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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| is this safe | 6/4/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: wondering about the site can really just chat without it meaning anything. married and don't want to ... A: May I suggest if you wish to keep sunshine in your marriage that you don't get involved in chat ... | ||
| How to meet 20-ish year olds in California | 5/31/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I'm looking for a chat room to give to my nephew. He is French, he is going to spend the summer in ... A: I live in Australia so know nothing at all about chat in the USA. All I can suggest is that you do ... | ||
| plz plz help URGENT | 5/29/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: how do i knw that im in an online RELATIONSHIP or not??? m 23 years of age and doing ma ... A: I think that you already know all the answers and they exist in your questions and your own thoughts ... | ||
| Online Chatting | 5/15/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I am a married women. Have a kid. My hubby and me had a love marriage. Before marriage i believed he ... A: The answers to all of your questions are in fact your questions. You feel guilty, as you rightly ... | ||
| wife chatting on adult sites | 5/11/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: How do I find out if my wife is using an adult chat site? I saw an email from an adult chat site on ... A: It appears that you don't trust your wife or you wouldn't be checking up on what she has on her ... | ||
| broken heart | 5/2/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I have been going out with this girl for 4 years for which the first 2 were great, after that we ... A: Love is hard no matter how old or young a person is. It seems that the two of you are perhaps meant ... | ||
| chat | 4/24/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: is msn messenger chatting on shared computer is safe?.my internet facility is provided through main ... A: I have no idea whether your work computer is monitored by your employer but where I work in Sydney ... | ||
| my ex | 4/17/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: well i need advice... i was once engaged, young (16) and in love with an older man(25). well he was ... A: M My advice, for what it's worth, would be to ignore the email and get yourself a new email address ... | ||
| Honesty | 3/21/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: One night my husband asked whats the closest I've been to cheating. I was honest and told him that ... A: Why did you bother telling him something as silly as that? A kiss on the neck that didn't eventuate ... | ||
| need help saving my marriage | 3/3/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: my story is kind of confusing but I'm going to start from the beginning. my husband and i got ... A: I admit knowing nothing about the STD that you have been diagnosed with, but I have done some ... | ||
| email. | 2/25/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I hope I have found a site that can help me. I started getting a prompt to enter network password. ... A: The only thing I can think of is that somehow your settings for sending and receiving mail have been ... | ||
| Urgent and careful advice reqd. | 2/24/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: i require some urgent advice from you and i think u are fit to answer me considering ur past ... A: I'm not quite sure what you are asking me here and as you are both single (or I hope that you are ... | ||
| please help | 2/19/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: how do i ever get over the hurt im feeling i met a man 3 years ago on the net he was married at the ... A: It's sad that we can be so hurt because we step outside our circle of safety and meet someone in ... | ||
| volunteering | 2/12/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I am desperate. I am trying everything i can to figure out how to volunteer abroad, like help out in ... A: I don't have any ideas at all about what you require. You have said that you have visited a lot of ... | ||
| Intimacy online with someone I really care about | 2/3/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I have met someone online in Second Life. I am in love with this woman and she is in love with me, ... A: Isn't the Internet just marvelous? You can chat to a perfect stranger, someone you know nothing ... | ||
| Chat room for mu own web site | 1/29/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: me have my own web site i want to run there a chat room with a link or Irc Dal.net server in Room ... A: I don't have any script or html that you could use as you require. I suggest that you do a search ... | ||
| Broken Heart | 1/16/2010 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: Vena I am struggling with getting over a broken heart. I found out that the man I was cheating on me ... A: I read your letter to me and when I reached the last sentence I saw something that I have heard said ... | ||
| Am I wrong | 12/28/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I broke up with my boyfriend on a Friday and on Sunday we had worked things out and everything was ... A: My answer to you is simple, and short. Set your auto drive into reverse and exit from the scene ... | ||
| online articles | 12/10/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: What is your take on this as well Do you believe what you read on line? Do you really think they ... A: You more or less answered your own question. Sure there is a lot of information on the Internet on ... | ||
| Ex getting remarried and moving | 11/19/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: well I'm not sure what I'm feeling or what I should do. I had this friend who was pregnet and we ... A: I feel sad for you and your loss. However, the reason that the two of you ended up being together ... | ||
| wife and online activities | 11/18/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: back in the mid to late 1990's my wife became very active in an aol chat room. I became curious and ... A: It seems strange to me that you have let this slide for 10 years without taking any action. If you ... | ||
| Can you get over mistrusting someone? | 11/15/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: My boyfriend and I get together every weekend, we spend Sundays together always. This week he told ... A: I have my own feelings about what has been going on here, but then again I am highly suspicious of ... | ||
| my past | 11/13/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: i am happily married for past six years and ha a kid. But iam unable to forget the person whom i was ... A: monalisa The sad smile ... but you made your choices or someone made them for you. I'm not sure if ... | ||
| online chatting | 11/9/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: MY WIFE IS HAVING ANOTHER AFFAIR AND SHE IS CHATTING WITH THE SAID PERSON EVERYDAY SO I WANT TO ... A: If your wife is having another affair then I gather she has done this before - maybe once before ... | ||
| Breakup advice | 10/30/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: You are probably going to hate me by the end of this mail. Let me begin by telling you that I was ... A: From what I've read you are not your own person. You are still your mother's son and you put her ... | ||
| not able to have an orgasm with my husband anymore | 10/18/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I was wondering if physical and verbal abuse could tourn someone aaway from the desire to have sex ... A: Everyone is different. Some can forgive and forget and get on with picking up the pieces and ... | ||
| Where are they now? | 10/18/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: just wondering if you know where everyone from BigPond Chat are chatting now, seems no-one is around ... A: Seems that we both have the same question and I am disappointed to have to say that I don't know the ... | ||
| help!! | 10/2/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: as im writing this im close to tears, because ive got mself into a situation that i feel i cant win ... A: I really have no idea why you are in such a turmoil about being friends with this guy who was once ... | ||
| alcoholism and infidelity | 9/29/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my husband since we were in high school, in the last 12 month he ... A: The only person who can make a decision for you, is you. My advice would be to get your children ... | ||
| pass word | 9/27/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: how do i retrive a account that has been closed for about 3 weeks it is a myspace account that was ... A: It appears that you may need to install software on your computer so that your daughter cannot ... | ||
| break up-can't cope | 9/20/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I've been with my partner for 4 years. I was sure he was the one after several long term ... A: Please understand that what I say doesn't come from a learned counselor, just from a person who has ... | ||
| heart broken and unable to move forward | 9/17/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: Good day, hope you can assist i recently got divorced, and my husband remarried as soon as we did, ... A: As I so often say to people asking for advice, the only advice I can give is from life experiences ... | ||
| In addition.... | 9/13/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I suppose I should give you a little more background. And also, why I believe this does apply to ... A: I believe I answered your question in my previous reply. You have chosen your course in life and ... | ||
| confused/disgusted | 9/13/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I need help. My husband of one year was caught looking at a website that has very disturbing videos ... A: You don't say who caught your husband looking at this website but as you are the one checking on how ... | ||
| distress/confused | 9/8/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: i have been married for 4 years and my husband and i have been together for around 8 years. The past ... A: What can I possibly advise a married woman who is secretly dating and having a relationship with ... | ||
| I don't understand | 9/8/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: My chat&mobile texting on yahoo doesn't ever stop loading! how can i fix this problem? A: I don't use Yahoo for chat or mobile texting so all I can advise is that you search for the answer ... | ||
| still in love? | 9/1/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I have been married for almost 9 years. My husband cheated on me 3 years ago. Ever since I have ... A: I'm not a marriage guidance counselor nor am I educated in psychology or human relationships. All I ... | ||
| worried | 8/29/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: ok i must tell u in short i am a girl i met a chinese girl on net i told her that i am a boy and ... A: I'm pleased that you are worried. It's people such as you that give the Internet and especially ... | ||
| I am just so sad | 8/19/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: I was in a wonderful, positive relationship with a man I loved very much. He was approximately 25 ... A: I read your story and felt your heartache through your words. However I think that there may be ... | ||
| husband and chat | 8/15/2009 | Vena McGrath |
| Q: In the beginning of my relationship with my husband, he use to go to chat rooms all the time. I ... A: I'm sorry to read about your problems with your husband and his actions. Unfortunately this is the ... | ||
Vena McGrath
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
As the author of a novel about my life online in chat rooms specifically, and a few adventures into online dating, I can answer almost any question anyone could ask about chatting online. The excitement, the adrenalin rush, the manipulation of the mind, the corruption of morals, the danger of stalking and harrassment online and offline, the lies, the secrets. The reality of this `fantasy` is frightening. My book tells a story that hopefully will make anyone who reads it more wary and chatwise than I was when I stumbled upon chat in late 1999 as a naive woman who didn`t have a clue what a chat room on the internet was. I have spent many hours online counselling men and women with broken hearts, wounded pride, and yes, very real fear. My passion is to try to help eradicate the not so good factors out of chat rooms and make them once again fun places where people feel safe.
Experience
My experience commenced in June 1999 in international chat rooms and then a move in late September 1999 to chat rooms in Australia. I am still online, have my own chat room, and my first novel titled 'Secrets, Lies & Chat' was published by American-Book Publishing in 2005 and is now available from my website www.secretslieschat.net.au for a very competitive price. I have also released on my website an eBook which is a revised version of Secrets, Lies & Chat and only costs $4.95 5o download in either word or pdf format.
Organizations
I belong to many writing organisations online and I belong to the chat room community of BigPond.
Publications
Communique - a monthly newspaper produced by the NSW Government Department of Commerce
SMH ICON liftout 'The Net Effect' April 2004
Numerous articles in PoynterOnline
Numerous letters to the editor, SMH
My profile and short stories and articles are all online at AuthorsDen.com and some are posted on my website.
Education/Credentials
High School Educated
TAFE Secretarial
Numerous OH&S certificates
Numerous Computer related courses
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