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Molestation/Questions Answered by Expert Sarah Harrison
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Child molestation | 12/29/2010 |
| Q: My step son is 5 years old. His father and I only get him every other weekend and recently when he ... A: Obviously, he is being molested by someone. I would report the family to DFACS, Department of Family ... | |
| Help | 12/27/2010 |
| Q: I cant seem to recall how old I was since I feel that I blocked it from my memory for a few years, ... A: I am sure that it is affecting you! It always does when it is a brother or sister that has been ... | |
| Why me ? and How can i move on? | 12/26/2010 |
| Q: ,i don't know exactly where to start ,,but i just feel that i'm gonna explode ,,i really need ... A: Do you really think a six year old could be responsible for letting little boys bother her? The ... | |
| merry christmas | 12/23/2010 |
| Q: harrison. this is travis again. ater telling you my whole deal and stuff i forgot to tell you ... A: It's Christmas Eve so you better be thinking about getting those eyes closed so Santa can come to ... | |
| Afraid to tell anyone | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: I have a couple really big problems but this is one is way worse right now. A few weeks ago I was ... A: Oh my darling, Please don't stay there any longer. It is truly messing up your adult life. Go to ... | |
| molestation | 12/20/2010 |
| Q: When my Uncle was about 18 years old he molested me at the tender age of 8 yrs, this was the only ... A: You are very normal. The one that is not normal is your brother trying to rape you at this age. ... | |
| obsessed with my molester | 12/19/2010 |
| Q: I was molested from age 5 to 13 by a non-family member. I am now 41. I have been in therapy for the ... A: I think you, like many others your age at the time of his molestation probably enjoyed it. You are ... | |
| sexually abused by step father | 12/12/2010 |
| Q: IM TWENTY THREE YEARS OLD NW> I HAVE BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED BY MY STEP FATHER FOR MANY YEARS> IT ... A: Surprise him one day. Slap him hard when he approaches you. Say "Go see your wife, not me. I love my ... | |
| molestation | 12/11/2010 |
| Q: Is it possible to be molested as a child and then repress the memories? My sister and I both are ... A: It is possible, but not probable. You were probable teased by him a lot when you were little. I had ... | |
| Stepfather | 12/10/2010 |
| Q: Starting from when I was about four to the time I was ten I was molested by my stepfather. My real ... A: You got the right attitude Nikki... You can move on in your life whether your sister is willing to ... | |
| Stepfather | 12/8/2010 |
| Q: Starting from when I was about four to the time I was ten I was molested by my stepfather. My real ... A: If your mother is very close to you, it would hurt very much. See first you have to forgive her for ... | |
| my 3 children were molested | 12/8/2010 |
| Q: When my daughter was in preschool she told teacher her dad touched her and itwas reported to cps. i ... A: Your children should be the most important thing to you and if they are, you will want to press ... | |
| Afraid to tell anyone | 12/6/2010 |
| Q: I have a couple really big problems but this is one is way worse right now. A few weeks ago I was ... A: Bless your heart! Save a copy of all these letters so that you can show them to DFACS, Family and ... | |
| Afraid to tell anyone | 12/5/2010 |
| Q: I have a couple really big problems but this is one is way worse right now. A few weeks ago I was ... A: You have to tell someone! It will only get worse. You should have told your mom the second time that ... | |
| molestation | 12/3/2010 |
| Q: Sarah, i have a 5 year old sister, and my mother was telling me that the principal contacted her and ... A: Everything you said is signs of her being molested by her father. The crying at night, saying that ... | |
| My wife informed me she was molested | 12/3/2010 |
| Q: My wife of 10 years just informed me that she was molested by a cousin when she was around 5. We ... A: Look inside her head and try to see what she is thinking. She has been married to you for ten years ... | |
| dad | 12/1/2010 |
| Q: I hate to ask this question because I don't feel I have had it as bad as others, but I still have ... A: Any abuse is as bad as another. He knew what he was doing and he is right. It was not your fault.So ... | |
| my husband just told me about his mother molesting him & how he molested other siblings as a child | 11/30/2010 |
| Q: I am completely at a loss as to how to handle this bombshell. Let me start by sharing that I have ... A: Family secrets destroy a family and marriage. I know this hurts, but as you see, he could not have a ... | |
| Molestation by a family member | 11/28/2010 |
| Q: I just found out from my sister that her three year old son told her that our 14 year old nephew ... A: The 14 year old is crying out for help or he never would have told that they did play Dr. He did ... | |
| how do I deal with family after molestation | 11/27/2010 |
| Q: I recently (about 4 years ago) started to remember my brother, that is 6 years older than me, try a ... A: If your brother was 14 and you 8 when it all started, it could be his puberty that was affecting him ... | |
| was i molested? | 11/24/2010 |
| Q: I had a flashback from when i was younger.I was the age of 6. Now I'm 14.I remembered when my ... A: I am sorry that you had to have this experience at such a young age. Don't think that you were bad ... | |
| Help getting over my past | 11/23/2010 |
| Q: My name is Maggie, I'm 16 years old, and several years ago I was molested by a friends older ... A: Don't be afraid of the girlfriend you were talking to. If she gets angry, then she is not worth ... | |
| Is my child a victim? | 11/3/2010 |
| Q: I myself have seen my 6 year old son being grabbed jokingly by his grandfather on his penis saying ... A: If his grandfather is grabbing his penis and pulling on it, he is a victim of molestation. Tell your ... | |
| plannin to get married | 10/31/2010 |
| Q: i know this sounds weird but this is a true story. i meet this guy over the phone through a girl at ... A: You didn't find out enough about him before you took your money and flew him to your state so you ... | |
| molestation of my child by family cousin | 10/30/2010 |
| Q: My daughter has flashbacks after admiting to the molestation of ten years by her three years older ... A: How old were each of them when this happened? Maybe 10 and 13 or 11 and 14. That really makes a big ... | |
| So torn... | 10/24/2010 |
| Q: I know this will be long, but I'm petrified and torn. Last week, my almost 15 year old daughter came ... A: If you have a church, you need to talk to your pastor. If you don't have one, still find one where ... | |
| Molested at 4 by neighborhood boy | 10/22/2010 |
| Q: I am 15 years old and my family had moved in the neighborhood when I was 4 years old. The ... A: It was molestation! In his heart he may think it was your fault, however, I doubt it. When did it ... | |
| Child Molestation | 10/20/2010 |
| Q: My daughter called me today and stated the the father of my just turned two year old granddaughter ... A: Many of my questions were in my spam and when some of you started inquiring Allexperts notified me ... | |
| a friends young daughter said my 15 yr old son touched her wrong | 10/20/2010 |
| Q: my friends daughter said my son touched her wrong. My son swears it never happened,I spoke to the ... A: I guess all of this is over by now. Your question went to my spam. This has never happened before ... | |
| Molestation | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: I was molested when I was 9 years old by my brother in law. It went on for years. When one of those ... A: If you could find one person who would side with you that the panic attacks and disability are a ... | |
| Repressed memories...? | 10/5/2010 |
| Q: I am 30yrs old. I have had a few weird reactions lately that I'm not sure are normal. My husband ... A: It is not normal activity for little girls to get together and masturbate even if it is through ... | |
| past issue of molestation/denial | 10/5/2010 |
| Q: I am attaching a past email from last May I sent you with your answer. Please don't think I'm ... A: Oh Margot, It is so good to hear from you again. It just goes to show us how deeply the wounds go ... | |
| husband molested his stepsister | 10/4/2010 |
| Q: I recently found some writing (a fourth step) my husband did in which he admitted his guilt and ... A: If your husband is on his fourth step, he has been going for quite some time. He probably has his 6 ... | |
| My daughter was molested | 10/3/2010 |
| Q: I married a man who had two sons under the age of 2 16 years ago. I also had an infant daughter at ... A: By all means if your daughter is not struggling with the incest, let it go. It sounds that your ... | |
| Being Molested as a Child Effects my Adult Sex Life | 10/2/2010 |
| Q: I am a 32 year old female, When i was 6 years old, My father was Murdered by my babysitter who was a ... A: I'm sorry about that. I was the same way you are. If I did go out with a nice man, I didn't continue ... | |
| step father molested my daughter | 10/1/2010 |
| Q: Last night i ran to rite aid for about 20min and came home to my daughter saying "mom i don't feel ... A: Unfortunately, he is not going to stop. He can say that he is, but he never will. He will honestly ... | |
| Blended Family | 9/30/2010 |
| Q: My biological daughter has seen many xrated actions my x wife did when she would cheat on me. Every ... A: Yes David I truly respect you for not thinking about letting her go back to her mom. She is ... | |
| How/when do i tell my friends? | 9/30/2010 |
| Q: I can't remember how old i was when it started but i know i met him at or around the age of 2 and it ... A: You should not tell your friends or boyfriend about it. They will think you are dirty and wanting ... | |
| Blended Family | 9/29/2010 |
| Q: My biological daughter has seen many xrated actions my x wife did when she would cheat on me. Every ... A: Put your daughter in therapy for kids that have been abused. She definitely has with the open sex ... | |
| triggers | 9/29/2010 |
| Q: I am struggling right now with being triggered. This time of year is horrible for me. Never ... A: You talk to God out loud. Tell him you know that those were sick men who awful things to you and you ... | |
| triggers | 9/29/2010 |
| Q: I am struggling right now with being triggered. This time of year is horrible for me. Never ... A: My dear darling Tracy, You will never get over it until you forgive your perpetrators!!!!!! That is ... | |
| How do I go about bringing my molester to justice? | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: I've been suffering from crippling PTSD, agoraphobia and panic disorder because of prolonged ... A: By all means, if you can still bring justice and file a suit against him, do it! And what you said ... | |
| molestation | 9/27/2010 |
| Q: I found out yesterday from my 6 yr old son that my 9yr old son has been asking him to touch his ... A: You are doing everything right by keeping a close eye on them and asking the younger one if the ... | |
| can we still press charges | 9/27/2010 |
| Q: Can we still press charges after years when my daughter told me her step father was touching her ... A: I know you must feel very badly about all of this because one thing that I tell young adult that ... | |
| Suspect sexual abuse | 9/27/2010 |
| Q: I've suspected that I was sexually abused for a couple of years now. Mostly its the dreams I've been ... A: Do you see a psychiatrist for prescription medication for your anxiety and depression? You really ... | |
| Being Molested as a Child Effects my Adult Sex Life | 9/26/2010 |
| Q: I am a 32 year old female, When i was 6 years old, My father was Murdered by my babysitter who was a ... A: First, let me say that everything that you feel is normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Unless you ... | |
| molestation | 9/26/2010 |
| Q: I found out yesterday from my 6 yr old son that my 9yr old son has been asking him to touch his ... A: At that age, it is uncommon unless someone is touching him. I would go ahead and tell your partner ... | |
| step father molester | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: I am a 53 year old female adult child of a long gone child incest molester step-father. I recently ... A: You are almost the age I was when I finally did something about all the pain my family did to me. I ... | |
| My 6 yr old son asked to do something inappropriate to a 10 yr old boy | 9/7/2010 |
| Q: This past weekend I was approached by another mother at a local campground where my family and I ... A: My heart goes out to you. I don't see how the authorities could say "that no law was really broken ... | |
| my mother | 9/6/2010 |
| Q: I was abused by my brothers as a child. When my mother died two years ago my brothers took her ... A: I would go to my brother that has the ashes and tell him that he wanted half of them and now you ... | |
| Molested by my stepfather | 9/4/2010 |
| Q: When I was seven years old, my parents divorced. My mother later met my stepfather who I grew ... A: Forgive me for being so long in answering you. I used to have the same feelings with my father ... | |
| need to talk | 9/4/2010 |
| Q: I was molested by a family friend when I was 8 yrs old, and it went on for many years until I ... A: I'm sorry I am so long in answering. Thank-you for sharing a picture of yourself and grandson. Your ... | |
| lost soul | 9/4/2010 |
| Q: my parents waS deemed unfit wen i was young. my mother severely beat me and tortured me everyday to ... A: The first thing to do is to forgive all of your perpetrators. I know that sounds like an ... | |
| molested or not? | 7/15/2010 |
| Q: when i was 8 my cousin who was about 10 or 11 tried to have sex with me while i was asleep. he ... A: You are beating yourself up over this and it is not even your fault. If you had not been so smart at ... | |
| How to cope and help my wife | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: My wife was molested at the age of 16 by an uncle. She then approached her mother who told her it ... A: Know that whatever I say, I am not fussing at you. I have made some of the same mistakes myself. You ... | |
| im not sure? | 7/13/2010 |
| Q: my name is jasmine and i am 16. i think i was molested as a child but i cant be sure. Ever since i ... A: I don't understand this sentence: "I am very scared of men and i feel like i HAVE to have sex at the ... | |
| I was molested at 15 by my brother-in-law | 7/11/2010 |
| Q: I was visiting my sister and brother-in-law for a few weeks in August, 1970. Shortly into my ... A: Brother-in-laws are considered family! I didn't mean blood relatives. I am so sorry that I hurt you. ... | |
| molestation in my dreams | 7/7/2010 |
| Q: i am haunted by my dream of sleeping with my dad when i was around 21 years old. I had been ... A: Family secrets destroy families. You need to take your mom aside and tell her everything that you ... | |
| my daughter | 7/5/2010 |
| Q: i went with my daughter to the bathroom and noticed her panties had a little bloody mess in them. i ... A: You can't tell by looking, but if she has blood in her panties, it most likely has been broken. You ... | |
| Molested by father | 7/4/2010 |
| Q: Umm.Hi. So I've been molested by my father at least twice...in my sleep. Not really.One day, I was ... A: Yes, tell your mother what has happened. She will believe you more now in the early stages of incest ... | |
| Molested by father | 7/1/2010 |
| Q: Umm.Hi. So I've been molested by my father at least twice...in my sleep. Not really.One day, I was ... A: You should have stuck to your plan of getting up and running out of your room and screaming. Your ... | |
| Doctor... | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: When I was young, I went to the same doctor until I was probably about 12, and I remember him always ... A: Your doctor would not have been allowed to do your exam without a nurse being in there with you. ... | |
| cycle of abuse and regret | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend recently opened up to me about his experiences. He is often quiet and feels ... A: You are right about the forgiving. Your friend has got to forgive the ESOL teacher in his heart. He ... | |
| Sexually abused by my sister, and her boyfriend? | 6/21/2010 |
| Q: Im 14 now. But when i was like 8 or something, my older sister used to molest me. I didnt know about ... A: You need to go to the police in your town and tell them everything that you have told to me. That is ... | |
| My 15 year old son molested my 5 year old daughter | 6/21/2010 |
| Q: We are a mixed family with 6 children. Some step, some half, some that are the child of an ex, blah, ... A: If it takes it, you can put a lock on the 15 year olds door at night so that he cannot get out of ... | |
| Dreams of Sexual Abuse | 6/21/2010 |
| Q: For the past seven months, I've been having these recurring dreams of being sexually abused. It's ... A: After what you have told me about your uncle and you being his favorite, I suspect that he most ... | |
| molested by older brother and cousin | 6/20/2010 |
| Q: A repressed memory has recently surfaced and I don't know how to deal with it. My brother molested ... A: It sounds like you have been going to therapy since it resurfaced. I hope you have. It is hard to ... | |
| Dreams of Sexual Abuse | 6/20/2010 |
| Q: For the past seven months, I've been having these recurring dreams of being sexually abused. It's ... A: It would be hard for me to say without knowing more about your family history. If their is a family ... | |
| I was molested by my half brother | 6/15/2010 |
| Q: I was molested by my half brother when i was 7 till i was about 15 (he was 14-21) . I tried to tell ... A: You were most definitely betrayed by your mother. She would have no grounds to put you away. She is ... | |
| Was I molested | 6/12/2010 |
| Q: When I was younger, my mother had to work all the time, so any time she worked my older brother ... A: Knowing that something is wrong and being able to say "NO" to an older sibling is hard to do, ... | |
| abused child | 6/12/2010 |
| Q: This is a follow up to a question I asked you a couple of days ago. I was abused by my brothers and ... A: Definitely, go to a trauma specialist if your medicaid will pay for that. Instead of your therapist ... | |
| is parents having sex in front of you normal? | 6/12/2010 |
| Q: I already have a history of sexual abuse, by my brother for several years. But then when it comes to ... A: I am angry with your mom that she didn't have any more respect for you than to refrain from having ... | |
| Incest | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: Is it truly impossible to PROVE molestation?? I believe my non-verbal 2 year old daughter is being ... A: Try a different doctor! You said that you could see the swollen and red labia. Surely the doctor ... | |
| Proving Child Molestation | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: I KNOW in my heart and gut, that my husband is sexually molesting my 2 yr old daughter. We are ... A: The only thing that I know that you can do is to pull up some of his past convictions that have to ... | |
| molestation or mistake? | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: 2 years ago my 16 year old step-sister and i were in my basement and engaged in sexual activities. i ... A: Step-brothers and sisters get into so much trouble together. Y'all played around once, she went and ... | |
| abused child | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: I was sexually abused by both of my brothers starting when I was four. I never told anyone. When my ... A: You need to change therapist! That is why you need to go to therapy so that you can talk about the ... | |
| molestation | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: We brought my nieces to the emergency room for child molestation. There step father have been ... A: You have two choices. You report the family to the Department of Family and Children Services--DFACS ... | |
| My 5 y/o son molested my 6 y/o niece | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: My son was caught with his pants and underwear off trying to put his penis in my niece's "butt". My ... A: I have several questions that I don't understand. Do your boys live with you? Is it possible that ... | |
| Sexual Abuse? | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: I have a friend here at work that has a 3 year old daughter. She has now for months been telling me ... A: What I would suggest she do is take the child to her pediatrician as soon as she comes home from her ... | |
| was i molested? | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: this happened about two years ago, i was 15 at the time. my family was going to visit some relatives ... A: Yes, you were molested. Anytime a person forces themself on you and you have asked them to stop and ... | |
| Why can't he forgive himself? | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: Ok, first off, no, my real name is not Amph, but I am internet wary and do not use my real name on ... A: Why would you think that I would not want to answer you. You are doing a Christian thing for this ... | |
| Worried about my 3rd old being possibly molested | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: 3 days ago my daughter complained of her vagina hurting I thought it was a rash irritation as my ... A: I hate to say this to you, but from what your older daughter described that your friend's 4-yr. old ... | |
| abuse? | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: I'm a young gay guy, 29 y/o, and I'm wondering if perhaps I was abused as a very young child and ... A: Try to look back into the history of both your biological mom and dad or I should say whomever ... | |
| repressed memories sexual abuse | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: my dad is always rubbing my back and hair and he always wants hugs from me. I am a little over ... A: Congratulations on your weight loss. Obviously, it was enough for dad to notice. Please don't let ... | |
| Help... | 5/26/2010 |
| Q: I just found out last night that my 11 y.o. daughter was molested by my younger brother about 4 ... A: You are doing the right thing by not telling your husband right now at the moment. If he's like the ... | |
| Grandmother having sexual contact w 3 yr old boy | 5/23/2010 |
| Q: I'm staying in a basement room w some people. One morning I was awakened by sounds coming from the ... A: I know that you said you were moving out as soon as possible. Put yourself in the 3-year olds place. ... | |
| 5yrs old molested by older brother | 5/22/2010 |
| Q: i'm now 27 yrs old i've been molested by my older brother when i was five yrs old and he's older ... A: When we get married, we leave our families and cling to our husband. If it is going to hurt your ... | |
| molestation in young children | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: I have two children age 3 and 1. Tonight we were visiting a relative and making a joke about actions ... A: Most likely she is just doing it out of curiosity, but it is not something to take lightly. Look at ... | |
| 5yrs old molested by older brother | 5/20/2010 |
| Q: i'm now 27 yrs old i've been molested by my older brother when i was five yrs old and he's older ... A: This playing around that you did with all these guys must have been hurting you or you never would ... | |
| dealing with molestation | 5/20/2010 |
| Q: I was molested when I was a child/teenager, though I cannot recall the age and how long it went on ... A: My molestation bothered me all my life. I changed into different personalities to handle the pain. ... | |
| Was I molested or just childhood experimentation? | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: I am 22 years old, and I have some sexual memories of my step-brother and I. I think I was around 9 ... A: The only way to get over it is to confront him. Y'all were playing, but it is still called ... | |
| pedophile | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: what makes sumone be a pedophile if he makes little girls touch his pinis is he a pedophile if he is ... A: I will do my best to explain the answers to each one of your questions. Your firstWhat makes someone ... | |
| my 8 year old niece is molesting my 3 year old | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: My sister and I recently moved in together,to save on bills etc. we each have two children. My ... A: You did so many things right! The way you talked to your son so that he wouldn't get so ashamed of ... | |
| was I molested | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: I have been feeling for about 1 1/2 years now that I have possibley been molested, at a young age, ... A: It seems that you would have been with all the memories and feelings that you are having. And, if ... | |
| Boyfriend was physically and sexually abused by his mom | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend of five months just admitted to me that when he was a child his mother physically and ... A: The way you characterize him, he doesn't sound like someone that would be looking for pity. ... | |
| Not sure | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: My fiance has a 4yr old that he takes baths with. He told me that she tries to touch him and will ... A: We cannot change other people, only ourselves. Just from what he has told you, there's no telling ... | |
| Molested or something else? | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: In Summer 2008, I spent the night at my uncles house. In the middle of the night, while i was ... A: Of course that is molestation. I don't know how old you are now, but you should have reported him. ... | |
| Sexual acts between siblings | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: I am a young mother of five, the oldest being my 10 year old step daughter. My childrens ages are 7, ... A: You have a sad situation on your hands. You cannot keep them separated for the rest of their lives. ... | |
| Unsure | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: I'm unsure of whether or not I was molested as an eight year-old or not. I was over at a friend's ... A: Yes, you were molested by the 12 year old. You probably know by now that some boys at the age of 12 ... | |
| Molested by grandfather? | 5/6/2010 |
| Q: I am 34 years old, and I believe I was molested by my grandfather when I was a child. I did not ... A: I can sympathize with you. And most likely God is protecting you from remembering until you become ... | |
| 3 year old Molested | 4/16/2010 |
| Q: I have a 4 year old that was molested by her grandfather when she was 2-3 years old. It was hard for ... A: The best thing to do is use his sickness as the reason. He is truly sick. You could explain to her ... | |
| 3 year old Molested | 4/15/2010 |
| Q: I have a 4 year old that was molested by her grandfather when she was 2-3 years old. It was hard for ... A: It truly depends on the grandma's attitude toward you, their father, and them. If she hates you and ... | |
| child molestation | 4/15/2010 |
| Q: I have a girlfriend going through a divorce very ugly! They have a 4 year old daughter that has made ... A: Where is the mom and what is RiRi? If you have the money to pay for the visit (if she even charges), ... | |
| child molestation | 4/15/2010 |
| Q: I have a girlfriend going through a divorce very ugly! They have a 4 year old daughter that has made ... A: I am so sorry that I don't. Have you tried running a criminal investigation on this guy. Something ... | |
| molested? | 4/14/2010 |
| Q: I have always had a kind of bad family situation. My mom is well I guess the closest word to ... A: Who wouldn't be confused after all you have been through, even if you weren't molested. I can almost ... | |
| child molestation | 4/13/2010 |
| Q: I have a girlfriend going through a divorce very ugly! They have a 4 year old daughter that has made ... A: It would be best, especially with your background to come right out in the open and reveal who you ... | |
| Was it my fault? | 4/13/2010 |
| Q: Saturday night my boyfriends family held a birthday party for my boyfriend, he just turned 21. I was ... A: No, it is not your fault. You were sick. The guy knew that you were in the bedroom. He came in to ... | |
| My 2 year old is being molested | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: The first incidence happened about a month ago. I had just picked up my little girl from her daddy's ... A: I would think that you go to DFACS with the letter from the doctor that examined her and stated that ... | |
| concerned for my two yr old granddaughter | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: My granddaughter cries really hard when its time for her to go home. There is a new born brother in ... A: I don't think you have anything to be concerned about as of now. She is just jealous of the little ... | |
| 4 year old daughter... | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: I recieved a call from my wife today and she was very upset. We have a duaghter who is 4 1/2 years ... A: You definitely need to tell the parents of the boy. In many cases, when a boy that young does that ... | |
| Brother Molested me, Mom and his reaction | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: I have recalled by past molestation in these last 5 years after getting sober, and having counsel. ... A: You were there! You were okay while you were working with the pastor. Don't let your mom pull you ... | |
| guilty | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: you answered one of my questions already about why didn't i tell my sister to stop molesting. and ... A: I am so sorry that you are still feeling guilty. It is not your fault. Your parents were not giving ... | |
| no one believes me | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: I am 17 years old I was sexually abused when I was 7 my parents didn't do anything then about a year ... A: You didn't even tell me who your abuser was. Why would your parents be sending you off to somebody ... | |
| Step Dads inappropriate activities | 3/21/2010 |
| Q: My exwife married this guy 3 years ago with the thouoghts he was a preacher. Didnt work out that way ... A: I don't see why you can't go to court and get them today with all the evidence you have. Surely your ... | |
| child abuse | 3/21/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my girlfriend (she is 17, I am 18) for only two months. We've come really far ... A: She does need counseling. It is too bad she dumped on you just as you were getting your relationship ... | |
| was it my fault? | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: im a 13 year old girl and when i was about 6-8 years old my dad had a girlfreind and got re-married ... A: You are very intelligent to be 13 or you would have never found this website and me. And, having ... | |
| Confused brother molested me | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I have asked a question before on something different. When I was little from age 6-12 my brother ... A: To answer your questions about the differences, I went to several websites. One that you should go ... | |
| concern about my step daughter | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: about two years ago my step daughter who was 5 and my son who was 8 were caught looking at ... A: If her mother is having trouble with her again, unfortunately, I hate to say it, but she was ... | |
| Confused brother molested me | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: I have asked a question before on something different. When I was little from age 6-12 my brother ... A: You are not crazy and you do need to talk with your therapist about all of this. It was abuse and ... | |
| molestation | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: My 3 year old granddaughter has visitation with her father and his parents every tuesday, thursday ... A: If you want to keep giving them visitation, you need to get a court order that it needs to be ... | |
| child molestation | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: Last night I asked my daughter(who is 3yrs old) if anyone touches her. I told her I would believe ... A: Before you do anything drastic, how many females were raised with him? Ask them if he ever abused ... | |
| Hurt and Confused | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: I was reading the following article ... A: When I read the other question, I not only saw how similar they were, but that it was also one of ... | |
| sexually abused by step-father | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: I was sexually abused by my step-father for five years from 9-14. I slept on the downstairs because ... A: All men are not like your stepdad, just mentally ill ones. Anyone that can molest their wife's ... | |
| helping my daughters | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: I have just recently found out that my three oldest daughters where molested when they were younger ... A: It sounds like you are doing everything right that is possible except to get the youngest into ... | |
| Bad habits forming due to molestation | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: My dad began to molest me at the age of 8. I wasn't aware that what he was doing was wrong, but in ... A: It will be impossible until you face the deal with your father. You don't have to like what your dad ... | |
| My husband was molested as a child & it is effecting us still today | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: My husband was molested by his stepfather from the age of 5 to approximately the age of 15 when he ... A: Men are hard to find these days. As long as he is not molesting your kids, you may want to work on ... | |
| my daughter told me, my husband "touched" her. | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I have two daughters 13 & 16 years old; I divorced their day when my little wasn’t even a year old. ... A: How can she text her boyfriend if you took her cell phone away? I taught middle school and girls are ... | |
| Molestation/Incest by father | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: My name is Lynn and I'm 19 years old. I live with my father and uncle. My mother died when I was 12 ... A: First of all, you are 19, haven't you finished homeschooling? What are you doing at the moment? Are ... | |
| My older sister used to touch me | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I dont really know how to put this, as i've never spoken to anybody about it before. When i was 9 or ... A: Yes, you confront her. That makes for a very distant relationship between the two of you. Just tell ... | |
| My brother | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: When I was 16 I awoke one night to my brother feeling me up.I didn't know what to do so i just ... A: How old are you now? Oh, I see where you told me you were 18. Your friend has offered to allow you ... | |
| molestation/incest | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and my father just recently came home from prison, 6 days after he was home he had ... A: Of course it is molestation. You are his daughter. You can send him right back to jail if you want. ... | |
| 10 yrs of being molested | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: I just found out that my best friend was being molested by her step father since she was 14 she is ... A: She really has no choice but to tell her mother because of the little sister. Men like him never ... | |
| ??? | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: When I was 8-11 years old my dad use to walk around naked a few times when my mom wasn't home and ... A: I don't know your age now, but it will always be a thorn in the side of both you girls. You will ... | |
| Niece Molested? | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: I just found out today that my 13 year old niece may or may not have been sexually molested. My ... A: Somebody needs to find out how it has affected your niece and what else happened. Try to make her ... | |
| Was I molested? Next steps? | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: I believe I was molested by my 8 or 9 yr old brother when I was 5 yrs old, but have never really ... A: It was molestation and you are going to have to deal with it or it will keep surfacing. Your brother ... | |
| Incest/possible abuse | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: I am 28 years old now and have been suffering from an eating disorder for 11 years. When I was maybe ... A: It would definitely be classified as sexual abuse and could be part of the reason your eating ... | |
| Abused | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: I am 20 years old now and I think when I was about 3-5 yrs old I was sexually abused. I dont ... A: At your young age of the teens, it is common to just brush sexual abuse off; first of all because we ... | |
| I Don't Know What to Do | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: I was abused when I was 12. It was by a man in his twenties who came to our church. We had sex ... A: By all means, forgive yourself, God does. AND, live your dream. Look how many people you make feel ... | |
| I think I remember being molested | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: I think I remember being molested. I remember some clear details of the time,place, and what ... A: You probably hate your mom for her weird reaction. She herself was probably in a bad situation to ... | |
| incest abuse, and revictimized? | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: I'm currently in therapy after coming out for the first time just recently about incest that ... A: I didn't know that your brother was in jail. He won't be there all his life though. What will you do ... | |
| incest abuse, and revictimized? | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: I'm currently in therapy after coming out for the first time just recently about incest that ... A: It is normal for we victims to blame ourselves. Then we turn around and get into trouble again or so ... | |
| shattered family | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: In august 2009 i discovered that my 10 year old step son had been molesting my 6 year old mildly ... A: Boys in puberty, 13 years old or so experiment sometimes when they have not been taught any better, ... | |
| Feeling really horrible | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: when I was younger, about 5 years old or so, I was molested by my neighbor in our apartment ... A: Sometimes, God will not allow us to remember more than our mind can handle emotionally. Cool down ... | |
| Molested and forced to strip | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: Before I ask my question I want to apologize on my actions as I am very embarrassed by them. I have ... A: First of all, your thoughts and actions are caused by being molested. Some guys that have been ... | |
| Possible molestation? | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: I met a 4th grade music teacher with two young girls, two and six. The two year old was beautiful ... A: If you had never come into contact with this type of tragedies in your lifetime, I am saddened that ... | |
| Possible molestation? | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: I met a 4th grade music teacher with two young girls, two and six. The two year old was beautiful ... A: You are obviously a very intelligent man and I hate to hurt you, but "yes" without a doubt you ... | |
| molestation | 1/16/2010 |
| Q: So when I was about 5 yrs old, maybe younger, I remember only a few things. One My mother was always ... A: You will never get over it until you reveal the family secret. Pastor Andy Stanley, from Atlanta, ... | |
| RAPED OR MOLESTED | 1/15/2010 |
| Q: I know I was molested or raped as a child. I cannot remember any of it but what I want to know is if ... A: Be glad that you are getting a hold on this while you are only 23. I did know that it was my Dad ... | |
| I think i was sexually exploited | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: Quite recently i have come to the conclusion that i may have been exploited sexually as a child. I ... A: Nightmares and wetting the bed are true examples of insecurity as a child. The behavioral problems ... | |
| RAPED OR MOLESTED | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: I know I was molested or raped as a child. I cannot remember any of it but what I want to know is if ... A: To rape someone is to force unwanted sexual intercouse upon them. To molest someone is to force ... | |
| Friend molested by her father. | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I am eighteen years old and I have a fifteen your old friend who came out the other day and told me ... A: If you are dating the girl, you are in a tough position because you care about her too much to do ... | |
| Molested by brother | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: My sister who is 22 years old now,was molested by our brother it's been few years ago. I know what ... A: It has been way too long for the police to do anything to your brother. They don't arrest people for ... | |
| Molestation | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: My son who is 5 years old and he was repeatdly molested by his male teacher. He didn't tell us ... A: The best thing to do is take him to a child pshchologist. If he is still young, that will not cause ... | |
| step brother mestation | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: My step brother tried to molest me when I was 13, I was on my peroid and had a tampon in so he ... A: You didn't give me very much information to give you much help. Did you tell them what happened to ... | |
| abused? | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: i have 2 questions. the first is if i was sexually abused as a child but i blocked most of it out ... A: It is too late to do anything to your perpetrator, but it is not to late to start doing something ... | |
| /: | 12/13/2009 |
| Q: I was molested by my best friends uncle for about a year when I was 8-9. I never told anyone because ... A: You will never heal from it until you have forgiven your dad for leaving you and your mom for never ... | |
| Should I break up my family for my own peace of mind? | 12/12/2009 |
| Q: Ms Harrison, When I was a child, my uncle Doug would take me out on fun trips to all sorts of ... A: I almost didn't publish my book for the same reasons! But then my pastor told me to read Andy ... | |
| molestation | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: my daughter was molested my my husbands step father.she is three years old, i want 2 know if you ... A: You can stop for a while, but if she shows any signs of depression or dreams (wakes up crying) or ... | |
| molestation | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: my daughter was molested my my husbands step father.she is three years old, i want 2 know if you ... A: You really need to take her to therapy. Let her talk about it all she wants to get it out of her ... | |
| Need help | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: My daughter was molested by her step father its been 2 years getting him to court .its me and my 3 ... A: You can never go to jail by telling the truth. One truth is that the government is going to be ... | |
| Molestation | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: My older brother died when I was 4 years old. He was 6. (tumor) I remember how much he loved me and ... A: It is so unfortunate that there are people in the world like your cousin. In your situation, your ... | |
| Daughter molested | 12/3/2009 |
| Q: When my daughter was 12, I remarried. My new husband's mom and dad babysat my 12 y.o. daughter ... A: Yes, keep your daughter away from him. One, she's the perfect age for him to bother, two, he never ... | |
| Tramatic memory repression | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I don't know the correct terms for this defense mechanism. Forgive me for that. When I was about ... A: I apologize for taking so long in answering you. I had to leave town suddenly to see about my ... | |
| incest and sexual addiction | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: Every Friday evening and Saturday afternoon my parents would go out. My brother had to babysit me if ... A: Same thing happened with my brother at nights because I had to sleep in the same bed with him and ... | |
| the unspeakable | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: I have recently found out my niece has been molested by my step-nephew (my sister step son) for the ... A: No, the psychiatrist does not have a legal obligation to report the crime. Everything that is said ... | |
| Was my friend molested ? | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: My friend told me that she thought she was molested by her step dad. She said it started when she ... A: I Looked up molest in the thesauras just for the fun of it even though I knew before I did that it ... | |
| Confused about the past... | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: I am 20 years old, married and have a new born baby. I've been wondering lately if something from ... A: A true relationship is not supposed to keep anything from each other. When you think your baby is ... | |
| Confused about the past... | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: I am 20 years old, married and have a new born baby. I've been wondering lately if something from ... A: God never puts more on us than we can take for the moment. You have just had a wonderful new baby ... | |
| signs of child molestation | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: My son is about to turn 5 and started pre-k in Sept. He loves his school and friends. He is an ... A: You are right and your administrator are both right. It is not normal though that he masturbate ... | |
| Does my girlfriend have attchment disorder? | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: my girlfriend and i have been going out for 11 months. we are both 18, and we plan to get married ... A: You're battling multiple personality disorder. Sometime she's your girlfriend, other times she's the ... | |
| bad judgement | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: my name is brad I have a 11 year old daughter Kaylee. Recently I made the worse judgement call a ... A: Brad, If you think you are going to keep it from happening again, you must be made of steel. I just ... | |
| overreaction?? | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: Today after picking my 3 year old from his fathers house, 15 minutes into the ride my lil boy tells ... A: You are definitely not over reacting! I don't know how you held yourself together to get all that ... | |
| Forgiving myself. | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: I can recall being molested by family friends (children), when I was a small girl. I didnt know that ... A: It was not your fault, but the fault of the family friends that molested you and tried to make you ... | |
| bad judgement | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: my name is brad I have a 11 year old daughter Kaylee. Recently I made the worse judgement call a ... A: You know she can never come back to live with you. It will just start all over again no matter how ... | |
| afraid for our child | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: last night my sister in law came over to our house to tell us something very disturbing. she said ... A: Something about the entire situation sounds erroneous to me. A family never goes that long without ... | |
| Concerned Mom | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: "I have a 2 and 1/2 year old. I have this weird feeling that she has been molested. A few months ago ... A: It so tragic for little ones like her. Unfortunately, no a two year old would not be trying to put ... | |
| My 5 year old says she was molested by her father. | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: Ok, when my daughter was 2 and a half i was putting her panties on and she pointed at her vagina ... A: By all means, go somewhere else. Girls that are 5 years old just don't think up stuff like that. ... | |
| bad judgement | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: my name is brad I have a 11 year old daughter Kaylee. Recently I made the worse judgement call a ... A: Yes, you do need help. If family and children services found out, they would put you in jail and ... | |
| Teacher touched me | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: First of all, I was molested once in my life, when I was in the 7th grade. My class was in gym ... A: Unfortunately, "NO". My question, "WHY DIDN'T YOU DO SOMETHING THEN?" It is your word against his ... | |
| Granddaughter | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: I babysit my 2 1/2 yr old Granddaughter weekly, and today she said some things that alarmed me. When ... A: Obviously, it is disturbing her tremendously to see him in the nude and obviously he is calling his ... | |
| worthless | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: k. so i'm 41 and my man is 66 and my daughter is 16. i am with him because he was nice to me and ... A: When you marry a man for the wrong reason, it never goes right. He married you to take care of him. ... | |
| Sam's story | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: the one asked the I'm not sure question. In answer to your question yes I've had this dream for four ... A: It is hard to know how to help much without more information. As I said before, if these dreams ... | |
| I can't remember anything | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: This is really hard to talk about. I forced myself into believing i imagined it and maybe i did... ... A: I'm sure there are things that she caught you doing that she questioned when you were younger, like ... | |
| I'm not sure | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 years old and have a hard secret to bear. I'm afraid to tell anyone because I seriously don't ... A: Have these dreams been going on for four years now? Some of the time, that is all these are, just ... | |
| I can't remember anything | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: This is really hard to talk about. I forced myself into believing i imagined it and maybe i did... ... A: If he was arrested for child molestation after you were there at their day care, unfortuanately, you ... | |
| touching my breasts | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: I have a question about molestion because I think my father may have/be molesting me. I can give you ... A: I just had to write back and tell you how proud I am of you. Since your answer is not private, you ... | |
| child molestation | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I am raising a 7 year old boy along with my fiance , his mother . The childs father sees ... A: Okay, he has his own room. I would tell the father that I expect to hear that he be using his room ... | |
| How far a father's touch isn't molestation? | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I will start with that we have been together for 4 yrs now and our age difference is 18 yrs for good ... A: It sounds to me that she is more in love with her father than you at the moment. I just reread your ... | |
| child molestation | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I am raising a 7 year old boy along with my fiance , his mother . The childs father sees ... A: All children act different when a new baby comes into a household. Let's hope that is all that it ... | |
| How far a father's touch isn't molestation? | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: I will start with that we have been together for 4 yrs now and our age difference is 18 yrs for good ... A: I am so sorry. I am so embarrassed that you are the guy and not the young girl. I do apologize. I ... | |
| How far a father's touch isn't molestation? | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: I will start with that we have been together for 4 yrs now and our age difference is 18 yrs for good ... A: As the old saying goes, "You will be jumping out of a frying pan into a fire", if you marry this ... | |
| Could I have been molested as a child? | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: and thanks in advance for your answer. I'm an eighteen year old girl, and in the last two weeks ... A: The Lord will never put more on us than we can withstand. He may have used you as a witness for the ... | |
| Was my wife molested? | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: I'll be to the point - I'm wondering if my wife may have been molested by her father as a child? ... A: Of course I could be wrong, but I don't think so. To ease your mind, why don't you send the same ... | |
| Was my wife molested? | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I'll be to the point - I'm wondering if my wife may have been molested by her father as a child? ... A: I could almost write you another book of how you could handle her. I have written one of my life: ... | |
| daughters abuse | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: My daughter has been deprived, threatened, controlled and terrorized by her stepdad, I mean her ... A: You are on the right track Rowdy.Just try not to say anything negative about her mom or she will ... | |
| Nephew/niece molesting my children | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: My 10 yr. old daughter came to me in Nov. 2008 and told me that her 10 yr old female cousin had been ... A: Tell her that the same thing that you talked to her about two years ago is happening again. If she ... | |
| the boyfriend raped me | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: When I was a 12 My parents got divorced. My brother and I, and later my older sister lived with my ... A: I read your question on Friday, but forgive me for not answering it until tonight. I needed time to ... | |
| daughters abuse | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: My daughter has been deprived, threatened, controlled and terrorized by her stepdad, I mean her ... A: I don't know how you control your emotions about your "X". Couldn't your boys have spoken up in a ... | |
| adoptive dad molested me | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: where di i start? so i was adopted at 9 and from 6th~8th grade i was being molested by my dad. i ... A: Let's start with you. You don't have to like what your dad did to you, but you do have to forgive ... | |
| husband molested my daughter | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: I recently left my husband after 19 years and now my daughter is informing me that he, her ... A: The mind is a strange thing. We block things from it that we cannot take emotionally until we get ... | |
| As I Am Today | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: My older cousin molested me at a very early age. I don't remember how it started, but I think it was ... A: I have taught many kids like you. I am on Facebook now and they write to me as an adult. They ... | |
| husband molested my daughter | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: I recently left my husband after 19 years and now my daughter is informing me that he, her ... A: If you want any respect from your daughter, by all means you tell him that you know about it. He ... | |
| child molestation | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: About 3and 1/2 years ago my daughter was molested by her 12 year old female step cousin. When we ... A: Oh, I see the family picture now. If you continue to let your brother come, there will always be ... | |
| child molestation | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: About 3and 1/2 years ago my daughter was molested by her 12 year old female step cousin. When we ... A: I'm regretful that you did not agree with my answer. You will understand down the road that the ... | |
| Molested | 9/6/2009 |
| Q: I was 7 years old when I was molested by a guy (even he was young, I dont know he's age) )who was ... A: The only way that you can forget about it and stop dreaming about it is forgiveness, both yourself ... | |
| Could this be effecting me? | 9/5/2009 |
| Q: I was severely molested by my dad from ages 6-17. i told my mom she never did a thing about it. they ... A: Since you case was so much like my friends that I am reading her book for her and your question was ... | |
| touched? | 9/5/2009 |
| Q: i have a daughter who will be four in two months. About a month ago, I went to a neighbors and she ... A: Does he live alone? Did his wide die or did they divorce? Have you looked him up to see if he is on ... | |
| molestation | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: I am 43 and it hurts me to say that I was sexually abused by my heroin addicted mother and her ... A: Oh Josh, I'm not saying that at all! It would just make you feel better if you could. Just try not ... | |
| My step-son sexually abused my dougter | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: I am totally shocked .. Hope you can help me ... I got married 4 years ago . I have a 10 years old ... A: Once it starts, it never stops. You put your foot down!!!! His son does not come there no more or ... | |
| molestation | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: I am 43 and it hurts me to say that I was sexually abused by my heroin addicted mother and her ... A: I read your excerpt/question with disbelief and tears in my eyes. I have never written an answer to ... | |
| 2 1/2 year old made sexual coment | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: My 2.5 year old told his 7 year old brother to suck his penis in front of my wife last night as he ... A: Unfortunately, your children could have heard these remarks anywhere in public places with other ... | |
| Has my girlfriend been molested as a child? | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years now and I've suddenly been curious and asked myself ... A: lol We don't remember more than what the mind can accept. When I was hospitalized for mine, (I had ... | |
| re-establishing a relationship | 7/27/2009 |
| Q: this isn't a molestation question but rather a relationship question but i have read enough about ... A: I didn't mean to be so long in answering. I have a bad thunderstorm coming up and need to get my ... | |
| rape and incest | 7/26/2009 |
| Q: Is there a statue of limitation law on rape and incest in Alabama? My stepfather raped me at the age ... A: You would have to ask an Alabama attorney about that to get a perfect answer to that question. I can ... | |
| all screwed up in Florida | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: when i was between the ages of 6 -8 my brother decided to play doctor at the age of 12 my mother ... A: It sounds as if you have a good husband and once had a good father (stepfather). Your mother is in ... | |
| getting beyond | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: I am a 47 year old woman with 5 brothers and a younger sister who is 35. I shared with her that I ... A: Look up "Family Secrets" on Google and WebMd and you will find out that you cannot heal until the ... | |
| im was 15/molestation/ i dont know what to do | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: im 15 years old 16 in july i was babysitting for this millitary family for two years the have ... A: If I were you, I would face up and tell my mom the truth. Tell her that you trusted him and he asked ... | |
| re-establishing a relationship | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: this isn't a molestation question but rather a relationship question but i have read enough about ... A: If you haven't talked to her, how do you know that she is drinking again? If she is drinking again, ... | |
| Child Molestation | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: I wrote you last night and forgot a piece of information that I think might be an important piece of ... A: I am talking about your daughter. She or you one need to get the police involved or at least DFACS. ... | |
| molested by adoptive father | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: i was molested by my father. who is my adoptive father when i was in sixth grade on two separate ... A: So sorry that I missed you tonight. I spoke with Chad for over an hour. We discussed many things. ... | |
| I have a feeling I'm pregnant with my dads sperm. | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: My name is Alex. When i was four, my mom went to work at the night shift and my brother was at a ... A: Look up Family and Children Services DFACS in your town in the local telephone book. Call them on ... | |
| never really remembering dealing | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: I was molested at the age of 13 by my step dad. along with that he also introduced me to porn. After ... A: Most definitely! You need some therapy now. I'm truly sorry that you are back in the same old ... | |
| The Love of My Life is Broken... | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: This will be dreadfully long, I apologize. I am a writer and words flow from my fingers like a ... A: You are also the last man that I had any dealings with (my last husband forever). He gave me the ... | |
| child molestation? | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: My 21 year l daughter died last year an my 3 year old granddaughter was taken from us by her father ... A: Without more information, I cannot really say that she is or has been molested. My grandaughter does ... | |
| Molested by father | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: I was molested by my father when I was 7 years old. My mother abused me mentally and physically out ... A: Your name looks so familiar. Have I written to you before? To answer your question, "NO". ... | |
| molested by adoptive father | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: i was molested by my father. who is my adoptive father when i was in sixth grade on two separate ... A: Oh my darling angel, Why yes it is definitely the root of all your madness. I have so many of your ... | |
| child molested by child | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: My step-child has been doing things that makes me think he may be molesting younger children. He was ... A: I am so sorry. I will tell you this. If a 12/13 year old has not been taught sex education properly ... | |
| possible molestation | 7/7/2009 |
| Q: i've been married to my wife for 4 years. she is 27 and i'm 30. she swears she's never been abused ... A: Bless your heart. You really got guts! You are really trying to find out from her. One way or ... | |
| The Love of My Life is Broken... | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: This will be dreadfully long, I apologize. I am a writer and words flow from my fingers like a ... A: My dear Tommy, If you read this tonight, call me 803-548-0490. I will be a sleep in two hours from ... | |
| child molested by child | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: My step-child has been doing things that makes me think he may be molesting younger children. He was ... A: You sure didn't give me much information. How old is he? I can't give you much information until you ... | |
| My 10 year old son touched his 3 year old girl cousin | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: I am a single parent of a 10 year old boy. Through out the school year he lives with me and attends ... A: Let me ask you some questions first: 1. Do you have a problems with him acting inappropriately ... | |
| Child Molestation | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: I wrote you last night and forgot a piece of information that I think might be an important piece of ... A: It is very hard to understand your questions. There are so many misplaced pronouns of she's of your ... | |
| I think I was molested but i really dont know | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: I don’t really know how to say all this without just listing all of the things that I see as ... A: All signs suggest that you were molested as a young child. What I do see is that you are not ... | |
| possible molestation | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: i've been married to my wife for 4 years. she is 27 and i'm 30. she swears she's never been abused ... A: Try calling her by a different name when she is like that. Or say to her, "Who are you tonight?" She ... | |
| Molestation | 7/3/2009 |
| Q: My question is how to go about finding out if my grandaughter is being molested by her Dad. Her ... A: That Joyce or I would come right out and ask her. I would want to put a stop to it if it is ... | |
| abuse? | 7/3/2009 |
| Q: i am now a 15 year old girl, and some things happened when i was younger and i am unsure what to ... A: Yes, what he did to you was sexual abuse. He was in the prime of his puberty and no one taught him ... | |
| maintaining relationship with abuse | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: I really need some advice. I am a Christian, 29 years old, and having a hard time deciding what ... A: His kind of abuse never stops.!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He will abuse the next generation and the next. The ... | |
| i don't know | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: I don't remember much from when i was little, but i know i didn't want to be alive. I thought i was ... A: You would not have all those symptoms if you had not have been being molested. You would not have ... | |
| Child Molestation | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: I wrote you last night and forgot a piece of information that I think might be an important piece of ... A: It sure sounds like your grandaughter is acting out true drama in many situations. Try to convince ... | |
| Molestation | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: My question is how to go about finding out if my grandaughter is being molested by her Dad. Her ... A: Their is no connection between her baby talk and molestion. There could be between her saying that ... | |
| My adult daughter was molested | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: Within the past year I have found out that as a child my father-in-law molested my now grown ... A: That type of sexual abuse usually does run in families and the best thing to do is to expose the ... | |
| stepson | 6/28/2009 |
| Q: I am the the sole guardian of a 15 year old stepson. I married his father 3 years ago when i was 33 ... A: Unfortunately, he's not dumb. He knows that you are doing it for him. Yes, you are enabling him by ... | |
| stepson | 6/27/2009 |
| Q: I am the the sole guardian of a 15 year old stepson. I married his father 3 years ago when i was 33 ... A: Start the conversation with a question. Ask him does he still have sex education with his PE/Health ... | |
| i think my daughter has been molested by her stepdad, | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: my daughters 16 & 14 have been away on a summer program and return tomorrow. i renovated their ... A: Don't talk to him until you talk to them. If he has been molesting the 14 year old, he may have ... | |
| My Family | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: I am female, I was molested by... Grandfather, Uncle, And 2 brothers, Family friend.... Everyone but ... A: My dear Sue, You told yourself a lot of the answers: You said "And as before they are not doing ... | |
| stepson | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: I am the the sole guardian of a 15 year old stepson. I married his father 3 years ago when i was 33 ... A: You are the most educated adult I ever saw to have never had any children of your own. lol Don't ... | |
| Dad molesting siblings | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: I am having a really hard time because I just discovered that my dad has molested several of my ... A: Your dad will do it again. Once they start molesting their own children, they don't stop. I know ... | |
| Molestation | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: what do you do when your molested by your father, then years later, your mothers boyfriend's ... A: You are asking two questions here. You haven't dealt with your father's molestation yet. Neither did ... | |
| 3 year old molested by father | 6/18/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if you could help. A close friend has a daughter of 3 years old. The father of the ... A: Your friend needs therapy. Unfortuantely once a man or woman starts molesting a child, they never ... | |
| My girlfriend was abused by her Step-dad. | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: my girlfriend was kidnapped and abused when she was 13 years old. when we started dating i told her ... A: This happens often, more than I would like to tell you, even with biological mother and father. ... | |
| i need help | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: by okay so long story short as short as i can anyway this is 30 years of my life.when i was born i ... A: Your children will be looking to you for direction. They see and they do. They hear and they say. ... | |
| what to do? | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: I know a 13yr old boy who was caught with his 1/2 brother who is 7 in the bathroom. Both boys had a ... A: It depends on who you are to those children and who you are speaking of reporting it to. If you are ... | |
| how do i break free | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: First off im a 28year old single mother with 4 kids. And I have 3 girls. under the age ten. When i ... A: It is not easy to break free. I think the first step is in forgiving yourself. We somehow seem to ... | |
| daughter touch inapropriately | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: My 14 yr old daughter recently admitted that her stepdad who raised her since she was 2 has been ... A: I would be worried too. Incest does not affect children immediately, but when they become young ... | |
| Help with abused friend/substance abuser | 6/14/2009 |
| Q: Please help. I have quite a detailed question that I know will require extensive and complicated ... A: You can't change her anymore than I can. She has got to want to change herself. She is definitely ... | |
| After 16 years my teenager says her step dad my husband touched her | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 13 years and with him for 15 years. I have 2 daughters ages 19 ... A: I cannot tell you who to believe or not to believe. I can point out some behaviors to you that each ... | |
| Childhood Molestation | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: I haven't spoken about what happened to me between the age of 6 to 12 years. I am now 21 and would ... A: This man has hurt you badly, but you need to tell your parents about him and how they have hurt you ... | |
| my story of my life. | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: i remember that my uncle would touch me and just kiss me and i would say no is not ok. he would say ... A: Marie, you are so kind for your comments. I wish you all the best in the world. I raised my children ... | |
| my story of my life. | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: i remember that my uncle would touch me and just kiss me and i would say no is not ok. he would say ... A: None of what he did to you is your fault! You were only a child. you are not wrong to say it felt ... | |
| My husband | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: My name is Brittany and I am concerned. I am currently going through a divorce and my husband for ... A: Why did they give the son to the father instead of the mother? Normally the child goes to the ... | |
| My husband | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: My name is Brittany and I am concerned. I am currently going through a divorce and my husband for ... A: I hope you didn't divorce your husband because of him molesting his sister. Most likely he didn't ... | |
| possible touching ? | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for a year to an alcholic, he spent time in prison...he is the step father to my ... A: You are not over reacting. Ask your daughter about it. She may not tell you the truth though. She ... | |
| do not know what to do | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: my five year old recently went on a weekend sleep over in her fathers house. when she came home and ... A: If she said no one touched her, then most likely no one did. She probably has a bladder or kidney ... | |
| 6 year old and 9 year old molested by 12 year old cousin | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: I just found out from my now 8 year old son that when he and his than 9 year old cousin played in ... A: Since all of that happened about two years ago, you do not have to report it. It would be their word ... | |
| How do we best help our daughter? | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: Our daughter who is almost 16 recently wrote me and my husband a letter saying she was molested by ... A: You need to talk to an attorney about the time limit on pressing charges and if the mother can have ... | |
| adult daughter who was molested | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: My daughter who is 21 and has had problems all her life, school, lack of friends,etc. and lost her ... A: First, I am so sorry that she lost her first child, but she couldn't help it. I'm sure she was doing ... | |
| Am i a molester? | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: Im 19 now but through the ages of 9-11 my mom's friend would bring his kid over and we'd play movie ... A: Your last thought is exactly right. Forgiveness is the "KEY". We must first forgive ourselves and ... | |
| Living with my enemy? | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: Well my case its pretty simple im living with this person who is my legal guardian because my ... A: Are you an American citizen? I don't know if that even matters. I don't think it does. You are a ... | |
| My husband is molesting my daughter | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for 15 years now. He has been good to us,until about a year ago our 15 year old ... A: It does tend to run in families or in the genes; however, I think a family can make a conscious ... | |
| Concerned | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: I have been a little concerned lately about my 5 year old step daughter's behavior. She lives, along ... A: Do you have a pediatrician for them? I would take them to the doctor about the loss of weight. After ... | |
| Brother in law molested my daughter | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: My daughter is 22 and a couple of years ago she told me she was molested by my brother in law. My ... A: You have done the first thing that I suggest and that is expose the family member that did it. I am ... | |
| my daughter accusing stepfather of abuse | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: Ok my daughter just accused my fiance of having touched her several years ago and last yera having ... A: Middle school children think their own parents are more stupid or less educated than anyone in the ... | |
| molested by my uncle | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: I'm 34 now, but when I was 12, I told my mother that her brother had molested me for five years. My ... A: It's normal if they are adults and not little girls. He didn't abuse them. He abused you. You don't ... | |
| wondering?? | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: I am a female. When I was 12 or 13 I used to play with my niece who was 10 years younger. I ... A: My granddaughter is almost two now and I don't think she would have thought anything about it. She ... | |
| sexual abuse? | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: I have a younger brother who feels he was sexually abused in some way when he was very young- there ... A: How old is your daughter? In her bad condition, if you are sure she does not remember the abuse, why ... | |
| sexual abuse? | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: I have a younger brother who feels he was sexually abused in some way when he was very young- there ... A: You are afraid to go because of what you might remember. You are in denial. If your brother was ... | |
| prior email from 5-7-09 | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: I still am having a hard time coming to terms that the term molestation is appropriate. When the ... A: In this email, you say "laying on the bed". If you read your last email, you say "laying on top of ... | |
| molestation................please help me! | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: The story is my Grandfather molested me. I was about 13 when it first happened then more after that. ... A: This is a blog of mine relating to family secrets. Maybe it makes more sense than the way I put it ... | |
| lying about sexual abuse | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: I have a step daughter who is 13 years old. She has recently accused her grandpa of sexually ... A: Children services just don't know what to do about it themselves. Thirteen year olds lie about ... | |
| molestation | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: My sister in law is an alcoholic. When she drinks she says and does things that are inappropriate. ... A: Your therapist is very right. Forget your brother's feelings about his sister. You are in denial. ... | |
| is my little girl, being molested | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: ,Im very worryed about my 3 year old daughter, I think she is being molested, by her father,,or some ... A: Does he have to pay you child support? He knows you love her very much. He may just be trying to ... | |
| molestation................please help me! | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: The story is my Grandfather molested me. I was about 13 when it first happened then more after that. ... A: You are the one that has to heal, not your boyfriend. He does not have to understand. You have to ... | |
| ?molestation | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: My 22 year old step daughter has been struggling for the past 4 years from inappropriate ... A: The definition of molestion is, and I quote "to force unwanted sexual attentions on somebody, ... | |
| child molestation 3 years old | 5/1/2009 |
| Q: if there has bee a child molested does it run in a family or is it the mind set of that person. ... A: It is known to run in families. The three year old will usually state enough to indicate which ... | |
| A mother's reactions | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: I am 36 and have been married for 13 years. Two weeks ago our 14 year old daughter revealed to us ... A: You are using her situation to make your problem even worse. Your husband and daughter need you love ... | |
| my stepfather molested me | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: I am 18 years old. Ever since I was 8 up until I was 14 my step father molested me. It wasn't a ... A: I hope you are not still living there. Your mother is in denial and does not want to believe it. ... | |
| what should we do | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: My sister-n-law's daughter is very angry with her step father. In recent past he has left them on ... A: She's making it all up to try and make her mom get him out of the house. I know it is not right for ... | |
| Advice on helping girlfriend cope with her past. | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: my girlfriend just turned 18 and I am 16 years old. She just recently told me she was molested and ... A: You really can't help her. She has got to want to help herself. She is wanting sympathy from you. ... | |
| need help coping | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: in 2003 I found out my now ex husband had molested my daughter, his step daughter when she was in ... A: Look on Google for support groups for incest victims in your local area. There are many of them. For ... | |
| My daughter ... | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: I was molested by my father at a very young age. He would fondle my genitals on the outside of my ... A: Once a man starts touching little girls, it usually never stops and it usually runs in families; ... | |
| Molested | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: Today my mother finally gave in and told me the name of the neighbor that molested me when I was ... A: I am sure it started the first time you went into his apartment alone and ended the last time you ... | |
| stepsister | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: My name is Lance. I'm 16 and my stepsister lisa is 15 and she's hot! For the past few months I ... A: Are you involved in the youth at your church? I was with the high school for over a year until it ... | |
| Signs & Symptoms of prior child molestation/incest | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: My sister-in-law and I have both been having marital issues with our husbands (they are brothers). ... A: You can send it private and no one can read it. If I were you I would get your sister-in-law to ... | |
| Was this rape and am I a bad person for what I did after? | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: When growing up my mum was seriously mentally ill (bipolar), and my dad was continuously at work and ... A: You are not a bad person! Yes, you were raped. You get over it, by first forgiving yourself, then ... | |
| stepsister | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: My name is Lance. I'm 16 and my stepsister lisa is 15 and she's hot! For the past few months I ... A: You are 16 and in the prime of your life. What you did is normal. What your sister did is "not" ... | |
| Please help | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: I really need your advice. Background in a nutshell, my friends mom left her and her three brothers ... A: Did Maudy, When you write your letter to her, volunteer to go with her to therapy. There is nothing ... | |
| was it molestation | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: im not really sure what is considered molestation. i think i was molested by my dad. when i was ... A: Oh yes honey, you were molested and you do need to talk to your father. Family secrets will kill ... | |
| Am I not saved either? | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: Well the hymen I think si still there so maybe someone touched me.That is still possible which would ... A: I do think you were molested. Do try to stop the porn for your sake. I hate to inform you of this, ... | |
| Am I not saved either? | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: Well the hymen I think si still there so maybe someone touched me.That is still possible which would ... A: Great Girl Congratulations, You sound like a smart lady. You sure had me fooled about being a mama ... | |
| Was I molested? | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old, and by all accounts have led a "normal" life. I have graduated college and am ... A: From all that you have told me, it sure sounds like you were molested as a child, however; I cannot ... | |
| My girlfriend was molested how do i help? | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend just told me my girlfriend was molested walking down the street. She blams it on ... A: All you can do is praise God that the car rolled up. Your girlfriend needs her butt kicked for even ... | |
| Am I not saved either? | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: Well the hymen I think si still there so maybe someone touched me.That is still possible which would ... A: He had no business telling you that. You are saved! You probably never told him any different about ... | |
| Molestaion | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: I am a 34 year old man that was molested by my older cousin when i was 6-9. On thanksgiving my ... A: You are letting him push your buttons and he knows it. You need to expose him if it has never been ... | |
| Was I molested or not? | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: Well as I said,I started thinking about sex from either 6,7,or 8 years old.I know for sure that it's ... A: What's your life like today? Do you still live with the same people (same mom and dad) that you did ... | |
| I just found out my daughter was molested a few years ago... | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: Yesterday I got a call from the school counselor and she advised me that my (now 12 year old) ... A: I can tell that you are very upset and you have every right to be. I don't know your daughter ... | |
| My girlfriend was abused by her brother | 12/6/2008 |
| Q: Sarah, My girlfriend has been sexually abused by her brother from the age of 12 -18 after their ... A: She will never heal until she exposes him, the brother. Go with her to her home, take the mom off on ... | |
| was i molested? | 12/6/2008 |
| Q: I'm not entirely clear as to what constitutes molestion. What I experienced as a child was ... A: Good, I am glad the right boy was accused. I knew he wasn't your brother. I just didn't know the ... | |
| Was I molested or not? | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: Well as I said,I started thinking about sex from either 6,7,or 8 years old.I know for sure that it's ... A: Making the dolls have sex is a sign that you were abused sexually. Making them abuse one another ... | |
| Was I molested or not? | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: Well as I said,I started thinking about sex from either 6,7,or 8 years old.I know for sure that it's ... A: Honey, Puberty doesn't start until you start growing breast and have you first menstrual cycle. I ... | |
| was i molested? | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: I'm not entirely clear as to what constitutes molestion. What I experienced as a child was ... A: I didn't misunderstand you about your mom lying. I knew it was you. However, she should have stopped ... | |
| Inappropiate touching | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: My 12 year old daughter came to me approximately 6 months ago letting me know that her 17 year old ... A: I would spare no feelings! She is your daughter and she may not be telling you the entire truth. ... | |
| molested during sleep by a friend | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 19-year-old girl with extreme difficulties in relationships. I always end up choosing the ... A: People, (guys) got the idea that you were a whore from you living in that house with all the adults ... | |
| Was I molested as well? | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: Well since you were nice,I might as well come out about this.I am not married and I am 13.I posted ... A: Nobody hits puberty at six years old!!!!! Something happened to you before that, I promise you. Just ... | |
| Was I molested as well? | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: Well since you were nice,I might as well come out about this.I am not married and I am 13.I posted ... A: If you haven't been to my website, www.incestvictim.com , go there and read the except from the book ... | |
| Was I molested as well? | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: Well since you were nice,I might as well come out about this.I am not married and I am 13.I posted ... A: I do think you were molested. I don't know by whom. You probably have an idea who it was. You need ... | |
| Fear of talking to counsellor about the worst things | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I do not really know where to start. I have a counselor that I go see once a week. Since April. She ... A: Are you still under 18? That counselor has heard much worse than what you have to tell her. Don't be ... | |
| was I molested? | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: It is the prodding of a good friend I finally confided in that has me questioning if I was molested ... A: The molestation will keep haunting you until it does come out. We block memories until our mind can ... | |
| This is a mental question. | 12/1/2008 |
| Q: But if you were my husband wouldn't you want a divorce from me? ANSWER: Dear Corrina, As long as ... A: No offense, but I don't think your are a psychiatrist. Besides sometimes they do have to go to ... | |
| puberty | 11/29/2008 |
| Q: my son is 11yrs old .he is going through puberty. well the other day his father went into his room ... A: Eleven years old is a little young for the cause to be puberty.That usually starts more like 14 yrs. ... | |
| This is a mental question. | 11/27/2008 |
| Q: But if you were my husband wouldn't you want a divorce from me? A: As long as you could prove to me that you were not looking at any porn, reading any molestation ... | |
| This is a mental question. | 11/27/2008 |
| Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ... A: You won't have those thoughts if you can get some mental therapy. How old is he anyway? Isn't he ... | |
| trying to find a way out | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: I'm 27 and for the first time am admitting that i was molested by my brother, 4 yrs older than me, ... A: You are doing the right thing by telling someone. I know you sound like a counselor yourself. Had ... | |
| In such a bad place. | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: I don't really know where exactly to begin. I am almost 25 years old, and I was just wondering if it ... A: The best way to figure that out is to take a look at your parental background. Have either of them ... | |
| This is a mental question. | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ... A: There is hope for you honey. Don't even think about suicide. Your husband won't divorce you if you ... | |
| This is a mental question. | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ... A: We have talked before. You have to get some help. It is not right that you are having these ... | |
| Was I? | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: This whole situation came about within a month. It was summer break. I was 5 and a half years old ... A: Yes, you were molested. Have you told your parents about it now? I sure hope so because you need to ... | |
| Former molestation | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: I was just curious as to what actions one might take if they were molested as a child by someone in ... A: If I were you, I would report him/her now. It has probably continued since you were there. I don't ... | |
| Daughter's Molestation | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: Last night my 24 year old daughter told me she was molested by a boy close to her age in our ... A: I would most definitely tell her about yourself. I would write her the most ugly email explaining to ... | |
| Daughter's Molestation | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: Last night my 24 year old daughter told me she was molested by a boy close to her age in our ... A: She may have even written to me herself and if she did, I told her that she not only has to forgive ... | |
| Could he be lying | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: My nephew who is now 15 has had a very troubled childhood, problems with school, problems with ... A: He could be lying just to try and find excuses for his behavior. Just one question, was he adopted? ... | |
| i don't know where else to turn. | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: i'm eighteen and one of my earliest memories is of my brother coming into my bedroom when i was ... A: Your brother will never stop. It is in his blood. Once they start something like that, it only gets ... | |
| HELP!!!!!!!!! | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: I AM 52 YRS OLD I WAS MOLEASTED FOR 6 YRS BY MY BROTHER AND WHEN HE QUIT MY DAD TOOK OVER I AM ... A: I do understand! I was 59 before I learned to cope with my molestation. But before I could, I had to ... | |
| Words & Actions | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: **Names changed This is a question about my cousin, it's been on my mind for quite some time, but ... A: I understand your concern, but someway, somehow, your family has got to educate the naive parents of ... | |
| Child molstation | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: We believe that my granddaughter is being molested by her father and it has been at least 10 days ... A: You are right. They would not be taking your granddaughter if they didn't feel that the doctor could ... | |
| Molestation | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: "hello I am a 46 year old male. I have been Happily married for 22 years and have 4 wonderful boys ... A: The only thing that I see that you did wrong was telling your brother to get out of your mom's ... | |
| Molestation | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: "hello I am a 46 year old male. I have been Happily married for 22 years and have 4 wonderful boys ... A: Your wife is exactly right. They cannot get their life together and as a result want to put others ... | |
| Blocked Memories of Abuse? | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: I remember at a young age, at least six years old being sexual, masturbating and acting out sexual ... A: I can't really say without knowing your family dynamics. Was your father, stepfather, any man in the ... | |
| I'm 12 and my father rapes me every night | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: Ever since I moved in with him he's made me earn everything by touching him. Then he touches me and ... A: You are very intelligent or else you would not have been able to find me on this website. Please ... | |
| My little sister told me about my father | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I am 33 years old and have a 15 year old sister. We share a father and were both raised by him. My ... A: You are doing the right thing to get your sister out of that situation right now. She has lived with ... | |
| I dont know how to go about this. | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over 4 years now, and we have been through a lot of drama ... A: I am truly sorry for being so long. I have been sick and finaly got to the dr. today. I didn't want ... | |
| Molestation | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I am dating this guy. We been dating for 1 month I really like him, he is really sweet likes to ... A: It sounds a little strange that he has never told anyone but you and he has only known you for one ... | |
| getting help | 11/1/2008 |
| Q: Sarah, its Don. I want you to know that i appreciate everything you have done to help me out. i will ... A: I cut and pasted this much from the following site: ... | |
| What would you do if you were my husband and does this make me a bad mom? | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ... A: You obviously were molested as a child and you just don't remember. You are blocking it out because ... | |
| terrified! | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: I'm 16 and terrified of guys! i feel so uncomfortable with them and scared! and now im really ... A: I know your fellings, however, you should have told your mom that day in court and you still need to ... | |
| Did this lady have bad intenions? | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: My name is Don. I have a question pertaining to molestation. Before i begin, let me say that my ... A: Don't tell your mom if that lady is gone forever and neither of you will see her again. There will ... | |
| Did this lady have bad intenions? | 10/30/2008 |
| Q: My name is Don. I have a question pertaining to molestation. Before i begin, let me say that my ... A: See your life really wasn't normal after that. You confessed to masturbation as a young kid, ... | |
| i have an addiction and i need help | 10/30/2008 |
| Q: i noticed that you counseled sex addicts, so i figured you could help me. im 21 and i am addicted to ... A: Do you know the twelve steps of alcoholics anonymous? The only reason that I ask is that SAA, Sex ... | |
| Did this lady have bad intenions? | 10/30/2008 |
| Q: My name is Don. I have a question pertaining to molestation. Before i begin, let me say that my ... A: Personally, I don't think that she was trying to help you. If she had been she would have held your ... | |
| Girlfriend molested as a child... | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend was molested as a child, from multiple people that she trusted. She told me this a ... A: I can understand your feelings about her. You have to think about yourself and your own sanity ... | |
| Very Distressed and Struggling to live normally | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: "I am not sure if you can help me or not but I can not talk about this with anyone I know not even ... A: Below is notes I took from WEB MD, website, so you can see how normal you are and better understand ... | |
| Girlfriend molested as a child... | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend was molested as a child, from multiple people that she trusted. She told me this a ... A: You are just going to have to give her an alternative. It's me or you can't move in. Share your ... | |
| Very Distressed and Struggling to live normally | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: "I am not sure if you can help me or not but I can not talk about this with anyone I know not even ... A: You can never heal until you forgive your dad. Forgivesness is a long process within your own soul ... | |
| Possible Molestation | 10/25/2008 |
| Q: I have a few odd things that I am going to admit, but I want to first say that I think I was ... A: Just for the time being, let him know that you are virgin and don't tell him anything else until you ... | |
| my partner was molested as a kid? how do i deal with that? | 10/25/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for four years now. I love him with all my heart and feel that he loves ... A: He really needs to go to therapy or a molestation support group like I am about to start for people ... | |
| Confused... | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: I'm 16. A junior in high school. My 8th grade year my parents divorced due to my older sister ... A: You will let all of this kill you if you don't stop worrying about your dad getting off scott free. ... | |
| Possible Molestation | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: I have a few odd things that I am going to admit, but I want to first say that I think I was ... A: You are normal for a child that has been through all that you have. I believe that you were most ... | |
| Suspicious molestation | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: Her is my dilema. I am suspicious that my husband may be going into our daughter room at night when ... A: Your husband's comment about harming the children was in reference to physical harm, not emotional ... | |
| Is this molestation? | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: A 3yr old boy is encouraged and led by an 11yr old girl to fondle her breast ANSWER: Hi Lee, I ... A: Under those circumstances, I would say "yes". The parents need to be made aware of the situation ... | |
| please help me | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: Growing up my father was never really around he neglected me and all that jazz. though I don't ... A: You are normal. Don't worry about your feelings!!! Feelings are normal and not sinful. You didn't ... | |
| child touching | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: My son left me a note, "I think Grandpa Joe touches me too much and it is annoying. My son is 9 yrs ... A: Then what I would do if I were you is to run a FBI check on him. I studied several of them from ... | |
| child touching | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: My son left me a note, "I think Grandpa Joe touches me too much and it is annoying. My son is 9 yrs ... A: I would speak to him myself (the Grandpa) and just tell him, "Joe you are driving Tom (or whatever ... | |
| Was I molested? | 10/4/2008 |
| Q: I have no memory of a significant child/adult molesting me. Yet as a small child 4/5 yrs old I ... A: Yes, you were molested. When I was in the hospital at age 59, I told them, I do not know who got my ... | |
| Was I molested? | 10/3/2008 |
| Q: I have no memory of a significant child/adult molesting me. Yet as a small child 4/5 yrs old I ... A: You know yourself that it is not normal or else you would not have written to me. Talk to someone ... | |
| Moving on | 10/2/2008 |
| Q: My dad molested me when I was 13. We had not lived with him for 7 years and he and my mum were ... A: The first person you have to forgive is yourself for enjoying it. You feel dirty and guilty and ... | |
| please help!!! | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: I have a 2 year little girl and I had recently put her in a new daycare. Since she has been in this ... A: I would definitely get her checked out with the doctor. If the home has just three other kids, how ... | |
| please help!!! | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: I have a 2 year little girl and I had recently put her in a new daycare. Since she has been in this ... A: First of all, look up the daycare on the Better Business Bureau to see if they have any complaints ... | |
| Could I have been molested? | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: My name is Kelsey, im 17 years old and for several years Ive had a concern that I may have been ... A: Talk to your sister. It was probably her, with her being older. She probably bothered you after you ... | |
| My son touched | 9/26/2008 |
| Q: My mother in law called me today to tell me that my son touched his cousin in her private part. She ... A: Sometimes this young, it is just curiousity, but then again it is more than that. It means that ... | |
| Father/daughter incest isses, forgivesness? | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: My father molested me on several occasions when I was 11. I am now 44. I have lived my whole adult ... A: You are not hurting him by not forgiving him, only yourself! A preacher once wrote in his book that ... | |
| step-daughter | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: this is jim again. i asked you my question on the 17th but never received confirmation of my ... A: I wanted to write to you yesterday, but decided I better sleep on it. I would have written too ... | |
| child molestation | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: my friend and her husband split up a year ago and every weekend the 3 year old and the 7 year old ... A: If I were your friend, I would be getting me an attorney and not letting my kids see him anymore ... | |
| step-daughter | 9/21/2008 |
| Q: this is jim again. i asked you my question on the 17th but never received confirmation of my ... A: I went back and found your last question and my answer. It came back to me as I save them all. I ... | |
| My Daughter | 9/19/2008 |
| Q: I will start with what I consider the most traumatic thing to happen to my baby girl. When she was ... A: The only way that I got lost was in time. How old are your children now? It does sound like ... | |
| Stuck in the middle | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: I am 24 years old and I have been with my boyfriend, 26, for 8 years (lived with for 7 years), just ... A: I let my brother break me up with a guy I really cared about because I said blood should be thicker ... | |
| step-daughter | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: i have a problem that needs resolving and i can't seem to accomplish that own my own. and after ... A: Let me ask you this. Do you think there is any possibility that she thinks you may love her or want ... | |
| Molestation | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: I want to know if I can ever feel free of this underlying hurt.My brother can act like nothing ever ... A: The best way to begin healing is to forgive your brother. If he makes you feel bad, you may want to ... | |
| sexual abuse | 9/15/2008 |
| Q: I am sure I was molested as a child. Although I cant remember it, I guess Ive blocked it out. My ... A: It sounds like you have multiple personalities. When you can't remember things that happen ... | |
| sibling physical touching | 9/13/2008 |
| Q: my name is Matt and I wanted to ask you a question that has been burning on my mind for awhile. My ... A: No this is not normal. I would just tell her my feelings like you did me in this letter. Don't ... | |
| sexual abuse | 9/13/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 40 years was sexually abused a couple of times by her stepfather when she was about ... A: She sounds just like me! I believe she has multiple personalities. When she leaves you she becomes ... | |
| My daughter's father sexually abused her | 9/13/2008 |
| Q: My daughter was sexually abused by her father, and the asshole is getting away with it. Since he did ... A: I am so sorry for you and her. I don't know the law on visitation, but most states, I think the ... | |
| 10 year old molested 5 year old | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: recently my ten year old son was caught by my husband naked on top of my five year old son. we sat ... A: This 10 yr. old has really put you in between a rock and a hard place. Since you told child ... | |
| molesting | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: i was molested by my step father in sixth grade. i blocked it out from my memory and just recently ... A: You would not get anywhere in a court system trying to press charges after all this time. That ... | |
| 5 year old accusing older sibling | 9/2/2008 |
| Q: Yesterday morning my 5 year old son came to me and said that he put his mouth on his older brothers ... A: First of all, the older son would have no reason to lie if he were asleep. Of course you and I both ... | |
| Was it molestation? What should I do? | 8/31/2008 |
| Q: It is all mostly a big blur, but i remember bits of it. When I was 13 or 14, my dad had this ... A: Yes, you were definitely molested! Where was your mom when he would come over? He shouldn't have ... | |
| Forced To Suck Dicks | 8/30/2008 |
| Q: I'm an 18 year old girl and I was once forced to give blowjobs when I was 13 years old. When I was ... A: First and foremost, you do need to stay out of alleys. The next time you may not be so fortunate. ... | |
| I think my husband is molesting our children | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: I am in the most confusing and terrifying situation a mother could be in. I have been married for 7 ... A: What do the police want? You have the pic's and video of your daughter saying that dada did it. Your ... | |
| I think my husband is molesting our children | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: I am in the most confusing and terrifying situation a mother could be in. I have been married for 7 ... A: Oh Gosh Stacy, I am so proud of you! You've done a lot of work. You must convince the son or the ... | |
| I think my husband is molesting our children | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: I am in the most confusing and terrifying situation a mother could be in. I have been married for 7 ... A: I would take the son to therapy with me and let him tell her some of the things he has told you. She ... | |
| Molestation | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: I was just wondering a couple things on the subject. When I was little I had night terrors really ... A: If your mom was molested, it might have been her! It does not sound normal the things that are going ... | |
| Concern about Children I babysit | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: I babysit a 9 and 6 year old. I have known then since birth and have watched them on a regular basis ... A: Next time she says something like,"If he ever hurts my kids, I'll kill him.", come right out and ask ... | |
| I think I was molested as a child | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: When I was a newborn, until about 2 I lived with my grandparents. After that, I would spend almost ... A: Yes, you definitely tell your mom. You may think , well I don't want to hurt her, but family secrets ... | |
| Thank you Dad for runing my life | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: Calling my father the Antichrist is such a gross understatement. He molested me,beat me, ... A: You have too much anger to do anything to help yourself. Exposing the family secrets can be painful ... | |
| Am I A Molester? | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 14 year old girl and I have a question about molestation. A few days ago, I went to a ... A: The following are two different definitions of molest: 1. abuse somebody sexually - to force ... | |
| Concern about Children I babysit | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: I babysit a 9 and 6 year old. I have known then since birth and have watched them on a regular basis ... A: It sounds strange to me that the mom would encourage them to explore their body parts in the first ... | |
| i molested my sister | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: I posted this question to another person on this site because i need all the help i can get.... ... A: Be glad you haven't been as bad as me or the teens that I am giving this speech to who are in ... | |
| Help-molestation | 8/16/2008 |
| Q: My name is Julia and Im 13 years old, although I've been told and believe Im very mature for my age. ... A: You do sound very mature for your age! I am a retired teacher of middle school children and you have ... | |
| molestation | 8/15/2008 |
| Q: I was Molested by stepfather at nine years old, didt tell till i was in twents, told mom, she said ... A: I didn't write last night because I knew there was so much that I wanted to tell you. I was getting ... | |
| granddaughter molested by her father and his girlfriend | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: My grand daughter was molested by her father and his girlfriend, she is 4 1/2 years old. She is in ... A: I had a very hard time following your story. I'm going to tell it to you and you let me know if I am ... | |
| molestation | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: Sarah, I am a wife, nurse, and mother of 2 beautiful girls. My husband is very supportive of me and ... A: It sure sounds to me that you have Multiple Personality Disorder. That other person you are feeling ... | |
| My sister was molested by me at a young age | 8/3/2008 |
| Q: I had a bombshell dropped on me yesterday. I found at that I may have molested my sister when we ... A: Oh you poor K. I am so sorry for you to punish yourself like this. You were not a bad person. It was ... | |
| im confused. | 7/31/2008 |
| Q: when i was 7-8 years old i was physically abused by a women which led to much worse, this is what i ... A: When you are meant to remember, you will remember. You are probably not able to handle what did ... | |
| Could my granddaughters be victims? | 7/30/2008 |
| Q: Over a year ago, I noticed my then-six year old granddaughter almost constantly rubbing and touching ... A: Sounds like you are on the right track to me! You can't punish yourself though or you will not do ... | |
| Child molestation | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: When I was 6, I was molested and felt up, touched in my private by my uncle for a year. He was 18 ... A: Please don't feel bad or guilty for yourself. You were a little girl of 6 and then 8 years old when ... | |
| Wife was sexually abused when she was young!! | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been separated for 3 months now, we had custody of her 10 yr old sister. Their ... A: I would have been so happy for someone like you that wouldn't have given up on me. Your wife is so ... | |
| Child molestation | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: When I was 6, I was molested and felt up, touched in my private by my uncle for a year. He was 18 ... A: I guess you want him to go on molesting children! Right? Then if you answered "NO", then all you can ... | |
| Molestation by Stepfather | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: My daughter, now 19, has told me that her stepfather has touched her. The first time she told me ... A: You are definitely doing the right thing by making an appointment to speak with a counselor. Be firm ... | |
| Wife was sexually abused when she was young!! | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been separated for 3 months now, we had custody of her 10 yr old sister. Their ... A: I'm so sorry Brian, Unfortunately that old childhood molesttation has an inappropriate way of ... | |
| Abuser in the house | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and we are planning on getting married. I have ... A: Your firstHow do I confront him? John, or whatever his name, I have reason to believe that you have ... | |
| Trying to cope... | 7/21/2008 |
| Q: How do I as mother reestablish a relationship with my child that has been molested? My daughter was ... A: I know it is hard on you, but they need to stay there with their grandmother. If their dad drinks ... | |
| Mother-in-law acting inappropriate around my infant son. | 7/20/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I recently brought our five month old son to see his grandmother. She is very ... A: Since you were a victim of sexual misconduct, you are probably over-reacting. However, I would not ... | |
| what may have been | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: i was raised in an extraordinarily conservative home. I was home-schooled through the sixth grade, ... A: I am very angry with AllExperts.com because I lost everything I wrote to you due to problem with ... | |
| 2 questions in 1--molestation | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: My name is Ashley and i am 17. Currently I am struggling with 2 problems. The 1st- When I was ... A: The best thing that you can do is report your father to DFACS, Family and Children Services. I know ... | |
| 2 questions in 1--molestation | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: My name is Ashley and i am 17. Currently I am struggling with 2 problems. The 1st- When I was ... A: Forget the first incident. You have been punished for it and don't let anyone bring it up to you ... | |
| help for my girlfriend | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: I recently got involved in a new relationship. In the process of getting to know my girlfriend, our ... A: Let her talk to you about it and try to support her. At the same time, you are going to get her to ... | |
| How? | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: I was molested by my father when i was 9-12 and i accidently told on him wen i was talking to a ... A: How old are you? It was not an accident that you told on him! He should have been told on!!!! Tell ... | |
| Having Children after being molested | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: I am expecting my first baby. I am 16 weeks pregnant and married to a wonderful man. My problem is ... A: It may be more stressful to mention any of this to your mom. I would not mention it to her at the ... | |
| Email From A Past Predator | 6/27/2008 |
| Q: Where do I begin? I was molested by my father between the ages of 6-11. He was very abuusive ... A: You are not at wrong to have answered your dad's emails and give him a piece of your mind. Now tell ... | |
| Having Children after being molested | 6/27/2008 |
| Q: I am expecting my first baby. I am 16 weeks pregnant and married to a wonderful man. My problem is ... A: Being molested ruins so many lives. You have to deal with it. It will drag you down further and ... | |
| Molested by father | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: I am 34 years old and was molested by my father almost 30 years ago. It happened between the ages of ... A: Your family sounds so much like mine did. Mom and Dad are both dead now. First, I am so sorry about ... | |
| Wife was Molested as a child | 6/24/2008 |
| Q: When we first got married i asked my wife about what happened being a child. she said she didnt want ... A: Your biggest mistake, and I quote from your words, "I blamed myself so very badly. I said sorry for ... | |
| Wife was Molested as a child | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: When we first got married i asked my wife about what happened being a child. she said she didnt want ... A: I hope you are right about Olivia. You probably are. What age are those twins? Did one of them go ... | |
| Wife was Molested as a child | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: When we first got married i asked my wife about what happened being a child. she said she didnt want ... A: Get to her therapist and tell her or him this same story that you have told me so that they don't ... | |
| What should I do? Please help | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: My family has a big problem right now. I have a big problem right now. My dad has been accused of ... A: By all means, tell the entire story. You don't just owe it to your niece, you owe it to all the ... | |
| About DID/psychological disorders, not molestation | 6/22/2008 |
| Q: I'm 15, I was molested by my brother from 7-9, and raped last October. My childhood was full of ... A: I can feel my arms around you and asking God to bless you through all of this. I admire you for ... | |
| About DID/psychological disorders, not molestation | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm 15, I was molested by my brother from 7-9, and raped last October. My childhood was full of ... A: Because you are still a child, I want to say, Hi darling, I hope that is okay. When I was 15, my ... | |
| Forgiving perpetrators | 6/17/2008 |
| Q: I was raised in an abusive family.I have been battered physically and emotionally.My dad used to ... A: I cannot believe that you are from the other side of the globe! My daughter has been to Greece, but ... | |
| Forgiving perpetrators | 6/16/2008 |
| Q: I was raised in an abusive family.I have been battered physically and emotionally.My dad used to ... A: Praise God that you are not dead and can still care enough to find me. God watches over you every ... | |
| Child Molestation? | 6/13/2008 |
| Q: I have a three year old little boy and i am worried that someone has messed with him i have ... A: If you make a big deal out of it at the moment, it could get worse only because he realizes he is ... | |
| Are there any signs? | 6/13/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend has been accused of molesting his 3 year old son. I don't believe it ever happened. ... A: There are not common characteristics to classify a child molester, unfortunately. After it is made ... | |
| Child may be lying? | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: I have twin granddaughters who will be 4 soon. Their father, my son, has joint custody of them so ... A: You are so right! A three year old does not come up with "Mommy kissed my popo" out of the clear ... | |
| insecure... | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: Before I begin, I just want to let you know how grateful I am for this site. I've been having a ... A: First of all, let me tell you how smart you were by not going to that wedding with him. If you had, ... | |
| My sister says she was molested by my father! | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: I am truly sorry about what had happened to you. My older sister claims she was not molested by my ... A: I am 20 years older than you and after realizing that I was DID, dissociative identity disorder and ... | |
| Too late? | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: I was molested for 2 years by my mothers boyfriend from the time I was 5 to 7 years old. I have ... A: Heck no, it is never too late to tell. You'll most lively never get over it until you do tell. In ... | |
| Husband's Past | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: My husband is 32 and I am 30. We're now separated after being married for 18 months. My husband is ... A: He can heal, but it will be a long, hard battle and he has to want to heal. You can't do it for him. ... | |
| molestation | 5/20/2008 |
| Q: i was molested by a friend's brother about two weeks ago. initially he threatened me and i did not ... A: Keep telling yourself that you are the victim and he is the perpetrator. You are clean and innocent. ... | |
| molestation | 5/19/2008 |
| Q: i was molested by a friend's brother about two weeks ago. initially he threatened me and i did not ... A: If you are that angry, why did you wait to tell your mother. Maybe she would have helped you do ... | |
| Stressed out | 5/17/2008 |
| Q: I question myself if I let my sexual abuse happen to me while growing up. My father never touched me ... A: You think you will die rather than get over it, but you won't. Another thing you will be surprised ... | |
| Represt Memories | 5/14/2008 |
| Q: I'm positive I was molested when I was a child, recently I started to remember bits and pieces of ... A: If you are one that developed early for your age, 11 is not abnormal to start masturbating if you ... | |
| signs? | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: Worried about my 4 year old nephew. Over the weekend we were spending time together with my sister ... A: If he were at the age of 13, 14 and major autistic, then I would say it might be just him, but not ... | |
| My 3yr. old | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: The other day my 3yr. old daughter asked me to go into her room and help her find her toy phone. ... A: Believe your daughter. Three year olds don't make sex acts. Don't ever let your daughter around ... | |
| father molested myself and my sisters. | 5/11/2008 |
| Q: I and my 2 sisters have been molested by our father all between the ages of 5-14. All of us have had ... A: Family secrets are like a boil on the body. They fester until they finally burst. Exposing it is ... | |
| Cannot forgive myself (don't think I diserve forgiveness) | 5/10/2008 |
| Q: I sexually abused my younger brother when I was 12-13 years old. He is mentally challenged and at ... A: Oh Yes, you do deserve to be forgiven, but first you have to forgive yourself. Maybe after this ... | |
| my brother | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: I was molested by my brother when i was very young and it stopped around 12 and then he moved on to ... A: I could write to you for a day about family secrets. I can't tell you how right you were to expose ... | |
| Repressed memory? | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: I think something happened to me when I was little, although I can't remember it but I'm so sure it ... A: If you have trauma before the age of 7, which you would have been, then you learn to dissociate. ... | |
| Confused | 5/5/2008 |
| Q: I don't really know how to start this, but I guess what I am trying to get out of this is some ... A: As I began reading your letter, I knew you were young, but I didn't think you were that young. Yes, ... | |
| feeling lost | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: Im 33 &just not realizing how my past affected me i feel like i sabotaged myself and my dreams by ... A: Did you ever ask God why He gave the autistic children to you instead of me or someone that would ... | |
| I was molested when I was little | 4/30/2008 |
| Q: When I was little I was molested the ages range from 5 to 17 years of age I was told never to say ... A: Oh Bless you Diane, I am so sympathetic with you. That's my exact ages except it started one year ... | |
Sarah Harrison
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Expertise
I am an expert and counselor on experts.com too. I am aware and have been through it all. I can answer your questions on being molested by my father, brother and how it feels as an adult to have dissociative identity disorder (DID) and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I can also answer questions on being in SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous, AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, being married several times as I tried to run from all my fears, including getting lost on the road and yet I still would strike out to find a man even if I did get lost. There's not anything I can imagine that I wouldn't try to answer!
Experience
When I was fifty-nine years of age, I experienced an incorporation with Dr. William Tollefson, the gentleman that developed incorporation therapy. Now my three altars and I are one system instead of four of us fighting against each other. On top of the molestations of childhood, I was raped repeatedly in college by three men and left to die. I stayed in basically an abusive marriage for 26 years even though I was the one that was educated, six years of college.
Organizations: United Methodist's Women's Group, Epiphany, Faith Partner's, Emmaus Walk Publications: Sarah Harrison has written several articles for the Women's Institute for Incorporation Therapy's monthly newsletter as well as articles for spiritual magazines. She has just recently published her own true tragedy of sexual abuse entitled, "You Love Your Daddy, Don't You?" Go to www.incestvictim.com to view the website and order her book. Education/Credentials: Master's in Education, Specialist's in Education, Specialist's in Administration.
Awards and Honors: Teacher of the Year, on the Board of the Finance Committee for Gwinnett Co. Board of Ed. for seven years, CASA volunteer in Forsyth Co. for four years.
Past/Present Clients: Women's group at Birmingham United Methodist Church in Alpharetta, GA and Epiphany at Columbia, SC. I want to start engaging in speaking conferences for other women's groups as soon as possible now that my book is published.
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