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About Christine Taylor
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Expertise
I can answer questions specifically relating to child abuse, paticularly where this relates to retrospective activities. I can also answer questions on 'How extended families cope with the result of abuse'. Questions on the legal aspects of abuse are beyond my scope here and I can offer signposting only.

Experience
I was abused as a child by my grandfather. The first time it took place I was just 5 years old, and his abuse continued for 6 years. I was forced into believing that what he was doing was ok, and that it was our secret. As a small child I respected what he told me, and did not tell anyone. He would touch me, bath me and sometimes make me touch him. The memories are clear, but since moving on with my life the attached feeling and emotion has faded. My grandfather was sentenced for his crime, but not before I had to go through a medical and police interview. Shortly after the sentencing I was given support from Victim Support, and later that year received counselling from a clinical child psychologist. Once I was discharged I carried on with my life and tried to put the past behind me. However, after the birth of my son many emotions about the abuse came back, as did the memories. I tried to get counselling but the waiting lists were long. I approached support groups, but unfortunately they were not running programmes in my area. I decided to help myself. I carried out a number tasks which included writting out my memories, and my feelings. It also included going back to the places I was abused. I began to feel strong inside, the memories no longer made me cry, my smile was genuine. My final task was to return to the spot where it all began when I was just 5 years old. Once I had done this I walked away and felt no saddness. I knew then that I had come through the abuse and was finally free to live my life. I have left the negatives of my abuse behind and now I hold onto the positives of this experience. I have learnt how to be strong, and how to restore my confidence. I no longer wish to change the past, its just not possible, so I look forward to a future without the burden of my past.

Education/Credentials
Firstly I have first hand life experience within this field. I also achieved A'levels in science, but also in Christian Theology. Although this does not directly relate to this subject it helped me to use my mind to think outside the box. I was able to see things from other perspectives, and it taught me to appreciate other peoples thoughts and opinions. I also have completed the counselling concepts course and passed at Level 3 and from this I went on and completed a mentor training programme. I am now working towards a psychology diploma, and level 4 in child psychology.

   

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Questions Answered By Expert  Christine Taylor 
In Category  Molestation

SubjectDate Asked

Could I have been molested?10/26/2009
  Q: Christine, I think I could have been molested by my nephew, probably between the age of 2 and 4. I ...
  A: Charlene, I am very sorry but I can not answer the question 'could I have been molested?'. My first ...
three year old10/20/2009
  Q: Chistine, I too was abused as a child and would like to present you with a situation involving my ...
  A: Phyllis, My first reaction is to have her checked at the doctor again. It maybe that the infection ...
Infant/Toddler Signs of Molestation9/27/2009
  Q: I have a situation and not sure how to handle it. Recently my 2 children were temporarily placed in ...
  A: Crystal, When you did change her diaper did you notice any redness or sores? At 18 months she is ...
scars9/22/2009
  Q: if a child was raped at 5 bye a 30 year old man would there be scars from the rape on her privates ...
  A: Kassandra, I am very sorry but I really can not offer up any advice to help your uncle. The ...
11-Year old daughter9/21/2009
  Q: I hope you can give me some advice before I go nuts! My (barely) 11 year old daughter, who came ...
  A: Melissa, A girl of 13 is raging with hormones and her body is changing so quickly. That is no ...
scars9/21/2009
  Q: if a child was raped at 5 bye a 30 year old man would there be scars from the rape on her privates ...
  A: Kassandra, I dont think there would be any physical evidence after 12 years. If the 5 year old ...
my 6yr old has been molested by her 10yr old half brother9/21/2009
  Q: ...while in her father's care. I involved CPS, who substantiated neglect and abuse initially and ...
  A: Michele, I hope I havent misinterpritated the question, but it seems you're needing answers with ...
11-Year old daughter9/21/2009
  Q: I hope you can give me some advice before I go nuts! My (barely) 11 year old daughter, who came ...
  A: Melissa, You dont say how old the step-sister is. I will not make any excuses, but it could be a ...
I was molested, but did I molest someone?8/17/2009
  Q: I was molested when I was 5 years old. I told my family when I was 9 years old. The man who molested ...
  A: Nancy, It is very positive to read how you have over come your past and your fears. This incident, ...
Please help8/17/2009
  Q: I am a 23 yo guy. I recently visited my family on vacation - they say about 1000 miles away. I was ...
  A: Jason, As the adult, it was your duty to make clear appropriate behaviour, and in this instance I ...
incest8/15/2009
  Q: My Father was a very aggresive obsesive man. He was strict. He beat me and my mother and my older ...
  A: Sandra, There are a lot of different issues in your questions. At the time of the abuse, your ...
3 year old.8/13/2009
  Q: I have a 3 year old daughter, three days ago she told me that her and her 6 year old step cousin ...
  A: Jennifer, I think in this instance honesty is the best way forward, and you should talk with your ...
My 9 year old may be touching his 3 year old brother8/11/2009
  Q: My 9 year old son has recently admitted to asking his 3 year old brother to "kiss" his penis. ...
  A: Trisha, Im so sorry I did not get back to you soon, I have been away and was delayed on my return. ...
My daughter touched another girl8/11/2009
  Q: My eight year old daughter (I'll call her Riley) had our five year old girl neighbor (Amie) over to ...
  A: Nancy, I think you need each need to deal with your own children. You need to sit your daughter ...
court order7/11/2009
  Q: My ex partner admitted to me he molested my daughter, we have been going through courts and no ...
  A: Tina, I am not familiar with American law, however, I assume a court order is very much the same as ...
my niece has been acting out.7/8/2009
  Q: my little brother's daughter has been acting out. he is very scared that someone has been molesting ...
  A: Nichole, I really think the best thing to do is get her checked by the doctors. I also think it is ...
I think my boyfriend is molesting his neice! PLease please help!7/1/2009
  Q: She is 3 and this is what i observed.. He was naked in the bathroom with her about to shower ...
  A: Rochelle, I am struggling with an answer for this question if I am completely honest! I think I ...
My Daughters6/29/2009
  Q: My wife and I split up about a year and a half ago. we have two daughters, who are now 5 and 3. ...
  A: James, In light of this I think I would personally go straight to the child protection services. ...
My Daughters6/29/2009
  Q: My wife and I split up about a year and a half ago. we have two daughters, who are now 5 and 3. ...
  A: James, This display of behaviour certainly indicates the girls are not happy, but not necessarily ...
is my daughter being molested?5/12/2009
  Q: i have a 5 year old daughter with PDD. shes 5 but emotionally acts like shes 3. both parents are in ...
  A: Ashley, You are not sick!! It is not unusual for you to experience the flashbacks and memories. I ...
is my daughter being molested?5/12/2009
  Q: i have a 5 year old daughter with PDD. shes 5 but emotionally acts like shes 3. both parents are in ...
  A: Ashley, Its really difficult for me to answer your question. I can not possibley say that your ...
Possible sexual abuse on 1 and 3 year old4/2/2009
  Q: Last year my daughter took my grandson age 2 and granddaughter age 1 to the doctor because of yeast ...
  A: Anne, If you have reason to suspect then I would go and talk with the CPS. It is evident that ...
Tell Tale signs of abuse.3/31/2009
  Q: My son has recently been spending alot of time at his dad's house. His dad is a good man and i am ...
  A: Dec, Have you checked to see if he has any redness around that area? If he is pushing his finger up ...
5 year old son molested by 7 year old cousin3/30/2009
  Q: 3 days ago my 5 year old son was molested by my 7 year old nephew. They both came out of my sons ...
  A: Vj, I can totally understand your anger and upset. I am going to separate this question into 2 ...
Getting the history of a sex offender checked.3/30/2009
  Q: I have recently found that a person I know was convicted of gross indecency just over 30 years ago. ...
  A: Sophie, Thank you for re-writing your original question. I didnt want to send you an automated ...
help3/30/2009
  Q: when my daughter was 11 i found my husbands in her room while she was sleeping with his penis ...
  A: Neecis, Your husband is completely in the wrong and you should not be tolerating this from him. He ...
Potential Abuse3/29/2009
  Q: My 10 year old daughter told me that my live in boyfriend of 5 years had come into her room when she ...
  A: Steph, Does your daughter have a tendancy to lie? If not then I would take her claims as ...
Molestation?3/27/2009
  Q: Ok well I'm Katie and I'm 14 years old and last year about this time this kid came and sat next to ...
  A: Katie, If anyone violates your personal space without your permission then it is molestation (even ...
My wife's fears3/23/2009
  Q: My wife was sexually abused by her father pre teen, when that stopped he started talking sexually ...
  A: Michael, Its hard to know if your wifes hisory is effecting her present without talking with her. ...
My 13 yr old son had shown his 8 yr old cousin how to Masturbate.3/19/2009
  Q: We had just learned that our son had masturbated in front of his 8 year(boy)old cousin over the ...
  A: I would talk with your son and explain to him why he can not do what he did. Reassure him that ...
Internet.2/10/2009
  Q: Can you resend your previous answer to my new email address,I received the last one at my othe ...
  A: You are not wasting my time, and please dont be sorry. I do answer questions on molestation, but ...
Internet.2/9/2009
  Q: Can you resend your previous answer to my new email address,I received the last one at my othe ...
  A: Well he wants to meet me and he urges me to send him a picture and I keep telling him no.But what if ...
Internet.2/9/2009
  Q: I have a serious question.Okay there is this older guy,He's 50 (I'm 13) that I talk to over the ...
  A: You really need to delete him and inform your parents. I am sorry to be blunt, none of this is yur ...
Internet.2/8/2009
  Q: I have a serious question.Okay there is this older guy,He's 50 (I'm 13) that I talk to over the ...
  A: Assuming you have given him no personal details, like home address then delete this person from your ...
How to tell if My 3 year old was being touched in-properly2/7/2009
  Q: It all started about a week or so before Christmas. I noticed that he was acting alittle ...
  A: This has been a very difficult question for me to answer, and I am sorry for the delay in replying. ...
molested by a family member2/7/2009
  Q: I'm 17 years old and when I was around 6 or 7, I think i was molested by my grandfather. I trusted ...
  A: Ness, It is very possible that your current feelings about being intimate are directly related to ...
denied molestation2/3/2009
  Q: It has come to light that my childrens step grandfather of 20 years has been molesting SEVERAL of ...
  A: Randi, Have the police or childrens services spoke with your children? They would be very good at ...
molested2/1/2009
  Q: I read your story and have had the same experience when I was younger. Probably 5 or 6 years ago. My ...
  A: I am sorry that it has taken me a few days to respond to you. You have taken a great first in ...
Please help!!!12/30/2008
  Q: I am in a difficult situation! My 4 years old came to me and told me she was touched by my step dad! ...
  A: Erica, I would seriously consider reportng this man to the authorities. I know that may seem a very ...
Confused!12/28/2008
  Q: Today my three year old little boy told me that his penis hurt. The rim where the foreskin stops was ...
  A: Michelle, I would take your son to have a check with the doctor. Whether or not his story is true, ...
molestation12/24/2008
  Q: The other day my neighbor asked if my son could come over and play with her son.I dont know them ...
  A: Isabella, With regards to your other son, I would sit your older son down and talk with him. ...
child molestation12/23/2008
  Q: I just found out that my daughter was molested by her father (biological) at a young age. She ...
  A: Melinda, Yes it is very possible that the father molested one child and not the other, for many ...
Bathing with a child.12/22/2008
  Q: recently i have had an argument with my wife about bathing with our daughter . Her name is Angelika ...
  A: Sebastian, I do not see a problem with you taking a bath with your daughter. It really is your own ...
Very confused.12/15/2008
  Q: Ok so to start with I am 16 yrs. old and a junior in highschool. My parents divorced when I was 13. ...
  A: Brooke, Are your sisters still in touch with the children services? Is there any member of that ...
who should i tell?11/6/2008
  Q: I have a question pertaining to the steps i need to take. I was sexually molested by a babysitter ...
  A: Dan, I can understand why you feel you need to talk about this now. A lot of people go through ...
possible molested11/2/2008
  Q: My 15 year old and her friends were tell eachother their biggest secret and she said her dad (my ...
  A: Juli, I think it is important now to clarify what your daughter meant, and how much truth is in it. ...
molestation11/1/2008
  Q: How can i tell if my 3yr old niece is being molested? I have encounter some signs but dont' know ...
  A: Sam, I would talk to your neice, or get a parent to do it, abouthow she really should not be ...
molestation10/10/2008
  Q: What signs would a 1 1/2 year old display if she was being sexually abused? I let a male neighbor ...
  A: Jessica, As your daughter is very young it makes it a lot more difficult to asses whether or not ...
Grandfather Molesting Son9/26/2008
  Q: Sigh... So, recently my brave son told my wife and I that his grandpa has been touching him. Before ...
  A: Jason, I am really sorry to read this, and could almost feel some of your hurting. I saw the pain ...
sexual abuse on a child9/25/2008
  Q: The other day my little boy who just turned four, told me that his daddy kisses his pee pee. I ...
  A: Gwen, yes I think you did the right thing. If you are speaking with your ex then try asking him to ...
Molested by father , feeling guilty for still being angry9/23/2008
  Q: My father molested me on several occasions when I was 11. I am now 44. I have lived my whole adult ...
  A: Tina, I am really sorry for the delay in my response to your question. I have been ill and not had ...
My 3 year old is acting strange..9/23/2008
  Q: I have been with this guy for a year now and at first he did everything for my son then he started ...
  A: Trina, If your son seems physically unwell and off balance it might be best to have him checked by ...
What would this be called?9/20/2008
  Q: When i was a little kid so young that i don't even remember when it started up until i was 13 a ...
  A: Jennifer, Any unwilling sexual activity done to you, or forced on you to act is classed as ...
Day care molestation?9/15/2008
  Q: My fixing to be two year old just started going to daycare... I am a lil worried..I know kids get a ...
  A: Teresa, Im not sure I completely understand the question, however if your daughter is complaining ...
brothers9/6/2008
  Q: My husband is 31 years old. He insists that he was molested by both of his brothers from the ages of ...
  A: Stacie, You're very welcome and Im glad my response helped a little. Even if his mother didn't ...
Thank you Dad for runing my life8/31/2008
  Q: Calling my father the Antichrist is such a gross understatement. He molested me,beat me, ...
  A: Elise, The book I used was Breaking Free written by Carolyn Ainscough and Kay Toon. I googled, ...
Thank you Dad for runing my life8/25/2008
  Q: Calling my father the Antichrist is such a gross understatement. He molested me,beat me, ...
  A: Elise, Different therapies, and methods work differently for each person. I am happy to share my ...
child molestation8/19/2008
  Q: I am concerned that my boyfriend is molesting his 3 year old niece whom he lives with. I feel it in ...
  A: Leah, I dont for one minute think you are small minded, if that was the case then over half the ...
child molestation8/19/2008
  Q: I am concerned that my boyfriend is molesting his 3 year old niece whom he lives with. I feel it in ...
  A: Leah, Ive been struggling with how to phrase this answer, as I dont mean to sound bad or offend. ...
innaproriate touching children8/16/2008
  Q: My 6 year old daughter recently told me that her 13 year old step-sister "did sex" with her and ...
  A: Erin, I would not just leave it at separation. Both girls need to be spoken to you. Your daughter ...
Could my granddaughters be victims?7/30/2008
  Q: Over a year ago, I noticed my then-six year old granddaughter almost constantly rubbing and touching ...
  A: Laurie, The youngest granddaughter is probably copying her sister. Someone needs to sit the eldest ...
telling my boyfriend7/30/2008
  Q: I have fallen head over heels for the most amaxing guy i have ever met. I am 19 and he is 21 we met ...
  A: Stephanie, If this guy is as amazing as you believe he is then telling him will not change your ...
Is my 7yr old daughter lying about being molested7/29/2008
  Q: recently my daughter came home and told me that my husband makes her rub his peepee. My husband says ...
  A: Nicole, You know your husband, and daughter, and you have to decide who you are going to believe. ...
can a 4yr old act out on whats happenig to her by doing it to other kids7/29/2008
  Q: my 5yr old daughter was complaining about her toody(vagina) hurting. I ask'd her why does it hurt ...
  A: To get to the bottom of this you are going to have to speak to the little girls parents. It wouldn't ...
possible child molestation signs7/12/2008
  Q: My 4 year old attempted to perform oral sex on me, her mother, while I was asleep. She was very ...
  A: Sherri, The bed wetting could just be a phase, she is at that age. Some children do regress at this ...
Wife molested as child6/23/2008
  Q: When my wife says she doesnt love herself and doesnt like who she is and says other people see me ...
  A: Dwayne, I really dont feel like I have the experience to answer this question any more than I have ...
my 2 year old son6/19/2008
  Q: my son goes to a nursery and for the last 2 weeks when i change his nappy he screams and wont let me ...
  A: Hannah, I would most certainly take him to your doctor. If he is in pain it may be that he has an ...
The haunting past.6/6/2008
  Q: I'm looking for some advice although I am not really sure what or why. My story is a lot like yours ...
  A: Russel, You are very right in that the past is the past! The decision you have to make is what ...
answer to my question.4/2/2008
  Q: Not sure if you could see my question and William Silvers' answer. But is it considered sexual abuse ...
  A: I will have to go through Mr Silver's questions to find this question/answer, and not all the ...
A Boyfriends Past3/26/2008
  Q: I've been casually dating a guy for the past 2 months and its getting to point where we need to ...
  A: Abby, It wouldnt be right for me to tell you which choice to make. However, your relationship ...
child abuse3/23/2008
  Q: How does one question a child to determine if they've been molested? What kinds of questions could ...
  A: Nan, This is a very vague question. It really would depend on the situation, who was involved and ...
Best Friends Husband is Scary3/18/2008
  Q: My best friends husband is a closet alchoholic who has been fired from 2 jobs for sexual misconduct, ...
  A: Sheree, I think you have made a good decision in sharing your concerns with your friend. There is ...
How to help my kids...3/17/2008
  Q: I have 15 yr. old twins, a boy and a girl, and have just recently separated from their father due to ...
  A: Sarah, Your children are going through so much at the moment, it is no surprise they are acting ...
Ignored3/3/2008
  Q: I was molested when I was growing up between the ages of 6 and 13 by my uncle. I kept it a secret ...
  A: Erika, How old are you? Where do you live? Can you not make the police report and explain to them ...
my son thinks hes not a virgin2/27/2008
  Q: Im writing you with some questions that have recently come up. My now 13 year old son was molested ...
  A: Tonya, If your sons abuser penetrated him then it was sex. However, I think it is more important to ...
I dont know what to do.2/23/2008
  Q: Yesterday when I was changing my 2 1/2 year old daughter she said that it hurt. She had been saying ...
  A: Amanda, At her age it is possible that she has mixed up events or things that have happened, she is ...
I'm not sure...2/16/2008
  Q: Ok, so I'm not exactly sure how to say all this so it makes sense but I'm going to try. When I was ...
  A: Grace, It is possible that your childhood abuse is subconsciously causing you problems now. If you ...
Help, my 4 year old.2/10/2008
  Q: Well, to make a story short (cause it's been 2 years going) when my daughter was 2 1/2 she told me ...
  A: Natasha, I know you dont want to hear my answer, but really it is the only answer I can give you in ...
Girlfriend Molested by her father2/7/2008
  Q: I've read a few of your answers and thought maybe you could help with my situation. My girlfriend ...
  A: Shannan, I can truely understand how frustrating, and hurtful this situation must be for you. ...
Possible abuse2/3/2008
  Q: When I was a boy (I must've been about 9 or 10) I remember waking up in my bed in a state of arousal ...
  A: David, I would advise you to speak with your father. Do not feel daft, you have a right to an ...
Sexual Abuse of my daughter by my father2/2/2008
  Q: A year ago my daughter told me that she has been sexually abused by my father. Things have gone ...
  A: Darcy, Have you reported this to the police. You are right there is never 2 sides to a story like ...
My daughter...2/1/2008
  Q: My daughter is 15 months old. Lately she has been cranky and clingy. I thought she might be going ...
  A: Melissa I wont tell you that you are over reacting, because you're not. You have noticed a change in ...
I think somone did somthing to my daughter1/30/2008
  Q: I went to stay with some people i knew wail my boyfriend was out of town and i was drugged and ended ...
  A: Jess, The comments this person made are almost certainly a weird comment to just make. At the time ...
two year old might have been molested1/28/2008
  Q: **Name changed from original. My fiancee has a little girl it she's about 2 1/2 years old. This is ...
  A: Jessica, I really can not condone video typing and questioning of a 2 year old little girl. If you ...
Is this molestation?1/16/2008
  Q: Ever since I was 7 and my brother 12, we would please each other sexually. I wasn't sure exactly ...
  A: Stephanie, I would be inclined to say in the early years this was a case of sexual curiousity, ...
Molested1/12/2008
  Q: i was molested when i was 6 years old. My uncle used to make me perform acts on his younger sister ...
  A: Michael, You need to deal with what you went through as a child. Its good that you have realised ...
molestation1/9/2008
  Q: Okay, my name is Stacey and i was wondering i was molested when i was 7 or 8 and I'm 17 now, and i ...
  A: Stacey, I dont know the rights for patients in America, but your psychariatrist will have a code of ...
My 2 year old daughter and my 4 year old nephew1/2/2008
  Q: I adopted my Niece who is 2 well her brother came to spend the night for two days and everything was ...
  A: Jennifer, Do you spend much time with your nephew? Has he had any noticable character changes? Is ...
Did my pediatrician molest me?12/12/2007
  Q: I was 11 having a yearly physical. My family doctor told me to lie down on the table, then he ...
  A: Becky, 30 years ago the medical profession was very different from we know it as now. Ive never ...
4 Year Story about a Stranger12/12/2007
  Q: My wife was driving with our 2 and 4 years old boys several days ago and the four your started to ...
  A: Kevin, This is a really difficult question for me to answer. I have a 4 year old son, and like you ...
Molested at a very young age.12/11/2007
  Q: I recently learned that my father had molested me. I can't remember any of it and I'm not sure when ...
  A: Cassie, I am not a proffessional in child psychology so I can not give you an accurate answer, but ...
Molestation?12/10/2007
  Q: When I was around the age of 6 I was touched by a friend that was about three years older then me.. ...
  A: Aubrey, You are not clear about what happened, but I would assume you meant the touching was of a ...
I need to help someone cope...12/6/2007
  Q: I need help. My sister in law came to me and told me that she had been molested by her uncle from ...
  A: Jody, Could you not direct your sister in law to this site. We are not all proffessionals, just ...
My boyfriend was molested by his mother12/6/2007
  Q: Please help. My boyfriend has just admitted to me that his mother molested him when he was young. He ...
  A: Cindy, If your boyfriend has told you this information then he clearly trusts you with something ...
I can't forgive myself12/6/2007
  Q: I was 8 and the boy was 6, he was a twin. There was another girl who was 12 and we were all in a ...
  A: Kaelyn, My first reaction to your question is to remind you how old you were! You were only a child ...
homosexual male molesting a girl?11/4/2007
  Q: . this sounds like molestation but the person she said is a homosexual male the parents dont want to ...
  A: Sally, just because this man is gay does not mean he isn't capable of such a thing. This little girl ...
I was molested by my adoptive father11/3/2007
  Q: I think I have managed to suppress the severity of what happened to me when I was younger. To the ...
  A: Daisy, You were not old enough to consent to your adoptive father. What happened to you was ...
Grandfather molested daughter?9/29/2007
  Q: How do I deal as a parent with my daughter believing that my father molested her when she was very ...
  A: Steve, I wouldnt make excuses for your daughter, tell them your daughter has things going on she ...
a child could be in trouble9/29/2007
  Q: well i have been living with my cousins for awhile now and one of them is married with a daughter ...
  A: Tee, Im very sorry, I have no internet connection at home due to a technical fsult and therefore ...
Grandfather molested daughter?9/27/2007
  Q: How do I deal as a parent with my daughter believing that my father molested her when she was very ...
  A: Steve, Do you believe your daughter? I think it is her that you should be talking to, not your ...
I wonder if my husband is abusing our son9/24/2007
  Q: Last week I was using my husbands computer and I went into the history needless to say I was shocked ...
  A: Twila, Downloading child porn is an offence itself, and should not be ignored. Respected adult or ...
Former Abuser9/21/2007
  Q: I'm looking for some help and sanity, maybe you can provide some advise. I'm a 36 year old male with ...
  A: Albert, I have read this with a lot of thought and emotion. What you are going through must be so ...
molested or not? i dont know9/18/2007
  Q: when i was 10 or 11 yrs old my step-dad came to my room and laid on top of me trying to force ...
  A: Jamie, What you describe sounds to me as attempted molestation. Did happen again, or since? Could ...
When is touching actually abuse?9/10/2007
  Q: My daughter, her boyfriend and his kids from a previous marriage recently moved in with us. The kids ...
  A: Kim, What you describe to me is abuse. This girl is 8, and surely would know if she was wet or not. ...
Could this be molestation9/9/2007
  Q: Here are the facts: I changed my daughter My daughter (3 ½ yr-old) recently started to touch ...
  A: Ana, Im so sorry this answer is do late getting to you, I had a family problem I could not ignore ...
HELP ME9/4/2007
  Q: when i was groing up between the ages of 5 and 9 i was molested by my byologicle father and i kept ...
  A: Amanda, Talk with your parents again and tell them how you feel. They will listen to you and try to ...
follow up question8/27/2007
  Q: i no she has 2 report it but she doesnt want 2. she doesnt want 2 go anywhere. can i report it? & ...
  A: Stephon, Yes you can report this. She will however need to give a statement for a conviction. Speak ...
could my 2 year old son have been molested?8/26/2007
  Q: I have been wondering if my son was molested by someone I thought I knew real well who I considered ...
  A: Crystal, A slight deviation, but I am also a member of a parenting website. The site was set up 2 ...
my bestfriend betrayed me8/23/2007
  Q: im 22 & my parents wud go 2 jamaica every sumer 4 the past 3 years so it wud b my sis & i alone.my ...
  A: Stephon, Your sister needs to report this man for what he did to her. Talk to her and reassure her ...
i have been molested since i was 13 years old8/22/2007
  Q: my step father has molested me since i was 13 years old till now im 17 years old.. no matter what i ...
  A: Kyrsten, As you do not specify where you are from I can not advise you best on who you can contact. ...
the family afterwards8/22/2007
  Q: I was molested by my brother at age 6 for several years. I have told all my family. My family is a ...
  A: JoLee, I am very sorry I do not have any experience with EFT. I do have some experience with person ...
the family afterwards8/20/2007
  Q: I was molested by my brother at age 6 for several years. I have told all my family. My family is a ...
  A: JoLee, It is not uncommon for you to still feel so hurt after all these years. Your family are ...
about my niece8/1/2007
  Q: A few weeks ago my niece who i hadnt seen came up from ohio to spend time with me and grandpa(my ...
  A: Heather, Im so sorry to hear you are in this situation. Does your niece want to press charges? ...
What are the signs of infant molestation?7/29/2007
  Q: Can you tell me the signs for infant through toddler. I can not find anything on the internet to ...
  A: Dawn, Each child is different, and signs that could indicate to molestation could also mean a lot ...
my physical relationship with my wife7/26/2007
  Q: my wife (33) and i (38) have been married 5 years. we have 2 sons together. i was previously married ...
  A: Simon, I will try and answer these questions as they were presented. If your wife has dealt with ...
My daughter inappropriately touched by her half brother7/25/2007
  Q: My daughter came home from her Dad's with a notebook full of sexual questions and statements. When ...
  A: Cheryl, Although danger isnt the word I had firstly used, yes something does need to be done with ...
daughter &cousin7/24/2007
  Q: what do I do, daughter is not in same state lives with mother and new step dad aleged molestation of ...
  A: Duncan, I would talk to your daughter and find out what she say's has happened. If an allegation ...
i have been molested since i was 13 years old7/24/2007
  Q: my step father has molested me since i was 13 years old till now im 17 years old.. no matter what i ...
  A: Kyrsten, It is important that you contact the police again and make a statement. They legally have ...
Could this be molestation7/20/2007
  Q: Here are the facts: I changed my daughter My daughter (3 ½ yr-old) recently started to touch ...
  A: Your daughter is still very much the innocent little girl you know. She is just learning about her ...
Could this be molestation7/18/2007
  Q: Here are the facts: I changed my daughter My daughter (3 ½ yr-old) recently started to touch ...
  A: and I hope I will be able to reassure you and your family. My initial thoughts are not those of ...
is husband a molester?7/16/2007
  Q: I have been getting these feelings about my husband and I'm not sure what to make of them. He has a ...
  A: Summer, I always say go with your gut feeling, especially when parents are asking me questions with ...
sexual abuse7/10/2007
  Q: My four year old son was "touched" by a 12 year old neighbour boy. My son told me right after it ...
  A: Rose, I would not worry at this stage if it will affect him, only time will tell. At the age of 4 ...
My son's friend7/9/2007
  Q: On a trip my son and I were taking as a mother son day, we had gotten on the subject of friends, ...
  A: You havent stated how old these boys are, although it doesn't make that much difference. Firstly, ...
healthly relationship with a woman that was abused as a child?7/8/2007
  Q: First, I am so willing to help this woman, my soul mate, overcome this pain she carries inside, I ...
  A: Chris, I am so sorry for the delay in replying, I have had internet complications. I am in no ...
Still dealing with molestion for over ten years7/8/2007
  Q: When I was either 7 or 8 I'm not sure when because I tried to block it from my memory. I was ...
  A: Janet, My apologies in the time delay for replying to this message I couldnt get on line! You have ...
Was I molested?7/5/2007
  Q: Back in February of this year, I was groped by an older, possibly drunk, teenaged boy at a Safeway. ...
  A: Carly, Personal invasion of one's body without consent is certainly wrong. Everyone has a right to ...
How can I tell?7/4/2007
  Q: From the time my oldest son was 3, he has shown unusual behavior that has concerned me. My ex and I ...
  A: Aaron, Firstly, just because a person is abused as a child, it does not mean they will develop into ...
question for my baby7/2/2007
  Q: My baby girl is 2 years old and she goes over her Dads house just about every weekend. I have always ...
  A: Jasmin, Children of this age do this 'humping' movement almost like a relax, when on all fours its ...
Child Molested6/30/2007
  Q: I hope that I can Find a way to get out of this feeling. I was 6 yers old when I got raped by two ...
  A: Suz, Having sexual desires for the same sex is not uncommon, it also does not mean it is a direct ...
thoughts of suicide..6/27/2007
  Q: im a 15 year old girl.. i live in a family that obuse;s me. physicaly,emotionaly and sexualy.. *u ...
  A: Rachel, It is very important that you go and speak to your family doctor about receiving help for ...
Child Molested6/27/2007
  Q: I hope that I can Find a way to get out of this feeling. I was 6 yers old when I got raped by two ...
  A: Suz, I think you need to find closure on the rape you suffered as a child. Once that is no longer ...
Son reported inappropriate touching to us a year ago, now he's displaying this behavior6/25/2007
  Q: April of 2006 our then almost 4yo son told me that the 13yo girl next door asked to touch his penis ...
  A: Stacey, It's very difficult to see if an incident will affect a child in time to come. Some things ...
Incest??6/22/2007
  Q: What is it called when a step daughter and step father have sex? Is that incest? What if the ...
  A: Christina, Incest is blood relations having sexual relationships. If these two adults are not blood ...
I think my son's step-grandfather may have molested him...6/19/2007
  Q: I sent this to another expert on this site, but I would like to get as much input as possible on ...
  A: Natasha, Your son certainly seem's to be upset about something. I usualy say follow your instinct, ...
Having flashbacks6/18/2007
  Q: I was sexually abused by 3 differant people growing up. Once by my brother growing up, he touched me ...
  A: Amanda, You don't have to tell your current boyfriend anything, he should respect that you are not ...
Thanks again6/18/2007
  Q: you don't have to reply to this one. no i haven't been to the doctors yet i was waiting to finish my ...
  A: You're welcome ;) Opening up is a great way to start to get through this. If you cant talk to your ...
adding to question i just asked6/16/2007
  Q: Sorry the other question was long and sorry if i rambled, i just missed a few things i wanted to ...
  A: Rebecca, Wow university will be a good thing for you, and Newcastle is a great place. make sure ...
'scared and confused' again.6/16/2007
  Q: its rebecca,(i wrote before because i had problems about when i was 8 yrs old with my cousin), i'm ...
  A: Rebecca, I am sure you have once said you find a dependancy on alcohol, it could have stemmed from ...
grandma abusing my 4y old little girl?6/14/2007
  Q: I have had this fear for awhile. I will start with a little background information. About 5 yrs ago ...
  A: This is a very difficult question to answer. My instinct is to say that your little girl, last ...
Surviving Hell6/13/2007
  Q: Christine starting to early to remember I was sexually molested by my mother her friend and my aunt. ...
  A: Dean, It is great that you have been able to work through what happened to you, and that you have ...
Was my girlfriend molested6/11/2007
  Q: I am 32 years old and have been dating a 19 year old. Initially, I had some trepedation about ...
  A: Greg, I dont think the issue here is whether your girlfriend was sexually abused or not. Not ...
sibling molestation6/9/2007
  Q: My older half-brother molested my younger sister and I. I have block a lot of it about me, but ...
  A: Jessica, You have many legal rights as victims of child abuse. No matter how much time has passed, ...
I can't remember6/7/2007
  Q: I'm a woman of 32 who have or have had all the adult symptoms of child abuse: - eating disorder - ...
  A: Else, You ask if these incidents are 'bad enough', well abuse of any kind is bad and effects people ...
My daughter has been abused by her step dad6/4/2007
  Q: My daughter just recently informed me that my husband, her step-father sexually abused her once when ...
  A: J, My heart is going out to you it really is. You are doing the right thing in putting your ...
my family is messed up.6/4/2007
  Q: well my name is megan. im almost 15 now my birthday is at the end of this month. well... my ...
  A: Megan, You can not keep this secret just to protect your family name, or your parents. Abuse is ...
Whose to blame6/2/2007
  Q: How does anyone overcome this happening in their lives? I was 5 when I was first sexually abused(?) ...
  A: Pam, I am not sure pointing the finger of blame is the best way to resolve this. You need to ...
No support6/1/2007
  Q: I was molested by my youngest brother when I was 7. I am the baby of the family. My father left when ...
  A: Lorraine, What your brother did to you was completely wrong. I can understand the difficulty you ...
Ways to move on5/27/2007
  Q: I'm 23, married, and have a 2 year old girl. From a very young age, I could not remember any ...
  A: Joy, I can relate to your question on many levels. What your grandfather did was completely immoral ...
follow up to 'scared and confused.'5/26/2007
  Q: i didn't think you would and thanks for being nice about it. Just to clarify a few things you seemed ...
  A: Rebecca, If you dont feel you can tell your parents, maybe print of the questions you have sent me ...
How to Deal5/26/2007
  Q: Last year I sought counseling because I was having racial identity issues. About four months into my ...
  A: Jennifer, Sexual molestation can be carried out by a woman as much as it can a man. What your ...
Scared and confused5/24/2007
  Q: I am 16 years old and when i was 8 years old my cousin started doing things to me, (i'll spare you ...
  A: Rebecca, Firstly you were not to blame before, and you are not to blame now. You have absolutely ...
My 3 yr old was possibly sexually abused how do I tell?5/23/2007
  Q: My 3 yr old has recently taken an interest in his own anus. I have caught him putting his own finger ...
  A: Loretta, Under normal circumstances i would have said it was a 3 year old exploring. You dont say ...
How do I know if my child was "hurt"5/23/2007
  Q: A year ago my daughter had been spending all summer at my family's house while I went to school when ...
  A: Eve, You dont say how old your daughter is. It is very normal for children to explore themselves ...
molestation5/19/2007
  Q: My wife and 4 1/2 year old boy are visiting Grandma and I just received a frantic call from my wife ...
  A: Scott, It would seem you and your wife have done everything right. There is little more you can do, ...
minipulation and possible molestation5/15/2007
  Q: My 8 year old daughter is very confused and angry when her father is in here life. she has been ...
  A: Nina, I would certainly be very concerned about what your daughter has told you. You need to ...
please help5/14/2007
  Q: My husband was molested as a child and is now seeking therapy. He just told me what happpened and ...
  A: Carol, Be there for him, and be his best friend. His emotions are likely to be all over the place, ...
Concerned mother5/10/2007
  Q: I am the mother of a 2 1/2 year old girl. I'm so upset and confused right now, and feel like I have ...
  A: Danni, When she claimed the bee stung her in her arm did you ever find out what it was? I really ...
Molestation by our mother?5/9/2007
  Q: I really hate to ask that question...I feel like I should know the truth already, but, being a ...
  A: Sarah, What a difficult situation you have found yourself in. Firstlty I would suggest talking ...
sexualisation - sexual abuse?5/4/2007
  Q: Im 26 years old, and suffer from borderline personality disorder and depression. I've suffered from ...
  A: Shiobhan, Im really sorry but I can not tell you if your father abused you or not. From what you ...
confused5/3/2007
  Q: i have images in my head from being molested it only happened twice by my moms boyfriend and ive ...
  A: Sarah, After replying to you I found my copy of the book. It is Breaking Free, and is by Carolyn ...
molestation5/2/2007
  Q: When I was 16 years old my dad got messed up on prescription drugs and he crawled in the bed with me ...
  A: Michelle, The body and mind is a very powerful tool, and it can cloud memories so that you dont ...
My friend that is 13 years old and her stepfather touches her in bad ways5/1/2007
  Q: My question is about my friend. she tells me stories about how her stepfather comes in her room when ...
  A: Nikki, What a fantastic friend you are to this girl, and thank you for asking this question! ...
confused4/29/2007
  Q: i have images in my head from being molested it only happened twice by my moms boyfriend and ive ...
  A: Sarah, It is important that you get help for your depression to help you come to terms with what ...
molested4/27/2007
  Q: well let me start by stating that I'm 30 yrs old women youngest of nine children. the first time i ...
  A: Lois, I am sure your friend is indeed right and that you are a good person. To keep secrets like ...
My 3 year old daughter at daycare4/21/2007
  Q: My 3 year old daughter has been going to the same daycare for over a year. Recently she came home ...
  A: Janet, It is very concerning that a child of 4 years old would perfrm such acts. Children do have ...
Help....4/19/2007
  Q: How do I tell if I was molested as a child? About four years ago I started having images flash ...
  A: Cindy, This question is some what vague, and I hope I can help you. Pregnancy is a key trigger to ...
Did I possibly sexually abuse my cousin and don't remember?4/19/2007
  Q: My entire extended family on my mother's side has had quite a history of molestation. I'm not ...
  A: Trevor, Earlier in this question you state that you had to apologise to Paul Jnr for what had ...
I was molested and never dealt with it.4/18/2007
  Q: Growing up I was a year younger than everyone in my class. When I was 13 I started high school and ...
  A: Kate, The answer you need is in your question. You have never dealt with what happened when your ...
molestation4/17/2007
  Q: This may sound very stupid but I need to ask this question because I am so confused. My friends ...
  A: Faith, Drinking can effect the memory, and depending how much he drank would depend on how he was ...
molestation4/15/2007
  Q: My 4 year old child came to me tonight and told me, very nonchalantly, that her friend (5 year old ...
  A: Piper, You are quite right this is not normal behaviour of a 5 year old. Children do experiement, ...
What are the signs of child molestation?4/11/2007
  Q: My 3year old grandchild attempted to act out what looked like oral sex to her mom & me; when ...
  A: Casandra, 3 year old children certainly have active imaginations, but I would be extremely ...
What do I say?4/11/2007
  Q: My niece was 13yrs old..about one year ago my niece went to her school nurse and stated that her ...
  A: Rita, My initial reaction to this question is believe her, and support her. However I know this ...
My father doing stuff to my sister4/11/2007
  Q: I am witnessing my father touch my 14 year old sister. He is always giving her back rubs and hugging ...
  A: Brian, From what you have told me your father is performing inappropriate touches towards your ...
Was my daughter molested??4/10/2007
  Q: My daughter spent alot of time with my brother when she was younger. She is now 12yr old. Looking ...
  A: Patricia, Im concerned as to why you would suspect your brother because of the playful relationship ...
My daughter was molested by her step-father4/4/2007
  Q: A week ago, my daughter wrote me a note saying that my husband touched her for years, that it wasn't ...
  A: Anastasia, I cant imagine how this must be for you and your family. As you will appreciate I cant ...
how do i deal4/3/2007
  Q: about a 2 years ago my sister jen (11 atthe time) asked me if it waz bad if some one tuched her ...
  A: Sadie, I am from the UK, and although I am not familiar with the American care system, I am going ...
Molested4/2/2007
  Q: I was molested by someone i always thought was a family friend from when i was three years old(maybe ...
  A: Aly, It is never to late to press charges. You have been brave telling your mom and it must be so ...
molestation as a kid going crazy now4/1/2007
  Q: I am a 28 year old woman that is now feeling like i am going crazy and i have no medical to get ...
  A: Shavon, Im sorry your mom isnt being supportive at this difficult time. Maybe she is finding it ...
molestation as a kid going crazy now4/1/2007
  Q: I am a 28 year old woman that is now feeling like i am going crazy and i have no medical to get ...
  A: Shavon, I am from the UK and so I am really sorry I am not familiar with the concept of having to ...
Molestation3/28/2007
  Q: I don't know where to begin. I have two daughters one is 5 and the other is 10. With my ten year old ...
  A: Tonya, Both your daughters have made a very serious allegation, and they should be treated as such. ...
molestation3/26/2007
  Q: 30 years ago, I was married to a man that I am just now finding out molested two of my children. My ...
  A: Stephanie, I can not imagine how horrific this must be to you and your family. It doesnt matter ...
Is It 2 Late!?3/22/2007
  Q: i am 16 now but when i was sexually abused it was when i was 3 and i have never told anyone and i ...
  A: Kiara, I know just how hard it is to finally say out loud that you were sexually abused, you have ...
Please help!3/6/2007
  Q: I don't know if you can help me or not. My mother-in-law has been noticing signs in my 4 year old ...
  A: Stephanie, Im really sorry this confusion has come into your life, and I hope it can be resolved ...

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