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I am an expert and counselor on experts.com too. I am aware and have been through it all. I can answer your questions on being molested by my father, brother and how it feels as an adult to have dissociative identity disorder (DID) and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I can also answer questions on being in SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous, AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, being married several times as I tried to run from all my fears, including getting lost on the road and yet I still would strike out to find a man even if I did get lost. There's not anything I can imagine that I wouldn't try to answer!

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When I was fifty-nine years of age, I experienced an incorporation with Dr. William Tollefson, the gentleman that developed incorporation therapy. Now my three altars and I are one system instead of four of us fighting against each other. On top of the molestations of childhood, I was raped repeatedly in college by three men and left to die. I stayed in basically an abusive marriage for 26 years even though I was the one that was educated, six years of college. Organizations: United Methodist's Women's Group, Epiphany, Faith Partner's, Emmaus Walk Publications: Sarah Harrison has written several articles for the Women's Institute for Incorporation Therapy's monthly newsletter as well as articles for spiritual magazines. She has just recently published her own true tragedy of sexual abuse entitled, "You Love Your Daddy, Don't You?" Go to www.incestvictim.com to view the website and order her book. Education/Credentials: Master's in Education, Specialist's in Education, Specialist's in Administration. Awards and Honors: Teacher of the Year, on the Board of the Finance Committee for Gwinnett Co. Board of Ed. for seven years, CASA volunteer in Forsyth Co. for four years. Past/Present Clients: Women's group at Birmingham United Methodist Church in Alpharetta, GA and Epiphany at Columbia, SC. I want to start engaging in speaking conferences for other women's groups as soon as possible now that my book is published.

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Molestation - bad judgement

Expert: Sarah Harrison - 11/5/2009

Question
QUESTION: Hello and thanks for taking the time, my name is brad I have a 11 year old daughter Kaylee. Recently I made the worse judgement call a father could ever make and I don't know what to do. About a week ago I was watching tv kaylee came in and sat next to me to watch as well, I don't know with out even thinking I starting rubbing her vagina over the boxer shorts she was wearing and eventually reaching my hand into them and began to fingure her she just sat there motionless, I just continued to touch her without even thinking, I don't know why I did that I need help can you help?

ANSWER: Dear Brad,
Yes, you do need help. If family and children services found out, they would put you in jail and take her to foster care or a group home.

Now that it has happened, what are you going to do about it? Something like that is not going to be easy to stop. Was your wife out or is it just the two of you? Start some professional counseling immediately. Tell your daughter that you are sorry and to please forgive you. It sounds as if it is just the two of you living there. She is lonely for a mother's love and you are lonely for a woman's love. You are both going about it in the wrong way. She sat close to you wanting your arm around her and holding her tight like a mother does her daughter. On the other hand, you were turned own by the way she was dressed and her beautiful body.

She will need some counseling too. This could bother her for the rest of her life. After you get your counseling started, talk to them about bringing her in on some sessions, maybe one or two by herself at first and then some together so that she won't be harboring this in her brain, the sooner the better. Her grades will probably drop also until she gets some professional help.

Is this the first time? You are a wise man for telling on yourself the first time and knowing that it needs to stop. Pleassssssse stop it for her sake. Get help now!

Blessings to you,
Sarah

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QUESTION: Sarah, thank you for you responce it is just kaylee and myself unfortunately things have not progressed and since my last email to you I took things to far and engauged in full sexual intercourse with her avoiding the use of a condom, I have sence sent her to live with other family so I can't get myself help. This is the first time in my life that I have ever done this sort of thing and am struggling with myself as I should thank you for any responce you may give.

Answer
Dear Brad,
You know she can never come back to live with you. It will just start all over again no matter how much counseling you get.

I'm not going to fuss at you, but I knew what was going to happen. I wish you had sent her away before it happened. It would have been so much easier on the both of you. Has she started her menstrual period yet. In other words, is there a possibility that she could get pregnant. I'm sure that was her first time and you probably hurt her badly.

Just go ahead and get your counseling started and be as honest with your feelings as you can and try to do exactly what he/she suggest that you do.

God bless you,
Sarah

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