Expert: William Silver - 10/25/2009

Question
I am 16 now. When I was around 11 years old I started remembering details of me being molested by a family friend. I thnik I remember the majority of what happened through dreams and the rest I've recovered through time. I know dreams aren't the most reliable sourrce. But it was a dream that was different from all other dreams because this is the only dream I have ever remembered. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't tell my mom. I want to be positive that my mind is not lying to me. Because the fact that I don't remember him touching me until I was 11, makes me self conscious of what has happened. What do you suggested I do to recall my memories? Do you think I have blocked it out? (It only happened once when I was 4 and I know it was a family friend but I don't remember his face)

Answer
Sam, When children are molested it does upset the mind-body balance and the trauma stays resident within, even though the conscious mind may not be able to recall the details clearly. The 4 year old mind is very impressionable so a lot of the incoming input gets scrambled with facts and fantasies all tumbled together at times.

In sessions with other clients who have been molested, often the EFT process that I use can dislodge the blocks covering up the facts of the past. This is NOT a guarantee, but often spontaneous memories will float to the surface and be recalled.

The more you keep this a a secret, the worse it can become without neutralizing the trauma and speaking your truth about what you experienced or thought you experienced. If you have a close and supportive relationship with your parents, it may be helpful for you to speak about it now. If you don't feel like you have that level of support, then telling a counselor or trying to do EFT on yourself are options.

For more EFT info, go to: www.emofree.com and download the free EFT manual file for review and to try out on something more current and not so charged, then expand the practice if it resonates with you.

Your speaking out here is the first step in your healing process. Please continue to follow your intuition and get assistance where you can, until you are free of these old dreams and memories.

I hope this is helpful for you,

William Silver