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hello. John my daughter is in high school we moved from florida to new york recently. my daughter has difficulty in making friends, she is nice and has done her best to be friendly but her classmates have their own friends and dont want a new friend. how can she attract at least one friend?   c

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Hi C.
Itís difficult when one moves from one environment to another. It can be what is considered, a culture shock, even though there is no major racial, or religious differences. Trying to FIT IN, to anotherís or group lifestyle will only cause her problems, as she will get caught up in pretending to be what she isnít, just to have a friend, and be liked and accepted.  Does she already have EXPECTATIONS on what type of FRIENDS she wants to hang out with?

My suggestion is that instead of TRYING to have friends, to do what she loves to do and be real. Does she have a hobby or activity that she enjoys?  Is there some new, creative activity that she would like to try? She might not know anyone enough to consider them a friend, but Iím sure that she has made some connections, just not followed through.  I donít mean in a NEEDY way, I mean being sincere and honest. Also, Have a real talk with her and find out what exactly she is looking for and thinks she NEEDSÖ as it is the ďneedsĒ that are at the heart of the problem, and that problem might be related to her experiences in Florida that need to be addressed.  I hope this gives you some food for thought and suggestions as to how to help her help herself.

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I have thirteen years of personal experience in many "new age" areas. Some of the tools I use are Crystals, Sound, Colour, Massage, Touch Therapy, Reiki, Accupressure, Aromatherapy, Body Movement, Ear Candeling, Herbs, Plants and animals, Runes, Cards, Pendulums, etc, as well as Meditation/Visualization, Chakras, Auras, energy, Clearing your astral plane, Meeting animal guides and totems, Meeting your higher self and guides, Past life regression, Channeling, Archetypical and Shamanic and multi-dimensional journeys, and Feeling, Healing and Understanding Emotions.etc... I've found that all these tools have lead me to begin to heal my emotions and in turn, my physical Body and Mind. These tools are not merely hear-say (what someone else has told me) or a mental concept I have, but are what I have personally experiencved and am now applying in my daily life... In Nov. 2008 I published my first book "Journeys from the Heart Centre" - Meditation as a tool for healing and self-empowerment.... You can either read the E-book on line, or download it at http://shenreed.com/ebook1.html

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Reading what others had written or said was confusing and belwildering and only offered part truths. I wanted to know more. What linked all these part truths together? What was the real truth? What is Love and Life? One day I awoke to the realization that what linked all these part truths together was DENIAL. So, then I was faced with another delima, It wasn't just about "other" people denials, but I also had to face my own, and how was I going to do that? I had no one to turn to, no one to guide me as no one wanted to go where I was talking about going, and what that meant. I then discoverd how to do that on my own with the use of meditation/Visualization and thus began MY search for Truth, Love and Life............. Meditation/visualization and all its various aspects are key tools I use in exploring and expanding conscious awareness. In my journeys, I asked the who, what where, when where why and how questions and everytime I got an answer, I had a hundred more questions. What I now share is the knowledge, techniques and insights that I have personally experienced or have intuitivly felt when assisting others. I also work with many aspects of healing considered "new age" or wholistic which means healing ALL parts of of our being..............

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