AboutMarc Niles Expertise Counseling was something i started in YMCA, New Delhi as a volunteer,..and after having studied so many situations and people, and having analyzed to a point where i was over the top..i believe that having a third person outlook is a sensible guideline into resolving issues....Thats why those people are called counselors..because they see what the other two don't.
Experience i involve myself in arts and sciences,... studying human nature is like a second life to me, and i forever find myself questioning why people do what they do. Its a interesting situation really!
Education/Credentials High school Graduate, Diploma in performing arts, Degree in English (Honors)and now currently applying for a degree in Journalism.
Expert: Marc Niles Date: 7/2/2008 Subject: should I be done with him?
Question when I was in high school, I met this boy who was awesome, we automatically had a connection, that was unusually perfect and close, we both had crushes on eachother, but had other relationships. We became best friends over the next few years, had classes together hung out everyday (all through college), we even went to europe for 5 weeks as friends. then we both didnt have a relationship, and I was scared to ask him out because I didn't want it to ruin our friendship, then finally I asked him out, we had a fantastic relationship for two years, all our friends got along, went places ect.. All of a sudden he broke up with me out of the blue, later I found out it was for another girl, he ignored me completely, I also heard he was getting into drugs, but he would not talk to me at all, whats up with that? This was about 6 months ago. Then one day three weeks ago, I saw him, we talked and got physical, he claimed he was so sorry, still loved me and could see us together again, at first he replyied to me and seemed interested, but now he is ignoring me again. was he just saying it to please me? I asked him to just be honest with me, and said just tell me if you are not intersted? We were best friend 5yrs prior to going out, and had a good relationship, how can he just let it go like that, like it never happened?
Answer hey ams!
how are you doing?..well..thanks for writing in..simple actually..
im sorry you went through this whole situation./and i do appreciate you being so detailed..
Well you have to see it from a third point of view..mine..
if he had the guts to dump you for anothewr girl..it shows he always took you for granted and only dated you coz you were available......definitely not having real feelings involved...but jst coz you were available..secondly....dumping you for another girl means he never had self respect or even considered your feelings..
now..he comes back to you..uses words..gets you into bed..and then leaves you..does that give you any ideas??he simply wanted to get into your pants..again..coz you were his friend once../and easily trusted...
you have to really let him go..theres no use wasting life or time over someone who has no value over friendship or respects your feelings...
and no.. dont think he said he is sorry to please you..he probably said it coz he has no damn clue what he wants..and jst came whimpering back to you coz you were available...i believe your friendship 5 years ago was the best thing to happen..and the only reason you guys went intpo a relationship together is coz you both were suddenly caught without anyone important in your lives..also..keep in mind that crushes dont always end in relationships......crushes can always stay crushes.......
i bel;ieve he simply let go coz he simply lost you somewhere......and has no value for your friendship, or even probably is too ashamed of his actions....considering he might have matured over time...and realised his stupidity..but even then..sleeping with you and leaving you isolated is the immaturest thing i believe people can do to a friend.
go ahead and enjoy life..move on..move forward..and let these scars heal..find someone who actually loves you and go make those happy memories..
