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I've commited a terrible and very very terrible mistake which makes me sad and hopeless.

I'm male and am 23 years old, whole my life I've declined girls from approaching me. I always said "I'm muslim, and I can't have a relationship with you and I sure know that I'm not your type", so that I could get rid of them. As of this week, a girl from Saudi Arabia started to work in my workplace. Interestingly, from the first day of work, she said that she was muslim and that I could talk to her, but after a day she tried to seduce me by always approacing.

Today something haram and very bad happened, I somehow lost myself and didn't even think what I was doing. It is hard to say but for the first time, I let someone kiss me and somehow I also let her gave me handjob (not with mouth but only hand). I sure know it counts as zina and I just want to be clean again. If I forswear by not doing it again and continue with my prayers, will Allah-u Teala forgive me? I don't know how that happened, I'm not someone who allow others to approach but this time was very different. She said at the end "I don't want to be close to you again, because you always talk about it is haram, I don't regret what I did.".

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Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim (In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)

Assalmalaikum

Dear Brother,

There is nothing to worry about since Allah is full of mercy. Beware of shaitan who will approach you as the one from your very own....like this Saudi Girl.

[Quran 3:133] And march forth in the way (which leads to) forgiveness from your Lord, and for Paradise as wide as are the heavens and the earth, prepared for Al-Muttaqun (Pious or God fearing)

[Quran 3:134] Those who spend in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger,and who pardon men; verily, Allah loves Al-Muhsinun (the good­doers).

[Quran 3:135] And those who, when they have committed Fahishah (illegal sexual intercourse or major sins) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sins; - and none can forgive sins but Allah and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know.

[Quran 3:136] For such, the reward is Forgiveness from their Lord, and Gardens with rivers flowing underneath (Paradise), wherein they shall abide forever. How excellent is this reward for the doers (who do righteous deeds according to Allah's Orders).

[Quran 3:137] Many similar ways (and mishaps of life) were faced by nations (believers and disbelievers) that have passed away before you (O Prophet Muhammed), so travel through the earth, and see what was the end of those who disbelieved.


[25:68] And those who invoke not any other god along with Allah, nor kill such person as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit Adultery/Fornication- and whoever does this shall receive Athama/Punishment.

[25:69] The torment will be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace.

[25:70] Except those who repent and believe, and do righteous deeds; for those, Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

[25:71] And whosoever repents and does righteous good deeds; then indeed he has repented to Allah Mataba (with acceptance).


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