| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Sexual Abuse | 11/21/2009 |
Q: My friends daughter (who was nine years old at the time of the incident) was sexually abused by her ...
A: Janie... Not knowing all the details, I have to cover several fronts here.... First, realize that ...
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| my neice & her father | 11/20/2009 |
Q: My niece is a little over 2 yrs. old she got a bladder infection (she is still in diapers) She would ...
A: Michelle, there are numerous websites devoted to child molestation/abuse. Here is just one of them: ...
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| 6 year old child | 11/17/2009 |
Q: I have a 6 year old daughter who was molested/raped by my nephew. Recently she has been waking up ...
A: Malin, Most "therapy" is slow and tedious and depends on some cognitive interaction between ...
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| molestation | 11/16/2009 |
Q: I am a 44 y/O female, a male member of my family who is approx. 9 years younger than me is having ...
A: Belinda.... I guess the ages of both of you, when this occurred, would give me a little more to go ...
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| My sons | 11/11/2009 |
Q: Alright let me start a few years back. I left my husband over seven years ago and when I did he ...
A: Judith, there are numerous signs of child molestation to be observed. You can read through the list ...
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| Molested...please help need to know something | 11/8/2009 |
Q: I am almost 20 years old. And things got out of hand with a girlfriend of mine. Which was okay i ...
A: Kassie, NO means NO in most languages. Is this going to happen again with this guy or not? If you ...
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| Anabella my 4yr old daughter has been complaining of pain in her vagina | 11/7/2009 |
Q: I was taking her a bath last night and she was crying that her peepee was hurting her. earlier that ...
A: Esther, your first priority is to have your daughter seen my a medical expert in childhood sexual ...
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| after molested certain body parts hold bad memories | 10/28/2009 |
Q: My twin daughters were molested by their cousin who was their age from about 10-12 years old. He ...
A: Gina, I'm sorry to hear of these residual trauma-related episodes. The mind-body does record ...
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| Legal matters | 10/27/2009 |
Q: my friend Jessica was molested by her brother many years ago. She never reported it, because she was ...
A: Christo, I can't comment on the legalities of your country, concerning the reporting of rape and ...
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| I think I was molested | 10/25/2009 |
Q: I am 16 now. When I was around 11 years old I started remembering details of me being molested by a ...
A: Sam, When children are molested it does upset the mind-body balance and the trauma stays resident ...
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| question | 10/24/2009 |
Q: When I confronted him he said he pulled it out and she did it with the bear. I really don't no how I ...
A: Tiara... welcome to the real world of parenting! Somehow parents are really not prepared for the ...
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| Self Blame | 10/23/2009 |
Q: I was sexually abused more than 20 years ago when I was around 8 years old and I still struggle with ...
A: Tracy.... First of all, know that it wasn't your fault. At 8 years of age, you have little control ...
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| Pending investigation | 10/20/2009 |
Q: My 3 year old daughter's doctor will be contacting child services tomorrow on suspicion of ...
A: Roxanne, It may well be that her complaints are due to a chemical burn scenario from the shampoo and ...
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| i was molested ! | 10/19/2009 |
Q: I was molested when i was five by my great grandfather (my moms dad).My mother was also molested by ...
A: Kelley, I am sorry to hear your sad story of molestation and lack of support from your mother. She ...
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| Can't remember my childhood | 9/25/2009 |
Q: I don't know quite how to ask or maybe even what I need to ask...? I am now 25. My father molested ...
A: D, Not everyone has clear recollections of their childhood, unless the incidents are particularly ...
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| scars | 9/21/2009 |
Q: will a child have scars from beging molested 11 to 12 years ago if she was 5 and the man was 30
A: Kassandra, The short answer is YES. Sexual assault at almost any age is traumatic to the mind-body ...
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| Complete faith in a priest | 9/20/2009 |
Q: Can a 42 year old have deep rooted issues such as anger and low self esteem from a one time incident ...
A: Renee, sexual assault, whether once or a number of times, is a trauma to the mind/body that doesn't ...
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| NEED To KNOW | 9/19/2009 |
Q: Okay i want to thank you for taking the time to answer these questions but i have had MANY incidents ...
A: Janet, Even one molestation or sexual assault is enough to trigger PTSD symptoms in anyone. ...
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| How do I handle a "possible" molestation | 9/17/2009 |
Q: My son, 6yo, is sweet,energetic and still very very innocent and trusting. My mother is my boys' ...
A: Maria, I realize that you love and want to protect your son from "molestation" incidents. Please ...
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| i dont know what to do and need help | 9/15/2009 |
Q: I am very fortunate to have found this site, well two nights ago my 18 year old son came to me ...
A: Jennifer, I would suggest that you both read sites like this: ...
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| What should I do? | 9/10/2009 |
Q: My dad who is real close with me molested me when I was young. The first time was when I was 8 or 9. ...
A: Lindsey, you deserve more than a "sorry" from him. He DOES remember what he did and he should be ...
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| Molestation or experimentation? | 9/1/2009 |
Q: Last night my 11-year-old daughter told me that a few years ago a good family friend (a girl 3 years ...
A: Laurie... please take time to read through the following webpage.. ...
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| unusual dream | 8/31/2009 |
Q: Im an adult mid 30s, that has been have an occasional weird sleep dream that Im wearing a diaper... ...
A: Golly, Jay.... It could mean a hundred different things, depending on your life experiences and how ...
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| What should i do about this | 8/30/2009 |
Q: I am 13 and a male and my little cousin(a girl) is ten. I will start this from the beginning, about ...
A: Simran, Here are a couple of websites for you to review, concerning the natural process of sexual ...
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| child molestation, or innapropriate behavior??? Please help | 8/29/2009 |
Q: My son is 9. This summer he went to his dads for 4 weeks. He has 2 older half brothers from his ...
A: Kim, it sounds like you have laid a good foundation of communication with him, but know that ...
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| Molested by step father | 8/28/2009 |
Q: "I was adopted, I got molested by my step father since grade 3 to grade 6. he will come to my room ...
A: Mimi, sadly I get a LOT of questions and stories, such as yours, about families that don't realize ...
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| Helping my friend deal with molestation in her past? | 8/27/2009 |
Q: I have a good friend (I'll call her "Sarah") who is a couple of years younger than me (we are both ...
A: Madeline, you are a good friend to "Sarah" and I understand the pain that she has suffered in the ...
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| i have relationship problems because of my abuse | 8/26/2009 |
Q: hey, i'm just at the prime of being a young adult and i realize that i have big issues when coming ...
A: Keiann, I have found that unhealed/unresolved sexual trauma in children causes any number of ...
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| signs someone has been molested | 8/25/2009 |
Q: I have a daughter age 31.We have never had a close relationship,although I'm not sure why.She's ...
A: Yvonne, your suspicions are certainly valid and worth pursuing. She could either be blocking it or ...
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| Thirteen yr old | 8/23/2009 |
Q: I have 4 children a boy 14 in a few months, a 12 yr old daughter, a 9 yr old boy and a 6 yr old ...
A: Patty, It is important to minimize the trauma for both of them, to some extent. Your ...
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| denial | 8/20/2009 |
Q: I have written before but this is a follow up question. Briefly, my daughter had inappropriate ...
A: Eileen.... If the aunt has a drinking issue, denial is a big part of their lives. The problem is ...
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| Signs of molestation? | 8/15/2009 |
Q: We have a very good friend who is divorced from his wife. Two of his 3 children live with him (one ...
A: Dee, it could be a combination of abuse and perhaps some inherited mental illness that drives her 18 ...
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| incest | 8/14/2009 |
Q: i have unconsciously forgiven my father for sexual abuse i didn't try to or want to i have only ...
A: Sandra, Forgiveness is a powerful healing experience and I hope that it has, indeed, released your ...
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| 3 year old daughter | 8/10/2009 |
Q: My 3 year old daughter has been fully potty trained for a year now. We recently settled out of court ...
A: Ashley, here is a link to one of many sites that list childhood stages of sexual development and ...
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| Relationship with dad who molested me. | 8/8/2009 |
Q: Can I still have a relationship with my dad after he molested me for years? Is it wrong to want ...
A: Lori, your father is your father and it is hard to turn your back on that DNA bond, HOWEVER.... Has ...
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| Is my niece being abused? | 8/5/2009 |
Q: Ok, So, my niece has been having problems at home, she is 13, My sister is no longer with the nieces ...
A: Missy.... here is just one site that has some baseline information about sexual molestation issues ...
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| Threapist | 8/4/2009 |
Q: How do I go about getting or looking for a therapist for my son?
A: Marvin, I don't know how severely affected your son is because of this situation. Age and length of ...
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| Was I or wasn't I? | 8/3/2009 |
Q: I have been told through out my life by several different therapists that I strike them as someone ...
A: Jennifer, that didn't sound like a resounding statement about your current well-being. Something is ...
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| Does my child's behavior imply anything? | 8/1/2009 |
Q: I have a 3 year old son whose behavior has changed quite dramatically recently. I do need to preface ...
A: Jessica, children do go through a lot of changes as they grow and change through the many stages of ...
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| Molestation? | 7/29/2009 |
Q: I am desperately hoping you can give me some advice as to what to do about a situation. My boyfriend ...
A: .. Please be aware that there are stages of sexual development in children that start early and ...
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| Sibling abuse | 7/28/2009 |
Q: My husband recently admitted that when he was a child(8yrs.) his sister(12yrs.) use to make him ...
A: Angelina, the majority of people have little secrets like this that they are holding onto because ...
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| I just found out my boyfriend was molested and I don't know how to talk to him about it. | 7/27/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been getting in arguments and he has a very short temper and tends to ...
A: Well, Heather you can take the horse to water, but you can't make him drink, as the old saying ...
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| I want to stop thinking about what happened to me | 7/24/2009 |
Q: Everyday whether it is at work, in the car, or at home, I think about what happened between my ...
A: Kelsey, your father could be prosecuted for rape/sexual assault, even now, if you were to press the ...
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| What to do after my uncle molested me last weekend | 7/8/2009 |
Q: This last Sunday I stayed over at my uncle's house... they had sort of an ongoing party and ...
A: Kiki, I am sorry to hear of this sexual assault, but I like your game-plan, so far. I would start ...
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| I think I was molested but i really dont know | 7/4/2009 |
Q: I don’t really know how to say all this without just listing all of the things that I see as ...
A: Lilly, if some of these things did happen to you in infancy or as a very young toddler, the memory ...
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| how can i get past it | 6/30/2009 |
Q: buy my friend. After it started when I was 12 I started taking pills and drinking liquar alot. It's ...
A: Ashley, I am so sorry to hear your history of repeated sexual assaults. The two sites that can help ...
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| i need help | 6/17/2009 |
Q: by okay so long story short as short as i can anyway this is 30 years of my life.when i was born i ...
A: Melissa... That is a long and sad story about the trauma in your life, for all these years. Your ...
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| Unsure | 6/15/2009 |
Q: In May 2008 I read The Perks of Being a Wallflower. The book sort of climaxes with the main ...
A: Latifa, your "reactions" to your grandfather's physical assault are indicators of being traumatized ...
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| Child molestation appeals | 6/14/2009 |
Q: I just need to know the procces of an appeal that my parents want me to do against my step father?
A: Kayla, I am not a lawyer, so cannot really give you appropriate information on legal issues. You ...
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| raped several times by step father (he is dead) as a teenager | 6/12/2009 |
Q: I never have dealt with any of this. my mom believes be now tonight. I have BP I ADHD Sever anxiety ...
A: Mark, your symptoms are classic PTSD from rape trauma, which will affect males just as much as a ...
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| Teen Girl Molestation of boy | 6/10/2009 |
Q: There were a group of boys 17-20 in the woods hanging out. This girl showed up. There was drinking ...
A: Jodee, that is a sad situation for all involved. The ages of those involved at the time would have a ...
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| molested | 6/8/2009 |
Q: I am 20 years old and was attracted to little boys how ever rather if not I still do I do get help ...
A: Mike, perhaps you were molested at a young age and blocked it out or "left your body" as some do ...
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| I was molested and did the same | 6/5/2009 |
Q: I am a 16 year old girl who's somewhat traumatized. My story began when I was about 4 to 5 years ...
A: ... I am sorry that you are feeling so guilty and distressed over your actions of the past. There is ...
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| staying with a molester | 5/31/2009 |
Q: My wife was molested as a child by her step-father. She reported this to her mother (who did not ...
A: Mike, unfortunately I have to answer a lot of questions like this from the victims of dysfunctional ...
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| inappropriate touching?? | 5/26/2009 |
Q: I have a male friend who has been seen playing with his 2 daughters, and daughters of friends, by ...
A: Lynn, I think that to some extent he may feel that he's more in their center of gravity, rather than ...
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| getting teenager to confess | 5/21/2009 |
Q: William, 3 days this week my husband has snuck back into bed in the middle of the night, I have ...
A: Suzanne... you can take your daughter to a doctor for an exam or call a local support group for ...
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| i need help addressing my boyfriends problem | 5/17/2009 |
Q: There's been an obvious problem that i couldn't quite lay my finger on in our relationship, but i ...
A: Dawnielle, there is a lot going on here, of course. Here are my thoughts on the whole scenario... ...
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| ?molestation? | 5/11/2009 |
Q: I am requesting another opinion as the other counselor suggested. I had asked her a follow up ...
A: Margot, Some "free spirits" feel free to express themselves physically and sexually, often without ...
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| concern about my child she is almost 7 years old. | 4/19/2009 |
Q: Yesterday I saw my daughter after a month at the monitor business in Claremont, Ca . and we started ...
A: Bethz, Understand that children have an innate interest in the subject of sexual body parts of their ...
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| Past Molestations - How to help a loved one | 4/18/2009 |
Q: Last night my husband of 5 years revealed to me that he was a victim of child molestation from the ...
A: L, These issues come up because it is time to heal this wound NOW! Surely, he could have sought help ...
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| Overly protective or at risk? | 4/16/2009 |
Q: My fiance has lived with me and my 4 children for about a year now. He has always been very cautious ...
A: Not getting a straight answer from him is worrying. He's probably still covering something up, but ...
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| Molestation or not? | 4/15/2009 |
Q: Mr. Silver, "When I was about 7 or 8, an older cousin, who was 12 or 13, touched me ...
A: Stacey, teens get very "charged" and curious when they begin puberty and are often thoughtless about ...
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| Molestation? | 4/14/2009 |
Q: When I was about 7 or 8, an older cousin touched me inappropriately, a couple of times, tried to put ...
A: Stacey, it is never "right" for someone to be touched inappropriately. You didn't define "older ...
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| Wife molested as a child | 4/13/2009 |
Q: William. My wife and I have been together for 9 years (married 7). We have 2 kids and although we ...
A: Theo, Surely this is a complicated situation and I can see the potentials for overlaying problems of ...
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| Molested as a child | 4/9/2009 |
Q: I know some unacceptable stuff happened between me and my brother as a kid. My one and only ...
A: Jenn, you must realize that somewhere, somehow we all get some kind of initiation into the world of ...
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| molestation | 3/24/2009 |
Q: Recently I was with friends in a hotel room (3 girls 2 guys). We did a lot of drinking and I passed ...
A: .. Tough way to get that lesson about drinking and losing control of your emotions and actions. You ...
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| lost | 3/20/2009 |
Q: Every time my stepdaughter is with her grandmother she talks about private parts. My stepdaughter ...
A: Linden, sounds like it is time for a round table discussion with all involved. Make an appointment ...
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| help | 3/19/2009 |
Q: when my daughter was 11 i found my husbands in her room while she was sleeping with his penis ...
A: Neecie, your daughter is in danger of being molested and harmed in a very unfortunate way. Even if ...
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| Could I have been molested but don't remember it? | 3/18/2009 |
Q: I don't know if I was molested or not, but I have been pondering it for a long time, for several ...
A: Kathryn, you could be suffering from some other kind of trauma, that wasn't necessarily related to ...
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| Molestation by my son to his cousin, now 12 years later | 3/17/2009 |
Q: My 26 year old niece has reviled to her grandmother that her cousin (my son) molested her 12 years ...
A: Jennifer, You do have to sit your son down and have a frank and honest discussion with him, to ...
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| Molested | 3/15/2009 |
Q: Ello. I'm 17 years old, and I'm not so much okay. I know when I was age 5 - 7 I was molested. I ...
A: Cristine, your fairly mature mind, at 17, is making judgments on your behavior at a VERY immature ...
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| Mother | 3/12/2009 |
Q: When I was 9 years old my mother's boyfriend tried to touch my vagina. I was so devastated, and ...
A: Jennifer, I know how hurtful this has been for you. Apparently your mother came to some kind of ...
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| Molested as a child by current stepfather | 3/3/2009 |
Q: I was molested by my current step father from the ages of 7- 17. It happened almost everyday and ...
A: Sophea, your request is fair enough, but the delivery of the news isn't going to be easy on mom, at ...
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| confronting parents as an adult | 3/2/2009 |
Q: I recently found out that my husband was sexually abused by his father for years and years. He often ...
A: Linda, confession and forgiveness are powerful healing experiences. Given the circumstances, with ...
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| Boyfriend was molested | 2/28/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend has told me that when he was in middle school a boy in high school forced him to ...
A: Mahalia, The effects of sexual assault is the same for boys and girls, in that it is a trauma that ...
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| my 5 yr old | 2/26/2009 |
Q: i just found out recently that my 5 yr old has been sexually abused by his 13 yr old cousin,which is ...
A: Tracy, I'm sorry to hear of your son's molestation and I do recommend that he be evaluated for any ...
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| Husbands fantasy...my abuse? | 2/25/2009 |
Q: Ok, heres my story. I was sexually abused by both my dad and stepdad. My mother was emotionally ...
A: Lauren, Sounds like a lot of red flags to me with your husband. Getting married to get away from ...
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| Is my husband molesting my daughter | 2/22/2009 |
Q: i am writing as I am concerned my husbands behaviour is inappropriate towards my 3 yr old daughter. ...
A: Patricia, it all sounds like red flag warnings to me, too, based on your description. If he was ...
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| Are my children being abused? | 2/17/2009 |
Q: I have been in a relationship with my "now" husband for three years. We've been married for less ...
A: It appears that you are very alert and informed about child abuse and have done everything you can ...
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| Molestation? | 2/5/2009 |
Q: We'll I have 2 experiances the first one is I have a best friend and her dad is divorced and is my ...
A: Kim, you were sexually assaulted and molested in both cases. To get support and more information ...
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| molesting my girls | 2/4/2009 |
Q: a few days ago my world and my heart broke. After a big verbal fight with her father my 18 year old ...
A: Anna Marie, it sounds like your husband is in denial over his actions and the truth about what has ...
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| Is this molestation or experimentation? | 2/1/2009 |
Q: My brother is 4 years older than me. When he was in 8th or 9th grade and I was in 4th or 5th he ...
A: Melissa, your brother kind of took advantage of you, but more out of experimentation than an ...
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| I think this is considered molestation, but I'm not sure... | 1/30/2009 |
Q: When I was ten, my family and I had just moved in with my grandmother, aunt, and cousin. It was our ...
A: First, here are some things to read about, concerning childhood sexual development stages. You ...
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| Molested and Frustrated | 1/28/2009 |
Q: I was molested at a very young age (3 yrs old and 33 yrs ago) and so were my siblings by a much ...
A: .. You are suffering from PTSD, due to the molestation, most likely. Perhaps your mother suffered ...
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| sister concerned | 1/26/2009 |
Q: my youngest brother aged 14 has apparently made a younger cousin of ours aged 5 do a sexual act on ...
A: Mary, please do understand that all people go through phases of sexual development and expression of ...
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| Scared | 1/25/2009 |
Q: I was molested when i was 5and he also beat me. I am an adult know and i am married. My husband ...
A: Stefanie, you are suffering from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), due to the trauma of being ...
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| My son | 1/23/2009 |
Q: My 6 yr old has had a major behavioral change this past couple of months. He has always been very ...
A: Trish, there does seem to be a lot of warning signs of potential abuse, in his behavior. I complete ...
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| 5 Year Old Girl | 1/21/2009 |
Q: I'm actually writing in for my best friend. She has a 5 year old daughter. Her daughter has always ...
A: Kym, I have often offered this website link as an overview of children's sexual development and ...
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| my daughter | 1/18/2009 |
Q: I think I need to move & get on with my life to refrain from the pain of constant horrific results ...
A: Connie, I can see how heartbreaking this whole dynamic has become for you and your family. I think ...
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| molestation | 1/17/2009 |
Q: when i was about 4-5 years old my mom moved into the house of her new boyfriend. since then i ...
A: Sara, I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to, as this kind of experience is confusing and ...
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| STRESSED!!!! | 1/14/2009 |
Q: my husband was granted custody of his 8 year old son two years ago from foster care.During this time ...
A: Kaily, I see that this is a very stressful situation for you and your family and I don't have all ...
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| Was I Molested? | 1/12/2009 |
Q: Maybe when I was around nine, my older brother wanted to touch me. I agreed because I wanted to do ...
A: Danielle, for some perspectives on sexual development stages that we all go through, please take ...
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| Adult Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse | 1/10/2009 |
Q: I finally told my mother after over 20 years of pretending everything was ok - that her husband ...
A: Tanya, There are obviously many dynamics happening in your life, any of which are less than healthy ...
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| Thoughts about possible abuse | 1/6/2009 |
Q: I have been asked several times throughout the past ten or so years if I was molested as a child. I ...
A: Tanya, I commend your efforts to understand the reactions and responses that you have thought about, ...
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| FlashBacks | 1/5/2009 |
Q: Ok let’s start here. 4 years ago I started remembering my old best friends death from years ago. I ...
A: Jennifer, your mind-body has not healed/released the traumas of being sexually assaulted and ...
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| did my pediatrician molest me | 12/20/2008 |
Q: From the time I can remember, around 3 or 4 my pediatrician would put his fingers into my vagina at ...
A: Dawn, I am not a medical professional and can't really comment on normal exam procedures, but it ...
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| Molestation | 12/18/2008 |
Q: My name is A. I'm 16 and I'm really stressed. I don't expect an answer, but the YWCA didn't do any ...
A: Abriona, Child molestation/sexual assault is a crime anywhere and it will affect her for the rest of ...
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| Very confused. | 12/14/2008 |
Q: Ok so to start with I am 16 yrs. old and a junior in highschool. My parents divorced when I was 13. ...
A: Brooke, would you try to conceal an infected wound on your body from your mother or medical experts? ...
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| what do i do? | 12/8/2008 |
Q: I'm 26 yrs old and i was molested by uncle (which has now pasted away) and my moms boyfriend that ...
A: Ginger, the trauma of molestation doesn't go away until you get some effective healing/therapy work ...
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| borderline personality/post traumatic stress syndrome | 11/29/2008 |
Q: I have a grandson who is 4 yrs young. He recently said his mother put a knife in his butt, drew ...
A: Gail, I suppose that if someone is bi-polar or so mentally unstable that they can disassociate from ...
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| Was I molested? | 11/22/2008 |
Q: This whole situation came about within a month. It was summer break. I was 5 and a half years old ...
A: Tiffany, in the pure sense of being molested, I would say "yes." Your body was touched in unwanted ...
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| How to help my son and daughter heal | 11/21/2008 |
Q: My 16 year old daughter recently came to me and said that her 18 year old brother had molested her ...
A: Denise, you have a couple of immature minds at war with each other and with themselves, at this time ...
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| child molestation | 11/10/2008 |
Q: .. my 28 year-old daughter recently told me that her father molested her when she was 11 or 12. It ...
A: Lisa, a lot of my initial concern is about how deeply this has affected your daughter. Depending ...
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| what should i do now? Its been so long. | 11/8/2008 |
Q: "hello william. I have a question pertaining to the steps i need to take. I was sexually molested by ...
A: Dan, childhood molestation is a trauma that lodges in your mind-body, as a memory of discomfort, ...
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| incest molestation | 10/31/2008 |
Q: Can You tell me how to go about reporting my uncle who has had a very good life. He needs to come ...
A: Gerri, I can't advise you on the specifics of the laws in your state. Check with local authorities ...
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| my partner was molested as a child. How do I deal with that? | 10/25/2008 |
Q: I have been with my partner for four years now. I love him with all my heart and feel that he loves ...
A: Charlie, your partner is suffering from PTSD, due to the sexual assault history that he had to ...
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| Confused... | 10/24/2008 |
Q: I'm 16. A junior in high school. My 8th grade year my parents divorced due to my older sister ...
A: Sarah, it is your turn to speak up for yourself. Not adding in your story to your sister's ...
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| Am I straight or not? | 10/23/2008 |
Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ...
A: Corrina, you have about a hundred questions, buried in this extensive message. If we were in ...
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| Understanding teen boy and sex | 10/22/2008 |
Q: My son has been experimenting with wearing girl clothes and stuffing bra with socks to resemble ...
A: Nina, please review the information on this site: http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/Haroian/body.htm You ...
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| molestation | 9/12/2008 |
Q: My girl friend was molested around 2 till about 5 or 6 by her father. She told me about this when we ...
A: Robert, sexual molestation of young children, especially girls, is very traumatizing. The mind-body ...
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| Please help | 9/5/2008 |
Q: I have a sister who is just a year older than I am. When I was about 5 and she 6 I can remember ...
A: Lynn, I am sorry to hear that you have had such a tortured childhood, internally and externally. ...
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| My Girlfriend Was Abused When She Was Younger | 9/4/2008 |
Q: I used to date a girl, but after a few months we broke up. We didn't see each other for a while, ...
A: Dan, young girls of all ages are sensitive to being mishandled by anyone, much less someone who is ...
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| Forced To Suck Dicks | 8/30/2008 |
Q: I'm an 18 year old girl and I was once forced to give blowjobs when I was 13 years old. When I was ...
A: Samantha, I am sorry that you had to experience that trauma. Sexual assault cases, such as these ...
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| i molested my sister | 8/21/2008 |
Q: i am 23 and my sister is 21.... i don't know how to begin and i feel horrible! i can't stand being ...
A: Dora, okay... stop, take a deep breath and relax a little. All children experiment and explore their ...
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| Molested or not? | 8/19/2008 |
Q: I'm a 25 year old gay guy, who is in a serious relationship with someone for over a year, i recently ...
A: Felipe.... You can start here: http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/Haroian/body.htm to get a better idea ...
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| molestation of my son | 8/13/2008 |
Q: My just 12 yearold son, with PDDnos *pervasive developmental disorder, not otherwise specified and ...
A: ml... your son has unresolved PTSD from his sexual trauma, mixed in with his other disorders. EFT ...
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| did my husband make my child touch him? | 7/30/2008 |
Q: recently my 7 year old daughter came home from her grandmothers house,who which everyone in my ...
A: Nicole... this is hard to sort out, without a referee who has knowledge of children's development ...
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| intrusive thoughts | 7/28/2008 |
Q: I am 22 years old, female. I used to have intrusive thoughts of someone touching me inappropriately ...
A: Cindy, you probably didn't make this up on your own, as a child, so it seems to indicate some kind ...
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| My 4 year old daughter was coerced in letting him touch her vigina...Please Help! | 7/24/2008 |
Q: My 4 year old daugter told me and my husband yesterday that the little 7 year old boy next door ...
A: Michelle, do understand that kids do have a sense of themselves and curiosity about others, in a ...
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| Daughter was moleted by Father | 7/23/2008 |
Q: My 4 year old daughter, Asha, told me in May that her father touched her and hurt her. He molested ...
A: Jen, I am sorry to hear of this terrible assault against your daughter. Childhood molestation and ...
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| Please help... | 7/18/2008 |
Q: I'm a 21-year-old male. I am writing to you to get advice on an incident I was involved in with my ...
A: Chris, I have given this reference out to many other questioners here and feel that it is a good ...
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| Molestation | 6/29/2008 |
Q: Our 17 year old daughter has recently told us that she was "touched" inappropriately by her ...
A: Ruth, you didn't mention how long ago this happened, but in any case, it seems like she is "dealing" ...
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| My 3 year old | 6/24/2008 |
Q: My 3 year old daughter was taken advantage of 2 days ago by her 7 year old cousin. He coerced her ...
A: Rita, I am glad that the cousin's family recognized the problem and dealt with it right away. Do ...
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| In pain - Accused by a family member | 6/23/2008 |
Q: William, I recently received a VERY disturbing phone call from my youngest sister (3 yrs younger ...
A: B., Depending on how old you all were at the time of the alleged molestation, she might want to read ...
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| m8 probs | 6/15/2008 |
Q: i had a m8 stay over and he was hell interested in experimental and he asked to have a masturbation ...
A: Chris, I can't make a judgment on your sexual preferences, either in gender or actions. If you like ...
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| signs? | 5/31/2008 |
Q: I'm worried about my 4 year old son. He has started peeing in bed, pooping on the floor, and he has ...
A: Savanna, read through all of this first, before you become excessively alarmed. ...
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| molested or rape? how to know shes not holding back? | 5/16/2008 |
Q: My daughter was molested and come forward with that but the duration bothers me and I feel like the ...
A: Michelle, you didn't say her age, so I don't know exactly how to advise you further, because the ...
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| My 3yr. old | 5/13/2008 |
Q: The other day my 3yr. old daughter asked me to go into her room and help her find her toy phone. ...
A: Lee, assuming that both children are about the same age, their "play" was mostly normal sexual ...
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| Cannot find forgiveness (feel that I don't diserve it) | 5/10/2008 |
Q: I sexually abused my younger brother when I was 12-13 years old. He is mentally challenged and at ...
A: L..... First, it isn't your "fault." Young teens will find out about sex and sexual experiences, in ...
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| communication and molestation | 5/8/2008 |
Q: I recently discovered that my husband was molested as a child, as well as beaten severely. I'm not ...
A: Shae, sorry for the delayed reply, as I am away from home, for the moment. Your husband needs some ...
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| Mother daughter sexual abuse | 5/5/2008 |
Q: I am struggling terribly with dealing with all my emotions and pain after I have admitted that my ...
A: Sexual abuse, especially from family members is a very difficult situation to understand and to cope ...
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| am i virgin enough? | 5/3/2008 |
Q: i was 15 and innocent about sex when my then boyfriend of 19 years started talking and doing sexual ...
A: Pisces, when you approach someone with the intention of loving them, caring for them and comforting ...
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| am i virgin enough? | 5/2/2008 |
Q: i was 15 and innocent about sex when my then boyfriend of 19 years started talking and doing sexual ...
A: Pisces, Your opinion of yourself is really an overlay of what you were taught (or not taught) about ...
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| How to ask my 6yr old son if his dad is abusing him?? | 4/20/2008 |
Q: A few years ago I found some sites in my husbands computer history, it was a shopping site, but ...
A: Carolyn, I think that you should get your son to a medical specialist who can evaluate his ...
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| Stepdad | 4/17/2008 |
Q: I just got my report card and I failed a whole bunch of classes (but it isn't a big deal cuz I got ...
A: So, Sue... Let's see, you don't apply yourself at school, which is your "job" right now, so you can ...
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| step children molested | 4/13/2008 |
Q: My 2 step children, who live with their mother, were molested 4 years ago (girl was 8, boy was 6) by ...
A: BBM, if this all happened 4 years ago and the kids had effective therapy, I can't see how they are ...
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| Good discussion groups? | 4/12/2008 |
Q: When I as 7 or 8, I stayed with my grandparents for a summer. One day my aunt told me to strip in ...
A: John, if that was the defining moment in your life and you aren't able to get past that incident, ...
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| I want to help others | 4/11/2008 |
Q: i would love to help other with my story going out to groups and talking about how my father and ...
A: Gerard, that is a noble idea and one well worth pursuing. Contact your local social services ...
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| Reason for concern? | 4/6/2008 |
Q: My 12 year old stepdaugter just told me that her stepfather of 9 years "scares her". She says she ...
A: Well, there certainly seems like there is something to be concerned about, however I don't have a ...
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| finally dealing with my molestation | 4/4/2008 |
Q: okay for the first time in more than 10 years i have finally been able to talk about what happened ...
A: Jamie, some immediate actions I would suggest is to make sure that the military is aware of your ...
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| Sibling Molestation | 4/2/2008 |
Q: My brother molested me when he was about 10 and I was about 7 years old. I finally confronted him ...
A: Actually, you are mistaken about your belief in the behaviors of children, as they discover the ...
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| I can't even remember all of them | 4/1/2008 |
Q: I am a 25 year old female and I have been in a consistent relationship with the same man for three ...
A: Patricia, let your boyfriend know that you are working on these issues, and for him to please be ...
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| was my child molested? | 3/27/2008 |
Q: I have a 5yo boy, he spent the night at gramma and grandpa's 2 weeks ago he came home and I asked ...
A: Mellee, Short answer, probably yes. See this and other pages for more details and confirmations... ...
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| child molestation | 3/26/2008 |
Q: I have a 23month old grandaughter who visits her dad every weekend, she has been acting real ...
A: Jolene, You have to watch, listen and feel what she is trying to convey to you about how she is ...
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| my son said he was touche at school and he is autistic please help | 3/23/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have a 5 Lyra old mildly autistic son. he goes to k+ then takes the bus to his ...
A: Colleen, It is tough enough having to grow up without the additional burden of autism and being ...
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| Molestation? | 3/21/2008 |
Q: When i was younger(about 3 years old) i remember me and 2 other childern around the same age ...
A: Alex, take a long look at this website page: http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/Haroian/body.htm You were ...
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| My boyfriend was molested and I found out my ex boyfriend just molested a little girl | 3/18/2008 |
Q: Silver, I have been having a really tough time with two different situations both involving sexual ...
A: Alicia, There was more than "a" question in there, but they are all related to a great extent, so I ...
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| my 19 month old was molested by her father | 3/17/2008 |
Q: I filed a divorce for full legal and physical custody but now have to talk to the foc about ...
A: Louise, There are specifically trained medical professionals who do rape and molestation ...
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| hidden child molestation | 3/6/2008 |
Q: my mother in law was molested by her father and so was her sister and also another sister from the ...
A: Robin, when you know that a child is at risk of being molested, it should be reported and the ...
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| I have been wondering.... | 3/4/2008 |
Q: I don't remember much of my childhood at all. It has been brought to my attention that a close ...
A: Lisa, if the "touching" happened when you were younger than about 5, then it could be that your body ...
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| abuse by half brother | 3/1/2008 |
Q: i am after some advice on an extremely difficult situation that has happened recently in our family. ...
A: Graeme, If only they gave a course on Parenting 101 and included all the parts that you are ...
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| REGRET WHAT IVE DONE | 2/29/2008 |
Q: I ABUSED MY SISTER AND 13 YEAR OLD NEICE,I KNOW IT WAS WRONG BUT I JUST COULDNT HELP MYSELF.I WAS ...
A: Mark, It is important that you recognize and take responsibility for your actions, as a first step ...
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| Being faulsly accused... | 2/26/2008 |
Q: I'm a father of three and am going through a divorce where my ex is trying everything to make me ...
A: Marc, Probably better resources on the web are like these: http://c.webring.com/hub?ring=falseacc ...
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| few questions | 2/24/2008 |
Q: When i was young, my older brother used to grab me and take me into rooms and make me get on top of ...
A: Monica, I am sorry to hear of your painful and traumatizing ordeals, involving sexual assault. When ...
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| NEED HELP !!!!!!!!!! | 2/23/2008 |
Q: In May of 2007 my son who is 15 touch his half sisters who are 3 and 4 years old.He kiss their ...
A: Sandra, it is hard to imagine that CPS would put him back in your home, after he says he doesn't ...
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| molestation | 2/21/2008 |
Q: I need to know if you think my child is being molested by his grandfather which was already accused ...
A: Tamera, I really can't make much of a decision on that little bit of information. I would speak ...
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| Gray area | 2/18/2008 |
Q: For the past ten years I have been having problems with an eating disorder as well as consistent ...
A: Julie, If you read about this from a friend, you would conclude, as I can easily, that you were ...
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| Maybe you can help me | 2/14/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend of 1 yr now, has a daughter that was molested by her ex-husband(of which is not the ...
A: Steve, childhood molestation affects each child differently, and appropriate aftercare can help a ...
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| girlfriend was molested by her stepfather | 2/9/2008 |
Q: I recently started seeing someone very special. She is 37 years old and for the past month we have ...
A: Don, it sounds like your relationship has brought up those molestation memories, which are still ...
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| My brother is a monster. | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I am 45 years old and am just realizing that one of my brothers has repeatedly molested and/or raped ...
A: Deb, check the resources at www.rainn.org site for wherever you live in the US. Have your sister ...
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| child molestation | 2/5/2008 |
Q: YOU KNOW I FELT SO MUCH PAIN IN MY HEART WHEN THE OTHER NIGHT I CAME TO FIND OUT THAT MY DAUGHTER ...
A: Sal, these are traumatic events for children, especially young girls and can have lasting effects, ...
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| Is this considered molestation? | 1/31/2008 |
Q: From before I can even remember, probably from like age 2 or 3, a family member who is 2 years older ...
A: Jennifer, that is a very sad statement, to note that your family did nothing to stop this kind of ...
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| Touching by younger sister | 1/28/2008 |
Q: Fourteen years old. My younger sister (adopted) fondled me last year. She was only five at the ...
A: N, it sounds like your adopted sister could have been sexually molested or exposed to a movie or ...
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| molestation | 1/6/2008 |
Q: I got molested when i was young maybe 4 or 5 not really ex when but know it happen... i am 30yr old ...
A: Cynthia, What you experienced is a sexual assault (see www.rainn.org) and your leftover feelings ...
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| My Three Sons | 1/2/2008 |
Q: My Oldest son is 22 he was adopted when he was 2 I then had 4 children with this man, when my oldest ...
A: Ruth, I don't know what town you live in, but dismissing 3 sexual abuse charges doesn't seem to be ...
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| my son touched another child | 1/1/2008 |
Q: my seven year old son has touched another boy's bottom, a girl at school and then just last night, ...
A: Jennifer... Ah, the stuff they never taught you in Parenting 101, huh? Kids are sexually curious ...
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| Scariest night of my life.. I was 11 he was 16.. | 12/31/2007 |
Q: a few years ago my cousins came over my house [ i used to be very close with them] my one cousin was ...
A: Lyndsey, hopefully you saw that speaking up for yourself, when you are threatened or assaulted right ...
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| please help | 12/11/2007 |
Q: When i was about 6 maybe 7 my brother started to molest me. it happened daily and once turned into ...
A: Kelsea, You are experiencing symptoms of PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), which is completely ...
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| Molestation | 12/10/2007 |
Q: Why after so many years I feel mad , pain,and the feeling touch someone. I have never touch a kid ...
A: Ian, you may have had some kind of trauma or abuse, as a very young child that your body remembers, ...
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| Oh My God!!! | 12/9/2007 |
Q: Silver, I was molested by my step-father from 9-12, and everything came out at my Christian-church ...
A: Mandie, it is so sad to hear stories like this, where young girls are never given the chance to have ...
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| why | 12/7/2007 |
Q: what is it that goes through their minds to make them want to do such thing. i was once told that ...
A: Cassandra, here is a link I found that helps explain some of the motivations of child molesters.... ...
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| sister molestation | 12/6/2007 |
Q: i feel i need outside advice. our 12 yr old daughter was caught by her father doing sexual acts to ...
A: Sue, these are trying experiences for parents and there are many factors to consider when dealing ...
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| 3 year old pos molestation | 12/5/2007 |
Q: I have a 3 year old girl, I think she has been molested by her father, I have noticed a few thing ...
A: Melba, I think we don't have to look much further into this, as it seems obvious that this is not ...
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| Help Me | 12/2/2007 |
Q: All i can remember is that I was kissing my cousin and licking her breast when i was the age of 6-7, ...
A: John, that's a good reason why we have movie ratings these days, although many parent's still don't ...
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| Confused | 11/30/2007 |
Q: Okay to make a long story short of where im comming from and why im thinking the things i do. Two ...
A: Melisa, Not knowing all the parties involved, I can only venture some suggestions about mom's ...
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| Molestation hits too close to home | 11/27/2007 |
Q: William, My niece was molested by her uncle, my brother-in-law. This incident is less than a week ...
A: MC, these are very trying circumstances, but it sounds like the proper actions have been taken, as ...
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| ? | 11/26/2007 |
Q: I am wondering what the definition of molesting is and if this example constitutes as it. When my ...
A: Amanda, you can do searching on the web for fairly accurate descriptions of sexual assault and ...
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| was i? | 11/20/2007 |
Q: i dont no if my situation counts as being molested or anything.. and im just trying to figure it ...
A: Kristen, if this story got to a counselor or child protective services, you could get pulled from ...
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| Multiple abuses, difficult to trust anyone now | 11/18/2007 |
Q: Although this is not a direct question, I need somewhere (like this website) to tell about what has ...
A: Kevin, your child molestation experiences and subsequent fear of trusting others is a classic Sexual ...
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| Coping with molestation. | 11/14/2007 |
Q: When I was seven my older cousin would ask me to touch him, kiss him, and let him touch me. This ...
A: Kathleen, As you well know, traumatic incidents and comments from the past can lodge in your mind, ...
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| Learning to Deal... | 11/11/2007 |
Q: My former uncle (he and my aunt are now divorced) began somewhat of an obsession with me when I was ...
A: Megan, it is hard to believe that your parents were not aware or concerned about your uncle's ...
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| Doubts about molestation | 11/10/2007 |
Q: For as long as I can remember, I have had this faint memory of possible sexual abuse; recently, in ...
A: El, there is not much reason to have this dim memory or feeling, unless there is some basis of fact ...
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| Child Molestation | 11/9/2007 |
Q: When I was about 9 years old my older sister (who was 11 at the time) would make me feel ...
A: Jen, take some time to look through the information on this website: ...
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| Molested? | 11/7/2007 |
Q: Okay... Well =] I am 16 and my brother touched me in wrong places when i was littler. I don't ...
A: Chelsea, I am sorry to hear that you had that experience and that it has left a big mark on your ...
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| MOLESTED BY MY BROTHER | 11/4/2007 |
Q: I am a 30 year old female. My father passed away when I was 9 years old. My mother passed away when ...
A: TS, It is so sad to see and hear of this pattern being repeated over and over again: Children being ...
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| Is it possible I've repressed memories of sexual abuse? | 11/1/2007 |
Q: For some reason, I believe I was molested as a child, and repressed the memory of it. I have no ...
A: Holli..... All that message and you ask at the end.... "Do I have a reason to be concerned?" I ...
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| Was I molested? | 10/30/2007 |
Q: My dad was emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive when I was growing up. I am 24 now and ...
A: Jen, without knowing a lot more about your dad's history and your other experiences with men in the ...
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| I need to help my brother | 10/29/2007 |
Q: One of my younger brothers is 17 years old and just recently came to me for my advice. When we were ...
A: Sarah, sexual assault/molestation of children will definitely take its toll later on in life. He ...
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| is my 5yr old son lying? | 10/27/2007 |
Q: I am in a difficult situation. I was a single young mother for the past 3 years, till I became ...
A: Stacey, these are difficult situations and there are not always easy solutions. It sounds like you ...
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| I have some suspicions that I was molested | 10/25/2007 |
Q: I have one memory of being naked, lying stomach down with arms and legs extended, pressure of some ...
A: Jaye, Sexual abuse is often handed down from generation to generation, by children modeling their ...
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| (no subject) | 10/5/2007 |
Q: They have kicked me out of my house and when i addressed them about they acted like i was just ...
A: Go to the www.rainn.org site, find out what laws apply to wherever you are and see if there is a ...
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| Molested by little brother? | 10/4/2007 |
Q: I was molested by my little brother when i was 10 and he was 7 i used to wake up to him naked on top ...
A: Katherine, Will your parents listen to you now? Tell them, if they don't get your brother to leave ...
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| Recent molestation | 10/2/2007 |
Q: My molestation just occurred a few days ago. I went out to a party with a friend. I had a few drinks ...
A: Denine, these are hard lessons to learn in life. Underage drinking and hanging with the wrong people ...
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| how to move on | 9/29/2007 |
Q: I am in my mid-thirties now. I was sexually abused when I was a child (7~8 years old - I am not sure ...
A: Jennie, it is certainly understandable that you feel the way you do, as childhood molestation is a ...
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| Was it molestaion if it wasn't violent or intercourse? | 9/25/2007 |
Q: Im not really Sure how to ask this but i try anyway. When i was 13 my step father my mom and I were ...
A: Monica, anytime anyone starts touching you inappropriately and without your permission, it becomes ...
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| a three year old | 9/22/2007 |
Q: I have a friend that has a three year old and the three year old constantly is saying that the ...
A: That can cover a LOT of various infection sources. Either someone has to keep pressing the mother ...
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| a three year old | 9/21/2007 |
Q: I have a friend that has a three year old and the three year old constantly is saying that the ...
A: Kathy, a 3 year old doesn't lie about that kind of treatment. What did the doctor say about her ...
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| child molestation | 9/17/2007 |
Q: I was wondering if a person can sue a step parent and doctors over child molestation, as I was ...
A: Christie, I am not a lawyer and don't know the laws of your state, anyway. You have to report this ...
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| Molested by father | 9/14/2007 |
Q: I was molested by my father from the age of 6 to approximately 13. I tried to tell my mother when I ...
A: Joseph, Nothing is "wrong" with you, at all. You are experiencing one of the many symptoms and ...
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| Austic Grandson Alex | 9/7/2007 |
Q: Alex is a 6 1/2 old little boy who is living in a household that the mother let a 30 something guy ...
A: Jeanne, I can understand your concerns, especially with an autistic child. Please understand that my ...
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| sibling touching | 9/4/2007 |
Q: I'm a mother of five, one of whom is a step-child and I'm really worried. My younger daughter told ...
A: ... please review some of these links to familiarize yourself with the various stages of childhood ...
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| Step father | 8/28/2007 |
Q: My step father tried touching me when I was younger. We would be riding in the car and he would ...
A: Tracey, obviously your story has struck a nerve with your mom, either triggering some deep ...
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| is this wrong? | 8/27/2007 |
Q: I am 13 yrs old & I live wit my grandma & cousin. 2 weeks ago my grandma caught me touching myself ...
A: Kayla, perhaps you can share the information on the following websites with your grandma. Older ...
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| My three year old just said something that scared me | 8/25/2007 |
Q: My husband has been in jail for the past 6 months due to alcoholism. Anyway, last night my daughter, ...
A: Christina, it could well be signs of some kind of abuse. Have a health professional evaluate her ...
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| infant molestation | 8/21/2007 |
Q: im concerned whether or not my daughter who will be 2 years old in another 3 weeks has been molested ...
A: Naimah, it could well be signs of some kind of abuse. Have a health professional evaluate her ...
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| My three year old niece said she's been touched by her half-brother | 8/17/2007 |
Q: Let me start off by explaining my nieces situation. My niece is my step niece, my sister in law's ...
A: Sandra, with two accounts from this little girl, her mother either better get in the game or someone ...
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| 6 year old molesting a 13 year old? | 8/9/2007 |
Q: My son baby sat a boy that did some yucky things. My son did not inform me of this and now the boy ...
A: Penny, this certainly is a difficult situation, with many aspects to it, when you consider all ...
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| Wife molested by her stepfather before we met | 8/5/2007 |
Q: I recently discovered that my wife, who is now 24, was molested by her stepfather from the age of ...
A: Matt, Hard to imagine that her mom didn't know about this for over 7 years, but I hear these and ...
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| Friend's daughter makes claims against friend's son. | 8/3/2007 |
Q: My best friend of 20 years called last night with allegations made by her oldest daughter (18) ...
A: Patty, even if your son did do anything like that to her, it isn't/wasn't a crime and is part of the ...
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| thanks for the info :) | 7/30/2007 |
Q: Well after talking with my sister she says she cant really remember but only remembers him pulling ...
A: Natalie, sounds like he's on the run and knows that he's in trouble for his behaviors. From the ...
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| Dont know what to do | 7/29/2007 |
Q: OK.. so i was molested by my little sister dad when i was younger.. and my mother hasn't been with ...
A: Natalie, it is so sad to hear about children being molested and abused, especially by family ...
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| My grandson | 7/27/2007 |
Q: My grandson Ryan has been molesting his two younger siblings. Ryan is 6 and Joshua is 4 and Aden is ...
A: Linda, while there is a natural curiosity for children to explore sexually, this kind of behavior ...
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| 2 year old - daycare molestation? | 7/25/2007 |
Q: what are the signs I should be looking for if someone is "grooming" my child for molestation. If ...
A: Joyce, I would immediately speak with your daycare provider and tell her of your concerns, about her ...
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| Boyfriend molested by his mother. | 7/23/2007 |
Q: I have been emotionally(not sexually) involved for several years with a man who was molested and ...
A: Cathleen, there are definitely some deep issues, yet to be resolved on this situation. You might ...
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| my baby girl | 7/16/2007 |
Q: I know something is not right when my two small children go to their Dad's every other weekend. So ...
A: Jullian, Your mother's instincts could be right, but have her checked by a pediatrician or your ...
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| fingers in vagina | 7/11/2007 |
Q: When I was 14, my foster mother put her finger in my vagina to see if I was using tampons. Tampons ...
A: Kay, I think intent is the key difference between sexual molestation for personal reasons and ...
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| Girls more likely to be molested why camping? | 7/7/2007 |
Q: I am 19 years old. I have a problem with camping. I have felt it was just a way for my father do ...
A: Lindsey, I am saddened to hear that you have been molested by your father in this way and the ...
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| Cant Remember & Dont know Whats Wrong | 7/2/2007 |
Q: I am writing because I am suspecting that I was possibly molested as a child. Events leading up to ...
A: Kelly, I know that here is a general feeling that you MUST remember events from the past, before you ...
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| child abuse commited by a child | 6/23/2007 |
Q: My son just turned 6 June 4, 2007 so he hasn't even been 6 a month. My brother and his children has ...
A: Ana, please go to this website, which may help you understand that children have a great body ...
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| My friends hands are tied! | 6/22/2007 |
Q: My friends hands are tied. She doesn't know where to turn. Her babysitter is a mandatory. reporter ...
A: Deanna.... She probably needs a good lawyer, but check the www.rainn.org site for possible other ...
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| my 3 year old son may have been molested by his step-grandfather... | 6/19/2007 |
Q: Okay, first of all, I am a victim of sexual molestation, I was molested when I was about 5 years old ...
A: Natasha, obviously you are tuned into this behavior and experience, so I think you are well aware of ...
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| Sibling molestation | 6/13/2007 |
Q: My wife and I are concerned that are 4 year old daughter might have touched inappropiately by her ...
A: Greg, I know that these are trying times, especially when you are away. Your stepson is coming into ...
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| I'm worried that my 10 year old nice is being molested by her father | 6/12/2007 |
Q: I have no idea what the signs of molestation are but I have this gut feeling something is not right ...
A: Susan, some valuable information is available on the www.rainn.org site concerning sexual assault. ...
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| molestion | 4/8/2007 |
Q: I was molested by 3 family members. The confusing part for me is that the fact the I was 12 , and ...
A: Lisa, certainly you were all in the age of "discovery" about sexual feelings and experiences back ...
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| Flashbacks | 4/3/2007 |
Q: As a child, I knew that I had been molested and raped multiple times by one of my cousins. This had ...
A: Aly, I am a little confused about your timeline and those involved. If you were at daycare, I would ...
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| possible child molestation | 3/28/2007 |
Q: A few days ago my daughter came out and told me she thinks that she was molested by her uncle who is ...
A: Juliana, I know that this is disturbing for you to learn now, but it will be healthy in the bigger ...
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| CHILD MOLESTATION | 3/21/2007 |
Q: I have a friend who was molested when he was 12 years old.He is now 40 and has brought the subject ...
A: Maryann, have "mom" check the www.rainn.org site for more information on sexual assault. A 12 year ...
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| what am i supposed to do?!? | 3/8/2007 |
Q: . i'v been going through a dilemma the past few months..i am 19 years old and iv been with a man for ...
A: Nina.... there are always consequences for actions that are not done with integrity. You took an ...
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| I'm not Sure | 2/5/2007 |
Q: I'm fourteen, my birthday is tomorrow. it was two days before today when i remember my step dad was ...
A: Nick... If he did it once, chances are that whatever drove him to do it in the first place isn't ...
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| An old case being revisited | 1/21/2007 |
Q: My daughter turned her Dad in for molesting her. At the time she was 14..she's now 23. Hewent to ...
A: Jean, you will have to either check with the local/state officials on this question or check the ...
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| FALSE CLAIMS OF MOLESTATION | 1/13/2007 |
Q: I AM A 39 YEAR OLD MAN AND MARRIED MY WIFE IN 1993. SHE HAD TWO CHILDREN FROM HER PREVIOUS MARRIAGE ...
A: Riaan, these are tough situations and sometimes children are just willful about having their life ...
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| Is my son lying? | 1/10/2007 |
Q: Recently my 6 year old son told me that the 15 year old son of a family friend asked if he wanted ...
A: Gina, six year olds pick up all kinds of information and language from peers, adults and other ...
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| Question that I cant find the answer to | 1/8/2007 |
Q: Mr. Silver, I just found this website today and I think it is wonderful! I am all about helping ...
A: Manda, if you haven't found any mention on the web, apparently no one has done any research on the ...
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| I thought I was over the whole thing, but now... | 1/7/2007 |
Q: I was molested from the age 6 to about 15 years of age. I couldn't remember much, so I forced myself ...
A: Sandra, You are experiencing a lot of classic PTSD symptoms, related to being molested as a child ...
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| my girlfriend | 1/6/2007 |
Q: I just found out that not only was my girlfriend molested by her stepfather and abused for years. I ...
A: Eric, your concern for her is genuine and would be by anyone who knows about the negative effects of ...
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| My daughter was molested | 1/4/2007 |
Q: My 11 yr old daughter recently came to me with a secret she had been keeping. Her half sister who ...
A: H, I am sorry to hear of this sad experience for you and your daughter(s). These are trying ...
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| Trying to get my daughter to tell me if any abuse has occured. | 1/3/2007 |
Q: A 5 year old friend of my 5 year old daughter has said that my daughter wants to play a game with ...
A: Victoria, this kind of situation can have all kinds of outcomes and it appears that you are aware of ...
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| Questions & Answers | 12/24/2006 |
Q: I was molestation at the age of 5 to 10; by my brothers and stepfather. I never told any one about ...
A: Cindy, there is a lot of information about sexual assault on the www.rainn.org site. What happens to ...
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| Shoving it under the rug | 12/12/2006 |
Q: Growing up my parents had this couple that they were very close friends with. This couple had 3 kids ...
A: Mary, Sadly there are many stories like yours and often parents or the responsible parties are in ...
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| ? | 11/30/2006 |
Q: Well,you already anwsered a question for me and well i thought i would ask you another. Okay, well ...
A: Amanda, I hope that you have learned to use more force and/or leave the situation, if your NO isn't ...
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| trying to help a friend | 11/21/2006 |
Q: Ok, my friend wanted me to ask this question because she's a bit embarrassed and i'm trying to help ...
A: Megan, It's funny how we dwell on the "bad stuff" and have such difficulty in being in the "now" and ...
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| was i molested? | 11/14/2006 |
Q: When i was 10 my brother and my nephew started playing truth or dare. well at the time my brother ...
A: Amanda, it is heartbreaking to hear stories like yours. I'm surprised that your mother didn't take ...
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| I just told my mom... | 11/9/2006 |
Q: My cousin started molesting me when we were very young. I don't remember the exact age it started, ...
A: Ashley, Honesty is the best policy and you have seen how sharing your story and fears has helped get ...
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| My Cousin | 11/8/2006 |
Q: I have asked you two questions in the past and now I have another one. My delima is not really a ...
A: Sarah, at your ages, the two of you are just still continuing to mature and grow, emotionally, ...
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| My Family Doesn't Belive Me | 11/7/2006 |
Q: I have been through A LOT of abuse, of all kinds. My parents (divorced) and family accidently found ...
A: Amy, how sad that your family isn't behind you, in your need to heal this traumatic event in your ...
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| Molestation | 11/3/2006 |
Q: I am 26 years old and have battled with the thought of molestation my whole life. As a child I was ...
A: Well, it sounds like Dad is having issues with his ability to control his sexual expressions around ...
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| My Cousin | 11/1/2006 |
Q: I don't know how to tell my family what happened. I know that they will not believe me. They are ...
A: Well, Sarah... I have lots of thoughts about your situation in the moment. 1. Have a VERY LONG ...
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| My Cousin | 10/28/2006 |
Q: My cousin who is two years older than me molested me when I was twelve, on my birthday. I ...
A: Sarah, it sounds like your cousin is an expert in denial and manipulation. It is NEVER your fault, ...
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| Past Molestation | 10/22/2006 |
Q: When I was younger, my grandfather would take me upstairs to play on his computer...which I would, ...
A: Kat, My heart goes out to you in the pain that you are feeling right now. Know that your recovery is ...
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| Incest Survivor Question | 10/7/2006 |
Q: I was molested as a child by my older brother as I was growing up. I am now 29 years old. I never ...
A: perhaps you should investigate having some EFT sessions with a practitioner or learning to do it ...
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| Brothers | 10/5/2006 |
Q: We had a discussion in class, though my teacher was not able to answer my question. Can two brothers ...
A: Well, I can't help you on legal questions like that. I am not a lawyer or a law inforcement ...
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| Questions? | 9/28/2006 |
Q: what is a body memory? what type of things can it include?how do you know when you've been ...
A: Veronica, here are some links that may more fully explain the condition.. ...
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| Questions? | 9/25/2006 |
Q: how do you know when you've been molestated? emotionally abuse? sexually abused? is it possible that ...
A: Veronica, even when your mind, which is often immature and not fully developed at a young age, ...
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| molestation | 9/23/2006 |
Q: My son is three and was molested by his father! Do you know how long a case like this usually takes ...
A: Jennifer, I am not a legal expert in these actions for wherever you reside. Please go to the ...
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| I Need Help!! | 9/18/2006 |
Q: OK on the 1st September my Son who is 6 came in from playing outside in a destressed state, I asked ...
A: Sharon, your son experienced a most unpleasant event, which is traumatic in nature and needs to be ...
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| What should I do?? | 9/13/2006 |
Q: When I was 12 years old my uncle and his son came to visit. His wife was in Alaska waiting for him.. ...
A: Alicia, it wasn't your fault and shame on your Mom for not believing you. Maybe she has some things ...
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| 32?Could it have happened to me? | 9/8/2006 |
Q: I recently had a dream, which I think was a memory, of my step father molesting me. I am almost 32, ...
A: Cara, Even when your "mind" doesn't remember the details, certain traumatic events can stay in ...
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| Talk to kids about molestation | 9/3/2006 |
Q: I have a 7 year old son and 10 year old daughter. I would like to know how to talk to them about ...
A: Mary, There are good information pages and links at www.rainn.org and ...
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| was I molested? | 9/2/2006 |
Q: there is this guy that's a family friend, and i've been going over to his and his wife's house, ...
A: Melissa, this is a sad story that isn't going to have a happy ending unless you stop this kind of ...
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| Stunned and disgusted | 8/31/2006 |
Q: I have an adult child (22) who recently came to me and revealed that my adoptive brother had done ...
A: Annie, it certainly is a complicated story and I'm not sure why your daughter was "spending time" ...
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| Was I actually molested? | 8/18/2006 |
Q: I am a sixteen year old female. My grandmother has fostered two twin girls since they were infants, ...
A: Marie, go to the http://www.rainn.org/types-of-assault/sexual-assault.html site and read about the ...
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| childhood molestation | 8/9/2006 |
Q: i am a 42 year old female and at the tender age of 7 my babysitter (male,15) use to come in my ...
A: Sandi, for years people used to think that you just need to "get over it" and move on. It DOESN'T ...
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| Rectal Infection and Molestation | 8/1/2006 |
Q: My mother is dating a guy that we believe is molesting his son. I looked at his computer web veiwing ...
A: Autumn, it is pretty hard to not read a whole lot into the evidence that you have presented. Go to ...
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| Step child abuse | 7/27/2006 |
Q: My step daughter was sexually abused by her step father 4 four years ago. When her mother found out ...
A: , I can't think of ANY reason why you wouldn't want this child to be treated for her trauma and ...
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| was this molestation?? | 7/23/2006 |
Q: im 18years old and a female,at a child of 8 i would play over at a neighbours house with a ...
A: Chelsea, your mind/body certainly had retained these memories for the past 10 years, as you have ...
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| A loved one was molested years ago | 7/6/2006 |
Q: I am in a very loving relationship with someone who was molested when she was a child. She is in ...
A: Jay, obviously she is still carrying the trauma of her childhood experience and this is a pretty ...
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| crushes | 7/3/2006 |
Q: i have no penfriends.i want to talk to people of other country .provide me emails of age groups 13 ...
A: Anita, I'm not sure how your question relates to this topic, but you can search the web for all ...
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| body memory | 7/2/2006 |
Q: I was sexually abused by my stepfather from the time I was 4 until I was 14. At night til this day ...
A: Kathy, if you haven't had some real healing of this trauma, then your body will retain the memory of ...
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| Knowing when to believe | 6/28/2006 |
Q: I am not even sure how to begin this, but I am going to give it an attempt. My 19 year old ...
A: Peggy, this is a tough call, if she won't have a conversation with you (or someone) that describes ...
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| How to get my husband to understantd | 6/25/2006 |
Q: I was molested by my husbands stepfather when i told him he didnt believe me. He even told me to get ...
A: Maggie... Denial is a powerful tool used by unconscious people to hide the truth or to keep them ...
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| Molestation | 6/18/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend's 7 yr. old daughter is always holding in her bowel movements and pooping in her pants. ...
A: Dale Lyn, I really can't comment on physical evidence that could or not could indicate abuse or ...
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| molestation | 6/17/2006 |
Q: my girlfriend who is now 33 told me a couple a weeks ago thaht she got molested wehn she was a child ...
A: Peter, this seems to have been the dawning of her sexual awareness and often those kinds of ...
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| molestation | 6/14/2006 |
Q: i was molestead from the time i was 11 until right before i turned 18. i am now 23 years old and i ...
A: Amanda, if your boyfriend needs to know more about sexual abuse, have him go to the www.rainn.org ...
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| Forced Incest between Brothers | 6/3/2006 |
Q: 5 years ago when I was 15 my family became a victim of sexual abuse that still hasn't recovered, but ...
A: Sarah, your concerns are genuine both for twins living apart and that they were molested and not ...
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| Molested or Imagined? | 6/1/2006 |
Q: So I recently (few days ago) came back to my hometown to visit family and friends and I found out ...
A: Jon, it sounds like this "news" has been a trigger for you, perhaps to have you review some past ...
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| my 6 year old being molested | 5/28/2006 |
Q: my son stays with his father during school cause a better school system ... he came home lst weekend ...
A: Casey, it sounds like there is a definite need for action here. Boys start getting pretty advanced ...
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| Is Oral Sex by a Pedophile Sexual Abuse? | 5/12/2006 |
Q: When I was 15 I was introduced to a man who initially filled the role of my absent, taciturn father, ...
A: James, you were under age to be sexually approached and under the influence of drugs and alcohol. ...
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| sibling molestation | 5/6/2006 |
Q: My question is on sibling molestation. When is it children experimenting and just needs reprimanding ...
A: This is a pretty gray area here, for a number of reasons. To begin with, I would want to know ...
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| Please give advice | 5/1/2006 |
Q: I was molested about 12 years ago. I am now 21. He is a few years older. It has bothered me ever ...
A: Leanne, you could get a TRO to be sure that he doesn't come around and/or file an assault complaint ...
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| 3 year old daughter | 4/4/2006 |
Q: Within the last couple of weeks my 3 year old daughter has been acting weird. She has been touching ...
A: Andrea, there seem to be some puzzle pieces that are coming together in a way that could be ...
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| childhood abuse | 2/11/2006 |
Q: What makes the difference in an abused child identifying with and becoming a victim or an abuser? ...
A: Veronica, I believe we addressed this earlier on a previous question, a few days ago. We don't know ...
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| Will I recover and are there groups for survivors mates? | 2/7/2006 |
Q: I'd like to know if there are websites or groups for guys who are with someone who is a survivor ...
A: Lein, Recovery from childhood sexual molestation and abuse is one of the most difficult tasks facing ...
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| need help dealing with the nightmares | 1/22/2006 |
Q: I just came across this site through google. I'm 46 this month w/2 grown children. in 2004 I started ...
A: Cindy, that is really a heart-breaking story and unfortunately one that isn't all that uncommon in ...
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| How to tell in a young child? | 1/15/2006 |
Q: My son is 4 years old and out of the blue he told me his real dad, he does not know him very well, ...
A: Tanya, there is "touching" and there is "sexual touching" and it is hard for a 4 year old to ...
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| Molestation/Incest | 1/13/2006 |
Q: How do you ask your mother "Is My grandfather a rapist and did he rape my Aunte.
A: Diamond, is this information that you really need to know? How will it benefit you, now? Tread ...
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| support group | 10/12/2005 |
Q: My name is Eve. I have started a support group for woman who have suffered abuse, divorce, etc. I am ...
A: Eve, this sounds like a great idea. The way we support those in need of assistance and healing is to ...
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| When Molestation Becomes Rape | 8/27/2005 |
Q: If someone forces you to perform oral sex and forcfully performs it on you, is that considered rape?
A: Shanaynay, See this site for some information about yourhttp://www.rainn.org/definition.html The ...
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| child molestation | 4/22/2005 |
Q: why do adults sexually molest children? How can we tell if someone is a child molester?
A: Michael.... this is a difficult question that has many, many components. I would refer you to ...
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| Helping your child deal with molestation | 4/7/2005 |
Q: I have a two and a half year old neice who has been molested by her step-grandfather. She is a very ...
A: Jessica, these kinds of events are heartbreaking, but can be worked through with lots of love, ...
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| ddnos | 8/24/2004 |
Q: what is ddnos? i have PTSD but when i dissociate it is only partial. i get intrusive thoughts and ...
A: http://www.angelfire.com/psy/amanda/ddnos2.html DDNOS/Dissociative Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified ...
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| Can't Remember? | 3/7/2004 |
Q: I'm a 19 year old female. I've always known that I was different than other kids and did bad, ...
A: Lynn, we know of a number of cases where young children mimicked the actions of their mothers having ...
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| Was I Abused? | 2/27/2004 |
Q: When I was hospitalized for major depression some years ago, I remembered when I was a child that my ...
A: Gloria... No doubt "something" triggered your depression and this may or may not have happened. What ...
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| Molestation and Mental Health | 7/21/2003 |
Q: I was molested for three years by my best friend's older brother (I was about six when it began, and ...
A: Mary, this is one of the many heartbreaking stories that we hear associated with child ...
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| False Accusation of Molestation | 6/6/2003 |
Q: I am a 51 year old married male. My sister (who is 5 years older) recently informed me that I ...
A: Stephen, these are, of course, most difficult situations to deal with. Your sister could be ...
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| Can my family survive this? | 2/3/2003 |
Q: Two years ago my five year old daughter (at the time) was traumatized horrible by someone or some ...
A: Becky.... We are sorry to hear about such drama and trauma happening in your lives. Dealing with an ...
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| DDNOS and DID (differences explained) | 11/6/2002 |
Q: I'm having trouble understanding the differences between the diagnoses of DID (Dissociative Identity ...
A: Julie, you posed a challenging question for me as we really don't deal in psychiatric diagnosis with ...
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| Friend was abused.... | 10/15/2002 |
Q: I am a 27 year old female who has been dating this guy for about 10 days now. He is 37 years old. ...
A: Anna, You do have a potentially serious situation at hand with someone who is focused on alcohol and ...
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