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Expertise
I am an expert and counselor on experts.com too. I am aware and have been through it all. I can answer your questions on being molested by my father, brother and how it feels as an adult to have dissociative identity disorder (DID) and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I can also answer questions on being in SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous, AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, being married several times as I tried to run from all my fears, including getting lost on the road and yet I still would strike out to find a man even if I did get lost. There's not anything I can imagine that I wouldn't try to answer!

Experience
When I was fifty-nine years of age, I experienced an incorporation with Dr. William Tollefson, the gentleman that developed incorporation therapy. Now my three altars and I are one system instead of four of us fighting against each other. On top of the molestations of childhood, I was raped repeatedly in college by three men and left to die. I stayed in basically an abusive marriage for 26 years even though I was the one that was educated, six years of college. Organizations: United Methodist's Women's Group, Epiphany, Faith Partner's, Emmaus Walk Publications: Sarah Harrison has written several articles for the Women's Institute for Incorporation Therapy's monthly newsletter as well as articles for spiritual magazines. She has just recently published her own true tragedy of sexual abuse entitled, "You Love Your Daddy, Don't You?" Go to www.incestvictim.com to view the website and order her book. Education/Credentials: Master's in Education, Specialist's in Education, Specialist's in Administration. Awards and Honors: Teacher of the Year, on the Board of the Finance Committee for Gwinnett Co. Board of Ed. for seven years, CASA volunteer in Forsyth Co. for four years. Past/Present Clients: Women's group at Birmingham United Methodist Church in Alpharetta, GA and Epiphany at Columbia, SC. I want to start engaging in speaking conferences for other women's groups as soon as possible now that my book is published.

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Molestation - Concerned Mom

Expert: Sarah Harrison - 10/28/2009

Question
"I have a 2 and 1/2 year old. I have this weird feeling that she has been molested. A few months ago we left her in the care of my brother in law, who we thought adored her and would never harm her. Later that night after i came home from work, she was playing and every now and then she comes to me crying, holding her private area, saying it hurts. so i took her into the room and examined her on the surface and i said to my husband, (whom i called to show her to)it doesn't look like it should. So he said that it could be just her digging at herself, which she sometimes does, when shes getting changed. So i shrugged it off. The next day she stopped crying, didn't tell me anything about her private area again. (she was not left in the care of my bro-in-law again, not that we suspected anything)one week later she went to my folks to visit and my mom called me with this news. She said when she tried changing her diaper, she shuts her legs and cries, doesn't want gran to change her. She has never done this before.And my mom, who raised 4 girls, said that my daughter was acting really weird and she started to think something happened to her, so she took her to the Dr. to be examined, not thoroughly but just a few questions, and the Dr. said that it did look a bit red and swollen inside. Someone had tried to put something in her or she tried putting something there. My husband and i have not let her seen us have sex, and she doesn't watch movies that are adults. I am very concerned, and here's where it really knocked me on the head, my sister said she saw my little girl tried to put a pipe at her private area!This is 3 months after her very
first crying incident. My questions is, could a 2 year old know that something can be inserted in her private area unless seen or have done to her?"

Answer
Dear Stephanie,
It so tragic for little ones like her. Unfortunately, no a two year old would not be trying to put anything in her vagina unless it had been done to her. When the doctor found her swollen on the inside was when something happened to her. It sounds as if the brother-in-law may be a perpetrator. I would not leave her alone with him again. I would not rule out other possibilities though. Keep close track of who she is with from now on and watch closely for other incest signs now that you want be leaving her with him anymore.

It is good for you and her that you recognized this while she is so young. Maybe no mental damage is done yet. Take care of your baby. Children are God's precious gifts to us.

Blessings to you and yours,
Sarah

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