| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Could I have been molested? | 10/26/2009 |
Q: Christine, I think I could have been molested by my nephew, probably between the age of 2 and 4. I ...
A: Charlene, I am very sorry but I can not answer the question 'could I have been molested?'. My first ...
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| three year old | 10/20/2009 |
Q: Chistine, I too was abused as a child and would like to present you with a situation involving my ...
A: Phyllis, My first reaction is to have her checked at the doctor again. It maybe that the infection ...
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| Infant/Toddler Signs of Molestation | 9/27/2009 |
Q: I have a situation and not sure how to handle it. Recently my 2 children were temporarily placed in ...
A: Crystal, When you did change her diaper did you notice any redness or sores? At 18 months she is ...
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| scars | 9/22/2009 |
Q: if a child was raped at 5 bye a 30 year old man would there be scars from the rape on her privates ...
A: Kassandra, I am very sorry but I really can not offer up any advice to help your uncle. The ...
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| 11-Year old daughter | 9/21/2009 |
Q: I hope you can give me some advice before I go nuts! My (barely) 11 year old daughter, who came ...
A: Melissa, A girl of 13 is raging with hormones and her body is changing so quickly. That is no ...
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| scars | 9/21/2009 |
Q: if a child was raped at 5 bye a 30 year old man would there be scars from the rape on her privates ...
A: Kassandra, I dont think there would be any physical evidence after 12 years. If the 5 year old ...
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| my 6yr old has been molested by her 10yr old half brother | 9/21/2009 |
Q: ...while in her father's care. I involved CPS, who substantiated neglect and abuse initially and ...
A: Michele, I hope I havent misinterpritated the question, but it seems you're needing answers with ...
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| 11-Year old daughter | 9/21/2009 |
Q: I hope you can give me some advice before I go nuts! My (barely) 11 year old daughter, who came ...
A: Melissa, You dont say how old the step-sister is. I will not make any excuses, but it could be a ...
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| I was molested, but did I molest someone? | 8/17/2009 |
Q: I was molested when I was 5 years old. I told my family when I was 9 years old. The man who molested ...
A: Nancy, It is very positive to read how you have over come your past and your fears. This incident, ...
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| Please help | 8/17/2009 |
Q: I am a 23 yo guy. I recently visited my family on vacation - they say about 1000 miles away. I was ...
A: Jason, As the adult, it was your duty to make clear appropriate behaviour, and in this instance I ...
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| incest | 8/15/2009 |
Q: My Father was a very aggresive obsesive man. He was strict. He beat me and my mother and my older ...
A: Sandra, There are a lot of different issues in your questions. At the time of the abuse, your ...
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| 3 year old. | 8/13/2009 |
Q: I have a 3 year old daughter, three days ago she told me that her and her 6 year old step cousin ...
A: Jennifer, I think in this instance honesty is the best way forward, and you should talk with your ...
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| My 9 year old may be touching his 3 year old brother | 8/11/2009 |
Q: My 9 year old son has recently admitted to asking his 3 year old brother to "kiss" his penis. ...
A: Trisha, Im so sorry I did not get back to you soon, I have been away and was delayed on my return. ...
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| My daughter touched another girl | 8/11/2009 |
Q: My eight year old daughter (I'll call her Riley) had our five year old girl neighbor (Amie) over to ...
A: Nancy, I think you need each need to deal with your own children. You need to sit your daughter ...
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| court order | 7/11/2009 |
Q: My ex partner admitted to me he molested my daughter, we have been going through courts and no ...
A: Tina, I am not familiar with American law, however, I assume a court order is very much the same as ...
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| my niece has been acting out. | 7/8/2009 |
Q: my little brother's daughter has been acting out. he is very scared that someone has been molesting ...
A: Nichole, I really think the best thing to do is get her checked by the doctors. I also think it is ...
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| I think my boyfriend is molesting his neice! PLease please help! | 7/1/2009 |
Q: She is 3 and this is what i observed.. He was naked in the bathroom with her about to shower ...
A: Rochelle, I am struggling with an answer for this question if I am completely honest! I think I ...
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| My Daughters | 6/29/2009 |
Q: My wife and I split up about a year and a half ago. we have two daughters, who are now 5 and 3. ...
A: James, In light of this I think I would personally go straight to the child protection services. ...
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| My Daughters | 6/29/2009 |
Q: My wife and I split up about a year and a half ago. we have two daughters, who are now 5 and 3. ...
A: James, This display of behaviour certainly indicates the girls are not happy, but not necessarily ...
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| is my daughter being molested? | 5/12/2009 |
Q: i have a 5 year old daughter with PDD. shes 5 but emotionally acts like shes 3. both parents are in ...
A: Ashley, You are not sick!! It is not unusual for you to experience the flashbacks and memories. I ...
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| is my daughter being molested? | 5/12/2009 |
Q: i have a 5 year old daughter with PDD. shes 5 but emotionally acts like shes 3. both parents are in ...
A: Ashley, Its really difficult for me to answer your question. I can not possibley say that your ...
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| Possible sexual abuse on 1 and 3 year old | 4/2/2009 |
Q: Last year my daughter took my grandson age 2 and granddaughter age 1 to the doctor because of yeast ...
A: Anne, If you have reason to suspect then I would go and talk with the CPS. It is evident that ...
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| Tell Tale signs of abuse. | 3/31/2009 |
Q: My son has recently been spending alot of time at his dad's house. His dad is a good man and i am ...
A: Dec, Have you checked to see if he has any redness around that area? If he is pushing his finger up ...
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| 5 year old son molested by 7 year old cousin | 3/30/2009 |
Q: 3 days ago my 5 year old son was molested by my 7 year old nephew. They both came out of my sons ...
A: Vj, I can totally understand your anger and upset. I am going to separate this question into 2 ...
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| Getting the history of a sex offender checked. | 3/30/2009 |
Q: I have recently found that a person I know was convicted of gross indecency just over 30 years ago. ...
A: Sophie, Thank you for re-writing your original question. I didnt want to send you an automated ...
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| help | 3/30/2009 |
Q: when my daughter was 11 i found my husbands in her room while she was sleeping with his penis ...
A: Neecis, Your husband is completely in the wrong and you should not be tolerating this from him. He ...
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| Potential Abuse | 3/29/2009 |
Q: My 10 year old daughter told me that my live in boyfriend of 5 years had come into her room when she ...
A: Steph, Does your daughter have a tendancy to lie? If not then I would take her claims as ...
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| Molestation? | 3/27/2009 |
Q: Ok well I'm Katie and I'm 14 years old and last year about this time this kid came and sat next to ...
A: Katie, If anyone violates your personal space without your permission then it is molestation (even ...
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| My wife's fears | 3/23/2009 |
Q: My wife was sexually abused by her father pre teen, when that stopped he started talking sexually ...
A: Michael, Its hard to know if your wifes hisory is effecting her present without talking with her. ...
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| My 13 yr old son had shown his 8 yr old cousin how to Masturbate. | 3/19/2009 |
Q: We had just learned that our son had masturbated in front of his 8 year(boy)old cousin over the ...
A: I would talk with your son and explain to him why he can not do what he did. Reassure him that ...
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| Internet. | 2/10/2009 |
Q: Can you resend your previous answer to my new email address,I received the last one at my othe ...
A: You are not wasting my time, and please dont be sorry. I do answer questions on molestation, but ...
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| Internet. | 2/9/2009 |
Q: Can you resend your previous answer to my new email address,I received the last one at my othe ...
A: Well he wants to meet me and he urges me to send him a picture and I keep telling him no.But what if ...
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| Internet. | 2/9/2009 |
Q: I have a serious question.Okay there is this older guy,He's 50 (I'm 13) that I talk to over the ...
A: You really need to delete him and inform your parents. I am sorry to be blunt, none of this is yur ...
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| Internet. | 2/8/2009 |
Q: I have a serious question.Okay there is this older guy,He's 50 (I'm 13) that I talk to over the ...
A: Assuming you have given him no personal details, like home address then delete this person from your ...
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| How to tell if My 3 year old was being touched in-properly | 2/7/2009 |
Q: It all started about a week or so before Christmas. I noticed that he was acting alittle ...
A: This has been a very difficult question for me to answer, and I am sorry for the delay in replying. ...
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| molested by a family member | 2/7/2009 |
Q: I'm 17 years old and when I was around 6 or 7, I think i was molested by my grandfather. I trusted ...
A: Ness, It is very possible that your current feelings about being intimate are directly related to ...
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| denied molestation | 2/3/2009 |
Q: It has come to light that my childrens step grandfather of 20 years has been molesting SEVERAL of ...
A: Randi, Have the police or childrens services spoke with your children? They would be very good at ...
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| molested | 2/1/2009 |
Q: I read your story and have had the same experience when I was younger. Probably 5 or 6 years ago. My ...
A: I am sorry that it has taken me a few days to respond to you. You have taken a great first in ...
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| Please help!!! | 12/30/2008 |
Q: I am in a difficult situation! My 4 years old came to me and told me she was touched by my step dad! ...
A: Erica, I would seriously consider reportng this man to the authorities. I know that may seem a very ...
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| Confused! | 12/28/2008 |
Q: Today my three year old little boy told me that his penis hurt. The rim where the foreskin stops was ...
A: Michelle, I would take your son to have a check with the doctor. Whether or not his story is true, ...
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| molestation | 12/24/2008 |
Q: The other day my neighbor asked if my son could come over and play with her son.I dont know them ...
A: Isabella, With regards to your other son, I would sit your older son down and talk with him. ...
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| child molestation | 12/23/2008 |
Q: I just found out that my daughter was molested by her father (biological) at a young age. She ...
A: Melinda, Yes it is very possible that the father molested one child and not the other, for many ...
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| Bathing with a child. | 12/22/2008 |
Q: recently i have had an argument with my wife about bathing with our daughter . Her name is Angelika ...
A: Sebastian, I do not see a problem with you taking a bath with your daughter. It really is your own ...
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| Very confused. | 12/15/2008 |
Q: Ok so to start with I am 16 yrs. old and a junior in highschool. My parents divorced when I was 13. ...
A: Brooke, Are your sisters still in touch with the children services? Is there any member of that ...
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| who should i tell? | 11/6/2008 |
Q: I have a question pertaining to the steps i need to take. I was sexually molested by a babysitter ...
A: Dan, I can understand why you feel you need to talk about this now. A lot of people go through ...
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| possible molested | 11/2/2008 |
Q: My 15 year old and her friends were tell eachother their biggest secret and she said her dad (my ...
A: Juli, I think it is important now to clarify what your daughter meant, and how much truth is in it. ...
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| molestation | 11/1/2008 |
Q: How can i tell if my 3yr old niece is being molested? I have encounter some signs but dont' know ...
A: Sam, I would talk to your neice, or get a parent to do it, abouthow she really should not be ...
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| molestation | 10/10/2008 |
Q: What signs would a 1 1/2 year old display if she was being sexually abused? I let a male neighbor ...
A: Jessica, As your daughter is very young it makes it a lot more difficult to asses whether or not ...
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| Grandfather Molesting Son | 9/26/2008 |
Q: Sigh... So, recently my brave son told my wife and I that his grandpa has been touching him. Before ...
A: Jason, I am really sorry to read this, and could almost feel some of your hurting. I saw the pain ...
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| sexual abuse on a child | 9/25/2008 |
Q: The other day my little boy who just turned four, told me that his daddy kisses his pee pee. I ...
A: Gwen, yes I think you did the right thing. If you are speaking with your ex then try asking him to ...
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| Molested by father , feeling guilty for still being angry | 9/23/2008 |
Q: My father molested me on several occasions when I was 11. I am now 44. I have lived my whole adult ...
A: Tina, I am really sorry for the delay in my response to your question. I have been ill and not had ...
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| My 3 year old is acting strange.. | 9/23/2008 |
Q: I have been with this guy for a year now and at first he did everything for my son then he started ...
A: Trina, If your son seems physically unwell and off balance it might be best to have him checked by ...
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| What would this be called? | 9/20/2008 |
Q: When i was a little kid so young that i don't even remember when it started up until i was 13 a ...
A: Jennifer, Any unwilling sexual activity done to you, or forced on you to act is classed as ...
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| Day care molestation? | 9/15/2008 |
Q: My fixing to be two year old just started going to daycare... I am a lil worried..I know kids get a ...
A: Teresa, Im not sure I completely understand the question, however if your daughter is complaining ...
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| brothers | 9/6/2008 |
Q: My husband is 31 years old. He insists that he was molested by both of his brothers from the ages of ...
A: Stacie, You're very welcome and Im glad my response helped a little. Even if his mother didn't ...
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| Thank you Dad for runing my life | 8/31/2008 |
Q: Calling my father the Antichrist is such a gross understatement. He molested me,beat me, ...
A: Elise, The book I used was Breaking Free written by Carolyn Ainscough and Kay Toon. I googled, ...
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| Thank you Dad for runing my life | 8/25/2008 |
Q: Calling my father the Antichrist is such a gross understatement. He molested me,beat me, ...
A: Elise, Different therapies, and methods work differently for each person. I am happy to share my ...
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| child molestation | 8/19/2008 |
Q: I am concerned that my boyfriend is molesting his 3 year old niece whom he lives with. I feel it in ...
A: Leah, I dont for one minute think you are small minded, if that was the case then over half the ...
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| child molestation | 8/19/2008 |
Q: I am concerned that my boyfriend is molesting his 3 year old niece whom he lives with. I feel it in ...
A: Leah, Ive been struggling with how to phrase this answer, as I dont mean to sound bad or offend. ...
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| innaproriate touching children | 8/16/2008 |
Q: My 6 year old daughter recently told me that her 13 year old step-sister "did sex" with her and ...
A: Erin, I would not just leave it at separation. Both girls need to be spoken to you. Your daughter ...
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| Could my granddaughters be victims? | 7/30/2008 |
Q: Over a year ago, I noticed my then-six year old granddaughter almost constantly rubbing and touching ...
A: Laurie, The youngest granddaughter is probably copying her sister. Someone needs to sit the eldest ...
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| telling my boyfriend | 7/30/2008 |
Q: I have fallen head over heels for the most amaxing guy i have ever met. I am 19 and he is 21 we met ...
A: Stephanie, If this guy is as amazing as you believe he is then telling him will not change your ...
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| Is my 7yr old daughter lying about being molested | 7/29/2008 |
Q: recently my daughter came home and told me that my husband makes her rub his peepee. My husband says ...
A: Nicole, You know your husband, and daughter, and you have to decide who you are going to believe. ...
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| can a 4yr old act out on whats happenig to her by doing it to other kids | 7/29/2008 |
Q: my 5yr old daughter was complaining about her toody(vagina) hurting. I ask'd her why does it hurt ...
A: To get to the bottom of this you are going to have to speak to the little girls parents. It wouldn't ...
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| possible child molestation signs | 7/12/2008 |
Q: My 4 year old attempted to perform oral sex on me, her mother, while I was asleep. She was very ...
A: Sherri, The bed wetting could just be a phase, she is at that age. Some children do regress at this ...
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| Wife molested as child | 6/23/2008 |
Q: When my wife says she doesnt love herself and doesnt like who she is and says other people see me ...
A: Dwayne, I really dont feel like I have the experience to answer this question any more than I have ...
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| my 2 year old son | 6/19/2008 |
Q: my son goes to a nursery and for the last 2 weeks when i change his nappy he screams and wont let me ...
A: Hannah, I would most certainly take him to your doctor. If he is in pain it may be that he has an ...
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| The haunting past. | 6/6/2008 |
Q: I'm looking for some advice although I am not really sure what or why. My story is a lot like yours ...
A: Russel, You are very right in that the past is the past! The decision you have to make is what ...
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| answer to my question. | 4/2/2008 |
Q: Not sure if you could see my question and William Silvers' answer. But is it considered sexual abuse ...
A: I will have to go through Mr Silver's questions to find this question/answer, and not all the ...
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| A Boyfriends Past | 3/26/2008 |
Q: I've been casually dating a guy for the past 2 months and its getting to point where we need to ...
A: Abby, It wouldnt be right for me to tell you which choice to make. However, your relationship ...
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| child abuse | 3/23/2008 |
Q: How does one question a child to determine if they've been molested? What kinds of questions could ...
A: Nan, This is a very vague question. It really would depend on the situation, who was involved and ...
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| Best Friends Husband is Scary | 3/18/2008 |
Q: My best friends husband is a closet alchoholic who has been fired from 2 jobs for sexual misconduct, ...
A: Sheree, I think you have made a good decision in sharing your concerns with your friend. There is ...
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| How to help my kids... | 3/17/2008 |
Q: I have 15 yr. old twins, a boy and a girl, and have just recently separated from their father due to ...
A: Sarah, Your children are going through so much at the moment, it is no surprise they are acting ...
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| Ignored | 3/3/2008 |
Q: I was molested when I was growing up between the ages of 6 and 13 by my uncle. I kept it a secret ...
A: Erika, How old are you? Where do you live? Can you not make the police report and explain to them ...
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| my son thinks hes not a virgin | 2/27/2008 |
Q: Im writing you with some questions that have recently come up. My now 13 year old son was molested ...
A: Tonya, If your sons abuser penetrated him then it was sex. However, I think it is more important to ...
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| I dont know what to do. | 2/23/2008 |
Q: Yesterday when I was changing my 2 1/2 year old daughter she said that it hurt. She had been saying ...
A: Amanda, At her age it is possible that she has mixed up events or things that have happened, she is ...
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| I'm not sure... | 2/16/2008 |
Q: Ok, so I'm not exactly sure how to say all this so it makes sense but I'm going to try. When I was ...
A: Grace, It is possible that your childhood abuse is subconsciously causing you problems now. If you ...
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| Help, my 4 year old. | 2/10/2008 |
Q: Well, to make a story short (cause it's been 2 years going) when my daughter was 2 1/2 she told me ...
A: Natasha, I know you dont want to hear my answer, but really it is the only answer I can give you in ...
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| Girlfriend Molested by her father | 2/7/2008 |
Q: I've read a few of your answers and thought maybe you could help with my situation. My girlfriend ...
A: Shannan, I can truely understand how frustrating, and hurtful this situation must be for you. ...
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| Possible abuse | 2/3/2008 |
Q: When I was a boy (I must've been about 9 or 10) I remember waking up in my bed in a state of arousal ...
A: David, I would advise you to speak with your father. Do not feel daft, you have a right to an ...
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| Sexual Abuse of my daughter by my father | 2/2/2008 |
Q: A year ago my daughter told me that she has been sexually abused by my father. Things have gone ...
A: Darcy, Have you reported this to the police. You are right there is never 2 sides to a story like ...
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| My daughter... | 2/1/2008 |
Q: My daughter is 15 months old. Lately she has been cranky and clingy. I thought she might be going ...
A: Melissa I wont tell you that you are over reacting, because you're not. You have noticed a change in ...
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| I think somone did somthing to my daughter | 1/30/2008 |
Q: I went to stay with some people i knew wail my boyfriend was out of town and i was drugged and ended ...
A: Jess, The comments this person made are almost certainly a weird comment to just make. At the time ...
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| two year old might have been molested | 1/28/2008 |
Q: **Name changed from original. My fiancee has a little girl it she's about 2 1/2 years old. This is ...
A: Jessica, I really can not condone video typing and questioning of a 2 year old little girl. If you ...
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| Is this molestation? | 1/16/2008 |
Q: Ever since I was 7 and my brother 12, we would please each other sexually. I wasn't sure exactly ...
A: Stephanie, I would be inclined to say in the early years this was a case of sexual curiousity, ...
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| Molested | 1/12/2008 |
Q: i was molested when i was 6 years old. My uncle used to make me perform acts on his younger sister ...
A: Michael, You need to deal with what you went through as a child. Its good that you have realised ...
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| molestation | 1/9/2008 |
Q: Okay, my name is Stacey and i was wondering i was molested when i was 7 or 8 and I'm 17 now, and i ...
A: Stacey, I dont know the rights for patients in America, but your psychariatrist will have a code of ...
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| My 2 year old daughter and my 4 year old nephew | 1/2/2008 |
Q: I adopted my Niece who is 2 well her brother came to spend the night for two days and everything was ...
A: Jennifer, Do you spend much time with your nephew? Has he had any noticable character changes? Is ...
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| Did my pediatrician molest me? | 12/12/2007 |
Q: I was 11 having a yearly physical. My family doctor told me to lie down on the table, then he ...
A: Becky, 30 years ago the medical profession was very different from we know it as now. Ive never ...
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| 4 Year Story about a Stranger | 12/12/2007 |
Q: My wife was driving with our 2 and 4 years old boys several days ago and the four your started to ...
A: Kevin, This is a really difficult question for me to answer. I have a 4 year old son, and like you ...
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| Molested at a very young age. | 12/11/2007 |
Q: I recently learned that my father had molested me. I can't remember any of it and I'm not sure when ...
A: Cassie, I am not a proffessional in child psychology so I can not give you an accurate answer, but ...
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| Molestation? | 12/10/2007 |
Q: When I was around the age of 6 I was touched by a friend that was about three years older then me.. ...
A: Aubrey, You are not clear about what happened, but I would assume you meant the touching was of a ...
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| I need to help someone cope... | 12/6/2007 |
Q: I need help. My sister in law came to me and told me that she had been molested by her uncle from ...
A: Jody, Could you not direct your sister in law to this site. We are not all proffessionals, just ...
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| My boyfriend was molested by his mother | 12/6/2007 |
Q: Please help. My boyfriend has just admitted to me that his mother molested him when he was young. He ...
A: Cindy, If your boyfriend has told you this information then he clearly trusts you with something ...
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| I can't forgive myself | 12/6/2007 |
Q: I was 8 and the boy was 6, he was a twin. There was another girl who was 12 and we were all in a ...
A: Kaelyn, My first reaction to your question is to remind you how old you were! You were only a child ...
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| homosexual male molesting a girl? | 11/4/2007 |
Q: . this sounds like molestation but the person she said is a homosexual male the parents dont want to ...
A: Sally, just because this man is gay does not mean he isn't capable of such a thing. This little girl ...
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| I was molested by my adoptive father | 11/3/2007 |
Q: I think I have managed to suppress the severity of what happened to me when I was younger. To the ...
A: Daisy, You were not old enough to consent to your adoptive father. What happened to you was ...
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| Grandfather molested daughter? | 9/29/2007 |
Q: How do I deal as a parent with my daughter believing that my father molested her when she was very ...
A: Steve, I wouldnt make excuses for your daughter, tell them your daughter has things going on she ...
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| a child could be in trouble | 9/29/2007 |
Q: well i have been living with my cousins for awhile now and one of them is married with a daughter ...
A: Tee, Im very sorry, I have no internet connection at home due to a technical fsult and therefore ...
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| Grandfather molested daughter? | 9/27/2007 |
Q: How do I deal as a parent with my daughter believing that my father molested her when she was very ...
A: Steve, Do you believe your daughter? I think it is her that you should be talking to, not your ...
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| I wonder if my husband is abusing our son | 9/24/2007 |
Q: Last week I was using my husbands computer and I went into the history needless to say I was shocked ...
A: Twila, Downloading child porn is an offence itself, and should not be ignored. Respected adult or ...
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| Former Abuser | 9/21/2007 |
Q: I'm looking for some help and sanity, maybe you can provide some advise. I'm a 36 year old male with ...
A: Albert, I have read this with a lot of thought and emotion. What you are going through must be so ...
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| molested or not? i dont know | 9/18/2007 |
Q: when i was 10 or 11 yrs old my step-dad came to my room and laid on top of me trying to force ...
A: Jamie, What you describe sounds to me as attempted molestation. Did happen again, or since? Could ...
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| When is touching actually abuse? | 9/10/2007 |
Q: My daughter, her boyfriend and his kids from a previous marriage recently moved in with us. The kids ...
A: Kim, What you describe to me is abuse. This girl is 8, and surely would know if she was wet or not. ...
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| Could this be molestation | 9/9/2007 |
Q: Here are the facts: I changed my daughter My daughter (3 ½ yr-old) recently started to touch ...
A: Ana, Im so sorry this answer is do late getting to you, I had a family problem I could not ignore ...
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| HELP ME | 9/4/2007 |
Q: when i was groing up between the ages of 5 and 9 i was molested by my byologicle father and i kept ...
A: Amanda, Talk with your parents again and tell them how you feel. They will listen to you and try to ...
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| follow up question | 8/27/2007 |
Q: i no she has 2 report it but she doesnt want 2. she doesnt want 2 go anywhere. can i report it? & ...
A: Stephon, Yes you can report this. She will however need to give a statement for a conviction. Speak ...
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| could my 2 year old son have been molested? | 8/26/2007 |
Q: I have been wondering if my son was molested by someone I thought I knew real well who I considered ...
A: Crystal, A slight deviation, but I am also a member of a parenting website. The site was set up 2 ...
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| my bestfriend betrayed me | 8/23/2007 |
Q: im 22 & my parents wud go 2 jamaica every sumer 4 the past 3 years so it wud b my sis & i alone.my ...
A: Stephon, Your sister needs to report this man for what he did to her. Talk to her and reassure her ...
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| i have been molested since i was 13 years old | 8/22/2007 |
Q: my step father has molested me since i was 13 years old till now im 17 years old.. no matter what i ...
A: Kyrsten, As you do not specify where you are from I can not advise you best on who you can contact. ...
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| the family afterwards | 8/22/2007 |
Q: I was molested by my brother at age 6 for several years. I have told all my family. My family is a ...
A: JoLee, I am very sorry I do not have any experience with EFT. I do have some experience with person ...
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| the family afterwards | 8/20/2007 |
Q: I was molested by my brother at age 6 for several years. I have told all my family. My family is a ...
A: JoLee, It is not uncommon for you to still feel so hurt after all these years. Your family are ...
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| about my niece | 8/1/2007 |
Q: A few weeks ago my niece who i hadnt seen came up from ohio to spend time with me and grandpa(my ...
A: Heather, Im so sorry to hear you are in this situation. Does your niece want to press charges? ...
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| What are the signs of infant molestation? | 7/29/2007 |
Q: Can you tell me the signs for infant through toddler. I can not find anything on the internet to ...
A: Dawn, Each child is different, and signs that could indicate to molestation could also mean a lot ...
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| my physical relationship with my wife | 7/26/2007 |
Q: my wife (33) and i (38) have been married 5 years. we have 2 sons together. i was previously married ...
A: Simon, I will try and answer these questions as they were presented. If your wife has dealt with ...
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| My daughter inappropriately touched by her half brother | 7/25/2007 |
Q: My daughter came home from her Dad's with a notebook full of sexual questions and statements. When ...
A: Cheryl, Although danger isnt the word I had firstly used, yes something does need to be done with ...
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| daughter &cousin | 7/24/2007 |
Q: what do I do, daughter is not in same state lives with mother and new step dad aleged molestation of ...
A: Duncan, I would talk to your daughter and find out what she say's has happened. If an allegation ...
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| i have been molested since i was 13 years old | 7/24/2007 |
Q: my step father has molested me since i was 13 years old till now im 17 years old.. no matter what i ...
A: Kyrsten, It is important that you contact the police again and make a statement. They legally have ...
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| Could this be molestation | 7/20/2007 |
Q: Here are the facts: I changed my daughter My daughter (3 ½ yr-old) recently started to touch ...
A: Your daughter is still very much the innocent little girl you know. She is just learning about her ...
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| Could this be molestation | 7/18/2007 |
Q: Here are the facts: I changed my daughter My daughter (3 ½ yr-old) recently started to touch ...
A: and I hope I will be able to reassure you and your family. My initial thoughts are not those of ...
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| is husband a molester? | 7/16/2007 |
Q: I have been getting these feelings about my husband and I'm not sure what to make of them. He has a ...
A: Summer, I always say go with your gut feeling, especially when parents are asking me questions with ...
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| sexual abuse | 7/10/2007 |
Q: My four year old son was "touched" by a 12 year old neighbour boy. My son told me right after it ...
A: Rose, I would not worry at this stage if it will affect him, only time will tell. At the age of 4 ...
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| My son's friend | 7/9/2007 |
Q: On a trip my son and I were taking as a mother son day, we had gotten on the subject of friends, ...
A: You havent stated how old these boys are, although it doesn't make that much difference. Firstly, ...
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| healthly relationship with a woman that was abused as a child? | 7/8/2007 |
Q: First, I am so willing to help this woman, my soul mate, overcome this pain she carries inside, I ...
A: Chris, I am so sorry for the delay in replying, I have had internet complications. I am in no ...
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| Still dealing with molestion for over ten years | 7/8/2007 |
Q: When I was either 7 or 8 I'm not sure when because I tried to block it from my memory. I was ...
A: Janet, My apologies in the time delay for replying to this message I couldnt get on line! You have ...
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| Was I molested? | 7/5/2007 |
Q: Back in February of this year, I was groped by an older, possibly drunk, teenaged boy at a Safeway. ...
A: Carly, Personal invasion of one's body without consent is certainly wrong. Everyone has a right to ...
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| How can I tell? | 7/4/2007 |
Q: From the time my oldest son was 3, he has shown unusual behavior that has concerned me. My ex and I ...
A: Aaron, Firstly, just because a person is abused as a child, it does not mean they will develop into ...
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| question for my baby | 7/2/2007 |
Q: My baby girl is 2 years old and she goes over her Dads house just about every weekend. I have always ...
A: Jasmin, Children of this age do this 'humping' movement almost like a relax, when on all fours its ...
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| Child Molested | 6/30/2007 |
Q: I hope that I can Find a way to get out of this feeling. I was 6 yers old when I got raped by two ...
A: Suz, Having sexual desires for the same sex is not uncommon, it also does not mean it is a direct ...
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| thoughts of suicide.. | 6/27/2007 |
Q: im a 15 year old girl.. i live in a family that obuse;s me. physicaly,emotionaly and sexualy.. *u ...
A: Rachel, It is very important that you go and speak to your family doctor about receiving help for ...
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| Child Molested | 6/27/2007 |
Q: I hope that I can Find a way to get out of this feeling. I was 6 yers old when I got raped by two ...
A: Suz, I think you need to find closure on the rape you suffered as a child. Once that is no longer ...
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| Son reported inappropriate touching to us a year ago, now he's displaying this behavior | 6/25/2007 |
Q: April of 2006 our then almost 4yo son told me that the 13yo girl next door asked to touch his penis ...
A: Stacey, It's very difficult to see if an incident will affect a child in time to come. Some things ...
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| Incest?? | 6/22/2007 |
Q: What is it called when a step daughter and step father have sex? Is that incest? What if the ...
A: Christina, Incest is blood relations having sexual relationships. If these two adults are not blood ...
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| I think my son's step-grandfather may have molested him... | 6/19/2007 |
Q: I sent this to another expert on this site, but I would like to get as much input as possible on ...
A: Natasha, Your son certainly seem's to be upset about something. I usualy say follow your instinct, ...
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| Having flashbacks | 6/18/2007 |
Q: I was sexually abused by 3 differant people growing up. Once by my brother growing up, he touched me ...
A: Amanda, You don't have to tell your current boyfriend anything, he should respect that you are not ...
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| Thanks again | 6/18/2007 |
Q: you don't have to reply to this one. no i haven't been to the doctors yet i was waiting to finish my ...
A: You're welcome ;) Opening up is a great way to start to get through this. If you cant talk to your ...
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| adding to question i just asked | 6/16/2007 |
Q: Sorry the other question was long and sorry if i rambled, i just missed a few things i wanted to ...
A: Rebecca, Wow university will be a good thing for you, and Newcastle is a great place. make sure ...
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| 'scared and confused' again. | 6/16/2007 |
Q: its rebecca,(i wrote before because i had problems about when i was 8 yrs old with my cousin), i'm ...
A: Rebecca, I am sure you have once said you find a dependancy on alcohol, it could have stemmed from ...
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| grandma abusing my 4y old little girl? | 6/14/2007 |
Q: I have had this fear for awhile. I will start with a little background information. About 5 yrs ago ...
A: This is a very difficult question to answer. My instinct is to say that your little girl, last ...
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| Surviving Hell | 6/13/2007 |
Q: Christine starting to early to remember I was sexually molested by my mother her friend and my aunt. ...
A: Dean, It is great that you have been able to work through what happened to you, and that you have ...
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| Was my girlfriend molested | 6/11/2007 |
Q: I am 32 years old and have been dating a 19 year old. Initially, I had some trepedation about ...
A: Greg, I dont think the issue here is whether your girlfriend was sexually abused or not. Not ...
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| sibling molestation | 6/9/2007 |
Q: My older half-brother molested my younger sister and I. I have block a lot of it about me, but ...
A: Jessica, You have many legal rights as victims of child abuse. No matter how much time has passed, ...
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| I can't remember | 6/7/2007 |
Q: I'm a woman of 32 who have or have had all the adult symptoms of child abuse: - eating disorder - ...
A: Else, You ask if these incidents are 'bad enough', well abuse of any kind is bad and effects people ...
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| My daughter has been abused by her step dad | 6/4/2007 |
Q: My daughter just recently informed me that my husband, her step-father sexually abused her once when ...
A: J, My heart is going out to you it really is. You are doing the right thing in putting your ...
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| my family is messed up. | 6/4/2007 |
Q: well my name is megan. im almost 15 now my birthday is at the end of this month. well... my ...
A: Megan, You can not keep this secret just to protect your family name, or your parents. Abuse is ...
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| Whose to blame | 6/2/2007 |
Q: How does anyone overcome this happening in their lives? I was 5 when I was first sexually abused(?) ...
A: Pam, I am not sure pointing the finger of blame is the best way to resolve this. You need to ...
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| No support | 6/1/2007 |
Q: I was molested by my youngest brother when I was 7. I am the baby of the family. My father left when ...
A: Lorraine, What your brother did to you was completely wrong. I can understand the difficulty you ...
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| Ways to move on | 5/27/2007 |
Q: I'm 23, married, and have a 2 year old girl. From a very young age, I could not remember any ...
A: Joy, I can relate to your question on many levels. What your grandfather did was completely immoral ...
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| follow up to 'scared and confused.' | 5/26/2007 |
Q: i didn't think you would and thanks for being nice about it. Just to clarify a few things you seemed ...
A: Rebecca, If you dont feel you can tell your parents, maybe print of the questions you have sent me ...
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| How to Deal | 5/26/2007 |
Q: Last year I sought counseling because I was having racial identity issues. About four months into my ...
A: Jennifer, Sexual molestation can be carried out by a woman as much as it can a man. What your ...
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| Scared and confused | 5/24/2007 |
Q: I am 16 years old and when i was 8 years old my cousin started doing things to me, (i'll spare you ...
A: Rebecca, Firstly you were not to blame before, and you are not to blame now. You have absolutely ...
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| My 3 yr old was possibly sexually abused how do I tell? | 5/23/2007 |
Q: My 3 yr old has recently taken an interest in his own anus. I have caught him putting his own finger ...
A: Loretta, Under normal circumstances i would have said it was a 3 year old exploring. You dont say ...
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| How do I know if my child was "hurt" | 5/23/2007 |
Q: A year ago my daughter had been spending all summer at my family's house while I went to school when ...
A: Eve, You dont say how old your daughter is. It is very normal for children to explore themselves ...
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| molestation | 5/19/2007 |
Q: My wife and 4 1/2 year old boy are visiting Grandma and I just received a frantic call from my wife ...
A: Scott, It would seem you and your wife have done everything right. There is little more you can do, ...
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| minipulation and possible molestation | 5/15/2007 |
Q: My 8 year old daughter is very confused and angry when her father is in here life. she has been ...
A: Nina, I would certainly be very concerned about what your daughter has told you. You need to ...
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| please help | 5/14/2007 |
Q: My husband was molested as a child and is now seeking therapy. He just told me what happpened and ...
A: Carol, Be there for him, and be his best friend. His emotions are likely to be all over the place, ...
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| Concerned mother | 5/10/2007 |
Q: I am the mother of a 2 1/2 year old girl. I'm so upset and confused right now, and feel like I have ...
A: Danni, When she claimed the bee stung her in her arm did you ever find out what it was? I really ...
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| Molestation by our mother? | 5/9/2007 |
Q: I really hate to ask that question...I feel like I should know the truth already, but, being a ...
A: Sarah, What a difficult situation you have found yourself in. Firstlty I would suggest talking ...
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| sexualisation - sexual abuse? | 5/4/2007 |
Q: Im 26 years old, and suffer from borderline personality disorder and depression. I've suffered from ...
A: Shiobhan, Im really sorry but I can not tell you if your father abused you or not. From what you ...
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| confused | 5/3/2007 |
Q: i have images in my head from being molested it only happened twice by my moms boyfriend and ive ...
A: Sarah, After replying to you I found my copy of the book. It is Breaking Free, and is by Carolyn ...
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| molestation | 5/2/2007 |
Q: When I was 16 years old my dad got messed up on prescription drugs and he crawled in the bed with me ...
A: Michelle, The body and mind is a very powerful tool, and it can cloud memories so that you dont ...
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| My friend that is 13 years old and her stepfather touches her in bad ways | 5/1/2007 |
Q: My question is about my friend. she tells me stories about how her stepfather comes in her room when ...
A: Nikki, What a fantastic friend you are to this girl, and thank you for asking this question! ...
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| confused | 4/29/2007 |
Q: i have images in my head from being molested it only happened twice by my moms boyfriend and ive ...
A: Sarah, It is important that you get help for your depression to help you come to terms with what ...
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| molested | 4/27/2007 |
Q: well let me start by stating that I'm 30 yrs old women youngest of nine children. the first time i ...
A: Lois, I am sure your friend is indeed right and that you are a good person. To keep secrets like ...
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| My 3 year old daughter at daycare | 4/21/2007 |
Q: My 3 year old daughter has been going to the same daycare for over a year. Recently she came home ...
A: Janet, It is very concerning that a child of 4 years old would perfrm such acts. Children do have ...
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| Help.... | 4/19/2007 |
Q: How do I tell if I was molested as a child? About four years ago I started having images flash ...
A: Cindy, This question is some what vague, and I hope I can help you. Pregnancy is a key trigger to ...
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| Did I possibly sexually abuse my cousin and don't remember? | 4/19/2007 |
Q: My entire extended family on my mother's side has had quite a history of molestation. I'm not ...
A: Trevor, Earlier in this question you state that you had to apologise to Paul Jnr for what had ...
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| I was molested and never dealt with it. | 4/18/2007 |
Q: Growing up I was a year younger than everyone in my class. When I was 13 I started high school and ...
A: Kate, The answer you need is in your question. You have never dealt with what happened when your ...
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| molestation | 4/17/2007 |
Q: This may sound very stupid but I need to ask this question because I am so confused. My friends ...
A: Faith, Drinking can effect the memory, and depending how much he drank would depend on how he was ...
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| molestation | 4/15/2007 |
Q: My 4 year old child came to me tonight and told me, very nonchalantly, that her friend (5 year old ...
A: Piper, You are quite right this is not normal behaviour of a 5 year old. Children do experiement, ...
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| What are the signs of child molestation? | 4/11/2007 |
Q: My 3year old grandchild attempted to act out what looked like oral sex to her mom & me; when ...
A: Casandra, 3 year old children certainly have active imaginations, but I would be extremely ...
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| What do I say? | 4/11/2007 |
Q: My niece was 13yrs old..about one year ago my niece went to her school nurse and stated that her ...
A: Rita, My initial reaction to this question is believe her, and support her. However I know this ...
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| My father doing stuff to my sister | 4/11/2007 |
Q: I am witnessing my father touch my 14 year old sister. He is always giving her back rubs and hugging ...
A: Brian, From what you have told me your father is performing inappropriate touches towards your ...
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| Was my daughter molested?? | 4/10/2007 |
Q: My daughter spent alot of time with my brother when she was younger. She is now 12yr old. Looking ...
A: Patricia, Im concerned as to why you would suspect your brother because of the playful relationship ...
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| My daughter was molested by her step-father | 4/4/2007 |
Q: A week ago, my daughter wrote me a note saying that my husband touched her for years, that it wasn't ...
A: Anastasia, I cant imagine how this must be for you and your family. As you will appreciate I cant ...
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| how do i deal | 4/3/2007 |
Q: about a 2 years ago my sister jen (11 atthe time) asked me if it waz bad if some one tuched her ...
A: Sadie, I am from the UK, and although I am not familiar with the American care system, I am going ...
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| Molested | 4/2/2007 |
Q: I was molested by someone i always thought was a family friend from when i was three years old(maybe ...
A: Aly, It is never to late to press charges. You have been brave telling your mom and it must be so ...
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| molestation as a kid going crazy now | 4/1/2007 |
Q: I am a 28 year old woman that is now feeling like i am going crazy and i have no medical to get ...
A: Shavon, Im sorry your mom isnt being supportive at this difficult time. Maybe she is finding it ...
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| molestation as a kid going crazy now | 4/1/2007 |
Q: I am a 28 year old woman that is now feeling like i am going crazy and i have no medical to get ...
A: Shavon, I am from the UK and so I am really sorry I am not familiar with the concept of having to ...
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| Molestation | 3/28/2007 |
Q: I don't know where to begin. I have two daughters one is 5 and the other is 10. With my ten year old ...
A: Tonya, Both your daughters have made a very serious allegation, and they should be treated as such. ...
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| molestation | 3/26/2007 |
Q: 30 years ago, I was married to a man that I am just now finding out molested two of my children. My ...
A: Stephanie, I can not imagine how horrific this must be to you and your family. It doesnt matter ...
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| Is It 2 Late!? | 3/22/2007 |
Q: i am 16 now but when i was sexually abused it was when i was 3 and i have never told anyone and i ...
A: Kiara, I know just how hard it is to finally say out loud that you were sexually abused, you have ...
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| Please help! | 3/6/2007 |
Q: I don't know if you can help me or not. My mother-in-law has been noticing signs in my 4 year old ...
A: Stephanie, Im really sorry this confusion has come into your life, and I hope it can be resolved ...
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