| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Tramatic memory repression | 11/19/2009 |
Q: I don't know the correct terms for this defense mechanism. Forgive me for that. When I was about ...
A: I apologize for taking so long in answering you. I had to leave town suddenly to see about my ...
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| incest and sexual addiction | 11/18/2009 |
Q: Every Friday evening and Saturday afternoon my parents would go out. My brother had to babysit me if ...
A: Same thing happened with my brother at nights because I had to sleep in the same bed with him and ...
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| the unspeakable | 11/13/2009 |
Q: I have recently found out my niece has been molested by my step-nephew (my sister step son) for the ...
A: No, the psychiatrist does not have a legal obligation to report the crime. Everything that is said ...
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| Was my friend molested ? | 11/13/2009 |
Q: My friend told me that she thought she was molested by her step dad. She said it started when she ...
A: I Looked up molest in the thesauras just for the fun of it even though I knew before I did that it ...
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| Confused about the past... | 11/8/2009 |
Q: I am 20 years old, married and have a new born baby. I've been wondering lately if something from ...
A: A true relationship is not supposed to keep anything from each other. When you think your baby is ...
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| Confused about the past... | 11/8/2009 |
Q: I am 20 years old, married and have a new born baby. I've been wondering lately if something from ...
A: God never puts more on us than we can take for the moment. You have just had a wonderful new baby ...
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| signs of child molestation | 11/8/2009 |
Q: My son is about to turn 5 and started pre-k in Sept. He loves his school and friends. He is an ...
A: You are right and your administrator are both right. It is not normal though that he masturbate ...
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| Does my girlfriend have attchment disorder? | 11/7/2009 |
Q: my girlfriend and i have been going out for 11 months. we are both 18, and we plan to get married ...
A: You're battling multiple personality disorder. Sometime she's your girlfriend, other times she's the ...
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| bad judgement | 11/5/2009 |
Q: my name is brad I have a 11 year old daughter Kaylee. Recently I made the worse judgement call a ...
A: Brad, If you think you are going to keep it from happening again, you must be made of steel. I just ...
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| overreaction?? | 11/5/2009 |
Q: Today after picking my 3 year old from his fathers house, 15 minutes into the ride my lil boy tells ...
A: You are definitely not over reacting! I don't know how you held yourself together to get all that ...
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| Forgiving myself. | 11/5/2009 |
Q: I can recall being molested by family friends (children), when I was a small girl. I didnt know that ...
A: It was not your fault, but the fault of the family friends that molested you and tried to make you ...
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| bad judgement | 11/5/2009 |
Q: my name is brad I have a 11 year old daughter Kaylee. Recently I made the worse judgement call a ...
A: You know she can never come back to live with you. It will just start all over again no matter how ...
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| afraid for our child | 11/3/2009 |
Q: last night my sister in law came over to our house to tell us something very disturbing. she said ...
A: Something about the entire situation sounds erroneous to me. A family never goes that long without ...
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| Concerned Mom | 10/28/2009 |
Q: "I have a 2 and 1/2 year old. I have this weird feeling that she has been molested. A few months ago ...
A: It so tragic for little ones like her. Unfortunately, no a two year old would not be trying to put ...
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| My 5 year old says she was molested by her father. | 10/27/2009 |
Q: Ok, when my daughter was 2 and a half i was putting her panties on and she pointed at her vagina ...
A: By all means, go somewhere else. Girls that are 5 years old just don't think up stuff like that. ...
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| bad judgement | 10/26/2009 |
Q: my name is brad I have a 11 year old daughter Kaylee. Recently I made the worse judgement call a ...
A: Yes, you do need help. If family and children services found out, they would put you in jail and ...
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| Teacher touched me | 10/22/2009 |
Q: First of all, I was molested once in my life, when I was in the 7th grade. My class was in gym ...
A: Unfortunately, "NO". My question, "WHY DIDN'T YOU DO SOMETHING THEN?" It is your word against his ...
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| Granddaughter | 10/22/2009 |
Q: I babysit my 2 1/2 yr old Granddaughter weekly, and today she said some things that alarmed me. When ...
A: Obviously, it is disturbing her tremendously to see him in the nude and obviously he is calling his ...
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| worthless | 10/22/2009 |
Q: k. so i'm 41 and my man is 66 and my daughter is 16. i am with him because he was nice to me and ...
A: When you marry a man for the wrong reason, it never goes right. He married you to take care of him. ...
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| Sam's story | 10/20/2009 |
Q: the one asked the I'm not sure question. In answer to your question yes I've had this dream for four ...
A: It is hard to know how to help much without more information. As I said before, if these dreams ...
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| I can't remember anything | 10/20/2009 |
Q: This is really hard to talk about. I forced myself into believing i imagined it and maybe i did... ...
A: I'm sure there are things that she caught you doing that she questioned when you were younger, like ...
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| I'm not sure | 10/19/2009 |
Q: I'm 16 years old and have a hard secret to bear. I'm afraid to tell anyone because I seriously don't ...
A: Have these dreams been going on for four years now? Some of the time, that is all these are, just ...
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| I can't remember anything | 10/19/2009 |
Q: This is really hard to talk about. I forced myself into believing i imagined it and maybe i did... ...
A: If he was arrested for child molestation after you were there at their day care, unfortuanately, you ...
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| touching my breasts | 10/16/2009 |
Q: I have a question about molestion because I think my father may have/be molesting me. I can give you ...
A: I just had to write back and tell you how proud I am of you. Since your answer is not private, you ...
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| child molestation | 10/13/2009 |
Q: I am raising a 7 year old boy along with my fiance , his mother . The childs father sees ...
A: Okay, he has his own room. I would tell the father that I expect to hear that he be using his room ...
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| How far a father's touch isn't molestation? | 10/13/2009 |
Q: I will start with that we have been together for 4 yrs now and our age difference is 18 yrs for good ...
A: It sounds to me that she is more in love with her father than you at the moment. I just reread your ...
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| child molestation | 10/13/2009 |
Q: I am raising a 7 year old boy along with my fiance , his mother . The childs father sees ...
A: All children act different when a new baby comes into a household. Let's hope that is all that it ...
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| How far a father's touch isn't molestation? | 10/12/2009 |
Q: I will start with that we have been together for 4 yrs now and our age difference is 18 yrs for good ...
A: I am so sorry. I am so embarrassed that you are the guy and not the young girl. I do apologize. I ...
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| How far a father's touch isn't molestation? | 10/12/2009 |
Q: I will start with that we have been together for 4 yrs now and our age difference is 18 yrs for good ...
A: As the old saying goes, "You will be jumping out of a frying pan into a fire", if you marry this ...
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| Could I have been molested as a child? | 10/8/2009 |
Q: and thanks in advance for your answer. I'm an eighteen year old girl, and in the last two weeks ...
A: The Lord will never put more on us than we can withstand. He may have used you as a witness for the ...
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| Was my wife molested? | 10/6/2009 |
Q: I'll be to the point - I'm wondering if my wife may have been molested by her father as a child? ...
A: Of course I could be wrong, but I don't think so. To ease your mind, why don't you send the same ...
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| Was my wife molested? | 10/5/2009 |
Q: I'll be to the point - I'm wondering if my wife may have been molested by her father as a child? ...
A: I could almost write you another book of how you could handle her. I have written one of my life: ...
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| daughters abuse | 9/14/2009 |
Q: My daughter has been deprived, threatened, controlled and terrorized by her stepdad, I mean her ...
A: You are on the right track Rowdy.Just try not to say anything negative about her mom or she will ...
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| Nephew/niece molesting my children | 9/13/2009 |
Q: My 10 yr. old daughter came to me in Nov. 2008 and told me that her 10 yr old female cousin had been ...
A: Tell her that the same thing that you talked to her about two years ago is happening again. If she ...
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| the boyfriend raped me | 9/12/2009 |
Q: When I was a 12 My parents got divorced. My brother and I, and later my older sister lived with my ...
A: I read your question on Friday, but forgive me for not answering it until tonight. I needed time to ...
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| daughters abuse | 9/11/2009 |
Q: My daughter has been deprived, threatened, controlled and terrorized by her stepdad, I mean her ...
A: I don't know how you control your emotions about your "X". Couldn't your boys have spoken up in a ...
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| adoptive dad molested me | 9/10/2009 |
Q: where di i start? so i was adopted at 9 and from 6th~8th grade i was being molested by my dad. i ...
A: Let's start with you. You don't have to like what your dad did to you, but you do have to forgive ...
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| husband molested my daughter | 9/9/2009 |
Q: I recently left my husband after 19 years and now my daughter is informing me that he, her ...
A: The mind is a strange thing. We block things from it that we cannot take emotionally until we get ...
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| As I Am Today | 9/9/2009 |
Q: My older cousin molested me at a very early age. I don't remember how it started, but I think it was ...
A: I have taught many kids like you. I am on Facebook now and they write to me as an adult. They ...
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| husband molested my daughter | 9/8/2009 |
Q: I recently left my husband after 19 years and now my daughter is informing me that he, her ...
A: If you want any respect from your daughter, by all means you tell him that you know about it. He ...
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| child molestation | 9/8/2009 |
Q: About 3and 1/2 years ago my daughter was molested by her 12 year old female step cousin. When we ...
A: Oh, I see the family picture now. If you continue to let your brother come, there will always be ...
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| child molestation | 9/8/2009 |
Q: About 3and 1/2 years ago my daughter was molested by her 12 year old female step cousin. When we ...
A: I'm regretful that you did not agree with my answer. You will understand down the road that the ...
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| Molested | 9/6/2009 |
Q: I was 7 years old when I was molested by a guy (even he was young, I dont know he's age) )who was ...
A: The only way that you can forget about it and stop dreaming about it is forgiveness, both yourself ...
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| Could this be effecting me? | 9/5/2009 |
Q: I was severely molested by my dad from ages 6-17. i told my mom she never did a thing about it. they ...
A: Since you case was so much like my friends that I am reading her book for her and your question was ...
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| touched? | 9/5/2009 |
Q: i have a daughter who will be four in two months. About a month ago, I went to a neighbors and she ...
A: Does he live alone? Did his wide die or did they divorce? Have you looked him up to see if he is on ...
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| molestation | 9/2/2009 |
Q: I am 43 and it hurts me to say that I was sexually abused by my heroin addicted mother and her ...
A: Oh Josh, I'm not saying that at all! It would just make you feel better if you could. Just try not ...
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| My step-son sexually abused my dougter | 9/2/2009 |
Q: I am totally shocked .. Hope you can help me ... I got married 4 years ago . I have a 10 years old ...
A: Once it starts, it never stops. You put your foot down!!!! His son does not come there no more or ...
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| molestation | 9/1/2009 |
Q: I am 43 and it hurts me to say that I was sexually abused by my heroin addicted mother and her ...
A: I read your excerpt/question with disbelief and tears in my eyes. I have never written an answer to ...
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| 2 1/2 year old made sexual coment | 9/1/2009 |
Q: My 2.5 year old told his 7 year old brother to suck his penis in front of my wife last night as he ...
A: Unfortunately, your children could have heard these remarks anywhere in public places with other ...
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| Has my girlfriend been molested as a child? | 7/29/2009 |
Q: I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years now and I've suddenly been curious and asked myself ...
A: lol We don't remember more than what the mind can accept. When I was hospitalized for mine, (I had ...
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| re-establishing a relationship | 7/27/2009 |
Q: this isn't a molestation question but rather a relationship question but i have read enough about ...
A: I didn't mean to be so long in answering. I have a bad thunderstorm coming up and need to get my ...
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| rape and incest | 7/26/2009 |
Q: Is there a statue of limitation law on rape and incest in Alabama? My stepfather raped me at the age ...
A: You would have to ask an Alabama attorney about that to get a perfect answer to that question. I can ...
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| all screwed up in Florida | 7/24/2009 |
Q: when i was between the ages of 6 -8 my brother decided to play doctor at the age of 12 my mother ...
A: It sounds as if you have a good husband and once had a good father (stepfather). Your mother is in ...
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| getting beyond | 7/24/2009 |
Q: I am a 47 year old woman with 5 brothers and a younger sister who is 35. I shared with her that I ...
A: Look up "Family Secrets" on Google and WebMd and you will find out that you cannot heal until the ...
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| im was 15/molestation/ i dont know what to do | 7/13/2009 |
Q: im 15 years old 16 in july i was babysitting for this millitary family for two years the have ...
A: If I were you, I would face up and tell my mom the truth. Tell her that you trusted him and he asked ...
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| re-establishing a relationship | 7/13/2009 |
Q: this isn't a molestation question but rather a relationship question but i have read enough about ...
A: If you haven't talked to her, how do you know that she is drinking again? If she is drinking again, ...
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| Child Molestation | 7/12/2009 |
Q: I wrote you last night and forgot a piece of information that I think might be an important piece of ...
A: I am talking about your daughter. She or you one need to get the police involved or at least DFACS. ...
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| molested by adoptive father | 7/12/2009 |
Q: i was molested by my father. who is my adoptive father when i was in sixth grade on two separate ...
A: So sorry that I missed you tonight. I spoke with Chad for over an hour. We discussed many things. ...
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| I have a feeling I'm pregnant with my dads sperm. | 7/12/2009 |
Q: My name is Alex. When i was four, my mom went to work at the night shift and my brother was at a ...
A: Look up Family and Children Services DFACS in your town in the local telephone book. Call them on ...
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| never really remembering dealing | 7/12/2009 |
Q: I was molested at the age of 13 by my step dad. along with that he also introduced me to porn. After ...
A: Most definitely! You need some therapy now. I'm truly sorry that you are back in the same old ...
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| The Love of My Life is Broken... | 7/10/2009 |
Q: This will be dreadfully long, I apologize. I am a writer and words flow from my fingers like a ...
A: You are also the last man that I had any dealings with (my last husband forever). He gave me the ...
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| child molestation? | 7/10/2009 |
Q: My 21 year l daughter died last year an my 3 year old granddaughter was taken from us by her father ...
A: Without more information, I cannot really say that she is or has been molested. My grandaughter does ...
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| Molested by father | 7/10/2009 |
Q: I was molested by my father when I was 7 years old. My mother abused me mentally and physically out ...
A: Your name looks so familiar. Have I written to you before? To answer your question, "NO". ...
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| molested by adoptive father | 7/9/2009 |
Q: i was molested by my father. who is my adoptive father when i was in sixth grade on two separate ...
A: Oh my darling angel, Why yes it is definitely the root of all your madness. I have so many of your ...
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| child molested by child | 7/8/2009 |
Q: My step-child has been doing things that makes me think he may be molesting younger children. He was ...
A: I am so sorry. I will tell you this. If a 12/13 year old has not been taught sex education properly ...
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| possible molestation | 7/7/2009 |
Q: i've been married to my wife for 4 years. she is 27 and i'm 30. she swears she's never been abused ...
A: Bless your heart. You really got guts! You are really trying to find out from her. One way or ...
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| The Love of My Life is Broken... | 7/6/2009 |
Q: This will be dreadfully long, I apologize. I am a writer and words flow from my fingers like a ...
A: My dear Tommy, If you read this tonight, call me 803-548-0490. I will be a sleep in two hours from ...
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| child molested by child | 7/6/2009 |
Q: My step-child has been doing things that makes me think he may be molesting younger children. He was ...
A: You sure didn't give me much information. How old is he? I can't give you much information until you ...
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| My 10 year old son touched his 3 year old girl cousin | 7/5/2009 |
Q: I am a single parent of a 10 year old boy. Through out the school year he lives with me and attends ...
A: Let me ask you some questions first: 1. Do you have a problems with him acting inappropriately ...
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| Child Molestation | 7/4/2009 |
Q: I wrote you last night and forgot a piece of information that I think might be an important piece of ...
A: It is very hard to understand your questions. There are so many misplaced pronouns of she's of your ...
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| I think I was molested but i really dont know | 7/4/2009 |
Q: I don’t really know how to say all this without just listing all of the things that I see as ...
A: All signs suggest that you were molested as a young child. What I do see is that you are not ...
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| possible molestation | 7/4/2009 |
Q: i've been married to my wife for 4 years. she is 27 and i'm 30. she swears she's never been abused ...
A: Try calling her by a different name when she is like that. Or say to her, "Who are you tonight?" She ...
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| Molestation | 7/3/2009 |
Q: My question is how to go about finding out if my grandaughter is being molested by her Dad. Her ...
A: That Joyce or I would come right out and ask her. I would want to put a stop to it if it is ...
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| abuse? | 7/3/2009 |
Q: i am now a 15 year old girl, and some things happened when i was younger and i am unsure what to ...
A: Yes, what he did to you was sexual abuse. He was in the prime of his puberty and no one taught him ...
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| maintaining relationship with abuse | 7/2/2009 |
Q: I really need some advice. I am a Christian, 29 years old, and having a hard time deciding what ...
A: His kind of abuse never stops.!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He will abuse the next generation and the next. The ...
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| i don't know | 7/1/2009 |
Q: I don't remember much from when i was little, but i know i didn't want to be alive. I thought i was ...
A: You would not have all those symptoms if you had not have been being molested. You would not have ...
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| Child Molestation | 6/30/2009 |
Q: I wrote you last night and forgot a piece of information that I think might be an important piece of ...
A: It sure sounds like your grandaughter is acting out true drama in many situations. Try to convince ...
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| Molestation | 6/30/2009 |
Q: My question is how to go about finding out if my grandaughter is being molested by her Dad. Her ...
A: Their is no connection between her baby talk and molestion. There could be between her saying that ...
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| My adult daughter was molested | 6/29/2009 |
Q: Within the past year I have found out that as a child my father-in-law molested my now grown ...
A: That type of sexual abuse usually does run in families and the best thing to do is to expose the ...
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| stepson | 6/28/2009 |
Q: I am the the sole guardian of a 15 year old stepson. I married his father 3 years ago when i was 33 ...
A: Unfortunately, he's not dumb. He knows that you are doing it for him. Yes, you are enabling him by ...
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| stepson | 6/27/2009 |
Q: I am the the sole guardian of a 15 year old stepson. I married his father 3 years ago when i was 33 ...
A: Start the conversation with a question. Ask him does he still have sex education with his PE/Health ...
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| i think my daughter has been molested by her stepdad, | 6/26/2009 |
Q: my daughters 16 & 14 have been away on a summer program and return tomorrow. i renovated their ...
A: Don't talk to him until you talk to them. If he has been molesting the 14 year old, he may have ...
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| My Family | 6/26/2009 |
Q: I am female, I was molested by... Grandfather, Uncle, And 2 brothers, Family friend.... Everyone but ...
A: My dear Sue, You told yourself a lot of the answers: You said "And as before they are not doing ...
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| stepson | 6/25/2009 |
Q: I am the the sole guardian of a 15 year old stepson. I married his father 3 years ago when i was 33 ...
A: You are the most educated adult I ever saw to have never had any children of your own. lol Don't ...
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| Dad molesting siblings | 6/24/2009 |
Q: I am having a really hard time because I just discovered that my dad has molested several of my ...
A: Your dad will do it again. Once they start molesting their own children, they don't stop. I know ...
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| Molestation | 6/19/2009 |
Q: what do you do when your molested by your father, then years later, your mothers boyfriend's ...
A: You are asking two questions here. You haven't dealt with your father's molestation yet. Neither did ...
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| 3 year old molested by father | 6/18/2009 |
Q: I was wondering if you could help. A close friend has a daughter of 3 years old. The father of the ...
A: Your friend needs therapy. Unfortuantely once a man or woman starts molesting a child, they never ...
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| My girlfriend was abused by her Step-dad. | 6/17/2009 |
Q: my girlfriend was kidnapped and abused when she was 13 years old. when we started dating i told her ...
A: This happens often, more than I would like to tell you, even with biological mother and father. ...
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| i need help | 6/17/2009 |
Q: by okay so long story short as short as i can anyway this is 30 years of my life.when i was born i ...
A: Your children will be looking to you for direction. They see and they do. They hear and they say. ...
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| what to do? | 6/15/2009 |
Q: I know a 13yr old boy who was caught with his 1/2 brother who is 7 in the bathroom. Both boys had a ...
A: It depends on who you are to those children and who you are speaking of reporting it to. If you are ...
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| how do i break free | 6/15/2009 |
Q: First off im a 28year old single mother with 4 kids. And I have 3 girls. under the age ten. When i ...
A: It is not easy to break free. I think the first step is in forgiving yourself. We somehow seem to ...
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| daughter touch inapropriately | 6/15/2009 |
Q: My 14 yr old daughter recently admitted that her stepdad who raised her since she was 2 has been ...
A: I would be worried too. Incest does not affect children immediately, but when they become young ...
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| Help with abused friend/substance abuser | 6/14/2009 |
Q: Please help. I have quite a detailed question that I know will require extensive and complicated ...
A: You can't change her anymore than I can. She has got to want to change herself. She is definitely ...
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| After 16 years my teenager says her step dad my husband touched her | 6/10/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 13 years and with him for 15 years. I have 2 daughters ages 19 ...
A: I cannot tell you who to believe or not to believe. I can point out some behaviors to you that each ...
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| i feel normal... | 6/9/2009 |
Q: I'm 29, have a successful career (grad school educated), never smoked or did drugs, drink wine with ...
A: He has a right to be worried, but as long as he is satisfying you sexually, he probably won't have ...
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| Childhood Molestation | 6/9/2009 |
Q: I haven't spoken about what happened to me between the age of 6 to 12 years. I am now 21 and would ...
A: This man has hurt you badly, but you need to tell your parents about him and how they have hurt you ...
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| my story of my life. | 6/6/2009 |
Q: i remember that my uncle would touch me and just kiss me and i would say no is not ok. he would say ...
A: Marie, you are so kind for your comments. I wish you all the best in the world. I raised my children ...
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| my story of my life. | 6/6/2009 |
Q: i remember that my uncle would touch me and just kiss me and i would say no is not ok. he would say ...
A: None of what he did to you is your fault! You were only a child. you are not wrong to say it felt ...
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| My husband | 5/31/2009 |
Q: My name is Brittany and I am concerned. I am currently going through a divorce and my husband for ...
A: Why did they give the son to the father instead of the mother? Normally the child goes to the ...
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| My husband | 5/29/2009 |
Q: My name is Brittany and I am concerned. I am currently going through a divorce and my husband for ...
A: I hope you didn't divorce your husband because of him molesting his sister. Most likely he didn't ...
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| possible touching ? | 5/27/2009 |
Q: I have been married for a year to an alcholic, he spent time in prison...he is the step father to my ...
A: You are not over reacting. Ask your daughter about it. She may not tell you the truth though. She ...
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| do not know what to do | 5/27/2009 |
Q: my five year old recently went on a weekend sleep over in her fathers house. when she came home and ...
A: If she said no one touched her, then most likely no one did. She probably has a bladder or kidney ...
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| 6 year old and 9 year old molested by 12 year old cousin | 5/21/2009 |
Q: I just found out from my now 8 year old son that when he and his than 9 year old cousin played in ...
A: Since all of that happened about two years ago, you do not have to report it. It would be their word ...
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| How do we best help our daughter? | 5/18/2009 |
Q: Our daughter who is almost 16 recently wrote me and my husband a letter saying she was molested by ...
A: You need to talk to an attorney about the time limit on pressing charges and if the mother can have ...
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| adult daughter who was molested | 5/18/2009 |
Q: My daughter who is 21 and has had problems all her life, school, lack of friends,etc. and lost her ...
A: First, I am so sorry that she lost her first child, but she couldn't help it. I'm sure she was doing ...
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| Am i a molester? | 5/17/2009 |
Q: Im 19 now but through the ages of 9-11 my mom's friend would bring his kid over and we'd play movie ...
A: Your last thought is exactly right. Forgiveness is the "KEY". We must first forgive ourselves and ...
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| Living with my enemy? | 5/17/2009 |
Q: Well my case its pretty simple im living with this person who is my legal guardian because my ...
A: Are you an American citizen? I don't know if that even matters. I don't think it does. You are a ...
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| My husband is molesting my daughter | 5/17/2009 |
Q: I've been married for 15 years now. He has been good to us,until about a year ago our 15 year old ...
A: It does tend to run in families or in the genes; however, I think a family can make a conscious ...
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| Concerned | 5/16/2009 |
Q: I have been a little concerned lately about my 5 year old step daughter's behavior. She lives, along ...
A: Do you have a pediatrician for them? I would take them to the doctor about the loss of weight. After ...
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| Brother in law molested my daughter | 5/16/2009 |
Q: My daughter is 22 and a couple of years ago she told me she was molested by my brother in law. My ...
A: You have done the first thing that I suggest and that is expose the family member that did it. I am ...
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| my daughter accusing stepfather of abuse | 5/13/2009 |
Q: Ok my daughter just accused my fiance of having touched her several years ago and last yera having ...
A: Middle school children think their own parents are more stupid or less educated than anyone in the ...
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| molested by my uncle | 5/13/2009 |
Q: I'm 34 now, but when I was 12, I told my mother that her brother had molested me for five years. My ...
A: It's normal if they are adults and not little girls. He didn't abuse them. He abused you. You don't ...
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| wondering?? | 5/12/2009 |
Q: I am a female. When I was 12 or 13 I used to play with my niece who was 10 years younger. I ...
A: My granddaughter is almost two now and I don't think she would have thought anything about it. She ...
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| sexual abuse? | 5/11/2009 |
Q: I have a younger brother who feels he was sexually abused in some way when he was very young- there ...
A: How old is your daughter? In her bad condition, if you are sure she does not remember the abuse, why ...
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| sexual abuse? | 5/11/2009 |
Q: I have a younger brother who feels he was sexually abused in some way when he was very young- there ...
A: You are afraid to go because of what you might remember. You are in denial. If your brother was ...
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| prior email from 5-7-09 | 5/11/2009 |
Q: I still am having a hard time coming to terms that the term molestation is appropriate. When the ...
A: In this email, you say "laying on the bed". If you read your last email, you say "laying on top of ...
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| molestation................please help me! | 5/9/2009 |
Q: The story is my Grandfather molested me. I was about 13 when it first happened then more after that. ...
A: This is a blog of mine relating to family secrets. Maybe it makes more sense than the way I put it ...
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| lying about sexual abuse | 5/8/2009 |
Q: I have a step daughter who is 13 years old. She has recently accused her grandpa of sexually ...
A: Children services just don't know what to do about it themselves. Thirteen year olds lie about ...
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| molestation | 5/7/2009 |
Q: My sister in law is an alcoholic. When she drinks she says and does things that are inappropriate. ...
A: Your therapist is very right. Forget your brother's feelings about his sister. You are in denial. ...
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| is my little girl, being molested | 5/6/2009 |
Q: ,Im very worryed about my 3 year old daughter, I think she is being molested, by her father,,or some ...
A: Does he have to pay you child support? He knows you love her very much. He may just be trying to ...
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| molestation................please help me! | 5/6/2009 |
Q: The story is my Grandfather molested me. I was about 13 when it first happened then more after that. ...
A: You are the one that has to heal, not your boyfriend. He does not have to understand. You have to ...
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| ?molestation | 5/4/2009 |
Q: My 22 year old step daughter has been struggling for the past 4 years from inappropriate ...
A: The definition of molestion is, and I quote "to force unwanted sexual attentions on somebody, ...
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| child molestation 3 years old | 5/1/2009 |
Q: if there has bee a child molested does it run in a family or is it the mind set of that person. ...
A: It is known to run in families. The three year old will usually state enough to indicate which ...
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| A mother's reactions | 4/30/2009 |
Q: I am 36 and have been married for 13 years. Two weeks ago our 14 year old daughter revealed to us ...
A: You are using her situation to make your problem even worse. Your husband and daughter need you love ...
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| my stepfather molested me | 4/25/2009 |
Q: I am 18 years old. Ever since I was 8 up until I was 14 my step father molested me. It wasn't a ...
A: I hope you are not still living there. Your mother is in denial and does not want to believe it. ...
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| what should we do | 4/24/2009 |
Q: My sister-n-law's daughter is very angry with her step father. In recent past he has left them on ...
A: She's making it all up to try and make her mom get him out of the house. I know it is not right for ...
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| Advice on helping girlfriend cope with her past. | 4/23/2009 |
Q: my girlfriend just turned 18 and I am 16 years old. She just recently told me she was molested and ...
A: You really can't help her. She has got to want to help herself. She is wanting sympathy from you. ...
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| need help coping | 4/23/2009 |
Q: in 2003 I found out my now ex husband had molested my daughter, his step daughter when she was in ...
A: Look on Google for support groups for incest victims in your local area. There are many of them. For ...
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| My daughter ... | 4/20/2009 |
Q: I was molested by my father at a very young age. He would fondle my genitals on the outside of my ...
A: Once a man starts touching little girls, it usually never stops and it usually runs in families; ...
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| Molested | 4/20/2009 |
Q: Today my mother finally gave in and told me the name of the neighbor that molested me when I was ...
A: I am sure it started the first time you went into his apartment alone and ended the last time you ...
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| stepsister | 4/19/2009 |
Q: My name is Lance. I'm 16 and my stepsister lisa is 15 and she's hot! For the past few months I ...
A: Are you involved in the youth at your church? I was with the high school for over a year until it ...
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| Signs & Symptoms of prior child molestation/incest | 4/18/2009 |
Q: My sister-in-law and I have both been having marital issues with our husbands (they are brothers). ...
A: You can send it private and no one can read it. If I were you I would get your sister-in-law to ...
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| Was this rape and am I a bad person for what I did after? | 4/18/2009 |
Q: When growing up my mum was seriously mentally ill (bipolar), and my dad was continuously at work and ...
A: You are not a bad person! Yes, you were raped. You get over it, by first forgiving yourself, then ...
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| stepsister | 4/18/2009 |
Q: My name is Lance. I'm 16 and my stepsister lisa is 15 and she's hot! For the past few months I ...
A: You are 16 and in the prime of your life. What you did is normal. What your sister did is "not" ...
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| Please help | 4/16/2009 |
Q: I really need your advice. Background in a nutshell, my friends mom left her and her three brothers ...
A: Did Maudy, When you write your letter to her, volunteer to go with her to therapy. There is nothing ...
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| was it molestation | 12/9/2008 |
Q: im not really sure what is considered molestation. i think i was molested by my dad. when i was ...
A: Oh yes honey, you were molested and you do need to talk to your father. Family secrets will kill ...
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| Am I not saved either? | 12/9/2008 |
Q: Well the hymen I think si still there so maybe someone touched me.That is still possible which would ...
A: I do think you were molested. Do try to stop the porn for your sake. I hate to inform you of this, ...
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| Am I not saved either? | 12/9/2008 |
Q: Well the hymen I think si still there so maybe someone touched me.That is still possible which would ...
A: Great Girl Congratulations, You sound like a smart lady. You sure had me fooled about being a mama ...
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| Was I molested? | 12/8/2008 |
Q: I'm 22 years old, and by all accounts have led a "normal" life. I have graduated college and am ...
A: From all that you have told me, it sure sounds like you were molested as a child, however; I cannot ...
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| My girlfriend was molested how do i help? | 12/8/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend just told me my girlfriend was molested walking down the street. She blams it on ...
A: All you can do is praise God that the car rolled up. Your girlfriend needs her butt kicked for even ...
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| Am I not saved either? | 12/7/2008 |
Q: Well the hymen I think si still there so maybe someone touched me.That is still possible which would ...
A: He had no business telling you that. You are saved! You probably never told him any different about ...
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| Molestaion | 12/7/2008 |
Q: I am a 34 year old man that was molested by my older cousin when i was 6-9. On thanksgiving my ...
A: You are letting him push your buttons and he knows it. You need to expose him if it has never been ...
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| Was I molested or not? | 12/7/2008 |
Q: Well as I said,I started thinking about sex from either 6,7,or 8 years old.I know for sure that it's ...
A: What's your life like today? Do you still live with the same people (same mom and dad) that you did ...
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| I just found out my daughter was molested a few years ago... | 12/7/2008 |
Q: Yesterday I got a call from the school counselor and she advised me that my (now 12 year old) ...
A: I can tell that you are very upset and you have every right to be. I don't know your daughter ...
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| My girlfriend was abused by her brother | 12/6/2008 |
Q: Sarah, My girlfriend has been sexually abused by her brother from the age of 12 -18 after their ...
A: She will never heal until she exposes him, the brother. Go with her to her home, take the mom off on ...
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| was i molested? | 12/6/2008 |
Q: I'm not entirely clear as to what constitutes molestion. What I experienced as a child was ...
A: Good, I am glad the right boy was accused. I knew he wasn't your brother. I just didn't know the ...
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| Was I molested or not? | 12/5/2008 |
Q: Well as I said,I started thinking about sex from either 6,7,or 8 years old.I know for sure that it's ...
A: Making the dolls have sex is a sign that you were abused sexually. Making them abuse one another ...
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| Was I molested or not? | 12/5/2008 |
Q: Well as I said,I started thinking about sex from either 6,7,or 8 years old.I know for sure that it's ...
A: Honey, Puberty doesn't start until you start growing breast and have you first menstrual cycle. I ...
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| was i molested? | 12/5/2008 |
Q: I'm not entirely clear as to what constitutes molestion. What I experienced as a child was ...
A: I didn't misunderstand you about your mom lying. I knew it was you. However, she should have stopped ...
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| Inappropiate touching | 12/5/2008 |
Q: My 12 year old daughter came to me approximately 6 months ago letting me know that her 17 year old ...
A: I would spare no feelings! She is your daughter and she may not be telling you the entire truth. ...
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| molested during sleep by a friend | 12/4/2008 |
Q: I'm a 19-year-old girl with extreme difficulties in relationships. I always end up choosing the ...
A: People, (guys) got the idea that you were a whore from you living in that house with all the adults ...
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| Was I molested as well? | 12/4/2008 |
Q: Well since you were nice,I might as well come out about this.I am not married and I am 13.I posted ...
A: Nobody hits puberty at six years old!!!!! Something happened to you before that, I promise you. Just ...
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| Was I molested as well? | 12/3/2008 |
Q: Well since you were nice,I might as well come out about this.I am not married and I am 13.I posted ...
A: If you haven't been to my website, www.incestvictim.com , go there and read the except from the book ...
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| Was I molested as well? | 12/2/2008 |
Q: Well since you were nice,I might as well come out about this.I am not married and I am 13.I posted ...
A: I do think you were molested. I don't know by whom. You probably have an idea who it was. You need ...
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| Fear of talking to counsellor about the worst things | 12/2/2008 |
Q: I do not really know where to start. I have a counselor that I go see once a week. Since April. She ...
A: Are you still under 18? That counselor has heard much worse than what you have to tell her. Don't be ...
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| was I molested? | 12/2/2008 |
Q: It is the prodding of a good friend I finally confided in that has me questioning if I was molested ...
A: The molestation will keep haunting you until it does come out. We block memories until our mind can ...
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| This is a mental question. | 12/1/2008 |
Q: But if you were my husband wouldn't you want a divorce from me? ANSWER: Dear Corrina, As long as ...
A: No offense, but I don't think your are a psychiatrist. Besides sometimes they do have to go to ...
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| puberty | 11/29/2008 |
Q: my son is 11yrs old .he is going through puberty. well the other day his father went into his room ...
A: Eleven years old is a little young for the cause to be puberty.That usually starts more like 14 yrs. ...
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| This is a mental question. | 11/27/2008 |
Q: But if you were my husband wouldn't you want a divorce from me?
A: As long as you could prove to me that you were not looking at any porn, reading any molestation ...
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| This is a mental question. | 11/27/2008 |
Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ...
A: You won't have those thoughts if you can get some mental therapy. How old is he anyway? Isn't he ...
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| trying to find a way out | 11/26/2008 |
Q: I'm 27 and for the first time am admitting that i was molested by my brother, 4 yrs older than me, ...
A: You are doing the right thing by telling someone. I know you sound like a counselor yourself. Had ...
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| In such a bad place. | 11/26/2008 |
Q: I don't really know where exactly to begin. I am almost 25 years old, and I was just wondering if it ...
A: The best way to figure that out is to take a look at your parental background. Have either of them ...
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| This is a mental question. | 11/26/2008 |
Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ...
A: There is hope for you honey. Don't even think about suicide. Your husband won't divorce you if you ...
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| This is a mental question. | 11/25/2008 |
Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ...
A: We have talked before. You have to get some help. It is not right that you are having these ...
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| Was I? | 11/22/2008 |
Q: This whole situation came about within a month. It was summer break. I was 5 and a half years old ...
A: Yes, you were molested. Have you told your parents about it now? I sure hope so because you need to ...
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| Former molestation | 11/21/2008 |
Q: I was just curious as to what actions one might take if they were molested as a child by someone in ...
A: If I were you, I would report him/her now. It has probably continued since you were there. I don't ...
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| Daughter's Molestation | 11/20/2008 |
Q: Last night my 24 year old daughter told me she was molested by a boy close to her age in our ...
A: I would most definitely tell her about yourself. I would write her the most ugly email explaining to ...
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| Daughter's Molestation | 11/20/2008 |
Q: Last night my 24 year old daughter told me she was molested by a boy close to her age in our ...
A: She may have even written to me herself and if she did, I told her that she not only has to forgive ...
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| Could he be lying | 11/20/2008 |
Q: My nephew who is now 15 has had a very troubled childhood, problems with school, problems with ...
A: He could be lying just to try and find excuses for his behavior. Just one question, was he adopted? ...
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| i don't know where else to turn. | 11/20/2008 |
Q: i'm eighteen and one of my earliest memories is of my brother coming into my bedroom when i was ...
A: Your brother will never stop. It is in his blood. Once they start something like that, it only gets ...
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| HELP!!!!!!!!! | 11/19/2008 |
Q: I AM 52 YRS OLD I WAS MOLEASTED FOR 6 YRS BY MY BROTHER AND WHEN HE QUIT MY DAD TOOK OVER I AM ...
A: I do understand! I was 59 before I learned to cope with my molestation. But before I could, I had to ...
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| Words & Actions | 11/18/2008 |
Q: **Names changed This is a question about my cousin, it's been on my mind for quite some time, but ...
A: I understand your concern, but someway, somehow, your family has got to educate the naive parents of ...
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| Child molstation | 11/12/2008 |
Q: We believe that my granddaughter is being molested by her father and it has been at least 10 days ...
A: You are right. They would not be taking your granddaughter if they didn't feel that the doctor could ...
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| Molestation | 11/11/2008 |
Q: "hello I am a 46 year old male. I have been Happily married for 22 years and have 4 wonderful boys ...
A: The only thing that I see that you did wrong was telling your brother to get out of your mom's ...
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| Molestation | 11/11/2008 |
Q: "hello I am a 46 year old male. I have been Happily married for 22 years and have 4 wonderful boys ...
A: Your wife is exactly right. They cannot get their life together and as a result want to put others ...
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| Blocked Memories of Abuse? | 11/11/2008 |
Q: I remember at a young age, at least six years old being sexual, masturbating and acting out sexual ...
A: I can't really say without knowing your family dynamics. Was your father, stepfather, any man in the ...
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| I'm 12 and my father rapes me every night | 11/9/2008 |
Q: Ever since I moved in with him he's made me earn everything by touching him. Then he touches me and ...
A: You are very intelligent or else you would not have been able to find me on this website. Please ...
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| My little sister told me about my father | 11/6/2008 |
Q: I am 33 years old and have a 15 year old sister. We share a father and were both raised by him. My ...
A: You are doing the right thing to get your sister out of that situation right now. She has lived with ...
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| I dont know how to go about this. | 11/4/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over 4 years now, and we have been through a lot of drama ...
A: I am truly sorry for being so long. I have been sick and finaly got to the dr. today. I didn't want ...
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| Molestation | 11/3/2008 |
Q: I am dating this guy. We been dating for 1 month I really like him, he is really sweet likes to ...
A: It sounds a little strange that he has never told anyone but you and he has only known you for one ...
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| getting help | 11/1/2008 |
Q: Sarah, its Don. I want you to know that i appreciate everything you have done to help me out. i will ...
A: I cut and pasted this much from the following site: ...
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| What would you do if you were my husband and does this make me a bad mom? | 10/31/2008 |
Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ...
A: You obviously were molested as a child and you just don't remember. You are blocking it out because ...
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| terrified! | 10/31/2008 |
Q: I'm 16 and terrified of guys! i feel so uncomfortable with them and scared! and now im really ...
A: I know your fellings, however, you should have told your mom that day in court and you still need to ...
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| Did this lady have bad intenions? | 10/31/2008 |
Q: My name is Don. I have a question pertaining to molestation. Before i begin, let me say that my ...
A: Don't tell your mom if that lady is gone forever and neither of you will see her again. There will ...
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| Did this lady have bad intenions? | 10/30/2008 |
Q: My name is Don. I have a question pertaining to molestation. Before i begin, let me say that my ...
A: See your life really wasn't normal after that. You confessed to masturbation as a young kid, ...
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| i have an addiction and i need help | 10/30/2008 |
Q: i noticed that you counseled sex addicts, so i figured you could help me. im 21 and i am addicted to ...
A: Do you know the twelve steps of alcoholics anonymous? The only reason that I ask is that SAA, Sex ...
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| Did this lady have bad intenions? | 10/30/2008 |
Q: My name is Don. I have a question pertaining to molestation. Before i begin, let me say that my ...
A: Personally, I don't think that she was trying to help you. If she had been she would have held your ...
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| Girlfriend molested as a child... | 10/29/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend was molested as a child, from multiple people that she trusted. She told me this a ...
A: I can understand your feelings about her. You have to think about yourself and your own sanity ...
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| Very Distressed and Struggling to live normally | 10/29/2008 |
Q: "I am not sure if you can help me or not but I can not talk about this with anyone I know not even ...
A: Below is notes I took from WEB MD, website, so you can see how normal you are and better understand ...
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| Girlfriend molested as a child... | 10/28/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend was molested as a child, from multiple people that she trusted. She told me this a ...
A: You are just going to have to give her an alternative. It's me or you can't move in. Share your ...
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| Very Distressed and Struggling to live normally | 10/28/2008 |
Q: "I am not sure if you can help me or not but I can not talk about this with anyone I know not even ...
A: You can never heal until you forgive your dad. Forgivesness is a long process within your own soul ...
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| Possible Molestation | 10/25/2008 |
Q: I have a few odd things that I am going to admit, but I want to first say that I think I was ...
A: Just for the time being, let him know that you are virgin and don't tell him anything else until you ...
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| my partner was molested as a kid? how do i deal with that? | 10/25/2008 |
Q: I have been with my partner for four years now. I love him with all my heart and feel that he loves ...
A: He really needs to go to therapy or a molestation support group like I am about to start for people ...
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| Confused... | 10/23/2008 |
Q: I'm 16. A junior in high school. My 8th grade year my parents divorced due to my older sister ...
A: You will let all of this kill you if you don't stop worrying about your dad getting off scott free. ...
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| Possible Molestation | 10/23/2008 |
Q: I have a few odd things that I am going to admit, but I want to first say that I think I was ...
A: You are normal for a child that has been through all that you have. I believe that you were most ...
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| Suspicious molestation | 10/7/2008 |
Q: Her is my dilema. I am suspicious that my husband may be going into our daughter room at night when ...
A: Your husband's comment about harming the children was in reference to physical harm, not emotional ...
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| Is this molestation? | 10/7/2008 |
Q: A 3yr old boy is encouraged and led by an 11yr old girl to fondle her breast ANSWER: Hi Lee, I ...
A: Under those circumstances, I would say "yes". The parents need to be made aware of the situation ...
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| please help me | 10/6/2008 |
Q: Growing up my father was never really around he neglected me and all that jazz. though I don't ...
A: You are normal. Don't worry about your feelings!!! Feelings are normal and not sinful. You didn't ...
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| child touching | 10/6/2008 |
Q: My son left me a note, "I think Grandpa Joe touches me too much and it is annoying. My son is 9 yrs ...
A: Then what I would do if I were you is to run a FBI check on him. I studied several of them from ...
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| child touching | 10/5/2008 |
Q: My son left me a note, "I think Grandpa Joe touches me too much and it is annoying. My son is 9 yrs ...
A: I would speak to him myself (the Grandpa) and just tell him, "Joe you are driving Tom (or whatever ...
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| Was I molested? | 10/4/2008 |
Q: I have no memory of a significant child/adult molesting me. Yet as a small child 4/5 yrs old I ...
A: Yes, you were molested. When I was in the hospital at age 59, I told them, I do not know who got my ...
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| Was I molested? | 10/3/2008 |
Q: I have no memory of a significant child/adult molesting me. Yet as a small child 4/5 yrs old I ...
A: You know yourself that it is not normal or else you would not have written to me. Talk to someone ...
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| Moving on | 10/2/2008 |
Q: My dad molested me when I was 13. We had not lived with him for 7 years and he and my mum were ...
A: The first person you have to forgive is yourself for enjoying it. You feel dirty and guilty and ...
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| please help!!! | 10/1/2008 |
Q: I have a 2 year little girl and I had recently put her in a new daycare. Since she has been in this ...
A: I would definitely get her checked out with the doctor. If the home has just three other kids, how ...
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| please help!!! | 10/1/2008 |
Q: I have a 2 year little girl and I had recently put her in a new daycare. Since she has been in this ...
A: First of all, look up the daycare on the Better Business Bureau to see if they have any complaints ...
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| Could I have been molested? | 10/1/2008 |
Q: My name is Kelsey, im 17 years old and for several years Ive had a concern that I may have been ...
A: Talk to your sister. It was probably her, with her being older. She probably bothered you after you ...
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| My son touched | 9/26/2008 |
Q: My mother in law called me today to tell me that my son touched his cousin in her private part. She ...
A: Sometimes this young, it is just curiousity, but then again it is more than that. It means that ...
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| Father/daughter incest isses, forgivesness? | 9/23/2008 |
Q: My father molested me on several occasions when I was 11. I am now 44. I have lived my whole adult ...
A: You are not hurting him by not forgiving him, only yourself! A preacher once wrote in his book that ...
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| step-daughter | 9/22/2008 |
Q: this is jim again. i asked you my question on the 17th but never received confirmation of my ...
A: I wanted to write to you yesterday, but decided I better sleep on it. I would have written too ...
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| child molestation | 9/22/2008 |
Q: my friend and her husband split up a year ago and every weekend the 3 year old and the 7 year old ...
A: If I were your friend, I would be getting me an attorney and not letting my kids see him anymore ...
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| step-daughter | 9/21/2008 |
Q: this is jim again. i asked you my question on the 17th but never received confirmation of my ...
A: I went back and found your last question and my answer. It came back to me as I save them all. I ...
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| My Daughter | 9/19/2008 |
Q: I will start with what I consider the most traumatic thing to happen to my baby girl. When she was ...
A: The only way that I got lost was in time. How old are your children now? It does sound like ...
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| Stuck in the middle | 9/17/2008 |
Q: I am 24 years old and I have been with my boyfriend, 26, for 8 years (lived with for 7 years), just ...
A: I let my brother break me up with a guy I really cared about because I said blood should be thicker ...
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| step-daughter | 9/17/2008 |
Q: i have a problem that needs resolving and i can't seem to accomplish that own my own. and after ...
A: Let me ask you this. Do you think there is any possibility that she thinks you may love her or want ...
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| Molestation | 9/17/2008 |
Q: I want to know if I can ever feel free of this underlying hurt.My brother can act like nothing ever ...
A: The best way to begin healing is to forgive your brother. If he makes you feel bad, you may want to ...
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| sexual abuse | 9/15/2008 |
Q: I am sure I was molested as a child. Although I cant remember it, I guess Ive blocked it out. My ...
A: It sounds like you have multiple personalities. When you can't remember things that happen ...
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| sibling physical touching | 9/13/2008 |
Q: my name is Matt and I wanted to ask you a question that has been burning on my mind for awhile. My ...
A: No this is not normal. I would just tell her my feelings like you did me in this letter. Don't ...
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| sexual abuse | 9/13/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend of 40 years was sexually abused a couple of times by her stepfather when she was about ...
A: She sounds just like me! I believe she has multiple personalities. When she leaves you she becomes ...
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| My daughter's father sexually abused her | 9/13/2008 |
Q: My daughter was sexually abused by her father, and the asshole is getting away with it. Since he did ...
A: I am so sorry for you and her. I don't know the law on visitation, but most states, I think the ...
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| 10 year old molested 5 year old | 9/12/2008 |
Q: recently my ten year old son was caught by my husband naked on top of my five year old son. we sat ...
A: This 10 yr. old has really put you in between a rock and a hard place. Since you told child ...
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| molesting | 9/9/2008 |
Q: i was molested by my step father in sixth grade. i blocked it out from my memory and just recently ...
A: You would not get anywhere in a court system trying to press charges after all this time. That ...
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| 5 year old accusing older sibling | 9/2/2008 |
Q: Yesterday morning my 5 year old son came to me and said that he put his mouth on his older brothers ...
A: First of all, the older son would have no reason to lie if he were asleep. Of course you and I both ...
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| Was it molestation? What should I do? | 8/31/2008 |
Q: It is all mostly a big blur, but i remember bits of it. When I was 13 or 14, my dad had this ...
A: Yes, you were definitely molested! Where was your mom when he would come over? He shouldn't have ...
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| Forced To Suck Dicks | 8/30/2008 |
Q: I'm an 18 year old girl and I was once forced to give blowjobs when I was 13 years old. When I was ...
A: First and foremost, you do need to stay out of alleys. The next time you may not be so fortunate. ...
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| I think my husband is molesting our children | 8/28/2008 |
Q: I am in the most confusing and terrifying situation a mother could be in. I have been married for 7 ...
A: What do the police want? You have the pic's and video of your daughter saying that dada did it. Your ...
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| I think my husband is molesting our children | 8/27/2008 |
Q: I am in the most confusing and terrifying situation a mother could be in. I have been married for 7 ...
A: Oh Gosh Stacy, I am so proud of you! You've done a lot of work. You must convince the son or the ...
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| I think my husband is molesting our children | 8/27/2008 |
Q: I am in the most confusing and terrifying situation a mother could be in. I have been married for 7 ...
A: I would take the son to therapy with me and let him tell her some of the things he has told you. She ...
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| Molestation | 8/25/2008 |
Q: I was just wondering a couple things on the subject. When I was little I had night terrors really ...
A: If your mom was molested, it might have been her! It does not sound normal the things that are going ...
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| Concern about Children I babysit | 8/25/2008 |
Q: I babysit a 9 and 6 year old. I have known then since birth and have watched them on a regular basis ...
A: Next time she says something like,"If he ever hurts my kids, I'll kill him.", come right out and ask ...
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| I think I was molested as a child | 8/25/2008 |
Q: When I was a newborn, until about 2 I lived with my grandparents. After that, I would spend almost ...
A: Yes, you definitely tell your mom. You may think , well I don't want to hurt her, but family secrets ...
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| Thank you Dad for runing my life | 8/25/2008 |
Q: Calling my father the Antichrist is such a gross understatement. He molested me,beat me, ...
A: You have too much anger to do anything to help yourself. Exposing the family secrets can be painful ...
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| Am I A Molester? | 8/25/2008 |
Q: I'm a 14 year old girl and I have a question about molestation. A few days ago, I went to a ...
A: The following are two different definitions of molest: 1. abuse somebody sexually - to force ...
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| Concern about Children I babysit | 8/22/2008 |
Q: I babysit a 9 and 6 year old. I have known then since birth and have watched them on a regular basis ...
A: It sounds strange to me that the mom would encourage them to explore their body parts in the first ...
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| i molested my sister | 8/21/2008 |
Q: I posted this question to another person on this site because i need all the help i can get.... ...
A: Be glad you haven't been as bad as me or the teens that I am giving this speech to who are in ...
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| Help-molestation | 8/16/2008 |
Q: My name is Julia and Im 13 years old, although I've been told and believe Im very mature for my age. ...
A: You do sound very mature for your age! I am a retired teacher of middle school children and you have ...
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| molestation | 8/15/2008 |
Q: I was Molested by stepfather at nine years old, didt tell till i was in twents, told mom, she said ...
A: I didn't write last night because I knew there was so much that I wanted to tell you. I was getting ...
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| granddaughter molested by her father and his girlfriend | 8/7/2008 |
Q: My grand daughter was molested by her father and his girlfriend, she is 4 1/2 years old. She is in ...
A: I had a very hard time following your story. I'm going to tell it to you and you let me know if I am ...
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| molestation | 8/4/2008 |
Q: Sarah, I am a wife, nurse, and mother of 2 beautiful girls. My husband is very supportive of me and ...
A: It sure sounds to me that you have Multiple Personality Disorder. That other person you are feeling ...
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| My sister was molested by me at a young age | 8/3/2008 |
Q: I had a bombshell dropped on me yesterday. I found at that I may have molested my sister when we ...
A: Oh you poor K. I am so sorry for you to punish yourself like this. You were not a bad person. It was ...
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| im confused. | 7/31/2008 |
Q: when i was 7-8 years old i was physically abused by a women which led to much worse, this is what i ...
A: When you are meant to remember, you will remember. You are probably not able to handle what did ...
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| Could my granddaughters be victims? | 7/30/2008 |
Q: Over a year ago, I noticed my then-six year old granddaughter almost constantly rubbing and touching ...
A: Sounds like you are on the right track to me! You can't punish yourself though or you will not do ...
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| Child molestation | 7/28/2008 |
Q: When I was 6, I was molested and felt up, touched in my private by my uncle for a year. He was 18 ...
A: Please don't feel bad or guilty for yourself. You were a little girl of 6 and then 8 years old when ...
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| Wife was sexually abused when she was young!! | 7/27/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been separated for 3 months now, we had custody of her 10 yr old sister. Their ...
A: I would have been so happy for someone like you that wouldn't have given up on me. Your wife is so ...
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| Child molestation | 7/27/2008 |
Q: When I was 6, I was molested and felt up, touched in my private by my uncle for a year. He was 18 ...
A: I guess you want him to go on molesting children! Right? Then if you answered "NO", then all you can ...
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| Molestation by Stepfather | 7/23/2008 |
Q: My daughter, now 19, has told me that her stepfather has touched her. The first time she told me ...
A: You are definitely doing the right thing by making an appointment to speak with a counselor. Be firm ...
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| Wife was sexually abused when she was young!! | 7/23/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been separated for 3 months now, we had custody of her 10 yr old sister. Their ...
A: I'm so sorry Brian, Unfortunately that old childhood molesttation has an inappropriate way of ...
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| Abuser in the house | 7/22/2008 |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and we are planning on getting married. I have ...
A: Your firstHow do I confront him? John, or whatever his name, I have reason to believe that you have ...
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| Trying to cope... | 7/21/2008 |
Q: How do I as mother reestablish a relationship with my child that has been molested? My daughter was ...
A: I know it is hard on you, but they need to stay there with their grandmother. If their dad drinks ...
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| Mother-in-law acting inappropriate around my infant son. | 7/20/2008 |
Q: My wife and I recently brought our five month old son to see his grandmother. She is very ...
A: Since you were a victim of sexual misconduct, you are probably over-reacting. However, I would not ...
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| what may have been | 7/19/2008 |
Q: i was raised in an extraordinarily conservative home. I was home-schooled through the sixth grade, ...
A: I am very angry with AllExperts.com because I lost everything I wrote to you due to problem with ...
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| 2 questions in 1--molestation | 7/14/2008 |
Q: My name is Ashley and i am 17. Currently I am struggling with 2 problems. The 1st- When I was ...
A: The best thing that you can do is report your father to DFACS, Family and Children Services. I know ...
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| 2 questions in 1--molestation | 7/13/2008 |
Q: My name is Ashley and i am 17. Currently I am struggling with 2 problems. The 1st- When I was ...
A: Forget the first incident. You have been punished for it and don't let anyone bring it up to you ...
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| help for my girlfriend | 7/2/2008 |
Q: I recently got involved in a new relationship. In the process of getting to know my girlfriend, our ...
A: Let her talk to you about it and try to support her. At the same time, you are going to get her to ...
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| How? | 6/28/2008 |
Q: I was molested by my father when i was 9-12 and i accidently told on him wen i was talking to a ...
A: How old are you? It was not an accident that you told on him! He should have been told on!!!! Tell ...
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| Having Children after being molested | 6/28/2008 |
Q: I am expecting my first baby. I am 16 weeks pregnant and married to a wonderful man. My problem is ...
A: It may be more stressful to mention any of this to your mom. I would not mention it to her at the ...
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| Email From A Past Predator | 6/27/2008 |
Q: Where do I begin? I was molested by my father between the ages of 6-11. He was very abuusive ...
A: You are not at wrong to have answered your dad's emails and give him a piece of your mind. Now tell ...
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| Having Children after being molested | 6/27/2008 |
Q: I am expecting my first baby. I am 16 weeks pregnant and married to a wonderful man. My problem is ...
A: Being molested ruins so many lives. You have to deal with it. It will drag you down further and ...
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| Molested by father | 6/26/2008 |
Q: I am 34 years old and was molested by my father almost 30 years ago. It happened between the ages of ...
A: Your family sounds so much like mine did. Mom and Dad are both dead now. First, I am so sorry about ...
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| Wife was Molested as a child | 6/24/2008 |
Q: When we first got married i asked my wife about what happened being a child. she said she didnt want ...
A: Your biggest mistake, and I quote from your words, "I blamed myself so very badly. I said sorry for ...
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| Wife was Molested as a child | 6/23/2008 |
Q: When we first got married i asked my wife about what happened being a child. she said she didnt want ...
A: I hope you are right about Olivia. You probably are. What age are those twins? Did one of them go ...
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| Wife was Molested as a child | 6/23/2008 |
Q: When we first got married i asked my wife about what happened being a child. she said she didnt want ...
A: Get to her therapist and tell her or him this same story that you have told me so that they don't ...
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| What should I do? Please help | 6/23/2008 |
Q: My family has a big problem right now. I have a big problem right now. My dad has been accused of ...
A: By all means, tell the entire story. You don't just owe it to your niece, you owe it to all the ...
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| About DID/psychological disorders, not molestation | 6/22/2008 |
Q: I'm 15, I was molested by my brother from 7-9, and raped last October. My childhood was full of ...
A: I can feel my arms around you and asking God to bless you through all of this. I admire you for ...
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| About DID/psychological disorders, not molestation | 6/20/2008 |
Q: I'm 15, I was molested by my brother from 7-9, and raped last October. My childhood was full of ...
A: Because you are still a child, I want to say, Hi darling, I hope that is okay. When I was 15, my ...
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| Forgiving perpetrators | 6/17/2008 |
Q: I was raised in an abusive family.I have been battered physically and emotionally.My dad used to ...
A: I cannot believe that you are from the other side of the globe! My daughter has been to Greece, but ...
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| Forgiving perpetrators | 6/16/2008 |
Q: I was raised in an abusive family.I have been battered physically and emotionally.My dad used to ...
A: Praise God that you are not dead and can still care enough to find me. God watches over you every ...
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| Child Molestation? | 6/13/2008 |
Q: I have a three year old little boy and i am worried that someone has messed with him i have ...
A: If you make a big deal out of it at the moment, it could get worse only because he realizes he is ...
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| Are there any signs? | 6/13/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend has been accused of molesting his 3 year old son. I don't believe it ever happened. ...
A: There are not common characteristics to classify a child molester, unfortunately. After it is made ...
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| Child may be lying? | 6/3/2008 |
Q: I have twin granddaughters who will be 4 soon. Their father, my son, has joint custody of them so ...
A: You are so right! A three year old does not come up with "Mommy kissed my popo" out of the clear ...
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| insecure... | 5/31/2008 |
Q: Before I begin, I just want to let you know how grateful I am for this site. I've been having a ...
A: First of all, let me tell you how smart you were by not going to that wedding with him. If you had, ...
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| My sister says she was molested by my father! | 5/29/2008 |
Q: I am truly sorry about what had happened to you. My older sister claims she was not molested by my ...
A: I am 20 years older than you and after realizing that I was DID, dissociative identity disorder and ...
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| Too late? | 5/28/2008 |
Q: I was molested for 2 years by my mothers boyfriend from the time I was 5 to 7 years old. I have ...
A: Heck no, it is never too late to tell. You'll most lively never get over it until you do tell. In ...
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| Husband's Past | 5/27/2008 |
Q: My husband is 32 and I am 30. We're now separated after being married for 18 months. My husband is ...
A: He can heal, but it will be a long, hard battle and he has to want to heal. You can't do it for him. ...
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| molestation | 5/20/2008 |
Q: i was molested by a friend's brother about two weeks ago. initially he threatened me and i did not ...
A: Keep telling yourself that you are the victim and he is the perpetrator. You are clean and innocent. ...
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| molestation | 5/19/2008 |
Q: i was molested by a friend's brother about two weeks ago. initially he threatened me and i did not ...
A: If you are that angry, why did you wait to tell your mother. Maybe she would have helped you do ...
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| Stressed out | 5/17/2008 |
Q: I question myself if I let my sexual abuse happen to me while growing up. My father never touched me ...
A: You think you will die rather than get over it, but you won't. Another thing you will be surprised ...
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| Represt Memories | 5/14/2008 |
Q: I'm positive I was molested when I was a child, recently I started to remember bits and pieces of ...
A: If you are one that developed early for your age, 11 is not abnormal to start masturbating if you ...
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| signs? | 5/12/2008 |
Q: Worried about my 4 year old nephew. Over the weekend we were spending time together with my sister ...
A: If he were at the age of 13, 14 and major autistic, then I would say it might be just him, but not ...
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| My 3yr. old | 5/12/2008 |
Q: The other day my 3yr. old daughter asked me to go into her room and help her find her toy phone. ...
A: Believe your daughter. Three year olds don't make sex acts. Don't ever let your daughter around ...
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| father molested myself and my sisters. | 5/11/2008 |
Q: I and my 2 sisters have been molested by our father all between the ages of 5-14. All of us have had ...
A: Family secrets are like a boil on the body. They fester until they finally burst. Exposing it is ...
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| Cannot forgive myself (don't think I diserve forgiveness) | 5/10/2008 |
Q: I sexually abused my younger brother when I was 12-13 years old. He is mentally challenged and at ...
A: Oh Yes, you do deserve to be forgiven, but first you have to forgive yourself. Maybe after this ...
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| my brother | 5/9/2008 |
Q: I was molested by my brother when i was very young and it stopped around 12 and then he moved on to ...
A: I could write to you for a day about family secrets. I can't tell you how right you were to expose ...
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| Repressed memory? | 5/6/2008 |
Q: I think something happened to me when I was little, although I can't remember it but I'm so sure it ...
A: If you have trauma before the age of 7, which you would have been, then you learn to dissociate. ...
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| Confused | 5/5/2008 |
Q: I don't really know how to start this, but I guess what I am trying to get out of this is some ...
A: As I began reading your letter, I knew you were young, but I didn't think you were that young. Yes, ...
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| feeling lost | 5/4/2008 |
Q: Im 33 &just not realizing how my past affected me i feel like i sabotaged myself and my dreams by ...
A: Did you ever ask God why He gave the autistic children to you instead of me or someone that would ...
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| I was molested when I was little | 4/30/2008 |
Q: When I was little I was molested the ages range from 5 to 17 years of age I was told never to say ...
A: Oh Bless you Diane, I am so sympathetic with you. That's my exact ages except it started one year ...
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