| Subject | Date Asked |
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| how can i get past it | 7/1/2009 |
Q: buy my friend. After it started when I was 14 I started taking pills and drinking liquar alot. It's ...
A: Then I would try to use the journal and the book to start. It helped me a lot, it was very painful ...
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| how can i get past it | 6/30/2009 |
Q: buy my friend. After it started when I was 14 I started taking pills and drinking liquar alot. It's ...
A: Honestly I don't know how to suggest you get past this other then to get professional help. I feel ...
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| Why does this happen to me? | 11/23/2008 |
Q: Every year on my birthday i get upset and cry at some point during that day.. I just had my ...
A: I don't think you are as over what happened as much as you think. If you haven't seen him in so ...
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| terrified! | 10/28/2008 |
Q: I'm 16 and terrified of guys! i feel so uncomfortable with them and scared! and now im really ...
A: Honestly I think its just your age. The abuse can add to some of the anxiety but many many teens ...
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| Molested by father - need help, I hate being a woman! | 10/27/2008 |
Q: I am not sure if you can help me or not but I can not talk about this with anyone I know not even my ...
A: Evening, To be honest I wouldn't worry about it. I think the stress you are feeling with not being ...
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| Confused... | 10/24/2008 |
Q: I'm 16. A junior in high school. My 8th grade year my parents divorced due to my older sister ...
A: I am horrified nothing was done. I have to ask why wasn't anything done? I don't understand, I ...
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| 6 Year old molested by his father | 10/22/2008 |
Q: My son recently told me that his father bit his private part. He is six years old. I was angry and ...
A: I would continue to reiterate its not his fault and he did the right thing by telling you what ...
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| extreme depresion from sexual abuse | 10/21/2008 |
Q: my name is danny and for the past 2 days ive been under extreme depression. when i was 4 years old, ...
A: I would defiantly talk to your aunt. I'm glad you are considering that. And to concur with what ...
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| Cummed On | 9/4/2008 |
Q: I'm a girl and I'm 16 years old and I was recently molested. It was pretty minor but it's still ...
A: That is not something that boys their age do. Honestly this is the first time I heard about a ...
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| did u blame your mother? | 7/5/2008 |
Q: that i feel now after reading up on molestation the signs, i feel that her father is.i took her to ...
A: I didn't blame my mom. At 2 she probably won't remember much but dealing with whats happened is ...
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| getting past molestation | 6/22/2008 |
Q: I was molested by my uncle when I was 10. Back then my parents said they believed me and they ...
A: Kudos to you for standing up for whats right! I don't understand why your parents are acting this ...
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| bf after molestation | 5/28/2008 |
Q: I'm 17 years old and was molested about 7 months ago when I was 16 by a male in his late 40's. The ...
A: There is no easy answer for this. It takes time to deal with abuse, I have to say part of what you ...
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| Husband's Past | 5/27/2008 |
Q: My husband is 32 and I am 30. We're now separated after being married for 18 months. My husband is ...
A: Yikes!! You have to leave. You can't tolerate the abuse, he hasn't even begun to deal with his ...
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| Molested for 4 years by man who is now around children as a pastor. Morally what do I do. | 5/15/2008 |
Q: From the time I was 9-13 I was molested by my Mother's boyfriend who soon after the first incident ...
A: I would first contact the police and see what rights you have. Talk to someone in the sex crimes or ...
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| child molesting my children | 5/14/2008 |
Q: i have a friend who has a 10 year old daughter and my daughter is 6 and my son is 9. all of a ...
A: Other then monitoring their interaction I don't think there is much else you can do. Its possible ...
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| My son was abused while in a group home. | 5/12/2008 |
Q: I just found out last night that a year ago my step son was sexually abused while in a state run ...
A: I would look for a counselor for your son. You can look under "counseling" or maybe "therapist" in ...
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| sexual abuse by father as a child | 5/5/2008 |
Q: I have spent hours in desperation tying to find a good site on guidance for an adult who was abused ...
A: The process of getting past abuse is very slowwwww... I commend you for taking an assertive role and ...
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| Molested by Cousin | 4/17/2008 |
Q: When I was about 4 or 5, my older cousin would was only about 11 or 12 years old would molest me. ...
A: I understand your concern but honestly what you are feeling is not uncommon at all at your age. At ...
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| My girlfriend was molested by her stepdad | 1/3/2008 |
Q: I found out several months ago that my 29yo girlfriend was molested and raped repeatedly between the ...
A: Sorry to hear about your girlfriend. Unless she has done some counseling and/or personal self help ...
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| I was abused. | 1/2/2008 |
Q: when I was 11 my cousin started molesting me and my 2 younger cousins (I don't remember how old they ...
A: Glad to hear you are in therapy but like most things it’s a long slow road but you have to start ...
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| Sibling Molestation | 12/29/2007 |
Q: My son who is 19 confessed to us last week that he molested my daughter seven years ago. He was 12 ...
A: That is a really hard question. You may want to seek a professional opinion first. It really ...
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| molestation | 12/20/2007 |
Q: One of my first childhood memories was being molested by someone who lived in my neighborhood. I was ...
A: I would guess your parents think you don’t remember either if you haven’t mentioned it to them. I ...
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| incest /older brother | 12/19/2007 |
Q: I was molested/raped by my older brother 28 yrs ago..I was 12, he was 16...this ONE and only time ...
A: First I don’t think medication would help your trust issue. If they suggest meds I have to wonder ...
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| nobody has helped me | 10/29/2007 |
Q: About two years ago I was at my boyfriends(my boyfriend at the time)and we were drinking. My ex was ...
A: Yes it’s a big deal. There’s no excuse for what he did to you and no excuse other then just pure ...
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| I don't know what to think | 10/10/2007 |
Q: I have a 4 year old neice, she will be 5 in December. She hasn't come right out and told me that ...
A: It’s certainly possible she’s been abused. At that age the touching herself is not necessarily ...
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| She is 23, still being sexually abused | 10/9/2007 |
Q: I need help, my freind needs help. I'm 35 years old, and have a co-worker who is 23. Last year, we ...
A: Unfortunately I don't know that there is anything you can do considering her age. You can try to ...
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| Molestion | 10/6/2007 |
Q: When i was little a man broke into my house and molested me when i was 5 or so. im 16 now and ever ...
A: I would say the reason for the attraction is due to you being molested. I can’t say it’s an ...
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| Is it Possible I was Molested as a Child? | 10/5/2007 |
Q: Alex. I stumbled across this site a few minutes ago while looking for answers or some kind of sign. ...
A: I have to say I don’t think you are crazy but I do have to agree and I do think you have been ...
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| My 4 year old | 9/18/2007 |
Q: My son has spent the night many times with a friend who has a 9 year old boy. though he has not gone ...
A: I have to say it sounds like this woman may know there is something wrong with her son or have some ...
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| I need some help. | 9/14/2007 |
Q: I was molested by my step-father for over 10 years, and it only stopped because I moved out of my ...
A: I am so sorry to hear about this. It makes me so angry when the victim is given blame for some ...
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| In love with a sexual abuse victim | 9/13/2007 |
Q: My on again / off again girlfriend of several years just told me that she had been sexually abused ...
A: I would have to say a lot of this is going to fall back on her and choices she makes. You can be as ...
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| no one understands | 9/9/2007 |
Q: I was molested by my grandfather at a very young age. After it came out he moved away. I am now 29 ...
A: You just have to get it out. You have to talk to them and your husband. He needs to give you ...
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| father convicted | 9/7/2007 |
Q: My daughter was molested by my now exhusband who adopted her from my first marriage. She was 5 at ...
A: I am a bit confused but I think the idea is he molested your daughter, you two had a child, he ...
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| Molested by chiropratcor..Please Help | 9/3/2007 |
Q: I am an eighteen year old about to head off to college. The last thing i want to carry with me is ...
A: First let me say its not your fault. In my eyes society has sort of put women in an awkward ...
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| My sister just told me.... | 6/5/2007 |
Q: I am 27 years old and 5 months pregnant. I have 2 sisters 21 and 19. My mother left my father and us ...
A: This is a time of high emotions. Try not to make any decisions right now. Denial is common; people ...
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| Was molested as a child | 6/3/2007 |
Q: What do I do to help myself? It was like I was brain washed and now it is coming back to haunt me.
A: What do I do to help myself? It was like I was brain washed and now it is coming back to haunt me. ...
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| Spouse of a molested woman | 5/29/2007 |
Q: I was/am Married to a woman who was molested. She is the oldest and it appears the father went down ...
A: I am pretty sure there are books about partners/spouses/friends of sexual abuse victims. I would do ...
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| child molestation | 5/24/2007 |
Q: after innonce lost due to inappropriate touching of 8 yr. old grandchild. what can we do to comfort ...
A: I don’t know that you ever know when to. Can you confirm it with the other child? I would go speak ...
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| I was molested by my father 12 years ago.... | 5/22/2007 |
Q: At age 16 I had sex for the first time and it brought back memories of my father touching private ...
A: I think more times then not people may turn to saying they lied about abuse to be able to deal with ...
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| child molestation | 5/21/2007 |
Q: after innonce lost due to inappropriate touching of 8 yr. old grandchild. what can we do to comfort ...
A: So sorry to hear this, but first let me say I don’t know of any chat rooms, I don’t personally ever ...
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| Exaggerating Problems due to molestation | 5/19/2007 |
Q: I am 17 years old, now and I was molested by an man that lived the room across from mine, at 13. I ...
A: Wow, that was a lot of information! I couldn’t pick out a question though so I am just going to ...
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| Molestation | 5/17/2007 |
Q: This is a long story but I'll try to keep it as short as I can. A little history: I had my daughter ...
A: It’s always a possibility your daughter is lying but I have to ask, and ask yourself, how would she ...
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| am I obsessed? | 5/15/2007 |
Q: My question is alot like one you have already answered. But I was curious to ask my own. I have ...
A: I can’t say conclusively if you were or weren’t but it certainly seems like a possibility. I have ...
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| molested at 13 | 5/8/2007 |
Q: I am a woman of 30 years of age and I still can' t get over what happened to me.When I was 12/13 ...
A: I understand where you are. I had sort of the way of getting into a relationship and would lose ...
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| Did my husband know what he was doing? | 5/7/2007 |
Q: This morning my husband came home around 8, he had been up 24 hours and had been drinking since 9 ...
A: First, what your husband did, is it something he does to you often? Is it typical for him to lay ...
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| I don't remember, but I think I might have been molested as a child! | 5/6/2007 |
Q: My earliest childhood memory was when I was 6 and my (male) friend who was only a few years older ...
A: I can’t say if you were or were not molested. I can only say what it appears the answer may be from ...
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| Sexualisation - sexual abuse? | 5/4/2007 |
Q: Im 26 years old, and suffer from borderline personality disorder and depression. I've suffered from ...
A: My first thought is if you have been getting therapy have you not spoken with your therapist about ...
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| Is responding to my dad's touch my faught? | 5/1/2007 |
Q: Last 4th of July I was camping with my family, I was 14, and well I was tanning all day and by night ...
A: I am so sorry to hear about this. I would not be ashamed at how your body responded. It’s more of ...
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| molestation | 4/8/2007 |
Q: One Month ago my 18 year old daughter told her older brothers and in turn myself that my husband of ...
A: I can't make that call, but if it was me I would have to think that if I was in your place that I ...
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| Charges? | 4/4/2007 |
Q: Sometimes I feel like I should press charges on my father who sexually molested me for a year when I ...
A: You would have to speak with an attorney about this. The police most likely wouldn't be of any help ...
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| my best friend | 4/2/2007 |
Q: a couple of days ago my best friend came to me and told me her husband of 8 years left her 5 months ...
A: I can’t believe she has known you for 20 years and never talked to you about what happened. She ...
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| Is it molestation if.... | 3/30/2007 |
Q: So I recently found out that my boyfriend stayed lived with a homosexual for 3 months, about a year ...
A: Is the person who was touching him someone he knows now? I image it would be traumatizing, it’s a ...
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| I am really confused | 3/29/2007 |
Q: how you doing.well u can call me maggie.i am just very confused about everything.talking about ...
A: Have you considered talking to your parents about what happened? You seem to be in the victim role ...
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| scared and alone | 3/27/2007 |
Q: I chose to talk to you cause you might know how I feel. In January this year I was molested by my ...
A: I don’t really know what to say or where to start. You really need to have support from someone. I ...
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| Reuniting w/ my Dad | 3/23/2007 |
Q: Alex, First, thanks so much for being available. I have never used a site like this before. I am ...
A: I think you have it right hen you say the little girl in you wants to be around him. We can have an ...
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| Confused | 3/19/2007 |
Q: I am really struggling for some validity with what I believe was sexual abuse in my ...
A: Oh goodness no! It doesn’t matter if you were 18 or 40, abuse is abuse. It doesn’t get any easier ...
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| Boyfriend molesting my brother? | 3/16/2007 |
Q: I know I may sound paranoid but I'm starting to become uncomortable about the relationship between ...
A: It’s not paranoid if you have a legitimate reason for worry. It sounds like you may; it’s hard to ...
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| molested | 3/5/2007 |
Q: I am 34 years old and just recently i decided that I cant hide it anymore. I was molested by a ...
A: Glad to hear from you, you are doing the right thing! I am a firm believer in people doing what ...
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| molestation | 2/26/2007 |
Q: My daughter was molested by her father,and even though she has done everything thing she should he ...
A: You really need to speak with an attorney. I would make an appointment with someone, (usually the ...
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| molestation | 1/17/2007 |
Q: I was molested by a family member when I was 14 to the age of 16 or 17. I have been to counseling ...
A: I have to say speaking with your counselor would be the best person to do this with since they have ...
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| educational video | 1/8/2007 |
Q: can you give me a website or know of any educational video that is appropriate for a 11 years old to ...
A: I'm sorry but I really don't know of anything age appropraite. You could do some searches but I ...
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| sitting in church with the perpitratior | 12/27/2006 |
Q: In my lifetime I have been molested twice, once at age seven by an uncle, the second time I was ...
A: I don't think I can really answer this. I think it would depend on your personal beliefs. Based on ...
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| child molestation questions | 12/23/2006 |
Q: I'm the mother of an eight year old boy. Several days ago, my son told me his dad (biological) ...
A: All you are doing is trying to protect your child and educate him. I think you have done the right ...
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| Stuck in a hole .... seems like i am drowing! | 12/21/2006 |
Q: Oh where to start ... my name is Lisa of course and i am now 34. I was molested by several family ...
A: I have never in all my time in social services, my personal therapy, and studies ever heard about ...
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| Please help. | 12/8/2006 |
Q: since my youth group leader/cop already knows about the situation, should i go on and press charges? ...
A: To press charges is a very personal decision. If you think it would help you then do it, if not ...
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| fear of not believing | 12/7/2006 |
Q: I am now 32 years old and just recently told my parents that my uncle molestated me on 1 occasion ...
A: I can't say how common or uncommon something like this is but it does happen. I think things tend ...
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| Please help. | 12/2/2006 |
Q: this past summer i went on a trip with three of my friends. (one girl and two guys) one of the ...
A: Hey Molly, I saw your comments and wanted to say thank you! And yes of course you can ask another ...
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| molestation | 11/8/2006 |
Q: Do you think she should continue to express to her Mom how hurt she is that she is not leaving this ...
A: From a healthy standpoint yes I do think she should. Her mom doesn't sound like shes in the best ...
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| How am I supposed to deal with this | 10/31/2006 |
Q: I have been through A LOT of abuse, of all kinds. My parents (divorced) and family accidently found ...
A: I'm sorry they are acting like that. Its always a mystery how people will react. I suspect your ...
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| molestation | 10/30/2006 |
Q: My girlfriends step-father molested her when she was 7... she is now 16 and has just told her mom. ...
A: That is a real shame her mom did that. What about his reputation??? For goodness sake, yeah hes a ...
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| I can't move on... | 10/22/2006 |
Q: When I was younger, my grandfather would take me upstairs to play on his computer...which I would, ...
A: I understand and have been in the same place as you before. It took me a very long time to work ...
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| question. | 10/14/2006 |
Q: They say that you should report sexual abuse to someone you trust right? Well my question is what if ...
A: You have to find someone. Depending on your age maybe a school counselor, maybe the law. I would ...
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| My son was molested | 8/19/2006 |
Q: About two months ago, my son was molested by his cousin. My son was almost five and his cousin is ...
A: I have to say I think you could BOTH use therapy. More you possibly then him. Have someone ...
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| Was I actually molested? | 8/18/2006 |
Q: I am a sixteen year old female. My grandmother has fostered two twin girls since they were infants, ...
A: What the girl did is a form of molestation or sexual abuse in general. She nor anyone else has the ...
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| I was Molestated | 7/26/2006 |
Q: I am 34 years old and I recently had a bad dream about the man who molestated me. Since then I have ...
A: I would talk to your husband about what happened to you and your fears of being barren. Prayer can ...
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| What should I do?? | 7/21/2006 |
Q: Now let me tell you that about 5years ago my cousin that is now turning 21 says he done it to her ...
A: This is awful that your mother won’t believe anyone. I can’t understand that. She seems to be in ...
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| Molested by multiple people do they know? can they tell I'd been previously molested?? | 7/20/2006 |
Q: I really need to get this off my chest... Ok I've been molested by at least 5 different people ...
A: I don’t get people who have or admit to having been molested as much as you have. I suppose not so ...
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| is there a deadline when to tell police | 7/20/2006 |
Q: my bother start to do thing to me when i was 8 and it last to i was 16. i never told any one but ...
A: The law in regards to abuse I believe may vary a bit state to state, and country. You would have to ...
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| molestation, suicide | 7/20/2006 |
Q: i am 13 and have been being molested by my uncle seince i was 12 we dont live to gether but i would ...
A: This is an awful situation for you to be in at your age. They probably don’t believe you due to ...
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| Can one ever recover from incest? | 7/19/2006 |
Q: I was sexually abused by my father between the ages of 11-14. I have done therapy for years. I am ...
A: It seems you are in a very very tough situation. I have been where you are. It’s an awful feeling ...
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| Twincest | 7/8/2006 |
Q: I can't define this in any catoriy and I don’t know which experts section to use so I’m not too ...
A: The situation with your brother is a very sensitive one. I would say it’s crossed the line of ...
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| Twincest | 7/8/2006 |
Q: I can't define this in any catoriy and I don’t know which experts section to use so I’m not too ...
A: This may be a duplicate. ------------------ Hello Tom, The situation with your brother is a very ...
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| Was this a form of molestation | 7/6/2006 |
Q: Back when I was 9 or 10 years-old a neighborhood boy invited me into his house. His dad was a ...
A: Well it sounds like you have a lot to sort out in your life right now. What happened with you and ...
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| family still associates with molester | 6/6/2006 |
Q: My friend was molested by his uncle as a child. He recently told his parents and confronted his ...
A: That is AWFUL! So the abuser didn't even deny what happened and the family is still acting like it ...
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| Forced Incest upon Brothers | 6/3/2006 |
Q: and thank you very much for your time... My name is Sarah, I'm 20 and my family had been a victim ...
A: that is very sad what has happened to your brothers. Whats more sad is the way your family has ...
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| Helping a sister-in-law | 6/1/2006 |
Q: My sister-in-law recently confided to me and my wife that their stepfather molested her many times ...
A: I agree 100% on letting mom know. It is an obligation as an adult and caregiver to protect the ...
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| Was I too old for it to be wrong? | 5/21/2006 |
Q: When I was 16 years old my step-sister and her husband came to vistit. One night everyone went to ...
A: Sorry for my delay. I am moving and its been insane on my end. My apologies. You are never too ...
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| Sick of feeling like this | 5/19/2006 |
Q: I was molested by my brother who is 11 years older than me from when I was about 4 to about 9. I ...
A: Your feelings are completely understandable. You did the right thing and you can't help it if your ...
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| what to do when nothing is being done | 5/1/2006 |
Q: my son is 4 years old and was molested last year by my brother(16 yrs. old), i went to the police ...
A: Well you have gone down a lot of great avenues. I would say next you have to go see an attorney. ...
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| Best way to help a friend... | 4/22/2006 |
Q: My best friend, who I will call "X" for now, aged 15, who I have known for 9 years has begun acting ...
A: It sounds like you have reason to feel threatened. Have you talked to your parents or his about ...
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| He Lied... | 4/8/2006 |
Q: I contacted you a while back. Well, a few days after I did, I sat down with my boyfriend, and asked ...
A: GET OUT! GET OUT NOW! That is the best advice I can give you for your personal health and ...
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| My daughter | 3/29/2006 |
Q: I recently found out that my ex-husband has been, I guess you could call it fondling my daughter. ...
A: Yes what happened to your daughter is abuse. As far as pressing charges its the same here. It ...
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| MOLESTED BY MY BROTHER-INLAW | 3/23/2006 |
Q: I WAS MOLESTED BY MY BROTHER-INLAW WHEN I WAS 12 AND IT LASTED FOR 3 YEARS,THEN HE WOULD STALK ME. ...
A: I think it is possible for you to block this out for so long and only now remember it. I think ...
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| Questions | 3/20/2006 |
Q: I am contacting you in hope of getting some answers. Two people that I love were molested as ...
A: Morning Lacey, First all I can say is wow! Your grandma. I think your grandma never, ever, dealt ...
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| Was I molestered? | 3/18/2006 |
Q: Alex, I was touched by my mother from a really young age (about four I guess, thats my youngest ...
A: Morning Sez, If there was some medical reason for you mom to do something by touching you privately ...
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| Incest | 3/13/2006 |
Q: My brother now says our father molested him from age 4 to 12. There are 7 children in our family. ...
A: There is no simple answer why he may have been molested but no one else. It may have been something ...
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| help | 1/30/2006 |
Q: I am writing because i have been molested by several members of my family. I do try to live past it ...
A: I am sorry to hear about what happened with the people in your family. One person is awful but when ...
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| Crawling in my skin | 1/10/2005 |
Q: I was molested by my brother-in-law and it happened for a while when I was in my early teens...and ...
A: That is absolutely awful you were abused by your brother in law and your family has done nothing. ...
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| should I?? | 12/18/2004 |
Q: ok im 18 now I was malested for 8 year and it ended in 99. so it ended when I started my teen years. ...
A: I think if someone doesn't think its normal its because they aren't use to people being as brave as ...
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| I don't know what to do | 9/25/2004 |
Q: Today I think an instance of molestation may have occurred but I am confused about the whole ...
A: It hard to say but I would be really suspecious. Unless its some culutral difference I wouldn't ...
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| Was It My Fault???? | 9/6/2004 |
Q: From the age of 8 to 16 my cousin would touch me, and have sex with me. He was the same age as me. ...
A: I am guessing either this question has come from guilt you feel or ignorance of someone else saying ...
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| Alex,
thanks for response.... | 8/5/2004 |
Q: Alex, thanks for response. i thought these things only happened to little girls. those who do evil ...
A: Your words are quite reassuring to me. Thank you for that. I have to say the most moving part of ...
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| Alex,
ivery much appreciate... | 8/4/2004 |
Q: Alex, ivery much appreciate what you have written in your comments. you are right that people can ...
A: Its exceptionally diffcult for me since my sisters still talk to him and have him over and we have a ...
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| i just need to know | 3/5/2004 |
Q: i know you are probably really busy and stuff but i was wondering how to know if i was actually ...
A: Oh my, I am never too busy for someone like you who is in the heat of a situation. If he is ...
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| Friend was abused.... | 10/15/2002 |
Q: I am a 27 year old female who has been dating this guy for about 10 days now. He is 37 years old. ...
A: Hey Anna, I hate to say it but my first reaction is to tell you to run. You have only been dating ...
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