell caster who has help several people to get there love back. I have been depress for the past one month and what i needed is to get him back and live with him happily. So, i decided to give it a try so i contacted the spell caster called DR. EBAKOR and i explained my problems to him and he said he will cast a love spell for me that will bring him back forever. I had no choice but to inform DR. EBAKOR to cast the spell which i use to get my boyfriend back and now my life is complete and both of us are very happy with the relationship. And i am really grateful to this man for what he has done for me and my family, Thank you very much and i will continue to say and share my testimony over and over again. For those who need help or that are having the same problem or other wise as me should contact him on his email address; DOCTOREBAKORSPELLTEMPLE@HOTMAIL.COM



You can also reach him on his cell phone: +2348136047017


dante meet wrote at 2015-03-25 09:24:30
My name is dante meet, and I base in U.S.A...My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Jatto, which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called luis francisca,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr Jatto E-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him VIA Email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before Dr Jatto, is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man... If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try drjattosplltemple@gmail.com anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here's his Email drjattosplltemple@gmail.com OR CALL +2349035512062.



1. GETTING YOUR EX BACK

2. WINNING LOTTERIES.

3. CHILD BEARING.

4. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.

5. GETTING OF JOB.

6. JOB PROMOTION.

7. MONEY SPELL.

8. SPIRITUAL PROTECTION.

9. HERBAL CARE.

10. BEAUTY SPELL.




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"Thanks your Dr OBODO your spell helped me during a troubled time in our marriage. I was so hurt and upset I couldn't think. Your love spell opened my heart back up."visit DOC at templeofanswer@hotmail.co.uk cell +(234)8155425481


Jeff L. wrote at 2015-04-08 21:23:36
It seems like most women look past a real man and just go on looks alone anymore. The good men are the one's that are brave enough to come up to you, yet you still don't even give them the time of day.


marcus zoe wrote at 2015-04-20 03:25:12
I will like to share my testimony to you all.i just got married to my husband about a year ago we start having problems at home like we stop sleeping on the same bed, fighting about little things he always comes home late at night, drinking too much and sleeping with other women out side.i have never love any man in my life except him.he is the father of my children and I don't want to loose him because we have worked so hard together to become what we are and have today.few month ago he now decided to live me and the kid, being a single mother can be hard sometimes and so I have nobody to turn to and I was heart broken.i called my mom and explain every thing to her, my mother told me about Dr Jatto how he helped her solve the problem between her and my dad I was surprise about it because they have been without each other for three and a half years and it was like a miracle how they came back to each other.i was directed to Dr Jatto and explain everything to him, so he promise me not to worry that he will cast a spell and make things come back to how we where so much in love again and that it was another female spirit that was controlling my husband.he told me that my problem will be solved within two days if I believe I said OK.So he cast a spell for me and after two days my love came back asking me to forgive him.i Am so happy now. so that why I decided to share my experience with every body that have such problem contact him email. drjattosplltemple@gmail.com or call him on his number 09035512062.



1. GETTING YOUR EX LOVER BACK.

2. WINNING LOTTERIES.

3. CHILD BEARING.

4. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.

5. GETTING OF JOB.

6. JOB PROMOTION.

7. MONEY SPELL.

8. SPIRITUAL PROTECTION.

9. HERBAL CARE.

10. BEAUTY SPELL.




Summers wrote at 2015-05-20 12:56:40
I am married to a Mexican man and it has been at times bumpy but overall I am very happy. We have been together for about 6-7 years now and we are expecting our first child next month. I am white and am somewhat strong willed which he has always known as we were friends 3 years prior to starting a relationship.



I can honestly say that he loves being affectionate in public and seems to glow when talking about the arrival of his son. Normally I do the housework except for yard maintenance or any heavy lifting. Now that I'm pregnant he has taken up cleaning andcooking duties as well as doting over me, which I find heart warming. It frustrates me that I have so little energy but I am so grateful that he helps out.



He is a good man and the only downside is my wanting topayfor things as he wants to provide and feels responsible and he has no issue in taking responsibility. He tells me that he is possessive but to be honest I cannot see it as he does not dictate who I can and cannot be friends with. Truth be told my friends all think he is great. He can be bombastic sometimes andhe believes firmly in what he believes but not at the cost of the relationship.



Overall I am very fortunate to have met such a lovely andcaringman.  


Summers wrote at 2015-05-20 12:57:03
I am married to a Mexican man and it has been at times bumpy but overall I am very happy. We have been together for about 6-7 years now and we are expecting our first child next month. I am white and am somewhat strong willed which he has always known as we were friends 3 years prior to starting a relationship.



I can honestly say that he loves being affectionate in public and seems to glow when talking about the arrival of his son. Normally I do the housework except for yard maintenance or any heavy lifting. Now that I'm pregnant he has taken up cleaning andcooking duties as well as doting over me, which I find heart warming. It frustrates me that I have so little energy but I am so grateful that he helps out.



He is a good man and the only downside is my wanting topayfor things as he wants to provide and feels responsible and he has no issue in taking responsibility. He tells me that he is possessive but to be honest I cannot see it as he does not dictate who I can and cannot be friends with. Truth be told my friends all think he is great. He can be bombastic sometimes andhe believes firmly in what he believes but not at the cost of the relationship.



Overall I am very fortunate to have met such a lovely andcaringman.  


Summers wrote at 2015-05-22 00:50:23
I am married to a Mexican man and it has been at times bumpy but overall I am very happy. We have been together for about 6-7 years now and we are expecting our first child next month. I am white and am somewhat strong willed which he has always known as we were friends 3 years prior to starting a relationship.



I can honestly say that he loves being affectionate in public and seems to glow when talking about the arrival of his son. Normally I do the housework except for yard maintenance or any heavy lifting. Now that I'm pregnant he has taken up cleaning andcooking duties as well as doting over me, which I find heart warming. It frustrates me that I have so little energy but I am so grateful that he helps out.



He is a good man and the only downside is my wanting topayfor things as he wants to provide and feels responsible and he has no issue in taking responsibility. He tells me that he is possessive but to be honest I cannot see it as he does not dictate who I can and cannot be friends with. Truth be told my friends all think he is great. He can be bombastic sometimes andhe believes firmly in what he believes but not at the cost of the relationship.



Overall I am very fortunate to have met such a lovely andcaringman.  


Aggie Ellstrom wrote at 2015-07-08 02:15:00
We all have different reasons why those of us who contacted Obudun Magonata to help us make our faithful to us some of us did it for lover, because of their children or health condition or even because they wanted not to be alone. For me it was non of those though i love my husband and don't want to raise our teens alone . The reason why i contacted Obudun Magonata to help me with a spell truly was because my husband was running for one of the seats in the Riksdag,the national legislative body of Sweden. Now i am not going to say if he won or under what party for security reasons  i did not ask for a spell to make him win or something NO i just asked for a spell to make him stop being a chronic Womanizer it was going to affect his campaign. I have lived with him for 20 years and after countless occasions of catching him cheating on me i have come to live with him like that though it hurts to death. I wish i knew all along all those years about Obudun the Great spell caster maybe my life would not have been this way. Like i was saying, His womanizing behavior got him into a lot of trouble and if any of those stories where to hit the press it would have destroyed his life and this political career and probably landed him in jail. With all the advise from me and his advisories of his campaigning team it was still not enough to bring him to caution. I went to the extreme to make sure he stops willingly or unwillingly that is i meant with some of his lover and asked to pay them off but they were not ready to let go it. I think he offered them something  more that money that even with the amount i offered them, they all refused and believe me it was very surprising and they will turn down a large amount of money. We my husband got to know about it he mad mad at me and gave all sort of threats. I was confused and his opposition were digging to find dirt on him and still was so convinced that they will not find anything but they did only with no evidence that was how lucky we were. Right then i took matters in my hand and contacted Obudun Magonata with the email address i saw on the internet i contacted him and told him what i want him to do for me to make my husband be faithful to me till our dying day and make all those people looking for how to bring down my husband stop. OK note my husband is a very honest man who would not hurt a fly he was just careless and always picked the wrong kinds of woman that get him in trouble. Obudun Magonata asked that i provide 4 kind of item me being so careful employed expert to help me get those materials mailed them over to him. I sent a total some of 3000 dollars when converting from Swedish Krona to American dollars. And it much much cheaper if i had asked him to get them for me. But whats done is done. Just after four day sent me a package, not telling its content but is totally harmless and told me how to make the spell effective. I did as he told me and in two my husband somehow magically broke tires with all the women he was involved with i don't know how it happen and those people trying to kill his political ambition stopped immediately. I wish i knew this Great man all along my life would have been perfect. His campaign team did not understand how i did it and what i did they were just happy all the worse is past. What wow me the most about Obudun Magonata was that the told me the out come of the election before the election date last years because all this happened last year and just what he said will happen really came to pass. And again i can't give full info because of security reasons. I little advise for those that are going to contact him via this email spiritsofobudunmagonata@yahoo.com if you are asked for material to do the spell don't go about it yourself Because you will waste a lot time and money on it and get to see asking him to get them for you with the total cost you wire to him will save you a lot. You have nothing be be afraid you can trust him with anything Because all he does is help people no matter how hard it may be.


Miguel Gonzalez wrote at 2015-07-18 18:50:46
I am a 32 year old Mexican/American man. I love my wife and our 4 children. Outside of our marriage we have no other children. I love my family and honor my wife and place her and my children first and above everything else. They are my life. I am not controlling, not jealous, no ego and empower my wife to be the best version of herself. I very rarely drink alcohol and when I do, it's casual.



I grew up in poverty in East LA and have come from a broken home. I vowed to break this vicious cycle and live an exemplar life for my children to follow. I am not pre-programmed nor hard-wired to abuse my wife, drink alcohol, cheat, lie, control nor walk around with a monumental sized ego. We are not products of our environment nor upbringing. We hold the key in our hearts and mind to make our own choices and pave our path.



It may also be an anomaly that we are financially secure. I am a Senior Executive for a technology company, very minimal debt, two beautiful homes and financial freedom to enjoy life. I guess not all of us Mexicans fall into the stereotypes described by some cynical people in this thread.



I am proud of being of Mexican heritage. We speak fluent Spanish at home, enjoy Mexican foods and we are humble people. We are hard workers but we are also ambitious and we are raising our children with the premise that nothing is given in life. Everything they have, they have earned. We create an environment at home that encourages education, progress and higher achievement as well as contribution to mankind.

Hope this encourages other amazing people to share their story. Ignorance comes in all shapes, sizes and colors. But so does success! We are not constrained by anything other than our own choices and decisions.  


truthteller wrote at 2015-08-02 20:19:49
A lot of Latinas cheat on their Hispanic boyfriends & husbands. Their is two sides to the story. A lot of women maybe should stop dating thugs & tattooed men. That's mostly the problem with black & latina women


anna wrote at 2015-08-26 03:29:37
My Name is Kelis Anna I want to testify of the good work of Dr.Bello who helped me in achieving the goals, i was in a relationship for 4year with my boyfriend and everything was going so sweet i loved him and i believed he loved me more than anything in this world after a while i noticed some changes in him so i knew something was wrong i tried to please him in several ways but no outcome, shortly i noticed he was seeing another girl i tried to make him understand that i loved him so much but he wouldn't even listen, one day i read a testimony on a similar case a person testifying of the work of this great Dr.Bello even when i did not believe i was convinced by my girlfriend so i contacted him and let him know all my problems and he said i should not worry that everything will be okay for me, in 2days my lover came asking me to forgive him,so if you are going through any problem contact him he might be the answer to your problem, here is his email address. Bellospelltemple@gmail.com or call his mobile number +2348147271779  


stacey wrote at 2015-10-03 20:22:20
My name is Stacey gold this is to testify that Dr Duck is a great spell caster he brought back my lover in just 2days after both of us divorce 5years ago, now my lover is back and he is the kind of man i want him to be if you are in any kind of problem please contact him for fast spell and urgent response he can also be trusted contact him on his email address on : greatoracletemplesolution@live.com


STEPHANIE WILLIAMS wrote at 2015-10-28 01:38:01
GREAT THANKS TO DR. SAM THAT HELPED ME GET PREGNANT.



I'm Stephanie Williams from USA, for over 4 years now of my marriage i have been trying to get pregnant. My husband and I have been seeing a fertility specialist. We have done one IUI with no luck. My husband has a sperm count which goes up and down,the doctor has recommended him taking the Proxeed supplement which he is doing over 3 years with no change in the situation my husband who has low sperm count? It just  seems to me that if the sperm are unable to fertilize the egg it will not matter how many are produced. I am was so confused until i contacted this powerful spell caster online who I saw a number of testimonies of how he has help so many of them so I sent DR. SAM a mail and I told him all my sorrows and pain he replied me and ask me not to cry any more that he will help, he sent me some instructions and caution, DR. SAM (the spell caster) performed the ritual rights and I bought some items to complete the rights and he told me to have sex with my husband within 2weeks of doing this I felt dizzy and I went to the doctor and it was confirm that I was pregnant thanks to DR. SAM spell temple now am a mother of a bouncing baby boy and joy has been restored to my marital life  and am happy ,if any one needs such help don’t wait all life time to get help in getting pregnant contact DR. SAM now on his personal email : miraclefertilitysolutiontempl1@gmail.com or miraclefertilitysolutiontemple@yahoo.com or through his website: http://miraclefertilityso.wix.com/dr-sam You can also contact him through his mobile: +2348110496031.


Anabella wrote at 2015-12-28 09:39:32
When the man I loved broke up with me, I felt something left me because i wasn't myself anymore. I had gone to several  spell casters for help and I got no results. Until I found marvelspelltemple@outlook.com and i was introduced to Dr Muna i explained my relationship I had with my man to Dr Muna. I’m glad I did all that he requested from me and trusted him. He performed a spiritual cleansing to banish negative energies that was fighting against our relationship and casted a love spell. After 72 hours, the man I missed started to call me and told me how much he extremely missed me too and he was sorry for leaving me in the dark. Help me to say Thank you to marvelspelltemple@outlook.com website http://marvelspelltemple.webs.com/


STEPHANIE WILLIAMS wrote at 2016-01-07 06:59:33
GREAT THANKS TO DR. SAM THAT HELPED SAVED MY MARRIAGE AND HELPED ME GET PREGNANT.



I'm Stephanie Williams from USA, for over 4 years now of my marriage i have been trying to get pregnant, this almost made my husband to divorce me because my mother in-law was planning to get him another girl, i was always crying everyday because my marital life way going down. My mother in-law made my husband believe that i was the cause of us being able to give birth, i was always crying, my heart was broken into pieces. My husband and I have been seeing a fertility specialist. We have done one IUI with no luck. My husband has a sperm count which goes up and down,the doctor has recommended him taking the Proxeed supplement which he is doing over 3 years with no change in the situation my husband who has low sperm count? It just seems to me that if the sperm are unable to fertilize the egg it will not matter how many are produced. I am was so confused until i contacted this powerful spell caster online who I saw a number of testimonies of how he has help so many of them so I sent DR. SAM a mail and I told him all my sorrows and pain he replied me and ask me not to cry any more that he will help, he sent me some instructions and caution, DR. SAM (the spell caster) performed the ritual rights and I bought some items to complete the rights and he told me to have sex with my husband within 2weeks of doing this I felt dizzy and I went to the doctor and it was confirm that I was pregnant thanks to DR. SAM spell temple now am a mother of a bouncing baby boy and joy has been restored to my marital life and am very happy, no more stress from my mother in-law. If any one needs such help don’t wait all life time to get help in getting pregnant contact DR. SAM now on his personal email : miraclefertilitysolutiontempl1@gmail.com or miraclefertilitysolutiontemple@yahoo.com or through his website: http://miraclefertilityso.wix.com/dr-sam

You can also contact him through his mobile: +2348110496031. Contact him now for pregnancy spell and love spell to bring back your ex lover


queenbee785 wrote at 2016-02-28 02:54:20
I was engaged to a Mexican guy. Black woman. He was super abusive. When we first started off, it was not like that. I am so happy to leave him. Not all of them are though, I just have not had any luck with them personally. I am super attractive to them, but decided to be single for a while.  


MCCARTHY wrote at 2016-04-22 00:42:33


MY NAME IS MCCARTHY FROM LAS VEGAS

PLEASE FIND TIME TO READ THIS CAREFULLY.

         AS WE ALL KNOW INDIA IS NUMBER ONE IN THE WORLD IN TERMS OF

MAGIC SO DO NOT IGNORE

THIS....

BE CAREFUL HERE, NOBODY CAN HELP YOU FROM AFRICA OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU

CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK, ALL TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER FROM

AFRICA HERE MUST BE IGNORED, BECAUSE ALL OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM

AND FROM AFRICA WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF

DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE TERA BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME

FOR OVER 2YEARS WITH MY 3YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT

SPELL CASTER HERE FROM AFRICA WHICH I MET ON THIS BLOG AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR

SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC

WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND ALL OF THEM WERE FROM  AFRICA, I WAS

SO CONFUSED AND I WAS ALWAYS SICK BECAUSE OF THIS PROBLEM AND I WAS SO

DESPERATE TO HAVE TERA BACK TO ME, I LOVE HER SO MUCH AND COULD DIE FOR HER.

UNTIL A FRIEND TOLD ME ABOUT THE INDIA CHURCH OF MAGIC THE GREATEST SPELL

TEMPLE, (church_ofmagic@outlook.com) TEMPLE OF BLACK AND WHITE (GOOD AND

EVIL) IN INDIA, AND I DECIDED TO SEND A MAIL TO THE TEMPLE. THE SECRETARY

TOLD ME THAT ALL MY PROBLEM ARE OVER SINCE I HAVE DECIDED TO CONTACT INDIA

FOR HELP, HE TOLD ME TO EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED BETWEEN ME AND MY EX WIFE

TERA AND I DID, I TOLD HIM ALL THAT HAPPENED FROM THE BEGINNING. AND HE

SAID TO ME MY CHILD WHAT YOU JUST EXPLAINED TO ME NOW IS A LITTLE PROBLEM

TO HANDLE COMPARE TO SERIOUS PROBLEMS THE DOCTORS OF THE INDIA CHURCH OF MAGIC HAS HANDLED, AS THERE ARE OVER 3000 DOCTORS, PROFESSORS AND SPELL CASTERS WORKING IN THE CHURCH OF MAGIC, I WAS SO

SHOCKED AND I SAID TO MY SELF WHAT PROBLEM COULD BE MORE SERIOUS THAN THIS.

HE TOLD ME WHAT I NEEDED TO DO AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, I WAS HAVING DOUBT ABOUT IT BECAUSE OF PAST EXPERIENCE, BUT I

DECIDED TO TRY SINCE THE CHURCH OF MAGIC IS LOCATED IN INDIA (ASIA) AND NOT AFRICA

(NIGERIA AND SOUTH AFRICA) THEY COULD BE REAL AND DIFFERENT. SO I GAVE THEM

50% OF MY TRUST. THIS WAS LIKE A MAGIC AND DREAM COME TRUE TO ME, AFTER TWO

DAYS WHEN THE SPELL HAS BEEN CASTED, TERA BEEPED MY PHONE AT ABOUT 9:PM I

COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE TERA AND WANT HER BACK. BY

7:AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME ANOTHER  MISSED CALL I DECIDED NOT TO

CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK,   AT ABOUT 10:AM THAT MORNING SHE CALLED

AND I PICKED SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE ENDED

THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALLED ME AND TOLD ME WERE TO MEET

HER, I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, BEHOLD WHEN I GOT THERE I SAW TERA CRYING WITH

TEARS ALL OVER HER EYES, AND SHE SAID TO ME MY HUSBAND, I AM SO SORRY

IMMEDIATELY I HUGGED HER AND KISSED HER WHICH I HAVE MISSED ALL THIS YEARS.

ALL THANK TO THE INDIA CHURCH OF MAGIC. IF YOU ARE A MAN OR A WOMAN READING

THIS AND YOU ARE PASSING THROUGH SIMILAR PROBLEMS LIKE MINE OR ENTIRELY DIFFERENT PROBLEM, DO NOT FAIL TO

CONTACT THIS GREAT TEMPLE. HE IS REALLY INDEED A REAL SPELL CASTER.

SOME SERVICES RENDERED IN THE INDIA CHURCH OF MAGIC

(1) If you want your ex back.

(2) To cure HIV/AID or related illness

(3) You want to be promoted in your office.

(4) You want women/men to run after you.

(5) If you want a child.

(6) Are you a contractor and you want to win contract

(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be

yours forever.

(8) If you need help spiritually.

(9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.   

(10)Stop Divorce

(11)Invoking of Money Ritual

(12)To verify if your online lover is real

(13)To verify if your online loan is real

(14)To be very brilliant

(15)If you are looking for a good job

(16)If you are old and want to look young

(17) If you want to be free from threats of spell cater in AFRICA

And many more..

Email... church_ofmagic@outlook.com

Website: http://churchofmagicindia.simplesite.com/




Justina wrote at 2016-06-23 00:16:42
I have been married to a Mexican man for 3 years now, but we have been together 5 years totally. Everything was great in the beginning, but after we got married, he changed. He decided that he can tell me what to do, where to go, what to wear, and who I can talk to. He expects me to cook, clean, and please him every night like a submissive housewife. I was not raised to be that kind of woman. He also expects me to only cook Mexican food and if I don't know the recipe, then I need to learn it. He thinks he knows everything and my opinion really doesn't matter. He gets drunk everyday also. I love my husband, but I wish he would change his viewpoints. I went to Mexico and met the rest of his family. I know he came from a poor family. His sisters are just housewives. No one but him speaks English or went to college except him. I think he is ashamed. But, for him to take out the frustration on me is wrong. I wish I knew how to change his viewpoint.


Angelie wrote at 2016-11-25 06:20:04
I have been in various parts of Mexico for a year.Mexican men are bipolar.These women who are saying "run" are telling the truth.The men I dated are not immigrants so that excuse doesn't work.I'm sure you can find one good one after dating ten demonic men but who needs the drama? I so appreciate American men so much more after all of my crazy experiences in Mexico.


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I can answer questions about the Mexican usage of Spanish language, or Spanish language in general. Information about Mexican literature and politics. Tips and help for those planning to live or travel to Mexico City. I can answer general questions about civil and mercantile laws. I can`t answer Mexican history questions before 1970. I don`t have knowledge about tourist places besides Mexico City.

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I am currently living in Mexico, after a period of being a student in Cincinnati, Ohio. I studied mercantile and civil laws for a Marketing Management major at a Mexican university. I also formed part of a writing workshop where my knowledge in Mexican literature and writing skills in Spanish improved.

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The UVM Journal. This was a publication at the University I studied in Mexico.

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