AboutWaleed I. Expertise Insha' Allah, I can answer questions about the allowed and not allowed things to be done in Islam. Also, I can answer questions about the Hadith(the sayings of prophet Mohamed peace be upon him), rules of Islam (according to the four major Islamic schools of Abu-Hanifa, Malek, AL-Shafaey and Ibn-Hanbal) and the dealings in Islam. I can get any Hadith in English, and its explanation too(if needed).
All answers will be according to the Quran, the Sunna, and the Muslim jurists' opinions.
Also, in any other field in Islam, I'll try to answer all the questions posted to me whether they were from my fields of interest or not and I should say that if I didn't know the answer of any question I'll say that I don't know its answer, but I won't give a wrong answer inshaa Allah.
Experience I knew and read a lot in those fields, also I attended many lessons concerned with them too. I am a Muslim by birth Alhamdlellah.
Question Salaam, I have a simple question. Are you allowed to pray to Allah if you fall
in love with another Muslim girl? In these cases, does Allah listen, would it be
a sin if you prayed like this. I really like this girl and never told her, I just pray
to Allah that she would like me back, and I just left it to Allah, if you could
please help me out Mr. Waleed. Thank you
Answer In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Most Gracious.
Dear brother in Islam, Assalam Alikum wa Rahmato Allahi wa Barakatoh.
Sorry for my lateness as I received the notification very late, sorry dear brother :)
I would like to begin my words with a paragraph for Imam Ibn-ul-Qayim when he was stating the types of love in his book (Al-Jawab Al-kafy), he said: "The third type of love: is a lawful love which can not be ruled, and this is like the love of (a man) who was described for him a beautiful woman, or who has seen her suddenly by chance; so his heart became fond of her, and this made him in love with her, and this love didn't push him to commit any sin, so this is not ruled, and he is not asked about that, and better for him to propel from it (i.e this love), and to work on what is more benefiting for him, also he should hide (this love), be virtuous, and to be patient on this tribulation. So, Allah will reward him for that and he will recompense for him what is better because of he he (the man) was patient for the sake of Allah and for the sake of Allah's satisfaction, and for leaving the obedience of his passion, and for preferring Allah's satisfaction and what Allah had (for people)."
Also, in a question similar to your question which was purposed to the scholars at islamweb.net, they said in their answer: "You are not to blame for having sentimental feelings towards this man as Allah does not burden a person beyond what he can bear, and the sentiments are not something one can control."
So, from the previous we say that Allah never asks someone for what behind his burden, as Allah (swt) said: [[On no soul doth Allah Place a burden greater than it can bear...]] [2:286]
But what we advice you with, is to do as Imam Ibn-ul-Qayyim said, to be virtuous, and to be patient on such matter, and decide for yourself what to do, if you can marry this girl, so purpose to her parents to be a husband of her, and this is the best way in which you can save your religion with, as the prophet (Salla Allaho Allihi wa Sallam) said: "There is nothing better for those in love than marriage". (Reported by Imam Ibn-Majah).
So, this is the best way you can do, as it is the rightest action which can be done in your case.
But if the reason of your supplication to Allah so this girl likes you back for any other reasons, like to talk with her, and to flirt with each other, and to have a relation with each other, so this is not lawful and haram, and this is forbidden according to the Islamic rulings, besides that no one should ask Allah to aid him to make a sin, this is unacceptable.
Shaikh bin Al-Uthaymeen said: "If it so happens, that there is love between a man and a woman, the most effective means of warding off fitnah (temptation) and immorality is for them to get married, because his heart will still remain attached to her if he does not marry her, and that may lead to fitnah.
A man may hear that a woman has a good character, and that she is knowledgeable, so he may want to marry her; or she may hear that this man is of good character, knowledgeable and religiously committed, so she wants to marry him, but the communication between the two is not done in the proper Islamic manner – this is very serious. In this case it is not permissible for the man to contact the woman or vice versa, and say that he wants to marry her. Rather he should tell her guardian that he wants to marry her, or she should tell her guardian that she wants to marry him, as ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) did when he offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and ‘Uthmaan (may Allaah be pleased with them both).
But if the woman gets in touch with the man directly, this is what leads to fitnah."
And if you cannot purpose for her marriage in the time being, so be patient and ask Allah to give you the best, and to aid you in your way to marriage, and do as the prophet (Salla Allaho Allihi wa Sallam) advised us with, when he said: "O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting-evil glances) and protects one from immorality (i.e. illegal sex); but he who cannot afford it should observe fasting for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire" (Reported by Imams al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Finally, ask Allah to grace you with all the goodness, and even if this girl wasn't for you, don't be sad, because may be this wasn't the best choice for you, as Allah said: [[But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth, and ye know not.]] [2:216]
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The other part of the question concerning your prayers and what you feel:-
There is no relation between both, knowing that leaving prayers is one of the major sins in Islam, and scholars differed in the ruling concerning the who leaves prayers between saying that this person is Fasiq, or Kaffir.
Allah said: [[So woe to the worshipers (4) Who are neglectful of their prayers, (5) Those who (want but) to be seen (of men)(6)]] [107: 4-6]
And this shows you how it is grieve to give up your prayers, so there is no relation between what you said, and praying on time.
But praying will aid you to be away from any bad deeds with Allah's will, as Allah (Subhanaho wa Taala) said: [[Recite what is sent of the Book by inspiration to thee, and establish regular Prayer: for Prayer restrains from shameful and unjust deeds; and remembrance of Allah is the greatest (thing in life) without doubt. And Allah knows the (deeds) that ye do.]] [29:45]
So, guard your prayers and never leave them.
Allah said: [[And who (strictly) guard their prayers;- (9) These will be the heirs, (10) Who will inherit Paradise: they will dwell therein (for ever). (11)]] [23:9-11]
Concisely we say, be patient on this matter, if you cannot marry her now, but if you can so contact her guardian and purpose to them as a husband for their daughter.
And no relation between feelings with such feelings and praying.
May Allah (Subhanaho wa Taala) save for you all the goodness, and make you away from any bad temptations, Amen!
