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mama wrote at 2010-06-13 19:35:47
Hi I wanted to add to this comment.  My father in law molested his daughter for 10 years.  My husband and I have 2 children together and I can tell we are now getting a divorce over this issue.  PLEASE SPEAK UP!! I wish my husband could have seen the same signs that your answer says because our children have to fall victim to this insanity.  Please now these molesters are not always monsters.  I still care about my father in law I just don't want him around my children. Period. Even with supervision!  Thank you.  Find your courage, it's the best thing you will do!  


Michelle S. wrote at 2010-12-03 05:26:16
This response claimed that "bringing out the truth will not ever hurt a person's chance for marriage." This is an absolute statement that is impossible to support. An absolute statement is like a promise. When helping a victim, don't make promises that are not reasonable.  


Jojo wrote at 2013-05-23 04:26:14
Why would you work with your Uncle knowing how your family brushed it under the rug and have not protected your sister - you look down on them not doing anything yet you go to work everyday and work with him. You know this man hurt your sister ! Why would you hurt her more by working with him. I had the same thing happen in my family concerning me and even if your sister won't tell you how much it probably hurts her that this job is more important that you would even be cordial to him for the sake of a dollar - - cut this uncle out of your life -find a new job - you should tell his wife and save your sister having to tell her. This pattern of abuse will not stop in your future family generations until someone says "enough" . Your children will be taught from example to cover up child molestation. But for the pain caused now  -will help in the long run. My parents covered up my Uncle doing the same to me and he ended up abusing his two grandchildren 20 yrs later and in his  late 60's.  He has since passed away. Concerning  my parents they  Southern's -family is family and you love them anyways motto and they did this to protect my dads sister-so not to embarrass and break up her marriage . You probably won't change the way your parents look at what abuse took place on your sister but you can always change the way you look and respond to what happened to her. Let you sister know she is not alone in all this . I hope you and your family finds justice and peace and healing . God Bless


Jojo wrote at 2013-05-23 05:14:18
Why would you work with your Uncle knowing how your family brushed it under the rug and have not protected your sister - you look down on them not doing anything yet you go to work everyday and work with him. You know this man hurt your sister ! Why would you hurt her more by working with him. I had the same thing happen in my family concerning me and even if your sister won't tell you how much it probably hurts her that this job is more important that you would even be cordial to him for the sake of a dollar - - cut this uncle out of your life -find a new job - you should tell his wife and save your sister having to tell her. This pattern of abuse will not stop in your future family generations until someone says "enough" . Your children will be taught from example to cover up child molestation. But for the pain caused now  -will help in the long run. My parents covered up my Uncle doing the same to me and he ended up abusing his two grandchildren 20 yrs later and in his  late 60's.  He has since passed away. Concerning  my parents they  Southern's -family is family and you love them anyways motto and they did this to protect my dads sister-so not to embarrass and break up her marriage . You probably won't change the way your parents look at what abuse took place on your sister but you can always change the way you look and respond to what happened to her. Let you sister know she is not alone in all this . I hope you and your family finds justice and peace and healing . God Bless


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