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I can address all questions about physical, sexual, emotional trauma and how to eliminate the effects from your life. I specialize in assisting clients with a 1 to 3-hour session that can discharge all of the negative feelings around any type of emotionally based problem. I can direct you to some websites where you can download information to assist you and your loved ones with emotional problems. I can also assist directly on the phone or via email, in addition to personal sessions, here in San Diego, California. I am not a licensed therapist, lawyer or law enforcement officer.

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I have been a holistic health therapist for a total of over 15 years, specializing in anxiety-phobia, trauma release work.

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TFT/EFT training, Cranio-Sacral Therapy, SHEN, Reiki, Hypnotherapy.

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Molestation - Anabella my 4yr old daughter has been complaining of pain in her vagina

Expert: William Silver - 11/7/2009

Question
I was taking her a bath last night and she was crying that her peepee was hurting her. earlier that day she ahd been touching herself agressively pressing on it saying it was hurting again. a year ago we my family of five husband and three children she is the only girl moved in with my husbands parents to help out with finances because his father had lost his job again. Since then she had been claiming pain in her private. I was pissed because you see her room was next door to my bedroom and one night i had a dream that her was going to rape or molest my baby girl. I told my husband about the disturbing dream and he passed it off as nothing I thought that it was very odd and went on and let her sit in the tub to ease her pain. It however got worse and was very red, then months later she developed a severe yeast infection and the doctor noticed that her vagina was red, irritated and painful to the touch but also niticed that her vagina whole was loose and opened very wide and oddly. I took my motherin law with me. and he told us to keep an eye on it and bring her back if got worse. a couple months later she was fine but also we were no longer living with them I noticed that and madew a mental note. then we moved back a year after we had been away, and then the problem came back again. I kept on having dreams of him being sexually deprivated and extremly lustful and discustingly vulger. then he started acting sick in the real world not my dreams. he spoke sexually in front of my husband, his son. I asked his mother wethere they were still having sex and she had said that it had been more than twenty years since they had any and that he could not get an erection. I thought that it was odd because all of my dreams come true my whole life and i was terrified. anyhow one night i woke because I heard someone say "GO NOW, HE'S DOING IT RIGHT NOW" in my dream and i woke and jumped off my bed and heard some noice in my daughter's bedroom and I unlocked the door to my room and it had made i squeak and I missed it I caught him coming out of the room at 4 in the morning I asked him what he was doing in there at this hour and he said that he was checking on her . I did not buy it i told my mother in law but she hate me and thought that he was telling the truth, i did not insinuate anything but that's what she thought. The following 2 months i caught him coming out of the room but I never caught him in action and I asked her if anyone had toughed her and she said no. however my husband and I noticed that she would grind her private whenever she sat on him and caught her having her legs wrapped around his body as he dat in a chair and she was humping him.I yelled at her and him as he laughed. I was groused out but could not prove anything. we finally moved out four months ago but her vagina is hurting her still and it is a lot better again but the vagina is still red . I took her a shower 2 days ago and I asked her again if she knew why it was hurting and if anyone had touchd her and this time she said that her grandpa had been touching her inside her peepee and that he would come in her room at night everytime and he would put his fingers in and out of her peepee and she showed me how. she then proceeded to jirate back and forth and up and down useing her hand in a thrusting motion. she was very afaid at that moment because I asked her why she never said anything. she felt comfortanle telling now because her was 4 hrs away and he couldn't hurt her anymore but she asked me when the cops were going to come and take her away me and her family if she ever told on him. she claims her grandfather has been poking her at night in her bedroom. I have no proof beside her testimony. I went through this 4yrs back when my son was molested by my cousin and that was devastating he was hospital for a overnighter. and his life has never been the same. what do I do next? can he be procecuted? and what can I do too help her with the pain and the redness. I have been having her soak but it isn't enough and I don't know if I can put my daughter through the rape kit process, it is a horrible thing.HELP ME

Answer
Esther, your first priority is to have your daughter seen my a medical expert in childhood sexual assault and to get her the antibiotics or whatever she needs to heal up physically. I would take her word on what happened and that mixed in with the medical evidence may be sufficient to have a police report filed and possible prosecution. I am not a lawyer, doctor or law enforcement authority, so you have to do work on what the laws are in your area. Check the www.rainn.org site for possible support for this issue.

Your daughter needs to be seen by a therapist who can help her release the trauma that she has suffered. If you can find one who uses EFT in their practice, it would be most helpful. EFT info available at www.emofree.com site. If you learn this helpful technique, yourself, you can also use it on your children for their traumas, past and present and help them to be healthy and happy again.

Continue to follow your instincts and stay strong in your followup in keeping this pervert isolated from other children in the future.

William Silver

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